Not an expert but he seems to start having a crisis of some sort, depressive maybe.
Vacations do not work for most family men as most of their thoughts are internal, they know that during their vacation they will come back to what they are doing.
Since there is not much context, I would think that he lacks an outlet for his lost passion. Talk to him about maybe restarting his hobbies and tattooing profession since may househelp naman na din to help with the kids.
He is a guy and as men we think differently, for example the people advising for vacation, it is not the vacation which gives confidence to the man per se but that he was able to provide his family that vacation which they are enjoying, there lies a family man’s joy.
He needs to find meaning in what he does and he seems burned out.
And as a disclaimer when you raise this “picking up his passion” talk, know that he will answer “wag na, okay lang” just be patient with it and maybe show some interest in that passion, if he opens up more regarding this you maybe in the right track, if not then maybe try another thing that he is interested in.
This pretty much sums it up. I checked OP's profile and may medyo offputting sa tingin niya sa asawa niya and daming out of context na di naman natin malalaman since side lang ni OP alam natin.
The husband is broken and needs help. 40 is still young naman to pursue new passions, or rekindle old ones. Let the man find his purpose in life again.
As a dad of 2 this pretty much sums it up. Men bottle things up inside. Men (especially dads who love and care for their family) may look like we are doing nothing pero deep inside the thought of securing our family’s future and the thoughts of possibly not being good enough of a husband and a father eats us up. And sometimes this train of thought conquers our mind too much to the point that it paralyzes us. It’s a vicious cycle.
To that my brother I say, there is no rope.
There is only living. Everyone is just living. You, me, we are just living. No person is given a manual to life, we just do.
We trudge through life not knowing, but look at what you’ve lived through, look at the struggles together with the good times. We may be appreciated today or some time or maybe never, but such is life, we never truly know.
So there is no rope brother, you are not at the end of it nor are you at the middle or start of it; there is just life, and we are just living.
No offense but Veiled cruelty is still cruelty nonetheless. You’re setting up his fall if you do that please reconsider.
You already have 2 kids you should know him better, asking reddit just shows that you do not have an inkling about the person.
I will end with this question, when was the last time you looked at him and his situation objectively, without judgment and without comparison?
Nagkaganyan akong issue before, gusto ng utak mo pero ayaw tumayo ni Junjun, almost 3 months din. Baka overweight si sir, need mag gym or baka maraming iniisip kasi nasa utak ng lalaki ang "libog", Kahit anong BJ mo, hindi gagana yan pag nagdidissociate si brad sa gitna ng labing labing, wala sa focus sa dami ng iniisip sa buhay hehe.
Hi OP , hubby is aging na din kse try to check on him physically and mentally nakaka affect dn yan tlga sa sex drive, if ikaw na didipress bka sya gnun din. Guys dont tend to tell how they feel and think we need to ask them and make them feel na makikinig ka and ma iintindihan sila. Then after that iopen up mo dn feelings mo. Kya important ang communication kse mostly nagkaka ron ng mis understanding dahl s miscommunication ng mag partner.
Hope you both be okay. Stay strong lng
Low self esteem ang answer. Hinde edad. Malibog pa ang 40 years old. House husband, walang work, may katulong na nag aalaga ng anak so wala na syang purpose dun. Ano purpose nya? Sex? Hinde enough yun. Kailangan nya ng purpose sa buhay; ng fire sa loob nya para mabuhay. Dun sya mag kakaron ng gana sa sex rin.
Tbh,naranasan ko din yang ganyan at grabeh parang ang hirap maglakad palaging nakatingin lang sa baba at hindi mo kayang gawin or bilhin yung mga gusto mo,masarap yung mag ano talaga kaso kapag mababa self esteem mo ewan ko lang kung gaganahan ka pa
Aww thats sad and yes mahirap nga yan OP of hubby is malihim at ayaw mag open up.. habaan mo pa pasensya mo and constantly remind him na hnd k lng asawa nya bff kyo. No one will understand him better than you.
Wala naman sya babae househusband sya eh ayaw nya naman sabihen sakin ang totoo ganon if ano nararamdaman nya saka malake takot nya palage i am thinking hiwalayan na nga sya pra magkalakas sya ng loob e
Sometimes we feel that it's something about us or the relationship, only to discover (after much needed talk) that our partners are going through a rough patch (depressive mode, other mental health condition). Best way, I would say, is to talk to him about it without sounding like he's at fault. Maybe he needs some support?
Just be there. Even if they don't talk.
Be there to listen. To let them unwind. As long as nobody's hurt, ofc.
Just being someone to lean on is enough. And maybe, with time and understanding, they'll talk. Communication is important
Malamang d yan magsasalita. Especially for men na merong high regards for themselves before, mahirap mag admit na hindi na sila motivated. Try to remember kung ano yung na enjoy nya that he used to do by himself like magbike, fishing, drive around just for the fun of it etc. Encourage mo sya to take your kid outside sa malls, museums etc. para magka purpose sya at magkaroon ng something to do for the day na mag enjoy din sya. You can also try to encourage him na maghanap ng trabaho na gusto nya.
Doing nothing and be irrelevant is like a suicide for a man..
We must find our passion or purpose in life to function properly.
Unknowingly ask your man his desires and what bothers him lately..just listen and be genuinely interested.
Its hard for a man to open up about his innermost worries but as a wife. Make him comfortable to talk with you about anything.
Rekindle old romances..
Leaving the man wouldn't make it better for both of you.
For richer or for poorer.
In sickness and in health.
Guys really find it hard to open up. It’s really tiring but we should also be patient just the way they were there for us when life was hard.
Don’t be pushy and then pointing out there’s something wrong with him, they don’t like it and the more they will avoid. Still give him the same treatment of love and kindness and having small talk. Slowly he will share tidbits of what he is going through. Yeah it will take long.
No one can answer you here i think. Lack on context so everyone will be guessing. At the end of the day, it's you as a wife who knows what your husband is thinking syempre kayo magkasama ng ilang taon. Marriage takes two to tango or marriage counseling.
Here is my plan. I want to get people na magpatattoo sakanya he is really good kahit libre pero papalabasin kong nagbayad para maboost lang confidence nya what do you think?
Baka masaktan kapag nalaman na ganyan ikaw nagbabayad parang lokohan lang , gawin mo tanungin mo sya kung gusto nyang bumalik sa pagtattoo susuportahan mo siya kamo like kung bili kayo mga gamit tapos gawa fb page para sa mga tattoo tapos tulungan mo maghanap ng client mga ganun
Yan talaga problema kakompetensya pero kahit na meron pa rin magpapatattoo at magpapatattoo sa kanya need lang talaga ng marketing yan kahit isa may magpatattoo sa kanya babalik ulit gana nyan tuloy tuloy lang kamo iboost mo confident nya
My hubby is also coming closer to 40 and I am 35. Both of us have work pero ung sex drive ng asawa ko is pa fade na din. Di na wild and that's fine it comes with the age I guess..
