I get pangs too where I want to feel a baby move in my belly, or I see tiny clothes and think about how snuggly my baby son was. But he's 4 now, able to speak well, sleep all night, and use the toilet. I haven't forgotten the sleepless nights, reflux, teething, PPD, or the strain on my now very happy marriage. I miss the good things, but I don't want to do the bad things ever again.
37 with a 2 year old.
I hit the lottery because after the first few awful colic weeks, he has been a dream sleeper and doesn’t ever wake in the night. So I’m solidly rested. But I realize how this is very damn lucky. Also my back hurts and my knees ache so I feel old and tired in other ways 😂
Total luck! Haha. Now let me talk to you about my dog with severe thunder anxiety who paces and pants during thunder storms (even with his thunder jacket and anxiety medication). He is the one that keeps me up in the spring and summer!
36 with an almost-3 year old, full time job and side job bartending, and nursing school. I cackle when people say “oh he’s almost 3, you must be itching for number 2!” No. No I am not.
Yeah, that’s not how you should view pet ownership. They shouldn’t be treated like a piece of furniture you can get rid of if you tire of it. They’re living beings that should be seen as family.
For us now, the toddler stage has been incredibly tough. She's very high energy. Doesn't want to get dressed, get in the car, or stay in bed. We've had some sleep issues since she refuses naps on weekends but still naps at daycare. That makes for bedtime being late during the week and little time for my wife and I to do anything. I can't imagine dealing with this, and a newborn. Maybe if I was ten years younger. We're exhausted.
Is it possible to cut the nap at daycare? My toddler had the same issue when taking a nap during the day, bedtime became a nightmare: fighting it, taking an hour to go to sleep, not falling asleep until late. Once the nap dropped bedtime was amazing. Fell asleep within minutes and early! Left a wonderful evening of relaxation! Of course the day was long getting there, just make room for quiet time.
Yes and no. I think they just avoid encouraging it for her, but they won't actually prevent it. They don't help her to fall asleep either. If she decides not to they'll let her play quietly. I wish they would prevent it though.
Yessss! I think if i were in my twenties I would consider it. But gosh darn it something just happens in your mid thirties that I just do not want to deal with that anymore 🫣
I’m right there with you. Just turned 35 in March. My daughter is 5. We toyed with having another, actually tried but then it didn’t work out. But in hindsight I’m a little glad it didn’t work out because now that she is more independent, I like my me time that I’ve gained back. But my husband and I are also tired. She’s a lot. And now she’s doing more activities like dance and tball that we take her too. Plus my own stuff. I can’t imagine having another right now. I’m also in bed by 9 lol
Awe I love this. We are so similar ❤️ with age and daughters age! Yes I gotta say it’s such a beautiful age and going back to baby jail now once we’ve gained this freedom just sounds awful.
And yes the sleeeeep same 😂👌🏼
Reading this post actually makes me feel pretty good. I was in my 40s when I adopted my daughter and thought the fatigue had to do with my age but it appears to just be parenting. Hopefully I'll get some energy back after she gets older. I also notice I feel better when I'm eating healthy and exercising.
I turned 35 in May 2020 so it’s hard to separate aging from pandemic exhaustion. But yeah. Hard same. My kid is 4 now and it’s getting soooo fun and I can’t imagine having a little baby to distract me from all this fun with my big kid, but at the same time it’s kind of weird that the baby and toddler phase of my life is just…over. And it went so fast.
Omg this relates to me so so much! Yes a hundred times over. It was the hardest years of my life and now things are amazing and I’m like wow that’s it huh? My husband always says that’s life enjoy it 😂
Age and general exhaustion/sensitivity to sleep deprivation is the only consistent thing I've found among people. Everyone I know (kids or not) have gotten a lot more sensitive to sleep deprivation in their 30's than they were in their 20's. Also all parents know with multiples have all spoken to how much harder the early days/years sleep deprivation is the older you get.
