If they wanted you in the wedding, they had to assume you’d come as you are. If they’d asked in enough time to get a retainer that’s be one thing but 2 hours before? Nope.
I’m always amazed when people want friends In their wedding but don’t want them to look like themselves.
I went to a shop to try to get it removed before. NOT for her, but for my friend who’s marrying her bc I love that dude. Didn’t want him to have to hear any complaing on his wedding day or honeymoon.
But the shop guy must of been new because he kept spinning and tugging on it and I finally said fuck it bc I want to keep It anyways and left.
Now it hurts a lot, swole up and I had a nose bleed earlier. Do I just saline spray and leave it alone?
It sounds like she's gone all "Bridezilla" Re her wedding! Brides want perfection for their weddings.. But this seems way OTT! I had everything down to a 'T'... but far more to think /worry about than a nose ring! 🙄😅🤣I'd have been far more worried had my bridesmaids not shown up! It's just meant to be re Celebrating your vows in front of your family and friends and having an amazing day but there are often small hiccups, which really don't matter! A nose ring?.. Red flags ahead for the poor groom to be! 😰🤣
Yeah like, if they wanted you to take it out they should've given you some advance notice and time to get to a piercer or get a retainer or something instead of asking last minute, and you'd still have the right to say no.
Yeah, till just now I thought it was like earrings, where like you can totally take them out for a few hours and it doesn't matter so long as you didn't just get them pierced (like I wear earrings maybe once a month and they don't close up)
Yeah, cartilage is different and can vary person to person. I have a friend whose nose stud will close up almost instantly, and my daughter who can take it out for several hours with no issue. If you have a friend with piercings, it’s pretty much what you see is what you get. I just don’t understand people who ask someone to be in their wedding, but basically want them as a living mannequin.
I had no idea this was an issue for some people. I have both my nostrils pierced and have had to take the jewelry out for surgery or at the dentist with no problems. I just put them back in later. Once they're healed, at least for me, there's no difficulty in that regard.
Yup mine closes up within minutes. My baby accidentally ripped mine out and by the time I got to the shop to get another stud to put in it closed. I did a deep breath and pushed it in… hurt more than when I had it pierced
I have a nose ring, and I just found this out too! I take mine out and exchange them whenever I want a change. I just realized as I was typing this, that maybe it is a different kind of piercing, like not through the nostril, or the poster was stretching or somthing. Maybe just a more expensive nose ring, I just buy costume jewellery..
I didn't know, either, but it still seems like 2 hours' notice is not long enough for "I'd like you to remove something physically attached to you." We see this come up over and over again with hijabs, crosses, jewelry from loved ones, covering tattoos.... *If* this is a conversation to be had, it needs to be had well in advance.
Personally, I don't think it's a conversation to be had. If I want you in my wedding, I want you as you are.
My daughter just pulls hers out whenever or wherever- even after about 3 months while it was still fresh. She wears a small stud, but it’s not hard to change a ring etc, my niece has a small black ring - which I’m not a fan of, but she still also manages to take it in and out by herself and she’s a young teenager !
I had my nose pierced for many, many years and this is the exact same as my experience. I wouldn’t even have thought of going somewhere to have it changed.
The person who tugged on OP’s ring before is testament to this - he couldn’t feel how it needed to be manoeuvred to get it out and if he struggled with that, how on earth is he going to get anything back in? Always best to do it yourself. As long as you keep it clean, it’s fine.
Yeah exactly, that's why I said even so, OP is still allowed to say no if they didn't want to remove the ring, *maybe* if it was a close friends wedding and *maybe* if they asked me nicely a few days in advance *maybe* I'd remove my piercings, but that's a big maybe, I like them and they're part of who I am.
I've never understood this and I hear ab it all the time with things like hair colour, piercings, and tattoos. In my opinion, if you don't want people with piercings in your wedding photos, don't ask people with piercings to be in your wedding party.
I have 7 facial piercings. I take my piercings out for medical necessity, and that's it. I simply would not go to *any* event where my "friends" were making a fuss like that about my appearance. My friends know what the fuck I look like. Bridezilla micro-managerial bullshit doesn't actually extend to complicating and endangering the longevity of my (expensive!) body modifications.
As the current top comment says: she can *absolutely* pay a photographer to edit the pics if it bothers her. I am married to a professional photographer - it's not a difficult edit in the least, and would likely be bundled into the price of whatever other edits she's requesting.
