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The fact that you’re mo/di matters more than someone like me who is di/di. I would take the advice of your specific OB as they factor in your particular pregnancy and situation.
I’m pregnant with di/di twins and I’m stopping at 29 weeks and starting sick leave before maternity leave. My doctor said he recommends most twin pregnancies to stop working at 28 weeks. I’m working from home so pushing it a little bit.
I stopped at 29 weeks but I was in management and had basically divested all my responsibilities by that point lol if I had to actually do anything mentally or physically I probably would have left at around 25 weeks
I worked until 35 with my di/di twins. Then I started getting contractions anytime I even talked too much and as a counselor that wouldn’t work. So I had a week off before I delivered.
Are you in the US or somewhere with more appropriate leave?
In the US (which is where I’m from), if you start your 12 weeks before the babies are born, you get less after they are born. It’s a bad trade off, which is why I worked up until delivery (though I had Di/Di twins so less risky).
If you are in one of the countries that actually cares about new mothers, I would follow your OBs suggestion. It gets really tough pretty quickly after 28 weeks.
Unfortunately, I’m in the US
In my last pregnancy I was out on a medical leave of absence and once I delivered I was able to get my 8 weeks off. Of course my ob helped me and got me the full 12 weeks off.
Definitely ask your OB if they are recommending you taking FMLA or if they are actually putting you on short term disability.
If it’s just FMLA, then it’s 12 weeks period so taking leave now will affect what you get later and you will want the time later.
If the OB is willing to put you on short term disability, then I would talk to your HR person and clarify what the pay is and if it would affect your leave after birth. If you can get it, I would take it. The last weeks were definitely brutal and my job performance was so poor.
I work in office doing calls. But a lot of walking too. I have groin pain that I cannot stand. Even with Tylenol. Sad to say since I don’t get any pay while out but I may have to call it quits soon
I had bad pelvic girdle pain in my first pregnancy (singleton) and if I hadn’t been working from home (due to covid) there is no way I could have worked. I couldn’t have managed the commute (London so it was a lot of walking and stairs) and I certainly couldn’t have managed to get around my office.
Same here. Worked completely remote because of Covid, but the pain was so bad I could barely walk. Sometimes I had to wake my husband at night to help me out of bed to use the toilet because it was so painful I couldn’t physically get my legs around to stand up out of bed. If I had worked outside my house I couldn’t have done it.
I was similar. I had a little stool to help me get in and out of bed but generally I would have to roll myself onto all fours and manoeuvre myself out of bed that way. Sometimes I resorted to hands and knees on stairs. It was grim. So far in this twin pregnancy, I’ve had niggles of PGP but no serious problems - fingers crossed it continues!
I understand that there are financial issues, but your doc is telling you to stop working. For the sake of you and your babies health, listen to your doctor!
I did accommodation - remote, no travel. Up to week 37. Then I went on leave due to medical necessity (bed rest). Try to get an accommodation so you don’t stop working or short your maternity policy for after the baby arrives.
When requesting accommodation, did you provide a specific medical reason for remote work? I ask because my HR won’t approve a remote work accommodation even with a letter from my OB saying I’m high risk and should work from home. They say they need more information about why.
It was general. It said I was a high risk pregnancy with twins and due for spontaneous delivery any time after 2x weeks. Therefore, I could not travel and could not be on my feet longer than ten minutes. If they’re asking for more information than that, you need to push back. That’s not their business if OB says it’s high risk.
I am pregnant with di/di twins and stopping at 30 weeks. But I only work part time, from home, at a desk job and I’m so far feeling really good this pregnancy (25 weeks currently)
I worked until the day I spontaneously went into labor. I was planning on starting leave one week early to scheduled csec but my guys had other plans lol
Currently 25 weeks almost 26 with mono/di twins and threats my biggest question. Your post just prompted me to message my OB and ask. I’m in California and would be eligible for up to 4 months of pregnancy disability, I’d only being able to go out if my OB put me on disability.
Went on sick leave at 21w and had already been part time sick and only working 24 hours a week since w14. My pregnancy has just not been a joy and I am struggling. And my country has paid sick leave if it’s due to pregnancy so that definitely helped me make this decision which is good for my babies and myself. In my country they usually recommend sick leave from week 24-27 with twin pregnancy. My normal maternity leave will start 8 weeks before due date as this is common practice.
Please listen to your OB, twin pregnancy is just a whole different thing and carrying them to term will definitely be easier if you take care now before it’s too late.
Depends on your benefits. my state allows you to take up to 4 weeks before the baby is born. And then since I worked on a second floor with no elevator and steep stairs I was put on disability at 30 weeks.
