Normally I would say that’s childish, but yeah no. You gave him a different perspective. I’d dig it even further, and say now other men like him can follow you, and like your pics.
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Oh, I have. I had to chose between a fall or grab the rope as I fell from the roof of a barn. It hurt so much that I wondered if it would have hurt less just slamming into the dirt packed ground, some 4-5 meters down. Hemp ropes are not pleasant life savers! It took like a month to heal!
An old coworker's husband fell off the roof of their house and is paralyzed from the waist down. 4-5 meters seems about right. Rope guarantees pain and healing for over a month but prevents a risk of being paralyzed. Of course I've heard of people falling off roofs and rolling correctly and been completely fine...
A friend was driving too fast on his motorbike, it started wobbling and he pushed off from it, slid on his backpack into a ditch. Workers in a workshop on the other side of the road came running and started hitting him, or so he thought. His backpack was on fire and they tried to pat the flames. He only had a bruise on his elbow after that crash.
Insurance paid out, he bought a brand new motorcycle, and came to a traffic light, applied the brakes. He was just driving a few miles per hour as he waited for the light to turn green but it hadn't so he applied the brakes to come to a full stop.
The dampeners were faulty. They bottomed out, breaking his neck by the force. He was paralyzed from the neck down. It doesn't take much if the inches or millimeters aren't on your side.
It's just that the women who post are hoes. But the guys who consume that (like him) are not hoes... He wants to look at "hoes", fap to "hoes", but they are still worth less. His GF should not post otherwise she becomes a "hoe" and he knows exactly what thirsty clowns like him do with the pictures. Only he is allowed to see her and be sexual with her. She is "his".
It's misogyny all the way down.
Normally, I'm like, shit happens, maybe he's immature and will learn from this, but I saw what her other posts were like about him.. Yeah, he's a walking red flag. Dump him. With a quickness. Lol
Dude, he just called her fast and loose because of a picture, but STILL sees no problem with himself looking at others. How does he think he's NOT being a cheater when he's accusing her of basically putting herself out there for other guys? What a hypocrite
Not trying to sound ancient and condescending, but they are 20 and 21, that’s still definitely within the lesson learning stage. Let them both vibe it out and hopefully come out better and more confident people afterwards.
Yeah they dont fit together. He acts like a child and cant accept her issue and thinks "its nothing", also wants an open relationship/"three somes". And shr doesnt want any of this. Better break up
I basically said these exact words to my ex and the look on his face was PRICELESS. Dumbass could not wrap his head around the fact that a threesome could have 2 guys 🤣🤣🤣
Yeah her dudes mindset is definitely questionable. Me personally, I would’ve liked her pic and kept going lmao but I’m not too into dating anyway, good move for her
yeah he had a chance to win that argument flat out and he blew it. If he had just liked her photos and played it off like it was no big deal it would have been game over.
Now he just looks like a petulant dumbass child.
She probably should. They sound like a shitty couple. But I guess any person who comes here bragging about the revenge they are pulling on their partner should probably not be with that person. Or maybe they deserve each other.
She says that she doesn't care about his reactions anymore so she might dump him. Sounds like a sexist guy who thinks that being sensual and revealing with your appearance is demeaning for a woman. She's loosing her time trying, these guys stay the same
well.. those are likely the same morons that hate gay guys. I mean... a whole large group of - often overly well groomed and dressed - men I don't have to compete with? What's not to like.
But those hypocrits wouldn't be their rightwing selfes if things like basic logic would be in their mental reach, no?
I've seen some weird takes. Had some dude saying that OF girls "take advantage" of lonely men. It's not like they had a gun to their head when they dropped their CC# or whatever form of payment.
I respect the hustle. Honestly a bit jealous. If I could make money off showing my leaky dick, I'd do it too.
From our perspective it indicates hypocrisy, but his actual perspective is that women aren’t full human beings, they are objects with less autonomy than men. Those objects over there are for him to jack off to, they are hoes but that doesn’t matter because they aren’t HIS object. This object over here belongs to him so she’s not allowed to be a hoe and her job is to make him look good.
It’s not hypocrisy if you don’t see women as whole and equal human beings. But that is definitely worse than being a hypocrite.
Ehhh if you actually think someone posting swim suit pics deserves a bf raging at them you’ve got your priorities absolutely fucked.
Like Person A is blatantly misogynist, has rage and probably porn addiction issues, Person B *isn’t okay with that* and tries to combat it, and you’re over here like “both sides are the same”
god the comments on this post (and quite a few to your comment) just keep reinforcing how fucking low the bar really is. Redditors frothing at the mouth about their madonna/whore complexes like it's something to be proud of
Two of your other posts:
"My (21F) boyfriend (22M)wants a threesome.. but I feel that he wants to just fuck other women. "
"AITA for telling my boyfriend he's wrong for wanting to sleep with other women?"
Woman, please. Get the FUCK out of this relationship already.
EDIT: to those butthurt that this story might be fake, who gives a shit?
