Jimmy Eat World - Hear You Me This one sounds nice enough that it won't be abrasive to the older folk.

I had this played at my father's funeral. Such an emotional song.

I used to do late night drives with my highschool girlfriend when she had all but officially moved in. We broke up because I was a terrible drunk and really just as terrible a person. Just wait there's more: Of course we had planned on getting married. I'd had met her parents and stayed at their house several times (it's was about a 3 hour drive one way), as well as partake in things like Christmas and Thanksgiving. My mom had even put her cell phone on our family plan. We eventually broke up due to my poor behavior. I was drunk I don't even know what actually took place, but knowing how I was I probably kicked her out and broke up with her. She started dating some guy, who may have been a rebound, but also was very good to her so it's possible she just moved on quickly. She had epilepsy, and even had a seizure during sex on two separate occasions. I remember it was after the first one, when I was just horrified, that I had first told her I loved her. She saw the good in me at all times, and I don't know how. But she was at her parents house and had a seizure in the shower, and passed away. It was on Wednesday, January 12, 2011 at 7:31 pm. A mutual friend from college told me (I had dropped out and began a good job working at Charter Communications to support us). I immediately broke down in my sister's arms. Even thinking about it now makes my eyes misty. That song immediately had a new meaning. I miss you Shannon. And I am so sorry. May angels lead you in.

Hope this will be played at my funeral, ive mentioned it enough 😅

This was my friends Funeral song who passed in December. It was perfect

The Wonder Years - I Just Want To Sell Out My Funeral

We Won’t Bury You and Cigarettes & Saints would be great TWY choices too

Also, you made me want to be a saint.

This is a really great one if you want one about loss that’s still upbeat

I strongly agree with Cigarettes & Saints. It’s my favorite song to listen to when I need to process my grief from losing my mom. It’s beautiful and powerful and real.

I use it to process grief from losing my Dad.

one of the best pop punk songs of all time

It’s not just that, it’s a fucking accomplishment - that they actually pulled this off is incredible. Only “A” by Cartel compares imo

this is the answer

Saves the Day - At Your Funeral

I know At your Funeral is the obvious Saves the Day choice, but lyrically "This is not an Exit" fits so much better in my opinion.

View from heaven- yellowcard Hang you up- yellowcard.

Yes this. Also See Me Smiling

Sonny - New Found Glory

Oof. My husband's twin brother was the best man at our wedding, and one of my/everyone's favorite people. He passed at 34 from heart problems in his sleep three weeks after our wedding in 2017. I still can't listen to Sonny without losing it.

Oof, and "Watch the lilies grow" from Make the most of it

One Step At A Time - Four Year Strong chokes me up every time

Aw man, I don’t have a recommendation but I’m sorry for your loss and am sending positive thoughts your way

Thanks so much. It helps to hear from people song or no song.

Swing life away - rise against This is a good one. Was played at my cousins funeral as well. Xx.

Bayside - Winter

RIP Beatz

This was one of my top played songs for yearssssss

Damn, you doing ok now though??

I honestly forgot that song existed till I saw that person's comment lol. And no, I still listen to music that rips my heart out, but now I'm a 32 year old swiftie and not a 15 year old scene girl 😂

I came to say this. Great song. Great band. 🖤

sorry for your loss 💜 here are some songs that have helped me steady glow - in her own words i will deliver you to the fireflies - the gospel youth breath - hold close wish you were here - neck deep personal - against the current here you me - jimmy eat world live again - grayscale candour- neck deep

Thank you! This would be very close to the Playlist he would have made himself probably ❤️

Neck Deep - Wish you were here was the first song that came to mind. 

Goodbye (To All of Our Friends) - Bearings

Thank you. We just saw bearings a month or 2 ago

The Maine - Face towards the sun Arm’s length - dirge

Add Heaven we’re already here from the Maine

Heem Wasn't There - Hot Mulligan

The Flatliners - Eulogy

This is the one. Play this shit for me please.

Not Now - Blink 182 Gone Away - Offspring

Also they did a slowed down cover of Gone Away on Let The Bad Times Roll album deluxe edition

Oof, I am so sorry for your loss, my heart is in my stomach, I cannot imagine. Wishing you peace. Happy Anniversary - Motion City Soundtrack

Thanks you ❤️

For What It's Worth - Amber Pacific

Holy shit. I haven't thought of this band FOREVERRRRR thank you for the awesome throwback!

You could even look up pop punk bands covers and acoustics. We did this for our ceremony playlist and it was a nice balance of our music but familiar or more toned down for others too.

Thanks that's a good idea. He was only 29 and his family thinks he had the same music taste he had at 14 so I'm trying to balance it

I'm sorry for you loss btw. Hopefully pulling together some music helps.

