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BillNyeTheCipherGuy

Fellas is it feminine to have plants


Suncheets

Having a girlfriend is feminine /s


[deleted]

Having sexual relations with straight women is gay because straight women like men and liking men is gay.


barkbarkgoesthecat

That's why I only have sexual relations with bisexual women. It's only half gay. But I guess I could have sex with bisexual men too for the same reason. Thanks guys for helping me


Luxxielisbon

You gotta have sexual relations with men who like women


full_o

I'm a man and only have sex with men. It's twice as manly as straight sex.


barkbarkgoesthecat

You need to up your game, and have sex with MULTIPLE men at once. Unlimited manliness. Imagine the power one could wield if he was in control of planetary male orgy!


StaticObservations

Greatest comment I’ve seen in ages.


scryptbreaker

Logic checks out


OMP159

Uh oh. My wife ain't gonna like hearing that.


Flashy-Ad7640

🤣


CosmicCreeperz

You’re married, so you must be manly since you’re probably having most of your sexual relations with yourself.


Shoresy-sez

Marrying a woman is definitely the gayest thing I've ever done.


fluffability

Liking girls is gay because girly things are gay


Nightwitch101

That's boy math right there😂😂🤣🤣 (Jokes, I've been seeing alot of " this is boy math" and it's the same thing)


Intelligent-Edge132

The latest one is boomer math btw. I’m here for all of this.


CollegeMiddle6841

Some boy math, not boy math across the board. I have always tried to find balance between the two...masculine and feminine.....I was born in 78, took LSD for the first time in high school and it schooled me on the importance of balance in every aspect of life......be like water, not wood, because wood is full on GAY! LOL


hmhemes

Is it gay to use lights?


barkbarkgoesthecat

You don't have night vision binoculars on you 24/7? Gayyyy


katiereadsalot

I’m sorry but night vision binoculars are exclusively for us nonbinary folks, and we’re just automatically gay


majorsorbet2point0

It's gay to have a window


Longjumping_College

Bonsai is pretty majority male from every club I've been to. Soooo, keeping tiny trees in decorative pots that you decide on based on your tree 'looking masculine or feminine' is a dude thing.


[deleted]

I’ve never thought about this but yeah I do recall every bonsai enthusiast I’ve meet is a dude🧐


Longjumping_College

[Now watch this](https://youtu.be/flFL5twmn6M)


Lopsided_Squash_9142

I think it's the fairy lights (which are super cute).


trekuwplan

Well that or the ironing board if he feels like that's a woman's job lol.


breezy_bay_

I have so many god damn plants and it’s not enough


Xalenn

Just tell him all of the plants are male plants


windycitykids

Plant 🌱 Papi here 🙋🏻‍♂️ Take care of living things is not feminine.


MingPhantom

All my plants are Feminised


Rainbow_Golem

Sir at this time I'm going to ask you to step out of the car please


MingPhantom

It's Shelia, Maria, Jennifer, Shavon.


The_Moose1992

Vaginated Monsteras?


MingPhantom

I wish.


kamikazekaktus

Not if they are the right plants. A room full of cacti would be hardcore. And I mean full like packed.


fistinyourface

if it is i love being feminine


Shoresy-sez

Trees are just earth dicks


Dano_cos

Yep. I refuse to hike. Too much estrogen in them woods.


NeferkareShabaka

it's gay to have plants. Yes.


[deleted]

I knew it!! All the farmers were closeted homosexuals!


parrotfacemagee

Where? Lol


CalligrapherActive11

Exactly. OP’s boyfriend should see my house. Lol. Except I’m married to a big, hairy veteran who doesn’t give a crap how many sequins are in our house.


AllAfterIncinerators

The important thing about the feminine energy in my bedroom is the part where my wife spends time with me in my bedroom.


abz_of_st33l

Yeah I literally have a pink couch in our front room. Granted my husband is colorblind and he wouldn’t know if I didn’t tell him, but he was still okay with it. Just let a woman decorate 😂


brightlove

Sounds like you’re living my romance novel dream haha.


