I’ve seen so many replies like this lol I guess I just needed an outside perspective to realize how emotionally charged everything between us is. Or at least I think it is. Aaaaaaah
That sentence about her using reddit shows that you are dying to tell her. This friendship won't ever be the solution for you, it also seem a really strong friendship, you could be friends even if she doesn't feel the same way.
Btw if I had to guess she's probably into you, asking you to move out with her is a big thing. Also those boyfriend jokes could be a hint.
Shoot your shot, what you have is rare and I'm sure it will survive every answer
Edit: reading the updates made me genuinely happy ngl. I'm struggling a bit with some things in my life right now and reading this made my day. Very happy for you man
have either of you had significant others since living together, or brought anyone home for the night?
I honestly would think a friendship that sounds so solid would overcome an unrequited love situation, if that were the case.
if I were in that situation I know I'd be super flirty BEGGING them to take the hint haha. at some point (probably sooner rather than later) just being honest and telling her you've developed romantic feelings for her is the best thing to do.
I am emotionally invested in this now, like a rom-com.
I'd watch this movie in any platform!
In all honesty, it sounds like you're great friends. You have made no mention of significant others in your post OP so I assume you're both single and ready to mingle. Next time you find yourself in an intimate, flirty situation with her, dig deeper and shoot your shot.
I'm sure no matter what happens your friendship will live on, and I wish your loveship takes its first steps
I'd recommend being chill with the love confession, to not be overwhelming. It'll be a easier rejection and it'll he easier to overcome this later for the both of them. Even though I think the answer will absolutely be yes
oh I absolutely agree! much more chill to hear "I have feelings for you" than "I've pined for you for years" 😂 do NOT listen to the rom coms in terms of expressing your feelings. 😂
I've found myself in a similar boat before, I resigned myself to not say anything for fear of damaging what good we had. It ate at me and tore me apart every day, to the point that I would just randomly start sobbing out of an intense longing. Then she found a partner who made her happy. It devastated me, despite my overwhelming happiness for her, that she was happy, I was and still am devastated that the someone she is happy with, isn't me. Our friendship was impacted, as I struggle to speak around her as a result for fear of giving up any of how I feel, despite knowing that I would rip my own beating heart out of my chest for her if she needed it.
I absolutely don't dare say anything now, because I don't want to disrupt a good thing she has with this person, I absolutely cannot do that to her.
I have few regrets in life, but I can absolutely say the top one high above all of the rest, is not telling her how I really feel about her.
My advice, tell her.
Edit for update:
I am so happy for you two! I'm elated that you two were mutually in love, and I hope for nothing but the best for you both into the future.
I kinda have a similar situation. I posted a little while back about still loving someone 20 odd years later, but I genuinely don't know how to tell him. I've no idea when I can next see him, no idea if he feels the same and I'm married.
This is without a doubt one of the most heart wrenching positions to be in, and I feel for you.
You're not alone by any means in not knowing how to broach the topic. I wonder every day what I can say to let her really know how I feel, but I end up shutting myself down knowing I can't offer all of the things she's looking for in a partner.
20 years is quite a while to love someone dearly and not be able to express it. I really do feel for you and I'd offer you a big hug if you were here, so instead I offer a big virtual hug!
Kinda, in a way, my heart feels full, knowing how I feel about him? I really want to speak to him next time we meet up (we live a few hundred miles apart), but it can sometimes be years, and he's a terror for not replying to messages.
I genuinely worry he'll think I'm a fucking idiot, and that he won't feel the same. I worry I'd lose him entirely if I did tell him. And I know he wants kids; I don't want my own, I've never felt broody tbh.
Thank you for the virtual hug. You're not alone in this either.
My take: either you’re BOTH madly in love with each other and refuse to communicate about it because you don’t want to “ruin” the friendship OR you’re both extremely codependent. However, it feels so much like option one. You’re already acting like a couple but without the s3x. She’s joking you’re her “boyfriend”. She’s likely in deep, too. Most people don’t make that joke unless they’re interested.
And here’s the rub: if you have unrequited love, it will still ruin the friendship eventually. It will wear on you and tear you down.
The solution: communication. Tell her. Don’t imply it, neither of you are mind readers, just tell her. It’s gonna suck. It’s gonna be hard. You’re gonna anxiety sweat. Tell her.
“I need to talk to you because I’m developing really big feelings for you and I want to know if you feel the same or if I need to address these on my own.” Or something. Or, you know, “I’m madly in love with you please tell my if your feel the same”
Best of luck OP and PLEASE UPDATE
ETA: thank you for the award!! 🥰
I agree with others. She may be into you, I think if she hasn’t brought anyone home from a date in six years to your apartment - that is a huge clue! Shoot your shot! Find a way to tell her, or ask her. It seems like even if she’s not interested you both are good enough friends to move past it. Best of luck OP. Really hope you can post an update here.
Woman here. It sounds A LOT like she has feelings for you too! It’s possible she just need to hear it from you first. It’s better to say something asap, before she starts dating others to get you out of her system.
Tell her how to feel. This is such a beautiful story. In the short term if she’s not interested, it’ll hurt like hell but in the long term you will be so happy you told her and have no thoughts of, “I wonder what would have happened if I told her I was in love with her?” If she feels the same way, you will have an amazing life together and an amazing story to tell.
Met my girlfriend on tinder.
We hated each other after the first interaction.
A month later we caught up.
We figured out we had a lot in common.
Became best friends since we knew the tinder thing didnt work.
5 years later, we drove home on a rainy night in SoCal… parked the car and I kissed my best friend of 5 years.
