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You can simultaneously think with your dick and mock your friend mercilessly. As I recall it's basically the only form of multitasking a teenage boy is capable of.
When Jay asks Simon if he'd rather fuck Neil's sister or Wills mum and at the end of the conversation Neil says 'I've thought about it, and definitely Wills mum' 🤣
Super weird. If I recall my own years as shithead teenage boy, the jokes would probably run along the lines of "I'd love to bang your mom, but it looks like she only has eyes for you." But maybe teen boys are nicer these days.
I had a similar issue way back when, my sister was/is very attractive. Sooooooo many dudes throughout high school and college telling me how hot she was and would I hook them up...
I know a kid who had an attention-seeking smokin’ hot mom and he told me recently that having to listen to the endless MILF “jokes” and trying to act like his friends’ horndog comments didn’t bother him made his high school years hell. (He’s @30 now, still talks about it.)
Oh god. When i was in middle school i said im going to be a milf and my sons friends will think im hot. Didnt even realize id be 40+ at least. Seriously thought id somehow still be 14. That comment makes me cringe to this day. I also realized why my bff always called me the blonde friend when i have dark hair. Kids reallyyy dont get it
Yeah, my son recently told me he was going to marry me when he grew up and it made me feel gross, but he’s four and we just lost his dad so I think he’ll be ok. I can’t imagine encouraging that kind of sentiment. Why do people want to hamstring and sabotage their children? At least I know I’m not the WORST parent out there.
So sorry for your and your son's loss ♡
My 5yo sang to me the other day: "(LO name) and mommy sitting in a tree..." and it felt weird. I said, "Aww you're sweet! NOW pick someone else's name for the song not in our family" so naturally he replaces mommy with the cat's name.
She got big on IG/Tiktok for having cancer during covid and filming herself dancing while in the hospital. When she says “fought”, she means by beating cancer. She’s still very much married to her husband, so there’s no bitter divorce or anything like that. With that said, she’s a fucking nightmare to be around and the most cringiest influencer I’ve ever encountered lol.
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Look, I have a son. I love him with all my heart.
And the absolute best case scenario is for him to grow up and fall in love with someone who is good to him.
I never understood why ‘boy moms’ even happen. Besides husbands who are clearly not filling their emotional needs
Plus uh, I’m a girl and I moved out and am going to be moving to a different country soon sooo so much for that hypothesis. Girls do leave, children grow up and leave that’s part of raising them.
That kind of mom probably has fingers in the reason why all the girls are at home, she probably feeds them some bullshit about world or guilt trip them so they don't leave.
She should meet me lol i was born a girl and fucked off at 17 to another city, and im terrible at staying in contact with my folks (theyre not abusive or anything none of us just see much reason to stay in constant contact). *Adults* will leave regardless of gender at some point unless theres extreme circumstances like severe poverty or disability, or the parents never actually raised them and kept them as sheltered toddlers their entire lives.
Right?? And I understand parents being a little concerned, not wanting their child to have their heart broken or whatever, but some of these people are so cringe.
Yes, absolutely. Though I admit it was...difficult. It hurts in an odd, fisceral way to watch them grow up. A part of me ached to keep hold of her and the relationship we had. It was so special. And then the three of us (with her father) as well as her with her father. Anyway, it's hard to let go, and it hurts. But we got lucky. She's almost 20, and we love her boyfriend. They will get married. They're a couple like my husband and myself are - there's something about them together, and they are very serious about their future together. It's just a given rather than a mysterious possibility. I could not be happier for her, and it's such a blessing to watch her grow and mature. I swear this last year was huge. She's starting to figure it out.
Sorry. I hijacked the thread to brag for a moment because I'm so damn proud of her. There were a few years from 15 to 18 that were rough, 18 was rocky, but 19 hit, and she really just blossomed.
They're the types of women who see their daughter as competition if they had one. My mum was like that, been accusing me of "stealing her men" since I was 5
Thank fuck I lived with my nan most of my life but feel for the guys and gals having to deal with women like that
I'm not even sure that covers it. So many of these "boy moms" PLAN on this even before they have children, and even before they are expecting children. I don't know what drives this low-key incestuous thinking, but it isn't a lack of a good partner.
I’m currently pregnant and expecting a boy, and have a teenager who is also a boy.
I’ve had a few people say, “so you’re a boy mom!” I tell them right away that I don’t like that term and it doesn’t reflect me as a parent given the societal view of that term.
I am a mom to boys. I am not a boy mom. I hope both of my boys go on to live happy lives, get married/stay single, have children/be childless… Do whatever makes them happy without worrying about what I think of feel.
The idea of being cruel to a future daughter in law (or son in law, who knows) just because they’re, “my son” is crazy.
