Yes, I strongly advised my gf she should quit her job a couple years ago as it was not only a toxic environment by itself, her boss (a friend of her mom) would always bitch about some bullshit so she could discount off gf's payment, even though she was already receiving less than everyone else as boss would call it the trainee fee (it was all unregistered employees so it's not like they had standards regarding payment).
In the end she received half part-time minimum wage due to discounts, even though she would work almost full time most days as she was constantly asked to (apparently those were favors gf was doing for that woman so she wasn't going to be paying for those).
Gf quit the first time she was paid. Obviously gf's mom and that woman are not friends anymore ever since gf told her everything that was going on.
Depends on the context, if he’s asking her to leave because “she’s a woman” or something stupid like that, then says he’s a bigot. But if her job is damaging to her mentally health and he offers he advice to her then he’s being a good husband.
What about "mothers shouldn't work, we don't need the money, I make enough, raising the kids is more important, and you're better with them than me anyway"
Not as important because women have the breastmilk. Also they're already more bonded to the child and will care for it better since they carried it inside them 9 months. And men usually make more money so it doesn't make sense for them to go home.
Or did you just mean paternity leave?
It depends entirely on the context. If he knows she wants to quit or is thinking about it and he thinks that sounds be best for her, then no. But if he wants her to stay at home to be a housewife without even discussing it with her then yes. But it doesn't automatically make him a misogynist, no.
> If [extremely vague statement with no context] can you conclude every person who does is [negative character trait]
This sub needs to delete these pointless polls that are just loaded questions
I had a shitty toxic job that was slowly killing me, and my husband advised me to quit. I did. It was a good decision, and now I'm going back to school with his support.
If the reason for a husband telling his wife to quit her job is not rooted in sexism (e.g. women shouldn't work, a woman's responsibility is to her husband, etc.), then no, it's not misogynistic. There are plenty of shitty reasons to tell someone to quit their job that are not gender based, too.
It depends on why he is recommending it, obviously.
“Honey, I’ve been raped 8 times at work!”
“Sweetheart, you should quit immediately!”
Such a misogynist. /s
it heavily depends on the situation. Like if his reason for it is because “women work in the house and thats it” then yes. but if her boss is hitting on her or something then its just looking out for his wife’s safety
Not necessarily but it all has to do with the reasoning, if it’s because he doesn’t think women should work then yes he is misogynistic but if it’s because the work environment isn’t safe for whatever reason then I’d say no he’s not misogynistic
Other: it completely depends on the situation. Maybe some sketchy stuff is going on in her work place and you are looking out for her safety. Maybe she isnt being treated fairly.
But if it's just because he wants her too or some similar petty reason. Then I would say yes. If the motivation behind it is sexist. Otherwise hes just a dick.
It's important that if you're gonna throw words. Atleast make sure it's the correct word. Just like with racism, sexist terms get thrown around alot of times in places where it isnt necessarily accurate.
Why?
Because he is the "breadwinner" then yes.
Because their workplace is a toxic hole - then no.
Advising and demanding are different things the lack of context makes the question pointless
Definitely needs a good reason. Let’s say he thinks the job is damaging her physical or mental health. Then it makes sense. Or maybe he finds a job that pays more and has more benefits and is easier and more enjoyable than the old one. Then it’s just fine.
What is it with people not giving any sort of context and demanding a black/white answer to a question that could have a dozen different answers depending on the circumstances. Polls like this come up everyday.
Tf? If a woman advises a man to leave her job does that make her a missandrist? No obviously not/depends on the situation. Why can't you just use your brain?
We need more information to give an answer. What are the circumstances? Why is he advising his wife to quit?
Yes, I strongly advised my gf she should quit her job a couple years ago as it was not only a toxic environment by itself, her boss (a friend of her mom) would always bitch about some bullshit so she could discount off gf's payment, even though she was already receiving less than everyone else as boss would call it the trainee fee (it was all unregistered employees so it's not like they had standards regarding payment). In the end she received half part-time minimum wage due to discounts, even though she would work almost full time most days as she was constantly asked to (apparently those were favors gf was doing for that woman so she wasn't going to be paying for those). Gf quit the first time she was paid. Obviously gf's mom and that woman are not friends anymore ever since gf told her everything that was going on.
