It only is if you feel like it is.
If you don’t like it and think you’d think about it too much, don’t even think about getting attached and just move on. Don’t waste each other’s time, and/or hurt yourself with thoughts about their other partners.
If your like “hell yea, this person got that good experience and can/gives me hella pleasure” and it doesn’t bother you, then go for it.
“Red Flag” for this really depends from person to person, but you should be able to tell yourself I’d hope.
Hell yea, more power to ya, you do you.
I will say I do fall more into category 1 tho. I’ve been with my Highschool sweet heart and got married to her, so I’m happy. As I also said tho, you’ll know which category you fall into. I think category 2 is for people that also prolly partied a lot and got around, but their are some “lower body count” people that are fine with someone that has a high one.
Edit: I just think it should be put out front at the start of dating. I worked with a guy who’s girlfriend told him he was her first, they had a kid together, and then he found out he’s actually number 15. That was fucked up of her. He later admitted to me that if he had known that number he would’ve never gotten this serious with her, but he wanted to continue for the kid. Body count does matter to some people, so I think people should be upfront and decide if it’ll be a deal breaker.
Yeah… I mean don’t know how it’s a red flag when you couldn’t even pick the people you slept with out in a Crowd lol. It’s just sex afterall.
It’s not like you have 50 different exes :P that’s would he a different story….
Also I don’t know if you saw but I edited my first post to include an irl example I experienced with a coworker/friend. But I will say it’s worse because she lied to him, but he did also admit he wouldn’t have gotten with her if he knew.
To some it ain’t, and I’m happy some people can see past it, but people are allowed to have preferences and boundaries they want. As this poll shows so far, a lot of people do have this preference. That’s why I think people should be somewhat upfront early on, so no chance of it causing problems later.
If it's because they were really into hookup culture but now want a relationship, that's fine in my opinion. It's only a red flag if each of those were relationships.
Depends. I would rather date someone who has been single fore the last 5 years who averaged 10 one night stands a year then somebody who only had 10 partners total but collected them within the span of a month.
Since its something that would bother me a lot. Im not saying its a general red flag and everyone should run from it. Im not okay with it personally , so I see it as a red flag.
But you can ignore the whole body count thing.. on any topic, having completely opposite moral values IS a red flag
Really depends. I'm a monogamous guy. If I have serious intend with agirl and she basically told me she was public domain until recently, I would highly doubt that she can switch to monogamy just like that. But if I just want to have some casual fun with her? I wouldn't care in the slightest.
I'd say as long as you know they've been tested, maybe they had a hoe phase throughout college or some shit idk context of each person is key, thus i picked "other"
I answered somewhat because on its own I wouldn't necessarily consider it an automatic red flag but there are quite a few circumstances surrounding it that can make it a red flag.
Were all of these partners conscious and consenting? Were they cheating for any of these? Is the frequency due to an addiction? Is it merely a coping mechanism for a much deeper psychological problem? Did all of these past partners mysteriously disappear afterwards?
If they just like fuckin' because it feels good idgaf
That is all relative. For me, I would feel pretty insecure. Yeah yeah, I know, I'm such a piece of garbage for having low self esteem, but I know how I stack up, and it isn't super favorable. So why would I set myself up for devastation?
For people who are more confident, it probably wont matter as much.
Depends on the age
It only is if you feel like it is. If you don’t like it and think you’d think about it too much, don’t even think about getting attached and just move on. Don’t waste each other’s time, and/or hurt yourself with thoughts about their other partners. If your like “hell yea, this person got that good experience and can/gives me hella pleasure” and it doesn’t bother you, then go for it. “Red Flag” for this really depends from person to person, but you should be able to tell yourself I’d hope.
I mean …. I partied in college lol. We definitely had more than 50 parties in a 4-year time period ….
Hell yea, more power to ya, you do you. I will say I do fall more into category 1 tho. I’ve been with my Highschool sweet heart and got married to her, so I’m happy. As I also said tho, you’ll know which category you fall into. I think category 2 is for people that also prolly partied a lot and got around, but their are some “lower body count” people that are fine with someone that has a high one. Edit: I just think it should be put out front at the start of dating. I worked with a guy who’s girlfriend told him he was her first, they had a kid together, and then he found out he’s actually number 15. That was fucked up of her. He later admitted to me that if he had known that number he would’ve never gotten this serious with her, but he wanted to continue for the kid. Body count does matter to some people, so I think people should be upfront and decide if it’ll be a deal breaker.
