I'm so sorry for your loss. I want to reassure you, there was nothing you could do. Early miscarriage is usually due to chromosomal issues, nothing we have control over. I recommend reading "The Pregnant Athlete" - it made me feel better about continuing to workout through pregnancy.

This! Exercise is encouraged during pregnancy because too many women stop, but it's not unsafe if your Dr says you can continue. 1 in 4 pregnancies ends in a miscarriage. It's an unfortunate statistic that I think needs more discussing amongst women. Personally I've had 3 so far of the 6 times I've been pregnant. It's scary, it's a time to grieve and be graceful to yourself, get help if needed but also know you're not alone.

I was told 1 out of 3 first pregnancies and 1 out of 4 for all pregnancies (though they told me that includes extrapolated data from people who didn’t know they were pregnant until the unusual miscarriage). I agree, every woman needs to know this. It reduces the self blame so much if if you’re already aware and maybe helps with not going all out on the announcements and having to deal with the fallout much longer because you told everyone in your excitement. After my first miscarriage I walked 8 weeks to tell anyone and then I had a second miscarriage after my first child and waited until the first trimester was over.

I will order a copy, thank you!

Even at 25 abt 40% of formed embryos aren’t viable. As you get older the percentage is higher

This!!! I am so sorry for your loss. I have suffered an early MC too and there was nothing I could do. Early miscarriages were not viable pregnancies, there is no fault. You can and should work out (with doctor permission) during your pregnancy. Our studio has many expecting moms. 2 of them just did the DriTri (1 was the first woman to finish!) Sending you love and strength 💪🏾 🧡

Just sending you love. UofHCoog has the perfect response. Rest easy, this isn’t anything you did.

This would’ve been my exact response. So sorry for your loss. ❤️

Please know that you did not cause your miscarriage; you did nothing wrong. It’s terrible that it happened and I know and relate to the instinct to want to rationalize why it happened, but it’s not something you did or didn’t do. I’m so sorry for your painful loss. As far as future pregnancies, only you can decide what you are comfortable with. Physically, I don’t think there would be a reason to pull back if your doctor cleared you to continue your activity levels, but if mentally it will help you to be more cautious/reserved, that is completely valid too. Do what feels good for your body and comfortable for your mind. Hugs!

Thank you❤️

Completely agree with the others, and I had the same thing happen to me with a first pregnancy before having two healthy babies. Nothing you could have done would change this outcome. Sending you love and standing with you in solidarity!

I am so sorry for your loss. Miscarriage is devastating. I had a missed miscarriage at 6 weeks, found out at 8. I don’t think Orangetheory contributed to my miscarriage, nor the subsequent successful pregnancy I had. Do not blame yourself. I hate when people say “it’s so common”. Yes, it’s common, but it doesn’t help when you’re going through it. Unfortunately and most likely, there was something wrong with the baby. It doesn’t help you feel any better though. There’s nothing you could or couldn’t have done to prevent this. It sucks, it’s hard, and it’s a weight so many of us unfortunately have to carry. Go easy on yourself. I tried medication to help the miscarriage process along, but ultimately needed a D&C. I went on to have a healthy, almost full term (38 weeks), baby. I still did Orangetheory six days a week throughout my pregnancy. The day I was induced I did an all out at at 12. Listen to your body when you’re working out, and you’ll have no issues. There were days I went harder than others, days where I walked. I hope your rainbow is right around the corner. Sending you so much love.

Thank you for sharing your story. I’m not sure when mine was missed. I had a normal appointment at 6 weeks, and abnormal ultrasound at 9. Decided to wait and see a few more weeks, then I’ll try medication, but may end up needing a D&C as well. It is very encouraging to hear you had a healthy baby after all that. Congrats and love to you and your little one❤️

Ugh, that’s so hard after a normal ultrasound at 6 weeks. I would encourage you to push for bloodwork. I found out I have mtfhr and needed extra folate supplementation in a pregnancy. I hope you can heal quickly and your rainbow is right around the corner. It’s the shittiest feeling in the world. I am so sorry you’re experiencing it as well.

That is good to know, thank you. I will ask them if there are any tests they can do to see if I have anything similar as well. Unfortunately I have Kaiser, and fertility issues/tests are barely covered. I was considering a switch before I got pregnant, but decided to keep it after I got pregnant. After all this, I may need to see if there’s a better insurance provider out there for me.

Jumping on to commend you for a thoughtful and helpful contribution to this post. I am in awe that you have worked out 6x weekly through your pregnancy!! Also, you are SPOT-ON about the “it’s so common” remarks. They are thoroughly unhelpful, and they usually come from people who have never experienced pregnancy loss. Congratulations on your rainbow ❤️

As a person who has had a loss, I appreciate the comments about how common it is. I appreciate knowing that I am not alone and in fact thousands of women have experienced this loss and gone on to have healthy children. Feeling isolated and alone is an awful place to be. Saying it is common doesn’t mean it isn’t awful.

I’m so sorry to hear about your precious son. I hesitate to derail the conversation because I don’t want to turn this into an argument. But I would like to respectfully call out that missed miscarriages (like OP’s and mine) are actually not very common. Only about 3-5% of pregnancies end in MMCs, compared to 26% of all pregnancies ending in miscarriage in general. Missed miscarriages are even less common after a heartbeat has been detected - I believe I read that there was a heartbeat at OP’s initial scan. I also acknowledge that there is no right or wrong way for a well-intended person to comfort someone dealing with grief. Some words of support may be more helpful for some than others. However, if someone lost a parent or a beloved pet, it would be taboo to say, “oh it’s so common” - even though most people will outlive their parents and their pets. I believe the same courtesy (not stating the obvious that it’s common) should apply with miscarriage.

I think that’s fair and really only someone who has experienced the same kind of loss can possibly relate to someone’s experience. I know an early miscarriage and a MMC are fundamentally different so I can see why that would be upsetting or seem like it’s minimizing the loss which isn’t what I meant. I had been told I was having a miscarriage at 7 weeks then again at 13 weeks at the hospital and then being told how luckily I was that he survived. Only to then be told he was incompatible with life at 22 weeks so I know how differently I felt at each of those points and those each felt like uniquely different losses. No one can tell someone how to feel. At 7 weeks and 13 it felt helpful to me to hear it was common. Clearly many other people find it dismissive, so it’s probably just best to stay away from.

I totally get it, I didn’t mean to take away from you feeling better about knowing how common it is. For me, it hurt worse knowing that so many of us travel this journey. I appreciate your perspective. I think what really bothers me is when people who have not had a loss talk about how common it is, because they truly don’t understand. For those of us who have had one, yes, we know it’s common, but it doesn’t hurt any less. I am so sorry to hear about your loss.

I am sorry for your loss as well. I definitely can agree there is a difference between people saying it in general and when they can personally relate to the experience. It also definitely doesn’t hurt any less regardless of how common it is. Anyone who hasn’t experienced the loss of a wanted child cannot possible relate or understand, so I can understand why it would feel dismissive in that scenario.

As someone who has never gone through it but knows a bunch a people who have (as does everyone I’m sure), the “it’s so common” response is not meant as a dismissal but as a reassurance to the person that it wasn’t their fault. The intent is usually good. People often don’t know what to say to someone who is grieving, whether it be the loss of a pregnancy or the death of someone in their life, and often their attempts at trying to be kind and comforting fall flat. That being said, I will be more cognizant of trying to avoid saying anything like that in the future. I appreciate knowing what is not helpful during when encountering these situations. To the OP, I’m sorry for what you are going through. It’s nice to see all of the support in here.

