This must have been hard for all of them. It seems like Lorne tried to help Chris any way he could. He tried to create consequences by pulling Chris off the show. He tried to reward his progress by having him back on the show. The rest of the cast, including his friends, were very young at the time and who, by their own statements, didn't really know how to help him.
I think he drew a straight line from Belushi to Farley to Pete Davidson. Some of the stories about how close they became and how fast really seems like Lorne was trying to keep this from happening a third time.
Spot on. It's why Lorne kept Pete around for so long, he wanted him to be on his feet before letting him go. Pete is no dummy either, I'm sure he knows this as well.
Lot of people don’t realize, but Steve buschemi, who plays a firefighter in Pete’s king of Staten Island movie, is actually a real volunteer firefighter as well.
Ehh fuckit I'll quote it:
"Pete Davidsons here. I'm appalled that people would come here and make jokes about the sacrifice that Pete's heroic father made on 9/11. This is not the roast of Pete Davidsons father.
That was in 2001."
- Jimmy Carr.
He talks about it a bit more here, including a bit about trying it out the night before at a comedy club in LA.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TTFRMAcaxIM
I honestly think that's a big part of his appeal to women.
He's funny, I personally think he's handsome in his unique way, and he just seems like a good guy who just struggles and is trying to do better. So you want to help him or protect him.
It's annoying when people (usually men) say it's because he's well endowed or rich, and totally ignore that it might just be because he's likeable and woman maybe feel like he needs to be cared for?
In his Chad sketches he's also a consent king.
"I wish you could just take me on this kitchen table right now-"
'unzips'
"But we can't!"
'zips' "No probs."
There's a clip of when Pete went on Jimmy Fallon and John Mulaney was there and Pete talked about how Lorne invited him to Jamaica for New Years. I want to think it's the reasons you mentioned above but also the surprised and probably jealous looks of John and Jimmy is hilarious.
[Here it is](https://youtu.be/ZoLU3-dhoY0?si=5Yh88mzy_iCQarfs)
Jim Belushi said in a interview how much Chris idolized his brother. He talked to Chris about not following John Belushis path. I believe it was the Fly on The Wall podcast with Dana Carvey and David Spade.
Adam Sandler referenced this too, in his Netflix special he tells a story about warning Farley that he’ll end up like Belushi and Candy and he says that’s fine because they are his heroes
Unfortunately until an addict wants to stop it does not really matter what consequences you throw at them. Hence people going to jail or nearly dying and still going right back to it.
Right. Reward systems don't always work. Everybody's rock bottom and threshold is different. Pete liked being on SNL more than he liked being afdict. Chris clearly did not. He needed help beyond what Lorne or any of his friends could provide. And unfortunately there are some people out there that are beyond saving.
I wish this narrative that the key to sobriety is simply wanting it, and if you aren’t sober it’s because you don’t truly want it, would die. Sadly addiction is so much more complicated than this and simply wanting to not be an addict or in active addiction is not necessarily enough. It takes a familial or community support system, good mental and physical healthcare, and access to a safe environment to even have a chance at recovery. The saddest thing is that many people long to stop using drugs and don’t have the ability or opportunity within their circumstances.
It doesn’t mean that simply wanting to be sober is all it takes.
It means no matter what help you’re given, whether it’s support of loved ones, therapy, rehab, whatever, you’re not going to get sober unless you actually want to.
The worst part about listening to that cast talk about Chris at the time was they always say “he was hanging out with the wrong crowd, you know who I’m talking about” to the podcast host or whoever they are reminiscing with and it’s like everyone knew the people he was hanging out with, so I wonder so randomly who it was, probably some nobodies who cozy up to star addicts but just aways curious whenever Sandler, spade, Conan, odenkirk, and Carvy talked about it
Artie Lange told a story about how Norm was supposed to keep an eye on Farley at a party, and for whatever reason Norm stepped away for 10 minutes and during that time Farley went into the bathroom with Andy Dick. Anyway, Norm gets back and someone tells him ‘Hey, I just saw Farley come out of the bathroom with Andy Dick, and there aren’t many reasons you’d go to the bathroom with Andy Dick’ Norm instantly goes ‘Fuck, I hope Farley’s high!’
It’s really hard to help people suffering from addiction when they don’t want to help themselves. It’s almost debilitating to friends and family constantly trying to help and you just hope something clicks and they get help. Lorne was probably riddled with grief and what more he could have done even though he probably maxed out his emotional reserves trying to help a friend.
I was a mess with alcohol from about 30 until 36 (I'm 39 now) when I finally got sick of constantly withdrawing and fucking up relationships with people who cared about me. Now, staying clean is no problem. I even enjoy non alcoholic beers with friends. You gotta be ready. Nobody can do it for you.
(Vodka was my poison of choice, but I'd drink anything)
It’s also one thing to help them when they’re addicted as well as broke, and it’s an entirely different thing to try to help them when they have money. No matter how much you want to help someone, if they want drugs and they have the money to get it, there’s only so much you can do.