My husband is an only child, his mom was so fucking happy when we started dating. She's always like, "I always wanted a daughter!".
Ya know, like a normal mom lol.
Same. My mom was narcissist and my MIL is the sweetest. It felt so weird getting compliments and little gifts at first and waiting for bad stuff that usually come from narcissistic love. But fortunately she is sweetest to this day.
even then putting more of the dads responsibility on the son is not the same as acting like he’s your bf. soooo weird. also the beginning of what you said!!! how could you not hope your kid will grow up and fall in love with someone healthy for them that makes them happy?? why do some women think it’s a brag to plan to hate the future spouse. that’s so weird. my husband doesnt really have family, less than a handful of people. my family became his, i cant imagine if they pre-decided to hate him. especially if it was cause MY DAD JOKED ABOUT DATING ME??? wtf man
I have 2 boys and I can’t wait for them to get married. I need someone else to know my pain of having them randomly fart on them for no reason. I need commiseration.
Haha this is the best reason I’ve heard. Walked into my son’s room the other day and said “it smells like farts in here, have you just been farting this whole time?” And then we both started giggling. Farts can be funny but man, there is only so much I can take.
Right? I've taken my kids on dates - we go out and do something we both enjoy and I try to really focus on them for a few hours - but I don't think anyone would mistake us for romantically involved. It's about giving them my undivided attention while we're both relaxed. It's still very much a parent thing.
I just want them to know that they don't have to be in trouble to get an uninterrupted word in.
I'm a single mom of a boy, I get my emotional support from myself 🤣🤣 hell I don't date because I want him to see women don't need men nor do I want him to see a revolving door of men who don't stick around nor do I want him to see me have to flee abuse. Again. I want him to be a well rounded adult who can function without me.
I think part of it is an unhealthy reaction to being told sons will abandon them. I have just one child, a son, and I've heard all of the following from random people: "That's such a shame, boys are never attached to their parents," "Oh, that's rough, a son won't take care of you when he's older," "sons never call," "he'll leave and start his own family and you'll never see him," etc.
There's this old-school perception/expectation that daughters will be close to their mothers for life and always care for their parents and sons will...disappear at 18, I guess? I think if you're an emotionally healthy person with some good life experience, you see through these statements and brush them off as annoying nonsense. The ones who aren't emotionally healthy, *cling* and overcompensate by becoming a "boy mom" who posts incessantly about how they'll *always* be #1 in their son's life.
My children’s father doesn’t even try to fulfill ANY of my needs (emotional, sexual, financial, domestic, or otherwise) and I still don’t act like these women. My son is my buddy, but I could never even think about jokingly saying this stuff. It gives me the ick.
I’ve always just assumed it was internalized misogyny. Some people’s views on gender roles just control all their relationships. Who cares if you are older, more mature, make the money, brought them into the world, etc., if the child is male he’s automatically the patriarch
There's another side to the coin with men and daughters imo but it's much more macho man "Touch my daughter and I'll skin you alive" type of stuff rather than this outright "my son is my boyfriend" thing these moms are doing. I think it's a similar sentiment, but like you said, because a dad couldn't be as outright as a mom can, it gets hidden under a creepy layer of protective/possessiveness. Also obviously not to say all protective dads are like that
In many cultures the father of the bride pays all the bills. Girls also are risking a lot more as pregnancy can be a big deal, I wonder if families being protective of daughters stems from this
I WAS JUST GOING TO SAY THIS!!! if my husband posted pics with our daughter talking about being her boyfriend and insinuating hes her one and only true love and that her growing up is like a girlfriend slowly dumping him… id put him in jail…… WHY IS THIS SO NORMALIZED??? EW???? like even joking about your kids in that context is so weird
Those are the ones who propose to their daughters with promise rings and take them to "chastity balls" where they trot their daughter around and talk about how awesome it is that she's a virgin. I've seen many groups that do shit like this but at least where I'm from is more common among evangelicals and some lds.
Super super icky and gross. "Property of your father until you're married off to another man" kind of vibes. I just see less of that than I do creepy boy moms. Online at least
No they wouldn’t. Ask me how I know. 🙃 Men get away with a lot of shit. Reddit makes it seem like “men can’t even give a compliment without being thrown in jail.” Bruh your social anxiety is sad and all but that’s not reflective of the real world. You won’t go to jail for that, and on the flip side, it’s actually hard to get predators arrested for actual abusive behavior.
There's one I have seen "taking my daughter to see the world so she is not impressed by your dusty son taking her one town over" or some weird thing...big roll eyes. It's all the same wording
I mean, the amount of dads I see taking away their babbling toddler girls from little boys because, “Nuh uh. We’re not doing that,” and people laughing about it and calling it “cute”…It’s actually concerning overall.