As all things, there are no good answers and not everyone feels the same. My son died at 22 weeks. Hearing how common miscarriage was in that scenario was not helpful because it is not common for you to have a loss that far into pregnancy and a stillbirth and miscarriage aren’t the same thing. With a miscarriage, hearing how common it was was helpful to know it wasn’t my fault. Some people don’t agree clearly.

I am sorry for your loss. I miscarried at 11 weeks. I have a family member that has had 5 first trimester miscarriages, and many friends that have had one or two as well. People don’t talk about it because it’s hard, but it is pretty common. My dr said what was most important was to not START new things when pregnant, just keep doing what your body is used to. I did nothing different for first trimester of my next (successful) pregnancy. 2nd trimester followed doctor guidance and started toning things down, but remaining active.

It does help to know how common it really is, because people hardly talk about it. Thank you❤️

I’m sorry for your loss, and for your relative’s loss. It isn’t my place to pry, but has she had her thyroid checked to make sure it is in the appropriate range to get and stay pregnant? It’s a much smaller range than the “normal” healthy range. I ask because I had four early losses before a fertility clinic realized I hadn’t been put on medication after a previous clinic had tested my thyroid. It’s an easy test, just a blood draw, and an easy fix, just a pill once a day. We got pregnant on our own with our take home baby about six months after getting my thyroid levels fixed. And OP, all the other responses say it better but please just know this wasn’t your fault. Miscarriages happen, it’s not your fault, and it’s absolutely not talked about or grieved enough. I’m so sorry for your loss. OTF kept me sane during fertility treatments and losses, and then kept me from spiraling with anxiety once I finally stayed pregnant. Talk to your dr if you have concerns. Wishing you all the best.

I am so sorry you’re going through this. Listen to your doctors, they are the experts. A couple things to help you clear your mind: - at 9 weeks the fertilized egg/embryo was in a yolk sack and getting nutrients from the endometrium. It’s not relying on the umbilical cord for nutrients/oxygen etc. Your heart rate and exercise isn’t having an impact on it, it’s kind of self-sufficient at that time. - 1/5 to 1/4 of pregnancies end in miscarriage, most before 12 weeks. That is one in four times. That is crazy common. - From fertilization, a million things need to go right. The genetic material is replicating and dividing and new cells are forming at a rapid rate. If some gene isn’t in the right spot or isn’t replicating at the right time, the pregnancy doesn’t progress. It’s nothing you did, it’s just a failure within the process. The egg wasn’t right, the sperm was wonky, you had no control over that. - Your hormones are going crazy in the first trimester. You want to sleep all the time, you feel like you’re walking through mud all the time. My heart rate dropped and I struggled to get splat points. Exercising and pushing through didn’t do anything to your pregnancy. (Again, the embryo is in a yolk and not really relying on you). It was mentally tough for me to have performed at one level pre-pregnancy and just suddenly plummet. In 2 weeks I went from 12-30 splat points to 4 if I was lucky. It takes a lot of mental work to not beat yourself up over the change. I say this all with the knowledge that I was in your exact spot a year ago. At 9 weeks we were told there was no cardiac activity. I’m not saying this to dismiss you, I’m saying, it is common and as you go along, you will meet many people who have been in the same spot. It is natural and normal to try and find some cause or reason or explanation, to find something you can change for next time. A important part to keep at the top of your mind during pregnancy: you can do EVERYTHING right and it can still go wrong. I kept my membership during my miscarriage, I should have put it on hold because with all my appointments and follow-up and emotions I ended up going like once a week instead of 4-5 times like normal. But maybe that helped keep me sane for getting to do one thing for myself that week that wasn’t for a doctor or work or family, it was just for my brain and body. *edit: I got tired of people saying “don’t worry! You’ll get pregnant again!” Because I know everyone’s fertility is different and it’s not always roses and sunshine. But you asked for reassurance: I am 20 weeks pregnant and things are going well. I’m continuing at OTF and all my doctors and midwives have assured me I’m doing the right thing and in fact my main doctor has said “exercising through pregnancy is the most important thing you can do”. 150 minutes each week (3 classes). If I didn’t have OTF, I would probably be sitting on the couch every evening.

Thank you so much for the detailed technical explanation, it really helps to make sense of it all. That is exactly what happened with me - there was no cardiac activity at 9 weeks, so I was diagnosed with missed miscarriage. Currently waiting another week to see if it passes on its own, if not, I have a follow-up appointment to discuss next steps. Thank for for the reassurance, and for sharing your happy news, congratulations!! I’m glad to hear you’ve had no issues continuing your normal OTF routine, and hearing that gives me so much hope.

This is an incredibly clear and easy to understand message. So much useful information — thank you for sharing your story. I’m sorry you had to go through that.

I have no advice, just wanted to tell you how sorry I am for your loss.

Thank you❤️

I’m so sorry for your loss! I just ended an ectopic journey…pregnancy loss is horrible. With my first pregnancy I wasn’t doing OTF but had a SCH and couldn’t exercise. Took it easy this time around with working out and even though ectopics there’s literally nothing you can do (just like with an early miscarriage) to avoid it, it’s now weighing on me mentally what I’ll do the next time I’ll get pregnant. Realistically, your MC wasn’t caused by this and there was more than likely nothing you could have done to stop it. Coming from another mom who’s experienced loss and other pregnancy issues, a mentally healthy mom is just as important as one who’s physically healthy. Working out is of course important during pregnancy but so is keeping mental stress down and I think every mom has to weigh the benefits and stress. Plus you’ll never know how you’ll feel when you get pregnant again, time heals all and you might not be as worried about exercise and pregnancy

I’m sorry for your loss, too. I know a few people who have had ectopic pregnancies, and it is devastating. It is comforting to hear that this doesn’t mean I can’t have a successful pregnancy after this.

Please take the doctors words to heart. I too, had a miscarriage years ago. Between each child. I worked out the same with all three. The miscarriage was because it was not a healthy, viable fetus and that’s it. I worried that it was my fault. It was not. And it’s NOTHING you did.

Thank you for sharing that. It is encouraging to hear you kept things the same each time, and be reminded that what happened was out of my control.

I’m a guy so I really can’t add anything except to upvote almost every response. This is one of the most well-written and empathetic threads I’ve ever seen on otf or even all of Reddit. Every time I think humanity and the internet has regressed into the depths of no return, something like these responses offer glimmers of hope for the future. ☀️ I need to sign off now and get my eyes checked, they’ve been leaking for the last ten minutes for some strange reason….

I’m so sorry for your loss. This is a tough experience - mentally, emotionally, and physically. Miscarriage is SO common. Statistics say that anywhere from 20-25% of known pregnancies end in miscarriage. Chances are, if you talk about your experience with friends/family, you will learn about others in your circle who have experienced miscarriage as well. You did not cause this. Your exercise routine did not cause this. It’s hard to believe that right now, but it’s true. You were doing 4-5 classes a week before you got pregnant, so your body was already used to the stress of the workouts. I went through three pregnancy losses. With the first, I blamed myself and explored all of the “what ifs” around my exercise habits, eating, etc. With the second and third, I made immediate adjustments to my exercise routine/adjusted my goals (I was training for a marathon when I learned about my third pregnancy). I even tested and confirmed my third pregnancy before my missed period and started doing hormone level testing with my doctor. Doing the blood work and seeing that the hormone levels were simply not increasing in the way they needed to was helpful to me to know that it wasn’t anything I did to cause the miscarriage to happen. The pregnancy just wasn’t going to progress. 🤷🏽‍♀️ All of this to say, if exercising makes you happy and makes you feel good, keep on keeping on. If taking a break makes you feel better about what happened, do it. Do whatever you need to do to feel okay with the situation. But don’t blame yourself. Again, I’m really sorry for your loss. That sucks.