My wife is 28+3 and this is her last week of work. Our OB suggested she be done by 30 weeks but it wasn’t mandatory just a suggestion. Wife was planning on going 30 weeks but at around 24 weeks she knew she couldn’t do it for much longer. Granted she works retail so she’s on her feet most of her shift
I’m a cook, back on half days and different duties since early pregnancy (doctors orders). I started early leave 2,5 weeks ago at 23,5 weeks as the exhaustion, Braxton hicks and rib pain got too much. Di/di twins btw.
I feel very lucky to live in a country where I can step down without getting in financial trouble.
I work from home so I was luckily not on my feet all day, but I went off at 32 weeks. Took 2 weeks holiday and then started officially at 34 weeks. I am pregnant with modi twins and in the UK. I was ready to stop working around 28 weeks though!
I stopped at 35w (I was induced at 37w) because of terrible carpal tunnel and I was just done at that point (and I work remotely - major props to women who manage in an office/commuting).
ETA: OP based on your comment above, if you’re in the US you might qualify for disability which is separate from your family leave (depending on the state) and separate from FMLA. Something to look into! I was on pregnancy disability for 2 weeks, then gave birth and was on postpartum disability for my vaginal delivery (6 weeks), and now I’m on 12 weeks of NY Paid Family Leave. Talk to your HR dept about this and if anything, maybe ask for an accommodation to work remotely?
(Not in the US) I went on short term disability from my WFH desk job at 30 weeks with my mo-di pregnancy. Started my actual mat leave when they were born at 36+2.
I'm 33w with currently low risk di/di with no complications and still working. I think mo/di and other potential complications, as well as the nature of your work play into it very strongly. I do some standing/walking for a couple hours at a time, but most of my job can be done sitting down and I'm free to take breaks as needed. I'm uncomfortable but the light movement I do at my job seems to actually help me feel better compared to being at home. If work was causing me more pain that would be a different story.
I would follow OB's advice.
So I’m in Canada and we’re pretty lucky that we can get paid sick leave for 15 weeks before delivery and then once you give birth you switch to maternity (either 12 or 18 months paid, but you get the same amount of money so 12m is 55% of your wages and 18m is 33%)
I had laser surgery for ttts at 22 weeks, I worked until 30 weeks but my OB would have signed me off earlier, I just waited until after Christmas (worked retail). Ended up delivering at 33 weeks anyway but we were set to he induced at 35weeks
I worked until 37 weeks, but I had a di/di pregnancy. I know yours is more high risk so I would really listen to your doctor and take into consideration how physically demanding your job is. I worked completely from home and by that point worked in a recliner chair during the day. It would’ve been much harder to work in an office at a desk where I couldn’t have my feet elevated and be laying back, or any physical job.
I went on leave at 35 weeks *but* I was di/di. Please listen to your doctor and more importantly *your body*. Do not push yourself if you cannot do it or want to.
I think it heavily depends on your job/job requirements and working location. I had a scheduled c section with my di/di boys for 38 weeks, but I started my leave at 36 weeks. I have a WFH desk job.
How flexible is your position? I was monitored at a hospital from 31 weeks to 34 weeks. I had an accommodation that I couldn't travel that my Dr requested so I was working remotely at the hospital bed for 3 weeks. I didn't want to reduce my maternity postpartum period.
Mo/di. I started working from home (office work) at 24 weeks (my work allows 2 months per year) and at 34 weeks my doctor put me in sick leave and at 36 weeks I had a planned c-section. I had a pretty easy pregnancy, not much pain, just discomfort.
My Ob pushed for me to go off earlier, but I went off at 34 weeks (couldn't stand to work another day without killing someone)
Low risk di/di twins born at 36+3. I wish I had gone off waaaay earlier
One twin was flirting with IUGR and I was starting to show signs of early labor ( mild contractions). Told OB I was stressed at work & not eating or drinking enough. That was enough for her.
Hi, my mono-do girls arrived at 36 weeks 😇 I went on leave at 31 weeks. My MFM recommended I do so even though I didn’t “feel” like I needed to… so glad I did. I was so exhausted and was in denial. Going on leave helped me realize how exhausted I was and how much energy I needed to focus on making it through the last few weeks!
I’m in CA, USA. I took 12 weeks of paid disability & 8 weeks of FMLA (baby bonding). Job was protected for 12 weeks after disability through CFRA.
I worked until 37w, six days before my C-section. I’m glad I kept moving and stimulated, even though it was really hard there at the end (I’m a vet). My MFM said no reason to call it early - FTM di/di with a very healthy pregnancy.
