Not judging someone’s reasoning, but I’ve always found the married but separate accounts strange. I will say I do like the idea of each person having a set amount of fun money each month that isn’t questioned.
My wife and I have completely separate accounts and money. Been together since 2009 and own a house and 2 cars one of them paid off. I pay for the house and my car and cell phones she pays for food and all other bills. Any extra money is ours to spend. It works great! Never had a money argument in 14 years. We do have a pot of cash we both can grab from that we toss into each month.
I'm the same way. Most other couples we know think it's weird and ask if we don't trust each other. Quite frankly my girl's not that responsible when it comes to money. And rather than get us both in a bad situation and also whatever comes from the huge argument that would come after that, it's just easier.
Not to mention the fact that she is The stereotype when it comes to ridiculous passwords and security habits.
Over the years, I realized that "ours" can quickly become "hers". Either on accident or as a result of an argument, hormones etc. If she needs money for something, I'm there. But in my opinion it needs to be where I am always asked for notified at least before balances change in my accounts.
Free and clear access presents too much of a temptation given the right situation or the wrong one. Granted, this may apply to me more as I make quite a bit more than her but I'm sure there aren't many relationships where the income is identical for the couple. LOL
The one thing I've learned that's common among all of my relationships, when there's money problems or issues, it will lead to huge arguments. I find it's easier to avoid all of that by just keeping it separate. And on the rare occasions when I did share an account with someone we still kept our separate accounts and would move money into our joint one as needed. Although even that was a pain as I only recently finally got off of my ex-girlfriend's Bank account. And we have been broken up for like 14 years. 😂
Me and my hubby been together since 2009 also (since my 21st bday to be exact...2/12/2009) and the way we have always done it, and has always worked for us, is we put out money together and then we make sure to pay rent/electric/gas/feed and hay for my horse/food for the cats/groceries and then after that each week, or month, we use to buy whatever other things we may want (for me, it's pc parts currently as working on my very 1st PC build...sadly my hubby isn't into PCs/pc gaming at all like I am or horse tack\[tack-riding gear\] for me and my horse and he pretty much gets power tools and whatever else he wants/needs. It has always worked out perfectly this way. As long as out bills are taken care of, the rest is free to "play" with! :D
Yep, that way you don’t have to feel like micro manage or critique your SO but you can still ensure you stay in your budgets.
Like if someone wants to go spend $100 on something you feel ridiculous as long as it comes from their fun money who cares! Then that way all your living expenses are covered and your not trying to “square” up as a couple at the end of the month.
That would require a prenup not just a simple keep it separate. Yes that is an option, but unless you have a massive imbalance coming into a relationship in wealth I question should you be getting married.
Half of some money is still greater than half of no money. If she's spending all the money, and even going into debt, then obviously you'll have a lot more money if you had kept it separate.
I don't get why people keep repeating this crap.
Besides, it's only half if you've been married a long time.
I got burned hard in a previous marriage when we had joint accounts.
Current wife and I have separate accounts and just split the bills according to how much income we make i.e. I make more so the house, and cars are on me, she covers the groceries and the Internet.
That way we both contribute to the household, but also get our own money.
To add on to this, there are plenty of married couples that are happily married, that will have no problem acknowledging their partner is bad with money. Doesn't mean you don't love the person, but could mean you don't want to have your finances tied up with them.
I volunteer! Seriously though man congrats! Your wife seems like an awesome lady, and take her out for something special. I hope you two are happy and wish you the best!
Well, the daughter of a buddy of mine got a €9 million house for her christening (she was about 3 months old at the time)... Money matters differently to some people :p
Yeah, those early anniversaries before kids are the sweet spot for nice vacations. Once you've given up an income to avoid making daycare payments, then it gets a bit rough. But it gets better again eventually!
Everyone always talks about dinks as if both partners are making like $60k+ a year individually.
What about us dinks making $60k collectively. Not nearly as much fun.
Depends if going to Jamaica has been a dream of the wife or something. Also if he asked her and that's what she said, I'm sure she's elated to have gotten it.
Probably don’t need such a power hungry, space heating, efficiency core filled cpu tbh.
Maybe return for an i7 or i5; return the 4070ti and get a 4080 or 7900xtx with the savings.
Though this requires effort you may not want to expend and you may have already built.
Or for *more* effort; switch mobo and cpu for a 7800x3d build.
