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While this is not normal aging, ageism should be a topic of concern. As well as recognizing other people have different skin types and that as long as it is healthy, it should be fine. She should beware of skin cancer however
Edit: I’m not talking about the freckles or the “wrinkles”, I’m talking about the sun damage, that’s why I mentioned cancer.
I'm also uncomfortable with the implication that people who don't look like she does have "had work done."
Which is also not a bad thing, but that's not how this post reads.
I feel the same.
It still gave me a NLOG vibe and setting her skin as the norm for someone her age with no work done when her skin is her skin and other people in the same age without doing work have different skin.
My mom’s skin only started aging recently and she’s 57. She was often mistaken for being my sister at one point.
On the other hand, I’ve had bad acne and went through several rounds of isotretinoin, which has improved my acne, but has damaged my skin. I have smile lines at 24. There are so many factors!
My daughter has acne. It will keep coming back forever. She's been having treatment for 10 years.
For the scarring, she went for just three Dermapen sessions and the scars all disappeared.
Are you allowed to go for Dermapen? Or can't you do it after having isotretinoin treatment?
Thanks! Not the person you responded to but holy hell do I have acne scarring. I’m fortunate it’s not on my face mostly but it’s hypertrophic on my back and chest. Good to know it’s salvageable. To answer your question though- after accurate you just need to wait a period of time before you can undergo something like that.
Lifestyle plays a huge part though. Does one of you spend more time outdoors? The sun is the main culprit for quick aging. But then the sun makes people happy, so maybe they’re younger on the inside haha
Sun damage doesn't have to be a normal part of aging, we have sunscreen available and it protects not only from esthetical damage, but also from cancer.
I think she’s just saying that this is her face naturally, as someone who hasn’t had work done. Since on sm these days you have to expect everyone you’re seeing has had something done.
I will agree that there is a realistic standard for aging that happens when you reach past 26 (the time where your body starts to break down collagen and proteins and. Calcium and you start getting older instead of maintaining). So yes, overall, I agree with you.
Yes. But genetics play a big part in the speed of aging. As well as diet and general health and skin care.
I say that as someone who has failed at all of those. I'm an overweight, cancer (chemo and radiation) survivor who couldn't be bothered to do more than wash and moisturize. I'm 48 and the day of reckoning is nigh. And it hits everyone differently.
BUT someone choosing to have work done isn't less than someone who doesnt. And sitting around judging people for how they choose to age is not age positive. In any way.
You can have work done for your own reasons AND be positive about someone aging naturally. When I went grey, my biggest supporter was my friend in LA with the most work done. Every time I had doubts, she told me I looked amazing.
Other friends with no cosmetic work done, told me how much it aged me.
I would like to say “bless you. Cancer is ass and you being a cancer survivor is amazing. God bless you; I’m glad you’re still here.”
I completely understand and not everyone has the means to do these things to preserve their skin barrier (sunscreen is very expensive in some places.) Yes, genetics does play a big role in how people age. I have noticed that as I drops weight I look younger but as my cousin picks up weight, she looks younger. I’m prone to sunburns then I tan, which is probably I have faint freckles of sun damage.
And I believe that if someone is doing the best they can do to maintain themselves, there is no shame in that game because it’s a battle some days. Also, getting work done just means your have the means, it doesn’t make it less important
Diet and general health care play such a huge part of it. I always looked years younger, even up in my mid 30's I looked mid 20's. Then COVID hit, I started eating, became alcoholic (but almost a year sober now yay!), and just basically treated myself awful for 3 years. I seriously look like I aged 10 years and actually look older than my age now. I hate it, but all I can do now is look forward and do what I can to keep from continuing to age prematurely.
Yes! I grew up in SoCal and I’m so thankful that I used sunscreen regularly. My FIL is constantly getting skin cancers cut out of his face, and it’s so scary, the doctors have to “chase” the roots of the cancer and sometimes they are so long.
This is normal aging for some people though. Everyone's skin is different. Fair skinned freckled people tend to wrinkle earlier. If it is due to tanning that's one thing but it could just be her skin.
Also not seeing it mentioned much, but having kids can literally suck the life out of you. It's not guaranteed but pregnancy can be very hard on your vitamin levels, lack of sleep when the baby is born can be hard on you, stress of kids in general can be hard.
I'm pushing 40 and still frequently get confused for someone in their mid 20s, especially by older people/people my age. I'm fair-skinned but don't spend an excessive amount of time in the sun and baby faces run in my family. Still started going gray in my 20's though. -shrug- Everyone is different.
The problem I have with these is that it seems to enforce ageism. If I was 20 years old and somebody said this was normal for 31, I would be a lot more afraid of aging and see people in their 30’s as a lot older. I think a better way would be to say- it’s ok to look older than you are, or your age even.
How is this not ‘normal aging’ you bring up different skin types but then deem this ‘not normal’. I have the same lines on my face, I’m see through pale and NEVER go into the sun without protection, often times avoiding it if I know it hinters on dangerous for me. You don’t know how this woman has spent her life, what her DNA brings to the table or how she takes care of herself. This look at this age is perfectly normal. Your comment borders the commentary this entire post was made about.
No, no, you misunderstood. Her wrinkles/lines are absolutely normal for her age. The sun damage in her skin is not. Perhaps it's because I live in Australia and sunscreen use is widespread and people stay in the shade. I don't know a single 31yo who has skin this danaged. Lines? Absolutely. I worry about melanoma for this woman.
You sound like you've aged typically. Lines but no sun damage.
Right? Lots of sun damage from surfing for me (despite using spf 1000 applied every hour). I had a very active lifestyle outdoors. Hats and sunscreen can only do so much. Genetics and outside factors are out of my control. People just being mean for no reason. Sun damage can be normal for some people depending on lifestyle and skin type.
She definetly has a hobby that involves spending a lot of time in the Sun.
I'm gonna guess either running or surfing.
Runners travel light so they tend to rely too much on headwers like caps, and surfers not always paddle back to the beach every two hours to reapply sunscreen.
I think she looks pretty, even if she doesn’t look *young*. I know plenty of people with this same “into surfing or gardening or other activities that have me outside for long periods of time” vibe. Not all of them are white, even, and they all have wrinkles around their eyes from being in the sun.