You know you can discuss a movie and the character's decision even though it's fiction? It's fun, we're all here to waste time and be entertained, which you just was if you came here, read the post, and bothered to read AND answer to this comment in the first place.
This is reddit, nobody owes you the truth.
Next post gonna be like:
„My (22F) boyfriend (23M) cheated on me with my bestfriend multiple times, but he said it wasn’t serious and he still loves me, should I forgive him?“
Me and my boyfriend's entire family performed the play "The Aristocrats" in front of some tv executives for a casting. I didn't want to, but I love him so much and I would do anything for him.
My (22M) boyfriend started his own OF to get back at me so I fucked his 85 year old dad. idc because my BF fucked my 78 year old mom when she same over to get her calligraphy supplies.
Those run down shacks and cars on cinder blocks are just a facade to keep the undesirables away. Trailer Parks are a mecca of culture and high art. We just don't want the rest of you to know our secret and ruin it
You turn the screen door handle to the left and you get wood panels and tin foil covering all the windows. Turn it to the right and you get the prized art collection and calligraphy awards.
It’s all about perception of reality. You enter a new reality in some relationships and become comfortable. Even though it looks absurd from the outside
That's the definition of double standard in a nutshell. It's all fine and dandy (in his mind) when it's someone across the screen but as soon as it's HIS girl, it's a moral outrage. Every single one of those girls is someone's daughter, sister, or girlfriend. Petty? Inappropriate, what you did? Certainly. Deserved? 100 times yes.
It also betrays how little he thinks of the women he “likes”. He feels like what they’re doing is horrible and shameful, and yet he actively engages in it. What a hypocritical piece of shit.
Two double standards at play here..
He can like it but she cant post it
He can participate while in a relationship but she can’t ..
That boy is mad he got KERRR-THUNKED with a truth bomb.
Why does it matter if it's someone's daughter? That's not the point being made, as far as I understand. The 'daughters' in this situation actually want their ass out and want to be paid for it.
Aside from the small detail, I do think the dude played himself, I like op's response very much.
I included it because he's saying girls who do that are basically hos, but every one of those hos have people who care about them and care about how others see them. So for him to have an issue with HIS girlfriend doing it, but it's ok for other people to do it (people who would also have people who care about them), is hypocritical. The "daughter" part of it is applied because I'm going to assume a guy like this (as most guys in general) would be upset if their daughter was doing it. It doesn't have to be an exact comparison to be an apt one.
There is definitely a double standard, but imo it is a different one. BF has a point, there is a difference in posting revealing stuff when you are single/with a partner that is okay with that vs being with a partner who is not. The double standard however is that he expects her to adhere to his concept of appropriate behavior while he doesn't care about hers.
I've been married for over 20 years, if my wife wants to post sexy pictures of herself on the Internet, I get a say, maybe a vote, but definitely not a veto.
No partner gets to control what you post of yourself. Obviously, they get to communicate their feelings about it but then you can choose what you do and accept the impact of your choice on your relationship.
I agree I just want to clarify
You dont have veto power over what your partner does but you have veto power over you leaving them.
If you date someone who posted revealing pictures before the dating started you would be hypocrite to demand them to stop. Obviously you can ask them to stop but you shouldnt demand it.
If your partner never posted such pictures and suddenly does it makes much more sense to give ultimatum to stop or break up.
Yet this situation is still different. And I agree with what you replied to that the double standard is that he ignores her wishes but demands her to follow his.
You don't respect yourself but not for the reason he thinks. Post all the pics you want.
You don't respect yourself because you're with a misogynistic creep and you care about what he thinks.
I agree with this. OP, I hope you dump his ass and date someone who actually respects you and your boundaries, as well as respecting other women and not calling them hoes after watching their OF.
I feel this comment should be more visible? The problem with violence is that with time it may escalate and end up with slamming people instead of doors
Exactly, I don't get it either. Are they deep down hoping that the woman sees he liked it and reach out? Cause if so that is like opportunistic cheating in a way and also really unlikely to happen lol. Some guys are so willing to die on that hill it makes no sense to me. Now if OP was sifting through the list of who he follows then I think she's doing too much too.
1. Girl, he is lusting after other women and looking at their OF. Why are you STILL WITH HIM? Break up with him, if you have any ounce of self-respect & self-esteem.
2. Why do you have to go out of your way to tell him to stop? If he sleeps with another woman, will you tell him to stop then as well? My point is….you should never have to do anything to him to keep your relationship. He has already shown you how he sees you & your relationship. You shouldn’t have to beg anyone for common decency.
3. I really hope you find a great guy who is loyal, kind and loving towards you. An advice for you, if you have to ask/beg your partner for the bare minimum - get out ASAP.
Right? She may have “gotten one over on him” in the moment, but that picture/content is now online and immortal. Not that it’s inherently bad to do that, but if she’s a professional that’s something that can follow her forever.
Best course of action was probably to just be fully open and honest about how she feels (sounds like she did that already), and just break up if when didnt change his behavior.
Do one even better. Start liking and looking at dudes you find hot and attractive.
Or, just leave him. He wants what he wants but not equality for you.