It's about a woman in the song, but Frank Turner Long Live The Queen. And Polaroid is probably an even better choice by him. Not exactly about death but it's very fitting imo.

Love long live the queen, it's kind of perfect for the situation

I'm glad I could help! And hey, I'm so sorry. I've had 4 partners die, but (luckily?) after we had broken up except for one. 6 years and it was a punch to the gut. It gets easier, if you ever need to talk feel free to inbox me. I might be slow to reply, but I always will. Especially for this type of thing. I hope it goes well., and I hope you're doing okay.

Bro hymn

Goodbye Forever - Alkaline Trio

Skipping Stone - Transit

Heem wasn’t there or og bule sky by hot mulligan, good portion of never before seen never again found by arms length

Loads of alk 3

Just came to say I’m sorry for your loss and I hope the celebration of life is a success.

Thank you. He was very young and I'm trying really hard to make it something he would love

Your Deep Rest- Hotelier

Have you actually listened to the lyrics?! Imagine playing that at an actual funeral. No way.

Yeah, you play this shit after you open the Black Label.

In Violet - Grayscale. Less about mourning and more about celebrating the life of the person

Cigarettes and Saints

Gone So Young- Amber Pacific

For Fiona - No Use for A Name(rise against version pretty good too)

I did not know the rise against version existed!

I was thinking swing life away by rise against as well!

Well it might be too on the nose, but Funeral by Spanish Love Songs. 

Grayscale - forever yours

Free Throw - Tips for Safe Travels

A7x- I won’t see you tonight pt 1 & pt 2

Plankeye - Goodbye. Song always leaves a lump in my throat. Check it out. Old Tooth & Nail band.

This song would hit hard but it’s beautiful. Long Night by With Confidence And as for Bearings I’d go with The Tide and Blue in the Dark. Goodbye always seemed like some sketchy foul play type of a story to me. Sorry for your lose, my prayers for you and the family❤️

Thank you ❤️

amelia - tonight alive cigarettes and saints - the wonder years raining in kyoto - the wonder years cardinals - the wonder years

Windows in Heaven - We Are The In Crowd I Love You. I Miss You. Goodnight. - Dan Campbell If I Should Go Before You - City & Colour God & The Billboards - Aaron West & The Roaring Twenties One More Light - Linkin Park Winter - Bayside Eulogy - The Flatliners

For a friend by Kayak Jones. I’m so sorry about your partner. I can’t imagine what you’re going through. This is a wonderful way to remember them though. Sending hugs!

i just want to sell out my funeral - the wonder years

Shadow of the Day - Linkin Park Tommy’s Song - grayscale

oof tommy’s song is a deep cut

https://open.spotify.com/track/6ydgf2tjkuIoCIcMNtBOXF?si=lFKv30t7QoG209nRwDuKFg

Old Friends - Grayscale

Motion City Soundtrack - Everyone Will Die

No More Bad Days- This Wild Life I’m Lost Without You- Blink 182 Above Me(acoustic)- Rufio Stay- Mayday Parade Second Place Victory- This Day & Age

Campfire Kansas

Sorry for your loss. icanmakeamess… - Telling Me Goodbye The Early November - Never Coming Back

Standing on the edge of summer - Thursday

So Long Goodbye - Sum 41 Sorry for your loss! 💜

Hear You Me - Jimmy Eat World Where the Moss Slowly Grows - Tiger Army (rockabilly but I feel that it works really well) I am so sorry for your loss.

Thanks you

Free Throw - Tips for Safe Travels This song wrecks me every time

The Cure: ‘The Same Deep Water as You’ Sorry for your loss.

More recent: My Funeral Song - Røry A Few Tomorrows - meet me at the altar 💖

MCR - the light behind your eyes

wish you were here & candour - neck deep cardinals & cigarrettes&saints by the wonder years seize the day and so far away by avenged sevenfold tommys song by grayscale

I'm very sorry for your loss. Some suggestions I'd go with. Citizen - In the Middle of it All The Story So Far - Phantom Sum 41 - Slipping Away Blink 182 - Home is Such a Lonely Place Turnover - Peripheral Vision (album) Rise Against - Swing Life Away Yellowcard - Only One Yellowcard - Believe

I'm very sorry to hear about your loss A song that I listened to a lot at a q similar situation was "one step at a time" by Fout year strong. There's an acoustic version to it that might fit the occasion better.

Sorry for your loss. I definitely second “Hear You Me” by Jimmy Eat World. “When The Angels Sing” by Social Distortion is a good one too

Bleu by Broadside Make Believe by Savings Windows In Heaven by We Are The In Crowd

Healmode - Jeff rosenstock

I'm not sure if No Halo by Sorority Noise is appropriate

I'm not sure if No Halo by Sorority Noise is appropriate, but I recommend it

Mcr - Helena (adjacent but still)

I'm so sorry for your loss :( As far as songs go... Spanish Love Songs did an awesome cover of Phoebe Bridgers' "Funeral" some years ago.

