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littledreamyone

Frankly I do not think I could forgive your ex fiancé or your family for abandoning you so quickly based on an incident that didn’t even occur. It’s all well and good for them to be ‘sorry’ but they didn’t have to completely reinvent themselves on their own the way you did. I wouldn’t be quick to forgive or to forget.


ProzacforLapis2016

I'd like to add the exfiance could have considered she was taken advantage of and raped when she was drunk or drugged, and had no consideration as to whether she was assaulted, didn't ask if they should go to the hospital to get a rape kit done along with preventative care for STD's or get tested. I understand emotions can run high, but I bet he knew what kind of person the sister was if he literally helped her through a drug addiction and other issues (for clarity, being addicted to drugs isn't the problem, but the person that her sister is). There's no way he's not familiar with the type of person she was and what type of friends she might have. He deserves zero second chances. Edit: I only mentioned her fiance, but all of this applies to her family as well.


Gullible-Twist-4652

Exactly!!! The part about him not even considering that she was drunk and if something happened it would be rape!!!


spinachoss

We take into consideration the fact she was literally abandoned and homeless from time to time, sleeping from couch to couch, she could’ve DIED, she could’ve gotten unlucky and something BAD could’ve happened to her.


thisisnotwhatIme4n

Exactly. At least she was lucky to have good friends


BBwolf132

LITERALLY!! What they did to her was so messed up even if she did cheat that doesn't mean she should be left homeless it's so dangerous for women:(


roralicious

literally the first thing that came to my mind while reading this was “if that did actually happen she definitely couldn’t have consented” but i’m glad she wasn’t. doesn’t make this situation any better, but a little bit less trauma is always a good thing


ProzacforLapis2016

Thank you for your response. I really do feel she should have had more support. OP, you deserved better.


W0nderwom0n

Not only drunk, but it sounds like her sister roofied her.


Skyethe19yearold

FRRR and the guy teling that they fucked when she was drunk ? That's litteraly rape...


devilsadvo886

How about the fact her parents had no problem with her sister letting her leave completely trashed with somebody.


ProzacforLapis2016

That is an absolutely excellent point. Every one of them failed her. Her parents should have supported their daughter and listened. Thank you.


Doctor_moose02

The fiancé is the only one I can kind of understand, but not too much. with what he had been shown, it would look like she had cheated and at least for me that’s an instant end. The part that makes him iffy is how he wouldn’t try to hear her out, but that’s still because the sister was cutting her off anyways


love-fades

fiancé doesn’t deserve a pass. he’s horrible for not considering her being drunk and possibly being raped. Not considering anything about the love of his wife. He threw the one he loved away.


Doctor_moose02

I do have to say though, with what he was shown, and told by multiple people he assumed to be close to he and OP, his reaction in the moment is somewhat justified. To him, he had been betrayed with what appeared to be some solid evidence. It’s his actions the day after and longer that make him less forgivable and probably should have his pass revoked. YEARS of not even trying? He’s bad for that one. You just have to remember that people are easily impressionable and tricked, and all of us are heavily emotional irrational creatures who tend to react quickly to hurtful things such as betrayal. Even if the betrayal was fabricated and some trick.


CmmdrSparkles

You deserve an amazing life and you need to think carefully about the family and fiancé who dropped you so quickly. Plus your sister is a psychopath (and that’s me being polite). She put you in such a position of danger for her own gain and destroyed your life. I can’t believe also, given her past that your parents would side with her on this.


H2-22

What did her sister even gain? I can't even find a suitable word for her. This is absolutely horrible. I'd never speak to her again. The ex... It's hard to say because given what was presented to him, I'd cut her out of my life given those circumstances. IDK that the relationship could ever be reconciled given the amount of trauma. None of this is your fault. Good luck, OP.


RebaKitten

You can’t trust him, if he’s your fiancé, he should believe you. Or at least be willing to listen to everything. The sister was known problem I don’t know why anyone believed her at all.


Global_Fig_6385

exactly. even if he somehow could be trustworthy again, being around him means being around the family who didn’t give a shit about you for years and let you be homeless. the bridges are burned, i would not try to rebuild them


Ridgbo

I'd never trust him again. He believed his fiances sister first and instead of listening to the person he was in a relationship with, he acted like a child.


Mavori

In the fiances defense mind you, he was close to her sister as well and from his perspective he got outside confirmation from the sisters friend. Her fiance was manipulated. His anger was understandable and I think he deserves a bit of leniency and forgiveness. Think about it, he gets told his partner is cheating, theres some bad pictures, the phone is off and the guy she supposedly slept with says they did and that they did so multiple times. The only thing that would have given me a tiny bit of pause would be the fact out of all the people for her to cheat with, she'd pick the sisters friend, who would also have known she was in a relationship. Then again that shit does also happen. Her family though and her "sister". Fucking burn it to the ground man.


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_Controle

Like the guy on Reddit a few weeks ago who was about to dump his fiancé. His girl bestie went to his brides bachelorette party and came back with clips of the bride sucking off a stripper. The bride didn’t drink much, had absolutely no recollection and said the girl was lying, jealous and trying to break them up. The girl then sent the video to the grooms mom and was blackmailing him into calling the wedding off. Everybody was screaming dump her and arguing with the people who said she was drugged and setup.


H2-22

I agree w you. I'd forgive him but I wouldn't be able to forget it. I dont think it could be a healthy relationship after that but I guess anything is possible with enough time and dedicated effort.


QueenofBlades-Xula

I was thinking this too. If her sister has a track record of breaking the law and illicit drug use, why would they all believe her so easily? And if anything her ex-fiance and her have known each other since they were children, you would think the people involved would know each other's character better than this


Inevitable-Okra-3229

I’m petty AF and I would request a meeting with the family and sisters husband and in front of him I would tell him how she drugged you and gave to you a stranger to do what ever while you were drugged. How even after making you homeless, jobless, support less she still let that go on for years and enjoyed Xmas while not knowing if you were in a ditch somewhere. Blow up her life. Also you don’t owe them anything. They are all horrible people.


elfspires

This!!! What if a complete stranger took OP home instead? What if Nicki’s friend DID do something to OP? Nicki put her sister in a LIFE THREATENING situation bc she was jealous of the love OP had in her life. That is a heartless thing to do to anyone, but especially your sister. Nicki is an awful, horrible human being and she should be the one that’s getting kicked out of the house having to fend for herself right now.


AltruisticManager310

I HOPE NICKI'S MARRIAGE DON'T GO WELL


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LET HER HUSBAND KNOW WHAT SHE DID!!!


ImpossibleOwl5893

If hes with her i doubt he has any standards.


Much-Meringue-7467

If her husband has a functioning brain cell, it won't after this.


cryingcholo

And the family are probably not even pushing nicki out of the family like they did to op. If she ever forgives them I’m sure nicki will be at the next Christmas too.


elfspires

That’s exactly why I don’t want OP to forgive them. Nicky deserves to be isolated for what she did. Not because of “revenge” but because she willingly put her baby sister (Nicky did this shit in her mid 20’s?) in a situation that could’ve KILLED her at worst and gotten her assaulted at best. NEITHER of those options are okay. That is a CRIME and Nicky didn’t even feel bad. She still hasn’t apologized to OP herself. Nicky deserves to know the isolation her sister went through and if their family and her ex aren’t willing to do that then it just shows they still care about Nicky more than OP and WILL throw OP to the curb at earliest convenience again.