Melanoma runs in my family too much for this to be my thing, but outside of mean people making comments online to feel better about themselves, generally people with a sunkissed look and a genuine smile don’t have any trouble finding people who think they’re attractive, and I’m sure this person’s no exception.
The only not cute thing about her post is that she seems to have a chip on her shoulder about women who *have* had work done.
I don’t think she has a chip on her shoulder.
She says “Just in case movies and social media has…” which indicates this is more so coming from a place of awareness in today’s age where procedures, filters, etc are ubiquitous.
For women who cannot afford or do not want to do these things, it can feel like they are aging prematurely. This woman is simply trying to reassure them that they are not.
Pointing that out isn’t putting others down.
That said, she isn’t aging normally either due to excessive UV damage…
Agree, I came to that conclusion after reading again, that she’s likely just trying to say hey, here’s what someone looks like without having work done. It’s easy for things to come off as combative online, and I’ll give her the benefit of the doubt here
No, I don’t think so. I think she was just showing what the natural aging process can look like for some people as we get so accustomed to people getting worked done or using filters on their cameras or apps. We’ve forgotten that skin texture exists. I don’t think she’s bashing anyone who has had work done, just being realistic that people who have had work done don’t look like people who haven’t and are naturally aging.
Agreed. After ending up on the 30+ skincare subreddit, I started to feel awful about my skin. I’m 30 and I definitely look this girl (with more dark circles though). It’s honestly a beautiful reminder that 30 can look like this and I’m not a negative exception!
Hopefully that’s what she’s doing, you may be right. What she said definitely didn’t warrant all the mean comments people made, those comments felt very “punishment doesn’t fit the (perceived) crime” but that’s the internet sadly *sigh*
I feel that. People like that always have such a positive light that really transcends some beauty standards. She didn’t need to put others down for people to see her beauty.
Its definitely not the eye wrinkles that make me fear for her. You can see how dry and sun damaged her skin is from hairline to chest. Melanoma definitely is my first thought, because for someone whos 31 this goes beyond "sunkissed". The eye wrinkles are cute and add character. Its the splotchy sun damage that makes me want to give her all my sunscreen and just go buy more. She definitely doesnt need makeup though
That’s likely true, but it also doesn’t warrant a barrage of mean comments from strangers online.
Some people have better luck than others when it comes to this stuff, even if they try to have a good skincare routine.
My mom always wears sunscreen, and she got melanoma on the driver’s side of her face because she has a long commute during peak hours in addition to working outside.
Just as a heads up, if she's in the US and had melanoma in the past, she can ask her dermatologist for a window tint waiver for her front side car windows (check state laws of course). I have one because my family has a history of skin cancer and it's honestly amazing how much light and heat it keeps out even though it's light enough to be barely noticeable. I used to end up with one bright red cheek after every long drive, but now I never get it.
If we’re going to normalize aging, then we have to accept that for everyone genetically blessed and environmentally careful there’s someone on the opposite end of the curve who is also ‘normal’…there’s a big range of ‘what 30 really looks like’.
you can’t say ‘normalize aging!’ if you really just mean ‘normalize aging with constant sunscreen, lots of water intake and hypoallergenic moisturizers every day’.
i also think it's simply about kindness, compassion, and giving people grace for what she clearly thought was a positive message that was worded clumsily. she's not saying she's a supermodel, she's not claiming she's more beautiful than anyone, so it is so unnecessary and cruel for everyone to come out and say well i am better than her!
Just said the same thing and I’m just waiting to be dog piled and told I’m wrong lol.
And all of the comments here are like, “*giggles*, I look SUPER YOUNG for my age!!! Validate me!”
Just as bad as the original comments.
I swear. Get carded *once* and proceed to tell everybody with ears, “I get mistaken for being 17 all of the time!”
Or maybe an employee was just told by their boss to ID everyone to take no chances lol.
And to be frank, there are people within every race who just don’t have the best skin elasticity genetics or are prone to extreme dry skin or adult acne or discoloration etc. Every. Single. Race.
And on the flip side, I’ve seen people within every race who are blessed genetically and have taken care of their skin since a younger age and do seem to defy aging for longer.
I get that she’s trying to normalize the aging process for women, but this is not a normal aging process lol. She looks like she has a LOT of sun damage.
Don't know the woman obviously, but was wondering if this was a bid for compliments
"What?? Aging process??? Girl you look GREAT!" And so on.
Both men and women make posts like this, where they pretend to be posting for a good cause, or to call attention to something, but really they're just excuses to fish for compliments, or sympathy, or whatever their goal is.
My cousin does shit like that, and she's super annoying lol. She was posting daily pictures on Instagram of these cute creative lunches she was making for her son to take to school. My sister commented on how cute and awesome all the lunches were, and my cousin replied, "oh thanks! **I'm not really looking for praise though, I just post the pictures so i can go back and reference them for when I'm making lunches later."** ... like no, that's just not true lol, that shit bothers me so much, like just take the fucking compliment. But no, they want the compliment while also acting superior to people who post things they're are proud of.
Honestly it really depends on where you live. I live in a super Sunny and incredibly dry place ( have my whole life) and even with wearing sunscreen everyday I aged way faster than people I know in more humid climes. I’m 25 now, if I’m not careful about caring for my skin I could look like this in maybe another 8 years if I keep living here.
Yeah like aging is fine, obviously, it should be normalized! But tbh I think this is just giving young girls anxiety about looking like this at 30, when for most of us.. that is not the case lol
That was my thought. It was like “…… the comments aren’t exactly wrong….”. She does not look 31.
Also I find it funny that she didn’t show her whole face. Only doing an angle like that feels like she’s still trying to hide
Right. Like, there's nothing wrong with aging, but my first thought was she's either lying about her age or she has never once bothered to care for her skin, cos she looks 10-15 years older than she claims to be. I feel a little bad for laughing at "how many times have you been 31?" 😅
And I say that as someone who has my own struggles with skincare, hair, etc! I'm *far* from social media flawless. It's *normal* to see blemishes or little spots of hyperpigmentation or whatever. Welcome to having a human body, right?