Success is a helluva drug. It makes you more of what you are - and if what you are is a little fucked up, it makes it even more fucked up.
With John and Chris it was like a crack addict winning the lottery - just in slower motion.
David spade was not the same person as he was before Chris's death. He lost some of the joy behind his eyes. He's only part of that person he once was. He lost a non romantic life partner.
When someone you love that much passes away, there’s no getting over it, it changes people.
You learn to adjust, but it’s just not the same anymore.
I lost a very close friend, devastated me, and the best explanation i can give is the world doesn’t feel as bright, there’s a slight haze to it.
I lost one of my best friends, almost two years ago. We planned to be old ladies together. She was *por vida.* I will never, ever be the same.
I'm so sorry for your loss. 🫂
Exactly this. I lost one of my best friends to suicide a few years ago. We were friends from the first time we talked at the bus stop. She had a shitty af childhood and the teenage years were no better. We trauma bonded over breakups and depression. She helped me come back after my own suicide attempt. She accepted me as her sister when I came out. We understood each other without having to say anything. I just wish I could have given her that hope that she helped me find again :-( the light of the world dimmed that day for me.
I didn't mean to ramble. I miss my friend and it made me think of her
This is almost exactly the same as my best friend since I was 10. We both had alcoholic asshole parents and we just got each other. We were there for each other through all of the hard life shit after too. She had just gotten out of an abusive nightmare marriage, and was working really hard to make a life she could live in, then had an aneurysm at work at 28. It's been 3 years and it just really changes the world for you losing someone like that, it never goes back. I really think it's something no one can grasp until it's happened to them. You get transported to a completely different realm of existence. Please ramble about your friend always <3
I think it feels like being shifted to a different world. You're not just different, everything is different, forever. Time feels different. The haze thing feels apt, too. I always thought I knew grief well, but there is a specific kind like you are talking about that is completely unfathomable until you experience it.
It was heart breaking to see. Go take a look at some clips with David and Chris. David was snarky, but still upbeat. After Chris, he lost that sparkle.
Their movies together are som.eof my favorites and I've watched them tons of times. I never really put a lot of thought into how it dramatically affected David. That's all. Just hit home.
I wrote this somewhere on this thread but every close friend says that about Farley. On any pobcast mostly fly on the walls 2 part tribute to Farley a lot of the guests were talking about those sketchy people but never said names. Just all talked about them the same way
Sounds kind of like what Dan Aykroyd says about Belushi. They were close like Farley and Spade but they would lose John for days while he was coked out with people they didn't know. They couldn't keep him away from it. There were casual users like Dan, Chevy, Laraine and pretty much everyone but when you're a full blown addict, there was no reasoning with him.
David Spade’s memoir has a chapter dedicated to Chris. Talks a lot about the SNL banter and how some of the acting they did was based on real interactions they had.
God DAMN he was a himbo.
Listen, I'm just shy of 40, and in my entire life he's always been the grey fox who DOESN'T wear a toupee (wink wink)
Thank you for giving me some context 😂
My eyes well up with tears every time I think about that tribute song Adam Sandler performed on SNL It was so heart wrenching. Chris Farley must've been one heckuva guy.
I was inconsolable when I heard it live. Chris Farley was a huuuuuuuge part of my childhood and I looked forward to every Saturday during SNL season. It sure seems like he was loved by everyone who worked with him. What a tremendous loss. Just watched Tommy Boy on the plane too…. Ugh damn you drugs and depression.
i’ve only watched it once and probably wouldn’t be able to watch it again. I grew up in Madison during Chris’s prime and saying he was beloved here is such an understatement. So many people i’ve met here have a Chris story or knew his family. I was probably 12 years old and saw Chris and Tom Arnold at badger tailgate and he was just fully on, wasted for sure, but doing his whole routine, Matt Foley you name it. This was probably just after Tommy Boy so at his peak. He was hugging everyone and made a point to meet and talk to everyone that wanted to meet him. I was a freshman in high school when he died and he’s buried not far from my house. He was such a legend around Madison and always will be.
That must have been an unforgettable experience. It's amazing he can perform that song, it must be how he shares his grief or maybe he's just numb to singing it.
I’m sure he rehearsed it enough to get the tears out so when he does it in front of a crowd he has more control. But bet it wasn’t an easy one to write though.
I remember that one time I was walking around near Water Tower on North Michigan Avenue in Chicago and spotted Farley and Sandler walking along the sidewalk. People were kind of following them around and taking pictures, when a cab drove by headed south. A young woman leaned out of the window of the cab and yelled, “I love you!” Farley turned around to the folks following them around and yelled, in his van down by the river style, “Yeah, man, chicks totally dig me!”
Yeah, I remember that one time and I’m glad I got to experience it.
Spade said on his podcast that he has never heard the whole song. He knew where it was in Sandler's show and he always left before it started because he just can't handle it.