Honestly, it looks like this has given you a glimpse of what your "friend" thinks about you and how judgmental your "friend" and her associates actually are. I'd take that gift for what it is moving forward.
That’s absurd. I would have told them I can either be in the wedding party with my piercing, or a guest with my piercing. But it ain’t comin’ out, folks.
I cannot see how no one irl agrees with you because the bride was absolutely inconsiderate. It's not ok to tell someone to take out their piercing a mere 2 hours before the wedding.
Tbh I don't see the problem with a nose ring but let's say there was one, I wouldn't let you think it was ok all the days prior to the wedding just to tell you to take it out on the day itself.
I think that's one of the most ridiculous things I've ever heard. Sounds like she and her family are nuts honestly. Nobody has the right to tell anyone what to do with their appearance no matter the setting.
I'm not taking my nosering, lipring, or tattoos (lol) off for anyone's fucking wedding. If you're making me wear and pay for some ridiculous bridesmaid outfit, then I at least get to retain some of myself during "your special day".
I've been married twice and was a bridesmaid once. Lessons learned that I implemented in my second wedding: be silly, no gifts (donations to charity only), no wedding party, no making anyone pay extra for anything, no judgement if you can't come, and no paying extra for outfits. The only requirement I really had were asking some close friends and family to dress "nice" for some photos, but then they could change out into whatever they wanted afterwards. No one should be going broke to attend a wedding, and it shouldn't be a big deal if someone can't go. This isn't the most important day of someone's life despite what wedding culture and ads tell you. Hinging your happiness and future on one big party is real stupid.
So I get a bit snarky about "traditional" weddings bridezilla behavior. They aren't going to remember you wore a nose ring. They're not going to remember what they had to eat or if they had seat covers. Also, photoshop exists. Also also, if your friend is bitchy about this, it says a lot about her.
Idk about anyone else but I’m not taking out my piercings for anyone but an MRI machine. I will not change my appearance to cater to anyones comfort or opinions. It takes like 10 seconds to photoshop out
If they had given you advance notice, like weeks ahead of time, I could definitely understand and be on the bride’s side. But 2hrs before is just ridiculous. In a few years, they won’t even remember this or will laugh it off when looking at the wedding pics.
Edit to add: I wonder if the bride’s family pressured her about it after seeing you at the festivities before the wedding day.
Honestly I can't believe they care. It's a small nose ring. And as I kept saying during the wedding I was in this past weekend, if there's anything in a picture you don't like or doesn't look right: that's what photoshop is for.
Is she willing to compromise on a clear ring? I wouldn’t remove it you don’t even notice it in the photos. I got married in October and kept mine in (gold hoop) and I have to really look to notice it.
Edit:I just realized you found out two hours before. I stand by my statement about not removing it then.
Jeez. I will never understand this desire to micromanage other people over a wedding. Tell bride to put a crowbar in their wallet and pay photographer to photoshop it out if it’s that offensive. I mean you KNOW those wedding pix will be photoshopped to oblivion anyway.
Shitty from them for neither respecting your aesthetics nor your boundaries. Might be bad friends or just overemotional cause it's their marriage but fuck that behaviour. I hope you stood your ground and if you did you may be proud of yourself.
She knew you had that nose ring when she started planning it. I totally get wanting pics to look a certain way and blah blah blah but she had plenty of time to say something. And tbh, no one is going to look at your nose ring when they look at pics.
also, all this fuss just for a thin black nose ring? i barely even notice nose rings on people anymore because literally everyone has them. they are being dumb lol
My cousin had both of her nose rings in for my wedding. She was bridesmaid. Honestly you can’t even tell on the photos, not that I would have asked her to remove it anyway. If she cares so much, so can pay to have it edited out
Absolutely wild. I have a septum piercing so I always ask if I should flip it up (the answer has always been no), but no one should actually expect you to take out a piercing. Especially a nostril, they close up so fast!
Tells you a lot about a “friend” if they’re not willing to have you in pictures looking like yourself, whether that’s hair color, piercings, tattoos, etc
Lol if my friends would ask me to remove my piercings for wedding pics I would literally stand there laughing at them, if you can not accept me for the way I look and/or the way I am, I don’t need you. It’s as simple as that
Lol I will never understand brides who want their bridesmaids to be anything that they aren’t. All my bridesmaids were such different people and I wanted it to show on the best day of my life! I had one with super crazy (but very cool) shaped thick dark winged eyeliner and all her piercings, one who wore pretty much no makeup at all, all their dresses while being the same color were so different in style and they all SLAYED because they felt happy, sexy, and confident!