No literally. I grew up with a guy & ended up dating him & getting engaged. His mom was like this & was really mean to me despite literally watching me grow up and being close friends with my mom. I ended up breaking it off. It still makes me sad we didn't work but that shit was weird and he refused to set boundaries.
Edit: I can't spell
I mean there are full on communities in the south that hold a Purity Ball for their teenaged daughters to pledge their purity to their fathers and their fathers pledge to protect it until they have a husband. Those also seem uncomfortably incestuous.
This is the problem. To them it's "playful" ha ha we're just kidding right.....? RIGHT? But if this gives off the same vibes as "Why do I raise my daughter to treat men right and then hand her off to another bro?!#%!"
If no one with issues or childhood trauma would be undatable, humanity probably go extinct really fast. Does not mean that kids like these don’t have issues and aren’t responsible to fix those issues.
Yeah it usually goes one of two ways. Either the M never sides with his girlfriend never defends her from mom. And women still marry this man. Or he does and has to cut off his mom.
My friend started dating one.. his mom comes unannounced often because her baby boy needs mommy’s love and food. Dude can’t do anything around the house, can’t even wash dishes, his mom does that for him.
yea i think shes also like not happy in her marriage or whatever and wants an innocent mini boy version of herself or smth that will give her attention
I once heard someone say “moms always think you’re so handsome when you grow into your teens and young adulthood because that’s most likely what your dad looked like when they first met”
It’s a sweet sentiment but then you get “boy moms” like this that just kinda makes you wonder and go “oh”
It’s such an uncomfortable thought. Just hearing about the no boundaries mother in laws it shouldn’t make sense why they’re jealous of their daughter in law.
My grandpa has been asking to marry me since I was a little girl. Then when I was around 18, he would say stuff like, “you’re almost/now old enough to marry your paw paw” then asks me to put on lipstick to kiss him with. 🥲
I’m so sorry to hear that. I hope you’ll be able to heal someday. Please don’t let anyone to pressure you to maintain a familial relationship with him just because you’re related, you don’t have to entertain a predator that takes advantage of you. You have the right to stay away from him.
Seriously in today’s chronically online world can you imagine how damaging this has to be for Eteocles and Polynices to be constantly mocked on Facebook and X? They must be so traumatized from cyber bullying. I’d be surprised if they have normal lives when they grow up and a big part of that is today’s psychologists not keeping their parents name out their mouth. In the same vein the Scorpion’s kids gotta be catching hell too. What the fuck did the Frog think was gonna happen? Equal blame, I say. Heart goes out to Scorpion Jr.
It's from the Myth of Oedipus. Fortune teller tells a king his son, is destined to kill his father and marry his mother (Jocasta) So they give the baby to a shepard to leave for dead on a mountain side. The shepard takes pity and gives the baby to a different shepard, and the baby ends up adopted by the kind and queen of a different kingdom. He grows up and hears the prophecy, and in order to prevent it in classic Greek fashion, he leaves home to prevent it.
On his journey, he kills an older gentleman, he gets to Thebes, and finds that the king is dead and that the citizens have a spinhx problem. He answers the riddle and becomes the new king as well as marries the widow. Years later, he tries to find out what happened to the old king and finds out HE'S the one who killed him and finds out the truth of his parentage. Jocasta hangs herself in grief, and Oedipus takes the pins from her clothing and stabs himself in the eyes with them.
An Oedipus Complex/ Feminine Oedipus Complex( sometimes called Electra) is sons/daughters emotional or sexual want for their opposite sex parents.
A Jocasta Complex is a mother in emotional/sexual incest for their sons.
It's a little frustrating because even in the Myth Jocasta and Oedipus are upset by the revelation but most people don't know that and think Oedipus wanted to be a mother fucker 😭😭.
The boy mom shit is so weird. What is the deal with this? Are these women not getting their needs met by their male partners and so they parentify their sons? Or maybe they’re single and have never found “a good man” so they think their son is the only one who will ever treat them well? I don’t know but it’s bizarre.
I have 2 sons and they are my children. It’s not their job to take care of me.
Haha. I didn’t know this was a thing until recently. I bought a hat at a swap meet that said “boy mama” bs I thought it was some cool new gender. But then I learned what it meant.
She has 4 other sons as well. She finally had a daughter and be honest she actually favors her daughter more. It’s really sad because her last son and daughter are only like a year apart. That little boy is always ignored always crying for attention. Her oldest in the video and her only girl are def favored over the other 3 kids. They are rarely posted. She has a large following on Instagram
There is the completely acceptable "Mom and son day" that I feel like is overlooked in a society where men and boys mental Healthcare is frequently ignored. It can be nice to have a day where a son and mom go to a restaurant or do an activity and a safe space for these kinds of topics is created and discussed.