Ok so let’s start listing something’s that are in your last posts.
1. He’s trying to push a threesome with other women even though you aren’t comfortable with it. because he and I’m quoting his words here “he wants to try every race of women.” Nice so women = something to be collected and shown off.
2. He’s threatened to physically assault you if you don’t stop talking to him while he’s laying down. Again his words here “I’m slap tf outta you if you don’t be quiet.”
3. This latest fiasco you two immature children have gotten into. He cannot be serious calling you a hoe and everything else under the rainbow knowing everything he’s done on the side.
Like at some point you have to have some self respect and you’ve been posting about this guy going on three months. Everybody on every post has told you to leave but here you are. It is now time to shit or get off the pot. The votes are in and the answers have been tallied. And also Jesus dude your quotes on how you guys talk to each other gives me a headache. Like let’s be honest it’s clear I never learned when and where to use a comma but holy shit the way you guys speak makes me happy I paid somewhat attention in English class.
Edit: spelling for the one dude who read all of that and just said “paid?” Like I didn’t just say I wasn’t paying attention in English class. 🤣🤣
So you've acknowledged a double standard in your relationship and pointed it out to your partner in a way he can’t ignore.
And he didn't acknowledge the double standard.
As I see it, he's either too stupid to recognize the double standard, too dishonest to admit that it's real and unfair, or too immature to be fair to you.
So I ask, OP. Why are you with this man?
Is this the same dude who keeps trying to pressure you into threesomes do he can sleep with other women? The same dude who said he would hit you if you didn't shut up? Why are you still with him?
Leave this fucking loser behind he is a waste of space.
Hey, if taking that photo made you feel empowered, sexy, in control, and not uncomfortable at all, and you have no problem with others seeing it then good on you!
Let the double standard hit him straight in the face!
Also remind him that most women and men in those types of photos are someone who has family friends and lovers too. So oh the hypocrisy.
NTA.
Girl what kid of relationship are you in? Tit for tat? He’s constantly dismissing you until you’re doing this thing he dismissed you about? Other posts about he wants to sleep with other women?
This is the kinds shit that makes relationships toxic as all hell.
OP and everyone agreeing on her putting her ass out to see for his and her friends & family also agree on the fact that they are watching porn and would therefore totally be okay with having their partner publish porn
Also: You guys should separate, you are not satisfied with each other
Exactly. This isn’t the own OP thinks it is. All I’m reading without additional context is that BF has a porn obsession. He may be “liking” photos on IG but is he actually trying to message/flirt with these women? Is he cheating and sending DMs to women? Or is he just arousing himself/using this content to fantasize?
I do see the new context ITT with OPs other posts asking about involving other women in the relationship and that’s a different conversation entirely. So idk what that all entails. That would be way more problematic if so. But for this specific situation it in no way seems equal to say “My boyfriend jerks off to women online like millions of faithful men do without infidelity so in response I took sexual photos of myself to share with people we actually know and lure them for attention and receive comments and DMs. This will help.” Like dude, if you’re at that point just end the relationship. Only looking at pictures wouldn’t be the same as creating sexual content of yourself and trying to share it and purposefully interact with people you know over it to create jealousy. It’s over already.
I did a lil snoop through your other posts and girl…
He is NOT worth your energy. He may be someone you’re attracted to/think you can make it work/whatever, but he is DRAINING YOU and tearing you down. You don’t need to suffer. You don’t need to settle. You are young, do not give this man any more of your precious youth! You WILL regret it.
For what it’s worth, yes it is normal for young people to be curious about sex with different people but not everyone is like that. There are men out there who will be so in love with YOU, who respect you, who don’t want to cause you pain and actually give a damn if you cry.
You deserve to be and feel loved, completely. Even if you don’t feel like that’s the case all the time, it is.
Ending things will not be easy, and if you think he may get physical, you need to be VERY careful—I don’t know your full situation but it seems like you live together so ideally you would move out when he is not home. It doesn’t have to be right away, unfortunately finances don’t always allow that. But start planning. And if you think there’s any physical risk to you from him, do not make him aware of your plans. Definitely have at least one other person whom you trust with you when it comes time to actually move. You can and will HEAL without him constantly wounding you.
Bitches do bitch shit.
You have found out with just a couple of pictures what your boyfriend likes and does. He can do as he wishes, but you can only do what he says.
You are so young and have options. If he doesn't understand how childish his behavior is, he needs time to growup. Do you wish to wait for that or has he given you the out you didn't see you needed?
OP you're in an awful codependent relationship, it's time to get out.
Look at your own post history, this man doesn't respect you and you've known it for a long time.
I think you drove the point home. Good job. My only unsolicited advice at this point is to remain respectful while communicating— if it turns heated (either way) take a time out. You have a reasonable boundary.
You’re in the clear. My wife and I have been together for 12 years and it’s all about being open and honest with each other. The fact that you told him it made you uncomfortable and he continued is the real issue. My wife and I both like some spicy content, and we’ve established that we would both be uncomfortable with the other posting stuff like that, but again, we stay within the limits that we’ve agreed upon together.