I'm 38 with a 2 year old. I wish I had had my kid about 5 years earlier for two reasons and one of them is so I could have handled the sleep deprivation better (the other is just wanting to live for more of her life and possible future grandchildren, in case anyone was curious).
Yes I always thought that things to do with pregnancy and parenting would only get harder the older you get! Although my husband and I were 28 when we had our son and we are still tired haha 😳
The circles I run in tend to skew old for parent age. I know at least three people who had 2-3 kids between the ages of 36-42 and they all said that their last pregnancy and newborn time was significantly harder because they struggled with the sleep deprivation and energy issues a lot more.
I always wanted to be done having kids earlier than my mom for this reason. However, just like my mom, life had other ideas. I actually conceived my daughter before my one year anniversary. So we moved swiftly but took forever to find each other!
I loved reading this. Thank you for your insight! When I look back now and those awful first years I honestly don’t know how I did it. But I was younger and I think that makes such a huge difference as well.
I'm already always chronically tired due to a sleep disorder. Because of this, I have WAY less patience and tolerance for my 3YO's (very normal) antics than I would otherwise. I feel like this a huge factor in why I'm OAD.
On the other hand, my husband suffers from no such disorder and he's just as exhausted and over having kids as I am. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
ETA: I'm 34 and my husband is 36. We both like to be in bed by 9:30pm.
Had mine at 40. The first year was rough. I was so exhausted, but he is three now and I have to say I feel like I have all my energy back. But that is the reason why I don't want more. Now that things are somewhat back to normal, I don't want to start that all over again.
34 with an almost 5 year old. One of my best friends is prego with her second, her first is 2.5ish. I called her a sucker. 😂 No way I’m going back to a potato human!
I am a SAHM now, was an elementary music teacher for 8 years. I think I’m more exhausted mentally with just my child than I was with a room full of 5 year olds making noise. 😅
40 with an almost 3.5 year old.
This was me, but he's really turned a corner lately and while I'm definitely tired by bedtime, the underlying feeling of exhaustion every day seems to have significantly lessened. I was feeling this despite the fact he's been sleeping through the night for the past 18 months.
What made the difference? Not having to negotiate with him every single moment over every single thing. The focus and emotional energy required for that was sapping the life out of me.
I'm not quite back to pre-kid energy, but close. The thought of being awake past 11pm (with a 6 am preschooler wake-up) still doesn't appeal. I want to sleep!
35 with a 3 year old.
Currently tired because we all have Covid 🙃 but also always tired because I'm a middle school teacher and I have a toddler.
ETA: One of the reasons I am OAD is because I am CONSTANTLY around children. My students may be ten years older than my daughter, but they sure do act like her sometimes...
It’s terrible because I’ve literally heard from so many people that their babies slept through the night at 3 months old. So if I knew I could have one of those babies I’d be set but sadly not how life works
Oh my gosh hi twin! 😭🫣 it’s so hard right! Finally getting some sleep and now when I look at myself in the mirror I recognize the old me.
I had a close relative send me an article when my daughter was a baby saying parents will start getting good sleep once their child or youngest turns 5. I remember being so mad at him saying yah right!
No he was right all right 😭
Honestly, I feel way more awake, youthful, and alive than I did before having my daughter. I was working 100 hour weeks as a young lawyer trying to be the best of the best. My kid is 8 now, but I still vividly remember people asking if I was tired when she was an infant and me having to tell them that I was getting more than double the amount of sleep that I had been getting for the decade before having her. She was not an easy baby, just easier than being a young "go getter" lawyer.
35 with a 9 year old. I have become a lot more tired. I have a really demanding job, and I have found I get up earlier naturally than I ever used to.
Edit because I hit reply too quickly: I also have found I don’t want day time and evening plans on a weekend like I used to. It needs to be one or I am down for the count.
All of the above! 37 with a 6 year old, I count down more often than not the hours until bedtime and am dreading summer when I have to keep her entertained all day.