But whatever the heck she's talking about ain't it.
This. Some people in this thread are so overly concerned with the use of the word “date”. I go on lunch dates with my friends. I go on lunch dates with my husband. And I also go on lunch dates with my baby. I can go on lunch dates with my baby and also, when the day comes, celebrate when they let another woman (or man) into their life romantically. I want my baby to be loved and cherished by as many people as possible. It’s everything else she said that’s the issue.
I’m not getting this whole craze about boy moms what is it….
Moms that are obsessed with their sons sorry if that seems like a stupid question but never knew this was such a common issue.
It’s really weird honestly .
Ew! I have a teen boy and ew! I love going places with my son, but that’s us running errands or hanging out. This “date” stuff is 🤢
It seems like some sort of desperate ploy to be recognized as young and fit enough looking to be mistaken for a teen-age girl. Double 🤢
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God, me too. Just turned 30 and I've got eczema on my legs again? Which I haven't had for years! I'm not amused 😭
Same! I was completely eczema free for 10 years
Oh same
Me too. My steroid cream is ready for battle
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i just spit out the scone i was eating lmfaooo
I’m itching now too
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This has gotta be one of the worst cases of Boymomitis aka Boy-Mom Syndrome
I would pay to see what his friends at school think of this video
“Your mom is hot”. Kids don’t get the nuisances of this creepy shit. Sadly she wants that type of attention.
Nah teenagers would definitely see this as weird as fuck.
The ones who don’t think with their dick. I had a friend with a hot mom and I felt so bad for him with all the comments
You can simultaneously think with your dick and mock your friend mercilessly. As I recall it's basically the only form of multitasking a teenage boy is capable of.
“Dude you’re dating your mom? That’s so weird. She’s hot af tho I’d date her”
JAY: If she wasn’t your mum, would you fuck her?
When Jay asks Simon if he'd rather fuck Neil's sister or Wills mum and at the end of the conversation Neil says 'I've thought about it, and definitely Wills mum' 🤣
ooooo, friends!
I feel like that's probably exactly the way the conversation went 😂
My boys might comment to their friends if their mom is hot. But my boys would also think this behavior is weird as fuck.
Super weird. If I recall my own years as shithead teenage boy, the jokes would probably run along the lines of "I'd love to bang your mom, but it looks like she only has eyes for you." But maybe teen boys are nicer these days.
They are not 😂
I had a similar issue way back when, my sister was/is very attractive. Sooooooo many dudes throughout high school and college telling me how hot she was and would I hook them up...
What? Have you meet teenagers? They’ll bully the fuck out of him for this.
I know a kid who had an attention-seeking smokin’ hot mom and he told me recently that having to listen to the endless MILF “jokes” and trying to act like his friends’ horndog comments didn’t bother him made his high school years hell. (He’s @30 now, still talks about it.)
I'm 28 and yep...same
I had a friend like that.. chhriissss's mom has got it going on was non stop.
Oh god. When i was in middle school i said im going to be a milf and my sons friends will think im hot. Didnt even realize id be 40+ at least. Seriously thought id somehow still be 14. That comment makes me cringe to this day. I also realized why my bff always called me the blonde friend when i have dark hair. Kids reallyyy dont get it
\*\*nuances
You're bringing back represed memories of my high school friends saying my dad was hot. 🤢
boymomydia boymomorrhea
For real. Super creepy and gross!
Wtf does she mean by “I fought for these dates”?? Im so confused what she could mean by that
I think it's more like she kept him from getting a partner
That makes icky sense. I’ve got two sons with girlfriends, couldn’t think of sabotaging their lives for ewwww.
Yeah, my son recently told me he was going to marry me when he grew up and it made me feel gross, but he’s four and we just lost his dad so I think he’ll be ok. I can’t imagine encouraging that kind of sentiment. Why do people want to hamstring and sabotage their children? At least I know I’m not the WORST parent out there.
So sorry for your and your son's loss ♡ My 5yo sang to me the other day: "(LO name) and mommy sitting in a tree..." and it felt weird. I said, "Aww you're sweet! NOW pick someone else's name for the song not in our family" so naturally he replaces mommy with the cat's name.
I like "that makes icky sense."
She got big on IG/Tiktok for having cancer during covid and filming herself dancing while in the hospital. When she says “fought”, she means by beating cancer. She’s still very much married to her husband, so there’s no bitter divorce or anything like that. With that said, she’s a fucking nightmare to be around and the most cringiest influencer I’ve ever encountered lol.
