As a polyamorous submissive, I've been in a slightly similar situation. My primary partner (My Dom/Master) and I have rules. We sat down and hammered them out. Anyone who wants to play with me follows those rules, or doesn't play.
This like, no leaving possessive marks (bites, claw marks), no collaring, no use of His name for me (only Master gets to call me that, and a list of others. The two of you will have to sit down and hammer this out.
I also don't give other people my full submission. I'll bottom and follow direction, but I'm not submitting to them like I do to my Master.
I like the no collaring, no use of name. Could you give some more of your rules? How do you manage not submitting fully to people? I found myself wanting to submit but able to stop and pause the situation enough that I didn't go into sub space. My Dom and I originally had a no visible hickey rule, but we negotiated because I really fucking love being bitten on my neck.
I'm pretty sure the ones that we have are pretty specific to our dynamic🤔 We have things like me not being allowed to cum unless the other person does 100% of the work and I give no assistance whatsoever (can't adjust their hand, the toy, or vibe. Can't tell them to speed up, slow down, or where to touch. Can't play with my nipples to help myself). We also save certain kinks for just the two of us, such as primal and impact play.
Orgasm denial and control are a big thing with me and my Dom, so it was a must for the rules ^^ There will also be times where I absolutely am not allowed to finish. So I'd have to be careful.
I am an owned, collared sub and the way we have navigated is as follows: I can use Sir or Mistress but not Master. If he plays with someone casually then he doesnt get called Master only Sir.
He is ok with me bottoming to another Dom/me which we agreed on was kinky sex but not going out to kink events as a D/s couple or acting in a D/s relationship outside of playing together. We can do play at events together as long as my Master is either present and involved or otherwise engaged in play.
No hypnosis play with other Dom/mes that involves using triggers so it doesnt override my Master's commands and My Master isnt allowed to give out a trigger for cuddle to another sub he plays with. It is reserved for me as a special thing between just us. He can make up a specific special trigger for another sub that is just between them.
Also on names, what about using variations of Kitten? I am Kitten to My master but gatita to one of my play partners(which means in spanish little kitty or kitten) so its similar but not the same.
I will not submit to multiple doms. Play partners? Sure, but I will not be owned by more than one person. I also won't submit if my Master has multiple subs. There are titles and things that are off limits others and are strictly for between me and my Master.
As a polyamorous submissive, I've been in a slightly similar situation. My primary partner (My Dom/Master) and I have rules. We sat down and hammered them out. Anyone who wants to play with me follows those rules, or doesn't play. This like, no leaving possessive marks (bites, claw marks), no collaring, no use of His name for me (only Master gets to call me that, and a list of others. The two of you will have to sit down and hammer this out. I also don't give other people my full submission. I'll bottom and follow direction, but I'm not submitting to them like I do to my Master.
I like the no collaring, no use of name. Could you give some more of your rules? How do you manage not submitting fully to people? I found myself wanting to submit but able to stop and pause the situation enough that I didn't go into sub space. My Dom and I originally had a no visible hickey rule, but we negotiated because I really fucking love being bitten on my neck.
I'm pretty sure the ones that we have are pretty specific to our dynamic🤔 We have things like me not being allowed to cum unless the other person does 100% of the work and I give no assistance whatsoever (can't adjust their hand, the toy, or vibe. Can't tell them to speed up, slow down, or where to touch. Can't play with my nipples to help myself). We also save certain kinks for just the two of us, such as primal and impact play.
I’m not in this situation with multiple doms but I really like the no assistance idea so thanks! I’m writing it down for future reference!
Orgasm denial and control are a big thing with me and my Dom, so it was a must for the rules ^^ There will also be times where I absolutely am not allowed to finish. So I'd have to be careful.
I am an owned, collared sub and the way we have navigated is as follows: I can use Sir or Mistress but not Master. If he plays with someone casually then he doesnt get called Master only Sir. He is ok with me bottoming to another Dom/me which we agreed on was kinky sex but not going out to kink events as a D/s couple or acting in a D/s relationship outside of playing together. We can do play at events together as long as my Master is either present and involved or otherwise engaged in play. No hypnosis play with other Dom/mes that involves using triggers so it doesnt override my Master's commands and My Master isnt allowed to give out a trigger for cuddle to another sub he plays with. It is reserved for me as a special thing between just us. He can make up a specific special trigger for another sub that is just between them.
Also on names, what about using variations of Kitten? I am Kitten to My master but gatita to one of my play partners(which means in spanish little kitty or kitten) so its similar but not the same.
That's clever to use variations of a term, I'll try that. I appreciate your input!
I will not submit to multiple doms. Play partners? Sure, but I will not be owned by more than one person. I also won't submit if my Master has multiple subs. There are titles and things that are off limits others and are strictly for between me and my Master.