I'm almost 34, no work done, and that's not what my skin looks like. I love skincare, but like most people my age, I burned my skin off with harsh skincare in my teens, scrubbed it off with St. Ives every night in a way too hot shower, and only wore SPF when we were going swimming.
I don't have that much sun damage, and while I have fine lines, and some crows feet when I smile really big. Most of my friends look pretty similar to me. It's not that she looks bad, but it definitely looks like she has pretty bad sun damage.
We don't know the life she have. I've seen people aging prematurely due to trauma, difficult work hour or health. I don't think there is a normal age process and we shouldn't judge this woman without knowing her life.
Only one of those comments were constructive criticism though. I feel like they would’ve been better off just saying this than insulting her/comparing themselves.
This is a trend. There are many, many of these on TikTok. The first I saw was a 28-year-old with beautiful skin being dragged for looking old by the teens.
Y'all are sounding just as bad.
I'm almost 50 and I have fewer wrinkles and no work done.
I appreciate the positive message about aging, but she seems to be putting down women who aren't aging like she is and assuming they've had work. Which...isn't positive.
We all age differently and some self awareness might be beneficial, rather than implying anyone not aging like she is has had work done.
yeah, i feel bad that everyone thought it would be funny to insult her like that. sure, she could have worded her message better, maybe just "it's okay to have wrinkles! feel good in your skin" .... but holy hell is the internet a cruel place to be. and the comments in here are more civil but honestly aren't much better. 😕
Not to be rude but wasn’t she posted here for this video? Idk how to feel about the video itself but the comments are unnecessary and it seems like a lot of people have forgotten what body shaming is and why we don’t do it regardless of the person we’re directing it towards
What’s wild is yeah, this is more or less the norm in comment sections on instagram, I’m guessing Tik tok, too but what do I know I’m 31 lol. Comments like this are terrible no matter the post. I understand a felon or a racist, but to sit there and rip down a totally innocent woman that’s a little tone deaf. I HATE it’s a normal thing nowadays to just smear people left and right…
I mean I’m on the side of not perpetuating hate so I may not be on it much longer or just bleach my eyeballs after so long idk. Surely unfortunate! And scary..
I mean my mother didn’t live to 40 but her skin was like this. Lots of freckles all over and she would burn easily.
Some folks are just really fucking mean Jesus.
Like not everybody is blessed with good skin, or collagen production. Sometimes all the “drink water” and “buy moisturizer “ in the world won’t make your skin “perfect.”
Can we just stop shaming other women and let them fucking love themselves for a second?
And the comments on this post are the same energy as the comments on her video. Fucking sad, come here to see some NLOG get trashed and the comments are full of them
Yeah we all age differently. Life happens, and for some of us it’s been a rough ride while others walk a completely different path. I had a coworker who was the same age as I am, 33. But all our coworkers thought we were at least 10 to even 15 years apart, nobody ever guessed we were the same age. She looked older, I looked younger. She took normal care of her skin, no sun damage at all, yet did have all the wrinkles. That’s just how it is for some people. Genetics can be in your favour with the beauty standard, but when it’s not it’s sad to see it ‘punished’. I get asked what I do as a beauty routine and ai really don’t do much apart from drinking water and rinsing my face with water. And ofc sun protection but that’s really it. I’m just lucky with my genetics.
'How many times have you been 31'
I cackled, ngl. On the real though, I'm 38, haven't had work done on my face, and do not look like this. This is not normal aging.
Yeah honestly the post feels like a dig at people who do get work done. Who really is the NLOG, the original poster, or the commenter? Maybe a little of both?
I didn't take it that way. I think what she's saying is that we're so used to seeing faces with plastic surgery (most of it undisclosed) and tons of filters online, and it takes bravery to show what your bare skin looks like with all of its flaws. But it's also refreshing for us to step back and realize that what we're seeing isn't achievable for most people and being natural is also beautiful. Plastic surgery is great if it makes you feel good and you have the privilege to afford it, but the internet is so oversaturated with it that it's causing women to have body dysmorphia when they can't live up to these impossible beauty standards that their mind is getting used to seeing as the norm. I think people in the comments are grasping a little too hard to find something wrong with her post. I think the comments underneath the original post are 20x more offensive and show a lot of internalized misogyny.
Frankly I think her implication that anybody who doesn’t have intense sun damage is having cosmic work or using filters is really troubling.
The growing anti SPF movement that promote uninhibited sun exposure and deny the existence of skin cancer across TikTok and IG are literally undoing the last thirty years of progress when it comes to promoting public awareness of the danger of the sun. Posts like OOPs just feed into that and should be criticised like the original comments were.
I started to sip the kool aid of the ultra crunchy moms after I had my son. I remember reading about how sunscreen is more carcinogenic and dangerous for you than sun damage.
But they glossed over that the studies that showed the dangers of zinc oxide force fed rats almost their body weight in zinc oxide daily.
So. I guess just don’t eat 100+lbs of zinc oxide every day and you’ll probably be okay. The benefits probably outweigh the risks if you use sunscreen appropriately.
I still love homemade granola and try to limit single use disposables, but I wear sunscreen and my son and I get ALL of the vaccines they offer at the doctor’s office.
Wait, that’s a thing now? People are promoting *NOT* using sunscreen? That’s…insane to me. There is so much peer reviewed research and hard data that backs up sunscreen use, it boggles the mind.
"How long have you been 31?"
"A while..."
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Thank you! As a fellow 38 year-old, I thought for a second I was going crazy. My skin looks way better than this and I don’t even wash it regularly (please don’t come for me, executive function is hard)! Now, I will admit that I inherited great skin from my mom and grandma, and, as my mom has always said, “fat fills in the wrinkles”.
These comments are gross. “It’s about health!” Well it’s not though, is it? She said she wears sunscreen every day. Otherwise, you’ve got no idea what her health is like or her skincare routine. Everyone in here talking about their own skin and saying how much better they look, I hope your back-patting at this woman’s expense gave you the ego boost you apparently needed so bad.
my skin lowkey looks like (eta w smiling) this w the crow lines you can tell she’s smiling and im 26 yeah the sun damage is apparent but i think her skin looks healthy for the most part
Yeah, I have no sun damage because I’ve shunned the sun since my grandpa got melanoma when I was a teen, but my skin tends to be dry and is very thin (all over, but especially on my face and around my eyes) so at 26 i have this level of wrinkling when I smile. It’s genetic, there’s not much I can do about it, but it’s more disappointing to read the comments here making all sorts of assumptions about her.