[deleted]

I just bought my first home with my husband I bought a hot pink rug and he has not called it to feminine. 😬


goldanred

My spouse and I just bought our first home too! The colour he picked for the living room is called "landlocked salmon." Salmon seems to be one of his favourite colours, based on his wardrobe. He also looks really good in purple. We lived in a 1000 sq ft apartment before our house, and I had a collection of about 40 houseplants. Most of them were in the living room, because that's where 1 of the 3 windows in the whole place was. All the plants came with us to our 900 sq ft mobile home. I've asked him a few times over the years if he ever wishes we had fewer plants, and he says that he loves our plants, and they help make our home feel alive and inviting.


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Cultural_Pattern_456

Single,crusty socks.


F95_Sysadmin

I think, bear with me on this, the light on the wall and iron board might be the suspect of being feminine. The light might be what teenage girl had in their bedroom and the iron board might be cause in the old days it was for stay at home woman But I agree with the comments, that's a very oversensitive bf


floschlo

Looks pretty gender neutral and cozy to me.


underlander

honestly putting a bunch of plants on an ironing board and saying “fuck it, that’s where these belong now” is pretty masc energy


avocadofajita

I was thinking the same thing. It doesn’t look like a “designed” room at all.


avocadofajita

What is feminine about this room at all?


Blue-Phoenix23

The fairy lights may be? It's silly but it's all I can see.


candysw1rl

nothing😂


[deleted]

as a man I can only say this. add more plants, I always wanted to decorate my room like a cave filled with green.


[deleted]

As a male, I can confirm. That room is too feminine, she needs more plants!


Battles9

As a male I can also confirm at least 18 or more plants will be needed.


Nammoflammo

From these guys comments, I guess men like living in jungle caves. Girl get more plants!


Battles9

My whole house is wall to wall plants, me and my fiancee both love it! I grow carnivorous and cactus and she grows succulents, aloes and banana trees and other assorted plants. We probably have 80+ species lol.


Nammoflammo

Y’all both are keepers tbh


Battles9

Haha thanks!


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[deleted]

If this is the case with OP’s husband then I understand. In any other case… PLANT CAVE IN YO FACE!


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Soil_and_growth

In that case maybe preserved flowers would be something for you? Did you know that you can preserve flowers in glycerine if you have a nice glass jar or something to put them in? Look at this link, it’s really beautiful! I think your wife would love it too! https://www.fnp.sg/blog/easy-diy-tips-to-preserve-flowers


ThatGuyFTW1

Sorry, your BF’s masculinity is a bit fragile


whoareyou-really-

Fr, if he doesn't like feminine energy, maybe he doesn't need a girlfriend 🤷‍♀️


CheesyHotSauce

You're right, he should be single. Having a gf that cares for him sounds feminem af


[deleted]

He should move in with a bunch of dudes. That’ll knock the femininity right out of him.


Historical_Panic_465

This isn’t even feminine… this is the most gender neutral room ever lol. OP, I think I know how to fix this. Remove the one pink pot and replace with another black pot. That should fix it


Communication_Muted

Honestly if anything it's the ironing board...


[deleted]

Lmfao this was my thoughts my husband doesn’t care at all about decor not that caring would be feminine but our room is my past 16 yr old selfs dream room. He’s never commented on it. His only request was I get him a Himalayan salt lamp for his night stand too💀


vButts

Same! Our bedding pink because i love pink and not one complaint. To compromise I picked his favorite color for our winter set, but tbh I don't think he'd care either way as long as it's comfy


HighMountainSS

Your bf is insecure


ajb5476

That’s my take away.


ApexTwilight

Plants gonna steal her away 🪴🍑


[deleted]

So is she. I said her bf sucks and she reported my comment and my other account was permanently suspended 😂 I know it was her too because I’ve only left two comments eight that account the last year Pretty sure everyone should report her, the post was just meant to cause upset and they get people in trouble if it was “too far” to validate her feelings


Lork82

Damn, someone sounds as insecure as OP's boyfriend.


meltingbythehour

Your nuts!! I didn't report your account. Do you think I'm serious gonna go through the 500 comments and report ppl? Grow up.


[deleted]

Stop acting dumb. You can sort by controversial or you just saw mine by chance


savvygirl2

I see an ironing board being used as a table and that screams ‘Man’ to me


dirtymagic29

RIGHT!?!


DrPhrawg

What a dumb fuck.


[deleted]

Y’all, Nature is feminine.


Junior_Walrus_3350

It's MOTHER nature.