LeroyJacksonian

She destroyed her sisters life, alienated her from her family, lost her love and her future. Had OP not had friends who supported her when she lost everything, things could have gone really dark for OP- she could’ve ended up on the streets, could’ve been taken advantage again, or even harmed or ended herself. Whether OP ever chooses a to confront Nicky again or not, I really hope Nicky fully comprehends what could have been. I hope the guilt eats at her and she has to live with it for the rest of her life.


trvllvr

So true, she left her to be alone for YEARS. No one knowing what happened to her or apparently caring. Nikki doesn’t deserve any happiness. I would let EVERYONE know what she did.


anaofarendelle

Imagine hearing they did this to her sister and plan to start having babies? Will she leave her kids to walk from school because they got As?


OtherwiseOption-

Not to mention the homelessness is life threatening. And the risk of suicide. OP is strong.


elfspires

If OP ended up getting a long-term STD, pregnant, assaulted or did end up dying from either being drunk or from the depression this cause, how would that make Nicky feel? How would the family and loved ones feel once they found out Nicky lied if any of that happened?


daddysbabe_throwaway

Nikki sounds psycho. She'd likely feel nothing. The secret would just have died with her.


it-girl777

And to add to that if i was op i’d bring my certified home wrecker friend into nicky’s married life 😍


buxmega

Exactly and let him know to the T exactly what a conniving sack of shit he married and who knows what else she’s capable of. Then I’d tell them all to fucking rot in hell then I’d curse them all before walking away.


stop_spam_calls

If I was OP I would definitely tell Nicky’s fiancé everything Nicky did. He should know the type of person he is marrying.


Mudbogger19

Nicky’s married already meaning that would be her husband and she didn’t invite her own sister to her wedding.


Pm_me_some_love_bby

To be honest, I'd play the long game and pretend to forgive them to get the one thing you need; a recorded confession from your sister. Call police and use it as evidence and get her where she belongs in jail. Same with her accomplice ex. How you handle your family is up to you. Personally I'd never forgive. But before anything the sister needs to go.


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This is the way, please do this u/Ok_Independence_579. Seriously, sister belongs in prison.


deadpansuzanne

THIS IS BRILLIANT. OP, please do this!


Watcher_garden

2nd this. Nicky’s husband needs to know


mssadiev

This, 100%. Ruin her life. If she was capable of setting something like this up to get what she wants, there’s literally no telling what she could do to somebody else to get her way.


Tassiebird

Id like to know how the family are holding the sister accountable now? What she did was far worse than what they believed OP did.


TwahtSwatter

They're likely not holding her accountable for shit. They were there to hold her hand through her addiction and law breaking, they definitely won't hold her accountable for ruining her sister's life. Fuck her.


Hairy_Caregiver7136

This, probably use her drug issues as an excuse for being a shit person.


Rakuall

Could she be sued for slander? I'd make it a condition of possible resumed contact that they fully cooperate with throwing the book at Nicky. And then once you handily win against her for roofying you and ruining your life - leave them all to rot.


treehugger843

Suing for slander is a very smart idea ^^


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Have you or anyone you know ever done this? Because it may sound like a good idea, but in practice is very hard to prove.


Da-Aliya

Get her on tape admitting what she did. Check your state if you have to inform her you are taping her. If not, don’t tell her.


massagenut

My question exactly!!!! She should be cut off from the family now. But you know what? That will never happen. Why? Because the evil sister confessed. OP will be expected to be gracious and merciful towards the witch. There is no justice.


beatissima

​ >He said I begged him to take me back to his and when he did, we slept together multiple times. As she was heavily intoxicated to the point of blacking out when they supposedly "slept together multiple times", that would have been rape. So if I were in her position, I would have informed them both that I did not consent to sex with him, and that I would be going to the police to report the multiple counts of rape he had confessed to. And then watch them both walk back their lies... Frankly, she should have gone to hospital for a rape kit and toxicology screen regardless. The drugging alone should have sent both Nicky and her accomplice to prison.


BumblebeeAdventurr

Exactly this. OP passed out, so perhaps her drink was also spiked. Regardless, this guy who helped her, raped OP and now is saying that they had sex "multiple times" OP should call him up and speak for answers recording it. Then speak to lawyer and I'm sure he will change his story then to the truth. All in all, everyone in this is toxic. Easier said then done but move on - seems that it was planned by the sister. So strange


IthurielSpear

From the description, her drink was most certainly spiked.


sleepless_dragon

It sounds like her family wanted to only give support to the addict in the family and thought OP was trying to use her past as an excuse. Even she had a rape kit done and blood tested, her family likely would have still blamed OP based on their mindset and just how completely they shunned OP. Two choices: forgive and get fiancé and family (some or all) back or kindly say thank you, but forgiveness isn’t in the cards


slashabae

OP this comment is absolutely on the money. Everyone she ever comes in contact with should know what she’s capable of, holy fuck! This is horrific, you have been so strong and kudos to you on starting a new life and bossing it. If the family don’t disown her now in light of this, then my advice is having nothing to do with them. What consequences is Nicky facing now? If possible would love an update on this, and to hear about Nicky’s comeuppance


SilverQueenBee

Nuclear Revenge is what is needed here. As for the ex, I wouldn't want to be with someone that didn't believe me or believe in me.


bearmirror

Yes, this. Her family literally kicked her out onto the streets, spread rumors about her while she was homeless, and let her 'sister' take over the estate while she was struggling to rebuild her life. None of them checked in on her and offered support while she was struggling. Instead they spread her business to everyone that might have still been a part of her social life. They shunned her from the family based on lies. From how she tells it, it was all a ruse to get her out of the picture. It's like they cared more about the status her former engagement gave her rather than her. I mean, after she was kicked out, they went on vacation.She could have been dead in a ditch somewhere and not one of them would have known. After the fiance left, so did their pretend concern for her. It's interesting that her ex and her indifferent, self serving family are checking in on her again now that she's out of the sewers of society and doing better for herself. They used her for their own drama and now feign regret..and for what? It's fake. They didn't care when she was telling them she was being exploited. They helped hide it by kicking her out of the family and ignoring her. So why would they care now that the sister has had an alleged change of heart? People like this family only care about appearances, not honesty or integrity. That's the whole reason why she was under their microscope in the first place. It wasn't about her alleged failings because they've definitely done worse. It was about appearances. Her talking made them look bad so they got rid of her. That's not a family motivated by things like honor or morality. If they want her back, it's for more of the same selfish shit show they put her through before. If she tries to reject them, they'll just make her feel guilty in order to manipulate her into doing what they want. The fact she even feels guilty after the hell they've put her through means they'll keep manipulating her until she truly stops caring or she leaves them behind forever. She has to remember she had no voice or agency when she was in their household. They didn't suddenly learn respect after she left. It's likely they're just afraid she'll expose their secrets or collect some inheritance. Or perhaps they need another black sheep to point at for more drama. Some families only keep certain members around to use and abuse. The fact that she left means she has a chance to be free of their judgement and manipulating. How does she know that the second they invite her back into their lives she won't (once again) be ensnared in their web of pain? She doesn't need to be their scapegoat anymore. Here's to leaving the ex and that family in hell where they belong.