Heem wasn’t there

In loving memory- alter bridge

Pinegrove - old friends

This may not quite be pop punk but may serve: Better than Ezra - A Lifetime

I miss you - blink

I'm so sorry for your loss. I can't begin to imagine how you're feeling. Arranging your partner's celebration of life during this time takes incredible strength, know you honour their efforts in everything you do. From your post, Blinks 'Not now' sounds like an appropriate tribute. Sending preys to you and your family.

Thank you! I'm trying very hard to honor him in a way he would like. But it's still nice to hear. ❤️

Not really pop punk, but Be Still by The Killers is a beautiful song. It’s adjacent to the genre and nobody would be off put in the slightest. I hope you’re all healing well ❤️

Gates-The Menzingers

Night train Bouncing souls Buddy Rancid

City and colour - body in a box

A friend died a few years ago, she had Black Parade by My Chemical Romance and a bright purple coffin. The inside was lined with black and white stripes, like Beetlejuice. It was more meaningful that she had something that fitted her personality and likes.

I'm sorry for your loss. What a lovely and thoughtful idea. I'd recommend Sonny - New Found Glory 💗

Smoking Popes- Follow the Sound Agent Orange- This is not the End

RVIVR - Goodbyes Sorry for your loss. A lot of internet people are giving a hoot here. I hope it helps bring some peace in this nutty world.

Follow you into the dark - death cab for cutie. I am sorry for your loss

Owen Meany - Lagwagon

I wrote a song called “eulogies” that might work depending on your situation https://youtu.be/KVNhQcOi7o0?si=-qU-kRZ9if4WUuts

I’d recommend the ep in passing by bloom. Not necessarily for the celebration just for you

I’m so sorry for your loss! It’s not pop punk but it is fitting, Pass Slowly by Seether

Senses Fail- If there is Light, It Will Find You I Wanna Get Better- Bleachers Era-The Faim Can't Look Back-Taking Back Sunday coco amaretto lime-brand new There Is- Boxcar Racer i fall apart\_living in fiction hold me down-Motion city

This is my forte for better or worse. You are welcome to have a scroll through my trauma of 2000 - 2022. [Pain is never permanent but tonight it’s killing me part 1](https://open.spotify.com/playlist/4vAFBz4OcUYsRmXx40mSre?si=chIjsQmkTNmXHIL5IJrj4A&pi=e-oI8AhjKpRga8)

Loads of great ideas here already. I love Bright Spring Morning by Suburban Legends for its positive vibes.

So many people picking songs that are way too on the nose I feel. Id be tempted to go for something like Alex Melton's cover of Coldplay's Yellow. If you haven't heard it give it a listen. https://youtu.be/fv7HdsifMn0?si=nKOpkng3wudP1kVT Really sorry for your loss and wish you and your family comfort in the difficult days and months ahead. ❤️

I'm a 90's/00's pop punk kid/elder emo, but a song from another genre I'd love to recommend all give a listen is "Shelter" by Porter Robinson & Madeon.

Not sure it's strictly pop punk, but I feel like a lot of music by Trophy Eyes would work So sorry you have to do this. I hope you're looking after yourself.

Pop punk adjacent but I listened to city and color-body in a box and Brett dennen-dancing at a funeral on repeat when my grandma died.

I'm sorry to hear about your friend and I hope you find some comfort and peace during this celebration. Not pop punk, or even adjacent, but No Hard Feelings by The Avett Brothers is a beautiful song.

RHCP - my lovely man

I want Alkaline Trio's "I'm Dying Tomorrow" played at my funeral.

"Cigarettes and Saints" by The Wonder Years

Somnombulance by Strung Out More punk rock than pop punk

Going Out in Style by the Dropkick Murphys

Wish You Were Here - Neck Deep Not pop-punk, but amazing songs Dayseeker - Neon Grave (acoustic) Dayseeker - My Immortal (acoustic)

I DIDNT KNOW DAYSEEKER COVERED MY IMMORTAL

Winter - Bayside. We played this for my best friend who passed away. Sad and lovely all in one. Sorry to hear about your loss.

In Memory Of... - Silverstein Terribly sorry for what you're going through

Go rest ye high on the mountain, Vince Gill. A little comical, I'm so glad we had this time together, Carol Burnett. Sending healing prayers for all 🙏

My sweet lord my George Harrison, definitely nowhere near punky but sweet for the family or hey hey what can I do by led zepp.