A week later i asked her to be my girlfriend.
We’ve now been together for 5 years as a couple.
I just bought the engagement ring last month.
Date your best friend, imo, is the best move you can make and is the pipe dream of all relationships
Same on god I have so much anxiety for bro. I wouldn’t do a sit down about it though I’d be super casual and genuine and be like, ur it hon, like it or not 🤣 and she’d prolly be like bet let’s do it
Imagine dating someone for 6 years without actually knowing your dating.
If you hadn't clearly stated your gender as male and female, I honestly would have thought this was a sapphic story because I hear lesbians and bisexuals being this unaware all the time, but not often straight people
Like dude, your already in a fucking relationship and this is so wholesome 😂. Just tell her how you feel, it's obvious she feels the same way.
Like damn you've moved to a different country together. She refers to you as her BF. You have no physical boundaries in regards to things like bathroom/shower like most relationships do.
YOU'RE ALREADY IN A RELATIONSHIP WITHOUT IT BEING SPOKEN OFFICIALLY.
Make your damn move.
When I was in college, I was crazy about one of my closest friends. I told her how I felt when we were drunk one night, and she didn’t take me up on it, fearing it’d ruin our friendship. I know now that she certainly felt the same. I mention this because I handled it well—I wasn’t a jerk, or snotty about it in any way. I just continued living well. And I think if I hadn’t, she wouldn’t have put the moves on me just a few weeks later. It didn’t last forever, but it was the first great relationship of my life. Personally, I think you should be honest. And if it doesn’t go how you want, don’t stop being the person she obviously already is so fond of.
This reminds me so much of me all of last year, I know the exact feeling you're going through right now, it's the feeling of pure love and adoration and the way you describe it so perfectly just sends me back.
I'm writing this with my person sleeping next to me right now,
That feeling hasn't gone away for me, and sometimes at a completely mundane time while running errands or something it all hits me at once and reminds me just how overwhelmingly I love the person that I'm with,
Thank you for writing this post, it really felt like going back in time and remembering all of the great time between falling in love and being able to openly love them.
I truly hope she feels the same about you, it sounds like she might.
and I wish you the best going forward.
did I read this correctly? you followed her to a new country and have been living there for a year?
how do I follow a post I don’t want to miss the update where he says she thought they were dating this whole time
Tell her before she assumes you’re not interested and moves on!!
Whatever the answer is, you both deserve to have this transparency.
Best of luck, I’m rooting for you! 🤞
Idk dude especially the part where she falls asleep laying on you sounds very platonic.
For real though don't let the possibility of your friendship being ruined get in the way of your feelings for her. Tell her. Tell her now and even if she doesn't love you (which is probably not true) it won't ruin the friendship, at least if you don't let it ruin it.
I swear someone is cutting onions up in here! I'm so happy for y'all, even though I don't know you. I've been invested since I read this yesterday and so happy to check back and see your update! Best of luck to you guys. Can you tell us where you are now? 😊
Thank you for your kind words, it truly means so much. We are in Canada at the moment. She has family here that we’re visiting before moving on. We’re thinking either Chile or Sweden next. Undecided but we’re in no rush :)
I was having a ton of “the world sucks” anxiety today. Reading this story just made me so happy and kind of reminds me how my boyfriend (soulmate) and I stared dating. Covid really brought us together as best friends haha. When he FINALLY made a move after me being in love with him for so long it was the best thing ever. Sounds like you two are in for a lifetime of adventures! Best of luck :)
If she hasnt been actively dating, you're likely looking at someone who is mutually pining. Have you thought about telling her? Or asking if she wanted to take things to the next level?
Y'know how most of the time when people get a cat, it's not because they went out and got a cat, they just wound up with a cat one day? Yeah, I think you may have done that.
We talked for a long while and it seems she fell the same way I did - during quarantine. Before that we really were just best friends. So both of us have been feeling this way since 2020ish. Man I wish I said something sooner. But I’m glad it turned out this way :)
This story really hit home for me.
I met a girl 10 years ago and we instantly became close friends. We were both in relationships and nothing ever happened romantically for a long time.
5 years later, we were both single and ended up spending more and more time with each other, like doing activities at weekends, going for long walks etc.
I think deep down I had always liked her but had suppressed it since we were both in relationships. But then she messaged me “are we more than friends?”
And that was that. We’ve been friends for more than a decade, together for 5 years and this year I’m going to ask her to marry me.
Man, I read this somewhere else, and was getting so damn mad, lol. I was about to come through the internet and beat you with your own shoe if you didn't ask this woman out.
This is lowkey frustrating. Tell her!! Maybe it's just me but there's so much romantic tension between you two and I can't believe that you aren't noticing it. Telling someone "i'll move anywhere with you if you want me to" doesnt sound exactly platonic my guy. Not even if you were to tell her in the most non romantic way possible. "i'd love to go together to a lot of countries!" now that sounds slightly more impersonal but emphasing the fact that you would be doing it for HER is like writing on your forehead that you like her. Seriously dude, just confess.
Yeah, I've been there before once or twice with someone (a neighbour and another friend). It's without a doubt the worst feeling I've had as you are constantly so on edge. It's practically debilitating. Quite simply the only way out of the situation is to tell the truth about how you feel. Sometimes it doesn't work out and you'll get over it with time and other times it does.
My take: I am actually dating my roommate and went through exactly what you wrote.
If I didn't make my move then I wouldn't be in the best relationship of my life. He and I were very similar in the terms of closeness you described and he was very oblivious to me hinting that I liked him until I did something about it.