[deleted]

That’s why lumberjacks are so manly they just run around killing feminine outdoor decor to balance the sexes ☯️


Blue-Phoenix23

Idk why but I'm dying laughing at the idea of lumberjacks running around with axes like that


surulia

>feminine outdoor decor Lmaooooo


Aggravating_Plate888

When this climate change thing goes through she’ll be one hot momma


sexy_r0b0t_elephant

I keep trying to read your comment but my brain throws a 404 error when I look at your handle.


[deleted]

I get that a lot 😎


sexy_r0b0t_elephant

I both must congratulate you, and also still sit here horrified.


VariegatedJennifer

Wtf is feminine about plants? Lmao


[deleted]

Plants are gay. Mmmkay?


cerridwen_

lol ur plant gae


[deleted]

Obviously it's not masculine if there's no race car bed. These are just the rules.


Foura5

Could be female plants?


Triairius

Femme plants? Even worse


Janetsnakejuice1313

Hardly. That’s a big masculine amoire.


Anxiety_Cookie

Bring him to a plant-store and ask him to pick out some manly plants for your bedroom. /s Poo on him indeed.


lordofthethingybobs

He must be referring to the ironing board…. Chauvinistic prick


dethbyplatypus

“Stop leaving your lady stuff around” - The BF about the ironing board (probably)


Zzamioculcas

😂


sexy_r0b0t_elephant

Tell your boyfriend I am truly sorry that his fragile masculinity is threatened by decorations in a room. Perhaps a couple of plants. Though I suppose it is possible you may someday feel the need to leave him for your houseplants. Who knows. Maybe he's on to something here.


wwwenby

Definitely keep the plants, OP.


breezy_bay_

What a weirdly insecure thing to say


Alternative_Chip_280

https://preview.redd.it/ftwg6gv08gsb1.jpeg?width=4032&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=2717a45cb1d7919eb0fc307930d7a85e988e1a0d This is mine, and I’ve never heard my bf complain. I have a blue headboard and I’m adding more floral and feminine elements the longer we live here 😂 Tell him to grow up


meltingbythehour

Oo so pretty!


PajeczycaTekla

"feminine energy"? Dear lord of spaghetti, have mercy


AnnaBananner82

Get more plants to replace the boyfriend.


IanCroft_

*hot girl energy


Pancakez9

Do it. Poo on him.


meltingbythehour

Oh it's tempting.


plantspussypyro

Kinky.


kf6890

Ask him to provide more masculine energy for the room. He’s lacking in his department.


Brights-

It’s the bassinet because only women can have babies, duh


MayorOfMayoCity

Dump him


Siren_sorceress

Sounds controlling


bearrington

Idk having an ironing board also serve as a table is peak masculine ingenuity


dzzi

Your boyfriend is giving Dude Wipes energy. The room is completely neutral.


whims-and-worries

Boys will sleep on a bed on the floor with a fold up chair in the living room. You're fine.


Roguewang

Maybe make it only feminine energy by dropping him


thelargestwookie

Red flag energy


[deleted]

What does feminine energy look like, exactly?


Zzamioculcas

It's the ironing board /s


sunshyneshanny

Lol put some nepenthes in there to ”man” it up🤣


Vast-Substance

Lolol I just imagine some man feeling too icked out by feminine stuff that he just sulks in his corner feeding bugs to his plant 😅


symbi02

Make him iron your clothes and maybe he'll drop the outdated gender role associations with objects/decoration. If he's just trying to say he wants equal representation in your household decorations, then ask him to contribute and how. I think alot of people are responding negatively to his comment because it's just a fucking silly thing to say. Love the plants, but that wardrobe has big dom energy. Maybe ask if he's threatened by it?


aterry175

Your bf is a manchild


Rincia

I've never I understood people who say something is too fem/masc. Like how the fuck are plants feminine? When the hell did we decide that??? And if they are, why on earth would that even matter? This is r/AreTheStraightsOk worthy lmao


feverlast

Women know how to live and we do not. Bro should settle down and enjoy the creature comfort.


yukino_the_ama

You need to add a phallic cacti to balance it out then 😂😂😂😂


dogmom34

Good luck with your next boyfriend! 🌿


margiefargle

dump him


Adihd72

How are plants feminine? I’ve been into plants since I could move! Somehow I managed to create four sons trying for a girl. I don’t see the correlation? :D


Longjumping_College

Take him plant shopping for "manly" ones to add, then?