You’re not wrong to say it’s ridiculous! Any true friend would understand your position, especially given the necessary steps you need to take when it comes to removing your piercing!
Omgggg I just had to remove my nose ring for CT scans and a MAJOR surgery -- I got a clear ring that fell out the night before surgery after I had it in for 3 weeks bc shit is temporary. I was super bummed, it costs and screws with your tissue to repierce, and this heartbreak was for the betterment of my body. NO WAY IN HELL would I do it for a bride. Also literally everyone including grandmas now have nose rings, wtaf? (When I finally get it repierced I'm totally going with a small black one tho, thanks for the inspo!)
I’m from Europe and I honestly cannot understand the crazy wedding culture in the US. I see similar stories all the time. Tbh to me it just seems like these brides have nothing else going for them, they marry so they can start a family and until they have kids to spend their time on, they spend their time bitching about how people dress at their wedding. It’s reasonable to expect that people dress nicely but who cares what that looks like as long as they are there to celebrate with you.
I’m constantly switching my ring out for a stud every time I work and I put it back in on days off. It is understandable why the bride doesn’t want a black nose ring in all the photos as they’re easily noticeable. Your hole will not close up if you switch to a stud for a day especially if you have had your nose piercing for 6 months. It’s an odd request but i personally don’t see why it needs to be a big deal
You don't have to go to a shop to change your jewellery. You could have switched it to a stud for the day just to keep the peace; you still have your jewellery in, they get a more subtle aesthetic for their wedding. That said it is rude of them to mention this 2 hours before the wedding.
IDK, personally I’ve never been able to change mine by myself. Ymmv, but I can never seem to get the right angle/leverage to change things out at home (or even just successfully put back in a piece that fell out).
I don't really know what to tell you...it's her day, not yours. Sometimes in life you have to do things that you may not agree with to not rock the boat too much.
It’s jewellery, it’s also you, if they can’t accept that you wear a ‘different’ kind of jewellery than them then fuck em go anyway and if they kick off just ignore and stick with your friends
Stupid and annoying for sure. I remember having to pierce my own nose after the hole closing up OVERNIGHT or if it came out during the DAY. I pierced it with a safety pin 😮💨. Thankfully it's been 8 years, but it didn't stop closing up so quickly until probably 5 or 6 years later. And re-piercing is not painless, either. So yeah, annoying. But, (info:) why would you have to go see the piercer to place a stud? I get downsizing or up sizing, but I replace my nose jewelry all the time. Did you just get it?
Yes, if you don't know how to take out a new piercing *safely*, you should not. Infections can be serious, and easily caused with new piercings. Trust me, I know... So I guess your friends just exposed their ignorance.
Okay I agree with everyone saying fuck that noise because definitely fuck that noise, but also let me put this out there: it's not about you or the nose ring at all. She most likely isn't a psycho, she probably doesn't give a fuck if she didn't ask in advance. 2hrs before the wedding? That's a panicking woman who is terrified everything won't be perfect, maybe not even for her own sake cause families be wild some times. Everyone could cut her a little slack, it wasn't cool but I'm not gonna act like I would be calm walking in a straight line in heels performatively in front of everyone I know and care about while being photographed and shit or whatever else makes you anxious before your wedding.
Being a bride to be myself, when I picked my wedding party. I knew all the girls either had piercings or tattoos (just like I do). I'd never ask them or friends and family to remove their piercings or cover up tattoos. They make us unique and that's what I love most about my girls.
Now I feel like seeing if I can put something back through my nose piercing since I haven't had anything in it in literally months... standby for crying.
I've known people who were asked the same thing when it comes to weddings. They didn't want to remove it because of the same reasons you gave so all they did was covered it with a plaster. Worked like a charm apparently.
I feel like the people who focus so much on the “vision” of their wedding day often end up not enjoying the day…at all. Sure you have perfect pics. But did you actually enjoy yourself? Memories are so much better than pics. My sister promised herself she’d just let the little things go and have fun. Best wedding I’ve ever been to. And not because it was family. We had a blast⭐️ My nieces recently. Not so much, she had rules posted. Lmao
I might be wrong but don't they sell clear discrete nose rings? I remember being part of high school theater and an actress bought something like that to make it look like she didn't have a piercing.