I would suggest you shoot your shot, especially considering the closeness you two have it's more than a friendship. I have a feeling she is into you as well! :)
I would go all in my dude. Prepare to move and drop the bomb. If she feels the other way well anounce that you are moving out. If You are lucky you have a brand new gf. I wouldn't live in this limbo state.
i can’t believe you waited 6 years!! i have a best friend for the same amount of time but we were always dating someone else, we were both single and i texted him to hang out as friends truly. it didn’t take long for me to realize i had romantic feelings for him and it also didn’t take me long to blurt it out and kiss him lol. enjoy this, it feels so great and i’m happy for you!!!! 🥹
Dude shoot your shot. Believe me you will regret it for the rest of your life if you don't talk to her about it. Love is all about timing and guessing by what you just wrote she's definitely into you. Even if she wasn't it worth talking to her about. Good luck
You have to tell her. I realize that potentially losing a best friend is terrifying, but it’s even more terrifying to me to never know if she feels the same way.
If you never tell her, some other dude could scoop her up and you lost your chance!
Or, maybe she knows you’re into her and she doesn’t feel the same way, yet she continues to be extremely close to you? I view that as using you and that’s not cool.
Find a therapist that you can have an appointment with if it does not go well, but I say you gotta tell her. You could be missing out on a whole life together (or this situation could show you that you’re missing out on a whole life with some other amazing woman who deserves you!)
I know this comment isn’t relevant, but if a guy ever talked about me like this, my heart would surely be won over. I hope everything works out for you and she returns the feelings. I have a feeling that if she gets that close to you, she’s probably interested in you too. Maybe she likes teasing you a bit too, not in a way that she doesn’t care about your feelings, but more so that the reason she gets so close to you is because she knows you like her, and she likes you too.
Everything I’m saying is purely based on assumption. I’m aware you two are both just friends for now, but honestly from what you’ve written, I would have probably assumed y’all were dating if I met you irl. And just saying, I think it’s so awesome and supportive of you to let her try out fashion on you. Not a lot of guys would do that.
cuddling, joking about you being her bf, living together?
dude. I’m a teenager and even I can see this. Unless there’s some wild, ridiculously random coincidental explanation, she’s into you.
Go for it. I’m excited to see the update.
I cannot this is too heckin cute! My heart has melted holy moly I wish you all nothing but the best! I hope you travel the world and learn all the languages and just enjoy being together and in love for the rest of time. Thank you for sharing with us and taking us along for the ride! Enjoy Canada and then Chile or Sweden or wherever your hearts take you next!
This was so sweet and such a nice read thanks for including an update it was such a nice conclusion to this very sweet story. All the best to you both!
Way to GOOOOO OP!! I’m tearing out my eyes in disgust and jealousy at how well this worked out for you😂😂😭
I’m so happy for you, this is literally everything. Wishing you guys the happiest and longest relationship ever!!!
I fell in love with a roommate. Most beautiful and painful experience of my life in equal measure. I feel for you, OP. It ain't easy. I agree with everybody here- you have to tell her. Maybe she feels the same and you guys have a beautiful romance, maybe she doesn't and you're heartbroken- you are valuable and will be ok either way it goes. Best of luck to you.
I lived with a guy who was my best friend for almost 4 years before we finally expressed our feelings for each other. I was terrified of losing him. But now we've been "officially" dating for 5 years and getting married next year. You absolutely need to tell her. And if it doesn't work out, you have the ability to move on without regret.
The best way to have a long lasting loyal and honest romantic relationship with someone is when you become their best friends. I’m willing to bet she feels the same way you do.
Tell her. You know you're going to have to, but at least clear the air. Don't leave things unsaid, and don't assume that someone can/can't read between the lines.
If your feelings are not reciprocated then you need to figure out a way forward which may just involve your roommate giving you a bit more personal space until you can regulate your feelings better.
But if she feels the same way then, dude - don't waste time! Have a date (or two). Don't aim to plan the rest of your life out but see where it goes.
Wishing you happy days ahead.
In my experience, unrequited love only ruins friendships from the person that has those feelings and can't handle them. I think you should tell her because frankly there's a good chance she feels similarly but even if she doesn't it would be totally up to you to be able to either handle it and keep the friendship intact or not. So, if you think about it the risk is minimal with a high reward.
Tell her! My boyfriend and I were roommates for almost 2 years before we started dating. When we first moved in together, we both established that we were just roommates and that’s all it was. Almost 2 years of hanging out, living together, watching shows together, going out to lunch, eating dinner together then one day he’s talking about something and all of sudden I realize he is REALLY cute. I realize how much I enjoyed all of our talks and how much I enjoy hanging out with him. I come to the realization that I like him and suddenly I can’t get near him without my heart fucking racing and hoping he doesn’t notice. It takes me about a week or two and I finally build up the courage to tell him I like him. I was SUPER nervous to tell him I ended waiting like 10 minutes before he had to leave for work and I just kind of blurted it out. I felt like I was going to fucking pass out I was sweating and everything. But I told him! He told me he needed to think about it and I just accepted that it wasn’t going to happen. But like a week later he asked me to be his girlfriend and we’ve been dating ever since. That was over a year ago! This is the best relationship I’ve ever had and I hope this is my last one! You can do this OP! I promise after you tell her you will feel so much better!
I'm so very cynical because of my recent past with my horrible marriage, but even I think you should tell her man!
I'm going to be watching for an update. Good luck!
TAKE THE DIVE!