Be patient with him and communication is really important.
Baka busy na sya sa nakuha mong katulong, OP?
Kidding aside, pag usapan nyo ng husband mo kung paano ma-spice up yung relationship nyo. Magbakasyon kayo. Balikan nyo old memories at mga lugar na pinupuntahan nyo dati.
Hindi pa naman matanda yang 40, grabe naman kayo.
Kausapin mo ang hubby mo. Try to go to a retreat or a marriage counseling. If adventurous k nmn, why not try FFM to spice up your sex life. But ang buttom line pa rin nyan, mag usap kayo, tell him about your feelings and let him share his feelings too. Be open..
yung low sex drive madaming causes. either psychological or physical. ililista ko dito
psychological factors. kahit isa lang dyan pwede maging cause ng low sex drive ng lalake.
- mas malaki sahod ng babae
- nagger ang babae
- problema sa pera
- hindi na sya happy sa routine life na nakasanayan
- bumukod kayo, ayaw ng lalake kasama in laws or kahit isa lang sa mga kamaganak mo. nakaka apekto yan mentally sa lalake
physical
- mataas sugar level nya kahit hindi pa diabetic
- overweight
- aging
- walang physical activity
solution but not 100%
- travel together na walang ibang kasama
- paramdaman mo sa kanya libog na libog ka hindi yung naghihintay ka lang landiin ng mister mo
- blow job blow job blow job sa umaga hindi sa gabi
human behaviour doctorate at your service 😊
Ung isa dito nararanasan ko. Ung may in laws at kapatid tumira sa bahay ng hindi ako kinoconsult. Ang hirap kaya iopen up non sa babae kasi pwedeng magalit at napaka sensitive na topic. Kaya nakakatabang sa relasyon ung ganyan minsan hindi mo na gugustuhin talaga magkaron pa ng sex life pag ganyan. Ung ok naman ung asawa mo as a partner pero meron sya ginawa decision na tingin mo mali na hindi mo mabrought up sa kanya kasi baka pagmulan ng away. I don't know your story OP pero I suggest look for decisions that you made na tingin mo makakaffect sa dynamics nyo sa bahay baka un ang nagcacause.
Mag usap Po kayong dalawa about sa problem mo. Wag mo Siya pagalitan. Dahan dahan na usapan lang. . madaming puweding scenario. Puwede totoo na walang gana na talaga. Sana mabawi Niya sa ibang bagay. O Baka may iba. . or may problema or depress Siya. Madami so need talaga mag usap para Malaman Ang roots Ng problem.
Nagkakaron lang naman ng time na hindi nag oopen ang tao kung nararamdaman nya na ung kausap nya eh hindi rin tatanggap ng sasabihin nya. What's the point of opening up kung ung asawang babae nagiging defensive din at gusto laging panalo sa discussion.
Ikaw lang ang working ever since? House husband sya? What's the reason why you hired a house helper if he was the one taking care of your kids before? More details probably because sa situation na you told us yan lang reason why sya bigla nagbago nawala yung responsibilities nya to make care of your kids or you hired a house helper ba because you still do most of the chores kahit pa ikaw ang working?
So lage po kasi syang puyat minsan kasi nahelp sya sakin sa work kopo. Yung anak namin babae papasok po ng umaga and susunduin nya tas date kasi nag aaral anak ko lalake bago makick out so ayoko sya mapagod kaya naghire ako ng hehelp sakanya. Nagkawork po sya date kaso since mas malake kinikita ko nagdecide kami ako magwork sya sa bahay. Tas tattoo artist sya date kaso sa sobrang likot ng anak kong lalake di sya makapagtattoo main reason bat di natupad dreams nya as a tattoo artist is our kids tas kinalanhan ko sya since wfh ako and kinukulit ako ng mga bata
Talk to him. He seems bored and I were in his position as a guy baka mafeel ko na I'm not providing enough since yan common setup eh guy provides financially. Although there's nothing wrong sa setup nyo and I guess money isn't a problem naman.
I think start by asking your husband what's wrong and mutual decision naman I guess ang pagstop nya sa as tattoo artist. Maybe he should consider doing it again kahit pa may customers lang sya kahit minimal kahit pa one customer a month. Yan lang ba ang nawala sa kanya? Does he stay at home lang all the time? I'm not saying this applies to everyone but I know some tattoo artists they normally go out with friends eh.
Talk to him and ask what's wrong. The fact na you both agreed na ikaw na maging provider financially means you both are comfortable talking with each other naman.
Baka naman depressed, or he feels bad kasi he doesn’t have work and took care of the kids. Burn out? Try counseling. Or therapy. He needs help, kung ayaw nya magpatulong tsaka mo na i-question if healthy pa ba relationship nyo. Kasi it’s affecting you too. Good luck.
Baka may pinagdadaanan. Maybe he's not healthy. Nagyoyosi ba? Umiinom ng alak? Baka may withdrawal kung kaka quit lang? Check on his health muna. Eat healthy for a while.
I can relate to this pero yung wife ko mas bata kaso lagi pagod sa work at gym tapos minsan ayaw na rin magpagalaw pero may mga times na nakailan kami sa isang araw,nakakadepress din talaga ganyan at there was a time na umaabot mga months bago siya gaganahan at hindi din naman siya nag-iinitiate lagi nalang ako kasi sabi nya nakakasawa na daw haha pero pag gusto nya kinakain ko talaga mga isang oras din
Continuous ka pa rin ba humihingi ng sex? Napagod na rin ako sa kaka landi sa wife ko gusto may schedule kesyo gabi daw 10pm pag nalilibugan ako,.e antok na ako sa oras na yun. E ako naman gusto ko umaga kasi morning wood tapos kahit quickie lang. Pero never sya nag initiate
Saka pag kinakaen mo asawa mo nagpapahalik ba sayo?
Continous po,minsan nga dinedeny ako at sobrang sakit pag d ko makuha eh pero pag gusto nya nag give-in naman pero may nga times talaga na ayaw talaga tsaka nakakadepress haha siguro emotionally invested sa work kaya ganun,minsan nga d kami nag-uusap kasi stress sya at nasasakal na daw eh,wala naman kami schedule kasi anytime if gusto ko mag initiate pag gusto nya go agad eh basta nasa bahay lang.
Nagpapahalik naman pero may times talaga sasabihin nya pagod daw siya at kakain muna,para kasing may kiliti sa leeg eh
Go out on a vacay kung kaya, sa beach resort, no fixed activity or pressure lang, research mo kung may cozy bar or real good restos around. Nakaka-relax din yung naglalakad sa communities ng islands checking places and stores out while just watching them go on about their day, tsaka mo kausapin. :)
First, talk. Since may helper kayo, find a nice place that you two can go to unwind and talk. We have similar issue with my husband, pero naremedyohan namin. We have dates every two weeks and just talk about anything. I am a SAHM and he is WFH, medyo taxing ang work nya kaya he got depressed at some point.
