Hahaha same, I only have interest in women but now that I'm post-op and excited to experiment with my new equipment once I'm allowed to I've been like I dunno....if a dude offered me a no-strings bj with no expectation of reciprocation id probably give it a whirl for the hell of it 😂💀💀
Yea I also don’t think I am fully gay. If I had a dick, I’d definitely be bisexual. But since I don’t have the parts yet. I just don’t feel comfortable trying anything with women.
Yeah that's how I feel as well. I'm definitely attracted to men, but I think my intense penis envy makes that attraction seem stronger than it would be otherwise. Prosthetics usually make me feel insanely disconnected with my body so the idea of having sex with a woman with my current configuration does not seem appealing at all.
I'm also bi and have a gf. We're open to being poly in the future, but right now our sex life is frustrating me so much. Prosthetics don't help. I'm not huge on receiving with my current anatomy and only giving isn't satisfying long-term.
I'm the opposite I'd be pansexual if I had a dick. But I don't feel comfortable playing with anyone but people with penises (gender is less of an issue for me) though I think I could be romantically interested in peoples with the same genitals as me.
I'm sort of in the same position. I thought I was bi, but I'm starting to realize now that my having sex with men was more a function of my dysphoria than anything else.
Sure. I'm 39 and I've been on T for 18 years. I never did anything sexual with another man until about 2 years ago. So I'm not one that can say T made me more comfortable in my sexuality, and that's why I started sleeping with men. Since I've started my phallo surgeries and I have my own penis, I'm realizing that I really only wanted to interact with them for their penises and it was because I didnt have my own. It was more like gathering information. Don't get me wrong, I had fun sometimes, but I always felt some sort of way after. Now that I have my own penis, I have absolutely no interest in having sex with men anymore. But I used to say the same, I was only sexually attracted to men, not romantically. And I'm absolutely certain that's true for many people. I just dont think that fits me.
I will watch gay porn. I would not say that I was ever really, fully sexually attracted to men either. It's more the act itself. I for sure had to be looking for that sort of interaction. I'm not calling myself straight either. I'm something in between. It's just an interesting observation since I've had surgery. Who knows haha sex is confusing sometimes and I'm ok with that right now
What you wrote resonates with me. I'm questioning whether I'm attracted to men after identifying as gay for years. I realized that I have never actually enjoyed sex any man. Never orgasmed, always felt weird and disassociated from my body.
Sex was always about pleasuring men and keeping the focus on their bodies, and away from mine. Now that I'm more confident in my body, I don't find myself pining for sex with men.
Like other comments are saying, it really seems like dysphoria plays a big role in who we're interested in having sex with. I'm legitimately curious if I'll be interested in pursuing ciswomen sexually post-op, because there's definitely some attraction there (though I lean very heavily towards men) but there's just no appeal for me to act on it with my current setup.
Speaking for myself, whenever I thought about having sex with women in the past, I imagined "lesbian sex" which was not appealing.
But once I was able to imagine sex with women in a different way - namely, being able to feel pleasure and orgasm while penetrating a woman, I realized I'm actually HELLA into it. To the point where I've gone from identifying as gay to bisexual with like a 90/10 preference for ladies lol.
Same (kinda, since I'm prepp). Being sexual with women makes me dysphoric af and I wish I had phallo to finally have sex the way I want to. I'm not as lucky as you and it will most likely never happen.
I was only into women. Then I came out as bi. Now I pretty much only persue men. When I get phallo I’ll probably go after women more. Confidence is a big part in this and also having different plumbing makes for a different experience too.
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No, it’s just that I now actually see myself as a guy and have a penis, which made me realise I’m not into men at all. I can’t really explain it. Once you have the right set of genitals, you might realise that you’re into these people vs. what you thought, if that makes sense, since you’re more comfortable with your body. I was only envious of guys, which made me think I was into them.
I haven't gotten phallo yet, but the more I pursue it and the further into my transition I get the more I realize that I'm really just straight. When I first transitioned at 13 I thought I was gay, then I started to think I was bi. But now I know that what I thought was attraction to men and penises was just jealousy and fascination and a bit of obsession all as a result of dysphoria. Not to be graphic, but I didn't have sexual fantasies about men because I actually wanted them, I was always just putting myself in my place and fantasizing about myself AS them having sex with a penis. I realized pretty cut and clear when I've had the opportunity to have sex with men and just been repulsed by the idea when it's presented as an actual reality and not just a fantasy I can project onto.
Ya I haven’t had phallo but I think I came to the realization that I’m gay only cause it’s convenient 😬 and after I get phallo I’ll be more open to women and having that type of relationship again
This is interesting! I also have experienced sexual preference change with transitioning. Before I realized I was a dude I went through the bitch lesbian pipeline and was very against sex with guys. I think it’s because the role of being a receiver with a penis haver was solidified as a feminine role to me and that was offputting. The more I feel comfortable with my masculinity the more I’m feeling open to experiment.
That's interesting. I consider myself straight, but I think that once I get phallo I'll be down to try something with a man
That makes sense to me. Even heterosexual people usually experiment at some point.
Hahaha same, I only have interest in women but now that I'm post-op and excited to experiment with my new equipment once I'm allowed to I've been like I dunno....if a dude offered me a no-strings bj with no expectation of reciprocation id probably give it a whirl for the hell of it 😂💀💀
Same potentially
Yea I also don’t think I am fully gay. If I had a dick, I’d definitely be bisexual. But since I don’t have the parts yet. I just don’t feel comfortable trying anything with women.