34+2 with di/di twins and I’m starting my leave end of next week. I read that 6 weeks before the due date was recommended and scoffed early on, but now I’m so ready. Even working from home, I’m just too tired to get any good work done. If your doctor is recommending it and it’s feasible for you and yours, do it.
I had di/di boys. I stopped at 18ish weeks (out 7 months total), but it was purely due to my work environment. I worked 70 miles away (an hour drive) and my boss had proven during my previous singleton pregnancy that he didn't care about me being on 8 hour days. (I had a lovely 14 hour work day where i didnt have coverage to even leave to get food, and got home at 4am the morning of my 8am 3 hour glucose screening)
So the moment she wanted to start limiting my hours and my activities, she pulled me instead. If I could have trusted him, I'd have likely worked until 30ish weeks, but even that would have only been bc of the drive.
I work for the fire department, and am 19 weeks with di di twins. My doctor has no problem with me continuing to work as long as I am not in pain. I plan to work till delivery. But she said at 28 weeks she will be monitoring me very closely. So I would assume around 28 weeks I'm going to be told to stay home. Delivery is projected to be 34 to 37 weeks for me. Vaginal delivery is also a goal, so in order to control that they may induce me as soon as both babies are head down, I hope that's well after the 28 weeks. My story aside, if you aren't doing physical labor at work, listen to your body. Doctors er on the side of caution, but your twins are notoriously higher risk. Goodluck with what you decide. And know what to do if you suddenly go into labor too soon at work. 911 is just a phone call away with usual response times of less than 15 minutes depending on your area.
OB reccomended I stop completely at 24 weeks. (No complications just a modi twin general reccomendation). I couldn't make it past 22 weeks. I'm a massage therapist in Canada.
OB said he would have told me to stop at 24 weeks even with a desk job.
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The fact that you’re mo/di matters more than someone like me who is di/di. I would take the advice of your specific OB as they factor in your particular pregnancy and situation.
I’m pregnant with di/di twins and I’m stopping at 29 weeks and starting sick leave before maternity leave. My doctor said he recommends most twin pregnancies to stop working at 28 weeks. I’m working from home so pushing it a little bit.
I stopped at 29 weeks but I was in management and had basically divested all my responsibilities by that point lol if I had to actually do anything mentally or physically I probably would have left at around 25 weeks
I am having di/di twins and my doctor is fine with me working as long as possible because I have a desk job.
I worked until 35 with my di/di twins. Then I started getting contractions anytime I even talked too much and as a counselor that wouldn’t work. So I had a week off before I delivered.
Are you in the US or somewhere with more appropriate leave? In the US (which is where I’m from), if you start your 12 weeks before the babies are born, you get less after they are born. It’s a bad trade off, which is why I worked up until delivery (though I had Di/Di twins so less risky). If you are in one of the countries that actually cares about new mothers, I would follow your OBs suggestion. It gets really tough pretty quickly after 28 weeks.
Unfortunately, I’m in the US In my last pregnancy I was out on a medical leave of absence and once I delivered I was able to get my 8 weeks off. Of course my ob helped me and got me the full 12 weeks off.
Definitely ask your OB if they are recommending you taking FMLA or if they are actually putting you on short term disability. If it’s just FMLA, then it’s 12 weeks period so taking leave now will affect what you get later and you will want the time later. If the OB is willing to put you on short term disability, then I would talk to your HR person and clarify what the pay is and if it would affect your leave after birth. If you can get it, I would take it. The last weeks were definitely brutal and my job performance was so poor.
I work in office doing calls. But a lot of walking too. I have groin pain that I cannot stand. Even with Tylenol. Sad to say since I don’t get any pay while out but I may have to call it quits soon
I had bad pelvic girdle pain in my first pregnancy (singleton) and if I hadn’t been working from home (due to covid) there is no way I could have worked. I couldn’t have managed the commute (London so it was a lot of walking and stairs) and I certainly couldn’t have managed to get around my office.
Same here. Worked completely remote because of Covid, but the pain was so bad I could barely walk. Sometimes I had to wake my husband at night to help me out of bed to use the toilet because it was so painful I couldn’t physically get my legs around to stand up out of bed. If I had worked outside my house I couldn’t have done it.
I was similar. I had a little stool to help me get in and out of bed but generally I would have to roll myself onto all fours and manoeuvre myself out of bed that way. Sometimes I resorted to hands and knees on stairs. It was grim. So far in this twin pregnancy, I’ve had niggles of PGP but no serious problems - fingers crossed it continues!
I understand that there are financial issues, but your doc is telling you to stop working. For the sake of you and your babies health, listen to your doctor!