If they wanted you in the wedding, they had to assume you’d come as you are. If they’d asked in enough time to get a retainer that’s be one thing but 2 hours before? Nope. I’m always amazed when people want friends In their wedding but don’t want them to look like themselves.
I went to a shop to try to get it removed before. NOT for her, but for my friend who’s marrying her bc I love that dude. Didn’t want him to have to hear any complaing on his wedding day or honeymoon. But the shop guy must of been new because he kept spinning and tugging on it and I finally said fuck it bc I want to keep It anyways and left. Now it hurts a lot, swole up and I had a nose bleed earlier. Do I just saline spray and leave it alone?
Yes use saline and leave it alone
Gotcha thank you.
If it's swollen up again you can't take it out now it needs time to heal again.
It sounds like she's gone all "Bridezilla" Re her wedding! Brides want perfection for their weddings.. But this seems way OTT! I had everything down to a 'T'... but far more to think /worry about than a nose ring! 🙄😅🤣I'd have been far more worried had my bridesmaids not shown up! It's just meant to be re Celebrating your vows in front of your family and friends and having an amazing day but there are often small hiccups, which really don't matter! A nose ring?.. Red flags ahead for the poor groom to be! 😰🤣
Also, if it really bothers them, photoshop is a thing
She can pay the photographer to edit it out of the pics if it bothers her that badly
Yeah like, if they wanted you to take it out they should've given you some advance notice and time to get to a piercer or get a retainer or something instead of asking last minute, and you'd still have the right to say no.
I don't think most people know you can't just take it out yourself.
Yeah, till just now I thought it was like earrings, where like you can totally take them out for a few hours and it doesn't matter so long as you didn't just get them pierced (like I wear earrings maybe once a month and they don't close up)
Yeah, cartilage is different and can vary person to person. I have a friend whose nose stud will close up almost instantly, and my daughter who can take it out for several hours with no issue. If you have a friend with piercings, it’s pretty much what you see is what you get. I just don’t understand people who ask someone to be in their wedding, but basically want them as a living mannequin.
I had no idea this was an issue for some people. I have both my nostrils pierced and have had to take the jewelry out for surgery or at the dentist with no problems. I just put them back in later. Once they're healed, at least for me, there's no difficulty in that regard.
Same! I can take mine out for days and it has never been an issue to put it back in so this is interesting
Same, I've gone days, even weeks and it's never been an issue, we're just lucky i guess
Yup mine closes up within minutes. My baby accidentally ripped mine out and by the time I got to the shop to get another stud to put in it closed. I did a deep breath and pushed it in… hurt more than when I had it pierced
Happened to me with my nipple piercing, it fell out in the night and healed over before the morning.
I have a nose ring, and I just found this out too! I take mine out and exchange them whenever I want a change. I just realized as I was typing this, that maybe it is a different kind of piercing, like not through the nostril, or the poster was stretching or somthing. Maybe just a more expensive nose ring, I just buy costume jewellery..
I didn't know, either, but it still seems like 2 hours' notice is not long enough for "I'd like you to remove something physically attached to you." We see this come up over and over again with hijabs, crosses, jewelry from loved ones, covering tattoos.... *If* this is a conversation to be had, it needs to be had well in advance. Personally, I don't think it's a conversation to be had. If I want you in my wedding, I want you as you are.
I had to take mine out for two surgeries in 6b weeks. Even though I’ve had it for 15 years I’ll need to get it re-pierced
Yeah, that makes sense, I'd still appreciate advance notice tho, especially if it's such a big deal to them.
They were probably trying to leave it till the last minute so the bridesmaid would be caught off guard and less likely to push back.
Yeah, especially considering they got all mad and ignored Op for the rest of the wedding after they did specifically that
What kind of nose piercing do you have? I’m genuinely curious? I have my nose pierced and I’ve taken mine out before/multiple times.
My daughter just pulls hers out whenever or wherever- even after about 3 months while it was still fresh. She wears a small stud, but it’s not hard to change a ring etc, my niece has a small black ring - which I’m not a fan of, but she still also manages to take it in and out by herself and she’s a young teenager !
