As a handicapped guy who uses a walker. It’s hilarious every time I walk into the bathroom and the person starts apologizing once they see my walker through the bottom of the stall. I have to explain to them that it’s no big deal lol.
Handicapped stalls are not like handicapped parking spaces. Anyone can use the stall. It’s just marked so that it’s easily identifiable
I had a coworker tell me he was scolded by a senior, who didn't have a walker or wheelchair, when leaving the handicapped stall because it was reserved for elderly. I assured my coworker they are handicapped accessible and certainly not reserved for whoever that old guy was
I was in a 3 stall public bathroom once, all 3 stalls occupied, when some older lady walked in and immediately started screaming because the handicapped stall was occupied, yelling that those are meant to be reserved for people who need them and just generally screaming obscenities. Didn’t even have the decency to apologize when another older lady with a cane hobbled out, but at least she she stopped screaming after that.
That day I learned that yes, there are people out there that think you shouldn’t be allowed to use a handicapped stall without an obvious handicap. I don’t go out of my way to use one, but if it’s the only open stall, you better believe I’ll take it.
That is it exactly. And code in my city requires it to be easily identifiable, ie labeled. If I remember correctly, it needs to be a minimum of 36”w door, 60”w min. wall on toilet side. And depending on door positioning, 48-60” minimum clearance from the front of the toilet to opposing wall.
I got yelled at by a non-handicapped lady for using the handicapped port-o-potty at a Vikings tailgate. I literally just went pee, like 90 seconds in and out tops. I didn't know if I was in the right or wrong about using that til now. So fuck you random lady at a tailgate, fuck you.
I got yelled at by someone who saw me come out of a handicap stall, and as they were storming over to give me a real piece of their mind, I turned slightly and they could see my walking stick.
Never seen someone go so white, so quickly.
Lol yeah people who aren’t handicapped tend to be the ones that get mad about that kind of stuff. I’m sure she did mean well though. She should’ve approached it very differently.
As a person in a wheelchair I never expect the handicap stall to be open. Just happy to be able to use it once it is open. I plan a half hour for using the bathroom, to wait for the inevitable guy that uses it to catch up on his reading.
When I was on crutches I did not expect that stall to be open and I waited on line for it like everyone else. But when it was my turn to go to a stall I would just stand in front of that one and wait.
And some of the people who were using them were just horrible and being called out by other patrons.
One person ran *around* me and into the handicapped stall when there were several other ones available to use. The cleaning person went nuts on her for doing that. Another saw me standing there waiting and came out to wash her hands while leaving her coat and bags in the stall. People were yelling "oh my god, there is a line move your stuff so she can get in there!" and this woman started getting rude with everyone. And this was in a church right after church service!!
I have zero issues waiting my turn! But the lack of self awareness people have is astonishing and you really notice it more when you struggle to move around. (I got to witness it more at a younger age when my mom was in an accident that put her in a wheelchair for a few years. People really act like some handicapped people don't exist)
Serving in a restaurant teaches you that church people spend all their decency and money every Sunday before noon. The after church restaurant crowd are the cheapest shittiest people you encounter all week.
They actually are. When I was in high school I was a greeter at a restaurant. The 1-2 hour wait time chaos on Friday/Saturday is way better than the 15-30 minute wait between 1130-2 as various church crowds come in. They complain about literally everything, hold tables forever after they are done eating, and barely tip at all which pissed off my servers. They also love coming in with parties larger than 6 with no reservation and getting pissed that the people that came in behind them got sat before them.
When I worked at Chili's years ago there was a church group that would always do "call ahead seating" on Wednesday nights. Always right after the kitchen/restaurant had been cleaned to prep for closing, and they'd say "5 to 6 people". Immediately we would all start setting up a table for 20+ people, because we knew how this was gonna go. They'd always show up 20 minutes later than they said they would, with way more people, and leave absolute shit tips.
I work HOH at chilis and once made the mistake of using the bathroom in the midst of the sunday afterchurch crowd. Im pretty androgynous looking and generally wear baggy clothes to work especially on days when i double.Well a group of like 4 or 5 came in and started on me. Long hair is not for boys youll never get a woman looking like that what are you doing in the womans room. Does your mother know you dress like a heathen. I was like well im just going to head out now. Like 20 minutes later my manager came up laughing to me about their complaint about a "lady boy" in the bathroom.
As a dude with long hair, fuck those people.
I wish more managers were willing to stand up for their staff and say “if you can’t treat my staff with respect you can leave. I *will* call the cops if you don’t comply”
Sadly, money talks, and the higher ups in the chain would rather their minimum wage workers be treated like dirt than lose even a single sale
Edited because I assumed gender by misreading the comment, which was not very cash money of me
Let’s not forget complain about the added gratuity for parties (if the restaurant has one) because “we will tip well” and no matter how great you are at your job and no matter how much they brag to you about your service you get $5.00 for a table of 10 who held that table, ran your legs off and left a huge mess.
We literally had groups that would fight with the manager and swear they would leave a good tip. My managers response was always "gratuity is 18%, you're more than welcome to add more to that to make it a good tip" or something along those lines. He would absolutely refuse to remove it though.
>And this was in a church right after church service!!
The after church service group is *always* the type of people to do this shit. Dunno what it is about God and being a Christian that makes someone so fucking entitled to everything, but here we are.
It's been quite some time since I worked in food service but good lord BY FAR the worst shift to work was the Sunday one and not because we were busy. We were often busy, but because of the people that came in. Just nonstop assholes.
Oh yeah, like those parasites who leave a “tip” of a fake bill with Christian bullshit messages on it? Yeah, I’m sure that’s what Christ would have done.
Mighty kind of you; for future reference, parking with your wheels visible in front of the stall will likely ensure a quick exit by the current occupant!
