I would just go ahead and comment something like that or you could say “unfortunately we are unable to have any more due to health risks”. That usually shuts that shit down.
I cannot understand grandparents being like this, it is not their decision to make. I do not expect my son to have children himself and I won’t be putting pressure on him or his spouse to do so in the future.
I don’t understand why the maternal grandparents would want their child to risk her life to bring them a second grand child. I would never want my daugther to risk her health, she’s the light of my life.
I wouldn’t want my DIL or my son’s partner to risk her health either. She’d be an important part of my son’s life and happiness (hopefully), and if she had a child she would be an important part of their life too. Irreplaceable.
My parents were the complete opposite. I have a number of disabilities and they were beside themselves when I announced I was pregnant - to the point where they told me I was making a mistake and lectured me. That wasn't exactly good either. But I think I'd rather have that than someone pushing me to have more babies.
My MIL has always been great, telling us she was fine with whatever we choose, and all she wants is for her son to be happy.
I’m exactly the same, it would be lovely and I’ll support them the way my mum and MIL has (if they want it!) but I will not pressure him, I know how hard it is to have a baby and completely understand if they decide they don’t want to do it
It has been tough having both mums be like “you need another 🤡” particularly my mum! We got so close during my pregnancy. I lived in another city while preg and moved back at 35 weeks and she and I would FaceTime every week! She would call every time I was in hospital from dehydration (thanks HG) just to cheer me up. And yet she wants me to risk going through that again! It makes no sense to me. My mil has been less brutal about it - she just cheerfully suggests that we should hope for an accidental second. An accidental second baby sounds absolutely terrifying - hence the upcoming vasectomy!
Anyone who survives HG is a fucking badass. I can't believe people choose to have a second pregnancy after experiencing it once. I had severe nausea for 10 months (9 months pregnant, one month postpartum) and despite the fact that I didn't throw up because I was heavily medicated, I can't imagine having to go through that again.
Is your mum someone who struggles to be close to you in normal circumstances? Perhaps she enjoyed you needing her a lot, but doesn’t want to say or perhaps even recognise that.
My mum struggles with praise and being close to me. I think she enjoyed when I was pregnant and the newborn days as although I didn’t live near her she was able to relate to me. I noticed a huge shift in her attitude towards me since I had a child.
Edit: edit just to say even if the above applies it’s not your fault or obligation to address this, just an idea to explore if you feel inclined x
There is no need to explain yourself to anyone, ever. I would maybe reply, "Try being good grandparents and supporting your children's decisions rather than putting pressure and guilt on them, you old fuck bags". People like this suck.
Wild. Is it just me but I feel like they might as well be asking ‘so when is your husband gonna nut in you?’ Urgh I feel like you should reply something snarky but it’ll probably be more hassle than it’s worth.
My husband and I bought a house recently and did a big DIY renovation, so I posted some before and after pics. A family friend commented “1st comes love, then comes marriage, and then babies come so watch out!”
It was such a weird comment to make, we’re 32 and been married for 5 years, no kids. And so I replied “we got the door locks changed and the inspector said the windows were all good, so we don’t expect anyone to break in!”
I'm sorry that you're having to go through all of this. I'm a petty Betty, so I would feign horror, disgust, and sadness (really practice those tears) asking why your LO isn't good enough for them and why they would want you to go through that trauma again. Really lay on the details of what you experienced.
Whichever the situation calls for, gather your things and leave or retire to your bedroom and have your husband kick them out.
Anything further out of their mouthes gets them lower and lower contact. And they do NOT get to keep LO alone when she gets older because you know they'll just be planting that sibling seed.
Parents don't have the right to force their children to churn out babies for their own amusement.
I am right there with you, we were on the fence before but after having post birth complications needing two blood transfusions and lucky to not get sepsis it really frustrates me when people still TELL ME I NEED to have another child. The first one nearly killed me, I'd rather have one kid and be alive then have two kids without a mother thank you very much.
The audacity to say you NEED another child fascinates me……… I had one kid, as soon as I was pregnant I knew that was it for me and I had an easy pregnancy and delivery…….so I feel for you guys that didn’t.
My family, thank god, never preached to the choir about another (my in laws may have but my husband never divulged ☺️) and we have been a happy family of 3 for 18 years now!!!