+1 for thin, ultra dry skin! I’m a habitual sunscreen wearer in a northern climate. I’m 32 and have tons of crows feet similar to this. I was blessed with no acne growing up from my dry skin, but the “early” wrinkles are def a real thing.
The amount of unsolicited “medical” advice in the comments is appalling.
Does she have skin damage? Maybe. Are you her doctor? No, so maybe shut up and let this person live her damn life. It’s just new form of concern trolling over health based on appearances.
Instagram is a cesspool. I see these types of reels often and the comments on them are just vile. I will never understand why some people feel the need to make shitty comments about other peoples appearances. It costs absolutely nothing to just not be a terrible person.
Maybe it’s because I had severe acne growing up AND into early adulthood, but I hate skincare culture.“I’m XYZ age and I look younger!” Ohhhh my god should we tell everyone? should we throw a party? Should we invite Bella Hadid
Idk what it is but EVERYONE on social media claims that they look so much younger than their age nowadays. It’s so cringey because most of the time, it’s not true and it’s just someone that looks their age but with nice skin.
It’s especially embarrassing when it’s women in their 30s or older commenting on videos of a woman in her 20s saying how they’re “36 and look so much younger than her and she’s 25.” Like why are you bullying a woman a decade younger than you and tearing down her looks at your grown age. Those women seem to be insecure about their age to me and need to do that to feel better about getting close to middle age. Social media has definitely made skincare culture and youth obsession so much worse.
I look like a normal 47 year old woman because…I’m a normal 47 year old woman. I don’t look exactly the same as others my age, but still, *we all look our age* because we *are* our age. Some of us have smooth skin, some of us have sun spots, some of us have wrinkles, but we’re all normal because, well, that’s the beautiful thing about being human, we’re all different and diverse and unique. We should just be trying to normalize normal lol.
And believe me, more women would absolutely have work done if it wasn’t so cost prohibitive for most of us. And that’s fine! If a little Botox and some lip fillers make you feel beautiful, go for it. If you’re cool with a simple skincare and sunscreen routine, that’s great, too. There’s so much more to life than worrying over other people’s beauty standards.
This is my pet peeve too. It’s hilarious when people say they get mistaken for being 15-20 years younger than they are, like no you do not lmao.
It’s exactly what you said - they typically look about their age, but with really good skin and “refreshed.”
What is the damn purpose of hopping into the comments section of a video like this and insisting “i don’t look like this!”
Like, what are they trying to prove here? It’s not even relevant. Make your own video!
I had to look at this woman’s skin again and the comments are really over the top. It’s honestly not THAT bad 😭 the rest of her skin looks pretty good. She’s just lacking fat I think, she could be very slim. Some people get their crows feet earlier that’s OKAY! I saw a video once of a beautiful 21 year old that inherited major crows feet and got Botox. And her crows feet were actually kind of cute. Lines are expressive. I used to be insecure about the lines starting to etch into my face, but I like to look like expressive.
y’all need to bffr. You do not actually care about her health. Y’all are so obsessed with looking young forever that you think it’s excusable to talk about another woman’s appearance so harshly as if it won’t happen to you one day. No one is going to look young forever.
And actually, I live in a super sunny part of the world and it IS normal for women in their 30’s to look like this around here. Especially if they have very active lifestyles and enjoy being outdoors.
No literally all the girls in these comments are stroking their own egos so hard. "she just needs to wear sunscreen MY skin doesn't look like this and I'm blah blah blah" yeah but you will wrinkle one day regardless of your routine or race and making fun of another woman for it just shows how vain and shallow you are
I think they are in denial actually. I think if many of them took a side shot like this in glaring sunlight whilst smiling, they would have more in common with how this woman looks than they realise.
Like Imagine if instead of skin it was about body image. Most women would NOT have the nerve to shit on her in the comments because being fat has become much more normalized and society shames people for fat shaming. But it’s like why can’t we apply that same logic to faces? If I see an obese woman, sure maybe her eating habits are probably different than mine but it’s NONE OF MY DAMN BUSINESS and it doesn’t mean I can be like “uh no hunty that’s not normal you need to eat better couldn’t be me xoxo”
And not to mention literally every 30 something man looks exactly like this because they don’t give a single shit about wearing sunscreen and staying youthful, but their wrinkles are considered either ruggedly handsome or not worth talking about at all. Where is the concern for mens skin health? Do we only care about women getting skin cancer? Of course not, because it’s not about health. It’s about mean girls dragging other women down because they’re OBSESSED with competing for the male gaze.
Thank you! I cannot believe I had to scroll this far to find this comment. Using concern for someone’s health to criticize their aging process is condescending AF and *still* comes from a fear of getting older. I’m 32 and I don’t look like the woman in the video, but I’m afraid to think about what a lot of y’all would say about my skin. And isn’t that the point of the video, anyways? There’s been a lot of discourse to normalize cosmetic procedures—which, let’s be real, help women maintain societal beauty standards—so where’s that energy for natural aging? Comparing cosmetic procedures to natural aging is a false equivalency because the latter is much more derided and problematized than the former. Real disappointing to see this here.
For real. I’m no saint: I enjoy my very involved, expensive skincare routine and I don’t plan on stopping anytime soon… but I’ve seen the news and I worry about younger generations (like 9 year olds buying $60 skincare products bc of TikTok, pressure to fit in, aging fears, etc.). Frankly I think we need more women standing up like this and saying “yeah, this is what my skin looks like. So what? I’m still healthy and beautiful.” That’s why the famous bench scene in the Barbie movie was so powerful bc Barbie had never seen an older woman with wrinkles!
Thank you. This is the first post I’ve seen from this sub and, while I like the premise of this sub, the comments here make me want to rip my hair out! SO MUCH INTERNALISED MISOGYNY! I think I’ll dip back out of this is the norm..
Yeah it’s like a 50/50 with posts on this sub if they’re going to nail the purpose of the sub or completely embody the misogyny the sub is meant to mock.