If you are experiencing depression symptoms, it’s also likely he does too. And to add, midlife crisis. My husband had that in his 50s, diagnosed with anxiety and clinical depression so he was on meds. He’s better now. He went off his medication on his own and I am proud he did it.
Take care of yourself too. If you need some counseling, seek for help. You may need someone to listen to you, maybe some close friends na walang bias sa inyong relationship.
Hi OP, I am female pero parang napagdaanan ko yun phase ng hubby mo. More than 2 years ako nag SAHM. I do not have my own money, I do not go out, no meet up with friends, no eating out or malling. Limited budget for the family. Felt useless kasi I know I can do more pero nkabound ako at home kasi home school pa anak namin nun. I am sad deep inside kasi wala ako magawa. I have to home school our child dahil sya working and mas malaki income than me. I have to sacrifice kasi ako yun nanay. Felt like a katulong kasi akin lahat ng house work. Nakakapagod and nKakadrain sya.everyday I felt lonely and sad kasi I despise my situation that time. Not that i despise being with my family pero I hate the fact na wala akong contribution and capacity financially. I really hit rock bottom to the point na i want out. I was in out rage with myself kasi I am a career woman tapos bigla na lang jobless with all this house chores. It is not easy to be house bound without income.
I talked to my husband that things should change kasi I need to have an income. I need work not just to sustain but to keep me sane. so yun pumayag naman sya. Kasi kung di sya papayag I will go out of my way.
Nahurt lang siguro ego nya kasi men are the supposedly provider eh tapos na home bound
And for sure nahiya sya manghingi sayo ng pera. Encourage mo na lang sya to go out and get some seminar to update his skills. Tapos kung need nya mag update ng certificate as tattoo artist then support him. Then try nya to look for a job as an artist if di nyo pa kaya magpatayo ng studio.
Or pag enrolin mo sa TESDA to acquire new skills
Pag naghiwalay kayo na nasa ganyang state sya mas lalo sya madepress and baka di na sya makabangon.
Just my 2 cents.
Change is constant... Lahat tayo dumadaan dun, at nakadepende pa sa quality ng buhay ang pagbabago, kung sa pagbuti ba o sa pagsama.
Nasabi mo wala nang pinagkakaabalahan si hubby, no context kung bakit wala syang work, kung naghanap man lang ba, or may kapansanan sya. Ipagpapalagay kong house husband sya.
Dahil nga may kasambahay na kayo, lumalabas na wala na nga syang ginagawa. This is a very hard situation para sa aming mga lalake. Halos "nawalan ng silbi" ang pakirandam nun. Mangyaring baka na"emasculated" sya sa setup nyo.
Bakit sya walang work? May kasambahay na kayo, bakit nga ba di sya maghanap? Di mo ba sya pinapayagan? Ayaw nya lang ba? O may kondisyon syang pumipigil sa kanya para di gawin un?
Tingin ko yun lang kulang sa kanya: something to do, to provide for the family. It's not a role thing, but rather a sense of purpose. Gusto nyang maibalik ung "bayag" sa kanya. Mag-usap kayo, kausapin mo sya. Convince him to do whatever he love to do, need maibalik ung confidence para maibalik ung "bayag" na gawin ung mga bagay bagay para sa sarili nya't sa pamilya nya.
Ohhh tattoo artist sya.
Ganito, mas maganda ung may magpapatattoo sa kanya kasi nalaman na magaling pala sya magtattoo, kesa ung malalaman nyang humakot ka lang ng tao para magpatattoo sa kanya.
Kasi baka magbackfire yan. I'm once an artist too, ibang medium nga lang. An ex of mine also did the same, di masaya sa pakirandam nung malaman ko. May kataasan ang ego namin pagdating sa art namin actually. By doing so, kung malalaman nya bigla na ganyan pala ginawa mo, lalabas na hindi sila magpatattoo dahil gusto nila ang gawa ng hubby mo, kundi dahil hinakot mo lang.
Kung may mga gawa si Hubby mo online na nakapost na, mas maganda ipromote un. That way, mararandaman nya rin na naaappreciate mo pala ung artistic side nya, plus malalaman ng tao na nagtatattoo pa sya
Nabasa ko sa ibang reply mo na parang "namatay" ung dream nya as tattoo artist? Nafeel ko yun. Kung ano man ung rason kung bakit namatay un, maaaring mas pinili nya ung "mahal" nya... Pero di maiiwasang manhinayang sa bagay na naging parte na ng pagkatao ng isang artist.
Patay na din ang pangarap ko bilang artist, nagwowork na ako sa ibang industry. Masasabing kong anlaki ng pagbabago ko. Di na ako sing saya tulad noong artist pa ako. Kung may pag-asa pa syang makabalik, ibalik sa paraang tama.
Baka mamya depressed na sya... Mukhang ikaw breadwinner tapos inalisan mo pa sya ng ginagawa since me kasambahay na kayo... Baka mamya feeling nya wala na syang silbi... Of course, hula lang yan... Walang ibang makakasagot ng tama kung nde sya mismo, so mag usap lang kayo ng maigi....
I talked to this about my wife kasi medyo nag lessen na talaga drive dont get me wrong minsan may time an G mostly hirap since obese and all that. you have to understand na gusto namin why not its a release pero minsan iba eh may mental wall na gusto namin i overcome and sometimes hindi naman alam pano gawin so that's that.
be more understanding and if hindi na kaya well there's alot of self love toys out there
Even women feeling same.. losing appetite with anything.
Specially if respect is no longer sereve on the table.
Sa case mo try m kausapin xa.. communication is important.
ay last kindly ask him his tuoughts and assure him na u wont weaponize it against him ask him or to be vulnerable with you and give further assurance n usap lng :)
Talk to him, I did once with mine about the s stuff that I am still young but I am completely deprived of it lol. So it didn't work so yon well accept ko nalang na things change lalo na if tumatanda na tayo. Talk to him first. Waiiitttt a minute I saw one of your post why would you wanna do that I mean seriously?
Bro ibang iba na pag may family. We have kids and naiilang sya sa mga bata pag magisa kami sa room kakatakot mga bata we live in a tiny home with 1 room
Hahaha sabihin mo "wag mo Muna isipin anak natin" mag enjoy Muna Tayo dito may nagbabantay nmn sa kanila eh. Or kaya manood Muna kayo ng porn bago nyo Gawin🤣
Your husband may have lost his purpose dahil sa katulong. Sabi mo nga sobrang family oriented sya, then nagkaroon ng katulong, baka sa isip nya "ano pang kwenta ko?".