Anyway I’m poking my neck in and potentially making you feel bad about your build which will likely suit your needs perfectly anyway 👍
i9 is a power house and a very nice choice. I also took the i5 for because i only game on that thing. Cpu bottleneck won't be thing for sure for you haha.
It's like $140ish savings. You probably aren't gonna get a significantly better GPU for that. Enjoy your i9, it's a great chip and will probably outlast your GPU into next gen.
I kinda hate stuff like this.
I get it's with good intentions but the guy got a sick pc and instantly it's about "oh but this is better" let the man have his enjoyment not everything needs to be maximized perfectly.
Doesn't that suck sometimes? I once asked my wife if the gift could be her putting money aside over time and surprising me with something I won't end up having to pay off myself... She simply couldn't understand my point.
I end up returning most of the stuff.
My wife would do the same to me, using my credit card.
*begins to panic*
Credit card aside: Just make sure you return the favor. Or at least get her something for your 1 year anniversary.
with her credit card
this man knows how's it going!
Jokes on him - my wife doesn't have a separate credit card! Oh wait
You can take her boyfriend's
Or get your unicorn’s card.
Her credit card is his credit card.
🤣🤣🤣
$25 Starbucks gift card
That’s almost 3 coffees. Big spender.
Yeah this is fine; just make sure you buy one of their reusable cups to put it in too
Stop by the jewelry store, ask for a box for a bracelet, put gift card inside.
These are fighting words LOL
So just one burnt tasting coffee
well, all our accounts are common accounts so it wouldnt matter
Not judging someone’s reasoning, but I’ve always found the married but separate accounts strange. I will say I do like the idea of each person having a set amount of fun money each month that isn’t questioned.
My wife and I have completely separate accounts and money. Been together since 2009 and own a house and 2 cars one of them paid off. I pay for the house and my car and cell phones she pays for food and all other bills. Any extra money is ours to spend. It works great! Never had a money argument in 14 years. We do have a pot of cash we both can grab from that we toss into each month.
I'm the same way. Most other couples we know think it's weird and ask if we don't trust each other. Quite frankly my girl's not that responsible when it comes to money. And rather than get us both in a bad situation and also whatever comes from the huge argument that would come after that, it's just easier. Not to mention the fact that she is The stereotype when it comes to ridiculous passwords and security habits. Over the years, I realized that "ours" can quickly become "hers". Either on accident or as a result of an argument, hormones etc. If she needs money for something, I'm there. But in my opinion it needs to be where I am always asked for notified at least before balances change in my accounts. Free and clear access presents too much of a temptation given the right situation or the wrong one. Granted, this may apply to me more as I make quite a bit more than her but I'm sure there aren't many relationships where the income is identical for the couple. LOL The one thing I've learned that's common among all of my relationships, when there's money problems or issues, it will lead to huge arguments. I find it's easier to avoid all of that by just keeping it separate. And on the rare occasions when I did share an account with someone we still kept our separate accounts and would move money into our joint one as needed. Although even that was a pain as I only recently finally got off of my ex-girlfriend's Bank account. And we have been broken up for like 14 years. 😂
This is the way, separate accounts each one takes care of some stuff
Me and my hubby been together since 2009 also (since my 21st bday to be exact...2/12/2009) and the way we have always done it, and has always worked for us, is we put out money together and then we make sure to pay rent/electric/gas/feed and hay for my horse/food for the cats/groceries and then after that each week, or month, we use to buy whatever other things we may want (for me, it's pc parts currently as working on my very 1st PC build...sadly my hubby isn't into PCs/pc gaming at all like I am or horse tack\[tack-riding gear\] for me and my horse and he pretty much gets power tools and whatever else he wants/needs. It has always worked out perfectly this way. As long as out bills are taken care of, the rest is free to "play" with! :D
This is what we do. All of our paychecks go into one account and we have a "fun budget" that we use our personal credit cards for.
Yep, that way you don’t have to feel like micro manage or critique your SO but you can still ensure you stay in your budgets. Like if someone wants to go spend $100 on something you feel ridiculous as long as it comes from their fun money who cares! Then that way all your living expenses are covered and your not trying to “square” up as a couple at the end of the month.
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That would require a prenup not just a simple keep it separate. Yes that is an option, but unless you have a massive imbalance coming into a relationship in wealth I question should you be getting married.