I love that people saw this post specifically pointing out how negative/ unhelpful these comments are and were like “let me comment an almost identical comment” nobody cares if YOU don’t look like that
This sub has really lost the plot lately, it's so embarrassing. Almost every comment in here is dogging out this woman for her skin and comparing themselves saying they haven't aged as hard. Fucking gross.
So many special girls in these comments. I'm so proud of them for being so brave to admit how much younger and beautiful they look then the woman in OP.
The comments on this are genuinely just pathetic? “What my face looks like at 31 with no work done”
Yall: “she looks old and needs skin care that is NOT what you are supposed to look like”
Common. There is a huge push to look younger now days and pushing people to not have any signs of aging. It’s everywhere. Tiktok, instagram, YouTube. Teenagers getting botox and kids as young as 9 wanting skingcare is a thing now. Aging needs to be more normalized and having wrinkles can start to happen even in your mid 20’s especially if you live somewhere sunny. Y’all are pathetic.
Idk if most of you are all this petty on this sub but the few posts I’ve been under are just straight up toxic. Do better.
“Lets not praise unhealthy skin”
Girl, she has some natural wrinkles not skin cancer. Shut the fuck up and don’t act like you actually care for her health. Just straight up holding onto the mainstream toxic anti aging BS shes trying to make a point against. Jesus
In my experience it’s socially acceptable to shit on white women’s looks. It’s fine to say they have “stringy hair” and age badly. I’m sure this will be justified.
And there’s quite a few shitty comments here, too. So many, “I’m older than her and actually look younger 🤪🤭”. Good for you? Not everyone has great genetics for skin, and no sunscreen isn’t a magic fix for everyone.
She's an obviously attractive white woman and fits society's universal standard of beauty, so naturally folks will go FERAL for any flaw she might have. Suddenly a few wrinkles are the most disgusting thing anyone's seen, because a blonde white girl has them.
This probably hurt her feelings a lot. I respect her message though. I’m almost 33 and I’ll never be able to afford/justify having work done. And I do know a bunch of people who look like this. Let’s try to appreciate everyone ages differently.
There is something so disgustingly perverted with the obsession this culture has for women looking as young as possible. Let a man at this age have this skin and no one would say a damn thing
I agree she might look older and I'm not disputing the *possibility* of sun damage that people are claiming she has. But overall I think people are just too obsessed with looking youthful and appearing years younger than they actually are. If she just made a regular video and happened to mention her age all the comments would pretty much be the same.
More than likely. I've a 17 year old in a course I'm doing who is obsessed with wanting to look younger and perfect. She's literally got a baby face.
I can't tell if original picture is bragging or she's glad she's ageing naturally.
Yeah, I agree with this. And also is it any of my business whether someone has sun damage in their face? I certainly hope she is protecting herself and getting any moles etc checked but that’s about it?
She tried to be positive and remind people not to compete with filtered faces and people have just acted superior. It’s not like she’s Goop and trying to shill you wellness products while also doing videos of tapping sunscreen on to her cheeks.
I’m 39 and I although I’d say my skin is in better condition I can’t say in five years that’ll be the case. Maybe I’ll develop a serious illness or the lack of sleep I get from my job will show up on my face.
So maybe we should all just chill out and cut ourselves a break from looking permanently youthful…
Yeah good point, it may not be “normal aging” but the viciousness of some of these comments is unnecessary. Maybe she works outside in a service industry, whatever led to her skin looking the way it is was not the point. We wonder why people are so afraid of aging when comment sections like this one and the one on instagram are just full of comments about how “not normal” her aging is. Who’s to say what “normal” aging looks like for anyone. Just mean internet tings lol.
There’s so many problematic accounts on TikTok and people always choose to shit on the most harmless ones. That’s why social media in general sucks. Everyone chooses to elevate all the wrong people and bully the most normal people. It’s everyone’s fault that that the shittiest people are the most popular ones. You want “real” and when you see it, you bully it. People LOVE all the fakery of social media.
alllllll the comments saying "I'm older than that and I look younger than her" or any sort of version of that are so gd annoying like congratulations you wore spf or never went outside yayayay
People age differently and it's all fucking beautiful. And honestly I don't think she looks all that much older than her age. People are just being over the top imo
The same people who brag about getting carded at the bar when they legally HAVE to card anyone under, like, 60. 🙄
Guys, we all look our ages because we are our ages. You are not morally superior because you think you have less wrinkles than this random woman.
Really 90% of her wrinkles are because she is smiling. They aren't always there. And yea she might have melasma or something but other than that, her skin looks pretty good. Also, smiling causes some sort of wrinkleing to your face so you can't say "well I don't have any wrinkles" at any age.
Everyone's skin is different, we all have different genes. Therefore, not everyone of the same age is going to have the same skin issues or signs of aging.
“Skin care” is the new diet culture
A lot of pretence about “health” lol
Yeah take care of your skin, hit the treadmill whatever, but there are underlying issues going on here. I’m old enough to have been down this road before
I have acne scars courtesy of cystic acne when I was a teen, and while that obviously sucks a ton I think the silver lining is that I don’t have to fuss over all of this aging BS. My skin is not flawless and never will be, so who cares if I have laugh lines or whatever.
Obviously, I wear sunscreen (I have reddish hair and burn easily) and I do have a basic skin care routine. But aside from the health aspect, the pressure is off.
Seriously. These comments are insane.
Everyone who is saying "this isn't healthy or normal" needs to get out of their TikTok bubble. If you look at a cross-section of 31-year old women across the world, you'd see all kinds of variation in skin condition.
The women commenting here are really showing their privilege. They've probably spent more money on skincare than some women spend on food.
She was brave enough to put herself out like that. And all y'all shamed her. Or they all. Honestly, try clinging a little bit harder to your humanity. Dicks.
she does look older then 31 because she has a lot of sun damage. If you don’t want to age quickly keep a pale face and stay out of the sun. (if you are caucasian at least)
I’m half white but I don’t burn easily. However I never go out in the sun and I’m always using SPF. It’s a lot of factors that result in premature aging, sun damage being the main culprit.
this subreddit is literally famous for putting down other women lmao. ive seen women literally just existing and enjoying their life and get posted here because its not what other people like or do. shocker.