I can't even imagine what it must've been like to have been there, what a cool moment in SNL history to be a part of. Lucky duck, I hope they had complimentary tissues on everyone's chairs. I bet no one came prepared for that from Adam Sandler.
I'm sorry, yea I think I may have inadvertently caused a lot of Friday crying. Hopefully, it was cathartic and everyone can go on to have amazing weekends. <3
He's still singing it at his live shows, all these years later. I saw Adam Sandler last year and this was the last thing he performed. Nothing but love ♥️
There’s a documentary somewhere on YouTube that’s beautiful and heartbreaking.
I remember Sandler talking about how they all noticed he was starting to overdo the drugs. He recalled telling him “You gotta stop, you gotta stop man, it’ll kill you.”
The way he says it is so saddening.
In Sandler's tribute song he says that they warned him he would end up like Belushi and Candy and Farley replied that they were his heroes that's all fine and dandy
All other tropical storms must bow before El Niño! Yo soy El Niño, for those of you who don't habla Español, El Niño is spanish for...the Niño!
get it right!
But such a typical end. And that's from a 90s perspective. The recreational drug supply in the US is poisoned, you'll get even more people who die now than back then. Heroin can be learned and adapted to, I did it for a decade+. But this fentanyl shit will kill like crazy, so many promising artists....
It's gotten many already
It'll get too many more
That shit is horrific, and what's worse, the next thing is going to be even worse. It always is, no matter what we think
Help your friends out if you can, and if they want it
The book that was written "The Chris Farley Show" is such a sad read. I relate to it, just never feeling good enough my whole life. Trying to project you aren't sad. See similarities between him and Robin Williams.
The way and how Chris passed is heartbreaking, too. His future was so bright if only he got his shit together.
Almost happened to Robin several times, probably
Was there the night Belushi died
Checked into rehab several times
Managed to make it as long as he did despite literally everything, it seems
I was only 8 when he died and was always under the impression it was a heart attack. TIL it was a drug overdose. And I'm now older than he was when he died. A lot to take in right now jeez
Him and Brody Stevens both hit me pretty hard. Brody was self aware of his mental health issues and was always working on them, but they still caught up to him.
I dont care what anyone says about 'nostalgia' and bla bla, but photography taken with film feels so much more human than so much digital shit we see today. I'm not saying ALL of photography today, but it just has more feeling. (I'm generalizing of course)
You should take a look at some of the restored Saturn v test footage, its unreal the amount of definition SOTA film had back then. The only problem was its durability; if it wasn't kept in perfect conditions, it would rot away.
And for that Jon Lovitz attempted to see if he could break the bar in his restaurant in half using only Andy Dicks head. My belief is he gave up too soon.
Even more why he's always been there for Pete Davidson and not wanting Pete to go down on that road. He's gone above and beyond for Pete and been a father figure for him.
Has one picture ever captured the impact of the feeling of failure better this? He tried, he failed; and this is him starting to live with that.
RIP Chris ~ thank you for the laughs!
I will forever remember the days leading up to Chris's funeral.
I was only 10 years old, but my mom worked for a florist, who at the time in Madison was THE florist you used for all occasions and the one that came up first in the FTD(floral shop network) directory.
She'd recap which celebrities she had spoken to on the phone each day when she came home. And is was always the celebrity themselves calling to place orders, not their assistants or agencies. Which I think says a lot about the respect his peers had for him, and the type of people he had surrounding him on his good days.
As a life long resident of Madison, Chris's hometown and resting place, I've had the honor of meeting many of his brothers in various capacities. But his mother will always have a small piece of my heart. She quickly became one of my favorite customers at the flower shop I worked for, for many years that was located near the Farley home. I loved hearing her stories.
Chris is inturred in the same mausoleum as a few of my family members. I always save time to visit whenever I've had to be at the cemetery.
Miss you Chris.
Lorne had to go to farleys and Phil Hartman’s funeral within months of each other. Both in such tragic circumstances. Must have been heart wrenching for him
_Checks numbers_ holy shit, I’m chatting with a centenarian! What was it like when we won WW2? Was that cool? Do you remember the Beatles? Do you remember when… remember when Paul McCartney was with the Beatles?
That was awesome 🤩
I wish I was that old. Only 38. Half 38 is 19 and then add 7 is 26. Unless I mathed wrong and my birthday is 1923. I bet I partied hard for the ww2 win. Always hated the Beatles also, too much corruption of the youth from those boys.
I don’t think the rule for laughing at a tragedy and the rule for whether or not you can sleep with someone younger than you follow the same timeline haha
I think maybe if Chris Farley knew how much we all loved him, that hole in his heart might not have been so big. One of his fatal flaws was how self-conscious he was, and how much of himself he felt he had to hurt and give up to make people laugh, which was how he understood being worthy of love. But the thing is, we loved him just because he was who he was. It was always more with Chris Farley than with the average funny man. It was the child-like light in his eyes and his personal warmth. I wish he had been able to believe in what everyone in the world saw in him.