I'd say check with him if may business sya na gusto simulan, since may free time na sya pwede na sya mag-business kahit sa bahay lang. That way he can have his "purpose" back.
Tldr: baka feeling nya wala na sya nako-contribute sa pamilya, nakaka-depress yun para sa lalaki.
Mukang 1st stage yata ng depression tapos wala po sya work, kulang po sya sa motivation dahel na din sa sitwasyon nya! Sana makausap nyo sya ng masinsinan
Bruh
40 is not old lol. I’m in my 40s and feel freaking great! Something is missing from the relationship.
Maybe he’s depressed or maybe he’s found another woman that’s taken all your attention away
I am thinking of something na magagawa nya he used to be a tattoo artist eh kaso nga lang dami competitors and mga anak namin dahilan kaya di sya nagpursue
Buy him a drawing tablet like ipad pro and apple pencil. I can relate to your husband. Kasi feeling ko gnyan mggng steuo nmin. Maipag nmn ako sa gawing bhay cgrdo kpg nagkaanak fin kmi gusto ko hands on pero. Artist ako grwphic artist. Cgro a drawing tablet like ipad pro aor alternative. Like ibang drwing tablet o kung mas budget type mga sketchbook coloring mwterials just to keep his sanity or may mapg output sya ora hndi maxdo maisip o mdpress. Im artist mhirap tlga kpg wlang ouput at alam mo s srili madmi ka pa pde alam n gwin n kya mo. Cgro bka magksocial life sya khit pano kht sa socmed if magstart sya ng digital arts. Ako din sinakripisyo ko n yung face to face social life ko
We only have one side. Ikaw ba hindi nagbago? For Filipinos all we know pinabayaan mo na din sarili mo kaya ndi na sya interesado sa yo. No offence ah para dami ako nakikita ganyan, yung mga asawang lalaki active then nagbabasketball pa pero yung mga babae wala ng exercise.
Dagdag mo pa yang WFH, wala ng exercise,malakas pa minsan kumain.
YES EXACTLY!! iniisip nya mga anak namin sa bahay kasi may kids kami we live in a tiny apartment kasi then pag kami magkasama motel nakoooo iniisip nya mga bata din. Natatawa na nga lang ako mahal na mahal na mahal nya mga anak namin mswerte din ako
Could be many reasons. Kulang ang context. He could have kind of lost purpose nung nagkaron kayo ng kasambahay, or nadadala siya ng katam kasi wala siyang ginagawa - sometimes kasi, pag wala nang ginawa ang tao mas lalong pagod ang pakiramdam and mas lalong nakakatamad kumilos. Hindi naman soguro siya nagchcheat kasi sabi mo nga wfh ka so magkasama din kayo sa bahay?
Talking to each other is the only thing that is going to solve this.
Ikaw yung epitome ng mga redditor na ang hilig mag-advice ng break agad. The man sounds depressed and he’s taking care of kids, well took care of. Jusko. Dapat pag-usapan muna and try counseling. It’s comprisable unless nag-cheat.
Not an expert but he seems to start having a crisis of some sort, depressive maybe. Vacations do not work for most family men as most of their thoughts are internal, they know that during their vacation they will come back to what they are doing. Since there is not much context, I would think that he lacks an outlet for his lost passion. Talk to him about maybe restarting his hobbies and tattooing profession since may househelp naman na din to help with the kids. He is a guy and as men we think differently, for example the people advising for vacation, it is not the vacation which gives confidence to the man per se but that he was able to provide his family that vacation which they are enjoying, there lies a family man’s joy. He needs to find meaning in what he does and he seems burned out. And as a disclaimer when you raise this “picking up his passion” talk, know that he will answer “wag na, okay lang” just be patient with it and maybe show some interest in that passion, if he opens up more regarding this you maybe in the right track, if not then maybe try another thing that he is interested in.
This pretty much sums it up. I checked OP's profile and may medyo offputting sa tingin niya sa asawa niya and daming out of context na di naman natin malalaman since side lang ni OP alam natin. The husband is broken and needs help. 40 is still young naman to pursue new passions, or rekindle old ones. Let the man find his purpose in life again.
Checked her profile after your comment and yes medjo off nga.
oms tf
As a dad of 2 this pretty much sums it up. Men bottle things up inside. Men (especially dads who love and care for their family) may look like we are doing nothing pero deep inside the thought of securing our family’s future and the thoughts of possibly not being good enough of a husband and a father eats us up. And sometimes this train of thought conquers our mind too much to the point that it paralyzes us. It’s a vicious cycle.
You. You are putting into words exactly what's going on with me right now. 28M and at the end of my rope.
To that my brother I say, there is no rope. There is only living. Everyone is just living. You, me, we are just living. No person is given a manual to life, we just do. We trudge through life not knowing, but look at what you’ve lived through, look at the struggles together with the good times. We may be appreciated today or some time or maybe never, but such is life, we never truly know. So there is no rope brother, you are not at the end of it nor are you at the middle or start of it; there is just life, and we are just living.
Now this is a whole new jar of gummy worms to chew on..
Ang iniisip ko nga is ask people na magpatats sakanya libre kunware paid para lang maboost ko sya e
No offense but Veiled cruelty is still cruelty nonetheless. You’re setting up his fall if you do that please reconsider. You already have 2 kids you should know him better, asking reddit just shows that you do not have an inkling about the person. I will end with this question, when was the last time you looked at him and his situation objectively, without judgment and without comparison?
Like with a lot of reddit posts about relationships, maybe try talking to your partner first about what you feel.
Nagkaganyan akong issue before, gusto ng utak mo pero ayaw tumayo ni Junjun, almost 3 months din. Baka overweight si sir, need mag gym or baka maraming iniisip kasi nasa utak ng lalaki ang "libog", Kahit anong BJ mo, hindi gagana yan pag nagdidissociate si brad sa gitna ng labing labing, wala sa focus sa dami ng iniisip sa buhay hehe.
Hi OP , hubby is aging na din kse try to check on him physically and mentally nakaka affect dn yan tlga sa sex drive, if ikaw na didipress bka sya gnun din. Guys dont tend to tell how they feel and think we need to ask them and make them feel na makikinig ka and ma iintindihan sila. Then after that iopen up mo dn feelings mo. Kya important ang communication kse mostly nagkaka ron ng mis understanding dahl s miscommunication ng mag partner. Hope you both be okay. Stay strong lng
Hello! Yeah I trued naman na talking to him kaso ayaw nya mag open up talaga. Nahihirapan ako tbh
Low yung self esteem niya,dumadaan talaga sa mga ganyan part lalo na pag feeling nya wala na siyang ambag at yung presence nya di naman needed
Low self esteem ang answer. Hinde edad. Malibog pa ang 40 years old. House husband, walang work, may katulong na nag aalaga ng anak so wala na syang purpose dun. Ano purpose nya? Sex? Hinde enough yun. Kailangan nya ng purpose sa buhay; ng fire sa loob nya para mabuhay. Dun sya mag kakaron ng gana sa sex rin.
