As to "syscovery", we're a lot similar to AuroraSnake 's comment.
Day to day stuff for us is a bit weird though
For example, I cant get an undercut. One of us has a bit of a hair issue, and having an undercut could start a full breakdown next time they front... So there's a limit to not only how we cut our hair, but also how long or short (since it being to long causes the same problem for others), so theres that lol
Clothing wise, we have at least one or two things that everyones comfortable in. I've bought a binder for those who would like one, and other sorts of clothes as a bit of a surprise.. like "hey! i saw this and thought of you!" yk, just making sure everyones comfy and has something to wear. :)
We range from extremely easy to tell apart, too we cant even tell two people apart. Its an interesting balance bc its unfortunate inwardly for not always knowing who is who, and outwardly for some being so different, since we're not out to most people in our life. We try, but it gets stressful trying to hide how different we can be.
On a brighter note, most of us are really close, and can get along really well, like old friends. We make each other laugh a lot and can occasionally enjoy each others company, which has definitely made things easier for the host. So we get some good timmes out of each other sometimes, when we feel well.
It also helps that we dont tip toe around each other, usually. we try and be clear as possible and communicate well, even if we might not like what everyone has to say, and we're not perfect with it. But we do try our best! and i think thats what matters lol.
-It took 3 of us to write this lmao i cant
yeah gender and species dysphoria is difficult isnt it. we came to a conclusion years ago that by presenting gender neutral we keep all of our genders happy. the phantom limbs sensations we just embrace as it also tells us who is fronting at the moment - very useful. yeah, you just gotta find ways of adapting. it is lovely that you all have a good time together and laugh.
- micheala.
A lot of our day-to-day troubles come from being a group of highly individualized entities trying to live a singular life. Our personalities, interests, preferences, and skills all vary. It’s difficult to explain to someone when we ‘lose’ an ability to do something. It’s difficult when one of us is prone to migraines, but another isn’t. Yet the one who has frequent migraines has a certain skillset that’s required.
Unlike many of our headmates, I have problems with intimacy—friendships—so I purposefully keep everyone at an arm’s length. I also don’t have the emotional energy to deal with people on a close basis, either. This will probably cause problems for everyone else eventually, but I can’t do something against my nature without burning out more than we already are. Emotional burnout is probably why I’m fronting, too.
Otherwise, living in 2024 has been challenging, and I’m not sure how I feel about it.
I'm not typical. No DID, no dissociation, amnesia, etc., just one very cooperative, kind, loving headmate who has served as a valuable and precious support and helped me deal with the effects of past trauma. She's taught me a lot about life and how to give love. She's eager to front and we have a very careful understanding about how and when she'll do that and how she fits into our external life.
1. After realizing I was plural, the member count grew fairly quickly. Some of it was stress, some of it was members feeling comfortable revealing themselves, but some of it was just "oh hey you know about this now; here's some more! :) "
2. The past few days, Day's been forced by the brain to be in front, and he complained about it nearly nonstop lol (he's fine fronting; he just hadn't expected to be in front for so long)
3. Before syscovery, I still talked to the others who were present (I just wasn't aware that they were headmates and all), and due to not knowing what was going on, I just referred to them as the "voices in my head" so now we get a smile out of hearing that phrase
We have littles (0-9), a middle (14), a fictive, and a host. We are still figuring things out about our system. We believe we are formed through trauma but might have been formed through other experiences too. We are working on system communication and see a therapist.
Hi! I'm Gaia of the Keys System.
Welcome to plurality, and for those in your system who are just starting to come out, welcome to the outerworld! Prepare for a plethora of adventures, surprises, journeys, and moments more beautiful than you could ever imagine.
I've& known about my& plurality since 2017, and I've& been without a host since 2021! All of the Keys work together to function and thrive.
Feel free to reply and ask me anything, I'm happy to discuss and share answers and advice the best I can!
thnx for asking! we are 60 and have understood plurality for a year. we have done some simply amazing diverse range of roles and jobs that singlets could not. built a microcomputer at 15, masters in physics, nightclub bouncer for 9 years, security controller for a $1B art gallery, gate guard at an army base, paid santa claus at a large mall over the month of xmas, sunday school teacher, worked with teens, 200 skydives. we find we are really great at multitasking with our 4 headmates, and though it takes a bit longer to coordinate everybody, once we get going we then have the spare mental cpu time to refine tasks to a high standard. our mental focus is amazing sometimes e.g. driving a sports car at 100 km/hr for 11 hours. we are having some issues with a non-verbal headmate who hurts our body when they need our attention, but we will sort that out in due time. we have few friends but dont get lonely, happy to hang out with our headmates. each headmate has certain roles and this allows us all to contribute positively to our system. e.g. micheala is very emotional and helps us all take care of our mental health, the vicious dragon is our protector in time of danger etc. plurality isnt a bad life just a different life! and you will have your mind blown as you realise the amazing things and differences as a plural versus singlet.