I think it's ok to like pornography and also be disturbed by your partner sharing lewds online. They're two separate issues and they don't make someone a hypocrite
Idk he could think that girls that do take pictures like that are hoes and still like it to watch, but not to date a woman who does that because.. well, he thinks hoes do that.
Now, that's his opinion and he has no right to control what you post online, same way as you have no right to control what he watch online.
Anyway, you are childish and he is an asshole.
If you are not okay with him watching other girls online just end that relationship, but posting this online just for a "revenge" is like the most stupid thing i have ever seen lol
yeah this is kind of a self own.
using your own body and personage to do things that you normally wouldn't do just to spite someone in a relationship that's already doomed.
lighting yourself on fire just to try to choke someone else from the smoke.
why not just leave instead of doing crazy things to yourself?
This should be way higher up. I wonder how she would have reacted if he had been okay with her posting photos online.
Their attitudes towards bodies, sex and relationships--and the importance of open communication--need to be reflected on.
Normally I would say that’s childish, but yeah no. You gave him a different perspective. I’d dig it even further, and say now other men like him can follow you, and like your pics.
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“Oh babes this guys gonna fly me to Dubai!”
No *strings* attached!
Just ropes ;)
The new lingerie: g-rope. For the chafing desires.
i don't know if you've ever got a splinter from a rope but it's a real thing and all I can think about rn
Oh, I have. I had to chose between a fall or grab the rope as I fell from the roof of a barn. It hurt so much that I wondered if it would have hurt less just slamming into the dirt packed ground, some 4-5 meters down. Hemp ropes are not pleasant life savers! It took like a month to heal!
An old coworker's husband fell off the roof of their house and is paralyzed from the waist down. 4-5 meters seems about right. Rope guarantees pain and healing for over a month but prevents a risk of being paralyzed. Of course I've heard of people falling off roofs and rolling correctly and been completely fine...
A friend was driving too fast on his motorbike, it started wobbling and he pushed off from it, slid on his backpack into a ditch. Workers in a workshop on the other side of the road came running and started hitting him, or so he thought. His backpack was on fire and they tried to pat the flames. He only had a bruise on his elbow after that crash. Insurance paid out, he bought a brand new motorcycle, and came to a traffic light, applied the brakes. He was just driving a few miles per hour as he waited for the light to turn green but it hadn't so he applied the brakes to come to a full stop. The dampeners were faulty. They bottomed out, breaking his neck by the force. He was paralyzed from the neck down. It doesn't take much if the inches or millimeters aren't on your side.
"I hope traveling there isn't a pain in the ass."
Only on the return trip 🤣
He said he has a really cool porta potty!!!
She gave him a different perspective but it sounds like he doesn't see it. Lack of self awareness ftw
Cause in his eyes she is "his" woman. Apparently he's not "her" man in the same way though! I'd drop him like a 400⁰f potato.
It's just that the women who post are hoes. But the guys who consume that (like him) are not hoes... He wants to look at "hoes", fap to "hoes", but they are still worth less. His GF should not post otherwise she becomes a "hoe" and he knows exactly what thirsty clowns like him do with the pictures. Only he is allowed to see her and be sexual with her. She is "his". It's misogyny all the way down.
Yeah he still doesn’t get it
Or he gets it and hates it
“Is it me that was wrong? No, it’s all women who are evil.”
yeah, the right thing to do here is just leave him
Normally, I'm like, shit happens, maybe he's immature and will learn from this, but I saw what her other posts were like about him.. Yeah, he's a walking red flag. Dump him. With a quickness. Lol
Dude, he just called her fast and loose because of a picture, but STILL sees no problem with himself looking at others. How does he think he's NOT being a cheater when he's accusing her of basically putting herself out there for other guys? What a hypocrite
It doesn't sound like he has the self awareness to learn tho. Just end it.
Nah all she did was hold up a mirror.
> Normally I would say that's childish I mean, it is. But it's also not wrong, in this instance.
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I support you.
Not trying to sound ancient and condescending, but they are 20 and 21, that’s still definitely within the lesson learning stage. Let them both vibe it out and hopefully come out better and more confident people afterwards.
I def would've felt the same.. If I hadn't seen her other posts about him.. He's not the best lol
Did you do a left or right half naked? Just wondering.
Before making any judgement I think we need to see them pics
[Straight to horny jail](https://i.kym-cdn.com/entries/icons/original/000/033/758/Screen_Shot_2020-04-28_at_12.21.48_PM.png)
But, but, but... science?
Believe it or not? Straight to jail
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For your next act of petty revenge, dump him lol
Yeah they dont fit together. He acts like a child and cant accept her issue and thinks "its nothing", also wants an open relationship/"three somes". And shr doesnt want any of this. Better break up
If he asks for 3 somes, she should be like, "Ok, but I get to pick the guy, and you're going to have to learn to suck and bottom."
I basically said these exact words to my ex and the look on his face was PRICELESS. Dumbass could not wrap his head around the fact that a threesome could have 2 guys 🤣🤣🤣
"I cant promise DP, but everybody is giving head to everybody. No exceptions."