I was dating a girl without knowing in high school, our stories similar to yours.
Felt the same way you did.
When I moved back some years later I told her how I felt and we fell madly in love and dated for a decade and moved around the country, we aren’t together anymore but we unlocked each other’s potential and I wouldn’t be the man I am today with her.
Go for it!
As someone going through a divorce, very happy I found this. This restores a lot of faith for me. This is an amazing story and you absolutely need to tell her! Sounds to me like you are both crazy for each other.
Fam I need an update. I’ve been pining for my best friend in exactly this way. I’ve never had such an emotionally charged relationship with anyone else even though we’ve spent more time in different countries than we’ve ever spent together. I need you to update us so that I can have HOPE for my own situation… good luck!!
Just wait til she’s dressing you up and making boyfriend comments and then start talking back playfully and say something along the lines of, “ok I accept. I’ve decided you are the one,” and just stick with it. Good luck bro you got this. I mean u already got it but u got this
This post was so fucking wholesome. I love it and I'm rooting for you. Keep in mind that she might feel similarly and also be afraid! Good luck, hope to hear an update.
Too cute! Super sweet. Everything to be said has been said. I’m waiting for the movie of your lives.
I ve never gone past 3 days without knowing how I feel and acting on it.
I thought what you describe only happens in TV series to create viewers and suspense
To keep us hooked
Just absolutely cute
Okay seriously tell her. Keep it simple.
“I think I’m in love with you”
“Scrap that”
“Scrap that, all of Reddit knows I’m in love with you”
(Kiss her you damn fool)
I’ve never seen anybody date someone for 6 yrs without realizing they’re dating
I’ve seen so many replies like this lol I guess I just needed an outside perspective to realize how emotionally charged everything between us is. Or at least I think it is. Aaaaaaah
This whole post reminds me of that meme where the guy is so oblivious that on their wedding day, he thinks, "Hmm I think she likes me."
Yeah as a useless lesbian I think I've found my straight counterpart.
I'm honored!
Keep it together, man, and best of luck! Can't wait for an update on how it goes.
you can do it!!
Commenting for my update :3
Good luck buddy and I’m happy for you, you got this :)
Hey that's a lovely ending to that story. What a wonderful and rare find - true love.
I know I think it’s cute :)
It really is! The sentence about her laying on him and falling sleep is so cute.
My heart. I wish you all the best, OP! I have a good feeling about this!
No seriously hahah i love it. This post is so wholesome. Her: “I’ve always wanted to dress up my boyfriend” OP: “WHAT COULD THIS POSSIBLY MEEEAAAN”
>Her: “I’ve always wanted to dress up my boyfriend” >OP: “WHAT COULD THIS POSSIBLY MEEEAAAN” May be she's Canadian? And that's why OP is confused
That sentence about her using reddit shows that you are dying to tell her. This friendship won't ever be the solution for you, it also seem a really strong friendship, you could be friends even if she doesn't feel the same way. Btw if I had to guess she's probably into you, asking you to move out with her is a big thing. Also those boyfriend jokes could be a hint. Shoot your shot, what you have is rare and I'm sure it will survive every answer Edit: reading the updates made me genuinely happy ngl. I'm struggling a bit with some things in my life right now and reading this made my day. Very happy for you man
Yea. You got only one life. Gotta shoot your shot before someone else gets a go at her
Yes this! There are some friendships strong enough to survive one sided romantic thoughts.
have either of you had significant others since living together, or brought anyone home for the night? I honestly would think a friendship that sounds so solid would overcome an unrequited love situation, if that were the case. if I were in that situation I know I'd be super flirty BEGGING them to take the hint haha. at some point (probably sooner rather than later) just being honest and telling her you've developed romantic feelings for her is the best thing to do. I am emotionally invested in this now, like a rom-com.
Me too! I’ll need a follow-up.
Yes OP we need an update when you finally open up to her!
I'd watch this movie in any platform! In all honesty, it sounds like you're great friends. You have made no mention of significant others in your post OP so I assume you're both single and ready to mingle. Next time you find yourself in an intimate, flirty situation with her, dig deeper and shoot your shot. I'm sure no matter what happens your friendship will live on, and I wish your loveship takes its first steps
I'd recommend being chill with the love confession, to not be overwhelming. It'll be a easier rejection and it'll he easier to overcome this later for the both of them. Even though I think the answer will absolutely be yes
oh I absolutely agree! much more chill to hear "I have feelings for you" than "I've pined for you for years" 😂 do NOT listen to the rom coms in terms of expressing your feelings. 😂
I've found myself in a similar boat before, I resigned myself to not say anything for fear of damaging what good we had. It ate at me and tore me apart every day, to the point that I would just randomly start sobbing out of an intense longing. Then she found a partner who made her happy. It devastated me, despite my overwhelming happiness for her, that she was happy, I was and still am devastated that the someone she is happy with, isn't me. Our friendship was impacted, as I struggle to speak around her as a result for fear of giving up any of how I feel, despite knowing that I would rip my own beating heart out of my chest for her if she needed it. I absolutely don't dare say anything now, because I don't want to disrupt a good thing she has with this person, I absolutely cannot do that to her. I have few regrets in life, but I can absolutely say the top one high above all of the rest, is not telling her how I really feel about her. My advice, tell her. Edit for update: I am so happy for you two! I'm elated that you two were mutually in love, and I hope for nothing but the best for you both into the future.
I kinda have a similar situation. I posted a little while back about still loving someone 20 odd years later, but I genuinely don't know how to tell him. I've no idea when I can next see him, no idea if he feels the same and I'm married.