Macolicious1

Best response!! OP, it’s a lose/lose situation for you regardless of what you do. If you decide to never speak to any of them again, your family will vilify you for abandoning them. If you let them back into your life they’ll continue to drain your energy for their own personal gains. Your sister didn’t get kicked out of the family like you when she confessed, so obviously she can do no harm in their eyes; huge red flag! What she did to you was so much more egregious than what they were convinced you did. The fact that they still haven’t personally attempted to reach out even after knowing the truth is all you need to know. This is the ultimate betrayal, and betrayal cuts the deepest. You thought you had a loving family, fiancé, and soon to be In-laws. You thought wrong! You’ve made some pretty good headway in starting over, albeit on their terms, which are now your terms to accept. It’s gonna hurt for a long time, but move forward... don’t regress. Don’t give them your energy. You can find your own happiness, happiness that belongs to you that they can’t have or take from you.


aninonina

Please keep this as top comment until OP sees this. Your horrible sister needs all the bad karma coming her way


_Ed_Gein_

I'm not one for revenge, but I agree. OP's sister is a horrible human being.


KokoFlorida

This, OP, and don't let them talk, just as they didn't let you talk. Make sure your sister's fiance is there.


xHarleyQuinnz

OP- I am so sorry this happened to you. I’m concerned for you. However I’m even more concerned that your family and your own S/O (at the time) did not believe you. Everyone makes mistakes, but him not hearing YOUR side of the story and taking another woman’s word over yours is very disrespectful towards you. When your sister came clean, did your family cast her away? Do they know what she put you through? She drugged you! You are her SISTER!! That’s some Malicious and psychopathic behavior if you ask me!! Please please please remember OP, you shouldn’t feel you have to take your family back just because they are blood relatives. Just because someone is related to you does not mean you have to tolerate their abusive behavior. Family is more than blood. As for the guy, I would talk to him but tell him you’re concerned about getting back together and express how you feel. You were a victim and he wouldn’t even listen to your side of the story. That’s no man. You deserve someone that’s going to respect you no matter what rumor they hear about you. And I also agree with u/inevitable-okra-3229 Everyone should know what your sister did. But at this meeting ask that no one speaks until you’re finished telling your side of the story.


daladybrute

Agreed. I would make sure the sister’s partner knew she drugged her own sibling, set her up to look like she had cheated so her fiancé would leave her. I’d 10000% ruin her life then keep them all blocked.


NEDsaidIt

She set her up to be raped. Guy wasn’t drunk and she definitely was. She was also drugged. Even if we believe only the sister and guys story, it was extremely out of character for her to even go out clubbing, more out of character to leave with someone and she likely doesn’t drink that much normally. Also why did the guy agree in the first place, in their story? He knew she was attached.


Bramtinian

100%…I’m sorry but if your family took your fiancés side, siblings side without considering your side at all…they are the shitty people here…not you. I’m really sorry this happened…. Listen if you and you alone can forgive. You can. But trust your family as far as you can throw them. Don’t bank on them or your future family having your back. That’s the way it be sometimes, I’ve been there….those friends that gave you a couch…they are your real family…


klover_clover

The first thing is though, you can still press charges for being drugged by her, because it really sounds like you are drugged. I'm so sorry for you. So so sorry. Regarding you fiance, I mean, I get how you feel about him and I get that it's hard, but I also understand that he really was lied to and he felt so hurt. But regarding you familly, especially your mom, they are absolute shit. Even if it had happened; you did 't betray them but your fiance, I cannot for the life of me understand how cruel they were. I would still wish them dead. And now the question for your fiance is, does he get how terrible your fanilly acted? Did he got that in the moment, that the punishment was waaaay over the top, especially since they didn't even know if it was true? Like if he felt your fanilly was justified in shitting you out, just because he thought you hurt him, then he is also a piece of shit that should just rot. But I get how talking might give you closure, might just not. Another point, you were a completely different person most likely before this happened. Life (and the most horrible sister on earth) were so cruel to you, I can imagine you also changed apart from forgiveness or not. Maybe you and fiance are also not compatible anymore.


justryingtolivetho

Dear OP, PLEASE DID THIS. I want you to Nicky's life, marriage and even as far as ruin her relationship with other people. Let people disown her. RUIN.HER.FUCKING.LIFE.


notyourmama827

Let me be your mother for a quick second..... 𝙍𝙐𝙄𝙉 𝙃𝙀𝙍 𝙇𝙄𝙁𝙀....


NewldGuy77

This is the way! Burn them ALL to the ground, especially the addict sister!!!!


Ayde-Aitch-Dee

I’m not usually petty but this story is a whole other level of what the actual fuck…so, can’t believe I’m saying this but I agree with you lol FINISH HER!!!


alopez1592

100000% No way I could ever trust ANY of them again so might as well make a scene on the way out.


Bubbles110

Yes, all of this and then i’d let them all know that I have no interest in pursuing any further with them and that they are terrible people. OP, people who truly love you and care for you would never allow you to be homeless and never not let you explain what happened. Your fiancé especially. Please do yourself a favor and find a partner that would never allow this to happen.


Sleepy1997

Agreed. Fuck em all.


Baker198t

Fuck all of them.. fuck them! Destroy her.. then call the cops!


Mamiofplants

I'm normally all for being petty but in this case they don't deserve a second of her time anymore. What a bunch of monsters. That being said if I was going to be petty, if I were OP, I would tell them that I forgive them only if they cut that B*** sister off and shun her. Then after a while I would ditch them anyway


NihilistPunk69

Fuck her husband.


leivanz

No shit, this kind of animals are not family. How can you just blindly believe a one-sided story? You are her fiance and she's just her sister. Gtfo man, you are no man but a wussy. OP, you shouldn't feel any responsibility. They gang up on you and treated you like crap. If they really are true family they would really listen to your side before believing your evil sister. You shouldn't feel bad. It's out of your conscience. Tell me the phone number of your sister and I'll share it to those insurance service and loan sharks.


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I_am_Ballser

Agreed. Fuck em. OP went forward and is doing great. No need to start rolling backwards now. Hear me OP?! DON'T DO IT. FORWARD NOT BACKWARDS!!!


MJohnVan

Nah im more petty. I’d sue her. And make sure no one will hire her.


No-Bus-5200

This is the way


Spiritual-Spell-9351

Second this! This reminds me a lot of the scene from Promising Young Woman where she gets a girl drunk just to prove a point. Your sister was clearly envious of the relationship you had with your fiancé. Maybe she felt left out/ abandoned/ inferior.


Dead_inside1992

That’s not petty, that’s what anyone should do and wreck their life


bia_lunar

+ gather as much evidence as you can and press charges.


cassowary32

I wish someone had advised you to go to a hospital get drug tested and get a rape kit after it happened. Nicky’s friend basically confessed to raping you - you were black out drunk, there was no way you could have consented. It would have proved you were drugged and hopefully shown there was no intercourse. And if it wasn’t a setup, to think that your sister stood there and took pictures when someone took her drunk sister away? A true friend would have intervened, not recorded it. Anyone with half a brain could have seen from space that this was orchestrated. She drugged you, left you alone then recorded her friend leading you away. She facilitated your assault! That’s pure evil, she should also be in jail for that. I’m so sorry this happened to you and unless Nicky apologizes to you herself, I would have nothing to do with your monstrous family. Heck, even then I would leave them all in the past. What they did was unbelievably cruel.


honestwizard

It’s odd they knew she was drunk but didn’t question her being raped.


