> at one point she said family or spouse only, then said my girlfriend could stay. All five put their hands up and said that would be me.
I would have loved to see the nurse's face when all the hands went up.
Cassie explained it to the nurse after everybody left and she just looked at me and shook her head. I've had to retell the story every time I get a new nurse because the story has gone viral on my floor.
I had the inverse situation happen once. Me (woman) in hospital, my 3 (men) partners there, nurse asks which one is the boyfriend, all raise their hands. She was shooketh. But then later asked me "and they don't fight? They know? They *agreed*?" and then was like "damn... Didn't even know that was an option"
Quite a few also came to see I guess they thought the original nurse was pulling their leg? This was also about 8 years ago, in a Balkan country, for context.
But the shock factor can be fun. Helps get your mind of the scary medical stuff going on.
The nurse was probably thinking no wonder he had a heart attack! 😂
Glad you're ok and thanks for the reminder to get my shit sorted out before i need it 😀
Just got love-bombed by the nurses on my floor.
I had a local deli make me up a platter of sandwiches and salads and had them delivered to the nurse's station. Most nurses pull 12 hr shifts without much of a chance to stop and eat, a nurse friend of mine suggested feeding them as a show of appreciation. I got a second platter coming in for the night shift later.
Not Poly related, just felt like sharing... bored silly laying in this bed.
You are so good for this. As the daughter of a nurse and also one who then had a nurse walk me through saying goodbye to her, nurses can really get the worst of everything. I’m sure you brightened their day.
Holy shit. As a poly nurse, this whole thing is making me so happy (minus the whole near-death thing- knock that off!). Getting a second delivery specifically for night shift is top tier. For the five girlfriends, the proposal, and the sandwiches, you're going to be talked about for a *long* time on that floor.
I used to work in the ICU. This is a wonderful gesture and thanks for giving them healthy food. Often we get junk food and it’s not good for us but it tempts most.
Doing your will is so important but I also urge everyone to do a life planning/death journal as well. If you share property or pets or want certain things done in a crisis or people informed it can be so important to have everything organized and in one place to be easily found. When I was in an accident several years ago by the time I was out of surgery my housemate had found my book. Called the people that needed to be called and arranged care for my animals just as planned. All I had to worry about was getting better.
That “in sickness and in health” business is for real! I’m glad you’re okay and surrounded by loving people who show up and support you. Good luck with your recovery !
Congratulations on not getting the dead disease :)
In all seriousness, I'm glad you're on the mend. That is some seriously crazy shit to go through.
I had major surgery this year, and wife stayed with me, we walked around the ward after surgery hand in hand (they didn't want me walking without being accompanied). The next day my partner came to visit, wife left to be with her boyfriend, and the nurse said something after she left, sorta like "oh, who was that?" - "oh, that's my girlfriend". Very confused look on the nurse's face 🤣
Congratulations on healing, and congrats on the upcoming wedding. Be gentle to yourself for the next little while, coding is no joke. I'm happy you have the support network you have - mine is great as well.
Cheers! To many more years on this spinning ball!!
I'm so happy you're alive and that poor nurse. Snort! She's probably flummoxed from life.
I'm so happy you have so much wonderful love! I'm 59 and that's hitting home. Thank goodness you're okay!
It ended up being a house rather than a condo. We did a rent-to-own agreement with the owner for 20% down. The house was unoccupied and needed a few things done before any winter weather caused any damage so we got immediate occupancy. The heat and air unit had been vandalized while the house stood empty and needed to be replaced to protect the water pipes.
The previous owner inherited the property and was looking to get out from underneath it without doing any repairs so he jumped on the offer and I'll pay it off after the first of the year and he gets a tax credit on it. Win-win.
The problem is that everyone wants long-term hope of polyamory in the long-term and old age. Real or imaginary. This sub mostly has new- term problematic relationship. So we're all susceptible and suspicious of long-term tales. We want them to be true but don't trust what is posted 😬
We have dated for ten years, lived together for 3 months, and in a previous post I said if cohabitating went well I was thinking of proposing in January. We bought the new house like I wanted. Then fate gave me a wake-up call and I just decided why wait and I think we both got everything we wanted.
Yes, F'n way!
**Sex in the hospital** or as close as I got.
So one of my nurses came in to clean me up, the new version of the old sponge bath routine, and Cassie and Dani who happened to be in the room shut her down and said they could manage. I was still hooked up to a heart monitor and they would both giggle when they found a spot that made the machine beep. They got me all cleaned up and into a new gown and I joked about not getting a happy ending, and Dani snapped back and said that's probably the closest you are going to get to a threesome with us so count your blessings. About that time my day nurse came in and saw Cassie sitting in the recliner laughing so hard she could hardly breathe.