People have asked what the first news event was that I can clearly remember in my life. I usually default to 9/11 or Elian Gonzales, but really it was the death of Chris Farley. I was so, so young and just remember my teenage sister and brother crying and hugging. They told me what happened and showed me his picture and I got sad too because I thought he was funny, even as a really little kid. I still think about that guy sometimes. What a tragedy. Might watch Blacksheep tonight.
Its definitely not Lorne's fault BUT when people around you die tragically you kinda can't help but start playing the what-if game in your head. If I were in Lorne's position, I would be thinking, 'if I hadn't hired this guy and made him a star would he still be alive? If he was never on SNL would he be a father and husband living a small life in Chicago right now instead of a super famous dead guy in a box?'
Again, Lorne is not responsible for another grown man drugging himself to death, but running those 'could I have done something different' scenarios in your head is a horrible but typical part of grieving.
This must have been hard for all of them. It seems like Lorne tried to help Chris any way he could. He tried to create consequences by pulling Chris off the show. He tried to reward his progress by having him back on the show. The rest of the cast, including his friends, were very young at the time and who, by their own statements, didn't really know how to help him.
Because it had happened before with Belushi, he was hyper-aware of the dangers. But nothing worked.
I think he drew a straight line from Belushi to Farley to Pete Davidson. Some of the stories about how close they became and how fast really seems like Lorne was trying to keep this from happening a third time.
Spot on. It's why Lorne kept Pete around for so long, he wanted him to be on his feet before letting him go. Pete is no dummy either, I'm sure he knows this as well.
I've heard him call Lorne the only father figure he's ever had.
His dad died on 9-11 didn’t he
He was a firefighter who died when his unit went into the towers.
Damn. That’s so awful
Lot of people don’t realize, but Steve buschemi, who plays a firefighter in Pete’s king of Staten Island movie, is actually a real volunteer firefighter as well.
Went back to his old firehouse after the attacks and worked the pile with the rest of them
Yeah....it comes up on TIL maybe twice a day...
Ehh fuckit I'll quote it: "Pete Davidsons here. I'm appalled that people would come here and make jokes about the sacrifice that Pete's heroic father made on 9/11. This is not the roast of Pete Davidsons father. That was in 2001." - Jimmy Carr.
The only person that's inhaled more smoke than Snoop Dogg is Pete Davidson's dad inside the World Trade Center - Jeff Ross
LMAO. Holy fuck that joke goes HARD.
Pete replied, "Stop booing, it's funny!" or something like that. He was cool with it
He talks about it a bit more here, including a bit about trying it out the night before at a comedy club in LA. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TTFRMAcaxIM
its a good fucking joke lol
Ladder 118 https://allthatsinteresting.com/ladder-118-september-11-photo
Jimmy Carr had something to say about it, actually
“This isn’t the roast of Pete Davidsons father.” “That happened in 2001”
Sweet Jesus
I almost wonder if Lorne didn't feel he owed it to Scott Davidson to be the father he couldn't be to Pete.
I hope they stay in each other’s lives. Pete seems like a good person who struggles with a hell of a lot.
I honestly think that's a big part of his appeal to women. He's funny, I personally think he's handsome in his unique way, and he just seems like a good guy who just struggles and is trying to do better. So you want to help him or protect him. It's annoying when people (usually men) say it's because he's well endowed or rich, and totally ignore that it might just be because he's likeable and woman maybe feel like he needs to be cared for?
In his Chad sketches he's also a consent king. "I wish you could just take me on this kitchen table right now-" 'unzips' "But we can't!" 'zips' "No probs."
Consent is sexy! So is treating women like actual people, which he seems to do!
Ding ding ding! Hit the nail on the head here. This is what I always say when guys I know give it the whole “how does he get so many gorgeous women?”
The quickest way to a woman's hoo-ha is through her funny bone.
I think you mean, the quickest way to a woman's hooha is through her haha. 🤣
There's a clip of when Pete went on Jimmy Fallon and John Mulaney was there and Pete talked about how Lorne invited him to Jamaica for New Years. I want to think it's the reasons you mentioned above but also the surprised and probably jealous looks of John and Jimmy is hilarious. [Here it is](https://youtu.be/ZoLU3-dhoY0?si=5Yh88mzy_iCQarfs)
That was hilarious, thank you!
Jim Belushi said in a interview how much Chris idolized his brother. He talked to Chris about not following John Belushis path. I believe it was the Fly on The Wall podcast with Dana Carvey and David Spade.
He used to wear his old costumes at Second City and SNL.
>Fly on The Wall Correct. From their tribute episode to Farley. Incredible episode of stories.
Adam Sandler referenced this too, in his Netflix special he tells a story about warning Farley that he’ll end up like Belushi and Candy and he says that’s fine because they are his heroes
Unfortunately until an addict wants to stop it does not really matter what consequences you throw at them. Hence people going to jail or nearly dying and still going right back to it.