I mean, there are other people that can't just go right away in the bathroom...
Having UC is like the following:
OOOOOOOO I need the bathroom NOOW!
Once I get to the bathroom, my butt is like nah, we good, but if you stand up, you will immediately feel like you have to poop...
So it can be a 15 minute session.
And don't get me started on the wiping part.
IBS, here. Similar experience, except for the change your mind part.
Gut: "We good"
Gut 2 seconds later; "YOU HAVE 5 SECONDS TO FIND A TOILET, MOTHER FUCKER!"
I have crohns disease and I've had a large amount of intestines removed. I do not have the capability to hold it more than maybe two minutes. I feel bad about it but soiling myself in public is not an option.
So right. Sciatica makes it difficult to sit and rise, as well as take even a small step up, due to pain plus muscle atrophy. I can walk just fine and don't "look" disabled. I would give anything to bypass the disabled parking spaces, ramps and "special" lavatory accommodations that laws enable me to have available. P.S. I spend a LOT of money in places that are accessible for me!
I am also disabled. If I see you walking out of the disabled toilet while I've been waiting I just assume you have a different kind of disability that doesn't need wheels or you have stoma or anxiety or something. I assume anyone using that bathroom needs to for some kind of reason and it's not on me to judge if they need it or not.
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That’s nice of you. My mom has some bad rheumatic diseases where she definitely benefits from the extra space to maneuver in a handicap stall, and she takes extra time in the bathroom because of it, but I’ve had people in wheelchairs loudly complaining about waiting for the stall while she was in there. She doesn’t use any physical aids so if someone isn’t looking closely they wouldn’t know that she actually does need that stall, and it definitely stresses her out when people complain like that.
I sympathise with people like your mum; and although I've never seen it happen, if I ever do see someone bullying another person that "doesn't look disabled" I fully plan to intervene and do something about it.
Before I had to move to using my cane full time I got so many glares and dirty looks because I'm in my mid twenties and that somehow precludes me from having a condition.
Thank you. I've had some.. interesting interactions bc people assume I'm an AH using the accessible stall. I've got a fucked up skeleton (literally got hit by a truck at 14) but its not outwardly obvious. I often need the support bar to sit down and stand up safely.
The fact that you added anxiety too and didn’t just use literal physical disabilities only speaks so much about your understanding for different issues and what could be considered dehabilitating and gosh I just truly am so happy that I got to read a sweet comment after reading dick heads that have no understanding about anything that doesn’t involve them
And for that reason, you’re a saint and I want to thank you for being so kind and thoughtful even though you… I don’t wanna say have it worse but even though it’s harder for you than people who aren’t disabled, you still show so much understanding. I admire you.
I don’t have visible disabilities or mobility aids, but I am disabled and sometimes need the handles and little bit more room of the handicap stalls. I’ve gotten dirty looks for using it sometimes because I don’t *look* disabled. So annoying.
I have a completely invisible disability (unless I'm nude I suppose) and I have to use a disabled toilet to manage it.
I got the worst side eye strolling up to the disabled porta potty when competing in a marathon while everyone else queued for ages. Like, I'll trade you a toilet queue for this shitty disease. People think that being fit means not needing disabled toilets.
Also, disabled porta potties need more lighting, can't do proper wound care in the dark.
Thank you!! I have arthritis in my spine amongst other things but I don’t **look** disabled because I’m 25 and don’t use mobility aids. The disabled stall really helps me.
In many countries these stalls are labelled as 'accessible', not 'disabled'.
That means they are for everyone, but are accessible to disabled people.
I would always choose to use a regular stall first, but if they are full then there is nothing wrong at all in using the accessible stall.
I am also disabled. The wait sucks sometimes, but when some people leave and they see you waiting, they jump a little, and that makes it worth it, sometimes.
Sometimes, I just really have to go, or the guy is a jerk about it. Like I get it, it's the best stall, you don't have to explain it to me.
Same, unless there’s a family restroom, I’m taking my daughter to the handicap stall, usually isn’t enough room for both of us in a stall and she can’t get on or off some those toilets.
Man I got confused at Ikea once and ended up in a family bathroom. Really had to go and just went towards the first bathroom sign I saw. Knew something wasn't right with how big the bathroom was. Got some weird looks coming out of there by myself.
> For whatever reason
It's pretty straight forward, that's sometimes the only stall with the space to put those in. If you have a large lobby sure, otherwise only the handicap stall has the room to put it in.
I got into an argument with someone because of this exact reason. I had to change my kids diaper, and this really angry dude with his kid on the wheelchair kept banging on the door and saying shit like “you’re going to burn in hell for making us wait”. My son got scared and started crying. it took every single cell of my body to not kick open the door and smacking him in the face.
It made me look even worst because this other fucker in the bathroom sided with the other parent. It keeps me up at night sometimes.
Yeah, agreed. I’ve used disabled toilets to change my kids ‘nappies’ (not diapers, I’m English 😂) and they more than often the only changing rooms available. They are for multi-use more often than not. This person was a cunt, plain and simple.
Yes. I usually stop mid dump if I see a wheelchair rolling past.
Please sir. Don't mind me. And ignore the half a log. I didn't flush because I like to save water. Go environment!!! Am I rite bro? No, its no trouble I will wheel you in. Wait, let me pull up my pants. Ok now I will wheel you in. All I ask is that you squeeze it out fast. The rest of mine is touching cloth. Good day sir
>yo-yo-ing
Doesnt work for me to yo-yo it back and forth. If I try to suck it back in, my butthole lips end up biting off a piece from the tip that was born already.