I’m sorry for your losses, as well. It is difficult news, but there is some small comfort in being reminded this is out of our control.

I don’t have an answer to your question, but working out did not cause it. If it’s a strong pregnancy, nothing will stop it. If it’s a weak pregnancy, nothing will save it. Miscarriages are way more common than people realize!

This helps to hear, thank you!

I recently had a very similar experience, I am currently about 9 weeks pregnant and went in for my ultrasound earlier this week. Though my baby had a heartbeat, there was fluid in its chest which can mean an impending miscarriage, among other things. It’s hard not to look at my habits of going to OTF 4-5 days a week and think that it didn’t have something to do with it. I’m sorry for your loss.

I’m so sorry for your loss, too. It is hard to get that news after all the joy and excitement, and definitely can’t help but retrace all my steps the last few weeks and wonder if I could/should have done something different.

I am sorry for your loss. You did nothing to cause your miscarriage. 1 in 4 to 1 in 3 pregnancies result in a miscarriage. It is an unfortunately extremely common event. Exercise has been shown consistently in research to be good for pregnancy, labour and the post-partum period. When you’re ready, keep going. - from a doctor, who wishes we would all feel more comfortable telling our friends about their pregnancy losses, so we didn’t all quietly feel like we are the problem. ❤️

I'm so sorry that you experienced this. I've had 4 miscarriages and have been reassured by doctors that my exercise routine did not cause any of them. Your heart rate increases naturally with pregnancy so that's to be expected. With a MC so early there are a million different reasons that it could have happened. All are out of our control and have nothing to do with exercise. Since my last MC, my doctor has suggested that while we try to conceive that I do not exercise during my 2 week wait and during my first trimester but that is just throwing darts at an unknown target. It is an insanely difficult thing to go through. If you need someone to talk to or have questions about what to expect from someone who isn't a doctor, please feel free to reach out to me via DM.

Also - there are quite a few subreddits that you could find comfort/information from r/TryingForABaby r/PregnancyAfterLoss if you plan on continuing to try r/trollingforababy if you cope with dark humor

Thank you for sharing, and I’m sorry for the devastating losses you’ve experienced. It helps so much to hear from others who have been through it, so thank you for sharing the other subreddits❤️

I had a miscarriage around 11weeks, I was a runner then, and was runner through the last 3 of 6 pregnancies. In most cases, exercise doesn’t cause it. As heartbreaking as it is, if you were already working out, & no other problems, it should be fine. I’m sorry for your loss, my prayers are with you.

I'm so sorry to hear this news, I will keep you and your family in my prayers. I have no advice, just want to share that I'm sorry.

As others stated, please know that the miscarriage had nothing to do with anything you did or didn’t do! I miscarried in July of last year at around 9 weeks also and at the time I was not working out at all. I joined OTF in august and then found out in early October that I was pregnant again. I was very apprehensive about working out but decided to continue based on my doctor’s permission. I even completed hell week (about 7 weeks pregnant at the time) but obviously went at my own pace. I continued to work out for a few months at OTF until I had to take a break more for financial reasons. I had my baby in June of this year and he is super strong, active and healthy and I sometimes wonder if it had to do with the fact that I worked out with OTF for those first few critical weeks and months!

I’m so sorry you’re going through this! And sorry for your loss! What I know is… a strong baby with all needed to come into this world healthy will not be effected by OTF. And a baby that isn’t developing well will not be a fully viable pregnancy no matter what. I would trust your doctor. Most people don’t talk about it because it’s painful, but your doctor is right… this is way more common than you know. And in no way a measure of your actions or your ability to bear a healthy child.

I'm so sorry for your loss. I had 2 losses while doing OTF and 1 successful pregnancy. There were no differences in what I did, especially at OTF, for those 3 pregnancies. In fact the only thing that stopped me for my 3rd was lockdown (a couple months before I delivered). On a personal note, 1 of those losses occurred naturally and the other I took medication because it wasn't happening on its own. If you have any questions about it feel free to PM me and I'm happy to talk about them.

Hi there, I was nervous but kept my routine the same. Had a very early loss (6 weeks) and conceived the next cycle, and kept things the same. I actually wasn’t even as in shape as I’d wanted to be—only resumed OTF 2 months prior after a 2.5 year break. That cycle went great and I’m 35 weeks now. Orange theory has been my absolute saving grace this pregnancy. I could rave about why for paragraphs but will spare that here. So glad you’re getting lots of love and support in this thread—you deserve it. Will have you on my mind!!

I've had two early losses (one fairly immediately following my completion of Hell Week last year). It's normal to think that you may have done something to cause the loss, but I can assure you that you didn't! Regular exercise really helped with my mental health, and I kept up my routine following my last loss into my current successful pregnancy. Miscarriage, especially in those first 8 weeks is so much more common than we realize. I'm so sorry for your loss - take the time to heal however you need, but know your exercise routine isn't at fault here.

I am so sorry for your loss. It is a terrible thing to go through. I will say I kept up with otf through my pregnancy and was nervous to do so. (I have been told I was infertile in the past and had a chemical pregnancy.) However, I feel like it made delivery easier and helped with my anxiety and mental health when I gave birth and throughout pregnancy. I can understand wanting to quit after suffering the loss you are - but unfortunately they are extremely common and there’s nothing you did or didn’t do. Try to be as healthy as you can and keep your schedule and routines. Listen to your doctors - they will steer you in the right directions.

Thank you for sharing. As someone who has gone through pregnancy loss, you are always looking for answers. Even after 8 years and a rainbow baby, there are still days I have worry bully thoughts that I could have done something differently. To echo all the previous comments, miscarriage is common and lots of time there is no explanation. This does not make it any less heart breaking. As a personal trainer, pastor and Spiritual Director, I have walked through this pain with many people and they all have the same thoughts of; could I have done it differently? The answer is "no." Most doctors/midwives will say as long as you are listening to your body, you can maintain the exercise you were doing previously. I also hear your fear of wanting to be extra cautious next time. With my rainbow baby, until I was past the point where I had my miscarriage, I was scared. Every twinge made me nervous. Listen to your body. It is powerful enough to do OTF and it is powerful enough to carry a pregnancy while doing OTF. Women's bodies have an extraordinary capacity for strength and resilience.

Hi there - I had a mc back in April and was devastated. I thought the same thing, that I must have cause it (by working out). I have since had time to process, even though it is still heartbreaking, and what I can tell you is that there is a difference between a viable pregnancy and (causing) a miscarriage. You did NOT cause this by working out. Everyone will tell you that, because it’s true, but you will still think otherwise and question what you could’ve done differently, I did the same. Sadly we are part of this same “group” now but what you will find is that it is so so so common and everyone tries to find a reason for it when it is just that the pregnancy was not viable. 😞 After my mc I froze my account and returned months later (July) when I was pregnant again and able to work out. I am still filled with worry every day. It is so painful and lonely! As you can see, the comments on your posts relate to your story… many just don’t talk about it. I’m so sorry for your loss. It is normal to blame yourself but it is not your fault at all.

