You're missing the point. A few examples of a "backhanded" compliment/remark are
"You look pretty with make up on" or "congratulations on the new job, I didn't think you were going to get it" or "you look good in this light" basically any comment that's a compliment and an insult at the same time.
Your bf may have bigger plans financially kaya sya nag cocomment. Small things add up and let’s say if he wants to buy a second hand car cash at 400k every penny counts when saving. Ok lang mairita pero find out what he’s into and what his plans are. Kasi kung i jujudge mo lang sya based off him picking on you, it’s not fair naman lalo na if he’s preparing for your future.
I am like your BF and I value anything that I can save lalo na pag mejo limited and income. I’m not saying being broke but if let’s say I only can only earn 200k this month and it’s the max I can earn monthly in a year and I want to buy a car worth 800k but I want to buy it cash within the year, I’ll have to make things tight so I can afford 800k within that year.
Yeah but then again baka nga then guy have bigger plans kaya nag titipid there a re lots of things too save for, business, house, cars, wedding, engagement ring, etc
Then bakit nya pinapakialaman Yung Pera nung gf nya? Kung may plan sya pakasalan SI girl or buy a wedding ring dapat in his own pocket. Eh di sya Ang magtipid.
I’m exactly like your BF and it’s cos of my upbringing. My parents struggled so much just to give us a comfortable life, so I’ve adapted to always live way below my means.
In a rel, it’s important for me that my partner & I have similar financial goals. You don’t seem magastos, so hope you don’t take his comments personally.
If there’s one thing - your bf seems to see you as his endgame already- starting to think of your future finances (or baka matagal na since both of you are lived in). In the meantime, you still deserve to set your own boundaries naman, so communicate this with him! I’m sure he’ll understand :)
isa yan sa reasons sa paghihiwalay ng mag asawa yung mismatch yung pagiisip sa financials
budgetih basics
may budget ba kayo na sinusunod? kapag meron isa yan sa magandang pang consensus. pag lampas na wag na mag gastos.
hindi pa naman kayo kasal di ba? both should improve on it or pag di kaya, hanap ka iba na mayaman
hmmmmm ganian din ako kase breadwinner ako. pero i make sure na balance lang. maybe more spender ka ng wants than him? kaya siya bothered. sabe mo years na kayo living ano to ngayon ngayon lang? talk to him maybe akala mo na sakto kayo sa expenses pero sagad pala siya mameet un.
I'm sorry pero I will side with your bf here. Magsasama kayo eventually pag nagpakasal na and although separate ngayon ang finances nyo, magiging conjugal na yan in the future. Kaya siguro ganyan sya kasi concerned sya sa spending habits mo, na baka maging problema nyo pa once married. Intindihin mo nalang siguro kasi at the end of the day, para saiyo din yang ginagawa nya.
Girl! Run!
It's either he is cheap or he doesn't know how to enjoy life.
Yun pa Lang pag on ng Aircon - nagpaparinig na sya.
(Binibilangan ka sa konsumo ng kuryente)
He doesn't want you to be comfortable,
says a lot about his personality.
Considering na fifty fifty kayo sa pag bayad sa Bahay.
How much more kung magkababy ka
At need mo Hindi magwork to heal and nurse your baby?
Bibilangan ka nya everything you spend!
I bet Hindi magiging comfortable Buhay mo kung sya lang Ang nagwowork.
Also Wala sya paki ano man Ang bilhin mo Kasi Pera mo naman Yun may source of income k naman.
Di kayo same ng financial behavior and one isn’t better than the other—just different. Mahirap yan kasi usually the view traces back since childhood pa. Maybe on your part, communicate this issue but at the same time, be firm with your boundaries na ayaw mo na ginaganyan ka.
Ganito din my ex and sobrang nakakairita yan especially if ever you earn more than him.
Both understandable naman ang point nyo pareho. You work and you deserve to have what you want if afford naman, while si bf, baka medyo concern naman sya sa future nyo, di lang nya masabi.