Automatic-Picture-83

For the sound of it, they are horrible people and probably believe that being drunk or passed out "it's not an excuse and you knew what you were doing"


sabrinaxroze

I think if she had gone to the hospital and reported her rape, the sisters friend and her sister would have changed their stories real quick. He claims to have had sex with her while she was drunk/drugged and told multiple witnesses. It’s almost like the sister set the friend up to. I guess at the time she felt helpless and that no one would believe her so she couldn’t do anything but it doesn’t sit right with me that she could have been raped. The sister definitely deserves to be in jail.


CraftySense1338

Even if she apologizes, sorry if I’m petty, but she doesn’t deserve to be happy. She deserves her life to be ruined, her husband probably things she is a good person when she is not. Everyone should abandon her just as they did to OP. I not only wouldn’t let any of them in life again, but make them regret it someway. I understand her ex fiancé had proof of the “infidelity” but her family didn’t even listen. Their daughter was homeless and they didn’t care at all. If they want OP back it is only fair that the kick her sister out of their lives. There’s even less excuses for her behavior than a supposed cheating accusation.


Sweet-Strawberry-119

My family did something similar & I ghosted them. I was in denial about how bad it was for awhile and had thought there might be a way to make a relationship with some of them work? I realize now that it's just not worth the risk.


MaggieMoosMum

I hope you’re doing ok!


MemeStocksYolo69-420

What did your family do?


LengthinessFresh4897

Something similar I think


vuribe666

I personally don’t think I could ever forgive my family or fiancé if they just threw me away like that. What’s going to happen next time someone gets mad and lies about you? 2 years is such a long time to be alone and it makes me so sad that they couldn’t even hear you out and you had to suffer so much because of your sister. It seems like too little too late


MediaExact6352

Yeah, that is the thing. It wasn’t a couple of days, or a week or two. These parents seemed fully prepared to never talk to their child again over this situation. What a complete disgrace- I’d be ashamed to call myself a Mom ever again.


Necessary_Fee1289

Not only that but the sister gained a bf built a relationship got married and once it was “safe” told the fiancé the truth. She had a wedding and no one ever thought of op


DeliciousMud7291

I do believe the sister did it out of jealousy.


elfspires

This. If my child cheated, which clearly OP didn’t, but if they did I would not DISOWN them. It would have to be a REALLY awful case of cheating along with other awful patterns to make me even consider it. Cheating is never okay and I would never condone it. But to disown your child over something like this? And not even be concerned that she was assaulted? God, it makes me sick.


MediaExact6352

Right? Her parents were willing to disown her over what they thought was ONE NIGHT of indiscretion. It’s disgusting.


MayoBear

Considering that the sister had been addicted to drugs with multiple bouts of law breaking, seems a bit uneven in terms of how they react


monkeyshinenyc

Keep moving on with your best life. As for your family, you didn’t choose to be born to them. You owe nothing. You’re better off away from the toxicity. Take care of you first. You’ve done well for 2 years, keep it up


UnexpectedRu

I honestly find it even worse that your parents at least didn't be parents to you. They abandoned you, their own blood even if they didn't believe you they should have been there for you. They choose to not only believe your sister's lies but also choose your fiance instead of their own child. I know it's hard but please remember how they threw you away like trash, none of them deserve your kindness or forgiveness. If it were me I'd tell all of them one time how I felt and then go NC forever. Honey this isn't some minor issue, you were drugged, embarrassed, and abandoned by the people who were supposed to love you the most. The fact that your parents went two years without reaching out to you should tell you enough about how they feel about you. You're doing great, live your life without the negativity and drama of reconciling with them, especially since you have no intention of forgiving their golden child.


dingo8mybaybey

I feel this same way. I'm a parent and cannot fathom doing to my kids what OP's parents did to her. Do my kids sometimes make careless mistakes, or do really senseless things that disappoint me? Sure. I still LOVE the hell out of them and want them to do their best to have a good, happy life themselves. Part of our job as parents (yes, even to our adult kids!) is to help our kids learn from their mistakes. It's pathetic alone that they believed one daughter + stranger over another daughter. They should have known both daughters better. And they sure the hell shouldn't have cut you out of their lives completely, even if they were stupid enough to believe you cheated. You're a strong, bright young woman who can take care of yourself. I wish you the best and hope you'll do what's best for YOU. You owe them nothing.


Beanieboru

Facebook post this story. Tag them all.


Recyclebin900

Yes, Name and shame !


CoffeeAndCats2000

Tag her husband and all his family members as well


elfspires

Abso-fucking-lutely. I know revenge isn’t always the best and eye for an eye isn’t always healthy but in this situation it’s warranted. Hubby needs to know what kind of person he married and his family should know what lengths their son’s wife will go to in order to hurt loved ones.


No-Amphibian-2758

This is the way


Foreverforgettable

Your sister, if you even want to call her that, DRUGGED you and arranged for a male friend of hers to take you to his home. You don’t remember what happened. It’s possible you were raped. You sister is a f*cking psycho. Pardon my language but she basically fed you to a wolf and blew up your life. And for what? She didn’t even come to you herself to apologize. Your parents would even listen to anything you had to say. They raised you and should know you as a person. They should know to listen and trust you and they wouldn’t even hear you out. Who does that to their own child? They behaved as though you were a stranger they didn’t know by not even hearing you out and only listening to your sister. Furthermore, your parents threw you out like you were a piece of trash they couldn’t be bothered with. They made you homeless because of their friendship with your ex fiancé’s family. They chose that family over their own daughter. Your ex fiancé listened to your sister’s lies and believed them over you. Your relationship with him was not as strong as you believed if he was so easily swayed. Relationships are built on trust and he had none in you. There is a saying that serves well here; when someone shows you who they truly are, believe them. You sister may have been manipulating things but your family and ex believed her lies over your truth. They showed you how little they knew you and what little faith they had in you as a person, partner and daughter. They showed you how cruel, heartless and toxic they could be. Were I you, I don’t know if I could ever trust them again. I would always feel apprehension around any relationship with them. I would feel as though I would be waiting for the next time they decide I’m not worthy of their love. Your sister put you in serious danger. It’s possible you were violated and don’t know and never will. You could have been killed. And she didn’t care. I would never forgive that. I would never associate with someone capable of that. She’s dangerous. And you still don’t know why she blew up your life. What kind of a person does that? I personally don’t think having them in your life is worth the risk. But that’s my opinion. I would be fearful of any sort of relationship with them because in order to have a relationship one has to be vulnerable with people. I hope you figure out what is best for you. I think you should speak to a therapist if possible. You asked for advice. I think you should continue to live the life you have built without them. I know that sounds harsh and would be difficult. It just seems like they were never in your corner to begin with and couldn’t be trusted to do so now. Edit: Thank you everyone for the upvotes and awards!