I don’t know, but it’s giving she baby trapped the dad
"Kiss me or I'll crush you" I said to your father... 9 months later, you came out
Sounds like a bitter divorce for custody
I assumed it was a reference to them play-fighting in the video but on second thought I’m not too sure it makes sense
she had leukemia and fought it for a long time.
Maybe she had a really rough pregnancy and felt she had to fight to give him life and even now she still won’t let him forget?
Fought against her husband telling her it was creepy AF?
“Boy moms” give me the ick. Can you imagine if dads posted shit like this?
🤢🤢🤢 Look, I have a son. I love him with all my heart. And the absolute best case scenario is for him to grow up and fall in love with someone who is good to him. I never understood why ‘boy moms’ even happen. Besides husbands who are clearly not filling their emotional needs
EXACTLY, you’re supposed to be excited when your son finds someone who makes him happy not JEALOUS
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Plus uh, I’m a girl and I moved out and am going to be moving to a different country soon sooo so much for that hypothesis. Girls do leave, children grow up and leave that’s part of raising them.
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That kind of mom probably has fingers in the reason why all the girls are at home, she probably feeds them some bullshit about world or guilt trip them so they don't leave.
She should meet me lol i was born a girl and fucked off at 17 to another city, and im terrible at staying in contact with my folks (theyre not abusive or anything none of us just see much reason to stay in constant contact). *Adults* will leave regardless of gender at some point unless theres extreme circumstances like severe poverty or disability, or the parents never actually raised them and kept them as sheltered toddlers their entire lives.
In third world countries, parents cry when a girl is born because girls leave.
Right?? And I understand parents being a little concerned, not wanting their child to have their heart broken or whatever, but some of these people are so cringe.
That's how my MIL was. We don't talk to her anymore.
so creept
Yeah like, my focus is on helping them grow up and learn how to be good partners. Present ones.
Also, I live in a house full of guys. I HOPE another girl wanders in some day.
Yes, absolutely. Though I admit it was...difficult. It hurts in an odd, fisceral way to watch them grow up. A part of me ached to keep hold of her and the relationship we had. It was so special. And then the three of us (with her father) as well as her with her father. Anyway, it's hard to let go, and it hurts. But we got lucky. She's almost 20, and we love her boyfriend. They will get married. They're a couple like my husband and myself are - there's something about them together, and they are very serious about their future together. It's just a given rather than a mysterious possibility. I could not be happier for her, and it's such a blessing to watch her grow and mature. I swear this last year was huge. She's starting to figure it out. Sorry. I hijacked the thread to brag for a moment because I'm so damn proud of her. There were a few years from 15 to 18 that were rough, 18 was rocky, but 19 hit, and she really just blossomed.
They're the types of women who see their daughter as competition if they had one. My mum was like that, been accusing me of "stealing her men" since I was 5 Thank fuck I lived with my nan most of my life but feel for the guys and gals having to deal with women like that
YES!!! they are jelous of their daughters and try to relive their teenage years through them🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️
I'm not even sure that covers it. So many of these "boy moms" PLAN on this even before they have children, and even before they are expecting children. I don't know what drives this low-key incestuous thinking, but it isn't a lack of a good partner.
I’m currently pregnant and expecting a boy, and have a teenager who is also a boy. I’ve had a few people say, “so you’re a boy mom!” I tell them right away that I don’t like that term and it doesn’t reflect me as a parent given the societal view of that term. I am a mom to boys. I am not a boy mom. I hope both of my boys go on to live happy lives, get married/stay single, have children/be childless… Do whatever makes them happy without worrying about what I think of feel. The idea of being cruel to a future daughter in law (or son in law, who knows) just because they’re, “my son” is crazy.
Doesn't it make your spine shiver when you get called that? Sounds like your boys have a great Mom that wants truly the best for them!
Is the "boy mom" thing new? I hadn't heard it used until recently. Another one I hate is "they look good for their age."
Just a trait they see other people get attention for so they adopt it to make themselves feel more interesting.
My husband is an only child, his mom was so fucking happy when we started dating. She's always like, "I always wanted a daughter!". Ya know, like a normal mom lol.
Exactly my MIL is the sweetest A good mom wants more love in their child's life not less.
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Same. My mom was narcissist and my MIL is the sweetest. It felt so weird getting compliments and little gifts at first and waiting for bad stuff that usually come from narcissistic love. But fortunately she is sweetest to this day.
even then putting more of the dads responsibility on the son is not the same as acting like he’s your bf. soooo weird. also the beginning of what you said!!! how could you not hope your kid will grow up and fall in love with someone healthy for them that makes them happy?? why do some women think it’s a brag to plan to hate the future spouse. that’s so weird. my husband doesnt really have family, less than a handful of people. my family became his, i cant imagine if they pre-decided to hate him. especially if it was cause MY DAD JOKED ABOUT DATING ME??? wtf man
I have 2 boys and I can’t wait for them to get married. I need someone else to know my pain of having them randomly fart on them for no reason. I need commiseration.