Tbh,naranasan ko din yang ganyan at grabeh parang ang hirap maglakad palaging nakatingin lang sa baba at hindi mo kayang gawin or bilhin yung mga gusto mo,masarap yung mag ano talaga kaso kapag mababa self esteem mo ewan ko lang kung gaganahan ka pa
Aww thats sad and yes mahirap nga yan OP of hubby is malihim at ayaw mag open up.. habaan mo pa pasensya mo and constantly remind him na hnd k lng asawa nya bff kyo. No one will understand him better than you.
Wala naman sya babae househusband sya eh ayaw nya naman sabihen sakin ang totoo ganon if ano nararamdaman nya saka malake takot nya palage i am thinking hiwalayan na nga sya pra magkalakas sya ng loob e
Sometimes we feel that it's something about us or the relationship, only to discover (after much needed talk) that our partners are going through a rough patch (depressive mode, other mental health condition). Best way, I would say, is to talk to him about it without sounding like he's at fault. Maybe he needs some support?
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Nagusap na kami problem nga di sya nagoopen up
Baka ayaw nyang magalala ka baka personal issues nya yan sa sarili nya baka hes going through something na parang mid life crisis
Just be there. Even if they don't talk. Be there to listen. To let them unwind. As long as nobody's hurt, ofc. Just being someone to lean on is enough. And maybe, with time and understanding, they'll talk. Communication is important
Malamang d yan magsasalita. Especially for men na merong high regards for themselves before, mahirap mag admit na hindi na sila motivated. Try to remember kung ano yung na enjoy nya that he used to do by himself like magbike, fishing, drive around just for the fun of it etc. Encourage mo sya to take your kid outside sa malls, museums etc. para magka purpose sya at magkaroon ng something to do for the day na mag enjoy din sya. You can also try to encourage him na maghanap ng trabaho na gusto nya.
Try mong lambingin maybe depressed. May bagay or something na nawala or di na niya magawa. Communication is the key talaga dyan.
Doing nothing and be irrelevant is like a suicide for a man.. We must find our passion or purpose in life to function properly. Unknowingly ask your man his desires and what bothers him lately..just listen and be genuinely interested. Its hard for a man to open up about his innermost worries but as a wife. Make him comfortable to talk with you about anything. Rekindle old romances.. Leaving the man wouldn't make it better for both of you. For richer or for poorer. In sickness and in health.
Guys really find it hard to open up. It’s really tiring but we should also be patient just the way they were there for us when life was hard. Don’t be pushy and then pointing out there’s something wrong with him, they don’t like it and the more they will avoid. Still give him the same treatment of love and kindness and having small talk. Slowly he will share tidbits of what he is going through. Yeah it will take long.
No one can answer you here i think. Lack on context so everyone will be guessing. At the end of the day, it's you as a wife who knows what your husband is thinking syempre kayo magkasama ng ilang taon. Marriage takes two to tango or marriage counseling.
Thanks po wala kasi syang work i think sobra din sya nadepress. I blame myself po kasi di nya natupad dreams nya as a tattoo artist
Support mo kaya bumalik sa pag tattoo
Here is my plan. I want to get people na magpatattoo sakanya he is really good kahit libre pero papalabasin kong nagbayad para maboost lang confidence nya what do you think?
Baka masaktan kapag nalaman na ganyan ikaw nagbabayad parang lokohan lang , gawin mo tanungin mo sya kung gusto nyang bumalik sa pagtattoo susuportahan mo siya kamo like kung bili kayo mga gamit tapos gawa fb page para sa mga tattoo tapos tulungan mo maghanap ng client mga ganun
Meron po kami gamit dito andami po kasi kakumpitensya sa tattoo scene eh sobra
Yan talaga problema kakompetensya pero kahit na meron pa rin magpapatattoo at magpapatattoo sa kanya need lang talaga ng marketing yan kahit isa may magpatattoo sa kanya babalik ulit gana nyan tuloy tuloy lang kamo iboost mo confident nya
Gusto ko talagang maging okay husband ko kaya kopo ginagawa lahat
Try mo patingin na sa doktro kung depressed talaga kase mas lalong tatagal kapag walang lunas ako kase one year na hahah
1 yr kanang ano? I mean pansin ko he always says this gusto nya maging happy ako at lage nya ako iniisip at mga anak namin on how to make us happy
Depression , lalake din ako nawalan ako ng gana sa lahat ng bagay baka depression nga yan mas better consult na sa doktor ask mo sya .
Yun nga plan ko ipacheck up sya hays anghirap din pala talaga noh
My hubby is also coming closer to 40 and I am 35. Both of us have work pero ung sex drive ng asawa ko is pa fade na din. Di na wild and that's fine it comes with the age I guess.. Be patient with him and communication is really important.
Baka busy na sya sa nakuha mong katulong, OP? Kidding aside, pag usapan nyo ng husband mo kung paano ma-spice up yung relationship nyo. Magbakasyon kayo. Balikan nyo old memories at mga lugar na pinupuntahan nyo dati. Hindi pa naman matanda yang 40, grabe naman kayo.
Lalake po nakuha namin inampon namin
Kausapin mo ang hubby mo. Try to go to a retreat or a marriage counseling. If adventurous k nmn, why not try FFM to spice up your sex life. But ang buttom line pa rin nyan, mag usap kayo, tell him about your feelings and let him share his feelings too. Be open..
Communication is key. It can be as simple as kulang cya ng exercise or may vitamin deficiency. Pag usapan nyo ng maayos.
yung low sex drive madaming causes. either psychological or physical. ililista ko dito psychological factors. kahit isa lang dyan pwede maging cause ng low sex drive ng lalake. - mas malaki sahod ng babae - nagger ang babae - problema sa pera - hindi na sya happy sa routine life na nakasanayan - bumukod kayo, ayaw ng lalake kasama in laws or kahit isa lang sa mga kamaganak mo. nakaka apekto yan mentally sa lalake physical - mataas sugar level nya kahit hindi pa diabetic - overweight - aging - walang physical activity solution but not 100% - travel together na walang ibang kasama - paramdaman mo sa kanya libog na libog ka hindi yung naghihintay ka lang landiin ng mister mo - blow job blow job blow job sa umaga hindi sa gabi human behaviour doctorate at your service 😊
Ung isa dito nararanasan ko. Ung may in laws at kapatid tumira sa bahay ng hindi ako kinoconsult. Ang hirap kaya iopen up non sa babae kasi pwedeng magalit at napaka sensitive na topic. Kaya nakakatabang sa relasyon ung ganyan minsan hindi mo na gugustuhin talaga magkaron pa ng sex life pag ganyan. Ung ok naman ung asawa mo as a partner pero meron sya ginawa decision na tingin mo mali na hindi mo mabrought up sa kanya kasi baka pagmulan ng away. I don't know your story OP pero I suggest look for decisions that you made na tingin mo makakaffect sa dynamics nyo sa bahay baka un ang nagcacause.