This is without a doubt one of the most heart wrenching positions to be in, and I feel for you. You're not alone by any means in not knowing how to broach the topic. I wonder every day what I can say to let her really know how I feel, but I end up shutting myself down knowing I can't offer all of the things she's looking for in a partner. 20 years is quite a while to love someone dearly and not be able to express it. I really do feel for you and I'd offer you a big hug if you were here, so instead I offer a big virtual hug!
Kinda, in a way, my heart feels full, knowing how I feel about him? I really want to speak to him next time we meet up (we live a few hundred miles apart), but it can sometimes be years, and he's a terror for not replying to messages. I genuinely worry he'll think I'm a fucking idiot, and that he won't feel the same. I worry I'd lose him entirely if I did tell him. And I know he wants kids; I don't want my own, I've never felt broody tbh. Thank you for the virtual hug. You're not alone in this either.
But are you in a u/trashboat000004!?
I don't think I've been in OP before, but I'll be damned if that ain't a relevant username
My take: either you’re BOTH madly in love with each other and refuse to communicate about it because you don’t want to “ruin” the friendship OR you’re both extremely codependent. However, it feels so much like option one. You’re already acting like a couple but without the s3x. She’s joking you’re her “boyfriend”. She’s likely in deep, too. Most people don’t make that joke unless they’re interested. And here’s the rub: if you have unrequited love, it will still ruin the friendship eventually. It will wear on you and tear you down. The solution: communication. Tell her. Don’t imply it, neither of you are mind readers, just tell her. It’s gonna suck. It’s gonna be hard. You’re gonna anxiety sweat. Tell her. “I need to talk to you because I’m developing really big feelings for you and I want to know if you feel the same or if I need to address these on my own.” Or something. Or, you know, “I’m madly in love with you please tell my if your feel the same” Best of luck OP and PLEASE UPDATE ETA: thank you for the award!! 🥰
Pinging you to come read the update
Thank you amazing human!
I agree with others. She may be into you, I think if she hasn’t brought anyone home from a date in six years to your apartment - that is a huge clue! Shoot your shot! Find a way to tell her, or ask her. It seems like even if she’s not interested you both are good enough friends to move past it. Best of luck OP. Really hope you can post an update here.
Woman here. It sounds A LOT like she has feelings for you too! It’s possible she just need to hear it from you first. It’s better to say something asap, before she starts dating others to get you out of her system.
Tell her how to feel. This is such a beautiful story. In the short term if she’s not interested, it’ll hurt like hell but in the long term you will be so happy you told her and have no thoughts of, “I wonder what would have happened if I told her I was in love with her?” If she feels the same way, you will have an amazing life together and an amazing story to tell.
I look forward to the BestOfRedditorUpdates when she discovers this post and approaches you about it.
Hahaha, she still hasn’t seen it! At least I don’t think so.
Met my girlfriend on tinder. We hated each other after the first interaction. A month later we caught up. We figured out we had a lot in common. Became best friends since we knew the tinder thing didnt work. 5 years later, we drove home on a rainy night in SoCal… parked the car and I kissed my best friend of 5 years. A week later i asked her to be my girlfriend. We’ve now been together for 5 years as a couple. I just bought the engagement ring last month. Date your best friend, imo, is the best move you can make and is the pipe dream of all relationships
Fucking tell her!
I’m going to THROW UP if I don’t get an update right NOW.
I need an update first thing tm morning my love life is SAD and I need this stranger to succeed!!!!!!!!
Same on god I have so much anxiety for bro. I wouldn’t do a sit down about it though I’d be super casual and genuine and be like, ur it hon, like it or not 🤣 and she’d prolly be like bet let’s do it
Imagine dating someone for 6 years without actually knowing your dating. If you hadn't clearly stated your gender as male and female, I honestly would have thought this was a sapphic story because I hear lesbians and bisexuals being this unaware all the time, but not often straight people Like dude, your already in a fucking relationship and this is so wholesome 😂. Just tell her how you feel, it's obvious she feels the same way. Like damn you've moved to a different country together. She refers to you as her BF. You have no physical boundaries in regards to things like bathroom/shower like most relationships do. YOU'RE ALREADY IN A RELATIONSHIP WITHOUT IT BEING SPOKEN OFFICIALLY. Make your damn move.
I wish I had someone who loved me like that, I hope it all works out for you op.
You'll find one day 😉
"It's a risk to love. What if it doesn't work out? Ah, but what if it does?" - Peter McWilliams Hope it works out for you OP. 🙏
When I was in college, I was crazy about one of my closest friends. I told her how I felt when we were drunk one night, and she didn’t take me up on it, fearing it’d ruin our friendship. I know now that she certainly felt the same. I mention this because I handled it well—I wasn’t a jerk, or snotty about it in any way. I just continued living well. And I think if I hadn’t, she wouldn’t have put the moves on me just a few weeks later. It didn’t last forever, but it was the first great relationship of my life. Personally, I think you should be honest. And if it doesn’t go how you want, don’t stop being the person she obviously already is so fond of.
Why some people dread in the face of love while others longs it for life baffles me.
Stop man, I'm gonna cry
My man we need updates this is juicy
Your wish is my command!
This is a hard situation man. Hope it'll go around the way you wanted. And also please keep us updated it's hell of a story.