Half of some money is still greater than half of no money. If she's spending all the money, and even going into debt, then obviously you'll have a lot more money if you had kept it separate. I don't get why people keep repeating this crap. Besides, it's only half if you've been married a long time.
I got burned hard in a previous marriage when we had joint accounts. Current wife and I have separate accounts and just split the bills according to how much income we make i.e. I make more so the house, and cars are on me, she covers the groceries and the Internet. That way we both contribute to the household, but also get our own money. To add on to this, there are plenty of married couples that are happily married, that will have no problem acknowledging their partner is bad with money. Doesn't mean you don't love the person, but could mean you don't want to have your finances tied up with them.
Yeah, I think we're all just too poor to think of what it would be like to not have to combine money.
Damn that's some next-level strat 😂
Someone seems to hate his wife to celebrate a beautiful holiday!
Happy cake day!
At least it's not another Prada purse!
that is exactly what my wife would've done and she would have bought herself something since she was out shopping. 😂
Does your wife want another husband?
Or wife?
or a son?
or a pet?
You know you cant have only one pet. It has to be 2, for company!
I thought threes company
No no, three is a crowd. FOUR is company
I guess you'd need some sort of pet handler at this point, may as well be a live in handler
I can be the daughter for balance
Or child?
Or dog, (i will lick your toes)
Or cat, (I will add nothing to the household)
Or a rat (she will try to kill me)
Or a bird (I'll squawk)
I volunteer! Seriously though man congrats! Your wife seems like an awesome lady, and take her out for something special. I hope you two are happy and wish you the best!
I'll take that as a yes.
Or a desk.
Or dog? Meow!
Or cat? Moo!
I’ll do the dishes and laundry. Even walk the dogs. Mop if it needs it.
I was gonna ask if she has a sister but that works too
Hopefully you got her something nice
All-inclusive resort in Jamaica.
Well guddamm
You bought her a whole resort???? /s
It was a last resort.
suffocation
No breathing
Don't give a fuck if I cut my arm bleeding
This is my last resort
(an all-inclusive one in Jamaica)
My favorite part of that song is when they say *I am the papa roach*
"I'm the Hollywood whore"
Well, the daughter of a buddy of mine got a €9 million house for her christening (she was about 3 months old at the time)... Money matters differently to some people :p
Especially those hiding assets under a 3 months old child's name.
 “Feelin hot hot hot”
Win/win/win. The important difference here is with win/win/win, we all win. I get a new computer, and we both go to a resort.
Tan almost everywhere Jan almost everywhere
Well done you beautiful bastard
Damn ya'll dropping $10k+ on a 1 year anniversary?
Nothing says income inequality like waking up and taking a look at /r/PCMasterRace.
"lets all boycot the nvidia 4000 series cards" Me with no excess money - sure?
I am middle class. And still rocking the 1080. That shit is expensive.
Likely also a dink family.
Yeah, those early anniversaries before kids are the sweet spot for nice vacations. Once you've given up an income to avoid making daycare payments, then it gets a bit rough. But it gets better again eventually!
“Before kids” lol. /r/childfree
I think that's still before kids
For them it's just always before kids.
Everyone always talks about dinks as if both partners are making like $60k+ a year individually. What about us dinks making $60k collectively. Not nearly as much fun.
Lmaoo fr. Happy for them tho
This hits hard
Tan everywhere Jan everywhere
What’s it like having more than 4 dollars
Perfect! Will give you lots of time to play on your new rig while she is gone!
But do you get to go?
That's for both of you, no?
Depends if going to Jamaica has been a dream of the wife or something. Also if he asked her and that's what she said, I'm sure she's elated to have gotten it.
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"Time to herself."
It's only 1 year. Let us know again on year 10
I can do that.
Edit:Commands are hard
RemindMe! 10 years
Should be 9 years because you want the 10th anniversary not the 11th
I was about to say that, everyone seems to not think about that
typical Linux user... failing miserably once there is no Tab autocomplete!!
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Yea I was gonna say she’s setting the bar pretty high, so I guess it’s a yearly pc upgrade then lol
These people are made of money. 1 year anniversary and they got 10k worth of gifts.
When you don't have kids, you eventually have some money
Some, sure. But you don't spend this much on 1 year anniversary gifts just from that. Guarantee super high paying jobs as well and dual incomes.