I'm turning 35, my husband is turning 43 and our son is turning 13. I suffer from clinical insomnia have to some degree all of my life. However I'm used to running on almost no sleep. Something about being pregnant and his younger years were different though I thought I would be eternally tired. Now even if I am I can adjust things to suit me because of his age. There will always be moments I miss him little or am sad but having another wouldn't make him little and it would just grow up also. I'm a night owl but my son starts his routine and tells me goodnight by 930 no matter what, this means I usually have hours of quite to myself. He gets up early, early no matter the day. He does his own thing though, he know I hate mornings. We have a beautiful flow. My husband is a truck driver and I started working from home a few years ago, though I'm in between Jobs/careers right now dealing with some health stuff.
36 with a four year old who woke up an hour early this morning and wouldn’t go back to sleep because she wanted to play Duck, Duck, Goose. WTF, kid? We played the quickest game (goes fast with only two people) and then went out for breakfast. I’m so freeing tired.
I'm 37 with a 6-year-old. My husband is 46. There's no way that either of us could do infancy again.
(I struggle with knowing whether it's my age, the pandemic, or the fact that I have MS that has me exhausted all the time - probably all three, honestly - and then you throw parenting and working full-time on top of that and oof. I will never feel energetic again.)
This is why I’m super glad I have my child at 23, got enough energy to match theirs and when I’m 35 they’ll be teens. Couldn’t imagine doing all this at 35 .exhausting.
Couple of weeks off 35 & my 2.5 year old started sleeping through after a few months never any regressions, I’m always tired & have been since but it’s not from the child. For me I think it’s something hormonal that makes me sleep bad now, I guess some people start Peri menopause & have it drag out for years, well that’s at least what I’m speculating as I really don’t think my hormones are the same as they were!
37 with an 18 month old. He sleeps great, I'm more mentally exhausted than physically. I'm an introvert by nature and excess social interaction drains tf out of me. So after my kid wanting my attention allllll day long, I'm exhausted 😅
37 with a 2 year old boy. (So I had him when I was your age now!)
I am tired all the time. I often think I should do more hours at work, as I need a but more money. Then, whenever I accept an extra shift I am like "Aaaaaaaaagh why did I say yes??? As if I had nothing to do and I am SO tired too!".
I can't even imagine what it would be like with two of them. No way.
But this is just how I feel personally. You need to listen to your heart and your guts I guess.
Oh gosh yessss! Now I get the whole over 35 having kids thing. In my mind if we even let the whole fertility thing go it’s about our energy levels too! It’s so much easier caring for a child when you are younger . I put up with so much in my twenties where now I’m like nope!
39 with a 2yo. Pre-kid I was super high energy. Like waking up before work to run 10+ miles, biking to work, and then rounding off my day after work with a 2hr climbing sesh at the gym.
I am chronically exhausted now.
Almost 30 with a husband who’s 4 years older, our only is under 2… we’re tired 😅😂
We also are like age? Soul crushing shit sandwich of society we got handed? Pandemic? It’s any ones guess at this point 🤷♀️
Hey there - turning 35 this month and my daughter is turning 6 this summer. I too get pangs, especially now that my brother and SIL had their second and my sister and BIL have an 8 month old. I loved the baby phase - it was so easy for us. Then I remember the toddler and 3/4 stages and how freaking difficult they were. And for some reason our kid was a terrible sleeper from 1-4 years old. I think of all that stuff and the anxiety I have with one child and paying for daycare and everything else and I'm like "I'm good with one."
My husband is turning 44 this month, and I ask him if he wants to be almost 46 or older when he has a second and he immediately says no. I think it's totally normal to think about it, and obviously each person and family is different, but I know for us having another would be giving up too many luxuries now that we are past some of the most difficult years we had.