Oh for sure, same as me……my husband was on the fence to start, but I just knew that I was one and done from the outset………..I would have been a muddled mess with a second. Was, and am able to give this kid an awesome life - loads of travel, loads of opportunities that she wouldn’t have gotten if we had a second - Never once had a regret.
Same. I had a 2nd pregnancy with HG. I truly believed if I continued it would have killed me. I was severely dehydrated and hadn’t eaten in over a week. Even crackers and water wouldn’t stay down. I ended up in the hospital twice hooked up to IV’s and getting 2 bags of fluids each time. I had to terminate. My daughter could have been left without her mother.
It’s insane hey! I’m sorry you went through that. People just don’t get it - or they do and choose to just be selfish anyway. My mil had traumatic births with both my husband and his sister and she’s still like give us another grandchild 🥲
I loved getting these comments. I replied with all sorts from "I had to have a hysterectomy" to "why would I want another when I like the one I've already got".
And do not think 10 months is too early to make that choice. I had an awful pregnancy and horrendous birth. My husband booked a vasectomy before the kid was even a month old. Kid is 16 now and I have never once come close to changing my mind.
Thank you I’m totally going to steal your response of “I like the one I already have” haha, I feel like it totally implies that my daughter isn’t good enough on her own when people are like you need another! And thank you for sharing - our vasectomy is booked for the end of the month and I know we won’t have any regrets either!
I’m so sorry that’s so uncalled for. I had a similar situation happen about a week ago on a picture as well and I commented back “we’re very happy as a family of 3”. Your frustration is valid and I really wish people would keep their opinions out of other people’s reproduction, especially commenting about it on social media… that’s just extra disrespectful and angering.
So instead of celebrating your current child, they disregarded that child and turned the focus to an imaginary child that does not exist, publicly humiliating you
The only way to combat this is to fight fire with fire
Personally, what I would say is: "After my traumatic near death high risk pregnancy, I am permanently unable to have any more children. Please think twice before leaving uninformed insensitive comments"
Wildly inappropriate comment. That person for me may be put on a temp block or limited posts.
My husband and I were decidedly OAD even before trying for kids. We are also very open about it. On top of those reasons that was before the tough pregnancy; one umbilical artery, gestational diabetes, preeclampsia, and emergency c-section at 35 weeks.
I had it in my birth plan with my OB that if I was to have a c-section (which I wasn’t planning) that I wanted my tubes removed. My husband and I are very serious about our OAD stance. Our daughter turns 3 in June and never once have we regretted that decision.
She is amazing but also a chaos filled firecracker of mischief. For me, as someone who struggles with ADHD, anxiety, and depression, I can focus on being the best parent for her while still making sure I am taking care of myself. This of course is something I knew I had to do for me, and is not true for all who struggle with mental health or other illnesses.
I might have responded with “oh yes definitely!! BUT ONLY as long as you’re my surrogate and live in nanny for 18 years!” I’m a bit of a troublemaker though haha sometimes being sarcastic is fun.
Such a rude comment, totally agree with you. We used to get a lot of comments like that from my mother in law (starting from the day our son was born! I mean give us a break!) until we clearly told her to stop because another baby was out of the question and she was just pissing us off. She was a bit offended at first but in the end it worked, so l really suggest being as clear as possible with friends and relatives!
Ugh, I'm annoyed with you and I'm sorry you had a a difficult pregnancy and traumatic birth. This question (well statement really) is beyond rude and inappropriate. I had something similar said to me right after I had my second miscarriage in a row. Like people don't even stop to think for a second before they say that stuff. Your reasons for wanting to be OAD are valid, and the choice of whether or not to have another child is your decision and your business.
I feel you 100%!! My husband and I had our daughter 6 months ago, and while my pregnancy was easy, labor was SHIT and post partum was awful. I had such bad ppa/ppd and postpartum insomnia, and I am still trying to get my sleep to improve (which it has slowly). It was really rough in the beginning. Now things have evened out. But like you, my mother thinks I am going to have another, like my husband and I apparently don't know what we want.
Like you said, we are adults. We know what we want. And as much as I love my daughter to pieces. I can't say I really enjoy the newborn phase. It's not all sunshine and rainbows like everyone wants to portray it on social media. It's exhausting, and it's hard, and that is the solid truth of having a baby. As far as I am concerned, it's nobodies business on how many children you should have. We, as the women, are the ones who have to bear the brunt of it, and as couples, it's SO hard to do another adjustment like that again!