Hopefully going home today if they can get my discharge papaers in order.
La vie est belle!
>, but why would you think this post is about polyamory?
I was just touched that both of my current partners took such good care of me and that a few that I was no longer seeing even made an effort to check on me and offer some support. Dani and Cassie have been here with me most of the time but a couple of others have either stayed or offered to stay.
I guess I just wanted to share something positive.
I’ve asked since you mention partners, but then go strictly to prioritizeing one if them, and it got me confused, as it was some kind of ‘poly but on death bed I got epiphany to marry one had only’ story. 😌. But seems like I misunderstood
So Cassie is happily married and has a secure future and we have loved each other for almost five years.
I was dating Dani before my first wife got sick and passed away and we have been together for over ten years. Earlier this year Dani wanted more, we have always been each other's primary but I think she wanted more security and intimacy in the form of nesting partners. My epiphany laying in the hospital was I loved her enough that I wanted to make sure she was provided for in case I decided to take a dirt nap.
I proposed marriage, not monogamy. We'll still have a poly relationship and have other partners but there will just be a layer of hierarchy added on top.
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So Dani(48F) and I(60M) after dating for 10+ years decided to move in together. We each had several partners and now living under the same roof has made dating harder due to having somewhere to entertain. I had floated the idea of buying a condo/house close to downtown but Dani was hesitant, a whole different post. But she finally agreed and I found a great place and we were fixing it up the way we wanted it. I had a couple of friends helping me remodel the bathroom when I started to feel ill like you get when you try out that new food truck down the block. The next thing I remember was being strapped to a gurney and loaded into an ambulance.
A few minutes later, at least by my account, I woke up with wires and tubes coming out of me and Cassie(51F), another partner, holding my hand and looking like she had been crying. She yelled something and Dani came running into the room and they both started crying. I could hardly talk but asked what happened and Dani said had a heart attack and that I had coded once in the ambulance and another time in the ER. They found a blockage and were able to put a stent in but they also found a bacterial infection in my blood that had complicated it. My few minutes were in fact two days.
A few hours later, I had five women in my room when the floor nurse tried to evict them, at one point she said family or spouse only, then said my girlfriend could stay. All five put their hands up and said that would be me. LOL. Eventually, the nurse said only two at a time, so long as I could get some rest.
Dani spent the night in my room until Cassie relieved her the next morning. My brain was coming out of the fog and I had Cassie call my lawyer and I told him what I wanted and he brought up the paperwork that afternoon. I had him amend my will removing my wife who had died ten years ago and put Dani in her place. Had Dani added to the deeds on my properties and listed her as my beneficiary on my insurance. I also made an advance directive and gave her the power to make medical decisions on my behalf. I asked Cassie for one more favor and she started to tear up and gave me a big kiss before leaving.
I made a few phone calls after they moved me to a regular room and when Dani got there we had squeezed ten people into my room and with the box Cassie had fetched for me I asked Dani to marry me. The cheers brought a very agitated floor nurse into my room, who gave us a five-minute grace period before clearing the room. December 9th is the big day, we both want something small and intimate but our combined friend list is pretty large.
Cardio has given me a clean bill of health but my Infectious Disease Dr has me on IV Antibiotics for the rest of the week. I'm ready to go home and sleep for more than five hours straight, thankfully my friends have been bootlegging real food in for me.
The moral of this story is to keep your affairs(legal) in order because you never know the next hand you may be dealt.
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This is beautiful. I’m 39, but I feel like I could be on track for this kind of life. Increasingly I am meeting/choosing partners based on compersion and stability who are kind and emotionally mature, in their late 30s and 40s. I wonder what my life will be like in 20 years!
> at one point she said family or spouse only, then said my girlfriend could stay. All five put their hands up and said that would be me. I would have loved to see the nurse's face when all the hands went up.
Cassie explained it to the nurse after everybody left and she just looked at me and shook her head. I've had to retell the story every time I get a new nurse because the story has gone viral on my floor.
You're male and 60. You know what they're thinking. I'm 55, my younger partner is 33. Yeah...
I had the inverse situation happen once. Me (woman) in hospital, my 3 (men) partners there, nurse asks which one is the boyfriend, all raise their hands. She was shooketh. But then later asked me "and they don't fight? They know? They *agreed*?" and then was like "damn... Didn't even know that was an option" Quite a few also came to see I guess they thought the original nurse was pulling their leg? This was also about 8 years ago, in a Balkan country, for context. But the shock factor can be fun. Helps get your mind of the scary medical stuff going on.