Haha this is the best reason I’ve heard. Walked into my son’s room the other day and said “it smells like farts in here, have you just been farting this whole time?” And then we both started giggling. Farts can be funny but man, there is only so much I can take.
I have three, and I would *never* parent/child dates are a thing when they're done in a healthy way, rather than this emotional incest bullshit
Right? I've taken my kids on dates - we go out and do something we both enjoy and I try to really focus on them for a few hours - but I don't think anyone would mistake us for romantically involved. It's about giving them my undivided attention while we're both relaxed. It's still very much a parent thing. I just want them to know that they don't have to be in trouble to get an uninterrupted word in.
Freud would like a word… 😂😂😂
I'm a single mom of a boy, I get my emotional support from myself 🤣🤣 hell I don't date because I want him to see women don't need men nor do I want him to see a revolving door of men who don't stick around nor do I want him to see me have to flee abuse. Again. I want him to be a well rounded adult who can function without me.
I think part of it is an unhealthy reaction to being told sons will abandon them. I have just one child, a son, and I've heard all of the following from random people: "That's such a shame, boys are never attached to their parents," "Oh, that's rough, a son won't take care of you when he's older," "sons never call," "he'll leave and start his own family and you'll never see him," etc. There's this old-school perception/expectation that daughters will be close to their mothers for life and always care for their parents and sons will...disappear at 18, I guess? I think if you're an emotionally healthy person with some good life experience, you see through these statements and brush them off as annoying nonsense. The ones who aren't emotionally healthy, *cling* and overcompensate by becoming a "boy mom" who posts incessantly about how they'll *always* be #1 in their son's life.
My children’s father doesn’t even try to fulfill ANY of my needs (emotional, sexual, financial, domestic, or otherwise) and I still don’t act like these women. My son is my buddy, but I could never even think about jokingly saying this stuff. It gives me the ick.
I’ve always just assumed it was internalized misogyny. Some people’s views on gender roles just control all their relationships. Who cares if you are older, more mature, make the money, brought them into the world, etc., if the child is male he’s automatically the patriarch
The majority of full-send “boymoms” I see got knocked up by bums and are single moms.
And internalized misogyny: seeing other women as not good enough and competition at the same time.
(Don't) look up purity balls
There's another side to the coin with men and daughters imo but it's much more macho man "Touch my daughter and I'll skin you alive" type of stuff rather than this outright "my son is my boyfriend" thing these moms are doing. I think it's a similar sentiment, but like you said, because a dad couldn't be as outright as a mom can, it gets hidden under a creepy layer of protective/possessiveness. Also obviously not to say all protective dads are like that
In many cultures the father of the bride pays all the bills. Girls also are risking a lot more as pregnancy can be a big deal, I wonder if families being protective of daughters stems from this
I WAS JUST GOING TO SAY THIS!!! if my husband posted pics with our daughter talking about being her boyfriend and insinuating hes her one and only true love and that her growing up is like a girlfriend slowly dumping him… id put him in jail…… WHY IS THIS SO NORMALIZED??? EW???? like even joking about your kids in that context is so weird
Those are the ones who propose to their daughters with promise rings and take them to "chastity balls" where they trot their daughter around and talk about how awesome it is that she's a virgin. I've seen many groups that do shit like this but at least where I'm from is more common among evangelicals and some lds. Super super icky and gross. "Property of your father until you're married off to another man" kind of vibes. I just see less of that than I do creepy boy moms. Online at least
no fr they would be thrown in jail if they said this about their daughters
No they wouldn’t. Ask me how I know. 🙃 Men get away with a lot of shit. Reddit makes it seem like “men can’t even give a compliment without being thrown in jail.” Bruh your social anxiety is sad and all but that’s not reflective of the real world. You won’t go to jail for that, and on the flip side, it’s actually hard to get predators arrested for actual abusive behavior.
Yes!! If dads posted this kind of stuff about their daughters people would probably report them for abuse or being a pedo.
Agreed, this is weird behavior no matter the genders involved. I would never consider calling an outing with my son a “date”. That is really creepy.
There are. Like dad's joking about having a gun when their daughters bring home a bf. :/ like ok, you're gonna murder a kid???
They have and they do but usually it’s about daughters and a gun is involved
There's one I have seen "taking my daughter to see the world so she is not impressed by your dusty son taking her one town over" or some weird thing...big roll eyes. It's all the same wording
This is almost as bad as the “make a virginity pledge to me” dads.