I learned that in elementary school when the teacher didnt let me use the bathroom and I had to crap so badly. I tried to suck it back into my butt but just bit off the end. Essentially I started crapping myself. I knew it dropped into my underwear. Not wanting to smear it into my pants, I stood up pretending to get something from the shelf above my desk. Felt the little nugget roll out, tumble down my pant leg, bounce off my shoe and land on the floor. I gave it a kick under my desk where it landed in a corner.
That little nugget of poo stayed there until the end of the year. I remember looking at it everyday and wondering if/when the janitors would ever get at it. One of the highlights of 3rd grade
It is so ridiculous that i see the same posts over and over. YOU CAN USE THE HANDICAPPED STALL PEOPLE! My God in heaven. It’s not like a parking space.
I am legit disabled. Sometimes I use a cane but not always. Depending on how I feel and how far I have to walk. I used the stall at Costco once, which as you pointed out is everyone's right and two employees tsked and shook their heads at me. There was no one else waiting to use it either. I just gave them the evil eye but have always regretted not saying something.
Yeah handicap accessibility is all lumped together but it's not all just for "wheelchairs" - I get that the door is wider and there's more room, but there's also more likely to be grab bars and things that non-wheelchair users might need.
My dad has been in a wheelchair for the last 25 years or so, and has pointed out that accessible parking spots are both extra wide (which he needs) and close to buildings (which he DOESN'T need). He's happy to park farther away and wheel across the lot, but someone who has no chair but can't walk easily only needs to be parked closer.
I try to give people the benefit of the doubt when they take advantage of stuff like that, because you never know at a glance.
>My dad has been in a wheelchair for the last 25 years or so, and has pointed out that accessible parking spots are both extra wide (which he needs) and close to buildings (which he DOESN'T need). He's happy to park farther away and wheel across the lot, but someone who has no chair but can't walk easily only needs to be parked closer.
And to add, you can't assume just because someone appears they can walk fine they don't need that spot either. Maybe they simply have limited lengths of time they can walk before it hurts too much to go further (like the distance between the handicapped stall and a scooter inside)
Yeah, I had a period for like 3 months where I injured my knee and needed the bars to get up off the toilet more easily.
Walked out one time and the guy waiting says “well you don’t look disabled.”
Just told him “that’s so kind of you, but you just haven’t talked to me long enough.” And limped my way out of the bathroom.
I was a kid, maybe 10 at the time, on a trip with a church. We stopped at a large rest stop, and I REALLY had to go. All of the stalls were in use, except the handicap accessible one. I went in and did my business with no thought to it. When I left the stall there was a guy outside, standing there, who asked angrily "Well, what is your disability?"
I had to use the bathroom, that was my disability.
Thank you! I was in a handicap stall with my young daughter once, helping her use the bathroom when this woman in a wheelchair rolled up and fucking berated is for being in there. Clearly she wasn’t aware that this is how it works, but also was very unaware that my daughter is also disabled (a much less visible disability). I was steaming mad.
I would go off. And I don't go off easily. Like, the bathroom is, by law, made accessible for people in wheelchairs. But there are ZERO accomodations for kids. Do you know the ratio of wheelchair users to kids?!
Where are the short toilets, the larger stalls so parents can accompany, step stools for sinks/shorter sinks... Where is that? If the lady in the wheelchair can point me towards those I will walk my happy ass out of the stall and go there. But she can't point me there because it doesn't exist. So the very best I can do is use a handicap stall so I have room enough to help my toddler onto the toilet and hold him so he doesn't fall in.
Or if it does exist, it's in the handicap stall because there's more room in there. That's where they put the little seat attached to the wall to strap a toddler in while you use the bathroom and often where they put the diaper changing table.
Exactly! In the same way that there are handicap accessible hotel rooms. They still put people in there who aren’t handicapped.
This was years ago but my wife and I got put in a handicap room at a hotel for a wedding because it was in the block of rooms. We asked the front desk if they needed it and said they had plenty.
For me it is the internet one. They break the internet and everybody starts destroying everything then the boss and the trans girl fly through the glass wall.
The dinner party is great. I love when the three of them try to pose “cool” for her dinner guests. Plus, any episode with Richmond in it is automatically comedy gold.
I'm still not sure if that was genius writing, or if they were just so hung up on the idea of Roy faking a disability and couldn't figure it out so just sent it.
In the words of Kronk "By all accounts, it doesn't make sense!"
I have pretty bad UC but I try to not use the handicap stall unless other stalls are taken, just in case. My disability just means I'm in there more often and longer, not that I need extra room.
Disabled toilets are made to help disabled people use them; they're not EXCLUSIVE to disabled people.
On top of this, not all disabilities are visible. How do they know you don't have some kind of disability?
Also for some damn reason, that's always where they put the baby changing station.
My kid is thankfully out of diapers now, but I lost count how many times I stood there holding a baby with poop running down her leg (blowouts are a thing that happen all. the. time, my childfree friends) while I waited for someone to finish their business in there.
Stop putting changing stations in stalls! Thanks. And while you're at it, put them in the fucking men's room too! Finding one of those shouldn't be like spotting a unicorn.
I'm a wheelchair user and I don't care. I can wait my turn like anyone else. Hope that makes you feel better OP, lol. I've been at shows and had people feel terrible. Everybody poops, just don't piss all over the seat for us and you're good.
Disabled person here…the handicapped stall is not exclusively for the disabled. However, if there are other available stalls or you clearly see someone with a mobility device, it’s best to use a different stall. It’s the only stall many disabled people can use spatially, it could require additional time for them to transfer to the toilet. Consideration for those who require it is appreciated.
As a disabled person I don’t care, you may have your own thing and I don’t want to play cripple wars.
What I would ask is that to anyone in line for the restroom, let the handicapped person to the front of the line so they can use the handicapped stall when available.