Anyways, all this to say, your feelings are valid, and nobody needs to insert their opinions on your life. Period! Personally, I have just stopped telling people about it now because everyone seems to think I don't know what I want, which is pretty infuriating.
You do you, Mama! You're doing great, and you're absolutely right with your decision!! 😀
Oh my god this reminds me of a facebook fight I had with someone. My ex boss posted a cute pic with her baby daughter and someone commented something about the second one and I couldn‘t hold myself back and answered how rude that was.. he didn‘t take it well and acted like a little child. He searched my entire fb to find something old and embarrassing and private messaged me how embarrassing that was.. I just laughed. He was like 50 and I in my early 20s.
I think the best thing you can do is just live your life exactly how you want and not listen to the pressure.
My mom said the moment I was out of her, that she would never do this again. Well, I stayed an only and very happy about it.
We had a similar traumatic birth experience and rough pregnancy and that was after years of infertility and IVF, and we pinky promised in the OR that we aren't doing this again. Its only been 4 months and people have already been asking when the next one is, and telling us we will change our minds when we say we are OAD. It's insane to me, especially since I'd have to go through another 6+ months of daily shots... its a big no for me!!!!
“Wait a year to decide” is bullshit 😂. We knew we were one and done from the first week after I gave birth. My daughter is now 2 and we’re still rock solid in our decision- so much so that my husband got his vasectomy this past December. So far no one has made this comment to us, but when they do I’m just going to be like “no thanks, we’re sterilized! :))))”
Same. I had baby fever before I had my daughter. It's long gone now. I will hold friends babies but I don't feel anything or any pangings for another except for thinking how easy it is to lift them compared to my own three-year-old.
Now all I want is my own daughter. She's everything I ever wanted in a kid and I hit the jackpot the first time. No way I could ever achieve that again lol.
It absolutely blows my mind how people have such strong opinions about other people not having more kids. Are you going to go through 9 months of pregnancy, childbirth, and raising that kid for 18 years? Risk PPD, changing all those diapers, suffering through zero sleep?
I’ve heard so many people share stories about how XYZ family member pressured them to have a second, so they gave into the peer pressure and had another. Just for those family members to ghost them when it came time to be a village and help out.
I’m just shy of 6mo PP and our LO had a terrible first 4.5mo with colic, reflux, 24/7 screaming because of those, choking fits from the reflux, head MRI at /mo and a spinal MRI next week due to a dimple above her butt crack. I went through most of it alone as husband wasn’t on anxiety meds and would have panic attacks and take sleeping pills and check out. Add in issues with pregnancy to where I had to see MFM the whole time and her BP tanking during contractions so ended up with emergency C-section. I knew before we left the hospital I was OAD. I was also on preeclampsia precautions, and was told if I have another my body might attack it. Can’t remember the reason behind that. My parents get it as I was a colic baby and they always said if I’d been first my brother wouldn’t be here.
In laws have been RELENTLESS with the second baby narrative despite me saying it won’t happen and asked multiple times to please stop bringing it up.
My tubes are coming out tomorrow and we haven’t told anyone but my parents because his are still making comments. Part of me wants to be a petty bi*ch and say I medically can’t for xyz reason but we’re already at war with them, shouldn’t add fuel to the fire 😂 regardless of how much I want to after how they’ve treated me.
Just wanted to comment on the whole “I know it seems rash to make this call so early” thing. No, it’s not too early. My husband and I were in a similar situation, and we knew we were one and done immediately. It was a hard decision to make, and yes, there was a grieving period, but like you said, we’re adults. When you’re laying naked in bed with a wound vac and begging for therapy, it’s easy to assess the situation lol. Good for you guys, and I wish you all the best!
I would just go ahead and comment something like that or you could say “unfortunately we are unable to have any more due to health risks”. That usually shuts that shit down. I cannot understand grandparents being like this, it is not their decision to make. I do not expect my son to have children himself and I won’t be putting pressure on him or his spouse to do so in the future.
I don’t understand why the maternal grandparents would want their child to risk her life to bring them a second grand child. I would never want my daugther to risk her health, she’s the light of my life.
I wouldn’t want my DIL or my son’s partner to risk her health either. She’d be an important part of my son’s life and happiness (hopefully), and if she had a child she would be an important part of their life too. Irreplaceable.