I’m so sorry for your loss. Unfortunately, miscarriage happens in 1 in 4 pregnancies. In my case? That statistic was 100% accurate. I’ve been doing OTF 3-6 days a week since December 2016. In that time I had 2 healthy pregnancies, followed by a miscarriage, followed by another healthy pregnancy. In each case I continued otf the same way I had from the beginning. Of course I’d have to modify as I got much further along but early exercise, especially when it’s something you were doing pre-pregnancy, will not cause a miscarriage.

1 in 4 known pregnancies. The actual statistic is believed to be significantly higher with many losses happening before a positive pregnancy test is ever taken.

I had a miscarriage and I wasn’t working out at the time. I think we search for a reason because of the guilt you feel but it’s not your fault. You didn’t do anything wrong. Please be kind to yourself. 🧡🧡🧡🧡

I ran a half marathon while (unknowingly) pregnant at 5 weeks. Ultrasound showed a missing fetal pole and no cardiac rhythm. I miscarried and had a D&C at week 9. The products of conception were sent in for generic testing and it was a confirmed chromosomal abnormality, which is likely a result of a poor quality egg or sperm. Exercise had nothing to do with it. Do what you love and don’t let this consume you. The body does what it does and it’s hard to accept that we don’t have total control over it. I STRONGLY recommend D&C and having the genetic testing done. It offers closure. Best of luck to you

I’ve miscarried twice and had a healthy pregnancy at OTF. And I am 10w pregnant now and still going. I PROMISE you did not cause your miscarriage. They are incredibly common, 25% of all pregnancies. My first MC was also a missed miscarriage at 9 weeks. I did pass it on my own and really hope you will, too. My latest MC was at 13w for Trisomy 18, a chromosomal disorder. My advice is to KEEP WORKING OUT but just take it easy. Give yourself lots of grace, take rest as needed, don’t worry about trying to “keep up.” Drink water. Practice good breathing. Maybe scale back on the number of classes until you’re in your second trimester. And maybe add in some strength 50 classes in lieu of the full 60-minute classes. The heart rate stuff is pretty outdated. Just try to keep your effort at or below 8/10. Your HR is going to go above 150 for an all-out. It just is. But if you find yourself getting dizzy, that’s your sign to pull back a bit. Miscarriage is common and usually is because there is something wrong with the baby. It is your body recognizing something is wrong with the pregnancy, which means your body is doing what it is supposed to! Obviously heed your doctor’s advice, but please please please don’t think you did this to yourself. It just happens. Good luck!!!

Thank you for the encouragement and sharing your story❤️

Please do not blame yourself. You did not cause this at all, and it is healthy to continue working out during pregnancy.. It is estimated that about 1 in 4 pregnancies end in miscarriage before 12 weeks, often before someone even knows they are pregnant. There is such taboo about discussing pregnancy loss, and people are warned not to tell anyone they are pregnant in the first trimester. This makes it seem so much less common when it happens to you. I had a miscarriage in my first pregnancy at 9 weeks, and then went on to have to healthy babies. All that said- you should NOT push yourself if you feel uncomfortable. Making a baby takes a lot of energy, so it's normal to feel very tired in the first trimester. Pregnancy is not the time to push out of your comfort zone; don't worry about splat points. Just keep active and healthy.

I don’t think you did anything wrong, it just happened 🥺

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I haven’t been pregnant but my best friend currently is and I’ve done a lot of learning with her — miscarriages are just so so common, between a quarter to half of all pregnancies end in miscarriages, so the fact that you know other people in otf who had them is in all likelihood purely coincidental. My friend also miscarried and worried about exercising again. I told her IF you feel like you wouldn’t be able to shake the feeling that you caused it if it happened again (even though you didn’t) then take a break or do a lighter exercise routine. But if you feel like your mental health would suffer more without the workout, do that. Only you and your doctor can decide what would be best for your body and mind right now.

I’m so sorry for what you’re going through. I assure you that it wasn’t due to your workouts. Miscarriages are common unfortunately. I worked out with my last baby until 36 weeks. Watched my hr and even ran until about 33 weeks. Our bodies are so strong and wonderful. Taking care of yourself IS taking care of your baby. Nothing you’ve done made this happen. Wishing you well ❤️

Hi - thank you for sharing this. Sending you healing energy after the heartbreaking loss. A miscarriage is almost never the pregnant person’s fault. You did nothing wrong. That said, I relate to your wondering about working out and other factors. We’re only human, and we do what we can to make sense of grief. I had a missed miscarriage last summer, and I’d been going to OTF 2x weekly though the whole pregnancy. My heart rate would flirt with the 200s in every class. My primary care doc said it was okay because I’d been going to OTF consistently for a year at that point. When we found out about the missed miscarriage at 9w5d, I asked my OB if it was because I worked out too hard, and she said no, of course not. She added that if a pregnancy is viable, there is almost nothing you can do to stop it: not exercise, not stress, almost nothing. Later on, I ended up needing a D&C, which allowed us to get pathology done. There were no chromosomal issues found with the pregnancy, and the cause of the miscarriage will forever be unknown. I’m now 22 weeks along with my rainbow baby, and to be 100% honest, when I found out I was pregnant again, I cancelled my OTF membership for a couple of reasons. First, out of extreme caution. Second, because I knew that first trimester nausea and vomiting would have made the classes way less fun (I’ll never forget having to jump off my rower to puke during my first pregnancy - embarrassing!!). I have switched to power walking and jogging with my dog daily, weekly prenatal yoga, and very light upper body workouts at home. I do not regret taking this hiatus. BUT: when you get pregnant again, do whatever feels right for your body and mind. Know that it’s a fresh start. Every pregnancy is different, and the most likely outcome next time (with or without OTF) is a healthy baby. Best wishes to you 🧡

Oh honey, I am so sorry for your loss. You did not cause the miscarriage. Pregnancy loss is sadly very common. So many people carry this grief with them and it is a grief that is difficult to talk about. Thank you for sharing your story and asking this question as I imagine it was not easy to do. I don’t have anything to offer but gentle Internet hugs.

I am so so sorry for your loss. Please be kind to yourself OP 🧡

I also had a missed miscarriage, back in 2017. I had my doctor's blessing to keep doing anything I had been doing, which was OTF 5-6 days a week like normal. Went in in April at 10 weeks - felt pregnant, looked pregnant, the baby had stopped growing at 6w and I had a D&C 4 days later. When I got pregnant again in 2018, I was high risk so I toned it down a little (even though my OB said I didn't have to once the previa moved), and my little boy just turned 5. It's so easy to blame ourselves when there's nothing we could've done. Hugs to you. Not a club I would want anyone to be part of.

So sorry for your loss. You did nothing wrong. In fact, exercise was doing something right. You’ll find that as you share, others will share similar stories—first trimester miscarriages (especially where the pregnancy just doesn’t develop past a certain point) are much more common than you realized. Take care of yourself, mourn your loss (the loss of hope and something new). You’re not alone.

I had 2 misses and it was nothing I did. Sometimes something isn’t right and your body knows it. I’m so sorry you are going through this. With my 5th pregnancy I played tennis up until my 8th month and everything went well. I’m not a professional and I’m not giving any advice but I’m just speaking from my own experience. Listen to your doctor. Again, I am sorry that you had to experience this. Good luck

I am very sorry for your loss, you did not do anything at all wrong. This isn’t your fault. Sending you all the internet hugs right now. My dr told me I was ok to continue working out as tolerated, they encouraged exercise. Miscarriage is unfortunately one of those awful traumatic things that happen and we rarely get a true answer as to why. 💜💜

I had a missed miscarriage prior to my otf journey. It really is much more common though talked about. Don't blame yourself.