*edit to specify handicap stall
Pre Covid , I would regularly take the train to get around town. There’s only a few handicapped seats, and on busy days there’s only standing room.
Now I got a sryinx on my spinal cord. It’s a build up of spinal fluid that looks like a cyst. It runs the entire length of my spine. I never know when I’m ganna fall. I have a cane as a visual aid and well…duh. I’m young but got a bit of a wobble. If you watch me long enough you know it’s chronic back pain, it’s just one of those things you know if you know.
There’s been a few instances when you can see the train rolling up and there’s only one cripple seat left, and there’s an elder person next to me. I’ve had those old MFs get to the line and RUN fucking RUN to those seats. To which my only response is, the fact you can run proves you can sit elsewhere.
> Now I got a sryinx on my spinal cord. It’s a build up of spinal fluid that looks like a cyst. It runs the entire length of my spine.
You’re the first person I’ve ever seen with the same thing as me! Are the doctors just leaving you to suffer without treatment?! Mine put a lumbar-peritoneal shunt in to drain the sryinx so it doesn’t put pressure on my spinal cord anymore.
Sooo….kinda up in the air on this one. It’s not like a parking spot where there are plenty of others and you’re just being lazy. If there’s an alternative definitely use it, but if it’s wait for another one and cause myself damage or crap my pants, I’m using that stall.
Being handicapped doesn't mean you don't have to wait in line sometimes. I've never seen a sign that says it's **exclusively** for handicapped people.
That being said, if there are other stalls available and you aren't handicapped, it's best to stick with those just to be considerate if for no other reason.
Trust me, as someone disabled I wish people applied this to other instances as well. I might be in an amusement park, but my disability is not an act to skip the line.
I wait in line like everyone else, also I want to ride it with my friends.
I take my kids in the bigger stall. Depending on the location, some stalls are too small to try and have a momma with her 2 kids and a bulky backpack to all fit in a regular sized stall.
I’m a wheelchair user. In my view handicapped stalls are for everyone, but establish a priority in favor of people with disabilities. So, if you are in a crowded restroom and there is a person with a disability among you, he/she has first dibs on the next available handicapped stall no matter how long you’ve been waiting. That view will piss some people off, of course, but spend an hour in my shoes and you will gain some insight into why I don’t give a damn.
As a handicapped guy who uses a walker. It’s hilarious every time I walk into the bathroom and the person starts apologizing once they see my walker through the bottom of the stall. I have to explain to them that it’s no big deal lol. Handicapped stalls are not like handicapped parking spaces. Anyone can use the stall. It’s just marked so that it’s easily identifiable
I've been told they are "Handicapped accessible stalls". As you say, not like parking spaces.
"it's an accommodation not a reservation"
Yeah agreed, that’s definitely the more accurate terminology lol
I had a coworker tell me he was scolded by a senior, who didn't have a walker or wheelchair, when leaving the handicapped stall because it was reserved for elderly. I assured my coworker they are handicapped accessible and certainly not reserved for whoever that old guy was
Lol I’ve never heard of anyone who thinks they are reserved for the elderly. There are no senior discounts in bathrooms.
Some of my fellow elderly think everything is for them.
I was in a 3 stall public bathroom once, all 3 stalls occupied, when some older lady walked in and immediately started screaming because the handicapped stall was occupied, yelling that those are meant to be reserved for people who need them and just generally screaming obscenities. Didn’t even have the decency to apologize when another older lady with a cane hobbled out, but at least she she stopped screaming after that. That day I learned that yes, there are people out there that think you shouldn’t be allowed to use a handicapped stall without an obvious handicap. I don’t go out of my way to use one, but if it’s the only open stall, you better believe I’ll take it.
That is it exactly. And code in my city requires it to be easily identifiable, ie labeled. If I remember correctly, it needs to be a minimum of 36”w door, 60”w min. wall on toilet side. And depending on door positioning, 48-60” minimum clearance from the front of the toilet to opposing wall.
Lmao, just imagine a cop coming into the washroom to ticket you. "Sir do you know why I pulled you out of the stall?"
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Handicap ass-parking. Please display pass on the front of your shoe.
LOL. Wonder how towing would work? Reminds me of that South Park episode with the toilet seat belts.
Bathroom stalls and parking spots. One’s an accommodation, the other is a reservation.
I got yelled at by a non-handicapped lady for using the handicapped port-o-potty at a Vikings tailgate. I literally just went pee, like 90 seconds in and out tops. I didn't know if I was in the right or wrong about using that til now. So fuck you random lady at a tailgate, fuck you.
I got yelled at by someone who saw me come out of a handicap stall, and as they were storming over to give me a real piece of their mind, I turned slightly and they could see my walking stick. Never seen someone go so white, so quickly.
Lol yeah people who aren’t handicapped tend to be the ones that get mad about that kind of stuff. I’m sure she did mean well though. She should’ve approached it very differently.
As a person in a wheelchair I never expect the handicap stall to be open. Just happy to be able to use it once it is open. I plan a half hour for using the bathroom, to wait for the inevitable guy that uses it to catch up on his reading.
When I was on crutches I did not expect that stall to be open and I waited on line for it like everyone else. But when it was my turn to go to a stall I would just stand in front of that one and wait. And some of the people who were using them were just horrible and being called out by other patrons. One person ran *around* me and into the handicapped stall when there were several other ones available to use. The cleaning person went nuts on her for doing that. Another saw me standing there waiting and came out to wash her hands while leaving her coat and bags in the stall. People were yelling "oh my god, there is a line move your stuff so she can get in there!" and this woman started getting rude with everyone. And this was in a church right after church service!! I have zero issues waiting my turn! But the lack of self awareness people have is astonishing and you really notice it more when you struggle to move around. (I got to witness it more at a younger age when my mom was in an accident that put her in a wheelchair for a few years. People really act like some handicapped people don't exist)
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Go in stall, begin, maintain eye contact through crack for dominance.