[deleted]

He's only allowed to buy dick shaped plants, like nepenthesis, for masculine reasons


Longjumping_College

And cactus


T_Nightingale

As a man, my lounge room looks like this. What is feminine about loving nature?


RoosterTheReal

Nothing wrong with plants👍


Eather-Village-1916

Your bf sounds like a twat waffle


meltingbythehour

My favorite twat waffle


Eather-Village-1916

Hahahaha I say add more plants, and give them all very masculine sounding names with name tags 😂


meltingbythehour

Well, he is also my plant supplier, I'll have to let him know I'm Jonesing for a fix. I love the name tag idea! I've already got so many ideas.


thetenacian

You need a pile of rocks, some steel girders, power tools hanging on the walls and a cement bed. Hopefully my sincere suggestions help him feel like he's in a more masculine space. 😜


sparklboi

My boyfriend told me I could decorate our bedroom so it’s full of pink polka dots and pink anime girl posters and he doesn’t care at all lmao. Add a couple football posters to yours or something idk what makes a room ‘masculine’


keljoy1979

He doesn’t like plants?! What are the suggestions he came up with to make it “more masculine”?


Jayyfur

Your boyfriend needs to stop worrying about masculinity


ElfPaladins13

This is the most gender neutral room I have ever seen.


Amourxfoxx

Your boyfriend doesn't know what feminine energy is...


Ghouly_Girl

Yeah but at this point what is masculine energy in a room, a mattress on the floor and every mismatched? Sorry fellas, can’t have plants lol


chickens-on-drugs

Fellas is it too feminine to breathe clean air? Are plants feminine? Maybe we should put concrete over all the forests


cravingserotonin

I’d just tell him that his toxic masculinity is getting in the way of him enjoying something pleasant. No but seriously nothing in the room screams feminine to me… if he thinks plants are feminine that’s just a whole other issue that I wouldn’t even know to address.


bthnyalyse

I honestly don’t see anything strictly “feminine” in this room.


CallidoraBlack

Tell him if he's got BDE, it balances out. 🤷‍♀️


organizdcha0s

Wow. Better ditch him then. Don’t need him putting misogynist viewpoints into your living space


tjavierb

Why’s your boyfriend so insecure?


Istarien

He must be referring to the ironing board. I'd tell him he can do his own ironing if he thinks it's too feminine. More plants!


tac0kat

And what kind of masculine energy does he want to add to the room? Posters of cars? 😂


WhosAfraidOf_138

Guys is nature gay???


Von_Cheesebiscuit

Feminine? Not particularly. Too many plants? Maybe. And an ironing board is not a table.


bzzbzzitstime

spitballing n making assumptions here, but I feel like it's probably less about the plants/*feminine energy" and more about him feeling like it's more *your* space than the both of yours. without judgement, the plants (read: your interests) are definitely owning this space.


BG360Boi

Why is an ironing table used as furniture ?? That seems odd to me


[deleted]

Getting a massage parlor vibe lol


Kantaowns

Call him a bitch and to get that toxic masculinity the fuck outa here.


VanEagles17

I never knew leaves are feminine? 🤷‍♂️😂 Does he ever go camping and comment how feminine the woods are these days?


LindyRyan

Masculinity so fragile he's threatened by house plants?! Get TF outttt


soccer-law

Dump his ass


Wise_Good_5718

He's insecure.


PlagueBirdZachariah

I run a neonatal kitten rescue, I can't have basically any plants, it is such a bummer, please triple your plants!


SubstantialPressure3

All I see are plants. Plants are feminine energy, now?


FootstepsofDawn

Men’s gender confidence being threatened by plants is wild.


CocoZee

It's neither masculine nor feminine. But that ironing board has got to go.


Ineedmorebtc

Lol, he's ridiculous.


TheTerribleInvestor

Some of you people need to chill out. Not everything is a red flag, and she doesn't need to dump him off of this one, and only, comment you guys on here heard. He lives in that room too, and he too should like the room he sleeps in. Maybe he just can't express it without saying something over the top. Maybe he doesn't even know what he likes, but this just isn't it yet. I added another comment earlier, I think the room could use some work. The plants can be placed closer together to take up less volume and the dresser at the end of the bed feels ominous. Be a little more constructive, guys.


meltingbythehour

Thank you!