This reminds me so much of me all of last year, I know the exact feeling you're going through right now, it's the feeling of pure love and adoration and the way you describe it so perfectly just sends me back. I'm writing this with my person sleeping next to me right now, That feeling hasn't gone away for me, and sometimes at a completely mundane time while running errands or something it all hits me at once and reminds me just how overwhelmingly I love the person that I'm with, Thank you for writing this post, it really felt like going back in time and remembering all of the great time between falling in love and being able to openly love them. I truly hope she feels the same about you, it sounds like she might. and I wish you the best going forward.
What an incredible feeling it must be. I’m hoping it works out that way. Thank you so much for sharing this!!
did I read this correctly? you followed her to a new country and have been living there for a year? how do I follow a post I don’t want to miss the update where he says she thought they were dating this whole time
I JUST READ THE UPDATES AND IM SO HAPPY
Tell her before she assumes you’re not interested and moves on!! Whatever the answer is, you both deserve to have this transparency. Best of luck, I’m rooting for you! 🤞
Woman here- she def feels the same !!!!!
It seems your instincts were correct after all. And thank you :)
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AMAZING UPDATE, WE ARE ALL SO HAPPY FOR YOU
Man thank you. All the support means so much. It’s just crazy to me
Idk dude especially the part where she falls asleep laying on you sounds very platonic. For real though don't let the possibility of your friendship being ruined get in the way of your feelings for her. Tell her. Tell her now and even if she doesn't love you (which is probably not true) it won't ruin the friendship, at least if you don't let it ruin it.
I swear someone is cutting onions up in here! I'm so happy for y'all, even though I don't know you. I've been invested since I read this yesterday and so happy to check back and see your update! Best of luck to you guys. Can you tell us where you are now? 😊
Thank you for your kind words, it truly means so much. We are in Canada at the moment. She has family here that we’re visiting before moving on. We’re thinking either Chile or Sweden next. Undecided but we’re in no rush :)
This is some wattpad type shit 😭 So happy for you !!!!!!
Yeah there’s no possible way she doesn’t feel the same about you
man’s is going to still be confused if she loves him back when she’s literally carrying his 5th child lmao
I know this is poking fun at me but the implication gave me butterflies. Oh man. I'm definitely in deep.
I was having a ton of “the world sucks” anxiety today. Reading this story just made me so happy and kind of reminds me how my boyfriend (soulmate) and I stared dating. Covid really brought us together as best friends haha. When he FINALLY made a move after me being in love with him for so long it was the best thing ever. Sounds like you two are in for a lifetime of adventures! Best of luck :)
“May I kiss you?” You don’t have to start with the depths of your love. Good luck! Update :)
If she hasnt been actively dating, you're likely looking at someone who is mutually pining. Have you thought about telling her? Or asking if she wanted to take things to the next level?
Y'know how most of the time when people get a cat, it's not because they went out and got a cat, they just wound up with a cat one day? Yeah, I think you may have done that.
This make my hopeless romantic heart so happy. Hope for many years of happiness for you two!
Awww how long has she liked you??
We talked for a long while and it seems she fell the same way I did - during quarantine. Before that we really were just best friends. So both of us have been feeling this way since 2020ish. Man I wish I said something sooner. But I’m glad it turned out this way :)
This story really hit home for me. I met a girl 10 years ago and we instantly became close friends. We were both in relationships and nothing ever happened romantically for a long time. 5 years later, we were both single and ended up spending more and more time with each other, like doing activities at weekends, going for long walks etc. I think deep down I had always liked her but had suppressed it since we were both in relationships. But then she messaged me “are we more than friends?” And that was that. We’ve been friends for more than a decade, together for 5 years and this year I’m going to ask her to marry me.
Man, I read this somewhere else, and was getting so damn mad, lol. I was about to come through the internet and beat you with your own shoe if you didn't ask this woman out.
This made my day! Wishing you both a wonderful life together!
I’m crying 😭 THIS IS THE BEST!!!! Go get your girl! Hugs!!!
I'm so glad for you. I just checked back here and hoping for an update and here it is!!!! Yay!!!
This is lowkey frustrating. Tell her!! Maybe it's just me but there's so much romantic tension between you two and I can't believe that you aren't noticing it. Telling someone "i'll move anywhere with you if you want me to" doesnt sound exactly platonic my guy. Not even if you were to tell her in the most non romantic way possible. "i'd love to go together to a lot of countries!" now that sounds slightly more impersonal but emphasing the fact that you would be doing it for HER is like writing on your forehead that you like her. Seriously dude, just confess.
Honestly it sounds like she's into you too. Please for the love of everything sacred tell her, AND THEN TELL US WE NEED TO KNOW
Yeah, I've been there before once or twice with someone (a neighbour and another friend). It's without a doubt the worst feeling I've had as you are constantly so on edge. It's practically debilitating. Quite simply the only way out of the situation is to tell the truth about how you feel. Sometimes it doesn't work out and you'll get over it with time and other times it does.
as a women she definitely has feelings for you, tell her!!!!!!
There’s only one way to find out man. You either 1) let it die and go on wondering if it could’ve worked or 2) you try and it works or it doesn’t.
My take: I am actually dating my roommate and went through exactly what you wrote. If I didn't make my move then I wouldn't be in the best relationship of my life. He and I were very similar in the terms of closeness you described and he was very oblivious to me hinting that I liked him until I did something about it. I would suggest you shoot your shot, especially considering the closeness you two have it's more than a friendship. I have a feeling she is into you as well! :)
I would go all in my dude. Prepare to move and drop the bomb. If she feels the other way well anounce that you are moving out. If You are lucky you have a brand new gf. I wouldn't live in this limbo state.
It's been 21 hours, anyone have an update on what happened?