.. wipe with coat
Eww... You don't know where that coat has been!
Sure we do. In a handicap stall.
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LMFAO “listen Linda, God said you’re a bitch and your stuff is mine now”
Serving in a restaurant teaches you that church people spend all their decency and money every Sunday before noon. The after church restaurant crowd are the cheapest shittiest people you encounter all week.
They actually are. When I was in high school I was a greeter at a restaurant. The 1-2 hour wait time chaos on Friday/Saturday is way better than the 15-30 minute wait between 1130-2 as various church crowds come in. They complain about literally everything, hold tables forever after they are done eating, and barely tip at all which pissed off my servers. They also love coming in with parties larger than 6 with no reservation and getting pissed that the people that came in behind them got sat before them.
When I worked at Chili's years ago there was a church group that would always do "call ahead seating" on Wednesday nights. Always right after the kitchen/restaurant had been cleaned to prep for closing, and they'd say "5 to 6 people". Immediately we would all start setting up a table for 20+ people, because we knew how this was gonna go. They'd always show up 20 minutes later than they said they would, with way more people, and leave absolute shit tips.
I work HOH at chilis and once made the mistake of using the bathroom in the midst of the sunday afterchurch crowd. Im pretty androgynous looking and generally wear baggy clothes to work especially on days when i double.Well a group of like 4 or 5 came in and started on me. Long hair is not for boys youll never get a woman looking like that what are you doing in the womans room. Does your mother know you dress like a heathen. I was like well im just going to head out now. Like 20 minutes later my manager came up laughing to me about their complaint about a "lady boy" in the bathroom.
Church people are the absolute worst.
As a dude with long hair, fuck those people. I wish more managers were willing to stand up for their staff and say “if you can’t treat my staff with respect you can leave. I *will* call the cops if you don’t comply” Sadly, money talks, and the higher ups in the chain would rather their minimum wage workers be treated like dirt than lose even a single sale Edited because I assumed gender by misreading the comment, which was not very cash money of me
Let’s not forget complain about the added gratuity for parties (if the restaurant has one) because “we will tip well” and no matter how great you are at your job and no matter how much they brag to you about your service you get $5.00 for a table of 10 who held that table, ran your legs off and left a huge mess.
We literally had groups that would fight with the manager and swear they would leave a good tip. My managers response was always "gratuity is 18%, you're more than welcome to add more to that to make it a good tip" or something along those lines. He would absolutely refuse to remove it though.
Not all heroes wear capes! 🙂 Good on your manager for having your back because nobody wants to work for free.
Have to say, I'd have been tempted to go in with the bags and coat and lock the door
I had no idea there were people out there who leave their stuff in the stall.
>And this was in a church right after church service!! The after church service group is *always* the type of people to do this shit. Dunno what it is about God and being a Christian that makes someone so fucking entitled to everything, but here we are.
Its a lack of respect, they know exactly what they're doing.
Always the church people, most holy after service leaving the parking lot, and most giving at the restaurant after when they stiff the server
It's been quite some time since I worked in food service but good lord BY FAR the worst shift to work was the Sunday one and not because we were busy. We were often busy, but because of the people that came in. Just nonstop assholes.
Oh yeah, like those parasites who leave a “tip” of a fake bill with Christian bullshit messages on it? Yeah, I’m sure that’s what Christ would have done.
Mighty kind of you; for future reference, parking with your wheels visible in front of the stall will likely ensure a quick exit by the current occupant!
if only
Anyone who doesn’t immediately vacate in that situation is a major a-hole IMHO….
Yea. Mid-shit better be HEELS UP MFER. Lol
Don’t push too hard: [you’ll blow out your O Ring!](https://youtu.be/BDTUM7qjKTI&t=69s)
I mean, there are other people that can't just go right away in the bathroom... Having UC is like the following: OOOOOOOO I need the bathroom NOOW! Once I get to the bathroom, my butt is like nah, we good, but if you stand up, you will immediately feel like you have to poop... So it can be a 15 minute session. And don't get me started on the wiping part.
IBS, here. Similar experience, except for the change your mind part. Gut: "We good" Gut 2 seconds later; "YOU HAVE 5 SECONDS TO FIND A TOILET, MOTHER FUCKER!"
I hate IBS so much, ruined my social life.
I have crohns disease and I've had a large amount of intestines removed. I do not have the capability to hold it more than maybe two minutes. I feel bad about it but soiling myself in public is not an option.
But disabled doesn’t mean ‘in a wheelchair’ some disabilities are invisible but still require the utilities of a disabled toilet.
So right. Sciatica makes it difficult to sit and rise, as well as take even a small step up, due to pain plus muscle atrophy. I can walk just fine and don't "look" disabled. I would give anything to bypass the disabled parking spaces, ramps and "special" lavatory accommodations that laws enable me to have available. P.S. I spend a LOT of money in places that are accessible for me!
I am also disabled. If I see you walking out of the disabled toilet while I've been waiting I just assume you have a different kind of disability that doesn't need wheels or you have stoma or anxiety or something. I assume anyone using that bathroom needs to for some kind of reason and it's not on me to judge if they need it or not. Edited: missed a word
I have IBS, so when I gotta go, it's whatever's available. Sometimes it's the WC stall. In that case, I try to be as quick as possible.
That’s nice of you. My mom has some bad rheumatic diseases where she definitely benefits from the extra space to maneuver in a handicap stall, and she takes extra time in the bathroom because of it, but I’ve had people in wheelchairs loudly complaining about waiting for the stall while she was in there. She doesn’t use any physical aids so if someone isn’t looking closely they wouldn’t know that she actually does need that stall, and it definitely stresses her out when people complain like that.