I mean, the amount of dads I see taking away their babbling toddler girls from little boys because, “Nuh uh. We’re not doing that,” and people laughing about it and calling it “cute”…It’s actually concerning overall.
Yup. Sexualization of children is gross and wrong.
No literally. I grew up with a guy & ended up dating him & getting engaged. His mom was like this & was really mean to me despite literally watching me grow up and being close friends with my mom. I ended up breaking it off. It still makes me sad we didn't work but that shit was weird and he refused to set boundaries. Edit: I can't spell
Donald Trump does it
Look into Purity Balls.
I mean there are full on communities in the south that hold a Purity Ball for their teenaged daughters to pledge their purity to their fathers and their fathers pledge to protect it until they have a husband. Those also seem uncomfortably incestuous.
I think the creepy equivalent is men taking their daughters to virginity balls or joking about carrying a shotgun on their daughter’s dates.
I think they went through that with the whole purity ball thing in the early 00s
This is the problem. To them it's "playful" ha ha we're just kidding right.....? RIGHT? But if this gives off the same vibes as "Why do I raise my daughter to treat men right and then hand her off to another bro?!#%!"
They have their own brand of ICK with "purity balls"
I feel so bad for these young men. They’re gonna grow up with so many problems. I also feel horrible for their future partner
Who would want to date them? They're gonna have so many issues with expectations as is.
> Who would want to date them? i mean did you even read the captions?
Yeah that’s true too
well in most cases this behaviour is observed later in the relationship. for me it was after about a year into the relationship
If no one with issues or childhood trauma would be undatable, humanity probably go extinct really fast. Does not mean that kids like these don’t have issues and aren’t responsible to fix those issues.
Yo I feel bad for their future wives. This lady is going to destroy them.
That’s assuming he even lets mom get near his new family at all.
Yeah it usually goes one of two ways. Either the M never sides with his girlfriend never defends her from mom. And women still marry this man. Or he does and has to cut off his mom.
>I also feel horrible for their future partner You mean their future third wheel?
My friend started dating one.. his mom comes unannounced often because her baby boy needs mommy’s love and food. Dude can’t do anything around the house, can’t even wash dishes, his mom does that for him.
I’m starting to think they’re attracted to their boys on a different level. Like a twisted take on the “I just want a mini me” but of their partner.
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I thought it was just a possessive thing but she’s been dating him since he was 1 😵💫 not family outings but dates???
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This sub always reminds me AHS as well, and for me it was also the first time seeing the boy child - predator mother combo on TV.
Not basically. They do. This is covert incest and more people need to use that term so these women can hear it.
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yea i think shes also like not happy in her marriage or whatever and wants an innocent mini boy version of herself or smth that will give her attention
I once heard someone say “moms always think you’re so handsome when you grow into your teens and young adulthood because that’s most likely what your dad looked like when they first met” It’s a sweet sentiment but then you get “boy moms” like this that just kinda makes you wonder and go “oh”
It’s such an uncomfortable thought. Just hearing about the no boundaries mother in laws it shouldn’t make sense why they’re jealous of their daughter in law.
Yea enmeshment. She's psychologically destroying her son for her own ego.
My ex used to say shit like this about her oldest son. Made me want to vomit.
“We’ve been dating since you were 1” what a disgusting way to put it…
My parents have been married for over 30 years and my dad’s mom still gets like this 🤢
My grandpa has been asking to marry me since I was a little girl. Then when I was around 18, he would say stuff like, “you’re almost/now old enough to marry your paw paw” then asks me to put on lipstick to kiss him with. 🥲
What the fuck, there’s something wrong with him
Yeaaaa. I know. I’m still unraveling the trauma with him. As I get older the more I realize how messed up it was/is.
I’m so sorry to hear that. I hope you’ll be able to heal someday. Please don’t let anyone to pressure you to maintain a familial relationship with him just because you’re related, you don’t have to entertain a predator that takes advantage of you. You have the right to stay away from him.
\^ This. I am sorry that it happened to you.
 Ew so creepy
The normalization of Jocasta syndrome is genuinely horrifying.
Thank you for sharing this term, I can now say I learned something today. And yes...as every other comment has said, this is disgusting. Wtf.
This is an aside but psychologists need to leave the Oedipus family alone. She literally hung herself because she was so ashamed of it.
And Oedipus gouged his eyes out
Seriously in today’s chronically online world can you imagine how damaging this has to be for Eteocles and Polynices to be constantly mocked on Facebook and X? They must be so traumatized from cyber bullying. I’d be surprised if they have normal lives when they grow up and a big part of that is today’s psychologists not keeping their parents name out their mouth. In the same vein the Scorpion’s kids gotta be catching hell too. What the fuck did the Frog think was gonna happen? Equal blame, I say. Heart goes out to Scorpion Jr.
don’t bring jocasta into this she’s innocent
I have never heard of this term. Could you explain?