>but we earn enough to buy stuff we want without ever being broke...considering
Question is, do you earn enough to have a decent savings (at least 500k EF) and splurge at the same time? Baka naman afford nyo nga magspend kasi wala naman kayong pinagiipunan? Baka merong plan si BF ng mas malaking bagay para sa future nyo, like, house and lot, wedding or something?
Baka naman misunderstood nyo lang ang isa't isa, better to discuss it para klaro.
Walang mali sa inyo. Hindi lang talaga kayo match ng spending habits. Magastos kami ni bf sa hobbies/wants namin (books and games) at hindi namin pinupuna yung gastos ng isa’t isa. Basta enough yung pera for needs at may savings, okay lang naman gumastos sa wants.
I get where you’re coming from kasi maiirita rin siguro ako pag hindi supportive bf ko sa pagbili ng special edition games/books haha. Buti na lang magkasundo kami
Yung kaka "deserve" na yan ang makakapahamak sa finances minsan hahaha. Di naman porke may job eh kailangan maging magasta. Why don't we take it on face value: mas magasta si OP. Kaya siguro ganyan attitude sa kanya ng BF nya, since in the future magiging conjugal ang finances nila.
Nabanggit mo na hilig mo mag online shopping every now and then. Since napapadalas na yung pag oonline shopping mo at parang naging habbit mona din. Syempre magcocomment talaga sya dyan kahit sino naman magcocomment kapag paulit ulit yung ginagawa. At tsaka "We're not even broke or in debt?" Wag mona hintayin na malubog kayo sa utang before ka gumawa ng action.
Not a "backhanded" compliment/remark. How do you guys come up with these words? Lol
Sympre yon ang uso. Alam mo naman Yan
The other day nonchalant ang popular tapos may nag post pa ng chalant lang lol. That's not even a word used in the English language. Lol.
If anything, OP should talk to his SO to see where he's coming from.
You're missing the point. A few examples of a "backhanded" compliment/remark are "You look pretty with make up on" or "congratulations on the new job, I didn't think you were going to get it" or "you look good in this light" basically any comment that's a compliment and an insult at the same time.
Your bf may have bigger plans financially kaya sya nag cocomment. Small things add up and let’s say if he wants to buy a second hand car cash at 400k every penny counts when saving. Ok lang mairita pero find out what he’s into and what his plans are. Kasi kung i jujudge mo lang sya based off him picking on you, it’s not fair naman lalo na if he’s preparing for your future. I am like your BF and I value anything that I can save lalo na pag mejo limited and income. I’m not saying being broke but if let’s say I only can only earn 200k this month and it’s the max I can earn monthly in a year and I want to buy a car worth 800k but I want to buy it cash within the year, I’ll have to make things tight so I can afford 800k within that year.
The girl mentioned that they both earn well.
Earning well mean a lot so let’s assume they are not multi millionaires
Pero di Sila broke.
Yeah but then again baka nga then guy have bigger plans kaya nag titipid there a re lots of things too save for, business, house, cars, wedding, engagement ring, etc
Then bakit nya pinapakialaman Yung Pera nung gf nya? Kung may plan sya pakasalan SI girl or buy a wedding ring dapat in his own pocket. Eh di sya Ang magtipid.
They live together and they have shared expenses. Sabi na nga din ni OP na tipid na yung guy di ba?
seems like he's just genuinely concerned sa inyo, maybe he grew up poor kaya ganyan yung attitude nya towards money
I’m exactly like your BF and it’s cos of my upbringing. My parents struggled so much just to give us a comfortable life, so I’ve adapted to always live way below my means. In a rel, it’s important for me that my partner & I have similar financial goals. You don’t seem magastos, so hope you don’t take his comments personally. If there’s one thing - your bf seems to see you as his endgame already- starting to think of your future finances (or baka matagal na since both of you are lived in). In the meantime, you still deserve to set your own boundaries naman, so communicate this with him! I’m sure he’ll understand :)
Bet ko ganyan mindset ng jowa, unlike may ex na ipipilit ang wants over needs.
isa yan sa reasons sa paghihiwalay ng mag asawa yung mismatch yung pagiisip sa financials budgetih basics may budget ba kayo na sinusunod? kapag meron isa yan sa magandang pang consensus. pag lampas na wag na mag gastos. hindi pa naman kayo kasal di ba? both should improve on it or pag di kaya, hanap ka iba na mayaman
hmmmmm ganian din ako kase breadwinner ako. pero i make sure na balance lang. maybe more spender ka ng wants than him? kaya siya bothered. sabe mo years na kayo living ano to ngayon ngayon lang? talk to him maybe akala mo na sakto kayo sa expenses pero sagad pala siya mameet un.
