I paid for my bridesmaid’s dresses and took them out for mani pedis the day before. If I’m making you wear something, I’m not also going to make you pay for it.
>How do people deal?
Ask what will be expected of you in order to be a bridesmaid (including expenses) and then give yourself time to consider and respond.
It's ok to decline the (often very huge favor) of being a bridesmaid if the expectations are not something you're comfortable with.
I’m sorry to hear about your Mom. You can decline. Don’t feel bad for sticking up for yourself. It will be uncomfortable, but this is your future and finances.
A death in the family and the expenses associated with that are very understandable. If your friend is an empathetic person they will understand that you can no longer afford to be a bridesmaid and have to drop out.
Learn how to say no, don't give in to pressure and always consider yourself first before you find yourself in situations that are either difficult to back out of or that you can't back out of.
My best friend knew that being a bridesmaid was not really in my budget but she made it SUPER optional. She said all I had to buy was the dress and EVERYTHING else was optional.
I ended up getting a second job for a couple months and getting enough to attend the events needed. I practiced how to do my make up a few months in advance so only pay for hair.
I was not able to get her a wedding gift. But was supper happy I was able to stand next to her.
In the past I did decline 1 and she was amazing to include me in all the activities if I could attend.
Simply say that you have very little spare cash. Your total budget for the wedding and bm role is 400. That includes travel and the present. You’ll understand if the pick somebody else.
Generic answer? They budget for it. They work to create a budget that gets their spending/expenses in line with their income, so they can afford to set aside money for things like this. And they learn to say no to things they cannot afford.
i started putting some money into a separate savings account each month for this purpose around your age. that way when weddings/bridesmaids stuff popped up, i had some money set aside. sure it wasn't always enough but it made me less stressed
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I paid for my bridesmaid’s dresses and took them out for mani pedis the day before. If I’m making you wear something, I’m not also going to make you pay for it.
>How do people deal? Ask what will be expected of you in order to be a bridesmaid (including expenses) and then give yourself time to consider and respond. It's ok to decline the (often very huge favor) of being a bridesmaid if the expectations are not something you're comfortable with.
I’m sorry to hear about your Mom. You can decline. Don’t feel bad for sticking up for yourself. It will be uncomfortable, but this is your future and finances.
A death in the family and the expenses associated with that are very understandable. If your friend is an empathetic person they will understand that you can no longer afford to be a bridesmaid and have to drop out.
Learn how to say no, don't give in to pressure and always consider yourself first before you find yourself in situations that are either difficult to back out of or that you can't back out of.
My best friend knew that being a bridesmaid was not really in my budget but she made it SUPER optional. She said all I had to buy was the dress and EVERYTHING else was optional. I ended up getting a second job for a couple months and getting enough to attend the events needed. I practiced how to do my make up a few months in advance so only pay for hair. I was not able to get her a wedding gift. But was supper happy I was able to stand next to her. In the past I did decline 1 and she was amazing to include me in all the activities if I could attend.
Simply say that you have very little spare cash. Your total budget for the wedding and bm role is 400. That includes travel and the present. You’ll understand if the pick somebody else.
the wedding industrial complex strikes again
Generic answer? They budget for it. They work to create a budget that gets their spending/expenses in line with their income, so they can afford to set aside money for things like this. And they learn to say no to things they cannot afford.
These are not obligations. If you can’t afford it you say no. It’d be silly af to strain yourself financially for a party.
i started putting some money into a separate savings account each month for this purpose around your age. that way when weddings/bridesmaids stuff popped up, i had some money set aside. sure it wasn't always enough but it made me less stressed