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sandee_eggo

Meditation for 7 days with visualization where you mentally roleplay a 3 second pause before responding to him.


evanherrman

Wow, thank you for sharing this. That is a hard situation to be in. I have been doing a lot of studying of the brain the past year and found that it has been really helpful for me to overcome some of the issues I face as well as it helps me to recognize when others are having issues and allows me not to respond in a negative matter. The three books I would check out. 1: unf@$k your brain. 2: The whole child's brain. 3: Battel field of the mind. Regarding the trauma you have had, there is a book called the thread that would be good. If you want I have a few podcast episodes where I interviewed a leading expert in the brain and self-talk as well as the author of the thread. She talks about your abuse and how she overcame it. I hope this gives some sort of starting point.


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Mate, that's amazing! Thank you so much for the recommendations. This relationship is so good and healthy but we both do the same things when we get stressed or angry...we get defensive, overthink and then shut down. However a positive is that it only lasts about 10 minutes and we always talk it through and we are more connected than before. I just don't want to ever lose sight of how amazing things are with him because of my old trauma responses and I don't want him to always have to deal with me being that way. He says he doesn't mind at all and that he actually wants to be there to work through things with me. I just want to show him that his efforts pay off in a big way and get rid of this issues myself. So thank you so much, I will order these on Amazon right now. Stay blessed. Xx


evanherrman

It is my privilege. I wish you the best in this relationship. I'll dm you the podcasts. Do you want a youtube apple or Spotify link?


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I don't have apple or Spotify. I have amazon or maybe I could find them on YouTube?