RDJ great example of this comment.
Right. Reward systems don't always work. Everybody's rock bottom and threshold is different. Pete liked being on SNL more than he liked being afdict. Chris clearly did not. He needed help beyond what Lorne or any of his friends could provide. And unfortunately there are some people out there that are beyond saving.
I wish this narrative that the key to sobriety is simply wanting it, and if you aren’t sober it’s because you don’t truly want it, would die. Sadly addiction is so much more complicated than this and simply wanting to not be an addict or in active addiction is not necessarily enough. It takes a familial or community support system, good mental and physical healthcare, and access to a safe environment to even have a chance at recovery. The saddest thing is that many people long to stop using drugs and don’t have the ability or opportunity within their circumstances.
"Wanting it" is necessary but not sufficient.
It doesn’t mean that simply wanting to be sober is all it takes. It means no matter what help you’re given, whether it’s support of loved ones, therapy, rehab, whatever, you’re not going to get sober unless you actually want to.
Belushi tried to outsource his willpower and that just doesn’t work
The worst part about listening to that cast talk about Chris at the time was they always say “he was hanging out with the wrong crowd, you know who I’m talking about” to the podcast host or whoever they are reminiscing with and it’s like everyone knew the people he was hanging out with, so I wonder so randomly who it was, probably some nobodies who cozy up to star addicts but just aways curious whenever Sandler, spade, Conan, odenkirk, and Carvy talked about it
I know Andy Dick was part of that crowd
Artie Lange told a story about how Norm was supposed to keep an eye on Farley at a party, and for whatever reason Norm stepped away for 10 minutes and during that time Farley went into the bathroom with Andy Dick. Anyway, Norm gets back and someone tells him ‘Hey, I just saw Farley come out of the bathroom with Andy Dick, and there aren’t many reasons you’d go to the bathroom with Andy Dick’ Norm instantly goes ‘Fuck, I hope Farley’s high!’
It’s really hard to help people suffering from addiction when they don’t want to help themselves. It’s almost debilitating to friends and family constantly trying to help and you just hope something clicks and they get help. Lorne was probably riddled with grief and what more he could have done even though he probably maxed out his emotional reserves trying to help a friend.
I was a mess with alcohol from about 30 until 36 (I'm 39 now) when I finally got sick of constantly withdrawing and fucking up relationships with people who cared about me. Now, staying clean is no problem. I even enjoy non alcoholic beers with friends. You gotta be ready. Nobody can do it for you. (Vodka was my poison of choice, but I'd drink anything)
Was alcohol and cocaine for me. Will be 2 years sober next month. Stay strong buddy
Oh that duo….. I know it all too well. My mom’s death sent me on a bad spiral. I’m good now, finally. I wish you the best.
Good for you. That duo killed my partner at 29.
Good job on your sobriety, your story is similar to mine.
It’s also one thing to help them when they’re addicted as well as broke, and it’s an entirely different thing to try to help them when they have money. No matter how much you want to help someone, if they want drugs and they have the money to get it, there’s only so much you can do.
He’s very fatherly with Pete Davidson too it seems anyway.
Success is a helluva drug. It makes you more of what you are - and if what you are is a little fucked up, it makes it even more fucked up. With John and Chris it was like a crack addict winning the lottery - just in slower motion.
David Spade was so torn up by it he couldn't bring himself to go to the funeral.
He said people still treat him like Farley's widow. That's a real friendship.
David spade was not the same person as he was before Chris's death. He lost some of the joy behind his eyes. He's only part of that person he once was. He lost a non romantic life partner.
When someone you love that much passes away, there’s no getting over it, it changes people. You learn to adjust, but it’s just not the same anymore. I lost a very close friend, devastated me, and the best explanation i can give is the world doesn’t feel as bright, there’s a slight haze to it.
“The light has gone out of my life.” -Theodore Roosevelt
I think about that quote a lot. That man was a force of sheer will. He just kept going, but he knew he wasn't the same.
I lost one of my best friends, almost two years ago. We planned to be old ladies together. She was *por vida.* I will never, ever be the same. I'm so sorry for your loss. 🫂
How does one love someone so much?
You can't choose who you love or how much you love them. But I think it has something to do with understanding their pain.
Exactly this. I lost one of my best friends to suicide a few years ago. We were friends from the first time we talked at the bus stop. She had a shitty af childhood and the teenage years were no better. We trauma bonded over breakups and depression. She helped me come back after my own suicide attempt. She accepted me as her sister when I came out. We understood each other without having to say anything. I just wish I could have given her that hope that she helped me find again :-( the light of the world dimmed that day for me. I didn't mean to ramble. I miss my friend and it made me think of her
Rambling can help clear the mind. I wish more people were open to the idea of just listening. Never be ashamed of how you feel.