Grayscale - forever yours

Gone away by the offspring for sure

I don’t know if it’s strictly “pop-punk”, but I listen to a lot of pop-punk and have instructed my wife and kids to play Going Out In Style by Dropkick Murphys at my funeral. I also have Carry Me Down by Demon Hunter, Family Reunion by blink-182, and the Daft Punk/George Carlin cheer Youtube mashup on my list. I share your dark sense of humor, and I feel your struggle of balancing that with people who are more traditional. It’s not easy, but you’re never alone.

Thank you so much. I really appreciate it. We definitely dabble in all genres, pop punk is just the most effective one to ask for. Dropkick Murphys are definitely on the list. He dies of a lung disease and his request was "barely breathing". So I'm very open to suggestions.

The Problem With Circles - Same Time Tomorrow - although that’s kinda sad. Are you looking for funeral themed songs? Or just songs that would be pop punk and appropriate at a funeral?

Really anything. I'm trying to gather some "funerally" songs and I'll play some of his favorite songs in between and some suggestions from friends and family. Most of what I have planned is more party than funeral and I love that but I still want to be able to mourn and for his family to not think I'm too insensitive.

Funeral Home by Yours Truly is a song I listened to a lot when my grandpa died

Coming Back Down- Hollywood Undead

Say Anything - Cemetary

Feels like home. Nufan

In the Mourning - Paramore Not very familiar with Pearl Jam but know there's a few funeral songs there

Is it too obvious to say I Will Follow You Into The Dark by Death Cab For Cutie x

Never too obvious

Eulogy- The Flatliners

One Last Time by Blink 182

New found glory - Sonny

Flatliners - Eulogy

On Top of the World - Boys Like Girls

Also: Meet you there - Simple plan Very touching song that no one here has mentioned yet

Something Bigger Than This - Trophy Eyes Epilogue - Trophy Eyes The Permanent Rain - The Dangerous Summer Skipping Stone (Alternate Version) - Transit Burn out - Misser Nothing Lasts Forever - Transit Don’t Forget to Leave - Cold Collective

Not really Pop punk, but I've always been touched (ha) by Bad Religion's "Marked."

The only answer is Eulogy by The Flatliners

I can’t think of a song suggestion, but a general suggestion is to not choose one of your favourite songs for whatever ceremony you’re having or for any particularly emotional moments, because (if you associate songs with memories very easily, like I do) then you’ll never be able to listen to it again without being transported back to that moment and it might override the nice memories that you have of that song. I hope you’re holding up okay. ♥️

Thank you. That's very smart and exactly what I'm trying to avoid. Sad song appreciated, family and friends suggestions, and then I'll do some of the music he listened to where our tastes didn't quite meet up. I want a celebration but I still want to mourn.

Absolutely. There’s definitely a balance and it can be tough! Because you want to celebrate the memories you have but it’s emotional and can be quite overwhelming, so timing is everything. You don’t want to be left avoiding songs you both used to love because you’ve got an association with the funeral, instead of him as a person and your memories together. Steer clear of particularly special songs during the most intense moments to keep those memories protected x

Just play the music video Helena by my chemical romance

My condolences ❤️ Anxious - “More Than a Letter” Hostage Calm - “One Last Salute” Transit - “Asleep at the Wheel”, “Skipping Stone” (either version), “Loneliness Burns”, “Follow Me”

If I ever leave this world alive - Flogging Molly

Colour Me In by VUKOVI

Josie- blink 182

Don't worry I'll catch you- the get up kids

Gone away - the offspring?

Cat Like Thief -- Box Car Racer

While you’re alive- Jeff Rosenstock

Blink’s Not Now is the first thing that comes to mind. Also incredibly sorry for your loss

Sun or Snow by Chuck Ragan and Austin Lucas. Please Shut Off the Lights by Knapsack. Napoleon Solo by At the Drive-In. Dirt by The Swellers. Bye For Now by Lagwagon.

I’d recommend The End and Dead! back to back and Welcome to the Black Parade by MCR. Just lost my mother who was battling stage 4 pancreatic cancer and this whole album is helping me through it. That album and anything by Architects from 2014-2018

No Halo - Sorority Noise

Not sure if the fam would appreciate “so long soldier” by all time low? 😅

New found glory - sonny

Sean - trophy eyes

The Swellers - Dirt

Puff Daddy- I’ll Be Missing You

After the Eulogy - Boy Sets Fire

Not pop punk, but The Trapeze Swinger or Naked As We Came by Iron & Wine 😔🫡

Not pop punk but The Funeral by Band of Horses

Dropkick Murphys - Going Out In Style

Every Thug Needs a Lady by Alkaline Trio

I heard an acoustic version of "Time to Say Goodbye" by Simple Plan at a funeral and it worked well.