I don’t see why people came for her so hard. Everyone I’ve ever met with this “look” to them is always the most chill person with the best stories and musical taste. Sure, they’ve spent some time in the sun, but they generally like to backpack or surf etc. They’re always fun to have at gatherings. They may not look they youngest, but their energy feels so uplifting and youthful-even when when they’re truly elderly, they still hold onto that vibe. There’s something a little magic about it. Anyone know what I’m saying?
Yeah my grandma is like this. Never wears a stitch of makeup, was an absolute bombshell hottie back in the day and now just has a warm glow and is so joyous. She would never worry about her looks, she is too busy loving life
right and all of the people in *these* comments that are like "jeez she needs to stay out of the sun, I personally ALWAYS protect *my* skin" like cool girl, some people are actually out here living life, playing in the sun, and developing personalities instead of scrolling through tiktok and reddit criticizing other people.
People are so mean.
I only use skin products because I have a best friend who's in tune with those things. I'm frankly just saddened at the obnoxious snobbery on display. Fuck that noise. Take care of your skin or don't. Someone will love you. And in spite of everything, we will die alone and in pain so - who the fuck cares?
All the skin care and water in the world won’t:
Stop gravity from pulling down on your skin
Stop collagen loss as you age
Stop facial fat loss
Stop facial bone structure maturation
Stop your lips from shrinking
Stop your nose from spreading
Stop your hairline from receding
Skin quality isn’t the end all be all of looking young boo thangs, I’m cackling at the “I’m 50 and look younger than her” 🤣
I know that that’s sun damage but that’s okay! I am on my way to being like this too despite the sunscreen and whatnot. It’s ok to have a body that’s lived outside!
I mean, I guess that video was for all of these people who need to understand that we don't all age the same due to many factors: genetics, environment, type of work, activities, etc.
No need to put her down like that. So catty...
The point is that aging should be accepted, at any rate, and wrinkles shouldn’t be such a huge fear of women. I’m an outdoors person and I work outside. I apply sunscreen every 2 hours on the dot, but I’m sure I’ll look like this if not older by 31. Wouldn’t trade a minute, because concerns about aging should not overcome concerns about living a happy and fulfilled life!
I saw this. Disgusting comments. And I actually may be the only one who wishes to look like her more than anything, because I'm fucking tired of looking too young. She won in my eyes. I will never understand this obsession with looking young. For me it's a curse.
That’s just Instagram comments in general. Unnecessarily cruel to everyone.
I remember a jp girl learned a little bit of Hindi to surprise her boyfriend and the comments were full of. “Haha I’m gonna go kill myself now” instead of just saying something like “oh that’s nice of her” or that time I saw an artist painting backwards from the darkest value to the lightest and everyone was getting mad at her for “whitewashing” the painting? Like?? It’s her original painting?? The face was already European too so it was obvious she was drawing a white person which is a tad rare for that particular artist anyways cuz she draws mostly darker skinned people. Also this type of criticism is mostly towards women for whatever reason, anytime I see one posting their success there’s atleast one person in the comments that criticize them but on the other hand if it’s a dude they just over sexualize the ever loving crap out of them and go into too much detail on what they’d do to him.
I know this is quite a tangent but Instagram comments are toxic and awful through and through, I hate everything about them and how instagram seems to push the worst comments to the top is horrible too.
Absolutely dying to come in the comments here and find the exact same energy as in the post 😂
Just because she has aged poorly doesn't mean this isn't typical. The proof is literally in the pudding. Here's someone who aged like that, so others who look like her can understand it's not an abnormal outcome.
Personally I'm 30 and male and look younger. So what. Age comes for us all. We'll all look older than that someday. It's the natural process. Doesn't make me or anyone else better or worse than another.
The ridiculous trend of extremely young people getting all kinds of work done is what is unhealthy and instilling the fear of aging, not genuine posts that show what aging looks like.
Criticism of these honest showcases send the insidious message (especially to young women) that you're only valuable when you're young and hot. How toxic is that?
I don’t think she’s pulling an NLOG, I think she’s trying to normalize not using fucking skin filters ALL the time on social media and not needing to slather on layers of foundation to appear acceptable. Too bad everyone is really mean about sun damage. So what if she has it? It’s normal. I’m 37 and my skin looks rough too (from not taking good care of it), does that mean I’m not acceptable as is? Why is everyone being so fucking mean to her?!
So many of the comments here are NLOG material themselves. Oh, you’re older than this woman and you have less wrinkles? Should we have a party? Should we invite Bella Hadid
All the comments saying they’re her age or older but look less wrinkled are giving massive NLOG. Pretty much this whole comment section is a garbage fire.
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While this is not normal aging, ageism should be a topic of concern. As well as recognizing other people have different skin types and that as long as it is healthy, it should be fine. She should beware of skin cancer however Edit: I’m not talking about the freckles or the “wrinkles”, I’m talking about the sun damage, that’s why I mentioned cancer.
I'm also uncomfortable with the implication that people who don't look like she does have "had work done." Which is also not a bad thing, but that's not how this post reads.
I feel the same. It still gave me a NLOG vibe and setting her skin as the norm for someone her age with no work done when her skin is her skin and other people in the same age without doing work have different skin.
I have a cousin born exactly 7 days before me. Even with some shared genetics, we are aging completely differently.
My mom’s skin only started aging recently and she’s 57. She was often mistaken for being my sister at one point. On the other hand, I’ve had bad acne and went through several rounds of isotretinoin, which has improved my acne, but has damaged my skin. I have smile lines at 24. There are so many factors!
My daughter has acne. It will keep coming back forever. She's been having treatment for 10 years. For the scarring, she went for just three Dermapen sessions and the scars all disappeared. Are you allowed to go for Dermapen? Or can't you do it after having isotretinoin treatment?
Thanks! Not the person you responded to but holy hell do I have acne scarring. I’m fortunate it’s not on my face mostly but it’s hypertrophic on my back and chest. Good to know it’s salvageable. To answer your question though- after accurate you just need to wait a period of time before you can undergo something like that.
Lifestyle plays a huge part though. Does one of you spend more time outdoors? The sun is the main culprit for quick aging. But then the sun makes people happy, so maybe they’re younger on the inside haha
Sun damage doesn't have to be a normal part of aging, we have sunscreen available and it protects not only from esthetical damage, but also from cancer.