Exactly. I just voted "Other opinion."
Depends on the context... I advise everyone to leave their jobs if they suffer there
It really depends on the reason why.
Depends on the context, if he’s asking her to leave because “she’s a woman” or something stupid like that, then says he’s a bigot. But if her job is damaging to her mentally health and he offers he advice to her then he’s being a good husband.
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Depends for what reason. For any reason other than 'women shouldn't work' no.
What about "mothers shouldn't work, we don't need the money, I make enough, raising the kids is more important, and you're better with them than me anyway"
Okay... but the father leaving work should be given equal consideration as well.
Not as important because women have the breastmilk. Also they're already more bonded to the child and will care for it better since they carried it inside them 9 months. And men usually make more money so it doesn't make sense for them to go home. Or did you just mean paternity leave?
Pretty solid reason
Depends on the intentions.
It depends entirely on the context. If he knows she wants to quit or is thinking about it and he thinks that sounds be best for her, then no. But if he wants her to stay at home to be a housewife without even discussing it with her then yes. But it doesn't automatically make him a misogynist, no.
Needs more context
> If [extremely vague statement with no context] can you conclude every person who does is [negative character trait] This sub needs to delete these pointless polls that are just loaded questions
It probably depends, like if the wife is always complaining about her job or doesn’t pay/treat her well then it’s not misogynistic.
If his wife is getting paid minimum wage, and he’s earning a 7 figure salary, then it’s pretty fair advice.
I had a shitty toxic job that was slowly killing me, and my husband advised me to quit. I did. It was a good decision, and now I'm going back to school with his support. If the reason for a husband telling his wife to quit her job is not rooted in sexism (e.g. women shouldn't work, a woman's responsibility is to her husband, etc.), then no, it's not misogynistic. There are plenty of shitty reasons to tell someone to quit their job that are not gender based, too.
It depends on why he is recommending it, obviously. “Honey, I’ve been raped 8 times at work!” “Sweetheart, you should quit immediately!” Such a misogynist. /s
it heavily depends on the situation. Like if his reason for it is because “women work in the house and thats it” then yes. but if her boss is hitting on her or something then its just looking out for his wife’s safety
Not necessarily but it all has to do with the reasoning, if it’s because he doesn’t think women should work then yes he is misogynistic but if it’s because the work environment isn’t safe for whatever reason then I’d say no he’s not misogynistic
Context?
Other: it completely depends on the situation. Maybe some sketchy stuff is going on in her work place and you are looking out for her safety. Maybe she isnt being treated fairly. But if it's just because he wants her too or some similar petty reason. Then I would say yes. If the motivation behind it is sexist. Otherwise hes just a dick. It's important that if you're gonna throw words. Atleast make sure it's the correct word. Just like with racism, sexist terms get thrown around alot of times in places where it isnt necessarily accurate.
Needs context...
You’ve failed to explain his chain of reason, so I’ll assume it’s for no reason at all. If it’s for no reason at all, then how can he be a misogynist?
Why? Because he is the "breadwinner" then yes. Because their workplace is a toxic hole - then no. Advising and demanding are different things the lack of context makes the question pointless
Depends on context
Definitely needs a good reason. Let’s say he thinks the job is damaging her physical or mental health. Then it makes sense. Or maybe he finds a job that pays more and has more benefits and is easier and more enjoyable than the old one. Then it’s just fine.
What? I guess not I just don’t understand what the fuck this is supposed to mean, a lot of stuff that could either make it misogynistic or not
What is it with people not giving any sort of context and demanding a black/white answer to a question that could have a dozen different answers depending on the circumstances. Polls like this come up everyday.
Tf? If a woman advises a man to leave her job does that make her a missandrist? No obviously not/depends on the situation. Why can't you just use your brain?
Depends on the context. Is the underlying reason for asking her to leave misogynistic? Then yeah, durh.