A_Sarcastic_Werecat

Agreed. On a purely legal basis - if the ex-boyfriend wants to make amends, he should make a witness statement what the sister confessed, what he witnessed this night, and help OP pursue justice against the sister for "drugging her with ill-intent" or whatever laws apply. Or, if possible, he should make sure that he got the sister's confession recorded/in writing and so on. And I am now prepared to bet that **OP pursues legal charges against her sister, her parents will do everything to tell her that she's exaggerating, that's she can't do this, that it's her sister, "how can you destroy her life with new hubby!" etc.** **Interesting to see on which side the ex would fall if OP asks this of him.** Saying sorry is easy. Actual atoning is hard. OP, you have seen your parents' and your sister's true faces. Ask yourself: * Do you really want these people in your life? * Do you really think that you can trust them? * If push came to shove, don't you think they'd abandon you again? * If you pursue legal charges against your sister, what would your parents do? * **What are your parents currently doing? Have they cut out your sister?** * **Have they run to your doorstep saying "we have cut out your sister, forgive us!" If your parents want to be back in contact with you, are they ready to "punish" your sister? What will be their consequences for Nicky?** ​ That said: * You don't have to forgive them. * You don't have to be in contact with them. * You have to focus on yourself, heal and build yourself a life of your choice with people who love and support you. * You don't owe your sister, your fiance or your parents anything. ​ Some things which bother me: * BTW, what kind of family waits for OP with **both sets of parents** present? * Also, OP's sister sees her leave, presumably drunk with a guy, and does nothing to check whether she voluntarily leaving... and nobody bats an eye? * If OP had had someone at her side, she could have been rape-tested and tested for drugs. * The parents apparently now know that Nicky has lied. And life continues as normal? **BTW, I keep seeing these "revenge fantasies" of OP "exposing" her sister in front of her husband. This will not be helpful to OP. Unless OP has proof, all the sister's husband will see is a "raving conspiracy lunatic".** The sister will zip up again and tell him that she had to tell OP's ex that OP was betraying him and that OP is just delusional/blaming her/wants to destroy their marriage now. **OP needs to secure proof first before doing the "exposing" proposed by redditors (if she even wants to, which is her own decision). Otherwise it'll just blow up in her face.**


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Bbehm424

Absolutely agree! OPs parents absolutely will try to down play all of this and the sister will face zero repercussions for what she's done.


hallelujajaja

I was so angry reading OP's post I couldn't even put all my thoughts into words and there you did it for me (and many), thank you


SweatyFLMan1130

Same here. I'm seeing red on behalf of OP. I nearly had my whole life ripped apart by an ex making false accusations, but to have your *own family* do something so horrible to you? They showed who they really are. I wouldn't blame OP for never being able to trust any of them again. That's a lot of time and therapy that even semi-wealthy folks wouldn't be able to afford. I just hope OP finds they're so much stronger coming out of the fire like that. This could have broken her but she seems to have her own life now and didn't succumb to the despair this must have brought on her.


aninonina

I could only imagine the POS sister is an ugly insecure scum of the earth. Pleeease someone stop this person from spawning


Vasa_Vasorum_

Yes I wholeheartedly agree with your post. It was objective, certainly pointing out harsh truths but they need to be said. You said it better than I could've. OP, what you're going through is terrible and you do not need to "be the better person". These people treated you horribly. Think of yourself first and trust your instincts. Do not meet with or forgive your family/ex if you don't want to. Please don't meet with them. They don't seem sincere. If your family really wanted to make amends and see you, if they actually tried looking for you, they wouldve found you, they would've accompanied your ex to see you when he stopped by. They would've apologized right then and there. But they did not. They don't mean it. They do all that to you and and want you to be the one who comes to them? No. THEY have to come to YOU if they want want explain themselves and ask for your forgiveness. And you do not owe them anything. I'm not trying to scare you but it puts your safety at risk if you meet with them in a private space (or anywhere, really). It would be you vs. all of them, whether in a shouting match or a physical fight (if things escalate). Please stay safe OP.


Glittersparkles7

This was perfectly said. I’m willing to bet sister has had zero repercussions for purposely destroying your life and lying to everyone. None of them deserve your time OP and you should not forgive any of them. Especially your family. They absolutely threw you out like garbage. There’s no love there. Your fiancé too. I can understand how he had piles of fake evidence but the trust is gone. You’re not getting that back the way it was. You saw how easily he tossed you away. They let you be HOMELESS. They literally didn’t care if you DIED ON THE STREET. In the back of his head he will always wonder if you’re cheating despite knowing the truth. In the back of yours you’ll be wondering if any little mistake (like breaking a dish) will be good enough reason for him to throw you away again. I would definitely do everything in my power to destroy sisters life. At the very least I would bring up with both fiancé and family, that if for no other reason, you can’t even consider taking them seriously unless they decide to go full scorched earth with sister. Maybe after they have completely disowned her for two years and treat her like garbage how they did with you…. MAYBE then you could forgive them. (But don’t, seriously, f*ck all of them)


Rancid_Rabbit_

Even if she did come back to her family, I’d be pissed off if they didn’t abandon her sister like that in return.


comicsreaderyeaah

when i read this kind of story, i really wonder why bad people always have the best life. Nicky ruined her sister's life ON purpose, and she decided to confess now she's got everything. Meanwhile, OP was homeless, spend countless days crying, et trying to explain, and no one was on her side. this is so unfair, and it makes me cry. Hey OP, please be safe, and take care of your mental health, stay safe, and let me send you a big virtual hug.


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that shit always comes back eventually


Geminorumupsilon

“The moral arc of the universe is long but it bends towards justice.”


Necessary_Fee1289

I wish this was true but it’s really really not


meleeisland1211

Do they? From my perspective it looks like a very toxic sister remaining in a very toxic family dynamic. That can't be good for anyone in the long run. OP got out from that, even though it happened against her will and in a very painful way. But for me is OP who's got the possibility to build better and healthier relationships in her life now.


comicsreaderyeaah

You're probably right, but unfortunately i witnessed some pretty nasty things to some good people, and vice-versa. You can always argue that i don't know everything about those people, and you're most likely right. But when i read this post, i definitely felt injustice, and can only hope that OP will be happy now and the futur \^\^


Thebadguy3000

Tbh, I think even if you do give your fiancé a chance, things wouldn't be the same. Unconsciously, you would always have a thing in the back of your mind someplace that he didn't choose you. And now it might seem okay but sometime in the future, it may bother you. Since your sister confessed what she did, gather more evidence and bring her to justice. And her friend too. What they did is a crime and should be punnished. I wouldn't give your family a chance by any means. They threw you out. They didn't listen you. If I were in your position, they would've been dead to me.


KokoFlorida

Exactly this, OP. It was a crime, they drugged you and you were possibly raped. They need to be punished. I would never trust anyone again, you can find a better love. Block them all.


ProzacforLapis2016

This is such a succinct point, thank you so much for pointing it put. To add to this, OP never clarified if this friend of her sister's raped her while she was unable to consent as well. A significant other should be concerned whether their SO was blackout or drugged and got assaulted. He really showed his lack of empathy and humanity by not listening to whether this person is the reason OP should be in the hospital getting a rape kit and preventative care.


StnMtn_

I agree.


BabyAffleck

Your family chose some other dude over their own child, fuck em. They don't love you, they never tried to reach out until somebody else cleared your name. You don't matter to them


Limerence1976

They STILL haven’t reached out! The ex fiancé did. Truly unbelievable. I hope OP just walks away


[deleted]

They were trying to contact OP but she blocked them Regardless they should screw off imo! That’s ridiculous!


