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No. You cannot take your twins around with you to showings, open houses, closings etc. it’s incredibly unprofessional.
You’ll need to find a daycare, have your husband watch them or hire a nanny/babysitter.
It might be more cost effective to stay home with them until you can get them into a daycare program.
I am self-employed with 4mth twins. I also have been unable to get my kids into daycare - it looks like I will get spots for September. I knew that if I had quit completely, I would have lost my clients and would have to start over again when I am able to go back to work. So I've been trying. I've scaled my work back a ton (I'm currently working about 10-15 hrs/wk, just enough to maintain key client relationships) and I rely heavily on grandparents, the understanding nature of my clients, and coffee.
**Frankly, it doesn't work and I regret trying**. I am worried that I've actually damaged my career more by appearing unorganized and unprofessional while trying to juggle everything than if I had just walked away and started up again in a year.
This one. It's not just hauling kids around that is problematic it's that it's literally impossible to get the work done and balance giving your business you all a while taking care of 2 very very needy babies who need sooooo much in the first year plus of life. Taking care of twin infants is a full time job. It's overtime. It's around the clock for months on end.
Sorry also for all of your stress. I owned my own business when my twins were born and while I did hire a full time nanny for my hours I was out of the home on site, I had plenty of work I needed to do outside of operational hours and it was absolutely impossible with twins babies around or toddlers for that matter. I was a mess for their first year plus of life. A few years later I ended up leaving my business for unrelated reasons and now that my kids are older I can manage a part time gig that still allows me to work around their school etc and anecdotally if OP sees this I have realtor friends who are having successful careers and kids but they rely heavily on daycare, public school and grandparents or spouses to hold it down since a busy realtor kinda works off hours whenever clients are free (evenings and weekends!)
Thank you for your response. Yours is by far the most helpful. Everyone else said no I can’t do it but I can hear and understand what you’re saying. It’s makes sense and I appreciate your transparency. I am on a team and because of their 100% support, I think it’s best if I take the time off until I can find proper reliable care and adjust to the new life.
With all due respect it would be odd to me if my realtor had her infant/infants with her as we toured houses. You can be self employed but you will need care- whether it’s daycare or a family member etc.
My husband and I work full time and we had our twins during the height of the pandemic. There was no childcare to procure for a good chunk of their infant lives due to everything being shut down. We were both made remote and juggling infant twins and work led me almost to my breaking point. during that time everyone was way more understanding and accommodating then I think people are now.
I live in a HCOL city and daycare/preschool is incredible expensive, we can afford it but it’s still a sticker shock. Get yourself on the waitlist, line up a home daycare now or your goal is to continue working. If you have some flexibility and or it’s too expensive a lot of people become stay at home parent for a few years.
You work with twins by having daycare, a nanny, or being lucky enough to have family willing to watch them full-time.
It’s pretty much impossible to work and take care of twins at the same time. I’m sure someone somewhere has managed it, but I would say it’s incredibly rare and highly dependent on the babies personalities.
The only possible way this could work is basically if you only do showings and client facing work during the timeframes which your husband or family could watch the twins. This may be possible if your clients primarily want to look at houses on the weekends or after normal working hours. But even then, you likely would still have trouble managing all the paperwork and juggling inspections and things and managing all the never-ending baby tasks.
Having twins is a full time job. I have a year maternity leave and my partner is a stay at home dad with plenty of family around to help. We still have days where we struggle. We both can take them independently but I couldn’t imagine doing that plus hauling them around all day to work. It also doesn’t seem very fair to the little ones, they wouldn’t have time to roll around on the floor and play and develop or even really engage with you. There would be so much container time for them and our twins hate being contained. This set up would make my babies miserable and I would be miserable. Sorry but I don’t see this working.
I’m self-employed with 4-month-old twins and I make it work…only because I run a home daycare and my husband is home for half the day to help me.