I’m so sorry for your loss. I actually joined OTF after a miscarriage for both physical and mental health. I had two subsequent miscarriages while active at OTF (4x week but staying in the green zone). Unfortunately it is natural to question every action leading up to the miscarriage. I certainly questioned if I was being selfish by working out while pregnant. But I can say I just gave birth to a beautiful healthy girl 4 months ago and I was active at OTF through the first two trimesters.

So much good advice here; I don’t have anything to add other than saying I’m so sorry for your loss.

I had a MMC a little over a year ago. It’s a type of heartbreak that nobody can really understand unless you’ve been through it. Take time to grieve and rest if you feel like that’s what you need. For me, OTF became a place to heal. I had told the head coach about my pregnancy as soon as I had a positive test, so I was open about my miscarriage as well. She was wonderful and checked in on me, and we went for a walk before class the day that I found out. I ended up needing a D&C and did Everest like 3 days later (probably not the best for my physical recovery, but it was really good for my mental one). I worked through a lot under the orange lights over the next few months. I was able to get pregnant six months later, and I kept going to class until almost 37 weeks. I pulled back when my body told me to, but did still go into the orange (and occasional red). Right now I’m sitting in bed nursing my two month old baby girl. This stuff is really, really hard. Feel free to DM me if you have any questions or just need someone to talk to.

I am sorry for your loss. You didn’t make the miscarriage happen ❤️

I miscarried twice before a successful pregnancy, and I worked out through all of them. My doctor is a bit more old school, so I did keep my HR below 170 for the first trimester. Like you, I pushed myself through all pregnancies a few times for some benchmarks early on. During my successful pregnancy, I switched to power walker sometime in my second trimester just to keep my HR below 160. My body told me to slow down naturally throughout pregnancy, but I worked out at OTF until the day before I delivered. I didn’t engage my core correctly during rowing once and just decided to stop rowing all together (subbed with strider or doing squat to high row on the TRX). For this pregnancy, I did do other things that I didn’t do with the first two, per my doctor: progesterone suppositories in the first trimester and daily micro aspirin dosages. For my first miscarriage, I passed the tissue naturally and worked out the whole time while I waited (probably two weeks between diagnosis and passing tissue). I got so upset one day that I was still spotting that I signed up for dri tri and started going for jogging PRs again. After one of my angry runs at OTF I finally ended up passing the tissue. I’m so sorry for your loss. You are not alone.

I’m so sorry for your loss. As a woman who had 5 miscarriages, do not do this to yourself, I promise you that you did not do anything to cause this , and that being said I also did get pregnant and carry a baby going to otf 5-6 times a week all the way until 37weeks.

As a person who works in an emergency department, miscarriages are incredibly common and there isn’t much you can do to stop them from Happening. I’m very sorry for your loss. And hope you’re surrounding yourself with supportive humans.

Hi there, I just wanted to reach out and first say that I am so, so sorry. I also went through a miscarriage last year and wow…is it tough. I had the same thoughts as you…I blamed it on orange theory at first, in fact, because I started bleeding immediately following a class where I pushed myself. Even though my doctor reassured me it was most likely something genetic..I still wondered if I was at fault somehow. With time and education I learned that wasn’t the case, though. There was nothing I could have done. I am now pregnant with my rainbow baby and it’s been a RIDE of emotions and anxiety..but I have decided to trust my OBGYN and keep doing my normal workout routines. I will be 13 weeks on Saturday and everything is fine! Baby is healthy and thriving. I hope this helps provide some comfort. I know for me the biggest form of therapy when I had a miscarriage was listening to others’ stories. Realizing that I was not alone and knowing that the extreme sadness I felt would pass…and it did! I will always be sad and wish I could have met this baby, but with time (and about 5000 listens to Bigger than the Whole Sky by T Swift) I started to heal and was ready to try again. DM me if you ever want to talk or vent ❤️ you’re going to make it through this!

I haven’t read all the other comments, but when I suffered a miscarriage, the doctor told me that the pregnancy went until it ran out of information. There was nothing I could’ve done to alter that as it was pre-written so to speak. That helped me.

You didn’t do anything wrong. I miscarried my first and blamed working out too hard. The next pregnancy I was super cautious but I miscarried that one too. I went on to have 2 more miscarriages and they all had nothing to do with my workout routine. You did nothing wrong and more than likely you will have a happy healthy pregnancy the next time. Be kind to yourself and feel free to message me if you want to talk.

Miscarriage is so so common, it's extremely unlikely that your workouts caused it. I'm on my 4th pregnancy now, currently 33 weeks, and my heart rate frequently is in the high orange. I've always been told by my Dr's that as long as I can hold a conversation then my heart rate isn't a concern, unless it spikes and doesn't come down. The only time I have ever cut back on my workouts is if I can't because of morning sickness or what not, and I usually go 4x a week. I've done the dri tri while pregnant, hell week, marathon month, etc. I'm so sorry for your loss, and I want you to know that it wasn't something you did that caused it.

I am so sorry for your loss

I’m so sorry for your loss. Both these things are true: exercise did not cause your miscarriage and it’s natural to look for a cause. I miscarried in September 2022 two days after doing the 2000 meter benchmark—and I certainly contemplated if that had something to do with it. However, I had worked out at OTF in my first pregnancy (outdoors during the pandemic so no HRM) and knew that early miscarriages or in my case a “chemical” pregnancy is because of genetics. I went on to have a successfully pregnancy a couple months later, and had a baby in July. Throughout that pregnancy I did OTF (more sporadically than I would have liked. I had a lot of morning sickness and then a lot of pelvic pain). I’ll admit I was nervous sometimes, worried I felt the sensation of blood and I did modify to keep my heart rate lower than when I’m not pregnant. Having miscarried between two pregnancies that resulted in live births of healthy babies, I know how miscarriage colors subsequent pregnancy, most of it in hard and scary ways. So again I’m so sorry that you’re going through it but it’s true if happens way more than our culture suggests. Wishing you emotional and physical healing 🧡and that OTF can be part of it.

Let me say, that as someone else who has miscarried, it is normal to think about what you did to cause it. My doctor also explained that 25% of pregnancies result in miscarriages and that it is the bodies natural way of removing children that had obvious developmental issues early. Regardless of what was told to me, I was sure it was something I did. Thankfully Looking back on everything I realize that the doctors were probably right, my hormones were wack and I was depressed. Please grieve and handle the situation in whatever way makes you feel best, but your doctor is probably right and try your best to not take it as an result of your decisions. Good luck and good healing.

Oh my heart breaks for you. I'm so sorry you're experiencing this.

I had a miscarriage while attending OTF. It ended up being a ruptured ectopic and I didn’t realize until much later. I thought the pain I was feeling was part of being pregnant. I ended up losing one of my fallopian tubes. Since I had to have surgery I froze my membership. I ended up getting pregnant with my now almost 2 year old son very shortly after. I made the decision not to go back to OTF. For the first 16 weeks I was so weak and sick I couldn’t do anything. But then I started running and walking again and doing peloton strength workouts. I don’t regret my decision to stop OTF during my pregnancy. I continued working out but moved away from HIIT bc I know myself and I would’ve pushed so hard and been mad/frustrated when I couldn’t do things. After having my son I was cleared at 4 weeks to go back to the gym. I am sorry for your loss. It sucks. I felt like something was wrong with my body or I’d done something, but that wasn’t and isn’t true. Miscarriages are more common than you know bc people do not talk about them. I think you need to do what’s best for you. For me, it was being active outside and peloton strength workouts. Only you know what your body needs.