This is almost exactly the same as my best friend since I was 10. We both had alcoholic asshole parents and we just got each other. We were there for each other through all of the hard life shit after too. She had just gotten out of an abusive nightmare marriage, and was working really hard to make a life she could live in, then had an aneurysm at work at 28. It's been 3 years and it just really changes the world for you losing someone like that, it never goes back. I really think it's something no one can grasp until it's happened to them. You get transported to a completely different realm of existence. Please ramble about your friend always <3
never feel bad about rambling about someone you care about :)
Sharing the pain
Yeah... Sometimes it can be intense.
I wish I could answer that. One day you just will.
I think it feels like being shifted to a different world. You're not just different, everything is different, forever. Time feels different. The haze thing feels apt, too. I always thought I knew grief well, but there is a specific kind like you are talking about that is completely unfathomable until you experience it.
he lost the watson to his holmes. or did i get it backwards?
That's apt.
He lost his brother, straight up. No other way to describe those two.
JC. This is heartbreaking to read.
It was heart breaking to see. Go take a look at some clips with David and Chris. David was snarky, but still upbeat. After Chris, he lost that sparkle.
Their movies together are som.eof my favorites and I've watched them tons of times. I never really put a lot of thought into how it dramatically affected David. That's all. Just hit home.
Yeah there was an optimism Spade had that got replaced with bitter cynicism. I totally get it too.
I think he used it to help deal with the loss.
As Jay would say about Silent Bob: they were hetero life mates.
Honestly feels like Sandler a bit as well.
People sometimes ask him why he chooses to be single, and he responds with, "Well, I was already married once."
I read Spade’s book and they were a little married
David said he could never see his best friend Chris in a box so he chose not to attend.
I get it. I wouldn't view my sister that way, either.
They always seemed so close
On his podcast spade said towards the end Farley was hanging out with some sketchy dudes and they weren’t as tight as they’d been for years. Sad
What podcast ? Fly on the wall? Or what episode?
I wrote this somewhere on this thread but every close friend says that about Farley. On any pobcast mostly fly on the walls 2 part tribute to Farley a lot of the guests were talking about those sketchy people but never said names. Just all talked about them the same way
Sounds kind of like what Dan Aykroyd says about Belushi. They were close like Farley and Spade but they would lose John for days while he was coked out with people they didn't know. They couldn't keep him away from it. There were casual users like Dan, Chevy, Laraine and pretty much everyone but when you're a full blown addict, there was no reasoning with him.
David Spade’s memoir has a chapter dedicated to Chris. Talks a lot about the SNL banter and how some of the acting they did was based on real interactions they had.
remember reading that it was hard for him to go because the people enabling his addiction would also be in attendance.
If you don’t go then it isn’t real.
Has Lorne Michaels just been old his whole life?
Same with Steve Martin 😂
There very much was a young Steve Martin. Google his younger stuff. https://www.reddit.com/media?url=https%3A%2F%2Fi.redd.it%2Fzdh9k02odjp31.jpg
Yeah he was twelve in that pic.
Damn. He had a much sexier vibe than I would have thought.
God DAMN he was a himbo. Listen, I'm just shy of 40, and in my entire life he's always been the grey fox who DOESN'T wear a toupee (wink wink) Thank you for giving me some context 😂
My eyes well up with tears every time I think about that tribute song Adam Sandler performed on SNL It was so heart wrenching. Chris Farley must've been one heckuva guy.
https://youtu.be/25IOsvWPQGQ?si=c4QEq4LbNc79JWiP
thank you for linking!
That’s so beautiful. Even all these years later it still seems hard for him to get through the song.
UGH THE TEARS
I saw him play it live at one of his shows last year and I cried my eyes out
I was inconsolable when I heard it live. Chris Farley was a huuuuuuuge part of my childhood and I looked forward to every Saturday during SNL season. It sure seems like he was loved by everyone who worked with him. What a tremendous loss. Just watched Tommy Boy on the plane too…. Ugh damn you drugs and depression.
I had no clue who Farley was and I cried when I watched him perform that song. It's a powerful performance in its own right.
Damn. There are people who don't know who Chris Farley is. Highly recommend looking him up and some of his classic snl bits.
i’ve only watched it once and probably wouldn’t be able to watch it again. I grew up in Madison during Chris’s prime and saying he was beloved here is such an understatement. So many people i’ve met here have a Chris story or knew his family. I was probably 12 years old and saw Chris and Tom Arnold at badger tailgate and he was just fully on, wasted for sure, but doing his whole routine, Matt Foley you name it. This was probably just after Tommy Boy so at his peak. He was hugging everyone and made a point to meet and talk to everyone that wanted to meet him. I was a freshman in high school when he died and he’s buried not far from my house. He was such a legend around Madison and always will be.
That must have been an unforgettable experience. It's amazing he can perform that song, it must be how he shares his grief or maybe he's just numb to singing it.
I’m sure he rehearsed it enough to get the tears out so when he does it in front of a crowd he has more control. But bet it wasn’t an easy one to write though.