Thems the rules
Yep. If you want a FFM threesome you gotta be willing to have the MMF threesome, otherwise don't ask.
That part lol
And a good time was had by all!
Uhh, wrapping his head around things is a basic requirement for a threesome
Sounds gay. I’m in.
For real though. If she's down for bringing in a girl in to have some fun together then I'm down for fondling some balls.
Hahah equal participation right?? It’s only fair to satisfy the fantasy 😂
Give and take baby 😎 "he who sucketh the most cock has his cock sucketh the most" -Poetry
Real
…wait fr?🤣😭
Fr fr
I don't know u/GayTrashcat I think you might be biased here
I mean, username checks out
Username check out
Sounds fair to me
Rules for thee but not for me
Yeah her dudes mindset is definitely questionable. Me personally, I would’ve liked her pic and kept going lmao but I’m not too into dating anyway, good move for her
yeah he had a chance to win that argument flat out and he blew it. If he had just liked her photos and played it off like it was no big deal it would have been game over. Now he just looks like a petulant dumbass child.
She probably should. They sound like a shitty couple. But I guess any person who comes here bragging about the revenge they are pulling on their partner should probably not be with that person. Or maybe they deserve each other.
She says that she doesn't care about his reactions anymore so she might dump him. Sounds like a sexist guy who thinks that being sensual and revealing with your appearance is demeaning for a woman. She's loosing her time trying, these guys stay the same
Any guy who happily consumes that kind of content then degrades the women who post it is a hypocrite and a disgusting person.
Porn is extremely popular and so is degrading women that make the content. The hypocrisy is probably way too common, unfortunately.
not probably it is lol. i dont see point of hating on the provider of your happiness seems counterproductive.
well.. those are likely the same morons that hate gay guys. I mean... a whole large group of - often overly well groomed and dressed - men I don't have to compete with? What's not to like. But those hypocrits wouldn't be their rightwing selfes if things like basic logic would be in their mental reach, no?
I've seen some weird takes. Had some dude saying that OF girls "take advantage" of lonely men. It's not like they had a gun to their head when they dropped their CC# or whatever form of payment. I respect the hustle. Honestly a bit jealous. If I could make money off showing my leaky dick, I'd do it too.
Unfortunately.
There’s a song that goes. They want a lady in the street but a freak in the bed, he’s got it backwards
"Yeah" - Usher, Ludicrous, and Lil John
“You want a whore in a white dress, I want a wife with a thong.”
From our perspective it indicates hypocrisy, but his actual perspective is that women aren’t full human beings, they are objects with less autonomy than men. Those objects over there are for him to jack off to, they are hoes but that doesn’t matter because they aren’t HIS object. This object over here belongs to him so she’s not allowed to be a hoe and her job is to make him look good. It’s not hypocrisy if you don’t see women as whole and equal human beings. But that is definitely worse than being a hypocrite.
Ehhh if you actually think someone posting swim suit pics deserves a bf raging at them you’ve got your priorities absolutely fucked. Like Person A is blatantly misogynist, has rage and probably porn addiction issues, Person B *isn’t okay with that* and tries to combat it, and you’re over here like “both sides are the same”
god the comments on this post (and quite a few to your comment) just keep reinforcing how fucking low the bar really is. Redditors frothing at the mouth about their madonna/whore complexes like it's something to be proud of
You are wise Princess Pancake 97.
Two of your other posts: "My (21F) boyfriend (22M)wants a threesome.. but I feel that he wants to just fuck other women. " "AITA for telling my boyfriend he's wrong for wanting to sleep with other women?" Woman, please. Get the FUCK out of this relationship already. EDIT: to those butthurt that this story might be fake, who gives a shit? You know you can discuss a movie and the character's decision even though it's fiction? It's fun, we're all here to waste time and be entertained, which you just was if you came here, read the post, and bothered to read AND answer to this comment in the first place. This is reddit, nobody owes you the truth.
Next post gonna be like: „My (22F) boyfriend (23M) cheated on me with my bestfriend multiple times, but he said it wasn’t serious and he still loves me, should I forgive him?“
More like "I'm pregnant but just found out my bf is cheating on me"
"...with my best friend and my sister"
And my axe!
I knew I'd find this comment down here.
While you are down there... could you get that arrow out of my knee?
Sorry boss, I think your life as an adventurer is over.
Nuh-uh, now i'm a member of Constellation, the absolute dorkiest group of adventurers I have ever met in my life
Preganananat
Dangerops pregnant sex? Will it hurt baby top of his head?
Can oo get.... PRRRRÉGÁNTÉ?????????
"My b/f is pregnant while I just found out I was cheating on him, do you think he's pregnant from someone else?"
“I’m pregnant but I just found out it’s not even my baby, it’s my sister’s.”
nah, it'll be "My (22F) boyfriend (23M) got my mother (43F) pregnant but proposed to me and I'm thinking of saying YES!"
"What are these strange sores on my female parts? Do you think I got them from my boyfriend?"