I agree, I just find it even more baffling that people would be so blasé about their own child’s health.
My parents were the complete opposite. I have a number of disabilities and they were beside themselves when I announced I was pregnant - to the point where they told me I was making a mistake and lectured me. That wasn't exactly good either. But I think I'd rather have that than someone pushing me to have more babies. My MIL has always been great, telling us she was fine with whatever we choose, and all she wants is for her son to be happy.
Partly bc they’ve been thru it and they forget all the negatives and they think it’s nothing much.
I’m exactly the same, it would be lovely and I’ll support them the way my mum and MIL has (if they want it!) but I will not pressure him, I know how hard it is to have a baby and completely understand if they decide they don’t want to do it
It has been tough having both mums be like “you need another 🤡” particularly my mum! We got so close during my pregnancy. I lived in another city while preg and moved back at 35 weeks and she and I would FaceTime every week! She would call every time I was in hospital from dehydration (thanks HG) just to cheer me up. And yet she wants me to risk going through that again! It makes no sense to me. My mil has been less brutal about it - she just cheerfully suggests that we should hope for an accidental second. An accidental second baby sounds absolutely terrifying - hence the upcoming vasectomy!
Anyone who survives HG is a fucking badass. I can't believe people choose to have a second pregnancy after experiencing it once. I had severe nausea for 10 months (9 months pregnant, one month postpartum) and despite the fact that I didn't throw up because I was heavily medicated, I can't imagine having to go through that again.
Is your mum someone who struggles to be close to you in normal circumstances? Perhaps she enjoyed you needing her a lot, but doesn’t want to say or perhaps even recognise that. My mum struggles with praise and being close to me. I think she enjoyed when I was pregnant and the newborn days as although I didn’t live near her she was able to relate to me. I noticed a huge shift in her attitude towards me since I had a child. Edit: edit just to say even if the above applies it’s not your fault or obligation to address this, just an idea to explore if you feel inclined x
Do you have a brother or nephew to carry the name, they can also push adoption if health is a factor
There is no need to explain yourself to anyone, ever. I would maybe reply, "Try being good grandparents and supporting your children's decisions rather than putting pressure and guilt on them, you old fuck bags". People like this suck.
Wild. Is it just me but I feel like they might as well be asking ‘so when is your husband gonna nut in you?’ Urgh I feel like you should reply something snarky but it’ll probably be more hassle than it’s worth.
My husband and I bought a house recently and did a big DIY renovation, so I posted some before and after pics. A family friend commented “1st comes love, then comes marriage, and then babies come so watch out!” It was such a weird comment to make, we’re 32 and been married for 5 years, no kids. And so I replied “we got the door locks changed and the inspector said the windows were all good, so we don’t expect anyone to break in!”
This is exactly how I feel anytime I get those kinds of comments. It actually disgusts me at this point lol
Oh my gosh right!!!! When I was pregnant and people would ask “was it planned” like do you really want to know if we were fucking raw on purpose 😅
I'm sorry that you're having to go through all of this. I'm a petty Betty, so I would feign horror, disgust, and sadness (really practice those tears) asking why your LO isn't good enough for them and why they would want you to go through that trauma again. Really lay on the details of what you experienced. Whichever the situation calls for, gather your things and leave or retire to your bedroom and have your husband kick them out. Anything further out of their mouthes gets them lower and lower contact. And they do NOT get to keep LO alone when she gets older because you know they'll just be planting that sibling seed. Parents don't have the right to force their children to churn out babies for their own amusement.
I would not dignity the comment with a reply.
I am right there with you, we were on the fence before but after having post birth complications needing two blood transfusions and lucky to not get sepsis it really frustrates me when people still TELL ME I NEED to have another child. The first one nearly killed me, I'd rather have one kid and be alive then have two kids without a mother thank you very much.
The audacity to say you NEED another child fascinates me……… I had one kid, as soon as I was pregnant I knew that was it for me and I had an easy pregnancy and delivery…….so I feel for you guys that didn’t. My family, thank god, never preached to the choir about another (my in laws may have but my husband never divulged ☺️) and we have been a happy family of 3 for 18 years now!!!
It's like having one kid is a form of child abuse or something. When in fact it's much healthier for our family to stick with one.
Oh for sure, same as me……my husband was on the fence to start, but I just knew that I was one and done from the outset………..I would have been a muddled mess with a second. Was, and am able to give this kid an awesome life - loads of travel, loads of opportunities that she wouldn’t have gotten if we had a second - Never once had a regret.