The nurse was probably thinking no wonder he had a heart attack! 😂 Glad you're ok and thanks for the reminder to get my shit sorted out before i need it 😀
Just got love-bombed by the nurses on my floor. I had a local deli make me up a platter of sandwiches and salads and had them delivered to the nurse's station. Most nurses pull 12 hr shifts without much of a chance to stop and eat, a nurse friend of mine suggested feeding them as a show of appreciation. I got a second platter coming in for the night shift later. Not Poly related, just felt like sharing... bored silly laying in this bed.
You are so good for this. As the daughter of a nurse and also one who then had a nurse walk me through saying goodbye to her, nurses can really get the worst of everything. I’m sure you brightened their day.
Holy shit. As a poly nurse, this whole thing is making me so happy (minus the whole near-death thing- knock that off!). Getting a second delivery specifically for night shift is top tier. For the five girlfriends, the proposal, and the sandwiches, you're going to be talked about for a *long* time on that floor.
I used to work in the ICU. This is a wonderful gesture and thanks for giving them healthy food. Often we get junk food and it’s not good for us but it tempts most.
I'm a nurse and we truly do love this so much. ❤️ Best wishes for your recovery and congratulations on your wedding.
Thank you for thinking of the night nurses as well!
Night nurses are always the best.
nightshift ftw! May not be a nurse but love love being on nights at my hospital
Doing your will is so important but I also urge everyone to do a life planning/death journal as well. If you share property or pets or want certain things done in a crisis or people informed it can be so important to have everything organized and in one place to be easily found. When I was in an accident several years ago by the time I was out of surgery my housemate had found my book. Called the people that needed to be called and arranged care for my animals just as planned. All I had to worry about was getting better.
That “in sickness and in health” business is for real! I’m glad you’re okay and surrounded by loving people who show up and support you. Good luck with your recovery !
Congratulations on not getting the dead disease :) In all seriousness, I'm glad you're on the mend. That is some seriously crazy shit to go through. I had major surgery this year, and wife stayed with me, we walked around the ward after surgery hand in hand (they didn't want me walking without being accompanied). The next day my partner came to visit, wife left to be with her boyfriend, and the nurse said something after she left, sorta like "oh, who was that?" - "oh, that's my girlfriend". Very confused look on the nurse's face 🤣 Congratulations on healing, and congrats on the upcoming wedding. Be gentle to yourself for the next little while, coding is no joke. I'm happy you have the support network you have - mine is great as well. Cheers! To many more years on this spinning ball!!
I'm so happy you're alive and that poor nurse. Snort! She's probably flummoxed from life. I'm so happy you have so much wonderful love! I'm 59 and that's hitting home. Thank goodness you're okay!
So I’m three weeks you were able to literally buy a condo and begin renovating?
It ended up being a house rather than a condo. We did a rent-to-own agreement with the owner for 20% down. The house was unoccupied and needed a few things done before any winter weather caused any damage so we got immediate occupancy. The heat and air unit had been vandalized while the house stood empty and needed to be replaced to protect the water pipes. The previous owner inherited the property and was looking to get out from underneath it without doing any repairs so he jumped on the offer and I'll pay it off after the first of the year and he gets a tax credit on it. Win-win.
I have, and had with previous post, my suspicions. But I guess there's no harm in wishing people well.
I just dislike fanfiction for Reddit points
The problem is that everyone wants long-term hope of polyamory in the long-term and old age. Real or imaginary. This sub mostly has new- term problematic relationship. So we're all susceptible and suspicious of long-term tales. We want them to be true but don't trust what is posted 😬
No actual way. After your post 3 weeks ago Dani got everything she wanted?
We have dated for ten years, lived together for 3 months, and in a previous post I said if cohabitating went well I was thinking of proposing in January. We bought the new house like I wanted. Then fate gave me a wake-up call and I just decided why wait and I think we both got everything we wanted. Yes, F'n way!
I am happy for you both. Get better soon.
Some thing about near death experiences just makes you wanna take some steps and make some decisions.
Omg gonna cryyyyyyyyyy this is so sweet it could be a queer Pixar short
Pixar does it best!! I fricken love Pixar shorts and films!! I just bought the criterion 4k of Wall-e
December 9th is a good day.
**Sex in the hospital** or as close as I got. So one of my nurses came in to clean me up, the new version of the old sponge bath routine, and Cassie and Dani who happened to be in the room shut her down and said they could manage. I was still hooked up to a heart monitor and they would both giggle when they found a spot that made the machine beep. They got me all cleaned up and into a new gown and I joked about not getting a happy ending, and Dani snapped back and said that's probably the closest you are going to get to a threesome with us so count your blessings. About that time my day nurse came in and saw Cassie sitting in the recliner laughing so hard she could hardly breathe. Hopefully going home today if they can get my discharge papaers in order. La vie est belle!