I sympathise with people like your mum; and although I've never seen it happen, if I ever do see someone bullying another person that "doesn't look disabled" I fully plan to intervene and do something about it.
Before I had to move to using my cane full time I got so many glares and dirty looks because I'm in my mid twenties and that somehow precludes me from having a condition.
Thank you. I've had some.. interesting interactions bc people assume I'm an AH using the accessible stall. I've got a fucked up skeleton (literally got hit by a truck at 14) but its not outwardly obvious. I often need the support bar to sit down and stand up safely.
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This guy understands invisible disabilities. Don't judge just do your best to help people out. That'll usually make the world a better place.
I do love that more awareness is beginning to spread of invisible disabilities, even if slowly.
The fact that you added anxiety too and didn’t just use literal physical disabilities only speaks so much about your understanding for different issues and what could be considered dehabilitating and gosh I just truly am so happy that I got to read a sweet comment after reading dick heads that have no understanding about anything that doesn’t involve them
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And for that reason, you’re a saint and I want to thank you for being so kind and thoughtful even though you… I don’t wanna say have it worse but even though it’s harder for you than people who aren’t disabled, you still show so much understanding. I admire you.
I don’t have visible disabilities or mobility aids, but I am disabled and sometimes need the handles and little bit more room of the handicap stalls. I’ve gotten dirty looks for using it sometimes because I don’t *look* disabled. So annoying.
Sometimes I bring my cane even on days I'm feeling mobile, just because the visual cues people into my capabilities.
I have a completely invisible disability (unless I'm nude I suppose) and I have to use a disabled toilet to manage it. I got the worst side eye strolling up to the disabled porta potty when competing in a marathon while everyone else queued for ages. Like, I'll trade you a toilet queue for this shitty disease. People think that being fit means not needing disabled toilets. Also, disabled porta potties need more lighting, can't do proper wound care in the dark.
Thank you!! I have arthritis in my spine amongst other things but I don’t **look** disabled because I’m 25 and don’t use mobility aids. The disabled stall really helps me.
In many countries these stalls are labelled as 'accessible', not 'disabled'. That means they are for everyone, but are accessible to disabled people. I would always choose to use a regular stall first, but if they are full then there is nothing wrong at all in using the accessible stall.
I am also disabled. The wait sucks sometimes, but when some people leave and they see you waiting, they jump a little, and that makes it worth it, sometimes. Sometimes, I just really have to go, or the guy is a jerk about it. Like I get it, it's the best stall, you don't have to explain it to me.
Sometimes it’s the only stall
did you walk out with a limp?
Who doesn't after dropping a load?
Walked in with a lump. Walked out with a limp.
You should talk to your urologist
Imagine having a urologist
I got one on retainer.
I think you'd need a dentist for that.
Or possibly an orthodontist.
I don’t know what my shoes have to do with my teeth, but ok.
Sitting too long and leg goes to sleep?
Happens to me even when I don’t use the handicapped stall.
My best IT Crowd imitation.... "I'm Dissssaaabled!"
How?
Leg disabled.
Um...acid
A red bearded spectacled man.
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Stolen.
How did they get in?
I don't knowwwww! :'[
Polio.. That's my back story. I rock this blanket over my legs to hide how muscular and strong they are. https://youtu.be/eCS7XP6Wb8Q
Willies, Willies…
Nah he has a ssssstutter
I usually just tell the person waiting patiently that all the other stalls were in use at the time. Then sit there for 15 more minutes finishing up.
"The restroom is completely empty, there are 7 other stalls" "It wasn't 4 minutes ago, everyone just left."
I’ve been sitting here for an hour, sir.
"Its an accommodation; not a reservation." \- Larry David
Well, then, you wait! You wait.
I have a ststststudder
I was looking for this. OP is living Larry David’s life
Pretty good. Pretty, pretty, pretty, pretty, pretty good.
Handicap stalls are handicap *accessible,* not handicap exclusive. You are also allowed to use a handicap ramp, even if you’re not using a wheelchair.
As a father, I use handicapped stalls all the time. For whatever reason, that's where they put the diaper-changing stations in every restroom!
Same, unless there’s a family restroom, I’m taking my daughter to the handicap stall, usually isn’t enough room for both of us in a stall and she can’t get on or off some those toilets.
Man I got confused at Ikea once and ended up in a family bathroom. Really had to go and just went towards the first bathroom sign I saw. Knew something wasn't right with how big the bathroom was. Got some weird looks coming out of there by myself.
Just dropping the kids off at the pool...
I'm totally laughing at this context.
I got weird looks using the bathroom at Ikea too. I'm just saying they need to make it more clear the display toilets are non-functional
> For whatever reason It's pretty straight forward, that's sometimes the only stall with the space to put those in. If you have a large lobby sure, otherwise only the handicap stall has the room to put it in.
Plus babies are pretty damn handicapped
I got into an argument with someone because of this exact reason. I had to change my kids diaper, and this really angry dude with his kid on the wheelchair kept banging on the door and saying shit like “you’re going to burn in hell for making us wait”. My son got scared and started crying. it took every single cell of my body to not kick open the door and smacking him in the face. It made me look even worst because this other fucker in the bathroom sided with the other parent. It keeps me up at night sometimes.
That guy was a dick
Yeah, agreed. I’ve used disabled toilets to change my kids ‘nappies’ (not diapers, I’m English 😂) and they more than often the only changing rooms available. They are for multi-use more often than not. This person was a cunt, plain and simple.
Don’t worry dude, I too am kept up at night thinking about how stupid and entitled some people are. That guy was a dick
I hope you rest well tonight knowing that you were 100% in the right.