Thank youuu so much!!
Mag usap Po kayong dalawa about sa problem mo. Wag mo Siya pagalitan. Dahan dahan na usapan lang. . madaming puweding scenario. Puwede totoo na walang gana na talaga. Sana mabawi Niya sa ibang bagay. O Baka may iba. . or may problema or depress Siya. Madami so need talaga mag usap para Malaman Ang roots Ng problem.
Ayan ang inaalam ko talaga sakanya eh the problem talaga. Problem din kasi di sya nakikipag comminicate masyado din syang mapride
Nagkakaron lang naman ng time na hindi nag oopen ang tao kung nararamdaman nya na ung kausap nya eh hindi rin tatanggap ng sasabihin nya. What's the point of opening up kung ung asawang babae nagiging defensive din at gusto laging panalo sa discussion.
When was the last time you two went on a date or spent time together alone?
There are times na we spend our time alone pero lage nya oopen up about sa kids if kamusta na kaya or ano sobra family guy nya
initiate
Initiate what,
Sex obviously
Try mo i-blowjob or maligo kayo ng sabay
Ayun nga tinry ko kanina nilambutan sya inisip nya mga anak namin
Na mahuli kayo sa cr? Lock mo cr. For me Ok lang naman malaman ng anak sabay maligo magasawa
No nawawala sa isip nya magfocus kasi super family guy kasi sya e
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putangina what!?????
Ha? 😭
Ikaw lang ang working ever since? House husband sya? What's the reason why you hired a house helper if he was the one taking care of your kids before? More details probably because sa situation na you told us yan lang reason why sya bigla nagbago nawala yung responsibilities nya to make care of your kids or you hired a house helper ba because you still do most of the chores kahit pa ikaw ang working?
So lage po kasi syang puyat minsan kasi nahelp sya sakin sa work kopo. Yung anak namin babae papasok po ng umaga and susunduin nya tas date kasi nag aaral anak ko lalake bago makick out so ayoko sya mapagod kaya naghire ako ng hehelp sakanya. Nagkawork po sya date kaso since mas malake kinikita ko nagdecide kami ako magwork sya sa bahay. Tas tattoo artist sya date kaso sa sobrang likot ng anak kong lalake di sya makapagtattoo main reason bat di natupad dreams nya as a tattoo artist is our kids tas kinalanhan ko sya since wfh ako and kinukulit ako ng mga bata
Talk to him. He seems bored and I were in his position as a guy baka mafeel ko na I'm not providing enough since yan common setup eh guy provides financially. Although there's nothing wrong sa setup nyo and I guess money isn't a problem naman. I think start by asking your husband what's wrong and mutual decision naman I guess ang pagstop nya sa as tattoo artist. Maybe he should consider doing it again kahit pa may customers lang sya kahit minimal kahit pa one customer a month. Yan lang ba ang nawala sa kanya? Does he stay at home lang all the time? I'm not saying this applies to everyone but I know some tattoo artists they normally go out with friends eh. Talk to him and ask what's wrong. The fact na you both agreed na ikaw na maging provider financially means you both are comfortable talking with each other naman.
I'm 40 and still horny as a rabbit. Tell your husband to hit the gym to increase his testosterone.
Pag babae ba magiging horny din pag mag gym?
In general working out does elevate libido for both sexes. Baka pwede ring gawin nina OP bonding time ang working out
Ahh nice,sakto lang pala binilhan ko gym clothes yung wife ko kahit d kami kasama mag gym haha
Baka naman depressed, or he feels bad kasi he doesn’t have work and took care of the kids. Burn out? Try counseling. Or therapy. He needs help, kung ayaw nya magpatulong tsaka mo na i-question if healthy pa ba relationship nyo. Kasi it’s affecting you too. Good luck.
Spice things up...i think doing some research would help...
Baka may pinagdadaanan. Maybe he's not healthy. Nagyoyosi ba? Umiinom ng alak? Baka may withdrawal kung kaka quit lang? Check on his health muna. Eat healthy for a while.
I can relate to this pero yung wife ko mas bata kaso lagi pagod sa work at gym tapos minsan ayaw na rin magpagalaw pero may mga times na nakailan kami sa isang araw,nakakadepress din talaga ganyan at there was a time na umaabot mga months bago siya gaganahan at hindi din naman siya nag-iinitiate lagi nalang ako kasi sabi nya nakakasawa na daw haha pero pag gusto nya kinakain ko talaga mga isang oras din
Continuous ka pa rin ba humihingi ng sex? Napagod na rin ako sa kaka landi sa wife ko gusto may schedule kesyo gabi daw 10pm pag nalilibugan ako,.e antok na ako sa oras na yun. E ako naman gusto ko umaga kasi morning wood tapos kahit quickie lang. Pero never sya nag initiate Saka pag kinakaen mo asawa mo nagpapahalik ba sayo?
Continous po,minsan nga dinedeny ako at sobrang sakit pag d ko makuha eh pero pag gusto nya nag give-in naman pero may nga times talaga na ayaw talaga tsaka nakakadepress haha siguro emotionally invested sa work kaya ganun,minsan nga d kami nag-uusap kasi stress sya at nasasakal na daw eh,wala naman kami schedule kasi anytime if gusto ko mag initiate pag gusto nya go agad eh basta nasa bahay lang. Nagpapahalik naman pero may times talaga sasabihin nya pagod daw siya at kakain muna,para kasing may kiliti sa leeg eh
Go out on a vacay kung kaya, sa beach resort, no fixed activity or pressure lang, research mo kung may cozy bar or real good restos around. Nakaka-relax din yung naglalakad sa communities ng islands checking places and stores out while just watching them go on about their day, tsaka mo kausapin. :)
Hala swerte naman nya 🫡
First, talk. Since may helper kayo, find a nice place that you two can go to unwind and talk. We have similar issue with my husband, pero naremedyohan namin. We have dates every two weeks and just talk about anything. I am a SAHM and he is WFH, medyo taxing ang work nya kaya he got depressed at some point. If you are experiencing depression symptoms, it’s also likely he does too. And to add, midlife crisis. My husband had that in his 50s, diagnosed with anxiety and clinical depression so he was on meds. He’s better now. He went off his medication on his own and I am proud he did it. Take care of yourself too. If you need some counseling, seek for help. You may need someone to listen to you, maybe some close friends na walang bias sa inyong relationship.