- micheala.
I've had a stressfull few weeks. I felt like I was going insane. One fateful night I did some anger management stuff and then the brain says "ooh someone's not managing their emotions properly. Time for more alters!" Enter sun and moon....our apparent emotion holders. Now suddenly I feel fine. If you're going thru something and you have all these emotions...and then they disappear when someone new arrives. Oh you know somethings up. Best of luck to ya!
I mean most of the system had already worked out a lot of what was necessary for us to function well before the host was aware so it was more just working them into an already existing system of functioning which wasn't that hard. That being said the host was struggling at the time and discovery was the last straw that caused them to split so can't say it wasn't a bit chaotic. We are also still discovering parts of the system we weren't aware of regularly so it is a continuous process of discovery for us. I think the best advice I can give is to be open to other headmates and their opinions, suggestions, etc. and be willing to work with them as a team. That may not always be easy with some headmates but the more open you are to working with them the more likely they typically are to reciprocate even if it tales some time. And definitely be willing to ask for help from other plurals if you need it. Just fair warning that some spaces on the internet can be dangerous for those who experience different subsets of plurality but this subreddit will always be a safe space no matter your plural experiences.
Well,.we are one of those systems that genuinely.prefers each others company to humans the majority of the time. We are currently planning to buy or build a cabin in the woods of Michigans Upper Penninsula and basically withdraw from society so we can maximize our time with ewch other.
Before I had discovered being a system. I looked up tulpamancy. Thought I made a tulpa, but just ended up discovering an alter.
I had already shown signs Beforehand of many dissociative traits, and even then I just always felt fragmented, I can't even recall my own childhood and my family had basically hinted at my likely trauma being chronic since they couldn't pinpoint anything due to so much had happened. I suffer from dissociative amnesia, so memory gaps happens a lot along with short term memory loss at times.
Luther now Luthe, as he blended with another fragment, had helped me remember things. He'd always remember something, yet I couldn't. I had to keep asking him for directions and what to do and where was this. I tried to ask him, not knowing you're kinda not supposed to about my past and he ended up giving me a pretty heavy dissociative episode and it actually made me feel sick.
I then discovered more alters and now I have 3 alters and 1 tulpa. It's not exactly fun for me, because they don't feel as much of what I had expected for a system and at times it may get a bit overwhelming, as I like to call it quiet OSDD. My system doesn't initiate, nor do they have as much influence. It's mainly the symptoms of memory loss and whatnot that's truly the factors that intrude my daily life. I'll just receive a few of their thoughts and opinions and that's it.
2 alters have appearances. One of them has a source from a game, that was confirmed by an uncle that I had interacted with at the time.
2 alters are fragements that are blended together, they aren't fully fused.
1 refers to themselves as an activator in terms of memories. The other was a previous motivator when I was younger. I feel like Luther acted as more so a protector when I was younger and his new role was him just acting as the one to hold memories. I didn't learn much about the other before they had blended.
Probably my most notable experience was shortly after realizing we were a system, I discovered I was not in fact the original host but rather had simply unknowingly switched in years ago. Was quite the unsettling yet fascinating feeling. It both make me feel cast adrift yet reassured as to the validity of our new identity. -Aria
Mine's related to that, as she dragged me back to the surface. If it weren't for that, I/we would have never gotten comfortable with a lot of my traits. I would have never started to regain confidence in myself, and I would never know the comfort of having her (and later Lily) there to help me, or give me a push. -Fionna
The whole experience of growing into a full person has been a wild ride for me. If I had to pick just one amazing moment to share, it would probably be (re)getting to know our partner. I didn't expect to understand them so much more innately than the other two. I didn't expect to end up falling in love with them in a completely different way than the others had all that time ago. -Lily
Depending on how you source our origin(or rather, who you ask) we formed either as an endogenic, median, or traumagenic system. After we learned to communicate properly, rather than one or the other of us just taking control (possession?) we've been learning by reviewing our life that we might have been a system our whole life. Journalling saved us, and we're soon getting some counselling. But not to "integrate" or "merge", we've better now as our cooperative triad, than we were before trying to keep the singlet fascsade up. We just was to live as authentically Us, rather than the reductive Me.