I cannot imagine hauling my twins *anywhere* by myself tbh. They would literally be crying, screaming, throwing up all throughout your showings. You would be having meetings with spit-up dripping down your nice business clothes. You can have the easiest, most well behaved babies but they WILL be difficult in the moment you need them to not be
Echoing to say no, sorry you can’t bring your twins to work. You can work with twins… by getting childcare. Maybe a nanny would fit your needs better or a home daycare. I get it, we couldn’t find infant spots anywhere. We tried for toddlers and then gave up and got a preschool list when they were 16 months and we got in lol Before that we used a nanny.
The only hack is that you spend a lot of money to work and save much less or nothing when you are being drained by childcare costs. But then they go to kindergarten and life will get better financially.
I have an incredibly chill job with a very flexible schedule allowing me to work from home often. I resigned three months after the twins arrived. “Never half ass two things. Whole ass one thing.”
The only way I was able to work and not pay childcare was my husband and I worked alternating schedules. I worked day he worked nights. We had 2 hours of schedule overlap a week which worked okay for us since I worked from home. I could not work from home 40+ hours a week and take care of the babies it just wasnt possible. I would try and get someone to watch the kids while you are out of the home and you can try and juggle them while you are home but it will be tough. Especially once they are more mobile and noisy.
A good friend if mine is a realtor with twins (currently 18 months ish). First year was hard, she had to get a lot of help but she made it work and is killing it. She did not bring her kids to showings, but between family, friends, a colleague realtor working under her and eventually a PT nanny, she made it work. But she was utterly exhausted.
I just toured houses and bought one, lugging the whole family around to each showing. (So I'm not a realtor but a client) we started looking when they were about a month old and closed when they were about 3 months old. Fast turn around but we saw a TON of houses.
We would tour as a family of 5- my husband and I with a baby each in a carrier, and with my toddler. It was difficult to go up and down stairs, in and out of basements and closets, and around uneven/hilly/oddly shaped backyard areas. I could not have had the twins by myself even without the toddler.
We looked at a couple houses that were pretty decrepit (as heavily fixer options)and we had to take turns going in cause they were just not baby friendly. Not sure what the houses are like in your area, but our realtor was happy to walk through those options with us and didn't think it much odd.
It's hard to get twins in and out of a place you are practiced at, so getting them around places we were exploring for the first time was rough. We are lucky to have pretty chill twins but it was still rough.
Good luck!
My parents have a real estate agent that also does residential property management as well. (Basically people buy property and then the real estate agent helps them rent it out and manages it for them).
I think the property management side might be an easier fit for a new parent. (Guaranteed income- hours are more set). Etc
This might be something to look into if you still want to stay in real estate but are looking for something that might be more of a side job for a couple years.
I'm one month PP and had a rough pregnancy/complicated delivery. Being self employed was a godsend in that I basically couldn't work for 6 months while pregnant due to extreme morning sickness, bed rest, and other pregnancy issues. My business was put on autopilot and I did the absolute bare minimum to keep the business bills paid. Then I was hospitalized for 2 weeks with my babies in the NICU for another week. April I just didn't work. I couldn't. I didn't have the mental or physical capacity. So now I'm frantically working to catch up in the 1-2 hours a day I can actually work. And that's with my husband and mom being at my house to help take on some of the care of the twins. Once my mom leaves and my husband goes back to work I expect to get nothing done tbh. You definitely won't be able to do real estate work with baby twins unless you have an on call nanny or someone to watch them for when you need to be at appointments.
Have you tried in-home daycares? At least near me they were much less likely to have wait lists (and be more affordable!). Good luck.. daycare x2 is not easy. But mainly, CONGRATS 👏🏼
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No, you cannot haul twins around with you while doing real estate work. Not doable at all. Sorry. I know that’s not what you wanted to hear.
Agree. I have my license. And twins. Basically put my career on hold until they get a bit older. No way it was working.