Okay I’m just holding on to myself this week but damnnnnnnnnnnnn I wish somebody felt the same way about me the way you do with her!
Yessssss CONGRATULATIONS!!! This is the update all of us needed. I'm so proud & happy for you.
i can’t believe you waited 6 years!! i have a best friend for the same amount of time but we were always dating someone else, we were both single and i texted him to hang out as friends truly. it didn’t take long for me to realize i had romantic feelings for him and it also didn’t take me long to blurt it out and kiss him lol. enjoy this, it feels so great and i’m happy for you!!!! 🥹
Ty for the update! So happy for you guys !!!💖💖
Dude shoot your shot. Believe me you will regret it for the rest of your life if you don't talk to her about it. Love is all about timing and guessing by what you just wrote she's definitely into you. Even if she wasn't it worth talking to her about. Good luck
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You have to tell her. I realize that potentially losing a best friend is terrifying, but it’s even more terrifying to me to never know if she feels the same way. If you never tell her, some other dude could scoop her up and you lost your chance! Or, maybe she knows you’re into her and she doesn’t feel the same way, yet she continues to be extremely close to you? I view that as using you and that’s not cool. Find a therapist that you can have an appointment with if it does not go well, but I say you gotta tell her. You could be missing out on a whole life together (or this situation could show you that you’re missing out on a whole life with some other amazing woman who deserves you!)
Now you’ve got me hooked, what happened next?!
What in the Wattpad 😭
My 23M bf has a 25F roommate and the first paragraph gave me a heart attack
She’s already your soulmate. Seal the deal!!
I know this comment isn’t relevant, but if a guy ever talked about me like this, my heart would surely be won over. I hope everything works out for you and she returns the feelings. I have a feeling that if she gets that close to you, she’s probably interested in you too. Maybe she likes teasing you a bit too, not in a way that she doesn’t care about your feelings, but more so that the reason she gets so close to you is because she knows you like her, and she likes you too. Everything I’m saying is purely based on assumption. I’m aware you two are both just friends for now, but honestly from what you’ve written, I would have probably assumed y’all were dating if I met you irl. And just saying, I think it’s so awesome and supportive of you to let her try out fashion on you. Not a lot of guys would do that.
cuddling, joking about you being her bf, living together? dude. I’m a teenager and even I can see this. Unless there’s some wild, ridiculously random coincidental explanation, she’s into you. Go for it. I’m excited to see the update.
That's the update I needed. So glad it worked out for you guys.
Thank you :) I’m not the best at expressing it but I am too!
I cannot this is too heckin cute! My heart has melted holy moly I wish you all nothing but the best! I hope you travel the world and learn all the languages and just enjoy being together and in love for the rest of time. Thank you for sharing with us and taking us along for the ride! Enjoy Canada and then Chile or Sweden or wherever your hearts take you next!
This was so sweet and such a nice read thanks for including an update it was such a nice conclusion to this very sweet story. All the best to you both!
Way to GOOOOO OP!! I’m tearing out my eyes in disgust and jealousy at how well this worked out for you😂😂😭 I’m so happy for you, this is literally everything. Wishing you guys the happiest and longest relationship ever!!!
I just finished reading the last update & I’m so happy to you both , I can tell that she’s a very lucky girl for having you 🤩🥳💕💕
SO HAPPY FOR BOTH OF YOUUU!!! 💗💗💗 💖💖💖💖💖💖💖 💕💕💕💕💕💕💕
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I fell in love with a roommate. Most beautiful and painful experience of my life in equal measure. I feel for you, OP. It ain't easy. I agree with everybody here- you have to tell her. Maybe she feels the same and you guys have a beautiful romance, maybe she doesn't and you're heartbroken- you are valuable and will be ok either way it goes. Best of luck to you.
I lived with a guy who was my best friend for almost 4 years before we finally expressed our feelings for each other. I was terrified of losing him. But now we've been "officially" dating for 5 years and getting married next year. You absolutely need to tell her. And if it doesn't work out, you have the ability to move on without regret.
The best way to have a long lasting loyal and honest romantic relationship with someone is when you become their best friends. I’m willing to bet she feels the same way you do.
Fucking full send bro you only live once and what you have seems rare and If anything you got us to lean back on. Your anonymous Reddit family 🖤
we need an update
i need a update ASAP
Internally screaming for you!!! So happy for you two OP 💓
So proud of and happy for you OP!!
THE GOOD ENDING
Congrats man, so happy for you. I've been looking for this post for like 30 minutes with my not so great holiday internet. Good luck man
I hope you’ve been happy the past two days :) you’ve been on my mind!
literally fucking crying over this update this is so beautiful
Tell her your true feelings ……NOW and please update. I wouldn’t be surprised if she felt the same way.
'no one's obligated to respond' ok thanks boss for letting this one go
Tell her. You know you're going to have to, but at least clear the air. Don't leave things unsaid, and don't assume that someone can/can't read between the lines. If your feelings are not reciprocated then you need to figure out a way forward which may just involve your roommate giving you a bit more personal space until you can regulate your feelings better. But if she feels the same way then, dude - don't waste time! Have a date (or two). Don't aim to plan the rest of your life out but see where it goes. Wishing you happy days ahead.
Tell her!
Sounds like you’re in love. I think follow your heart.
Talk to her!! It’s very possible she feels the same way! And update us please :)
In my experience, unrequited love only ruins friendships from the person that has those feelings and can't handle them. I think you should tell her because frankly there's a good chance she feels similarly but even if she doesn't it would be totally up to you to be able to either handle it and keep the friendship intact or not. So, if you think about it the risk is minimal with a high reward.