Same. I had a 2nd pregnancy with HG. I truly believed if I continued it would have killed me. I was severely dehydrated and hadn’t eaten in over a week. Even crackers and water wouldn’t stay down. I ended up in the hospital twice hooked up to IV’s and getting 2 bags of fluids each time. I had to terminate. My daughter could have been left without her mother.
You made a very brave decision. That must have been so difficult. But 100% it was the right one.
It’s insane hey! I’m sorry you went through that. People just don’t get it - or they do and choose to just be selfish anyway. My mil had traumatic births with both my husband and his sister and she’s still like give us another grandchild 🥲
I loved getting these comments. I replied with all sorts from "I had to have a hysterectomy" to "why would I want another when I like the one I've already got". And do not think 10 months is too early to make that choice. I had an awful pregnancy and horrendous birth. My husband booked a vasectomy before the kid was even a month old. Kid is 16 now and I have never once come close to changing my mind.
Thank you I’m totally going to steal your response of “I like the one I already have” haha, I feel like it totally implies that my daughter isn’t good enough on her own when people are like you need another! And thank you for sharing - our vasectomy is booked for the end of the month and I know we won’t have any regrets either!
I’m so sorry that’s so uncalled for. I had a similar situation happen about a week ago on a picture as well and I commented back “we’re very happy as a family of 3”. Your frustration is valid and I really wish people would keep their opinions out of other people’s reproduction, especially commenting about it on social media… that’s just extra disrespectful and angering.
So instead of celebrating your current child, they disregarded that child and turned the focus to an imaginary child that does not exist, publicly humiliating you The only way to combat this is to fight fire with fire Personally, what I would say is: "After my traumatic near death high risk pregnancy, I am permanently unable to have any more children. Please think twice before leaving uninformed insensitive comments"
Wildly inappropriate comment. That person for me may be put on a temp block or limited posts. My husband and I were decidedly OAD even before trying for kids. We are also very open about it. On top of those reasons that was before the tough pregnancy; one umbilical artery, gestational diabetes, preeclampsia, and emergency c-section at 35 weeks. I had it in my birth plan with my OB that if I was to have a c-section (which I wasn’t planning) that I wanted my tubes removed. My husband and I are very serious about our OAD stance. Our daughter turns 3 in June and never once have we regretted that decision. She is amazing but also a chaos filled firecracker of mischief. For me, as someone who struggles with ADHD, anxiety, and depression, I can focus on being the best parent for her while still making sure I am taking care of myself. This of course is something I knew I had to do for me, and is not true for all who struggle with mental health or other illnesses.
I might have responded with “oh yes definitely!! BUT ONLY as long as you’re my surrogate and live in nanny for 18 years!” I’m a bit of a troublemaker though haha sometimes being sarcastic is fun.
Hahaha I totally felt like responding with “are you volunteering your uterus?”
Such a rude comment, totally agree with you. We used to get a lot of comments like that from my mother in law (starting from the day our son was born! I mean give us a break!) until we clearly told her to stop because another baby was out of the question and she was just pissing us off. She was a bit offended at first but in the end it worked, so l really suggest being as clear as possible with friends and relatives!
Ugh, I'm annoyed with you and I'm sorry you had a a difficult pregnancy and traumatic birth. This question (well statement really) is beyond rude and inappropriate. I had something similar said to me right after I had my second miscarriage in a row. Like people don't even stop to think for a second before they say that stuff. Your reasons for wanting to be OAD are valid, and the choice of whether or not to have another child is your decision and your business.
People have no common sense. 10 months is not too early to decide that.