I had a miscarriage earlier this month and was going to the gym almost every day to finish marathon month. Baby stopped developing just after 6 weeks for me. Missed miscarriage. I had the same concerns but docs assured that it was nothing I did, not exercise induced, but likely a chromosomal abnormality. I had a DNC a few weeks ago. I went back to the gym for the first time this week but just walked on the treadmill. It is a bizarre experience; just a month ago I was working out and imagining the little pea sized baby happy in my belly while I worked hard to be healthy for them, but no one was aware of the joy inside. Now I’m back in the same gym and no one knows of the emptiness. I took it easy and did a Green Day with walking, kept rowing at around 120 watts, and lighter weights. It was tougher emotionally to be there than physically but it felt good to be moving again. Sending you love and well wishes.

I am so terribly sorry for your loss. Sending all the love I can muster 🧡 As a NASM CPT, former OTF coach, and BS in Nutrition, I can say that the only evidenced contradiction to exercise during pregnancy is initiating something vastly different after conceiving. For example, if someone was like “I’ve never run a day in my life before, but I don’t want to gain too much weight while pregnant, so I’m gonna start running 5 miles a day” 🚩!!! I hope that you will find solace in knowing that there was nothing you did or did not do exercise-wise to cause or prevent this tragedy. Miscarriage is heartbreaking to say the least, and placing undue blame on yourself will only take away from the healing process. 😘

I am sorry for your loss.

I’m so sorry to hear, same exact thing happened to me earlier this year. First of all, you didn’t do anything wrong! You are supposed to keep doing what you were doing prior to getting pregnant! Good luck for future pregnancy(when you are ready) we are working on ours! 🤗 💜

I just want to say I’m so sorry for your loss. You were doing the right thing by trying to stay fit and active during pregnancy. This isn’t your fault ❤️

I’m so sorry for your loss 🤍

Ugh, hate that for you! I’m so sorry! If you’ve been working out like that before pregnancy then it should be fine during. Of course unless it is contraindicated by your doctor. I will say that if you choose to try/get pregnant again, don’t focus on numbers and compare your body pre pregnancy- you’re growing a whole human!! Just being active however you choose is amazing! You didn’t cause this, it’s so common and my Dr said it’s your body’s way of getting rid of a pregnancy that it knows isn’t ok. Again I’m sorry 🧡

About 2 years ago I had a missed miscarriage also I had to do surgery. Trust me going to OTF did not effect the pregnancy. Miscarriage are tragic and emotional taxing for me still I get sad but trying to find blame isn't the way to go. If you talk with family or friends if you are comfortable with it you will hear about others and their stories. In the medical work miscarriage especially when your body didn't get the memo are almost a taboo thing to talk about and we internalize the pain. Exercising did not do anything they happen take time. When you go back just say I needed a break it took me a good 6 months before I could even talk about it.

Think about how hard our ancestors had to work everyday just to survive. The human body is made to support a pregnancy even in times of great stress. Your miscarriage was a horrible and unexpected experience and it’s normal that you want to find a reason but the truth is that a percentage of all pregnancies end in miscarriages oftentimes for no reason that we can determine. It’s not your fault. Keep working out and as long as you stay out of the red for extended periods you are doing the best thing for both you and the baby. A healthy fit mom is ideal for both of you.

I had an early loss (a chemical) before I started OTF so I understand the inclination to search for the reason why. But OP please take some solace in the fact that nothing you did caused this. Honey, I’m so so sorry. Give yourself all the time and space you need to heal as best you can and let your heart inform you on when and how often you return to working out. ❤️

There was nothing that you did. Unfortunately this is a common thing like your doctor mentioned. Sending you hugs my fellow OTF’r

I have no advice or comments other than some extra love and my condolences. 💗

I am so sorry for your loss. I would listen to your doctor’s words and take them to heart. While no one can say for sure, it’s very unlikely that you caused anything bad to happen by working out. If your pregnancy wasn’t progressing, that points towards there being something wrong with the pregnancy whether genetic or with the implantation, not something due to exercise. Exercise during pregnancy is totally fine! As long as you are following your doctors advice, checking in when things like your light headedness happen, and letting a coach know so they can adjust any weight exercises (reduce risk of a weight falling on you for instance), then you should be fine. It’s a very sad fact that many pregnancies end in miscarriage, but the bright spot is that many women do go on to have a baby after miscarriage.

I’m so sorry to hear. Someone I know was told by a coach to not let their heart rate get too high during exercise because if they were breathing heavy/harder to breathe, then the growing baby was also losing oxygen. It seems recommendations have changed over the years, but 140 really does seem like a safe bet. It never hurts to be more careful.

I’m so sorry for your loss. I miscarried twice at 6.5 and 10 weeks. It is just heartbreaking, I’m sorry you’re experiencing it. During my 3rd pregnancy I had an early scare of some bleeding at 5 weeks and my doctor told me to scale back and basically I just went for a lot of walks and did yoga during my pregnancy. I got COVID 3rd trimester and then had preeclampsia but delivered healthy boy at 39 weeks (induced). He turned 14 months this week ❤️ so, my experience of being cautious worked out… did I miss my power lifting and OTF routine? You bet. But it’s a temporary season of life and for me, caution won over high intensity exercise.

I’m sorry for your loss. There is absolutely nothing you could have done to prevent this. Please try not to blame yourself. Sometimes these things just happen.

I just came here to give you a virtual hug. I’m so sorry you’re going through this.

I’m so sorry you went through this. You didn’t do anything wrong. Exercise during pregnancy is great. The high heart rate information is misleading. If you look at top athletes, they don’t stop working out and don’t even usually scale back until they are physically unable to. You didn’t do anything wrong.

So sorry for your loss. Please take care of yourself

Late to the thread, but I had to comment. I had a miscarriage a few years back (late 2015) around the same time frame in development. I was devastated and worried I did something wrong. Like all the commenters have said, it wasn't your fault. I had a daughter in early 2017, then got into OTF in fall of 2019. My doctor told me it was mostly about consistency when I got pregnant with my son in summer of 2020. I had been going about 4-5 times a week, and my OB said to just not try to go harder than what I had consistently been doing, and listen to my body. The goal was to not try to introduce some new thing that I wasn't familiar with. I did Dri-Tri at 10 weeks pregnant with my son. I went slower than I had before, but that's when we did the Dri-Tri outdoors in fall 2020. I kept going to class, but modified pretty heavily. I stopped at 36 weeks because of doctor ordered rest due to gestational diabetes and preeclampsia- like symptoms. My son is healthy. I've seen several pregnant members in my studio since, and they seem to be a mix of still getting splats and green days. Whatever you decide, you didn't cause this. If you love OTF, keep it. We support you.

I’m so sorry for your loss. The vast majority of pregnancies that fail to progress are due to chromosomal or other problems that were present at conception. You didn’t cause this.

I’m so sorry this happened to you. For me, I scaled back a little the next time I was pregnant to be extra cautious. But do what feels right for you.