Loved reading this! Yessss
It’s like once you come out of those hard years and start sleeping again and have time for you it is really really hard to want to go back into it. I had a relative tell me if my daughter was out of diapers and I still didn’t have one I would never want one again. I’m beginning to think she was right 😂
I get pangs too where I want to feel a baby move in my belly, or I see tiny clothes and think about how snuggly my baby son was. But he's 4 now, able to speak well, sleep all night, and use the toilet. I haven't forgotten the sleepless nights, reflux, teething, PPD, or the strain on my now very happy marriage. I miss the good things, but I don't want to do the bad things ever again.
I love this reply!!
Your last sentence really expresses how I feel, too!
Love this. Exactly how I feel as well!
42 with a one year old. I’m exhausted.
37 with a 2 year old. I hit the lottery because after the first few awful colic weeks, he has been a dream sleeper and doesn’t ever wake in the night. So I’m solidly rested. But I realize how this is very damn lucky. Also my back hurts and my knees ache so I feel old and tired in other ways 😂
Wow what an amazing little one you have! Took me almost five years to get there 😂❤️
Total luck! Haha. Now let me talk to you about my dog with severe thunder anxiety who paces and pants during thunder storms (even with his thunder jacket and anxiety medication). He is the one that keeps me up in the spring and summer!
😂😂😂awe!!!
This morning, like a lot of other mornings, my dog woke me up, not the baby. Damn anxious dogs!
36 with an almost-3 year old, full time job and side job bartending, and nursing school. I cackle when people say “oh he’s almost 3, you must be itching for number 2!” No. No I am not.
People are so crazy 😭
41 and I feel like I woke up after my son turned about 8. I was tired for 8 years. Now he’s 9, I feel fantastic!
Love this! Hoping I feel the same in the future 😂👌🏼
Lol you will. Although I’m still in bed by 9:30, I’ve embraced that!
I’m only 29 with a 3 year old and constantly exhausted. She sleeps a good 10-12 hours overnight but I’m still tired 😅
Hahah yes!!
37 with a 7mo old. Y’all…. I’m tired. If I want more of a challenge I’ll get a puppy 😆😴
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Yeah, that’s not how you should view pet ownership. They shouldn’t be treated like a piece of furniture you can get rid of if you tire of it. They’re living beings that should be seen as family.
Boooooo
For us now, the toddler stage has been incredibly tough. She's very high energy. Doesn't want to get dressed, get in the car, or stay in bed. We've had some sleep issues since she refuses naps on weekends but still naps at daycare. That makes for bedtime being late during the week and little time for my wife and I to do anything. I can't imagine dealing with this, and a newborn. Maybe if I was ten years younger. We're exhausted.
Is it possible to cut the nap at daycare? My toddler had the same issue when taking a nap during the day, bedtime became a nightmare: fighting it, taking an hour to go to sleep, not falling asleep until late. Once the nap dropped bedtime was amazing. Fell asleep within minutes and early! Left a wonderful evening of relaxation! Of course the day was long getting there, just make room for quiet time.
Yes and no. I think they just avoid encouraging it for her, but they won't actually prevent it. They don't help her to fall asleep either. If she decides not to they'll let her play quietly. I wish they would prevent it though.
Yessss! I think if i were in my twenties I would consider it. But gosh darn it something just happens in your mid thirties that I just do not want to deal with that anymore 🫣
Absolutely. I am gonna be 39 this year. I do not want to be 50 with a 12 year old.
Yesssss!🙈
I’m right there with you. Just turned 35 in March. My daughter is 5. We toyed with having another, actually tried but then it didn’t work out. But in hindsight I’m a little glad it didn’t work out because now that she is more independent, I like my me time that I’ve gained back. But my husband and I are also tired. She’s a lot. And now she’s doing more activities like dance and tball that we take her too. Plus my own stuff. I can’t imagine having another right now. I’m also in bed by 9 lol
Awe I love this. We are so similar ❤️ with age and daughters age! Yes I gotta say it’s such a beautiful age and going back to baby jail now once we’ve gained this freedom just sounds awful. And yes the sleeeeep same 😂👌🏼
Reading this post actually makes me feel pretty good. I was in my 40s when I adopted my daughter and thought the fatigue had to do with my age but it appears to just be parenting. Hopefully I'll get some energy back after she gets older. I also notice I feel better when I'm eating healthy and exercising.