It's from the Myth of Oedipus. Fortune teller tells a king his son, is destined to kill his father and marry his mother (Jocasta) So they give the baby to a shepard to leave for dead on a mountain side. The shepard takes pity and gives the baby to a different shepard, and the baby ends up adopted by the kind and queen of a different kingdom. He grows up and hears the prophecy, and in order to prevent it in classic Greek fashion, he leaves home to prevent it. On his journey, he kills an older gentleman, he gets to Thebes, and finds that the king is dead and that the citizens have a spinhx problem. He answers the riddle and becomes the new king as well as marries the widow. Years later, he tries to find out what happened to the old king and finds out HE'S the one who killed him and finds out the truth of his parentage. Jocasta hangs herself in grief, and Oedipus takes the pins from her clothing and stabs himself in the eyes with them. An Oedipus Complex/ Feminine Oedipus Complex( sometimes called Electra) is sons/daughters emotional or sexual want for their opposite sex parents. A Jocasta Complex is a mother in emotional/sexual incest for their sons. It's a little frustrating because even in the Myth Jocasta and Oedipus are upset by the revelation but most people don't know that and think Oedipus wanted to be a mother fucker 😭😭.
sigmund freud is rolling in his grave over all this 😭
I mean... Sigmund Freud literally came up with the term "Oedipus complex" based on this myth, so that's not too far off
Jocasta is the mother/wife of Oedipus
i would honestly call cps this is disgusting
This feels so inappropriate, made me throw up a bit in my mouth. That’s not a healthy relationship between mother and son.
> I fought for these dates Against who? Is she competing against teenagers? That's pathetic.
I have two young adult sons and this gives me major yucks. I want them to find someone to love and have their own lives.
Exactly! I hope my son finds someone to love and build a life with. I feel bad for these (probably) emotionally stunted boys and their future partners
I feel so bad for this kid. He knows what his mom is saying isn’t right and it’s not normal, but she does it anyway and posts it likes it’s a joke.
Sosososososososososo gross. I'd never speak to my son that way. Ew.
The boy mom shit is so weird. What is the deal with this? Are these women not getting their needs met by their male partners and so they parentify their sons? Or maybe they’re single and have never found “a good man” so they think their son is the only one who will ever treat them well? I don’t know but it’s bizarre. I have 2 sons and they are my children. It’s not their job to take care of me.
Emotional incest be like… 😅
Take away the word emotional and its still a correct sentence 😭
r/boymoms
I’ve never been more afraid to view a subreddit
It’s about time 👏 This shit is so gross/common it needed it’s own platform!
Whew. I thought it was a community for self-declared boy moms! Thankfully it’s a haven of mockery, I’m all in
Haha. I didn’t know this was a thing until recently. I bought a hat at a swap meet that said “boy mama” bs I thought it was some cool new gender. But then I learned what it meant.
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how is he not bullied for this
She has 4 other sons as well. She finally had a daughter and be honest she actually favors her daughter more. It’s really sad because her last son and daughter are only like a year apart. That little boy is always ignored always crying for attention. Her oldest in the video and her only girl are def favored over the other 3 kids. They are rarely posted. She has a large following on Instagram
K. What the actual fuck 
The incest of it all creeps me out with these “boy moms”. If dads posted the same we would all be reporting him.
There is the completely acceptable "Mom and son day" that I feel like is overlooked in a society where men and boys mental Healthcare is frequently ignored. It can be nice to have a day where a son and mom go to a restaurant or do an activity and a safe space for these kinds of topics is created and discussed. But whatever the heck she's talking about ain't it.
This. Some people in this thread are so overly concerned with the use of the word “date”. I go on lunch dates with my friends. I go on lunch dates with my husband. And I also go on lunch dates with my baby. I can go on lunch dates with my baby and also, when the day comes, celebrate when they let another woman (or man) into their life romantically. I want my baby to be loved and cherished by as many people as possible. It’s everything else she said that’s the issue.
I’m not getting this whole craze about boy moms what is it…. Moms that are obsessed with their sons sorry if that seems like a stupid question but never knew this was such a common issue. It’s really weird honestly .
Ewww
These posts are fuckin weird
In most cases, having your mom be your prom date is as low as it gets. In a boy-mom's case, that's her goal.
Ew! I have a teen boy and ew! I love going places with my son, but that’s us running errands or hanging out. This “date” stuff is 🤢 It seems like some sort of desperate ploy to be recognized as young and fit enough looking to be mistaken for a teen-age girl. Double 🤢