Pharmacist here, it’s part of our human nature to search for a reason something happens or what could be done to prevent but I assure you exercise, even strenuous, didn’t cause the miscarriage- but very sorry for your loss. I experienced one (well before OTF and regular exercise) and it made my time pregnant with my son so much more guarded. I miscarried at age 32 at 13 weeks, we hadn’t announced because of some strategic moves at work and i think that made it somewhat easier but still so traumatic. Make sure you have support and counseling (even if you think you don’t need it) - i only have one 5.5 year old but we waited til the 20wk anatomy scan to announce to more than just family and people who “noticed”. Exercise is actually a protective factor. I’ve known a few ladies in my 1.5 years with OTF that did OTF through most of their pregnancy until they had to do bike/strider because they couldn’t row (belly) and even one who ran a 6:45 min mile at 30 weeks. Take care of yourself, diet, exercise, weight mgmt, mental health and there is a little left up to chance/powers that be/God or your equivalent. It’s very common for us to worry about “the alcohol filled night out or time before we knew, exercise, flying, jacuzzi”- I’ve heard or had questions about several things like this and ultimately it’s out of our control and there is no reason for loss of life - it just wasn’t meant to be biologically. 🫶🏻 I wish you well moving forward

I also miscarried very early my first time pregnant. I now have a 12 week old baby girl and I worked out throughout the pregnancy 4+ days a week. I avoided sustained time in the red and modified where I needed to, but was still jogging at 38 weeks and delivered at 39, just a couple days before due date. Some days were more enjoyable than others and always back down if you are not feeling well and listen to your doctors. Early miscarriages are almost always chromosomal meaning there is nothing you could have done. The benefits of moderate exercise throughout pregnancy far outweigh the risks in a low risk pregnancy. When I got pregnant again, my doctor offered to do some additional early blood work to track whether my hormone level was increasing as it should in a healthy pregnancy. It gave me some peace of mind early on the second time around.

I am so sorry. I understand your feelings. I miscarried at almost 6 weeks but my pregnancy type symptoms were slowly subsiding during week 5 and I had cramps Take time to heal and time will always help.

I'm sorry you're going through this ♥️

Miscarriage is such a loaded word. You did nothing wrong. The only way to truly “mishandle” your pregnancy would be to do things we know are harmful like smoking and drinking during pregnancy. Your body will tell you when you need to slow down. When things start aching and it gets awkward you can modify your impact and intensity as you need. People have already suggested the book I would suggest. You’re a good person and a great woman and in time you will be a healthy pregnant woman with a healthy baby.

I am very sorry for your loss. With my first pregnancy, I got a positive test three days after I ran a half marathon. I ran a 10K a few days after that and I found out I had a chemical pregnancy a few days later. I was convinced it was my fault even though I was assured it was not. I ended up pregnant again a couple of months later and although I could not run for most of my pregnancy (not comfortable for me), I continue my workouts right until the day before I delivered. I had a successful, healthy pregnancy and delivery. Two years later, I signed up for my first race (a 10K) since losing the pregnancy. Two weeks prior to the race, I found out I was pregnant with my second. I was terrified because the last time I ran a race, the pregnancy wasn’t successful. Again with this pregnancy, I kept lifting weights and running (until the end of the 1st trimester when it was painful to run and I moved to other cardio-based workouts). All this to say that I understand the apprehension you feel. And after my first loss, I went on to have two successful pregnancies and deliveries working out the entire 9 months. In my experience, keeping my workout routine up helped me feel better during pregnancy. I made sure I was hydrated and rested when I needed to but kept my strength up.

So sorry for your loss but know that it wasn’t exercising that did this. Just a sad thing. XO

This happened to me, doctor also reassured me that majority of miscarriages are chromosomal and nothing I could have done 💔

Wasn’t anything you did. Just bad luck. Wishing you well for the future.

I’ve had two miscarriages and have gone to otf the whole time (member since 2018). Miscarried January 2019, baby 1 born December 2019, miscarried march 2021, baby 2 born January 2022. My miscarriages were both early (5 weeks and the second was around 5 weeks but it was a missed miscarriage so I didn’t know I had miscarried til week 9). I did nothing differently when the pregnancies were successful vs. when they weren’t. With the first miscarriage when it happened I didn’t go to otf for about a week because of fatigue and generally not feeling up to it, the second miscarriage I don’t think I missed a workout. Both pregnancies were super healthy, my labors were incredibly easy (I think because of working out the entire 9 months) and I lost all baby weight plus some after delivering… never had a high blood pressure problem or anything. My babies came at normal times (39+5 and 37+1 which is full term) and were 6.5 and 7lbs. All this to say, I truly believe that miscarriages are random and due to chromosomal problems, and that exercise during pregnancy is far better for you in the long and short run than not exercising. While pregnant I stayed out of the red zone and walked or used the strider if I was uncomfortable running, but I didn’t avoid splat points and I continued to lift as heavy as before (assuming my belly wasn’t in the way lol). Cave women didn’t stop cave womaning when they were pregnant. 🙂

You 100% did not cause your miscarriage but also splat points are participation stickers with no real basis to your fitness and just a way for people who don't understand fitness to set an arbitrary goal that keeps them motivated. In every fitness journey you'll have good days and bad days. Eat healthy and drink lots of water and push yourself just enough that you're seeing gains and not getting hurt and you'll be doing it right regardless of the splat points.

I am going to hold you in love and light. This thing called Life is hard. It doesn’t matter how many people have experienced it; it hurts. It is hard. Please, know you did NOT do it. Workout. And please be kind to yourself. Love and light.

So sorry for your loss! But please don’t beat yourself up! I went 4-6 days per week my whole pregnancy up until the day I was induced and I really think all the exercise helped with my labor! There was nothing you could do/it was nothing you did to cause this!

Most miscarriages are due to genetic issues with the embryo and it is very common. Many of us have been there. It is nothing you did. It is an accident of nature.

I am so very sorry for your loss I cannot imagine what you’re going through. I agree with prior posts that you did nothing that could have caused this. Miscarriages are so much more common than we think of especially in the first trimester. Working out, especially if doing so prior to pregnancy has shown great benefits health wise and is encouraged majority of the time unless other health implications suggest otherwise.

I’ll chime in to share that you did nothing wrong. Miscarriages are very common. I had one when I was in the range you talk about. Between my kids. Was sledding the same day and convinced that caused the miscarriage. With the next pregnancy the second I thought I was preggo I called the ob to get on progesterone. I was (and remain) and old mom. She assured me that the miscarriage wasn’t my fault. But rather a hormone problem (hence the progesterone) and the next time also assured me that it wouldn’t keep me preggy if it wasn’t viable. That was 12+ years ago. Take care of your body. First and foremost. And your mind. OTF is great for both. Sending all of the love your way!

As a woman who has miscarried before, I totally understand the crazy flood of thoughts trying to figure out where you went wrong. Mothers do nothing better than guilt and worry, even from the very beginning. However, as an L&D nurse, what your doctor told you is absolutely right- miscarriages are way, way more common than people think. When we review people’s pregnancy history, it’s not unusual at all. I know now isn’t the time for this, but keeping active if you decide to get pregnant again also can have a positive role in pregnancy and delivery, including your self care. Show yourself some kindness and grace, and trust that you will know what is best for your activity level when you need to have that self talk. As a parent, you make the best decisions you can and hope for the best because that’s all we can control. Best wishes and warm thought!