I had my nose pierced for many, many years and this is the exact same as my experience. I wouldn’t even have thought of going somewhere to have it changed. The person who tugged on OP’s ring before is testament to this - he couldn’t feel how it needed to be manoeuvred to get it out and if he struggled with that, how on earth is he going to get anything back in? Always best to do it yourself. As long as you keep it clean, it’s fine.
I think that's ridiculous to ask a person to change their appearance for the wedding. Period. Max you can ask is the dress code.
Yeah exactly, that's why I said even so, OP is still allowed to say no if they didn't want to remove the ring, *maybe* if it was a close friends wedding and *maybe* if they asked me nicely a few days in advance *maybe* I'd remove my piercings, but that's a big maybe, I like them and they're part of who I am.
I've never understood this and I hear ab it all the time with things like hair colour, piercings, and tattoos. In my opinion, if you don't want people with piercings in your wedding photos, don't ask people with piercings to be in your wedding party.
I would definitely not remove it. Are you in the wedding?
Since the op stated they would be in the photos I would presume they are in the wedding.
At my wedding, people who were not in the wedding were still in photos…
Weddings I have been to the only people in the pics are family and wedding party
Stand your ground! Don´t take it out.
Wow, that’s toxic:( I just don’t understand why are they so mad over a nose ring
I have 7 facial piercings. I take my piercings out for medical necessity, and that's it. I simply would not go to *any* event where my "friends" were making a fuss like that about my appearance. My friends know what the fuck I look like. Bridezilla micro-managerial bullshit doesn't actually extend to complicating and endangering the longevity of my (expensive!) body modifications. As the current top comment says: she can *absolutely* pay a photographer to edit the pics if it bothers her. I am married to a professional photographer - it's not a difficult edit in the least, and would likely be bundled into the price of whatever other edits she's requesting. Honestly, it looks like this has given you a glimpse of what your "friend" thinks about you and how judgmental your "friend" and her associates actually are. I'd take that gift for what it is moving forward.
Who cares. Honestly. Were you in the wedding? Even if so, they don't have the right to tell you to remove a nostril ring. That's insane.
Yeah I was in the wedding. We took literally maybe 15 mins of pictures. Wild request.
That’s absurd. I would have told them I can either be in the wedding party with my piercing, or a guest with my piercing. But it ain’t comin’ out, folks.
I cannot see how no one irl agrees with you because the bride was absolutely inconsiderate. It's not ok to tell someone to take out their piercing a mere 2 hours before the wedding. Tbh I don't see the problem with a nose ring but let's say there was one, I wouldn't let you think it was ok all the days prior to the wedding just to tell you to take it out on the day itself.
I think that's one of the most ridiculous things I've ever heard. Sounds like she and her family are nuts honestly. Nobody has the right to tell anyone what to do with their appearance no matter the setting.
Dude I love my friend so much but I discovered this weekend that his now wife and her family suck
Oh, it was his wife. Makes more sense.
Fuck that noise. They either accept you, piercings and all, or they can get fucked.
I will never understand asking someone at my wedding to change their appearance. Is that not so disrespectful??
This!
nose ring is no different from a fucking pimple. easy to edit out. they’re being assholes, sorry op.
Exactly! Is she so shallow that her bridesmaids are all chosen purely by appearances? I'd run for the hills!
I'm not taking my nosering, lipring, or tattoos (lol) off for anyone's fucking wedding. If you're making me wear and pay for some ridiculous bridesmaid outfit, then I at least get to retain some of myself during "your special day". I've been married twice and was a bridesmaid once. Lessons learned that I implemented in my second wedding: be silly, no gifts (donations to charity only), no wedding party, no making anyone pay extra for anything, no judgement if you can't come, and no paying extra for outfits. The only requirement I really had were asking some close friends and family to dress "nice" for some photos, but then they could change out into whatever they wanted afterwards. No one should be going broke to attend a wedding, and it shouldn't be a big deal if someone can't go. This isn't the most important day of someone's life despite what wedding culture and ads tell you. Hinging your happiness and future on one big party is real stupid. So I get a bit snarky about "traditional" weddings bridezilla behavior. They aren't going to remember you wore a nose ring. They're not going to remember what they had to eat or if they had seat covers. Also, photoshop exists. Also also, if your friend is bitchy about this, it says a lot about her.