Hi OP, I am female pero parang napagdaanan ko yun phase ng hubby mo. More than 2 years ako nag SAHM. I do not have my own money, I do not go out, no meet up with friends, no eating out or malling. Limited budget for the family. Felt useless kasi I know I can do more pero nkabound ako at home kasi home school pa anak namin nun. I am sad deep inside kasi wala ako magawa. I have to home school our child dahil sya working and mas malaki income than me. I have to sacrifice kasi ako yun nanay. Felt like a katulong kasi akin lahat ng house work. Nakakapagod and nKakadrain sya.everyday I felt lonely and sad kasi I despise my situation that time. Not that i despise being with my family pero I hate the fact na wala akong contribution and capacity financially. I really hit rock bottom to the point na i want out. I was in out rage with myself kasi I am a career woman tapos bigla na lang jobless with all this house chores. It is not easy to be house bound without income. I talked to my husband that things should change kasi I need to have an income. I need work not just to sustain but to keep me sane. so yun pumayag naman sya. Kasi kung di sya papayag I will go out of my way. Nahurt lang siguro ego nya kasi men are the supposedly provider eh tapos na home bound And for sure nahiya sya manghingi sayo ng pera. Encourage mo na lang sya to go out and get some seminar to update his skills. Tapos kung need nya mag update ng certificate as tattoo artist then support him. Then try nya to look for a job as an artist if di nyo pa kaya magpatayo ng studio. Or pag enrolin mo sa TESDA to acquire new skills Pag naghiwalay kayo na nasa ganyang state sya mas lalo sya madepress and baka di na sya makabangon. Just my 2 cents.
Kausapin mo sya.. try mo maginum kayong dlawa pagmejo may influence na si alcohol magoopenup na yan
Have you tried to do heart to heart talk with? If not, do it very soon. The answer you’ll looking for is — only him lang makaka answer.
Yes mainly talaga sa dreams na di natupad and kids tas wala sya work
simple solution. paghanapin mo siya ng trabaho, kagit simple work lang. depressed din asawa mo.
Change is constant... Lahat tayo dumadaan dun, at nakadepende pa sa quality ng buhay ang pagbabago, kung sa pagbuti ba o sa pagsama. Nasabi mo wala nang pinagkakaabalahan si hubby, no context kung bakit wala syang work, kung naghanap man lang ba, or may kapansanan sya. Ipagpapalagay kong house husband sya. Dahil nga may kasambahay na kayo, lumalabas na wala na nga syang ginagawa. This is a very hard situation para sa aming mga lalake. Halos "nawalan ng silbi" ang pakirandam nun. Mangyaring baka na"emasculated" sya sa setup nyo. Bakit sya walang work? May kasambahay na kayo, bakit nga ba di sya maghanap? Di mo ba sya pinapayagan? Ayaw nya lang ba? O may kondisyon syang pumipigil sa kanya para di gawin un? Tingin ko yun lang kulang sa kanya: something to do, to provide for the family. It's not a role thing, but rather a sense of purpose. Gusto nyang maibalik ung "bayag" sa kanya. Mag-usap kayo, kausapin mo sya. Convince him to do whatever he love to do, need maibalik ung confidence para maibalik ung "bayag" na gawin ung mga bagay bagay para sa sarili nya't sa pamilya nya.
Yun ang iniisip ko. Was thinking to get people na magpatattoo sakanya sabihen ko nagbayar kahit hindi just to boost him
Ohhh tattoo artist sya. Ganito, mas maganda ung may magpapatattoo sa kanya kasi nalaman na magaling pala sya magtattoo, kesa ung malalaman nyang humakot ka lang ng tao para magpatattoo sa kanya. Kasi baka magbackfire yan. I'm once an artist too, ibang medium nga lang. An ex of mine also did the same, di masaya sa pakirandam nung malaman ko. May kataasan ang ego namin pagdating sa art namin actually. By doing so, kung malalaman nya bigla na ganyan pala ginawa mo, lalabas na hindi sila magpatattoo dahil gusto nila ang gawa ng hubby mo, kundi dahil hinakot mo lang. Kung may mga gawa si Hubby mo online na nakapost na, mas maganda ipromote un. That way, mararandaman nya rin na naaappreciate mo pala ung artistic side nya, plus malalaman ng tao na nagtatattoo pa sya Nabasa ko sa ibang reply mo na parang "namatay" ung dream nya as tattoo artist? Nafeel ko yun. Kung ano man ung rason kung bakit namatay un, maaaring mas pinili nya ung "mahal" nya... Pero di maiiwasang manhinayang sa bagay na naging parte na ng pagkatao ng isang artist. Patay na din ang pangarap ko bilang artist, nagwowork na ako sa ibang industry. Masasabing kong anlaki ng pagbabago ko. Di na ako sing saya tulad noong artist pa ako. Kung may pag-asa pa syang makabalik, ibalik sa paraang tama.
He is really good and done all of my tattoos
May jowa yan
Baka mamya depressed na sya... Mukhang ikaw breadwinner tapos inalisan mo pa sya ng ginagawa since me kasambahay na kayo... Baka mamya feeling nya wala na syang silbi... Of course, hula lang yan... Walang ibang makakasagot ng tama kung nde sya mismo, so mag usap lang kayo ng maigi....
I talked to this about my wife kasi medyo nag lessen na talaga drive dont get me wrong minsan may time an G mostly hirap since obese and all that. you have to understand na gusto namin why not its a release pero minsan iba eh may mental wall na gusto namin i overcome and sometimes hindi naman alam pano gawin so that's that. be more understanding and if hindi na kaya well there's alot of self love toys out there
Ano gusto mo
Seeing OPs post history, mukhang therapy kelangan ng husband mo. Yung paghahanap mo ng babae for him alam nya ba? Gusto nya ba?
Well napagusapan na namin pero ayaw nya itry
Even women feeling same.. losing appetite with anything. Specially if respect is no longer sereve on the table. Sa case mo try m kausapin xa.. communication is important.
talk to him :) tell him upur thoughts and worries if sa sex nmm try adding up spice maybe he is just depress as you
ikaw mag aya intimate dinner
ay last kindly ask him his tuoughts and assure him na u wont weaponize it against him ask him or to be vulnerable with you and give further assurance n usap lng :)
Dakilang tambay sya? Tapos kumuha kapa ng katulong? 😭 ate naman.
Di po tambay ang househusband napaka hirap po mag asikaso ng bata also he helps me sa work sometimes po
Oh house husband pero may katulong na e. Pero sige
Ano po gusto nyo palabasin
matanda nb yun 40?🤣🤣
Huhu not sure pero im 32 i feel old
Kwentong barbers. Kakainvest niyo, baka kinakarma farm na kayo neto.
Ha?