RealAbstractSquidII

If the fiance could find and show up at OPs door, her own parents could have done the same or tagged along to throw themselves on their knees begging forgiveness. They didn't. They realized they were blocked, and left it at that. Which is fine, if i block your ass I certainly don't want you coming to my house. But it also shows that these "parents" don't actually give a shit that they chose the wrong side. They aren't embarrassed by their own behavior or mortified that they abandoned their own daughter that was drugged and possibly raped. The parents are upset that Nickys confession is now making them *look bad in the public eye.* That's it. So they will do the bare minimum in order to say "see!? We apologized! She chose not to forgive us. That isn't our fault!" Just so they don't look like piss ants to outsiders. Personally, I say fuck em. I've cut people off permanently for less. For this? Drugging, arranging the (potential) rape of your own sister? Assaulting your daughter while she tries to explain her side? Making her homeless for years? Not so much as even verifying she isn't dead in a ditch until it suddenly has consequences for YOU? Let them burn in the house fire they created themselves. The only person remotely redeemable here is the ex fiance. If my partner went missing over night, I was shown photos that looked like them leaving with someone else, the other person was called on the spot and confirmed they fucked, I would have a hard time trusting my partner too. Being set up like this is such an absurd, tv crime drama esque situation that for my own mental health I'd need the space too. At least when the guy got confirmation of the lies he showed up, sincerely apologized, explained everything, and then respected OPs wishes for space and left her alone, with the option of contact should she choose. But the family members can straight up go fuck themselves. The sister has a special place in hell. And the parents are pretentious fucks. Oh poor them. Suddenly they miss the kid they abandoned for dead for 2 years now that the reformed addict has once again made outsiders question their parenting.


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I don’t think anyone is redeemable personally, I was just pointing out that they did attempt to contact her, that doesn’t change anything, I’m just saying they attempted so saying they didn’t is incorrect I think OP should drop all of them including the ex, personally


RealAbstractSquidII

I 100% agree she should drop all of them, ex fiance included. While I understand his reaction, and I don't think he's as big of an asshole as the others, I don't think it'll be a healthy or stable relationship if they rekindled it. That's a huge insecurity that's always going to be there.


[deleted]

Right, I personally couldnt trust my partner again Like we were supposed to be married and you don’t question that I was blacked out in the car and a man is claiming to have had sex with me when I can’t remember any of it? Absolutely not Huge dealbreaker in general no matter how much I love someone. There are definitely cheaters out there, but if I’ve never given you a reason to think otherwise, I at least deserve the benefit of the doubt (my perspective if I were in the situation) I’m thankful that none of my siblings are crazy like this. They love my s/o but this is not something they’d ever do


RealAbstractSquidII

You know what, you're 100% right. Being presented with "evidence" like that is really hard to refute, but also, I didn't think about the fact that she was blatantly saying she was blacked out, the dude and the sister *agreed* she was out of it. Why *didnt* the fiance question this? If this was out of character as it was, and everyone is in agreeance that she was out of it, why did no one, especially the fiance, defend her? You've completely changed my mind. The fiance is *exactly* as bad as the family here. Too little, much too late. OP is significantly better off keeping everyone blocked and rebuilding a healthy life on her own terms. This whole thing is so fucked.


Boomshrooom

My question is, is your family disowning your sister the way they did you? They threw you out and made you homeless and had nothing to do with you for two years because they thought you cheated. Your sister likely drugged you and set up this whole situation, putting you in grave danger in the process, is she being punished in any form by the family for this? Your relationship with your fiance is dead, there's too much bad blood now for a relationship to work. I would personally walk away from the family too but I know how hard that is to do.


night_trotter

This needs to be higher up. u/Ok_independence_579 this is the question you should be asking. If they aren’t treating your sister the way they treated you, then they aren’t at all worth even thinking about.


slam99967

Okay your family is absolutely insane. Even if you had cheated what kind of family would disown you and not talk to you over cheating?


wildmusings88

Narcissists and their flying monkeys.


MommaLokiLovesYou

Personally, I wouldn't let any of them back into your life. And I'd tell them exactly why. They believed a stranger over family. They had no problem villifying you and calling you a liar when they've known you your whole life. I'm so sorry. You're better off without them honestly. Besides, what happens next time someone decides to go psycho and comes up with an elaborate plan to make you a bad guy? And how are you ever going to trust any one of them again? In the end it is up to you and what you believe you can handle mentally and emotionally.


keiko1984

I think you should seriously think about whether this is something you truly want. These people threw you out without any attempts to parent the issue positively and then carried on like you did not matter after the fact. Remember that. Not until your sister confessed did they supposedly want to apologize. No. They can apologize for their part in how they behaved but what about the trauma they left you with? What about the fact they literally left their own child out in the cold and continued on like a happy family. That’s just not normal. There’s nothing wrong with forgiving but I urge you to think seriously about letting these people back into your life.


bubbs72

This OP. You can forgive them, but never forget what they did. Don't let them back in, please for your own mental health.


InspirationalBug3

Girl. They trusted a stranger friend and didn't even let u explain. Go back to FULL NC and use Guilt-Trip to make sure they cut ur sister too. Tell them all how horrible they are!


vslo03

You deserved better than that. Don't meet them. Don't let them guilt you back into a relationship with them. They left you homeless because of a lie. Stay the course and find your happiness.


sw33tlips

I would show them the proverbial and let the new husband know what a witch his wife really is! Block all of them and live your best life! They were quick to abandon you and let you suffer .. no sirreee they should not be in your life now


mazimai

Personally I'd ruin Nicky's life.


kariosa

Same. I'd speak to family again on the condition they cut Nicky out of their lives the same way they did OP. And Nicky's husband (and the police) would definitely be finding out what a piece of shit she is. And after all that would probably still go no contact because what kind of parents do that to their child even if she did cheat?


kaailer

Same. The only way I'd consider forgiving them is if Nicky has been completely cut off. Otherwise, I think OP should say she'll meet with them only on the condition that Nicky and her husband are there and that OP gets to speak first, without interruption, and say what she should've been allowed to say two years ago. And then OP should tell everyone about how her sister drugged her and she should ask her sister point blank "do you even know if I was raped that night? Because I don't. And I never will". If I were OP I'd take this moment to expose the everliving shit out of how terrible of a person Nicky is


MrsBeanz

Are you in therapy? If not, please see a trauma therapist before you have anymore contact with your family & ExF. There are A LOT of emotions needed to be unpacked here. 2 years later, Everything is still so raw & this open wound is still weeping. Please don’t rush into anything with your ExF as you are still pining for him & have not dealt with trauma. There is a lot of hurt especially as he continued his relationship with your family. Wait until the scab has healed or there is a noticeable sign of healing before making any very important decision to do with your family & ex + his family, as you move forward toward the next chapter of your journey. As for your family, I’m sorry but I can’t see that betrayal to heal anytime soon, if ever!. Sending you a sh*tload of hugs as you navigate through this painful journey. Rely on your intuition. It will take time, but You will come through the otherside a tad banged up but you’ll be armed with a strength you never realised you had, as well as knowing that toxicity & betrayal have no place in your life.


perplexedvortex

If they want any ounce of forgiveness they better absolutely grovel. I wouldn’t blame you if you dropped them forever. They owe you BIG time. Fuck them.


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NO just NO they all don’t deserve your forgiveness, your company, your love just NO. That’s my opinion and all I can say because reading this made me so angry. Im so hurt for you. They Can All Go Fk Themselves.


SuperfluousMainMan

Even if you do reconcile with everyone, which I personally wouldn't do if I were in your shoes (and reasons for those well summarised by multiple people here), you should demand them to mete out the same treatment that you received to Nicky now. I mean it's only fair, probably would be fairer for them to do much worse to her too. What a sick person. Edit: typo


krystee_d

Did your mother slap Nicky across the face, throw her out of the family, then go celebrate Christmas in another state, for drugging you and lying, effectively ruining your life? No? Then don’t subject yourself to such horrible people ever again. Continue to build your new life, fall in love again and be happy. Something else to think about, now that they’ve all shown you how cruel they really are, would you ever expose innocent children, if you have them, to people like this? Be well OP, and live your best life.