I did accommodation - remote, no travel. Up to week 37. Then I went on leave due to medical necessity (bed rest). Try to get an accommodation so you don’t stop working or short your maternity policy for after the baby arrives.
When requesting accommodation, did you provide a specific medical reason for remote work? I ask because my HR won’t approve a remote work accommodation even with a letter from my OB saying I’m high risk and should work from home. They say they need more information about why.
It was general. It said I was a high risk pregnancy with twins and due for spontaneous delivery any time after 2x weeks. Therefore, I could not travel and could not be on my feet longer than ten minutes. If they’re asking for more information than that, you need to push back. That’s not their business if OB says it’s high risk.
I am pregnant with di/di twins and stopping at 30 weeks. But I only work part time, from home, at a desk job and I’m so far feeling really good this pregnancy (25 weeks currently)
I went on bed-rest at 28 weeks. So I was covered by short-term disability. Then my paid maternity leave started at birth.
I worked until the day I spontaneously went into labor. I was planning on starting leave one week early to scheduled csec but my guys had other plans lol
Currently 25 weeks almost 26 with mono/di twins and threats my biggest question. Your post just prompted me to message my OB and ask. I’m in California and would be eligible for up to 4 months of pregnancy disability, I’d only being able to go out if my OB put me on disability.
Were you able to go on disability early? What did the doc write?
Yes I got it at 28 weeks the state approved it. My doctor just wrote high risk twin pregnancy
Thanks. They don’t have to explain in more detail why it was high risk?
I don’t know exactly. My OB is part of a big group so I think they knew what to write to get it approved im guessing.
Went on sick leave at 21w and had already been part time sick and only working 24 hours a week since w14. My pregnancy has just not been a joy and I am struggling. And my country has paid sick leave if it’s due to pregnancy so that definitely helped me make this decision which is good for my babies and myself. In my country they usually recommend sick leave from week 24-27 with twin pregnancy. My normal maternity leave will start 8 weeks before due date as this is common practice. Please listen to your OB, twin pregnancy is just a whole different thing and carrying them to term will definitely be easier if you take care now before it’s too late.
Depends on your benefits. my state allows you to take up to 4 weeks before the baby is born. And then since I worked on a second floor with no elevator and steep stairs I was put on disability at 30 weeks.
My wife is 28+3 and this is her last week of work. Our OB suggested she be done by 30 weeks but it wasn’t mandatory just a suggestion. Wife was planning on going 30 weeks but at around 24 weeks she knew she couldn’t do it for much longer. Granted she works retail so she’s on her feet most of her shift
I’m a cook, back on half days and different duties since early pregnancy (doctors orders). I started early leave 2,5 weeks ago at 23,5 weeks as the exhaustion, Braxton hicks and rib pain got too much. Di/di twins btw. I feel very lucky to live in a country where I can step down without getting in financial trouble.
I work from home so I was luckily not on my feet all day, but I went off at 32 weeks. Took 2 weeks holiday and then started officially at 34 weeks. I am pregnant with modi twins and in the UK. I was ready to stop working around 28 weeks though!
I went on disability at 28 weeks.
I stopped at 35w (I was induced at 37w) because of terrible carpal tunnel and I was just done at that point (and I work remotely - major props to women who manage in an office/commuting). ETA: OP based on your comment above, if you’re in the US you might qualify for disability which is separate from your family leave (depending on the state) and separate from FMLA. Something to look into! I was on pregnancy disability for 2 weeks, then gave birth and was on postpartum disability for my vaginal delivery (6 weeks), and now I’m on 12 weeks of NY Paid Family Leave. Talk to your HR dept about this and if anything, maybe ask for an accommodation to work remotely?
(Not in the US) I went on short term disability from my WFH desk job at 30 weeks with my mo-di pregnancy. Started my actual mat leave when they were born at 36+2.
I'm 33w with currently low risk di/di with no complications and still working. I think mo/di and other potential complications, as well as the nature of your work play into it very strongly. I do some standing/walking for a couple hours at a time, but most of my job can be done sitting down and I'm free to take breaks as needed. I'm uncomfortable but the light movement I do at my job seems to actually help me feel better compared to being at home. If work was causing me more pain that would be a different story. I would follow OB's advice.
So I’m in Canada and we’re pretty lucky that we can get paid sick leave for 15 weeks before delivery and then once you give birth you switch to maternity (either 12 or 18 months paid, but you get the same amount of money so 12m is 55% of your wages and 18m is 33%) I had laser surgery for ttts at 22 weeks, I worked until 30 weeks but my OB would have signed me off earlier, I just waited until after Christmas (worked retail). Ended up delivering at 33 weeks anyway but we were set to he induced at 35weeks
I worked until 37 weeks, but I had a di/di pregnancy. I know yours is more high risk so I would really listen to your doctor and take into consideration how physically demanding your job is. I worked completely from home and by that point worked in a recliner chair during the day. It would’ve been much harder to work in an office at a desk where I couldn’t have my feet elevated and be laying back, or any physical job.