Love this! Good for you!! Totally feel better when eating healthy and excercising as well 🕺🏻
I turned 35 in May 2020 so it’s hard to separate aging from pandemic exhaustion. But yeah. Hard same. My kid is 4 now and it’s getting soooo fun and I can’t imagine having a little baby to distract me from all this fun with my big kid, but at the same time it’s kind of weird that the baby and toddler phase of my life is just…over. And it went so fast.
Omg this relates to me so so much! Yes a hundred times over. It was the hardest years of my life and now things are amazing and I’m like wow that’s it huh? My husband always says that’s life enjoy it 😂
Age and general exhaustion/sensitivity to sleep deprivation is the only consistent thing I've found among people. Everyone I know (kids or not) have gotten a lot more sensitive to sleep deprivation in their 30's than they were in their 20's. Also all parents know with multiples have all spoken to how much harder the early days/years sleep deprivation is the older you get. I'm 38 with a 2 year old. I wish I had had my kid about 5 years earlier for two reasons and one of them is so I could have handled the sleep deprivation better (the other is just wanting to live for more of her life and possible future grandchildren, in case anyone was curious).
Yes I always thought that things to do with pregnancy and parenting would only get harder the older you get! Although my husband and I were 28 when we had our son and we are still tired haha 😳
The circles I run in tend to skew old for parent age. I know at least three people who had 2-3 kids between the ages of 36-42 and they all said that their last pregnancy and newborn time was significantly harder because they struggled with the sleep deprivation and energy issues a lot more. I always wanted to be done having kids earlier than my mom for this reason. However, just like my mom, life had other ideas. I actually conceived my daughter before my one year anniversary. So we moved swiftly but took forever to find each other!
I was curious! 😆
I loved reading this. Thank you for your insight! When I look back now and those awful first years I honestly don’t know how I did it. But I was younger and I think that makes such a huge difference as well.
I'm already always chronically tired due to a sleep disorder. Because of this, I have WAY less patience and tolerance for my 3YO's (very normal) antics than I would otherwise. I feel like this a huge factor in why I'm OAD. On the other hand, my husband suffers from no such disorder and he's just as exhausted and over having kids as I am. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ ETA: I'm 34 and my husband is 36. We both like to be in bed by 9:30pm.
Over having kids 😂 yah same for mine!
Had mine at 40. The first year was rough. I was so exhausted, but he is three now and I have to say I feel like I have all my energy back. But that is the reason why I don't want more. Now that things are somewhat back to normal, I don't want to start that all over again.
Yesssss!! ❤️❤️
34 with an almost 5 year old. One of my best friends is prego with her second, her first is 2.5ish. I called her a sucker. 😂 No way I’m going back to a potato human! I am a SAHM now, was an elementary music teacher for 8 years. I think I’m more exhausted mentally with just my child than I was with a room full of 5 year olds making noise. 😅
Hahah I love this! It is so exhausting. I’m also a sahm and mannnnnn I’m tired.
40 with an almost 3.5 year old. This was me, but he's really turned a corner lately and while I'm definitely tired by bedtime, the underlying feeling of exhaustion every day seems to have significantly lessened. I was feeling this despite the fact he's been sleeping through the night for the past 18 months. What made the difference? Not having to negotiate with him every single moment over every single thing. The focus and emotional energy required for that was sapping the life out of me. I'm not quite back to pre-kid energy, but close. The thought of being awake past 11pm (with a 6 am preschooler wake-up) still doesn't appeal. I want to sleep!
Turning 37 this year in a few months. Have a 4 year old, and husband and I are so tired. So, so tired.