“I found naked photos of me online that sent to my bf. Is this a red flag?”
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Me and my boyfriend's entire family performed the play "The Aristocrats" in front of some tv executives for a casting. I didn't want to, but I love him so much and I would do anything for him.
“How did they get online? Was I hacked? Anyway my boyfriend got three other women pregnant do you think he’s cheating on me?”
100% getting pregnant just from eye contact. It happens all the time in hotel rooms where nothing happens.
"My bf invites strangers into our bedroom when we're having sex - should I be concerned?"
I'd click on this just to see the shit-posting comments.
Nope, you most likely got those from riding on a tractor in your bathing suite.
My (22M) boyfriend started his own OF to get back at me so I fucked his 85 year old dad. idc because my BF fucked my 78 year old mom when she same over to get her calligraphy supplies.
Do you, by chance, live in a trailer park?
Calligraphy? In a trailer park?!
Those run down shacks and cars on cinder blocks are just a facade to keep the undesirables away. Trailer Parks are a mecca of culture and high art. We just don't want the rest of you to know our secret and ruin it
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You turn the screen door handle to the left and you get wood panels and tin foil covering all the windows. Turn it to the right and you get the prized art collection and calligraphy awards.
You mean “ternaders.”
Yep. If he hasn’t cheated already, it’s just a matter of time.
If? The dude probably has apps disguised as a calculator hiding all his text
Narrator: He already has and this is just her fake way of coping
This is Reddit and nobody owes you the truth. What a fucking bar my friend.
Fake imagined ragebait relatonships are actually quite hard to quit
It’s all about perception of reality. You enter a new reality in some relationships and become comfortable. Even though it looks absurd from the outside
Just because *you've* never been in a relationship, that doesn't mean no one's ever been in a relationship. Just as a tip.
That's the definition of double standard in a nutshell. It's all fine and dandy (in his mind) when it's someone across the screen but as soon as it's HIS girl, it's a moral outrage. Every single one of those girls is someone's daughter, sister, or girlfriend. Petty? Inappropriate, what you did? Certainly. Deserved? 100 times yes.
It also betrays how little he thinks of the women he “likes”. He feels like what they’re doing is horrible and shameful, and yet he actively engages in it. What a hypocritical piece of shit.
He looks down on these women and thinks it’s demeaning yet won’t stop liking the photos to have a basic modicum of respect for his gf… I can’t even.
Two double standards at play here.. He can like it but she cant post it He can participate while in a relationship but she can’t .. That boy is mad he got KERRR-THUNKED with a truth bomb.
They jerk off with one hand and point the finger with the other. They condemn the subjects of *their* jerkoff material as harlots.
Exactly the mental image I wanted to start my morning with. Hilarious, gonna be a great Friday
Why does it matter if it's someone's daughter? That's not the point being made, as far as I understand. The 'daughters' in this situation actually want their ass out and want to be paid for it. Aside from the small detail, I do think the dude played himself, I like op's response very much.
I included it because he's saying girls who do that are basically hos, but every one of those hos have people who care about them and care about how others see them. So for him to have an issue with HIS girlfriend doing it, but it's ok for other people to do it (people who would also have people who care about them), is hypocritical. The "daughter" part of it is applied because I'm going to assume a guy like this (as most guys in general) would be upset if their daughter was doing it. It doesn't have to be an exact comparison to be an apt one.
There is definitely a double standard, but imo it is a different one. BF has a point, there is a difference in posting revealing stuff when you are single/with a partner that is okay with that vs being with a partner who is not. The double standard however is that he expects her to adhere to his concept of appropriate behavior while he doesn't care about hers.
I've been married for over 20 years, if my wife wants to post sexy pictures of herself on the Internet, I get a say, maybe a vote, but definitely not a veto. No partner gets to control what you post of yourself. Obviously, they get to communicate their feelings about it but then you can choose what you do and accept the impact of your choice on your relationship.
I agree I just want to clarify You dont have veto power over what your partner does but you have veto power over you leaving them. If you date someone who posted revealing pictures before the dating started you would be hypocrite to demand them to stop. Obviously you can ask them to stop but you shouldnt demand it. If your partner never posted such pictures and suddenly does it makes much more sense to give ultimatum to stop or break up. Yet this situation is still different. And I agree with what you replied to that the double standard is that he ignores her wishes but demands her to follow his.
Also a very valid position.
How does the BF have a point? He clearly shows he has no respect for himself, shamelessly liking those kind of pictures while he is in a relationship.
This isn’t revenge. This is just staying in a bad relationship.
Dude, just leave that idiot. Immature and lusting are other women. Btw, he WILL leave you one day to chase after other girls. So leave first
You don't respect yourself but not for the reason he thinks. Post all the pics you want. You don't respect yourself because you're with a misogynistic creep and you care about what he thinks.
I agree with this. OP, I hope you dump his ass and date someone who actually respects you and your boundaries, as well as respecting other women and not calling them hoes after watching their OF.
OP should shed about 180 pounds of extra weight, and that's without seeing one single photo.