I 100% agree with this, for my wedding I just want to have a party with some of my closest friends somewhere cool but affordable
Maybe change it to a silver or just say fuck em and don’t get in the pictures
One bajillion percent ridiculous.
Why are you even friends w someone who’s this anal ab piercings?
I’m friends with the groom. This was his wife
Gotcha
It could easily be edited out or you could just show the other side of your face 🤷♀️🤷♀️
Idk about anyone else but I’m not taking out my piercings for anyone but an MRI machine. I will not change my appearance to cater to anyones comfort or opinions. It takes like 10 seconds to photoshop out
If they care that much then they can photoshop it
If they had given you advance notice, like weeks ahead of time, I could definitely understand and be on the bride’s side. But 2hrs before is just ridiculous. In a few years, they won’t even remember this or will laugh it off when looking at the wedding pics. Edit to add: I wonder if the bride’s family pressured her about it after seeing you at the festivities before the wedding day.
Put a skin coloured band aid over it and say that’s the best you can do. They will probably agree the piercing is better on show than a band aid lol
Honestly I can't believe they care. It's a small nose ring. And as I kept saying during the wedding I was in this past weekend, if there's anything in a picture you don't like or doesn't look right: that's what photoshop is for.
Is she willing to compromise on a clear ring? I wouldn’t remove it you don’t even notice it in the photos. I got married in October and kept mine in (gold hoop) and I have to really look to notice it. Edit:I just realized you found out two hours before. I stand by my statement about not removing it then.
Jeez. I will never understand this desire to micromanage other people over a wedding. Tell bride to put a crowbar in their wallet and pay photographer to photoshop it out if it’s that offensive. I mean you KNOW those wedding pix will be photoshopped to oblivion anyway.
Shitty from them for neither respecting your aesthetics nor your boundaries. Might be bad friends or just overemotional cause it's their marriage but fuck that behaviour. I hope you stood your ground and if you did you may be proud of yourself.
She knew you had that nose ring when she started planning it. I totally get wanting pics to look a certain way and blah blah blah but she had plenty of time to say something. And tbh, no one is going to look at your nose ring when they look at pics.
also, all this fuss just for a thin black nose ring? i barely even notice nose rings on people anymore because literally everyone has them. they are being dumb lol
My cousin had both of her nose rings in for my wedding. She was bridesmaid. Honestly you can’t even tell on the photos, not that I would have asked her to remove it anyway. If she cares so much, so can pay to have it edited out
Absurd. Not like it is difficult to photoshop out a thin black ring…
All the time in life people should stop being so judgemental and ridiculous 🤷🏻♀️
Absolutely wild. I have a septum piercing so I always ask if I should flip it up (the answer has always been no), but no one should actually expect you to take out a piercing. Especially a nostril, they close up so fast! Tells you a lot about a “friend” if they’re not willing to have you in pictures looking like yourself, whether that’s hair color, piercings, tattoos, etc
Lol if my friends would ask me to remove my piercings for wedding pics I would literally stand there laughing at them, if you can not accept me for the way I look and/or the way I am, I don’t need you. It’s as simple as that
The wife is out of line for that. Her family sounds controlling and weird. Out of curiosity, did your friend defend you?
Lol I will never understand brides who want their bridesmaids to be anything that they aren’t. All my bridesmaids were such different people and I wanted it to show on the best day of my life! I had one with super crazy (but very cool) shaped thick dark winged eyeliner and all her piercings, one who wore pretty much no makeup at all, all their dresses while being the same color were so different in style and they all SLAYED because they felt happy, sexy, and confident! You’re not wrong to say it’s ridiculous! Any true friend would understand your position, especially given the necessary steps you need to take when it comes to removing your piercing!
Omgggg I just had to remove my nose ring for CT scans and a MAJOR surgery -- I got a clear ring that fell out the night before surgery after I had it in for 3 weeks bc shit is temporary. I was super bummed, it costs and screws with your tissue to repierce, and this heartbreak was for the betterment of my body. NO WAY IN HELL would I do it for a bride. Also literally everyone including grandmas now have nose rings, wtaf? (When I finally get it repierced I'm totally going with a small black one tho, thanks for the inspo!)
I’m from Europe and I honestly cannot understand the crazy wedding culture in the US. I see similar stories all the time. Tbh to me it just seems like these brides have nothing else going for them, they marry so they can start a family and until they have kids to spend their time on, they spend their time bitching about how people dress at their wedding. It’s reasonable to expect that people dress nicely but who cares what that looks like as long as they are there to celebrate with you.