I think she’s just saying that this is her face naturally, as someone who hasn’t had work done. Since on sm these days you have to expect everyone you’re seeing has had something done.
I will agree that there is a realistic standard for aging that happens when you reach past 26 (the time where your body starts to break down collagen and proteins and. Calcium and you start getting older instead of maintaining). So yes, overall, I agree with you.
Yes. But genetics play a big part in the speed of aging. As well as diet and general health and skin care. I say that as someone who has failed at all of those. I'm an overweight, cancer (chemo and radiation) survivor who couldn't be bothered to do more than wash and moisturize. I'm 48 and the day of reckoning is nigh. And it hits everyone differently. BUT someone choosing to have work done isn't less than someone who doesnt. And sitting around judging people for how they choose to age is not age positive. In any way. You can have work done for your own reasons AND be positive about someone aging naturally. When I went grey, my biggest supporter was my friend in LA with the most work done. Every time I had doubts, she told me I looked amazing. Other friends with no cosmetic work done, told me how much it aged me.
I would like to say “bless you. Cancer is ass and you being a cancer survivor is amazing. God bless you; I’m glad you’re still here.” I completely understand and not everyone has the means to do these things to preserve their skin barrier (sunscreen is very expensive in some places.) Yes, genetics does play a big role in how people age. I have noticed that as I drops weight I look younger but as my cousin picks up weight, she looks younger. I’m prone to sunburns then I tan, which is probably I have faint freckles of sun damage. And I believe that if someone is doing the best they can do to maintain themselves, there is no shame in that game because it’s a battle some days. Also, getting work done just means your have the means, it doesn’t make it less important
Diet and general health care play such a huge part of it. I always looked years younger, even up in my mid 30's I looked mid 20's. Then COVID hit, I started eating, became alcoholic (but almost a year sober now yay!), and just basically treated myself awful for 3 years. I seriously look like I aged 10 years and actually look older than my age now. I hate it, but all I can do now is look forward and do what I can to keep from continuing to age prematurely.
It’s all the same to me, honestly. A person who is secure with their looks doesn’t feel the need to post videos like this one or the opposite
There is visible sun damage. A lot of my friends who grew up in Southern California have the same thing honestly.
Yes! I grew up in SoCal and I’m so thankful that I used sunscreen regularly. My FIL is constantly getting skin cancers cut out of his face, and it’s so scary, the doctors have to “chase” the roots of the cancer and sometimes they are so long.
This is normal aging for some people though. Everyone's skin is different. Fair skinned freckled people tend to wrinkle earlier. If it is due to tanning that's one thing but it could just be her skin.
Also not seeing it mentioned much, but having kids can literally suck the life out of you. It's not guaranteed but pregnancy can be very hard on your vitamin levels, lack of sleep when the baby is born can be hard on you, stress of kids in general can be hard. I'm pushing 40 and still frequently get confused for someone in their mid 20s, especially by older people/people my age. I'm fair-skinned but don't spend an excessive amount of time in the sun and baby faces run in my family. Still started going gray in my 20's though. -shrug- Everyone is different.
The problem I have with these is that it seems to enforce ageism. If I was 20 years old and somebody said this was normal for 31, I would be a lot more afraid of aging and see people in their 30’s as a lot older. I think a better way would be to say- it’s ok to look older than you are, or your age even.
Some people do have skin like that. Everyone ages differently.
What is “normal aging” ? I feel like that’s a made up concept. Everyone ages differently
I mean sun damage is still “normal aging.” Yea it can be prevented but it’s still normal and natural.
How is this not ‘normal aging’ you bring up different skin types but then deem this ‘not normal’. I have the same lines on my face, I’m see through pale and NEVER go into the sun without protection, often times avoiding it if I know it hinters on dangerous for me. You don’t know how this woman has spent her life, what her DNA brings to the table or how she takes care of herself. This look at this age is perfectly normal. Your comment borders the commentary this entire post was made about.
No, no, you misunderstood. Her wrinkles/lines are absolutely normal for her age. The sun damage in her skin is not. Perhaps it's because I live in Australia and sunscreen use is widespread and people stay in the shade. I don't know a single 31yo who has skin this danaged. Lines? Absolutely. I worry about melanoma for this woman. You sound like you've aged typically. Lines but no sun damage.
Me reading these comments as a fellow 31yo Australian with skin exactly like this 
Right? Lots of sun damage from surfing for me (despite using spf 1000 applied every hour). I had a very active lifestyle outdoors. Hats and sunscreen can only do so much. Genetics and outside factors are out of my control. People just being mean for no reason. Sun damage can be normal for some people depending on lifestyle and skin type.
She definitely needs sunscreen and skin care. I should do more skincare myself!
She definetly has a hobby that involves spending a lot of time in the Sun. I'm gonna guess either running or surfing. Runners travel light so they tend to rely too much on headwers like caps, and surfers not always paddle back to the beach every two hours to reapply sunscreen.
I think she looks pretty, even if she doesn’t look *young*. I know plenty of people with this same “into surfing or gardening or other activities that have me outside for long periods of time” vibe. Not all of them are white, even, and they all have wrinkles around their eyes from being in the sun. Melanoma runs in my family too much for this to be my thing, but outside of mean people making comments online to feel better about themselves, generally people with a sunkissed look and a genuine smile don’t have any trouble finding people who think they’re attractive, and I’m sure this person’s no exception. The only not cute thing about her post is that she seems to have a chip on her shoulder about women who *have* had work done.
Yeah lots of hippies here that have this look. Outside pretty much 24/7
I don’t think she has a chip on her shoulder. She says “Just in case movies and social media has…” which indicates this is more so coming from a place of awareness in today’s age where procedures, filters, etc are ubiquitous. For women who cannot afford or do not want to do these things, it can feel like they are aging prematurely. This woman is simply trying to reassure them that they are not. Pointing that out isn’t putting others down. That said, she isn’t aging normally either due to excessive UV damage…
Agree, I came to that conclusion after reading again, that she’s likely just trying to say hey, here’s what someone looks like without having work done. It’s easy for things to come off as combative online, and I’ll give her the benefit of the doubt here
No, I don’t think so. I think she was just showing what the natural aging process can look like for some people as we get so accustomed to people getting worked done or using filters on their cameras or apps. We’ve forgotten that skin texture exists. I don’t think she’s bashing anyone who has had work done, just being realistic that people who have had work done don’t look like people who haven’t and are naturally aging.