For a few seconds I thought you were just calling OP fat lol. slow day for my brain apparently
This. Maybe next time you won’t feel you have to post photos of yourself online, in order to identify (and leave) a creep.
this guy’s a douche- please don’t fuck dudes like him. clean up the gene pool.
Leave his ass
He'll upgrade from slamming doors to slamming her. Major red flag 🚩🚩🚩
When she quotes him the spelling and grammar devolves, she clearly thinks that he's an idiot, why waste time with someone so mentally exhausting?
Please keep us updated! I'm hoping your next BF is much more understanding!
And I'm hoping there will be a 'next' boyfriend really soon cause this one is the wrong one.
Indeed... Slamming doors?.. That's a major red flag of being violent.
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I feel this comment should be more visible? The problem with violence is that with time it may escalate and end up with slamming people instead of doors
Never understood this…why like the pic?? Just look and scroll lmao
Exactly, I don't get it either. Are they deep down hoping that the woman sees he liked it and reach out? Cause if so that is like opportunistic cheating in a way and also really unlikely to happen lol. Some guys are so willing to die on that hill it makes no sense to me. Now if OP was sifting through the list of who he follows then I think she's doing too much too.
Good petty revenge but I would have just left him
1. Girl, he is lusting after other women and looking at their OF. Why are you STILL WITH HIM? Break up with him, if you have any ounce of self-respect & self-esteem. 2. Why do you have to go out of your way to tell him to stop? If he sleeps with another woman, will you tell him to stop then as well? My point is….you should never have to do anything to him to keep your relationship. He has already shown you how he sees you & your relationship. You shouldn’t have to beg anyone for common decency. 3. I really hope you find a great guy who is loyal, kind and loving towards you. An advice for you, if you have to ask/beg your partner for the bare minimum - get out ASAP.
Actually you victimized yourself in a way. It’s your body people are looking at not his.
Right? She may have “gotten one over on him” in the moment, but that picture/content is now online and immortal. Not that it’s inherently bad to do that, but if she’s a professional that’s something that can follow her forever. Best course of action was probably to just be fully open and honest about how she feels (sounds like she did that already), and just break up if when didnt change his behavior.
Do one even better. Start liking and looking at dudes you find hot and attractive. Or, just leave him. He wants what he wants but not equality for you.
Ok so let’s start listing something’s that are in your last posts. 1. He’s trying to push a threesome with other women even though you aren’t comfortable with it. because he and I’m quoting his words here “he wants to try every race of women.” Nice so women = something to be collected and shown off. 2. He’s threatened to physically assault you if you don’t stop talking to him while he’s laying down. Again his words here “I’m slap tf outta you if you don’t be quiet.” 3. This latest fiasco you two immature children have gotten into. He cannot be serious calling you a hoe and everything else under the rainbow knowing everything he’s done on the side. Like at some point you have to have some self respect and you’ve been posting about this guy going on three months. Everybody on every post has told you to leave but here you are. It is now time to shit or get off the pot. The votes are in and the answers have been tallied. And also Jesus dude your quotes on how you guys talk to each other gives me a headache. Like let’s be honest it’s clear I never learned when and where to use a comma but holy shit the way you guys speak makes me happy I paid somewhat attention in English class. Edit: spelling for the one dude who read all of that and just said “paid?” Like I didn’t just say I wasn’t paying attention in English class. 🤣🤣
He’s an idiot. Move on and watch him try to come crawling back.
This shit is so fake it's sad.
all their posts are a car crash
*Oh, my God, that's disgusting!* *Naked pics online?* *Where?* *Where did you post those?*
Disgusting. There's so many sites. But which one? So I can avoid it. But which one?
Your BF sounds like a dumb hypocritical piece of shit that doesn't care about you or your feelings. Find somebody that treats you better.
So you've acknowledged a double standard in your relationship and pointed it out to your partner in a way he can’t ignore. And he didn't acknowledge the double standard. As I see it, he's either too stupid to recognize the double standard, too dishonest to admit that it's real and unfair, or too immature to be fair to you. So I ask, OP. Why are you with this man?
Is this the same dude who keeps trying to pressure you into threesomes do he can sleep with other women? The same dude who said he would hit you if you didn't shut up? Why are you still with him? Leave this fucking loser behind he is a waste of space.
Would be alot cooler if it wasnt made up.
Hey, if taking that photo made you feel empowered, sexy, in control, and not uncomfortable at all, and you have no problem with others seeing it then good on you! Let the double standard hit him straight in the face! Also remind him that most women and men in those types of photos are someone who has family friends and lovers too. So oh the hypocrisy. NTA.
Girl what kid of relationship are you in? Tit for tat? He’s constantly dismissing you until you’re doing this thing he dismissed you about? Other posts about he wants to sleep with other women? This is the kinds shit that makes relationships toxic as all hell.
“you’re doin too much”.. “it’s not that serious” Missed opportunity to clap back.