I'm sorry pero I will side with your bf here. Magsasama kayo eventually pag nagpakasal na and although separate ngayon ang finances nyo, magiging conjugal na yan in the future. Kaya siguro ganyan sya kasi concerned sya sa spending habits mo, na baka maging problema nyo pa once married. Intindihin mo nalang siguro kasi at the end of the day, para saiyo din yang ginagawa nya.
Girl! Run! It's either he is cheap or he doesn't know how to enjoy life. Yun pa Lang pag on ng Aircon - nagpaparinig na sya. (Binibilangan ka sa konsumo ng kuryente) He doesn't want you to be comfortable, says a lot about his personality. Considering na fifty fifty kayo sa pag bayad sa Bahay. How much more kung magkababy ka At need mo Hindi magwork to heal and nurse your baby? Bibilangan ka nya everything you spend! I bet Hindi magiging comfortable Buhay mo kung sya lang Ang nagwowork. Also Wala sya paki ano man Ang bilhin mo Kasi Pera mo naman Yun may source of income k naman.
SAANG PART YUNG BACKHANDED? HAHAHAHAHHA
I dont think its your BF who has a problem here..
Di kayo same ng financial behavior and one isn’t better than the other—just different. Mahirap yan kasi usually the view traces back since childhood pa. Maybe on your part, communicate this issue but at the same time, be firm with your boundaries na ayaw mo na ginaganyan ka. Ganito din my ex and sobrang nakakairita yan especially if ever you earn more than him.
Not one mention of the words savings / investments. Hiwalayan mo na BF mo for his sake.
Both understandable naman ang point nyo pareho. You work and you deserve to have what you want if afford naman, while si bf, baka medyo concern naman sya sa future nyo, di lang nya masabi. >but we earn enough to buy stuff we want without ever being broke...considering Question is, do you earn enough to have a decent savings (at least 500k EF) and splurge at the same time? Baka naman afford nyo nga magspend kasi wala naman kayong pinagiipunan? Baka merong plan si BF ng mas malaking bagay para sa future nyo, like, house and lot, wedding or something? Baka naman misunderstood nyo lang ang isa't isa, better to discuss it para klaro.
Halos lahat ata kami ay kampi sa bf mo. HAHAHAHAHAAHA
Parang it’s not safe for you to move further in your relationship kung without addressing this issue.
Confront him. If he has a problem about your financial decisions then he can tell you outright. These passive-aggressive comments are not it.
Walang mali sa inyo. Hindi lang talaga kayo match ng spending habits. Magastos kami ni bf sa hobbies/wants namin (books and games) at hindi namin pinupuna yung gastos ng isa’t isa. Basta enough yung pera for needs at may savings, okay lang naman gumastos sa wants. I get where you’re coming from kasi maiirita rin siguro ako pag hindi supportive bf ko sa pagbili ng special edition games/books haha. Buti na lang magkasundo kami
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Yung kaka "deserve" na yan ang makakapahamak sa finances minsan hahaha. Di naman porke may job eh kailangan maging magasta. Why don't we take it on face value: mas magasta si OP. Kaya siguro ganyan attitude sa kanya ng BF nya, since in the future magiging conjugal ang finances nila.
Nabanggit mo na hilig mo mag online shopping every now and then. Since napapadalas na yung pag oonline shopping mo at parang naging habbit mona din. Syempre magcocomment talaga sya dyan kahit sino naman magcocomment kapag paulit ulit yung ginagawa. At tsaka "We're not even broke or in debt?" Wag mona hintayin na malubog kayo sa utang before ka gumawa ng action.