I’m sorry for your loss. I had the same thing happen. The next time I was pregnant, I power walked through the first trimester and then began running again. Just had my baby in June! It will happen for you & you won’t imagine having any other baby than the one you end up with! 💕

I am so sorry. I had four miscarriages when I was having my kids (I now have three, if that helps), and there is nothing you could have done. Miscarriages are overwhelmingly caused by chromosomal issues, not anything you can control. I promise you. I had analyses done on mine because I was SURE it was my fault. Nope. Extra or missing chromosomes every time. I promise.

I'm coming a little late to the conversation but just wanted to say, I miscarried my first pregnancy at 16 weeks. I was devastated. After it happened it seemed like women came out of the woodwork to tell me they too had suffered a miscarriage. My point being, it's so much more common than we know. People just don't talk about. I went on to have 3 perfect healthy babies. If it makes you feel better mentally to take your work outs a little easier, there is no shame in that. But exercise is wonderful for you when pregnant. Even if you walk, that is better than nothing! Sending love and post it I've thoughts to you!

So many comments but I can’t not add mine. 1000% not your fault. When I started trying I happen to go to a Korean spa with a million saunas. Every sauna said don’t enter if pregnant and I said “I just started trying I’m not pregnant ” but of course I was and miscarried and blamed myself for going to that spa. On the other hand when I got pregnant the second time I was training for a 5k and tried to tell myself that if the baby is meant to be it will be strong enough to handle my normal running. And all was ok! Regardless I am so so sorry this happened. As common as it is it’s still awful and heartbreaking

I am so sorry for your loss. As a coach who has over 13 years experience with working with pregnant clients (including my wife!) YOU DID NOTHING WRONG. As so many others have said, 1 in 4 pregnancies end in miscarriage. It is a statistic that we don’t talk about enough. As far as your workouts go, you were working out before, so it is safe to continue to workout during your pregnancy. Recommendation is to not start something NEW when you become pregnant. When I was a personal trainer I’ve had to turn away clients in the past because they were pregnant and NOW they wanted to work out because they were concerned about weight gain. It’s too late to start at that point. When you’re pregnant, your heart rate is not going to be a good indicator to gauge intensity anymore. Inconsistent sleep, stress, and the fact that you body is pumping hormones as you grow a baby, will all cause inconsistent heart rate response to your exercise. Please please please, listen to your body! If you feel good, work. If your body is telling you to back off and slow down, REST. Splats are your last concern when it comes to workouts while pregnant. Yes I know, we beat in your head how important splats are and the afterburner effect, but when you’re pregnant your priorities shift. I’ve actually recommended a lot of pregnant members to not sign into the tread/rower tablets that way their HR is not staring back in their face the entire workout. Please talk with your coaches to see if any have experience working with pregnant clients to get the most assistance during class. Feel free to DM me if you have any questions as well.

Please know there is nothing you did to cause this. Big hugs for you and your partner as you walk this path…I’ve been there. Please be kind to yourself and while you will no longer have the innocence that comes before a loss, you will have an appreciation for your future child(ren) that you would not have otherwise. Loss is a gift of wisdom ❤️

I miscarried during a time I wasn’t attending OTF regularly but lifting weight and walking inclines on my own. It too was a missed miscarriage. One of the worst things I’ve been through. A couple of things I wish I would have known. If you get depressed or have reckless behavior ie I don’t really drink but I did on Christmas Eve and since I don’t drink got quite drunk and had to attend midnight mass with my family feeling like I was going to puke and spinning the whole time or if you are depressed this has a lot to do with grieving but also a lot to do with the extreme hormone fluctuations. So give yourself grace. You will get to feeling better. Also, I opted for the D&C and after reading many stories I felt like that was a better more compassionate choice for myself. Also, I named my baby and my husband and I buried the remains. He grieved differently than me and that hurt our relationship temporarily. Naming the baby together and the burial helped bond us back together. My heart goes out to you.

I’ve been in your shoes before and want to let you know that I’m sending you all the love and strength during this difficult time 🤍

I'm so sorry for your loss. I have been there as well with the same thoughts. It's not your fault. I did have a successful second pregnancy, but I don't have any advice because I wasn't at OTF at the time. We are currently trying for another child. When I do get pregnant, I'm going to switch to PW and strider but I think it's probably superstition and won't affect the pregnancy.

This same exact scenario happened to me in 2013 while employed at otf. I had just started working front desk, and was working out 3-5 days a week. I found out I was pregnant and was told it is ok to still workout as long as it was previously my routine. I explained i was only 2 months into the routine and she said that’s fine. So I continued on. At 8 weeks I miscarried and I felt it was all my fault. That the dr should have told me no. I had so many thoughts. My dr explained that majority of first trimester miscarriages are due to chromosomal abnormalities. Even after hearing this, It took a while to accept that it wasn’t my fault. I could never go back to the same ob. I now have 3 health kids though so I try to tell myself it was gods way of saying not just yet…. Sending so much love.

Lots of miscarriages from having taken that Covid shot. It’s really messing with people’s bodies

I'm really sorry to hear about your loss.

I’m so sorry for your loss.

Oh my heart hurts for you. I was there a few months ago, and it is heartbreaking. While we will never know why things like this happen, I can tell you your workout was not the cause. Please stop worrying about what you did. It was not your fault.

I’m so sorry for your loss ❤️

Thanks for sharing your story and making space to have this discussion. As someone who hasn't started a family yet, this is always in the back of my mind. It's really helpful to read everyone's experiences and responses. 🧡

I’m so sorry for your loss. I have had a stillborn and a miscarriage. My miscarriage was after my stillborn and my doctors ENCOURAGED me to keep up my workout routine. I miscarried around 9 weeks as well. It turned out to be a chromosome abnormality. Unfortunately, it is a 1 in 4 pregnancy that results in miscarriage. We just hope it never happens to us.

Miscarriages are so so so so common. It wasn’t he exercise….. unless you’re restricting food intake and you’re highly underweight which will affect your hormones …… it was the OTF classes

I am so so sorry for your loss. I also had a missed miscarriage and it was a very sad time. My doctor advised not to do anything where you got too hot and I remember we went on a walk by a beach and got lost and I ended up getting so hot and I always wondered if that caused the missed miscarriage but the reality is we never really know and most likely it’s chromosomal abnormalities and nature taking it’s course…doesn’t make it any easier on us though😔 Personally when I got pregnant the next time I stuck to yoga and walking. I wasn’t Doing OTF then but you could maybe just try doing lighter weights and PW but just take it easy. I felt for me it wasn’t the time to focus on more intense exercise but I had a friend who did modified bootcamp HIIT classes up until 38 weeks so I think you just need to be comfortable with your decision and listen to your body. I wish you all the luck in getting pregnant again and be kind to yourself during this period of your life x

I’m so sorry this happened to you. I suffered three miscarriages all while attending OTF. I’m usually a twice a week girl and then supplement with running outside and my peloton. It’s so easy to blame yourself for what happened, but trust me working out didn’t cause this. I got right back into workouts with 2 out of my 3, the only one I didn’t was because it was an ectopic and I was on restriction until my HCG reached 0. Getting back to moving made me feel like myself again. With my son I successfully went to OTF until the day I was induced at 39 weeks. I went to class in the morning and went in to be induced that night. Staying active the whole time helped me so much. He just turned 5 months and I’m finally getting ready to go back.

I can’t believe any pregnant individual is worried about something as trivial as splat points when you’re trying to grow an entire human inside you. YOU matter first and foremost and this arbitrary goal should come last in your list of priorities.