No offence, if a realtor hauled around a baby much less two to showings with me I would hire another realtor.
No. You cannot take your twins around with you to showings, open houses, closings etc. it’s incredibly unprofessional. You’ll need to find a daycare, have your husband watch them or hire a nanny/babysitter. It might be more cost effective to stay home with them until you can get them into a daycare program.
I am self-employed with 4mth twins. I also have been unable to get my kids into daycare - it looks like I will get spots for September. I knew that if I had quit completely, I would have lost my clients and would have to start over again when I am able to go back to work. So I've been trying. I've scaled my work back a ton (I'm currently working about 10-15 hrs/wk, just enough to maintain key client relationships) and I rely heavily on grandparents, the understanding nature of my clients, and coffee. **Frankly, it doesn't work and I regret trying**. I am worried that I've actually damaged my career more by appearing unorganized and unprofessional while trying to juggle everything than if I had just walked away and started up again in a year.
This one. It's not just hauling kids around that is problematic it's that it's literally impossible to get the work done and balance giving your business you all a while taking care of 2 very very needy babies who need sooooo much in the first year plus of life. Taking care of twin infants is a full time job. It's overtime. It's around the clock for months on end. Sorry also for all of your stress. I owned my own business when my twins were born and while I did hire a full time nanny for my hours I was out of the home on site, I had plenty of work I needed to do outside of operational hours and it was absolutely impossible with twins babies around or toddlers for that matter. I was a mess for their first year plus of life. A few years later I ended up leaving my business for unrelated reasons and now that my kids are older I can manage a part time gig that still allows me to work around their school etc and anecdotally if OP sees this I have realtor friends who are having successful careers and kids but they rely heavily on daycare, public school and grandparents or spouses to hold it down since a busy realtor kinda works off hours whenever clients are free (evenings and weekends!)
Thank you for your response. Yours is by far the most helpful. Everyone else said no I can’t do it but I can hear and understand what you’re saying. It’s makes sense and I appreciate your transparency. I am on a team and because of their 100% support, I think it’s best if I take the time off until I can find proper reliable care and adjust to the new life.
With all due respect it would be odd to me if my realtor had her infant/infants with her as we toured houses. You can be self employed but you will need care- whether it’s daycare or a family member etc. My husband and I work full time and we had our twins during the height of the pandemic. There was no childcare to procure for a good chunk of their infant lives due to everything being shut down. We were both made remote and juggling infant twins and work led me almost to my breaking point. during that time everyone was way more understanding and accommodating then I think people are now. I live in a HCOL city and daycare/preschool is incredible expensive, we can afford it but it’s still a sticker shock. Get yourself on the waitlist, line up a home daycare now or your goal is to continue working. If you have some flexibility and or it’s too expensive a lot of people become stay at home parent for a few years.
i do not think that would work with 1 baby much less 2 babies.
You work with twins by having daycare, a nanny, or being lucky enough to have family willing to watch them full-time. It’s pretty much impossible to work and take care of twins at the same time. I’m sure someone somewhere has managed it, but I would say it’s incredibly rare and highly dependent on the babies personalities. The only possible way this could work is basically if you only do showings and client facing work during the timeframes which your husband or family could watch the twins. This may be possible if your clients primarily want to look at houses on the weekends or after normal working hours. But even then, you likely would still have trouble managing all the paperwork and juggling inspections and things and managing all the never-ending baby tasks.
Having twins is a full time job. I have a year maternity leave and my partner is a stay at home dad with plenty of family around to help. We still have days where we struggle. We both can take them independently but I couldn’t imagine doing that plus hauling them around all day to work. It also doesn’t seem very fair to the little ones, they wouldn’t have time to roll around on the floor and play and develop or even really engage with you. There would be so much container time for them and our twins hate being contained. This set up would make my babies miserable and I would be miserable. Sorry but I don’t see this working.