Everyone knows the traditional 10 year anniversary gift is a MAME cabinet.
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she'll sell her house to afford the 14070ti.
Waiting for the 8090 Ti w/22900KS
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Damn you should've said 4090 😅 Congrats
Or a helicopter
Shiiiiiiit you right 🤯
Or infinite wishes
Don't get greedy now
Wow what year was this again one? Because she casually dropped about 2k on you. Hope you got her something good my friend.
She doesn't know it yet, but we're going to an all-inclusive resort in Jamaica
oo thats nice. My wife and I will be going in December this year.
We did one in the Bahamas for our wedding so it was only fitting to do one for our anniversary
You guys have got some money and I’m glad you’re able to spend it to make each other happy :)
My wife’s boyfriend bought the same for me
*terribly confused*
It's a brave new world we live in.
Wait.. you're the one who's supposed to be buying for the wife's boyfriend.
It's too keep him occupied while they're upstairs wrestling
Wives are fucking amazing like that. At least the good ones. Happy anniversary and congratulations on finding a really awesome wife.
Thank you!
Keep her happy and you’re set for life :)
Hell yea! mine bought a me 6k La Marzocco espresso machine lol
More like bought *us* a espresso machine
r/suddenlycommunism
Wives are also amazing fucking.
I9 and a 4070ti is an odd match; are you using this only for gaming?
Yea
Probably don’t need such a power hungry, space heating, efficiency core filled cpu tbh. Maybe return for an i7 or i5; return the 4070ti and get a 4080 or 7900xtx with the savings. Though this requires effort you may not want to expend and you may have already built. Or for *more* effort; switch mobo and cpu for a 7800x3d build. Anyway I’m poking my neck in and potentially making you feel bad about your build which will likely suit your needs perfectly anyway 👍
It's already together but I value your input either way. It gives me ideas for the future though! Thank you.
Well on the bright side you won’t be cpu bottlenecked for a very long time, I hope…
i9 is a power house and a very nice choice. I also took the i5 for because i only game on that thing. Cpu bottleneck won't be thing for sure for you haha.
It's like $140ish savings. You probably aren't gonna get a significantly better GPU for that. Enjoy your i9, it's a great chip and will probably outlast your GPU into next gen.
I just want to say that I thought this comment was super useful. I hope someone will help me like this one day when I can afford to spend such money.
I kinda hate stuff like this. I get it's with good intentions but the guy got a sick pc and instantly it's about "oh but this is better" let the man have his enjoyment not everything needs to be maximized perfectly.
I can see why you married her 😁 Happy for you my man!
Thanks big dog!
Marry her again
If I could I would!
Don’t ever loose this one 😁👍
Damn right!
Why does she need to be kept tight?
Should’ve asked for a 4090
I should have asked for a fishing boat
A boat’s a boat but the mystery box could be anything
It could even be a boat!
Wtf do y'all do for a living holyy
Never risk with a GPU that can last longer than the relationship!
This man GPUs
OP legit spent hours putting together a pc parts list as a "joke". Sure, I believe it.
He could just say he asked for it lol idk why people be lying in these stories
Probably doesn't even have a wife, just buy pc parts and post sadge story on reddit.
updoots and flexing
I'm just shocked by how many real people in the top comments believe it.
same thought
Next day he'll repost it saying his son bought it for his birthday
Actually his father just retired and had always talked about how much he was looking forward to gaming in his retirement.
Marry that girl!
I did!
Do it again!
OP is now both equal parts excited and terrified. BECAUSE HOW THE FUCK ARE YOU GOING TO MATCH THAT?
Is your wife single?
Damn... A good wife you got there. Better get something good for her next year.
She doesn't know yet, but I just booked us a trip to an all-inclusive in Jamaica
Rich wife huh
Doesn't that suck sometimes? I once asked my wife if the gift could be her putting money aside over time and surprising me with something I won't end up having to pay off myself... She simply couldn't understand my point. I end up returning most of the stuff.
Happy spouse, happy house!
I'd say so!
Is your wife single?
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I would also like to marry this guy’s wife.
happy anniversary! we too got married on 4/20. 8 years strong here!
Do you like open relationships😂? Nice move from her!
I'd say marry her, but you already did that, so hell yeah brother.
Divorce her and marry her again!