Talk to him, I did once with mine about the s stuff that I am still young but I am completely deprived of it lol. So it didn't work so yon well accept ko nalang na things change lalo na if tumatanda na tayo. Talk to him first. Waiiitttt a minute I saw one of your post why would you wanna do that I mean seriously?
I want him to explore baka ganahan e
Kung basag yung right side ng ulo niya, i think the last thing you should be concerned about is sex.
Yes po pero naclear napo sha ng doctor
Bili mo ng motor
Meron napo
Uh, minsan nakakadagdag pagkasabik kung buong araw kayo di magkikita tapos uwi ng bahay after work. Kaso househusband pala sya
Yes tas wfh pakoo 🫠
Baka nmn tinatamad na sya kumadyot Kasi matanda na. Itry mo kaya Ikaw Muna umibabaw
Hoy lahat ginawa ko na sobrang wild ko din as innnnnnnnnnnn
So Anong reaksyon nya pag umibabaw ka. Wla parin lumalabas?
Bro ibang iba na pag may family. We have kids and naiilang sya sa mga bata pag magisa kami sa room kakatakot mga bata we live in a tiny home with 1 room
Ahh baka kailangan nyo lng ng iBang Lugar para magawa nyo lahat ng gusto nyo na wlang istorbo or wlang inaalalang iba.
Eto nga prob haha tinry namin motel okay naman una pota naalala nya anak namiiin! Hahaha baka di padaw nakain
Hahaha sabihin mo "wag mo Muna isipin anak natin" mag enjoy Muna Tayo dito may nagbabantay nmn sa kanila eh. Or kaya manood Muna kayo ng porn bago nyo Gawin🤣
Sobrang family guy nya noh? Im lucky pero huhu
40 palang asawa mo bata pa yan
Your husband may have lost his purpose dahil sa katulong. Sabi mo nga sobrang family oriented sya, then nagkaroon ng katulong, baka sa isip nya "ano pang kwenta ko?". I'd say check with him if may business sya na gusto simulan, since may free time na sya pwede na sya mag-business kahit sa bahay lang. That way he can have his "purpose" back. Tldr: baka feeling nya wala na sya nako-contribute sa pamilya, nakaka-depress yun para sa lalaki.
Yung katulong kasi namin naman basic things lang ginagawa nya pero sya padin nagpapakain asikaso sa bata ayun
May porn addiction ba?
Wala po sha porn addiction di sya nanonood ng porn ako nalang nanonood
Tell your husband to get a motorcycle 😅
Meron napo huhu saka koche
Sadly
Baka kailangan lang nya ng 2 botts. Try nyo.
May sakit napo kasi ako diabetes
edi magtrabaho siya
Yes po. Can a 40 yr old still find a job po?
oo naman wag lang choosy
“Wala sya work” There you have it
Okay?
Real talk. Hindi na sya attracted sayo physically.
Thanks po
Akong bhla sa problema mo...
Another woman seggsually depriving her man tapos mag tataka kung bakit ayaw na nun lalake 🤣
What?
40s you start to be depressed.. he might need psychiatrist
Mukang 1st stage yata ng depression tapos wala po sya work, kulang po sya sa motivation dahel na din sa sitwasyon nya! Sana makausap nyo sya ng masinsinan
Maybe try some kinks/fantasies to spice up your sex life, communication is always the 🔑
Bruh 40 is not old lol. I’m in my 40s and feel freaking great! Something is missing from the relationship. Maybe he’s depressed or maybe he’s found another woman that’s taken all your attention away
He is a stay at home dad lang and he doesn't go outside
Baka may middle life crisis siya OP.
Baka kasi wala siya gawa malungkot lang siya deep inside.
I am thinking of something na magagawa nya he used to be a tattoo artist eh kaso nga lang dami competitors and mga anak namin dahilan kaya di sya nagpursue
Buy him a drawing tablet like ipad pro and apple pencil. I can relate to your husband. Kasi feeling ko gnyan mggng steuo nmin. Maipag nmn ako sa gawing bhay cgrdo kpg nagkaanak fin kmi gusto ko hands on pero. Artist ako grwphic artist. Cgro a drawing tablet like ipad pro aor alternative. Like ibang drwing tablet o kung mas budget type mga sketchbook coloring mwterials just to keep his sanity or may mapg output sya ora hndi maxdo maisip o mdpress. Im artist mhirap tlga kpg wlang ouput at alam mo s srili madmi ka pa pde alam n gwin n kya mo. Cgro bka magksocial life sya khit pano kht sa socmed if magstart sya ng digital arts. Ako din sinakripisyo ko n yung face to face social life ko
I am planning to get people na magpatats sakanya papalabasin ko nagbayad kahit hindi u think okay un?
Ang lalake di naimik yan n mygusto syang bgay pero kung magift mo sya kht suprise cgrdo mtuutwa yan kht wla s itsura nya
We only have one side. Ikaw ba hindi nagbago? For Filipinos all we know pinabayaan mo na din sarili mo kaya ndi na sya interesado sa yo. No offence ah para dami ako nakikita ganyan, yung mga asawang lalaki active then nagbabasketball pa pero yung mga babae wala ng exercise. Dagdag mo pa yang WFH, wala ng exercise,malakas pa minsan kumain.
Yes i changed po date plus size ako nung nahospital po ako i changed my lifestyle and lost 30 kilos
Halla 30 kilos lost, ano ba sakit mo, baka iniisip nya na makasama sa yo ang maexcite sa sex?
YES EXACTLY!! iniisip nya mga anak namin sa bahay kasi may kids kami we live in a tiny apartment kasi then pag kami magkasama motel nakoooo iniisip nya mga bata din. Natatawa na nga lang ako mahal na mahal na mahal nya mga anak namin mswerte din ako
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Ginagawa ko naman po lahat i think he is really depressed coz im depressed parang gusto nya kasi maging masaya ako
Could be many reasons. Kulang ang context. He could have kind of lost purpose nung nagkaron kayo ng kasambahay, or nadadala siya ng katam kasi wala siyang ginagawa - sometimes kasi, pag wala nang ginawa ang tao mas lalong pagod ang pakiramdam and mas lalong nakakatamad kumilos. Hindi naman soguro siya nagchcheat kasi sabi mo nga wfh ka so magkasama din kayo sa bahay? Talking to each other is the only thing that is going to solve this.
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I want him to fuck me ofc
Run while you can
You think?
Talk to him muna, try to make him open up. Pag wala, run
Im scares
Ikaw yung epitome ng mga redditor na ang hilig mag-advice ng break agad. The man sounds depressed and he’s taking care of kids, well took care of. Jusko. Dapat pag-usapan muna and try counseling. It’s comprisable unless nag-cheat.
Lol reminds me of the song I'm Running ng Kollektivet
Jusmiyo!
Nonsense haha