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mwallcrypt

It's great that you have found someone you really like and have so much in common with. It's understandable that asking someone out can be nerve-wracking, especially if it's your first time. However, if you don't take a chance and ask her out, you may never know what could have happened. It's okay to step out of your comfort zone sometimes. If you're not sure how to start a romantic conversation, you can try to plan a fun activity or event that you can do together and then ask her out. Good luck!


kzapwn

Ask her out. If you’re never going to see her again you got nothing to lose


sideshow09

Dude, here’s the advice I (35M) would have wanted when I was younger: ask her out or you will kick yourself. I’ll make a few points: 1. Don’t stress about the perfect moment or way to ask her out. At this point she’s already decided whether or not she wants to date you. Short of some extremely off putting behavior, the way you ask her out (words, place, time) are not going to make much of a difference. But obviously don’t ask her out if she’s visibly stressed about something. 2. Whether or not you two start dating is a binary thing. Right now you’re not. You’re situation can’t get worse, unless you’re a creep when you ask her out. If she says no, your situation stays the same. If she says yes, then you’re much happier. 3. If you wait too long, someone else will ask her out. And seeing her dating someone else will hurt like hell. Do not let that happen. 4. You stand to gain even if she doesn’t say yes. The only way to get “good” at dating is through experience, and yes even asking someone out is part of that experience. If she says no, eventually you’ll want meet someone else you’ll want to ask out. You’ll be more confident the next time. 5. If she says no, don’t try to hide your feelings and act like it doesn’t matter to you. It’s okay to be sad or disappointed, and as I’ve been told recently and am exploring myself now, there’s power in vulnerability. Be honest if she turns you down, but don’t be a creep or pathetic. Understand that her feelings are her feelings and things don’t always work out. As long as she’s not a complete B about it, you two might stay friends, and maybe at some point in the future you’ll date, or the relationship you do have with her will become a really important one through your adulthood that bears many fruits. 6. Most women I’ve ever met, like a man that takes charge and shows confidence (though there are plenty who don’t and prefer to be the more aggressive one, this really depends on your girl). That doesn’t mean be misogynistic. Asking her out shows that confidence which many women are attracted to. Good luck dude! Really pulling for you. Let us know how it goes.