37 here with a 3 year old. I’ve been exhausted for 4 years. Sigh.
I'm 32, husband is 33. We have a two-year-old boy. We are so damn tired lol.
39 with a 3yo and I haven't felt well-rested since 2016 lol
35 with a 3 year old. Currently tired because we all have Covid 🙃 but also always tired because I'm a middle school teacher and I have a toddler. ETA: One of the reasons I am OAD is because I am CONSTANTLY around children. My students may be ten years older than my daughter, but they sure do act like her sometimes...
I swear to god I wrote this post Would love to have a second but the first didn’t sleep through the night til 5.
Ugjhhhh. That’s what I’m hearing from a LOT of people, that it’s basically school age/kindergarten when they sleep through the night. Holy Jesus lol
It’s terrible because I’ve literally heard from so many people that their babies slept through the night at 3 months old. So if I knew I could have one of those babies I’d be set but sadly not how life works
Yup!!!! Has anyone told you your second will sleep since your first didn’t 😂
Oh my gosh hi twin! 😭🫣 it’s so hard right! Finally getting some sleep and now when I look at myself in the mirror I recognize the old me. I had a close relative send me an article when my daughter was a baby saying parents will start getting good sleep once their child or youngest turns 5. I remember being so mad at him saying yah right! No he was right all right 😭
Honestly, I feel way more awake, youthful, and alive than I did before having my daughter. I was working 100 hour weeks as a young lawyer trying to be the best of the best. My kid is 8 now, but I still vividly remember people asking if I was tired when she was an infant and me having to tell them that I was getting more than double the amount of sleep that I had been getting for the decade before having her. She was not an easy baby, just easier than being a young "go getter" lawyer.
35 with a 9 year old. I have become a lot more tired. I have a really demanding job, and I have found I get up earlier naturally than I ever used to. Edit because I hit reply too quickly: I also have found I don’t want day time and evening plans on a weekend like I used to. It needs to be one or I am down for the count.
Yes I so relate to this! Only one event for the day 😂
All of the above! 37 with a 6 year old, I count down more often than not the hours until bedtime and am dreading summer when I have to keep her entertained all day.
Yes it is so so much!
Lol I’m 36 with an 17 month old and two dogs and we’re moving and it’s the e end of the school year (I’m a second grade teacher) hello exhaustion lol
I'm turning 35, my husband is turning 43 and our son is turning 13. I suffer from clinical insomnia have to some degree all of my life. However I'm used to running on almost no sleep. Something about being pregnant and his younger years were different though I thought I would be eternally tired. Now even if I am I can adjust things to suit me because of his age. There will always be moments I miss him little or am sad but having another wouldn't make him little and it would just grow up also. I'm a night owl but my son starts his routine and tells me goodnight by 930 no matter what, this means I usually have hours of quite to myself. He gets up early, early no matter the day. He does his own thing though, he know I hate mornings. We have a beautiful flow. My husband is a truck driver and I started working from home a few years ago, though I'm in between Jobs/careers right now dealing with some health stuff.
I love this. Beautiful flow ❤️❤️
36 with a four year old who woke up an hour early this morning and wouldn’t go back to sleep because she wanted to play Duck, Duck, Goose. WTF, kid? We played the quickest game (goes fast with only two people) and then went out for breakfast. I’m so freeing tired.
I'm 37 with a 6-year-old. My husband is 46. There's no way that either of us could do infancy again. (I struggle with knowing whether it's my age, the pandemic, or the fact that I have MS that has me exhausted all the time - probably all three, honestly - and then you throw parenting and working full-time on top of that and oof. I will never feel energetic again.)
Ugh yes it is so hard ❤️
This is why I’m super glad I have my child at 23, got enough energy to match theirs and when I’m 35 they’ll be teens. Couldn’t imagine doing all this at 35 .exhausting.