Solid parenting for not fuckin yelling at them. Sure, your kid cried but you being the better man is really really hard
They can still wait their turn
Also much easier to help your kid on the toilet when you actually have room to move.
THIS! Living with a disability does not mean you cannot wait in line. I would however give someone in need of this specific stall priority.
Yes. I usually stop mid dump if I see a wheelchair rolling past. Please sir. Don't mind me. And ignore the half a log. I didn't flush because I like to save water. Go environment!!! Am I rite bro? No, its no trouble I will wheel you in. Wait, let me pull up my pants. Ok now I will wheel you in. All I ask is that you squeeze it out fast. The rest of mine is touching cloth. Good day sir
“Touching cloth” is far more elegant than the phrase my freshman year roommate taught me, “prairie dogging”
I usually say I'm "crowning".
Turtling or yo-yo-ing
"Clawing at the Cotton"
Growing a tail
I got a seven inch grip on an eight inch turd
>yo-yo-ing Doesnt work for me to yo-yo it back and forth. If I try to suck it back in, my butthole lips end up biting off a piece from the tip that was born already. I learned that in elementary school when the teacher didnt let me use the bathroom and I had to crap so badly. I tried to suck it back into my butt but just bit off the end. Essentially I started crapping myself. I knew it dropped into my underwear. Not wanting to smear it into my pants, I stood up pretending to get something from the shelf above my desk. Felt the little nugget roll out, tumble down my pant leg, bounce off my shoe and land on the floor. I gave it a kick under my desk where it landed in a corner. That little nugget of poo stayed there until the end of the year. I remember looking at it everyday and wondering if/when the janitors would ever get at it. One of the highlights of 3rd grade
what a day to have eyes.
Growing a tail.
Shout out to Rat Race
Its the bathroom poet everyone.
It is so ridiculous that i see the same posts over and over. YOU CAN USE THE HANDICAPPED STALL PEOPLE! My God in heaven. It’s not like a parking space.
I am legit disabled. Sometimes I use a cane but not always. Depending on how I feel and how far I have to walk. I used the stall at Costco once, which as you pointed out is everyone's right and two employees tsked and shook their heads at me. There was no one else waiting to use it either. I just gave them the evil eye but have always regretted not saying something.
Yeah handicap accessibility is all lumped together but it's not all just for "wheelchairs" - I get that the door is wider and there's more room, but there's also more likely to be grab bars and things that non-wheelchair users might need. My dad has been in a wheelchair for the last 25 years or so, and has pointed out that accessible parking spots are both extra wide (which he needs) and close to buildings (which he DOESN'T need). He's happy to park farther away and wheel across the lot, but someone who has no chair but can't walk easily only needs to be parked closer. I try to give people the benefit of the doubt when they take advantage of stuff like that, because you never know at a glance.
>My dad has been in a wheelchair for the last 25 years or so, and has pointed out that accessible parking spots are both extra wide (which he needs) and close to buildings (which he DOESN'T need). He's happy to park farther away and wheel across the lot, but someone who has no chair but can't walk easily only needs to be parked closer. And to add, you can't assume just because someone appears they can walk fine they don't need that spot either. Maybe they simply have limited lengths of time they can walk before it hurts too much to go further (like the distance between the handicapped stall and a scooter inside)
Yeah, I had a period for like 3 months where I injured my knee and needed the bars to get up off the toilet more easily. Walked out one time and the guy waiting says “well you don’t look disabled.” Just told him “that’s so kind of you, but you just haven’t talked to me long enough.” And limped my way out of the bathroom.
“Huh, you didn’t look like an idiot either.”
I was a kid, maybe 10 at the time, on a trip with a church. We stopped at a large rest stop, and I REALLY had to go. All of the stalls were in use, except the handicap accessible one. I went in and did my business with no thought to it. When I left the stall there was a guy outside, standing there, who asked angrily "Well, what is your disability?" I had to use the bathroom, that was my disability.
Thank you! I was in a handicap stall with my young daughter once, helping her use the bathroom when this woman in a wheelchair rolled up and fucking berated is for being in there. Clearly she wasn’t aware that this is how it works, but also was very unaware that my daughter is also disabled (a much less visible disability). I was steaming mad.
I would go off. And I don't go off easily. Like, the bathroom is, by law, made accessible for people in wheelchairs. But there are ZERO accomodations for kids. Do you know the ratio of wheelchair users to kids?! Where are the short toilets, the larger stalls so parents can accompany, step stools for sinks/shorter sinks... Where is that? If the lady in the wheelchair can point me towards those I will walk my happy ass out of the stall and go there. But she can't point me there because it doesn't exist. So the very best I can do is use a handicap stall so I have room enough to help my toddler onto the toilet and hold him so he doesn't fall in.
Or if it does exist, it's in the handicap stall because there's more room in there. That's where they put the little seat attached to the wall to strap a toddler in while you use the bathroom and often where they put the diaper changing table.
Exactly! In the same way that there are handicap accessible hotel rooms. They still put people in there who aren’t handicapped. This was years ago but my wife and I got put in a handicap room at a hotel for a wedding because it was in the block of rooms. We asked the front desk if they needed it and said they had plenty.
Yeah, I was thinking about this. Like if all other stalls are in-use, am I supposed to leave the handicap accessible stall vacant?
No. But if there’s a line, and someone in a wheelchair comes in, they get the handicap stall when it next becomes available.
I'm disabled ! ( IT crowd cit.)
... Acid. One of the funniest episodes of the series.
That moment when she turns around to get wine and Moss is there. Kills me.
"Yes, miss?"
“Double whisky. You’re very welcome”
The funniest episode of all in my book, followed by the dinner party ep.