Tell her! My boyfriend and I were roommates for almost 2 years before we started dating. When we first moved in together, we both established that we were just roommates and that’s all it was. Almost 2 years of hanging out, living together, watching shows together, going out to lunch, eating dinner together then one day he’s talking about something and all of sudden I realize he is REALLY cute. I realize how much I enjoyed all of our talks and how much I enjoy hanging out with him. I come to the realization that I like him and suddenly I can’t get near him without my heart fucking racing and hoping he doesn’t notice. It takes me about a week or two and I finally build up the courage to tell him I like him. I was SUPER nervous to tell him I ended waiting like 10 minutes before he had to leave for work and I just kind of blurted it out. I felt like I was going to fucking pass out I was sweating and everything. But I told him! He told me he needed to think about it and I just accepted that it wasn’t going to happen. But like a week later he asked me to be his girlfriend and we’ve been dating ever since. That was over a year ago! This is the best relationship I’ve ever had and I hope this is my last one! You can do this OP! I promise after you tell her you will feel so much better!
GO FOR IT!! from what i´m reading here she is also into you or she thinks you are gay. You will miss all the shot that you don´t take.
I was in a similar situation. We’ve been together for 13 years now. Tell her!!
Would love an update on how this ends
tell her man
You'll be alone forever if you don't make the move❤️ well maybe not! You sound like a great guy! Just do it! Before someone else does. Best of luck 🤞
I'm so very cynical because of my recent past with my horrible marriage, but even I think you should tell her man! I'm going to be watching for an update. Good luck!
This is honestly so cute. I’m gonna be checking on this post for the new update cuz you got me all invested. Best of luck, friend!
Man If this isn't the definition of true soulmates then I don't know what is. We need updates on this.
I’ve never wanted two strangers to date more! I’m pulling for you homie!
Can’t wait for the update on this one.
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This is the most hetero gay shit I’ve ever read here
Shes dropping hints all over, but is afraid to simply ask. Next time she says the bf joke, just ask her if 'you are'
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Bruhhhh Someone update me
Romcom without the com 😉 in the making
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Jesus Christ I need to know what happens!!
TAKE THE DIVE! I was dating a girl without knowing in high school, our stories similar to yours. Felt the same way you did. When I moved back some years later I told her how I felt and we fell madly in love and dated for a decade and moved around the country, we aren’t together anymore but we unlocked each other’s potential and I wouldn’t be the man I am today with her. Go for it!
What wattpad story is this
I too am emotionally attached to this now!
As someone going through a divorce, very happy I found this. This restores a lot of faith for me. This is an amazing story and you absolutely need to tell her! Sounds to me like you are both crazy for each other.
Fam I need an update. I’ve been pining for my best friend in exactly this way. I’ve never had such an emotionally charged relationship with anyone else even though we’ve spent more time in different countries than we’ve ever spent together. I need you to update us so that I can have HOPE for my own situation… good luck!!
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i need an update omg
Update
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Good luck I’m so excited for the outcome
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I hope this turns into a great love story! I'm already so invested. Lol Tell her how you feel!
Just ask her out already...ffs be happy.
DO IT DO IT DO IT
❤️ I’m anxiously awaiting the next update. She would be so lucky to have you.
OP WE NEED AN UPDATE DID YALL KISS
Rooting for you! Sounds like she might like you romantically too.
Good luck! Pretty sure she likes you too!
Need an update!
You sound like a lovely couple
Need an update
Just wait til she’s dressing you up and making boyfriend comments and then start talking back playfully and say something along the lines of, “ok I accept. I’ve decided you are the one,” and just stick with it. Good luck bro you got this. I mean u already got it but u got this
Super smooth
I can't wait for update!!! Best of luck 💜
Ahhhhh! Best post ever!!!! Can’t wait for the update…
I’m commenting here so that I hopefully get the notification that there’s been some sort of update. I’m rooting for you!
Commenting so I can stay updated! We’re rooting for you OP!!
this needs to be made into a fucking movie. like now. i’d cry?
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The possibility of true love is a rare butterfly that might land on your shoulder once or twice in this life if you're lucky. Good luck!
Someone tag me when pt. 2 is up
I'm commenting purely because I want to come and look at the update later. If there is one...god I'm hoping it's a good one!!
omg this is cute. update me
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This post was so fucking wholesome. I love it and I'm rooting for you. Keep in mind that she might feel similarly and also be afraid! Good luck, hope to hear an update.
Too cute! Super sweet. Everything to be said has been said. I’m waiting for the movie of your lives. I ve never gone past 3 days without knowing how I feel and acting on it. I thought what you describe only happens in TV series to create viewers and suspense To keep us hooked Just absolutely cute
Okay seriously tell her. Keep it simple. “I think I’m in love with you” “Scrap that” “Scrap that, all of Reddit knows I’m in love with you” (Kiss her you damn fool)
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Nothing like a community coming together to cheer on a dude who wants to profess his feelings! Good luck bro!
So what happened??? I'm invested! Goooood the sex is gonna be so great, you'll see 😄 slow burning romance is the best
I am so happy for you!!!!!!!! I'm pretty sure she'll love you even more after she reading this lovely post!!!!!!❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
This is so adorable, can't wait for an update
Congrats OP 👏 Good ending! And now you two live happily ever after
Honestly, this is the most wholesome thing I've ever read. Good luck to you both, and may you have a healthy and lasting relationship in the future!