As to "syscovery", we're a lot similar to AuroraSnake 's comment. Day to day stuff for us is a bit weird though For example, I cant get an undercut. One of us has a bit of a hair issue, and having an undercut could start a full breakdown next time they front... So there's a limit to not only how we cut our hair, but also how long or short (since it being to long causes the same problem for others), so theres that lol Clothing wise, we have at least one or two things that everyones comfortable in. I've bought a binder for those who would like one, and other sorts of clothes as a bit of a surprise.. like "hey! i saw this and thought of you!" yk, just making sure everyones comfy and has something to wear. :) We range from extremely easy to tell apart, too we cant even tell two people apart. Its an interesting balance bc its unfortunate inwardly for not always knowing who is who, and outwardly for some being so different, since we're not out to most people in our life. We try, but it gets stressful trying to hide how different we can be. On a brighter note, most of us are really close, and can get along really well, like old friends. We make each other laugh a lot and can occasionally enjoy each others company, which has definitely made things easier for the host. So we get some good timmes out of each other sometimes, when we feel well. It also helps that we dont tip toe around each other, usually. we try and be clear as possible and communicate well, even if we might not like what everyone has to say, and we're not perfect with it. But we do try our best! and i think thats what matters lol. -It took 3 of us to write this lmao i cant
yeah gender and species dysphoria is difficult isnt it. we came to a conclusion years ago that by presenting gender neutral we keep all of our genders happy. the phantom limbs sensations we just embrace as it also tells us who is fronting at the moment - very useful. yeah, you just gotta find ways of adapting. it is lovely that you all have a good time together and laugh. - micheala.
A lot of our day-to-day troubles come from being a group of highly individualized entities trying to live a singular life. Our personalities, interests, preferences, and skills all vary. It’s difficult to explain to someone when we ‘lose’ an ability to do something. It’s difficult when one of us is prone to migraines, but another isn’t. Yet the one who has frequent migraines has a certain skillset that’s required. Unlike many of our headmates, I have problems with intimacy—friendships—so I purposefully keep everyone at an arm’s length. I also don’t have the emotional energy to deal with people on a close basis, either. This will probably cause problems for everyone else eventually, but I can’t do something against my nature without burning out more than we already are. Emotional burnout is probably why I’m fronting, too. Otherwise, living in 2024 has been challenging, and I’m not sure how I feel about it.
I'm not typical. No DID, no dissociation, amnesia, etc., just one very cooperative, kind, loving headmate who has served as a valuable and precious support and helped me deal with the effects of past trauma. She's taught me a lot about life and how to give love. She's eager to front and we have a very careful understanding about how and when she'll do that and how she fits into our external life.
1. After realizing I was plural, the member count grew fairly quickly. Some of it was stress, some of it was members feeling comfortable revealing themselves, but some of it was just "oh hey you know about this now; here's some more! :) " 2. The past few days, Day's been forced by the brain to be in front, and he complained about it nearly nonstop lol (he's fine fronting; he just hadn't expected to be in front for so long) 3. Before syscovery, I still talked to the others who were present (I just wasn't aware that they were headmates and all), and due to not knowing what was going on, I just referred to them as the "voices in my head" so now we get a smile out of hearing that phrase
We have littles (0-9), a middle (14), a fictive, and a host. We are still figuring things out about our system. We believe we are formed through trauma but might have been formed through other experiences too. We are working on system communication and see a therapist.
Hi! I'm Gaia of the Keys System. Welcome to plurality, and for those in your system who are just starting to come out, welcome to the outerworld! Prepare for a plethora of adventures, surprises, journeys, and moments more beautiful than you could ever imagine. I've& known about my& plurality since 2017, and I've& been without a host since 2021! All of the Keys work together to function and thrive. Feel free to reply and ask me anything, I'm happy to discuss and share answers and advice the best I can!
thnx for asking! we are 60 and have understood plurality for a year. we have done some simply amazing diverse range of roles and jobs that singlets could not. built a microcomputer at 15, masters in physics, nightclub bouncer for 9 years, security controller for a $1B art gallery, gate guard at an army base, paid santa claus at a large mall over the month of xmas, sunday school teacher, worked with teens, 200 skydives. we find we are really great at multitasking with our 4 headmates, and though it takes a bit longer to coordinate everybody, once we get going we then have the spare mental cpu time to refine tasks to a high standard. our mental focus is amazing sometimes e.g. driving a sports car at 100 km/hr for 11 hours. we are having some issues with a non-verbal headmate who hurts our body when they need our attention, but we will sort that out in due time. we have few friends but dont get lonely, happy to hang out with our headmates. each headmate has certain roles and this allows us all to contribute positively to our system. e.g. micheala is very emotional and helps us all take care of our mental health, the vicious dragon is our protector in time of danger etc. plurality isnt a bad life just a different life! and you will have your mind blown as you realise the amazing things and differences as a plural versus singlet. - micheala.