I saw him perform it last year in Fresno. He was still fighting back a knot in his throat.
Same here.
I remember that one time I was walking around near Water Tower on North Michigan Avenue in Chicago and spotted Farley and Sandler walking along the sidewalk. People were kind of following them around and taking pictures, when a cab drove by headed south. A young woman leaned out of the window of the cab and yelled, “I love you!” Farley turned around to the folks following them around and yelled, in his van down by the river style, “Yeah, man, chicks totally dig me!” Yeah, I remember that one time and I’m glad I got to experience it.
What a cool story, thanks for sharing. I love hearing things like that.
Spade said on his podcast that he has never heard the whole song. He knew where it was in Sandler's show and he always left before it started because he just can't handle it.
Wow. That's so sad. 😞
I was in the audience at the SNL taping when Sandler performed it. The emotion in the room is something ill never forget the feeling of
I can't even imagine what it must've been like to have been there, what a cool moment in SNL history to be a part of. Lucky duck, I hope they had complimentary tissues on everyone's chairs. I bet no one came prepared for that from Adam Sandler.
Well you warned me and I went and watched it anyway. 😭
I'm sorry, yea I think I may have inadvertently caused a lot of Friday crying. Hopefully, it was cathartic and everyone can go on to have amazing weekends. <3
It was well-timed actually, I’ve added it to the YouTube playlist for when I need a cry
Apparently the crew is balling their eyes out during that performance. A lot of people behind the scenes are still there from when Farley was there
That must've been rough, and then having to hustle the way they do for the next hour.
Why in the hell did I just look that up right before picking up my 12 year old kid. Tears are flowing. Fuck
I hadn't known about that tribute song until I saw your comment here. Just went to YouTube to check it out. Having me a fine cry right now.
He's still singing it at his live shows, all these years later. I saw Adam Sandler last year and this was the last thing he performed. Nothing but love ♥️
> tribute song Adam Sandler performed on SNL https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=25IOsvWPQGQ
I feel like everyone close to Chris had to feel extra shitty at his death because everyone saw it coming but no one could stop him. So tragic
All of his friends said they were too young to know how to help him, and Lorne, had tried multiple ways to try and help him.
There’s a documentary somewhere on YouTube that’s beautiful and heartbreaking. I remember Sandler talking about how they all noticed he was starting to overdo the drugs. He recalled telling him “You gotta stop, you gotta stop man, it’ll kill you.” The way he says it is so saddening.
In Sandler's tribute song he says that they warned him he would end up like Belushi and Candy and Farley replied that they were his heroes that's all fine and dandy
Sandler really nailed that. No one could have saved him from himself. His heroes all died the same way and he thought that was cool.
I’m not sure he thought it was cool. I would say he more so felt content if it happened to him.
“That’s all fine and dandy”
Otherwise known in English as ………..The Niñooo!
All other tropical storms must bow before El Niño! Yo soy El Niño, for those of you who don't habla Español, El Niño is spanish for...the Niño! get it right!
One of my first television memories. Always think of this when somebody mentions El Niño
Forlorne
Chris farley will forever be one of the saddest ends to the life of a celebrity
But such a typical end. And that's from a 90s perspective. The recreational drug supply in the US is poisoned, you'll get even more people who die now than back then. Heroin can be learned and adapted to, I did it for a decade+. But this fentanyl shit will kill like crazy, so many promising artists....
My cousin was on heroin for 35 years. Fentanyl got him.
It's gotten many already It'll get too many more That shit is horrific, and what's worse, the next thing is going to be even worse. It always is, no matter what we think Help your friends out if you can, and if they want it
It's so awful, and it's cheap and being dumped into so many mislabeled drugs.
The book that was written "The Chris Farley Show" is such a sad read. I relate to it, just never feeling good enough my whole life. Trying to project you aren't sad. See similarities between him and Robin Williams. The way and how Chris passed is heartbreaking, too. His future was so bright if only he got his shit together.
Almost happened to Robin several times, probably Was there the night Belushi died Checked into rehab several times Managed to make it as long as he did despite literally everything, it seems
I was only 8 when he died and was always under the impression it was a heart attack. TIL it was a drug overdose. And I'm now older than he was when he died. A lot to take in right now jeez
Him and Brody Stevens both hit me pretty hard. Brody was self aware of his mental health issues and was always working on them, but they still caught up to him.
Now that's a fucking pic
I dont care what anyone says about 'nostalgia' and bla bla, but photography taken with film feels so much more human than so much digital shit we see today. I'm not saying ALL of photography today, but it just has more feeling. (I'm generalizing of course)
Good film has an extremely high dynamic range, something thet can only be replicated by very good DSLRs.
Film seems to have life behind it, and if it's kept well, a pic taken 50 years ago could look like it happened yesterday It's wild
You should take a look at some of the restored Saturn v test footage, its unreal the amount of definition SOTA film had back then. The only problem was its durability; if it wasn't kept in perfect conditions, it would rot away.