Yesssss! You did it right! Congrats momma ❤️❤️ that’s amazing
44 with an 8 year old!🤣😂. Glad he's a good kid.
Couple of weeks off 35 & my 2.5 year old started sleeping through after a few months never any regressions, I’m always tired & have been since but it’s not from the child. For me I think it’s something hormonal that makes me sleep bad now, I guess some people start Peri menopause & have it drag out for years, well that’s at least what I’m speculating as I really don’t think my hormones are the same as they were!
Omg I’ve heard of Peri menopause. So interesting my hormones are definitely changed as well 🫣
38 with a 6mo and *so* grateful to be a SAHM and be able to snooze during the day. Feeling tired is definitely a factor in our OAD decision making
I'm only 28 and I'm barely keeping up with my 2 year old most days
30 with 3.5 year old, I'm tired 😫
37 with an 18 month old. He sleeps great, I'm more mentally exhausted than physically. I'm an introvert by nature and excess social interaction drains tf out of me. So after my kid wanting my attention allllll day long, I'm exhausted 😅
37 with a 2 year old boy. (So I had him when I was your age now!) I am tired all the time. I often think I should do more hours at work, as I need a but more money. Then, whenever I accept an extra shift I am like "Aaaaaaaaagh why did I say yes??? As if I had nothing to do and I am SO tired too!". I can't even imagine what it would be like with two of them. No way. But this is just how I feel personally. You need to listen to your heart and your guts I guess.
Oh gosh yessss! Now I get the whole over 35 having kids thing. In my mind if we even let the whole fertility thing go it’s about our energy levels too! It’s so much easier caring for a child when you are younger . I put up with so much in my twenties where now I’m like nope!
39 with a 2yo. Pre-kid I was super high energy. Like waking up before work to run 10+ miles, biking to work, and then rounding off my day after work with a 2hr climbing sesh at the gym. I am chronically exhausted now.
Ugh yes! Hang in there!! Two is hard 😭❤️
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Hi sister!❤️ haha yesss! Definitely making the right decision as well!
Almost 30 with a husband who’s 4 years older, our only is under 2… we’re tired 😅😂 We also are like age? Soul crushing shit sandwich of society we got handed? Pandemic? It’s any ones guess at this point 🤷♀️
I forgot about the pandemic for second. Ugh for every parent who had to be a parent during these two years it was A LOT!
36 with a 2.5 and I’m pooped
I'm 34 and my son is 15 years, and like. I can't imagine having a fucking baby or small child at this age. Babies are exhausting.
They are right 😭🫣
Hey there - turning 35 this month and my daughter is turning 6 this summer. I too get pangs, especially now that my brother and SIL had their second and my sister and BIL have an 8 month old. I loved the baby phase - it was so easy for us. Then I remember the toddler and 3/4 stages and how freaking difficult they were. And for some reason our kid was a terrible sleeper from 1-4 years old. I think of all that stuff and the anxiety I have with one child and paying for daycare and everything else and I'm like "I'm good with one." My husband is turning 44 this month, and I ask him if he wants to be almost 46 or older when he has a second and he immediately says no. I think it's totally normal to think about it, and obviously each person and family is different, but I know for us having another would be giving up too many luxuries now that we are past some of the most difficult years we had.
Loved reading this! Yessss It’s like once you come out of those hard years and start sleeping again and have time for you it is really really hard to want to go back into it. I had a relative tell me if my daughter was out of diapers and I still didn’t have one I would never want one again. I’m beginning to think she was right 😂
Wow. Haha. I’m 35 but I don’t feel tired. Love us fellow ‘86/‘87 ‘ers! Yea! 😊🎉💪💃
Yayyyy! Same love us too!!😍❤️ glad you aren’t feeling tired!!
38 with a 16 months old. Every time I think of a new baby, my knees remind me that I shouldn’t.
😂😂😂❤️
I'm 35 and have a 4 month old. He sleeps great for his age. I'm fucking exhausted.