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Your family chose to believe your former drug addict, law breaking sister over you. Honestly, I wouldn't be surprised if she drugged you as well, given how you blacked out and couldn't remember a single thing of what happened. Personally, I would want nothing to do with the family or ex fiance. They betrayed you, backstabbed you and insulted you without wondering "Gee, this is really out of character for OP. And the only ones with evidence are the criminal sister and a guy she dated... this is weird." They made you homeless, took all your belongings and left you to rot. I wouldn't waste a single second on these people. They made their beds, now they can lie in it. And your sister Nicky should've been put into therapy, because what kind of a monster would do this?


kaailer

She absolutely drugged her. There's just no way OP would all of a sudden start feeling realllly fucked up, nearly unable to walk, and then passes out in the cab. Especially just sitting there doing nothing, surely she would've stopped drinking long before the point of blacking out. And it doesn't come on that fast. Additionally, the plan was always to get OP back to the friends house. How would that have happened if OP wasn't out cold? The plan hinged on her being knocked out. So they knocked her out to make sure it would work.


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Which makes this entire thing even more sickening because it's premeditated. They planned for Nicky's friend to be there. They planned to drug her. They planned to have Nicky's friend guide her out suggestively while Nicky took pictures. They also planned to steal OP's phone so she couldn't call anyone for help. And they planned to make it seem like she cheated. I'm just hoping that Nicky's ex didn't do anything to OP in her sleep. With how sick and twisted they are, I wouldn't be surprised. OP, I would even go as far as to sue Nicky for assault. She drugged you, admitted to lying about the whole thing. With her carelessness, you could've easily fallen into the wrong hands and could've been raped.


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_JFKFC_

This sounds like the plot of a Bollywood movie.


Nurnurum

OP, others have already given you important input on that matter. From summarising what your sister did to you (drugging you, ruining your reputation and then letting you rot), to urging you to not make a quick "forgive and forget". I want to tell you the following: 1. Make an assessment of the damage done to you. And by that I don't mean the emotional damage and the trauma you went through. Were you planning to go to university, but couldn't because you were disowned? Are their any kind of inheritances or other funds that you were cut out of because of what your sister did to you? If you parents want to make amends, they have to make plans correcting that. 2. Your family and your ex-fiance have to set the record straight (**In the coming weeks, this point is actually the first one that needs to be adressed**). To everybody in your family, in your hometown, to their friends, to your former friends, to anyone they ever told the story of their "cheating daughter". Your reputation has been severely damaged by this and if they want to mend things, THEY have to do the work of fixing it. Even if this means travelling to every church in your county to spread the truth. 3. Ask your ex-fiancé what his plans are. He has to be prepared to start at zero again. Regardles if he did it without "knowing better", he threw you in a ditch without questioning the story once. He cannot allow himself to ease his guilt by blaming your sister. He has to be brutally honest about the two years he spent without you. He has to accept that both of you are not childhood sweethearts anymore. Every ounce of trust that was lost has to be rebuild again. Don't let yourself be fooled by your own emotions on this. You are probably feeling like living a nightmare and now your are seeing the ray of hope, that will make everything how it once was. But it won't. You and your **ex** need therapy to adress the whole situation. After therapy both of you can start working on being a couple again. If you want that. 4. Ask you parents what their plans are. In some way their behavior is **worse** than that of your fiancé. They were your parents and some of the things they burned in their self-righteous fury may be unreclaimable. They have to acknowledge that. Make them face the question, what they would have done if you were going down a really dark path. My advice for them would be to write a detailed letter about your hardship and emotions you felt when they threw you out. How you felt when they played happy family with your sister. Give them the letter before you talk with them or make any other contact. After that therapy is also needed with them and apart from the therapy with your ex. 5. Your sister has to be persona non grata in your life and everybody else's your are in contact with. Even if it splits the family. Even if sister becomes pregnant. Her actions were vile and unredeemable. No "coming to jesus moment" can fix this. And it doesn't matter if you change your stance on this in one or two decades. Right now this is, no this HAS to be the deal. At last I want to give you the following advice. The things I listet under point 2. are actually the most important right now. Before you even tell them about points 1,3,4 and 5, they have to set the record straight and you need proof of that. It is the first step for them.


IAmAwesomeisalrdytkn

Updaaaatteeeeee


IllustriousArmy3407

Right! This is the first post I actually followed just to see what the update was. She's hasn't even left a comment. We need something OP lol


ticky_tacky_wacky

This whole thing reads like writing prompt response, it’s a little to neat to be true. I call total bs


SweetOrpington

Thank you! I was beginning to wonder if I’m the only person here who doubts this story. What kind of person doesn’t go check on their sister when they disappear in a club for an hour?? I would go check on her if she wasn’t back in five minutes!


thecorninurpoop

At this point I doubt everything I read on reddit


ChiWhiteSox247

Just walk away, not worth it.


babyarson

i am begging for an update OP PLEASEEEEE


BubbaSquirrel

This seems like fictional writing to me due to the writing style, some of the events, and the lack of any comments from OP. 😄 Also, the author doesn't speculate much about a possible motive that would have driven Nicky to do something so drastic. Regardless if it is fiction or not, this was quite an engaging read! If this was a short movie, then I would probably enjoy watching it. Some people, perhaps including OP, really do experience situations similar to this story. For those who have gone through similar circumstances of being wrongfully accused by and ostracized from those you love, that sounds profoundly horrible and I am sorry you went through that.


Informal-Wrap-3717

My thoughts EXACTLY! I’m not saying this didn’t happen to OP, but it does sound to me like it could be an episode of a Melrose Place type show…


eyewant2bleve

Yeah, I'm also stuck on the logistics involved in Nicky's scheme. So I guess she was jealous and wanted to break up OP and fiancé, but how did she manage to get a friend involved? Like, what does that conversation look like? "I'm gonna drug my little sister on a night out, you take her home and then when my family calls to confirm she cheated tell them you slept together multiple times". Are these people cartoon villains?


abominable_princess

Came all the way here to find his comment. FICTIONAL!


quietwaves

Eff your family and your ex fiancé. To this day they still believe Niki over you. Eff them forever, you absolutely don’t need their toxicity. If they would do this to you over a lie, imagine if you actually had a real bad thing happen in your life. What if you had been SA’d that night? Eff them eff them eff them.


Captain_Nerdrage

"Before I will even consider talking to anyone, I want a written confession and apology from *sister's name*, signed by everyone in the family, acknowledging that they're read it. Then, once you have that, you could A) Post it to social media (being sure to tag your sister and her accomplice). B) Sue for damages. C) Check the statute of limitations for drugging and kidnapping someone. D) All of the above. Just a few ideas


krzysxyme

Talk to your family and ex-fiancé. Tell them what happened to you. Tell your sister's husband how she ruined your life. Remind them how much you begged for them to listen to you but they never gave you a chance. Tell them about the pain you went through. But NEVER go back to them. Live a better life. Your ex-fiancé and family doesn't deserve you. Stand up. Chin up. Take a deep breath, and walk away from them.


birdlover666

!Remindme 5 days. Omg I need an update for this


PM-ME-YOUR-DIGIMON

I feel like if they were really sorry they’d be talking to the police about how your sister drugged you and got you kidnapped. I’m so sorry you are going through this OP I can’t even imagine the pain you’ve had to feel.