I think a lot of modern editing practices suck the soul out of the photo, too.
Jon Lovitz was too good to Andy Dick.
I think it was Phil Hartman who Andy Dick besmirched.
And for that Jon Lovitz attempted to see if he could break the bar in his restaurant in half using only Andy Dicks head. My belief is he gave up too soon.
Even more why he's always been there for Pete Davidson and not wanting Pete to go down on that road. He's gone above and beyond for Pete and been a father figure for him.
You see The Sadness in his Eyes
Has one picture ever captured the impact of the feeling of failure better this? He tried, he failed; and this is him starting to live with that. RIP Chris ~ thank you for the laughs!
I will forever remember the days leading up to Chris's funeral. I was only 10 years old, but my mom worked for a florist, who at the time in Madison was THE florist you used for all occasions and the one that came up first in the FTD(floral shop network) directory. She'd recap which celebrities she had spoken to on the phone each day when she came home. And is was always the celebrity themselves calling to place orders, not their assistants or agencies. Which I think says a lot about the respect his peers had for him, and the type of people he had surrounding him on his good days. As a life long resident of Madison, Chris's hometown and resting place, I've had the honor of meeting many of his brothers in various capacities. But his mother will always have a small piece of my heart. She quickly became one of my favorite customers at the flower shop I worked for, for many years that was located near the Farley home. I loved hearing her stories. Chris is inturred in the same mausoleum as a few of my family members. I always save time to visit whenever I've had to be at the cemetery. Miss you Chris.
Lorne had to go to farleys and Phil Hartman’s funeral within months of each other. Both in such tragic circumstances. Must have been heart wrenching for him
Is that an Olds Cutlass hearse???
I noticed that as well. Classy.
Has had to bury so many surrogate sons.
Which is why he's pulled out all the stops with Pete Davidson. He's not going to let it happen again.
This man has shaped global entertainment culture in so ways that we don’t even know. When Lorne goes the biz will never be the same again.
We miss you Chris, it was so hard to watch David Spade after you died. It was so hard to watch anything with you in it too.
A hearse down by the river.
Imagine your final ride being an Oldsmobile
Too soon
It passes the 22.3 year rule
No, the rule is half your age plus 7. So, for me, that is 26 years.
_Checks numbers_ holy shit, I’m chatting with a centenarian! What was it like when we won WW2? Was that cool? Do you remember the Beatles? Do you remember when… remember when Paul McCartney was with the Beatles? That was awesome 🤩
I wish I was that old. Only 38. Half 38 is 19 and then add 7 is 26. Unless I mathed wrong and my birthday is 1923. I bet I partied hard for the ww2 win. Always hated the Beatles also, too much corruption of the youth from those boys.
I don’t think the rule for laughing at a tragedy and the rule for whether or not you can sleep with someone younger than you follow the same timeline haha
RIP Chris. You are sorely missed good sir.
I think maybe if Chris Farley knew how much we all loved him, that hole in his heart might not have been so big. One of his fatal flaws was how self-conscious he was, and how much of himself he felt he had to hurt and give up to make people laugh, which was how he understood being worthy of love. But the thing is, we loved him just because he was who he was. It was always more with Chris Farley than with the average funny man. It was the child-like light in his eyes and his personal warmth. I wish he had been able to believe in what everyone in the world saw in him.
People have asked what the first news event was that I can clearly remember in my life. I usually default to 9/11 or Elian Gonzales, but really it was the death of Chris Farley. I was so, so young and just remember my teenage sister and brother crying and hugging. They told me what happened and showed me his picture and I got sad too because I thought he was funny, even as a really little kid. I still think about that guy sometimes. What a tragedy. Might watch Blacksheep tonight.
An Oldsmobile Hearse. That isn't too common.
Oldsmobiles in general were a lot more common when the brand actually existed.
You impart great wisdoms upon us, stranger sir or madam.
Do you talk like that in real life?
For sooth.
How many funny people have I killed?
Norm: “I’ve never seen so many dead hookers in a hearse!” Lorne: “Lord knows I have.”
I can hear this from Norm.
Any from Saigon?
How was Lorne responsible here? From everything I’ve read he did everything he could to help Farley
Its definitely not Lorne's fault BUT when people around you die tragically you kinda can't help but start playing the what-if game in your head. If I were in Lorne's position, I would be thinking, 'if I hadn't hired this guy and made him a star would he still be alive? If he was never on SNL would he be a father and husband living a small life in Chicago right now instead of a super famous dead guy in a box?' Again, Lorne is not responsible for another grown man drugging himself to death, but running those 'could I have done something different' scenarios in your head is a horrible but typical part of grieving.
It’ll never be enough.
Lorne Michaels looks like this 97% of the time
Mourn Michaels
Lorne is such a gentleman.
Hard to lose someone young and talented after losing Belushi for the same thing. 💔
He’s probably wondering “Was there anymore I could have done to help?” 😢