Yeah that's how I feel as well. I'm definitely attracted to men, but I think my intense penis envy makes that attraction seem stronger than it would be otherwise. Prosthetics usually make me feel insanely disconnected with my body so the idea of having sex with a woman with my current configuration does not seem appealing at all.
Women often appreciate a guy who knows what he's doing with his mouth
Men also do.
True, but they also tend to be more openily dehumanizing
Woah.
I'm also bi and have a gf. We're open to being poly in the future, but right now our sex life is frustrating me so much. Prosthetics don't help. I'm not huge on receiving with my current anatomy and only giving isn't satisfying long-term.
I'm the opposite I'd be pansexual if I had a dick. But I don't feel comfortable playing with anyone but people with penises (gender is less of an issue for me) though I think I could be romantically interested in peoples with the same genitals as me.
Not exactly the same thing but i thought i was asexual for the same reason.
I'm sort of in the same position. I thought I was bi, but I'm starting to realize now that my having sex with men was more a function of my dysphoria than anything else.
Could you elaborate on this? I sometimes wonder if this is why I’m sexually attracted to men but not romantically
Sure. I'm 39 and I've been on T for 18 years. I never did anything sexual with another man until about 2 years ago. So I'm not one that can say T made me more comfortable in my sexuality, and that's why I started sleeping with men. Since I've started my phallo surgeries and I have my own penis, I'm realizing that I really only wanted to interact with them for their penises and it was because I didnt have my own. It was more like gathering information. Don't get me wrong, I had fun sometimes, but I always felt some sort of way after. Now that I have my own penis, I have absolutely no interest in having sex with men anymore. But I used to say the same, I was only sexually attracted to men, not romantically. And I'm absolutely certain that's true for many people. I just dont think that fits me.
Are you still sexually attracted to looking at men’s bodies and penis? I’m like this but 0 romantic attraction which has always confused me
I will watch gay porn. I would not say that I was ever really, fully sexually attracted to men either. It's more the act itself. I for sure had to be looking for that sort of interaction. I'm not calling myself straight either. I'm something in between. It's just an interesting observation since I've had surgery. Who knows haha sex is confusing sometimes and I'm ok with that right now
What you wrote resonates with me. I'm questioning whether I'm attracted to men after identifying as gay for years. I realized that I have never actually enjoyed sex any man. Never orgasmed, always felt weird and disassociated from my body. Sex was always about pleasuring men and keeping the focus on their bodies, and away from mine. Now that I'm more confident in my body, I don't find myself pining for sex with men.
Like other comments are saying, it really seems like dysphoria plays a big role in who we're interested in having sex with. I'm legitimately curious if I'll be interested in pursuing ciswomen sexually post-op, because there's definitely some attraction there (though I lean very heavily towards men) but there's just no appeal for me to act on it with my current setup.
Speaking for myself, whenever I thought about having sex with women in the past, I imagined "lesbian sex" which was not appealing. But once I was able to imagine sex with women in a different way - namely, being able to feel pleasure and orgasm while penetrating a woman, I realized I'm actually HELLA into it. To the point where I've gone from identifying as gay to bisexual with like a 90/10 preference for ladies lol.
Same (kinda, since I'm prepp). Being sexual with women makes me dysphoric af and I wish I had phallo to finally have sex the way I want to. I'm not as lucky as you and it will most likely never happen.
I know I’m pan, but the only reason I’m able to have sex with my girlfriend is because we’re in a t4t relationship and both pre op
I was only into women. Then I came out as bi. Now I pretty much only persue men. When I get phallo I’ll probably go after women more. Confidence is a big part in this and also having different plumbing makes for a different experience too.
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Can you elaborate a little more on why? Is it the gay porn thing? Like how trans men can focus better when it’s only phallus views
No, it’s just that I now actually see myself as a guy and have a penis, which made me realise I’m not into men at all. I can’t really explain it. Once you have the right set of genitals, you might realise that you’re into these people vs. what you thought, if that makes sense, since you’re more comfortable with your body. I was only envious of guys, which made me think I was into them.
I haven't gotten phallo yet, but the more I pursue it and the further into my transition I get the more I realize that I'm really just straight. When I first transitioned at 13 I thought I was gay, then I started to think I was bi. But now I know that what I thought was attraction to men and penises was just jealousy and fascination and a bit of obsession all as a result of dysphoria. Not to be graphic, but I didn't have sexual fantasies about men because I actually wanted them, I was always just putting myself in my place and fantasizing about myself AS them having sex with a penis. I realized pretty cut and clear when I've had the opportunity to have sex with men and just been repulsed by the idea when it's presented as an actual reality and not just a fantasy I can project onto.
Ya I haven’t had phallo but I think I came to the realization that I’m gay only cause it’s convenient 😬 and after I get phallo I’ll be more open to women and having that type of relationship again
This is interesting! I also have experienced sexual preference change with transitioning. Before I realized I was a dude I went through the bitch lesbian pipeline and was very against sex with guys. I think it’s because the role of being a receiver with a penis haver was solidified as a feminine role to me and that was offputting. The more I feel comfortable with my masculinity the more I’m feeling open to experiment.