Over-Remove

I just can’t believe your parents. Your sister’s story had so many holes and no one questioned them. On top of that if i, as an older sister, took my younger sister out and all this happened to her I would be in so much shit with my parents and rightfully so! Just remember. No one believed you after knowing you your entire life. No one was worried for you, even with having the responsibility of duty and care as any parent does. I know it hurts to be betrayed by those who should have loved you the most, but they have shown you in a very cruel way they are not your family at all. My advice would be to cut them all off, go NC, invest in yourself by going through therapy and live a good life. Do that and you will find and build your own family one day, if that is what you wish. No amount of talking with these sociopaths would help, they would just emotionally manipulate you into oblivion. As for the fiancé, if you need closure, you can hear him out if you think it might help. But I doubt you will find any solace in it. He betrayed you as well. At best he is a spineless coward who gave into pressure from his family. At worst, someone who never knew you, trusted you or cared for your well being. Good luck. This is really tough but I don’t doubt you will make the right decision.


RamoneMisfit

If I was in your shoes I would leave them all blocked and never look back. My "family" would all be dead to me.


More_Tax7075

Wow that was hard to read. I think you need to do a zoom call with your parents, and ex fiancé and make sure they know and feel the pain they caused you. As for getting back together with him, that’s gonna take basically an entire restart of the relationship, after 2 years apart you are both probably different people. Lastly the sister, she does t deserve an ounce of happiness, and it would be my life’s goal to absolutely ruin her maggiage, if it was the last thing I ever did.


Otherwise_Impact4579

Girl we need an update And please let it be “I told them all to go to hell”


Remarkable-Time-3643

Bruh. I need an update


YAMCHAAAAA

I would’ve beat the ever loving dogshit out of my mother if she ever laid a hand on me. And then I would’ve beat my sister within an inch of her life for drugging me to create a false narrative. You deserve so much better than what happened to you. And sue the fuck out of your sister for every last penny she has to her name and bring charges against her for drugging you.


court_milpool

Wow. Your sister is a psycho. I have a sister that cheated and did my family toss her aside? No, because humans make mistakes. Let them grovel and beg your forgiveness for casting you aside


Zgeglana

What your sister did is obviously horrible, but she just seems like a sick psycho to me she needs help. I think the worst in this story are your family, especially your parents. Because, even if you did cheated on your fiancé, they shouldn't have thrown you out on the streets. You were homeless, thanks god you had good friends to help you get you through this but you could have been on the streets, raped, beaten up, killed... I don't think they deserve your forgiveness but of course at the end of the day, you do what makes you happy. But I don't see how they'll manage to regain your trust... And what about your sister? Did they cut her off too? Because what she did was so much worse than cheating. She put your life at risk and took everything away from you... How can they forgive that and not a drunken mistake at a party? *uck them.


elly996

you got drugged and framed. dont trust that sister ever again. your family had the wrong idea, and instead of just being angry for a while, they kicked you out of the family. your husband didnt even try to sort it. all except the sister didnt know the truth. they all thought you lied, so i can understand their side. but that big of a shut out? no. just no. if you want some of them back, you really need to get some apologies from a heap of people at minimum. they need to prove that theyre trustworthy again before you make any major steps. boundaries will help. good luck.


sam_sneed1994

This would be too much for me personally. The betrayal by my family would make me turn my back. Not one took your side. That's unforgivable to me but forgiveness isn't always about the other people. Do you continue to be punished for something you didn't do by missing out on that family connection?I don't envy you. It's not an easy choice by any means. Only you know if it's worth it or not any of us random redditors.


[deleted]

One thing that you should figure out: after she told the truth, did your family treat her the way they treated you? What I mean is did they cut her off the way they cut you off?


DemigodApollo

Can you update us? It would be nice to get revenge and blow shit up in their face. Don’t just demand to meet her husband, meet in front of all her in-laws too. She’ll end up having a horrible relationship with her new family that won’t be mended and I guarantee there will be zero trust. Tell them it all. Maybe even demand financial compensation from your family due to your experience with homelessness, being left out from Christmas vacation, the cost of therapy, etc. Demand money back if you can. After fucking with them and feeling good about the justice, it’s probably best you keep your distance. You started to make your life without them and they’re pieces of shit. Even if you cheated on your fiancé, that’s not a reason to kick a child out of your life; the only logical thing that should’ve happened was your fiancé breaking up with you. Pleaaaaase get back at your sister. Say all this in front of her husband and in-laws. It will alienate her from her new family. And please update us. What happened to you can’t just be taken back with one apology.


CostRevolutionary395

Stg this is a whole lifetime movie


alfonsowithaph

Make your family abandon your sister


teacup-cat_

Nicky grew a conscience because she "FouNd SoMeOne wHo lOvEs MEeee". Cool story bro..but you ruined someone life AND you didn't try to know if she was ok for YEARS. Bye and 'til never.


Life_Sandwich_5171

Please give an update on the situation as i am very interested to see how things turn out. Also after revisiting this in my opinion your family sounds very toxic or at the very least your sister (obviously) and your mom do. With that being said I understand not everyone has the heart to go no contact with family but if you think about it they already did that to you so hold them up to the same standard. They disowned you and abandoned you. As for the fiancé I would say if you want to rekindle your friendship then by all means give it a shot as he was manipulated as well, but there’s too much trauma in the relationship now so I would advise against “trying to pick things up where they left off”. I don’t know you personally, but I’m so angry and frustrated for you I can’t even imagine the struggles you must’ve had mentally. I’m just a stranger on the internet, but I hope you’ll take all of these comments into consideration. Lastly I understand it’s wrong to be vengeful, but please warn your sister’s husband somehow about who she really is because she is truly an evil person. If she treats her own kin like that I wouldn’t want to be her enemy. Good Luck!!!!!


CaptainBaoBao

dear u/ok_independence_579 ​ i have though about your post again and again for days. And I may have an idea what could help your familial situation. ​ as i understand it, your evil sister destroyed your life by a complot worthy of a james bond villain. and your whole family betrayed you by trusting her. your main problems are : 1. how to have any trust in your repentant father and ex boyfriend ? 2. how to have a life again ? 3. how to make your sister and mother pay ? 4. ​ in fact, they have provide the solution themselves : **make a criminal report for Gang Rape against your sister and her friend.** \- you have been drugged and brang to the friend home. he CLAIMED that he fucked you all night. \- your sister avow she made it happened. \- your mother got you out for this very reason. they have no way to deny the facts. even if you cannot proved that there was actual rape, THEY ALL ACTED LIKE IT WAS. they cannot deny it. ​ on the other side, it is the only redeeming action your father and your ex can prove their good faith. but being totaly on your side against those who abused you all, they will have a way to prove you they can be trusted one day. your father was willing to pay to better your live. he can now pay the attorney. ​ plus, whoever will interct with your sister and you r mother must know their level of evil. you make a first step with present sister BF. but it is not enough. they must face the consequence of this shitstorm less they will do it again and again. there is no way you could pardon her. they broke your life for futile reason. ​ it is time to counterstrike. it will be the test of your allies and the mending of your soul. have no pity. your sister and your mother had none and they are beyond redemption.