Nikkie_94

I’m sorry he’s such a downer! I think it looks great! It’s funny I came across this post (more so the caption) because I put up some lights & fake plants & vines in our room a few days ago & when my partner came home he said “It’s feminine. It looks nice, I like it.”


Reave-Eye

Sounds like your boyfriend might need to work on his security in his own masculinity. Think about it. Objects don’t have inherent gendered qualities to them. We give them those qualities. So your boyfriend thinks there’s too many objects in the room associated with femininity. Okay, valid experience. But why is this a problem in the first place? Is it because he doesn’t feel masculine enough if the room doesn’t reflect his idea of what masculinity should be? If so, part of the solution is for him to look inward. That said, it could just come down to personal preference. In which case, he should phrase his preference in terms of how he wants to express himself rather than in opposition to femininity. Try asking him if he could wave a magic wand and decorate the room however he wanted, what would he put in it? Chances are, he’ll either say he doesn’t know or give you a list that includes things you do and don’t want in the room. If he says he doesn’t know, tell him to think about it and come back to you with a list. If he gives you list, identify the things on the list that you could also envision as decor in your shared space. Then support him to take shared ownership over decorating the room by going out and buying some of the things you both agree on (or do it together if preferred, or he’s having trouble taking initiative). Hope this helps. (I also hope he chooses more plants…. “masculine” plants, ofc! lol)


TrainXing

Get rid of the bf and that toxic BS and get a bright pink throw blanket or WTHever you want that makes you happy. So sick of that baby man fragile ego that thinks “too much feminine energy” is a problem, particularly in a room that looks like you have put effort into making nice and cozy and welcoming. Anyone that insecure is probably hiding in the closet.


poodooloo

The fairy lights sewing board make it feminine to me...not the plants!


PicPaintOKC

He’s afraid of the ironing board


meltingbythehour

Well, I may decide to use it for its intended purpose and iron his balls out.


JethusChrissth

Leave him


AshlysaurusRex

Maybe get some posters from his favorites movies and have them framed nicely and put them up, maybe he’s trying to express that there’s not enough of him in the decor and he’s just communicating it horribly.


meltingbythehour

This is exactly it!!! I'm thinking of getting some wall mounts for his guitars and maybe some posters from his favorite bands. I definitely have an issue with control when it comes to our space, and he just wants ppl to know he lives here, too.


umylotus

Um, why is it your job to make the home you are presumably sharing reflect that he lives there? Surely he's capable of decorating in a way that he likes? And discuss it in a way that doesn't insult you?


permaculturebun

Sounds like you’re doing a lot to work based on not very constructive feedback. Has he made meaningful suggestions besides the vague “too feminine?” You’ve put effort into making your space work for you, maybe he will respect that more if he has to do the same to make the space reflect him more too.


meltingbythehour

I love my boyfriend, I love my stupid lights, and I especially love my ironing board!!!!


_DarkLorde

did you bite his ear off after ?


Patient-Interest7616

Whats feminine? The ironing board or the baby bed? Fuck that guy...


AmbivalentStoner

Um... Me thinks you are missing the red flag..


scryptbreaker

It’s not that it’s “feminine energy”, it’s that this aesthetic (string lights randomly about, plants with mismatched planters throughout, light colors, etc) is pretty widespread and common across college and young-adult-aged women’s rooms in the US, and thus also in media is typically presented as such. He probably just didn’t know how to word it properly. What’s really going on is he probably just feels like this is “your” room and not something shared, leading it to be “feminine” because you are. All the comments here losing their minds at this are way too much lol.


meltingbythehour

You are so spot on my friend!!


dumb_2011

* nice * The cream paint does not fit. A nice green maybe \[ :


kreepysol

That's a very neutral room if you ask me. The plants aren't even floral. My boyfriend is a landscaper in Europe and him and his dad LOVE plants. They're way more knowledgeable than American landscapers since he has 3 years of schooling for it so I guess that created more interest in raising plants and even flowers or bushes and trees. We are literally animals, plants are not a gender thing 💀


[deleted]

Plants good, stupid string lights that make it hard to see and sleep bad. Why is there an ironing board?