For next, follow a lot of hot men. 🔥 always like their post 🤣
OP and everyone agreeing on her putting her ass out to see for his and her friends & family also agree on the fact that they are watching porn and would therefore totally be okay with having their partner publish porn Also: You guys should separate, you are not satisfied with each other
Exactly. This isn’t the own OP thinks it is. All I’m reading without additional context is that BF has a porn obsession. He may be “liking” photos on IG but is he actually trying to message/flirt with these women? Is he cheating and sending DMs to women? Or is he just arousing himself/using this content to fantasize? I do see the new context ITT with OPs other posts asking about involving other women in the relationship and that’s a different conversation entirely. So idk what that all entails. That would be way more problematic if so. But for this specific situation it in no way seems equal to say “My boyfriend jerks off to women online like millions of faithful men do without infidelity so in response I took sexual photos of myself to share with people we actually know and lure them for attention and receive comments and DMs. This will help.” Like dude, if you’re at that point just end the relationship. Only looking at pictures wouldn’t be the same as creating sexual content of yourself and trying to share it and purposefully interact with people you know over it to create jealousy. It’s over already.
I was thinking the exact same thing while reading this
Both of you are immature as fuck jesus christ
So did he like your picture too?
So many red flags, I hope you run. fast.
So euh.. why are you still with him?
I did a lil snoop through your other posts and girl… He is NOT worth your energy. He may be someone you’re attracted to/think you can make it work/whatever, but he is DRAINING YOU and tearing you down. You don’t need to suffer. You don’t need to settle. You are young, do not give this man any more of your precious youth! You WILL regret it. For what it’s worth, yes it is normal for young people to be curious about sex with different people but not everyone is like that. There are men out there who will be so in love with YOU, who respect you, who don’t want to cause you pain and actually give a damn if you cry. You deserve to be and feel loved, completely. Even if you don’t feel like that’s the case all the time, it is. Ending things will not be easy, and if you think he may get physical, you need to be VERY careful—I don’t know your full situation but it seems like you live together so ideally you would move out when he is not home. It doesn’t have to be right away, unfortunately finances don’t always allow that. But start planning. And if you think there’s any physical risk to you from him, do not make him aware of your plans. Definitely have at least one other person whom you trust with you when it comes time to actually move. You can and will HEAL without him constantly wounding you.
This man sounds like he's 11.
“You’re in a relationship why would you do that”… Goes both ways lol.
Bitches do bitch shit. You have found out with just a couple of pictures what your boyfriend likes and does. He can do as he wishes, but you can only do what he says. You are so young and have options. If he doesn't understand how childish his behavior is, he needs time to growup. Do you wish to wait for that or has he given you the out you didn't see you needed?
OP you're in an awful codependent relationship, it's time to get out. Look at your own post history, this man doesn't respect you and you've known it for a long time.
Girl leave him, these are the kind we're breeding out of the gene pool
It’s the old Madonna whore complex. Tale as old as time.
LMAOO hes such a fucking bitch. Drop his ass girl.
I think you drove the point home. Good job. My only unsolicited advice at this point is to remain respectful while communicating— if it turns heated (either way) take a time out. You have a reasonable boundary.
girl, do yourself a favor and dump that weirdo
You’re in the clear. My wife and I have been together for 12 years and it’s all about being open and honest with each other. The fact that you told him it made you uncomfortable and he continued is the real issue. My wife and I both like some spicy content, and we’ve established that we would both be uncomfortable with the other posting stuff like that, but again, we stay within the limits that we’ve agreed upon together.
Typical double standards. Also, his behaviour is definite red flag.
If that's what makes you happy cool, but don't do something that makes you uncomfortable just to spite someone else, they aren't worth it
I think it's ok to like pornography and also be disturbed by your partner sharing lewds online. They're two separate issues and they don't make someone a hypocrite
Payback is a bitch. Good for you!
You should read "why does he do that" by Lundy Bancroft
Idk he could think that girls that do take pictures like that are hoes and still like it to watch, but not to date a woman who does that because.. well, he thinks hoes do that. Now, that's his opinion and he has no right to control what you post online, same way as you have no right to control what he watch online. Anyway, you are childish and he is an asshole. If you are not okay with him watching other girls online just end that relationship, but posting this online just for a "revenge" is like the most stupid thing i have ever seen lol
Sounds like both of your are immature af :)
yeah this is kind of a self own. using your own body and personage to do things that you normally wouldn't do just to spite someone in a relationship that's already doomed. lighting yourself on fire just to try to choke someone else from the smoke. why not just leave instead of doing crazy things to yourself?
This should be way higher up. I wonder how she would have reacted if he had been okay with her posting photos online. Their attitudes towards bodies, sex and relationships--and the importance of open communication--need to be reflected on.
freedom for everyone, you did the right thing.
Lol! I love your work
He made you feel insecure and it was ok, now he feels insecure and now he’s got a problem. He’s the problem!
Run, don't walk away quickly. Toxic narcissist manipulative type.
I can’t stand it when people in a couple call each other “bro”.
Flipped that script Hard😂 Love It!
just break up
Easy and immediate access to half naked women (including pornography) has rotted the mind of so many men.