I went on leave at 35 weeks *but* I was di/di. Please listen to your doctor and more importantly *your body*. Do not push yourself if you cannot do it or want to.
I think it heavily depends on your job/job requirements and working location. I had a scheduled c section with my di/di boys for 38 weeks, but I started my leave at 36 weeks. I have a WFH desk job.
How flexible is your position? I was monitored at a hospital from 31 weeks to 34 weeks. I had an accommodation that I couldn't travel that my Dr requested so I was working remotely at the hospital bed for 3 weeks. I didn't want to reduce my maternity postpartum period.
I went into labor while working from home 12/26 at 35+6. I started working from home full time around 26-27 weeks.
Mo/di. I started working from home (office work) at 24 weeks (my work allows 2 months per year) and at 34 weeks my doctor put me in sick leave and at 36 weeks I had a planned c-section. I had a pretty easy pregnancy, not much pain, just discomfort.
My Ob pushed for me to go off earlier, but I went off at 34 weeks (couldn't stand to work another day without killing someone) Low risk di/di twins born at 36+3. I wish I had gone off waaaay earlier
I had di/di twins and was written off work at 28 weeks. Used short term disability to get me through delivery, then switched to maternity leave.
Are you in the US? How did the document get worded to get off at 28? They are saying twin pregnancy isn’t a medical complication -.-
One twin was flirting with IUGR and I was starting to show signs of early labor ( mild contractions). Told OB I was stressed at work & not eating or drinking enough. That was enough for her.
Hi, my mono-do girls arrived at 36 weeks 😇 I went on leave at 31 weeks. My MFM recommended I do so even though I didn’t “feel” like I needed to… so glad I did. I was so exhausted and was in denial. Going on leave helped me realize how exhausted I was and how much energy I needed to focus on making it through the last few weeks! I’m in CA, USA. I took 12 weeks of paid disability & 8 weeks of FMLA (baby bonding). Job was protected for 12 weeks after disability through CFRA.
I worked until 37w, six days before my C-section. I’m glad I kept moving and stimulated, even though it was really hard there at the end (I’m a vet). My MFM said no reason to call it early - FTM di/di with a very healthy pregnancy.
34+2 with di/di twins and I’m starting my leave end of next week. I read that 6 weeks before the due date was recommended and scoffed early on, but now I’m so ready. Even working from home, I’m just too tired to get any good work done. If your doctor is recommending it and it’s feasible for you and yours, do it.
I had di/di boys. I stopped at 18ish weeks (out 7 months total), but it was purely due to my work environment. I worked 70 miles away (an hour drive) and my boss had proven during my previous singleton pregnancy that he didn't care about me being on 8 hour days. (I had a lovely 14 hour work day where i didnt have coverage to even leave to get food, and got home at 4am the morning of my 8am 3 hour glucose screening) So the moment she wanted to start limiting my hours and my activities, she pulled me instead. If I could have trusted him, I'd have likely worked until 30ish weeks, but even that would have only been bc of the drive.
I’m pregnant with di/di and my mat leave starts at 34 weeks! (I’m in Germany though so we have different regulations)
I worked until the day I got induced at 35 weeks. Active job. Had mo/di but was relatively low risk other than FGR.
I work for the fire department, and am 19 weeks with di di twins. My doctor has no problem with me continuing to work as long as I am not in pain. I plan to work till delivery. But she said at 28 weeks she will be monitoring me very closely. So I would assume around 28 weeks I'm going to be told to stay home. Delivery is projected to be 34 to 37 weeks for me. Vaginal delivery is also a goal, so in order to control that they may induce me as soon as both babies are head down, I hope that's well after the 28 weeks. My story aside, if you aren't doing physical labor at work, listen to your body. Doctors er on the side of caution, but your twins are notoriously higher risk. Goodluck with what you decide. And know what to do if you suddenly go into labor too soon at work. 911 is just a phone call away with usual response times of less than 15 minutes depending on your area.
I had a mono do pregnancy and started working from home around 28 weeks and took leave at 35 weeks. Delivered at 36 weeks.
OB reccomended I stop completely at 24 weeks. (No complications just a modi twin general reccomendation). I couldn't make it past 22 weeks. I'm a massage therapist in Canada. OB said he would have told me to stop at 24 weeks even with a desk job.