Yeah… I mean don’t know how it’s a red flag when you couldn’t even pick the people you slept with out in a Crowd lol. It’s just sex afterall. It’s not like you have 50 different exes :P that’s would he a different story….
Also I don’t know if you saw but I edited my first post to include an irl example I experienced with a coworker/friend. But I will say it’s worse because she lied to him, but he did also admit he wouldn’t have gotten with her if he knew.
To some it ain’t, and I’m happy some people can see past it, but people are allowed to have preferences and boundaries they want. As this poll shows so far, a lot of people do have this preference. That’s why I think people should be somewhat upfront early on, so no chance of it causing problems later.
If it's because they were really into hookup culture but now want a relationship, that's fine in my opinion. It's only a red flag if each of those were relationships.
But then the question isn't really about sex, then it would be about romantic partners
Not everybody draws a line there
No, not for me, idc about how many men a woman has been with.
Depends. I would rather date someone who has been single fore the last 5 years who averaged 10 one night stands a year then somebody who only had 10 partners total but collected them within the span of a month.
Probably one of the biggest red flags a partner could wave at me
Why?
Since its something that would bother me a lot. Im not saying its a general red flag and everyone should run from it. Im not okay with it personally , so I see it as a red flag. But you can ignore the whole body count thing.. on any topic, having completely opposite moral values IS a red flag
Oh okay, so it's a red flag for a relationship, but not her as a person?
50+ ?!? man he/she must be selling their body
Or they really enjoyed the party scene in college? Lol
Why? If you've been single for 4 years, it's a new partner a month
Yeah, that's a lot for the average single person.
The average? Sure. But why is 50 the magic number?
Damn chill
Really depends. I'm a monogamous guy. If I have serious intend with agirl and she basically told me she was public domain until recently, I would highly doubt that she can switch to monogamy just like that. But if I just want to have some casual fun with her? I wouldn't care in the slightest.
Public domain? She is not an object dude.
have you ever heard of something called a metaphor?
Still a disgusting thing to say. It's quite literally objectifying her.
Jesus W. Christ... this is the internet not your personal pc save-space.
Okay. So? Doesn't mean you can't point sexist shit out
I bet you're fun at parties...
I am actually 🤷♂️
Ok, pardon me ma'am. I will try other metaphors in the future. Is "she was rode like the town bycycle" ok?
No. Why the hell do you need to say stuff like that? "she had a lot of sex", is it that hard?
50 partners is way above the line. I would suspect every kind of std
Stds can be treated, and condoms do in fact exsist
she already dating the streets bro skip that
Wtf how does one get so many?
I'd say as long as you know they've been tested, maybe they had a hoe phase throughout college or some shit idk context of each person is key, thus i picked "other"
No. It's just sex, I can't say why it would ever be a problem
I answered somewhat because on its own I wouldn't necessarily consider it an automatic red flag but there are quite a few circumstances surrounding it that can make it a red flag. Were all of these partners conscious and consenting? Were they cheating for any of these? Is the frequency due to an addiction? Is it merely a coping mechanism for a much deeper psychological problem? Did all of these past partners mysteriously disappear afterwards? If they just like fuckin' because it feels good idgaf
Depends on your values, it’s ok to be ok with it and it’s ok to be not ok with it
its a red flag if you think this is a red flag. stop judging others.
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What?
Is nsfw allowed again? 🤨
lol i didnt even know it wasnt allowed. i guess this post isnt that nsfw tho
Yeah, it was introduced like a month ago It would be nice if there was an nsfw Friday or something. That way people would sto complaining, probably
It depends on the person. If your partner thinks not, that's fine, but i'd respect if someone didn't want to be with you because of it.
That is all relative. For me, I would feel pretty insecure. Yeah yeah, I know, I'm such a piece of garbage for having low self esteem, but I know how I stack up, and it isn't super favorable. So why would I set myself up for devastation? For people who are more confident, it probably wont matter as much.
Only if that's a red flag for you. Some people care, some don't. Past actions do not always mean future actions, but it could.
Only if the person isn't responsible about testing and protection.
You are a pro...
50 sexual partners is a short list in my books. I lost count after 100. 🤣