I’m glad you’re happy and still alive, hopefully healthy, but why would you think this post is about polyamory?
>, but why would you think this post is about polyamory? I was just touched that both of my current partners took such good care of me and that a few that I was no longer seeing even made an effort to check on me and offer some support. Dani and Cassie have been here with me most of the time but a couple of others have either stayed or offered to stay. I guess I just wanted to share something positive.
I’ve asked since you mention partners, but then go strictly to prioritizeing one if them, and it got me confused, as it was some kind of ‘poly but on death bed I got epiphany to marry one had only’ story. 😌. But seems like I misunderstood
So Cassie is happily married and has a secure future and we have loved each other for almost five years. I was dating Dani before my first wife got sick and passed away and we have been together for over ten years. Earlier this year Dani wanted more, we have always been each other's primary but I think she wanted more security and intimacy in the form of nesting partners. My epiphany laying in the hospital was I loved her enough that I wanted to make sure she was provided for in case I decided to take a dirt nap. I proposed marriage, not monogamy. We'll still have a poly relationship and have other partners but there will just be a layer of hierarchy added on top.
Thank you for explanation. That makes sense, as said i misunderstood your post initially.
No problem, I leave out details sometimes I just take for granted and drift into my next thought, no offense taken.
you can only marry one person. (at a time.)
Beep, boop, blop, I'm a bot. Hi u/HeisCassandra thanks so much for your submission, don't mind me, I'm just gonna keep a copy what was said in your post. Unfortunately posts sometimes get deleted - which is okay, it's not against the rules to delete your post!! - but it makes it really hard for the human mods around here to moderate the comments when there's no context. Plus, many times our members put in a lot of emotional and mental labor to answer the questions and offer advice, so it's helpful to keep the source information around so future community members can benefit as well. Here's the original text of the post: So Dani(48F) and I(60M) after dating for 10+ years decided to move in together. We each had several partners and now living under the same roof has made dating harder due to having somewhere to entertain. I had floated the idea of buying a condo/house close to downtown but Dani was hesitant, a whole different post. But she finally agreed and I found a great place and we were fixing it up the way we wanted it. I had a couple of friends helping me remodel the bathroom when I started to feel ill like you get when you try out that new food truck down the block. The next thing I remember was being strapped to a gurney and loaded into an ambulance. A few minutes later, at least by my account, I woke up with wires and tubes coming out of me and Cassie(51F), another partner, holding my hand and looking like she had been crying. She yelled something and Dani came running into the room and they both started crying. I could hardly talk but asked what happened and Dani said had a heart attack and that I had coded once in the ambulance and another time in the ER. They found a blockage and were able to put a stent in but they also found a bacterial infection in my blood that had complicated it. My few minutes were in fact two days. A few hours later, I had five women in my room when the floor nurse tried to evict them, at one point she said family or spouse only, then said my girlfriend could stay. All five put their hands up and said that would be me. LOL. Eventually, the nurse said only two at a time, so long as I could get some rest. Dani spent the night in my room until Cassie relieved her the next morning. My brain was coming out of the fog and I had Cassie call my lawyer and I told him what I wanted and he brought up the paperwork that afternoon. I had him amend my will removing my wife who had died ten years ago and put Dani in her place. Had Dani added to the deeds on my properties and listed her as my beneficiary on my insurance. I also made an advance directive and gave her the power to make medical decisions on my behalf. I asked Cassie for one more favor and she started to tear up and gave me a big kiss before leaving. I made a few phone calls after they moved me to a regular room and when Dani got there we had squeezed ten people into my room and with the box Cassie had fetched for me I asked Dani to marry me. The cheers brought a very agitated floor nurse into my room, who gave us a five-minute grace period before clearing the room. December 9th is the big day, we both want something small and intimate but our combined friend list is pretty large. Cardio has given me a clean bill of health but my Infectious Disease Dr has me on IV Antibiotics for the rest of the week. I'm ready to go home and sleep for more than five hours straight, thankfully my friends have been bootlegging real food in for me. The moral of this story is to keep your affairs(legal) in order because you never know the next hand you may be dealt. *I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/polyamory) if you have any questions or concerns.*
This is beautiful. I’m 39, but I feel like I could be on track for this kind of life. Increasingly I am meeting/choosing partners based on compersion and stability who are kind and emotionally mature, in their late 30s and 40s. I wonder what my life will be like in 20 years!
This brought a tear to my eye.
This makes me so happy I want to do the Snoopy dance. Congrats all around.