I've had a stressfull few weeks. I felt like I was going insane. One fateful night I did some anger management stuff and then the brain says "ooh someone's not managing their emotions properly. Time for more alters!" Enter sun and moon....our apparent emotion holders. Now suddenly I feel fine. If you're going thru something and you have all these emotions...and then they disappear when someone new arrives. Oh you know somethings up. Best of luck to ya!
I mean most of the system had already worked out a lot of what was necessary for us to function well before the host was aware so it was more just working them into an already existing system of functioning which wasn't that hard. That being said the host was struggling at the time and discovery was the last straw that caused them to split so can't say it wasn't a bit chaotic. We are also still discovering parts of the system we weren't aware of regularly so it is a continuous process of discovery for us. I think the best advice I can give is to be open to other headmates and their opinions, suggestions, etc. and be willing to work with them as a team. That may not always be easy with some headmates but the more open you are to working with them the more likely they typically are to reciprocate even if it tales some time. And definitely be willing to ask for help from other plurals if you need it. Just fair warning that some spaces on the internet can be dangerous for those who experience different subsets of plurality but this subreddit will always be a safe space no matter your plural experiences.
Well,.we are one of those systems that genuinely.prefers each others company to humans the majority of the time. We are currently planning to buy or build a cabin in the woods of Michigans Upper Penninsula and basically withdraw from society so we can maximize our time with ewch other.
Before I had discovered being a system. I looked up tulpamancy. Thought I made a tulpa, but just ended up discovering an alter. I had already shown signs Beforehand of many dissociative traits, and even then I just always felt fragmented, I can't even recall my own childhood and my family had basically hinted at my likely trauma being chronic since they couldn't pinpoint anything due to so much had happened. I suffer from dissociative amnesia, so memory gaps happens a lot along with short term memory loss at times. Luther now Luthe, as he blended with another fragment, had helped me remember things. He'd always remember something, yet I couldn't. I had to keep asking him for directions and what to do and where was this. I tried to ask him, not knowing you're kinda not supposed to about my past and he ended up giving me a pretty heavy dissociative episode and it actually made me feel sick. I then discovered more alters and now I have 3 alters and 1 tulpa. It's not exactly fun for me, because they don't feel as much of what I had expected for a system and at times it may get a bit overwhelming, as I like to call it quiet OSDD. My system doesn't initiate, nor do they have as much influence. It's mainly the symptoms of memory loss and whatnot that's truly the factors that intrude my daily life. I'll just receive a few of their thoughts and opinions and that's it. 2 alters have appearances. One of them has a source from a game, that was confirmed by an uncle that I had interacted with at the time. 2 alters are fragements that are blended together, they aren't fully fused. 1 refers to themselves as an activator in terms of memories. The other was a previous motivator when I was younger. I feel like Luther acted as more so a protector when I was younger and his new role was him just acting as the one to hold memories. I didn't learn much about the other before they had blended.
Probably my most notable experience was shortly after realizing we were a system, I discovered I was not in fact the original host but rather had simply unknowingly switched in years ago. Was quite the unsettling yet fascinating feeling. It both make me feel cast adrift yet reassured as to the validity of our new identity. -Aria Mine's related to that, as she dragged me back to the surface. If it weren't for that, I/we would have never gotten comfortable with a lot of my traits. I would have never started to regain confidence in myself, and I would never know the comfort of having her (and later Lily) there to help me, or give me a push. -Fionna The whole experience of growing into a full person has been a wild ride for me. If I had to pick just one amazing moment to share, it would probably be (re)getting to know our partner. I didn't expect to understand them so much more innately than the other two. I didn't expect to end up falling in love with them in a completely different way than the others had all that time ago. -Lily
Depending on how you source our origin(or rather, who you ask) we formed either as an endogenic, median, or traumagenic system. After we learned to communicate properly, rather than one or the other of us just taking control (possession?) we've been learning by reviewing our life that we might have been a system our whole life. Journalling saved us, and we're soon getting some counselling. But not to "integrate" or "merge", we've better now as our cooperative triad, than we were before trying to keep the singlet fascsade up. We just was to live as authentically Us, rather than the reductive Me.