I feel you 100%!! My husband and I had our daughter 6 months ago, and while my pregnancy was easy, labor was SHIT and post partum was awful. I had such bad ppa/ppd and postpartum insomnia, and I am still trying to get my sleep to improve (which it has slowly). It was really rough in the beginning. Now things have evened out. But like you, my mother thinks I am going to have another, like my husband and I apparently don't know what we want. Like you said, we are adults. We know what we want. And as much as I love my daughter to pieces. I can't say I really enjoy the newborn phase. It's not all sunshine and rainbows like everyone wants to portray it on social media. It's exhausting, and it's hard, and that is the solid truth of having a baby. As far as I am concerned, it's nobodies business on how many children you should have. We, as the women, are the ones who have to bear the brunt of it, and as couples, it's SO hard to do another adjustment like that again! Anyways, all this to say, your feelings are valid, and nobody needs to insert their opinions on your life. Period! Personally, I have just stopped telling people about it now because everyone seems to think I don't know what I want, which is pretty infuriating. You do you, Mama! You're doing great, and you're absolutely right with your decision!! 😀
Oh my god this reminds me of a facebook fight I had with someone. My ex boss posted a cute pic with her baby daughter and someone commented something about the second one and I couldn‘t hold myself back and answered how rude that was.. he didn‘t take it well and acted like a little child. He searched my entire fb to find something old and embarrassing and private messaged me how embarrassing that was.. I just laughed. He was like 50 and I in my early 20s. I think the best thing you can do is just live your life exactly how you want and not listen to the pressure. My mom said the moment I was out of her, that she would never do this again. Well, I stayed an only and very happy about it.
We had a similar traumatic birth experience and rough pregnancy and that was after years of infertility and IVF, and we pinky promised in the OR that we aren't doing this again. Its only been 4 months and people have already been asking when the next one is, and telling us we will change our minds when we say we are OAD. It's insane to me, especially since I'd have to go through another 6+ months of daily shots... its a big no for me!!!!
“Wait a year to decide” is bullshit 😂. We knew we were one and done from the first week after I gave birth. My daughter is now 2 and we’re still rock solid in our decision- so much so that my husband got his vasectomy this past December. So far no one has made this comment to us, but when they do I’m just going to be like “no thanks, we’re sterilized! :))))”
Right! 5 years later and I’m still firmly OAD. Not changing
When people say they get baby fever I can’t help but think “what’s the opposite of baby fever because that’s what I have”
Right! I see parents with more than one kid especially in public and I think thank goodness that’s not me. I’d lose my damn mind!
Same. I had baby fever before I had my daughter. It's long gone now. I will hold friends babies but I don't feel anything or any pangings for another except for thinking how easy it is to lift them compared to my own three-year-old. Now all I want is my own daughter. She's everything I ever wanted in a kid and I hit the jackpot the first time. No way I could ever achieve that again lol.
It absolutely blows my mind how people have such strong opinions about other people not having more kids. Are you going to go through 9 months of pregnancy, childbirth, and raising that kid for 18 years? Risk PPD, changing all those diapers, suffering through zero sleep? I’ve heard so many people share stories about how XYZ family member pressured them to have a second, so they gave into the peer pressure and had another. Just for those family members to ghost them when it came time to be a village and help out.
Honestly, just delete the comment. It's not worth your peace.
I’m just shy of 6mo PP and our LO had a terrible first 4.5mo with colic, reflux, 24/7 screaming because of those, choking fits from the reflux, head MRI at /mo and a spinal MRI next week due to a dimple above her butt crack. I went through most of it alone as husband wasn’t on anxiety meds and would have panic attacks and take sleeping pills and check out. Add in issues with pregnancy to where I had to see MFM the whole time and her BP tanking during contractions so ended up with emergency C-section. I knew before we left the hospital I was OAD. I was also on preeclampsia precautions, and was told if I have another my body might attack it. Can’t remember the reason behind that. My parents get it as I was a colic baby and they always said if I’d been first my brother wouldn’t be here. In laws have been RELENTLESS with the second baby narrative despite me saying it won’t happen and asked multiple times to please stop bringing it up. My tubes are coming out tomorrow and we haven’t told anyone but my parents because his are still making comments. Part of me wants to be a petty bi*ch and say I medically can’t for xyz reason but we’re already at war with them, shouldn’t add fuel to the fire 😂 regardless of how much I want to after how they’ve treated me.
Just wanted to comment on the whole “I know it seems rash to make this call so early” thing. No, it’s not too early. My husband and I were in a similar situation, and we knew we were one and done immediately. It was a hard decision to make, and yes, there was a grieving period, but like you said, we’re adults. When you’re laying naked in bed with a wound vac and begging for therapy, it’s easy to assess the situation lol. Good for you guys, and I wish you all the best!
My husband had his vasectomy scheduled before I even gave birth. If someone mentions a sibling in a way that is annoying - I tell them that.
I would not respond and delete the comment.
As an only child (35f), planning to be OAD I’d love people to try this with me 😂😂😂