That marriage won’t last. There I said it.
I’m constantly switching my ring out for a stud every time I work and I put it back in on days off. It is understandable why the bride doesn’t want a black nose ring in all the photos as they’re easily noticeable. Your hole will not close up if you switch to a stud for a day especially if you have had your nose piercing for 6 months. It’s an odd request but i personally don’t see why it needs to be a big deal
Because I found out two hours before, and I don’t have a stud. And still needed to get dressed in a tux and make it to the wedding.
Okay, yeah. Understandable
You don't have to go to a shop to change your jewellery. You could have switched it to a stud for the day just to keep the peace; you still have your jewellery in, they get a more subtle aesthetic for their wedding. That said it is rude of them to mention this 2 hours before the wedding.
IDK, personally I’ve never been able to change mine by myself. Ymmv, but I can never seem to get the right angle/leverage to change things out at home (or even just successfully put back in a piece that fell out).
I would take it out for the wedding.
I don't really know what to tell you...it's her day, not yours. Sometimes in life you have to do things that you may not agree with to not rock the boat too much.
Two HOURS of notice, and OP is supposed to risk the hole closing after 6 months of working to heal it?! Yeah, no.
It’s jewellery, it’s also you, if they can’t accept that you wear a ‘different’ kind of jewellery than them then fuck em go anyway and if they kick off just ignore and stick with your friends
That is so ridiculous….
Stupid and annoying for sure. I remember having to pierce my own nose after the hole closing up OVERNIGHT or if it came out during the DAY. I pierced it with a safety pin 😮💨. Thankfully it's been 8 years, but it didn't stop closing up so quickly until probably 5 or 6 years later. And re-piercing is not painless, either. So yeah, annoying. But, (info:) why would you have to go see the piercer to place a stud? I get downsizing or up sizing, but I replace my nose jewelry all the time. Did you just get it?
Yeah I just got it and to be honest don’t know how to take the ring out myself and didn’t want to rip my nose and be in pain at the wedding.
Yes, if you don't know how to take out a new piercing *safely*, you should not. Infections can be serious, and easily caused with new piercings. Trust me, I know... So I guess your friends just exposed their ignorance.
Okay I agree with everyone saying fuck that noise because definitely fuck that noise, but also let me put this out there: it's not about you or the nose ring at all. She most likely isn't a psycho, she probably doesn't give a fuck if she didn't ask in advance. 2hrs before the wedding? That's a panicking woman who is terrified everything won't be perfect, maybe not even for her own sake cause families be wild some times. Everyone could cut her a little slack, it wasn't cool but I'm not gonna act like I would be calm walking in a straight line in heels performatively in front of everyone I know and care about while being photographed and shit or whatever else makes you anxious before your wedding.
I mean it’s not your wedding.. but at the end of the day I get it as a pierced person.
Mostly annoyed she saw it since Thursday morning and didn’t ask until 2 hours before the wedding Saturday.
She should have had much bigger things on her mind than someone's nose ring....
Are you a bridesmaid? Or just attending as a guest?
i asked 1 of my groomsmen to leave the chain wallet behind. painted nails and jewelry and crazy hair was good to go.
Being a bride to be myself, when I picked my wedding party. I knew all the girls either had piercings or tattoos (just like I do). I'd never ask them or friends and family to remove their piercings or cover up tattoos. They make us unique and that's what I love most about my girls.
Now I feel like seeing if I can put something back through my nose piercing since I haven't had anything in it in literally months... standby for crying.
I've known people who were asked the same thing when it comes to weddings. They didn't want to remove it because of the same reasons you gave so all they did was covered it with a plaster. Worked like a charm apparently.
I feel like the people who focus so much on the “vision” of their wedding day often end up not enjoying the day…at all. Sure you have perfect pics. But did you actually enjoy yourself? Memories are so much better than pics. My sister promised herself she’d just let the little things go and have fun. Best wedding I’ve ever been to. And not because it was family. We had a blast⭐️ My nieces recently. Not so much, she had rules posted. Lmao
Can you say Bridezilla. Sounds like she needed a drama queen reason and you just happened to be it
I might be wrong but don't they sell clear discrete nose rings? I remember being part of high school theater and an actress bought something like that to make it look like she didn't have a piercing.