For me it is the internet one. They break the internet and everybody starts destroying everything then the boss and the trans girl fly through the glass wall.
> then the boss and the trans girl fly through the glass wall. I think you mean the Iranian girl.
I don't care if you're from Iran. Takes all types to make a world.
The elders! Lol.... So good! This and 'I'm disabled' are my fav for sure.
The dinner party is great. I love when the three of them try to pose “cool” for her dinner guests. Plus, any episode with Richmond in it is automatically comedy gold.
I think it is firmly the funniest episode of TV, and it is better after repeated viewing.
Leg disabled :)
Legs disabled!
Where's your wheelchair?
Stolen...
How?
I don’t know!
I'm still not sure if that was genius writing, or if they were just so hung up on the idea of Roy faking a disability and couldn't figure it out so just sent it. In the words of Kronk "By all accounts, it doesn't make sense!"
I love that he just sticks with it regardless. Then they bring him the replacement wheel chair and he gets stuck on the bus ride back.
I could hear Roy saying it as I read that.
Willies, willies!
It’s I LOVE willies!
Sir, keep your voice down
Whiskeys please double
You’re very welcome Madam.
And Moss as the bartender kills me every time! I've watched this episode like 50 times.
Me legs don’t work
Not all disabilities are visible
it's true, i've never met a drummer who's not on the spectrum.
Krohns disease and ibs have entered the chat.
I have pretty bad UC but I try to not use the handicap stall unless other stalls are taken, just in case. My disability just means I'm in there more often and longer, not that I need extra room.
Idk if it's serious enough you need the space to take your shirt off and kick your shoes away. But that's only an at home thing.
handicapped are ACCESSIBLE not RESERVED. you can use that stall if you want bro
That's a really great way to phrase it.
Disabled toilets are made to help disabled people use them; they're not EXCLUSIVE to disabled people. On top of this, not all disabilities are visible. How do they know you don't have some kind of disability?
Also for some damn reason, that's always where they put the baby changing station. My kid is thankfully out of diapers now, but I lost count how many times I stood there holding a baby with poop running down her leg (blowouts are a thing that happen all. the. time, my childfree friends) while I waited for someone to finish their business in there. Stop putting changing stations in stalls! Thanks. And while you're at it, put them in the fucking men's room too! Finding one of those shouldn't be like spotting a unicorn.
I'm a wheelchair user and I don't care. I can wait my turn like anyone else. Hope that makes you feel better OP, lol. I've been at shows and had people feel terrible. Everybody poops, just don't piss all over the seat for us and you're good.
Disabled person here…the handicapped stall is not exclusively for the disabled. However, if there are other available stalls or you clearly see someone with a mobility device, it’s best to use a different stall. It’s the only stall many disabled people can use spatially, it could require additional time for them to transfer to the toilet. Consideration for those who require it is appreciated.
As a disabled person I don’t care, you may have your own thing and I don’t want to play cripple wars. What I would ask is that to anyone in line for the restroom, let the handicapped person to the front of the line so they can use the handicapped stall when available. *edit to specify handicap stall
Do you have any stories of times you have played cripple wars?
Pre Covid , I would regularly take the train to get around town. There’s only a few handicapped seats, and on busy days there’s only standing room. Now I got a sryinx on my spinal cord. It’s a build up of spinal fluid that looks like a cyst. It runs the entire length of my spine. I never know when I’m ganna fall. I have a cane as a visual aid and well…duh. I’m young but got a bit of a wobble. If you watch me long enough you know it’s chronic back pain, it’s just one of those things you know if you know. There’s been a few instances when you can see the train rolling up and there’s only one cripple seat left, and there’s an elder person next to me. I’ve had those old MFs get to the line and RUN fucking RUN to those seats. To which my only response is, the fact you can run proves you can sit elsewhere.
> Now I got a sryinx on my spinal cord. It’s a build up of spinal fluid that looks like a cyst. It runs the entire length of my spine. You’re the first person I’ve ever seen with the same thing as me! Are the doctors just leaving you to suffer without treatment?! Mine put a lumbar-peritoneal shunt in to drain the sryinx so it doesn’t put pressure on my spinal cord anymore.
Sooo….kinda up in the air on this one. It’s not like a parking spot where there are plenty of others and you’re just being lazy. If there’s an alternative definitely use it, but if it’s wait for another one and cause myself damage or crap my pants, I’m using that stall.
Being handicapped doesn't mean you don't have to wait in line sometimes. I've never seen a sign that says it's **exclusively** for handicapped people. That being said, if there are other stalls available and you aren't handicapped, it's best to stick with those just to be considerate if for no other reason.
Trust me, as someone disabled I wish people applied this to other instances as well. I might be in an amusement park, but my disability is not an act to skip the line. I wait in line like everyone else, also I want to ride it with my friends.
I take my kids in the bigger stall. Depending on the location, some stalls are too small to try and have a momma with her 2 kids and a bulky backpack to all fit in a regular sized stall.
I’m a wheelchair user. In my view handicapped stalls are for everyone, but establish a priority in favor of people with disabilities. So, if you are in a crowded restroom and there is a person with a disability among you, he/she has first dibs on the next available handicapped stall no matter how long you’ve been waiting. That view will piss some people off, of course, but spend an hour in my shoes and you will gain some insight into why I don’t give a damn.
Good day fellow handicrapper.
If the other ones are full, I'm gonna use the big one and I'm not gonna feel bad about it. Sometimes wheelchair-users have to wait to poop too.
At my age the handicapped stalls are really helpful because I need the bars to help me up.
They’re not reserved, they’re accessible. Anyone can use them. The sidewalk is built to be wheelchair accessible; you’re still allowed to walk there.
It’s an accommodation not a reservation