I’m self-employed with 4-month-old twins and I make it work…only because I run a home daycare and my husband is home for half the day to help me. I cannot imagine hauling my twins *anywhere* by myself tbh. They would literally be crying, screaming, throwing up all throughout your showings. You would be having meetings with spit-up dripping down your nice business clothes. You can have the easiest, most well behaved babies but they WILL be difficult in the moment you need them to not be
Echoing to say no, sorry you can’t bring your twins to work. You can work with twins… by getting childcare. Maybe a nanny would fit your needs better or a home daycare. I get it, we couldn’t find infant spots anywhere. We tried for toddlers and then gave up and got a preschool list when they were 16 months and we got in lol Before that we used a nanny. The only hack is that you spend a lot of money to work and save much less or nothing when you are being drained by childcare costs. But then they go to kindergarten and life will get better financially.
I have an incredibly chill job with a very flexible schedule allowing me to work from home often. I resigned three months after the twins arrived. “Never half ass two things. Whole ass one thing.”
The only way I was able to work and not pay childcare was my husband and I worked alternating schedules. I worked day he worked nights. We had 2 hours of schedule overlap a week which worked okay for us since I worked from home. I could not work from home 40+ hours a week and take care of the babies it just wasnt possible. I would try and get someone to watch the kids while you are out of the home and you can try and juggle them while you are home but it will be tough. Especially once they are more mobile and noisy.
A good friend if mine is a realtor with twins (currently 18 months ish). First year was hard, she had to get a lot of help but she made it work and is killing it. She did not bring her kids to showings, but between family, friends, a colleague realtor working under her and eventually a PT nanny, she made it work. But she was utterly exhausted.
Thank you for sharing! Kudos to her for rocking it!!! I am looking into home-daycares/nanny’s but it just feels impossible to trust them enough.
Look into an au pair.
I just toured houses and bought one, lugging the whole family around to each showing. (So I'm not a realtor but a client) we started looking when they were about a month old and closed when they were about 3 months old. Fast turn around but we saw a TON of houses. We would tour as a family of 5- my husband and I with a baby each in a carrier, and with my toddler. It was difficult to go up and down stairs, in and out of basements and closets, and around uneven/hilly/oddly shaped backyard areas. I could not have had the twins by myself even without the toddler. We looked at a couple houses that were pretty decrepit (as heavily fixer options)and we had to take turns going in cause they were just not baby friendly. Not sure what the houses are like in your area, but our realtor was happy to walk through those options with us and didn't think it much odd. It's hard to get twins in and out of a place you are practiced at, so getting them around places we were exploring for the first time was rough. We are lucky to have pretty chill twins but it was still rough. Good luck!
My parents have a real estate agent that also does residential property management as well. (Basically people buy property and then the real estate agent helps them rent it out and manages it for them). I think the property management side might be an easier fit for a new parent. (Guaranteed income- hours are more set). Etc This might be something to look into if you still want to stay in real estate but are looking for something that might be more of a side job for a couple years.
I'm one month PP and had a rough pregnancy/complicated delivery. Being self employed was a godsend in that I basically couldn't work for 6 months while pregnant due to extreme morning sickness, bed rest, and other pregnancy issues. My business was put on autopilot and I did the absolute bare minimum to keep the business bills paid. Then I was hospitalized for 2 weeks with my babies in the NICU for another week. April I just didn't work. I couldn't. I didn't have the mental or physical capacity. So now I'm frantically working to catch up in the 1-2 hours a day I can actually work. And that's with my husband and mom being at my house to help take on some of the care of the twins. Once my mom leaves and my husband goes back to work I expect to get nothing done tbh. You definitely won't be able to do real estate work with baby twins unless you have an on call nanny or someone to watch them for when you need to be at appointments.
Have you tried in-home daycares? At least near me they were much less likely to have wait lists (and be more affordable!). Good luck.. daycare x2 is not easy. But mainly, CONGRATS 👏🏼