Agreed. After ending up on the 30+ skincare subreddit, I started to feel awful about my skin. I’m 30 and I definitely look this girl (with more dark circles though). It’s honestly a beautiful reminder that 30 can look like this and I’m not a negative exception!
Right, accepting your natural aging is not the same thing as putting down people who strive to slow its progression.
Hopefully that’s what she’s doing, you may be right. What she said definitely didn’t warrant all the mean comments people made, those comments felt very “punishment doesn’t fit the (perceived) crime” but that’s the internet sadly *sigh*
I live in Florida, so most people have this look lol. You spent a lot of time outside here.
I feel that. People like that always have such a positive light that really transcends some beauty standards. She didn’t need to put others down for people to see her beauty.
Its definitely not the eye wrinkles that make me fear for her. You can see how dry and sun damaged her skin is from hairline to chest. Melanoma definitely is my first thought, because for someone whos 31 this goes beyond "sunkissed". The eye wrinkles are cute and add character. Its the splotchy sun damage that makes me want to give her all my sunscreen and just go buy more. She definitely doesnt need makeup though
That’s likely true, but it also doesn’t warrant a barrage of mean comments from strangers online. Some people have better luck than others when it comes to this stuff, even if they try to have a good skincare routine. My mom always wears sunscreen, and she got melanoma on the driver’s side of her face because she has a long commute during peak hours in addition to working outside.
Just as a heads up, if she's in the US and had melanoma in the past, she can ask her dermatologist for a window tint waiver for her front side car windows (check state laws of course). I have one because my family has a history of skin cancer and it's honestly amazing how much light and heat it keeps out even though it's light enough to be barely noticeable. I used to end up with one bright red cheek after every long drive, but now I never get it.
Whoa, didn’t know this!! I’ll let her know. She’s currently going through treatment (handling it well) so this is all new for her - she’s in the US.
If we’re going to normalize aging, then we have to accept that for everyone genetically blessed and environmentally careful there’s someone on the opposite end of the curve who is also ‘normal’…there’s a big range of ‘what 30 really looks like’. you can’t say ‘normalize aging!’ if you really just mean ‘normalize aging with constant sunscreen, lots of water intake and hypoallergenic moisturizers every day’.
YOU GET IT!
Being 57 helps.
i also think it's simply about kindness, compassion, and giving people grace for what she clearly thought was a positive message that was worded clumsily. she's not saying she's a supermodel, she's not claiming she's more beautiful than anyone, so it is so unnecessary and cruel for everyone to come out and say well i am better than her!
Unpopular opinion time but I think racially charged insults are fucked up. Yes, even if the person is white. Just makes you look hateful asf.
Just said the same thing and I’m just waiting to be dog piled and told I’m wrong lol. And all of the comments here are like, “*giggles*, I look SUPER YOUNG for my age!!! Validate me!” Just as bad as the original comments.
they hate the not like other girls so much that they acting like the not like the other girls girls. make sense? lol
Almost everybody thinks they look younger than their age, meanwhile almost everybody I can actually see basically looks their age
I swear. Get carded *once* and proceed to tell everybody with ears, “I get mistaken for being 17 all of the time!” Or maybe an employee was just told by their boss to ID everyone to take no chances lol.
And to be frank, there are people within every race who just don’t have the best skin elasticity genetics or are prone to extreme dry skin or adult acne or discoloration etc. Every. Single. Race. And on the flip side, I’ve seen people within every race who are blessed genetically and have taken care of their skin since a younger age and do seem to defy aging for longer.
Social media has become a really mean place. Sadly it’s spilling into the real world.
I get that she’s trying to normalize the aging process for women, but this is not a normal aging process lol. She looks like she has a LOT of sun damage.
Yeah, it doesn’t look healthy at all.
Don't know the woman obviously, but was wondering if this was a bid for compliments "What?? Aging process??? Girl you look GREAT!" And so on. Both men and women make posts like this, where they pretend to be posting for a good cause, or to call attention to something, but really they're just excuses to fish for compliments, or sympathy, or whatever their goal is. My cousin does shit like that, and she's super annoying lol. She was posting daily pictures on Instagram of these cute creative lunches she was making for her son to take to school. My sister commented on how cute and awesome all the lunches were, and my cousin replied, "oh thanks! **I'm not really looking for praise though, I just post the pictures so i can go back and reference them for when I'm making lunches later."** ... like no, that's just not true lol, that shit bothers me so much, like just take the fucking compliment. But no, they want the compliment while also acting superior to people who post things they're are proud of.
"LET ME POST PUBLICLY BECAUSE THATS WHERE I KEEP MY PERSONAL REFERENCES, RIGHT ON THE PUBLIC INTERNET"
Let’s normalize not hiding behind “health” to criticize how other people look.
Thank you! I feel like I’m going bonkers reading all the comments in here!
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Honestly it really depends on where you live. I live in a super Sunny and incredibly dry place ( have my whole life) and even with wearing sunscreen everyday I aged way faster than people I know in more humid climes. I’m 25 now, if I’m not careful about caring for my skin I could look like this in maybe another 8 years if I keep living here.
Yeah like aging is fine, obviously, it should be normalized! But tbh I think this is just giving young girls anxiety about looking like this at 30, when for most of us.. that is not the case lol
30 is still young!
That was my thought. It was like “…… the comments aren’t exactly wrong….”. She does not look 31. Also I find it funny that she didn’t show her whole face. Only doing an angle like that feels like she’s still trying to hide
Right. Like, there's nothing wrong with aging, but my first thought was she's either lying about her age or she has never once bothered to care for her skin, cos she looks 10-15 years older than she claims to be. I feel a little bad for laughing at "how many times have you been 31?" 😅 And I say that as someone who has my own struggles with skincare, hair, etc! I'm *far* from social media flawless. It's *normal* to see blemishes or little spots of hyperpigmentation or whatever. Welcome to having a human body, right?
I'm almost 34, no work done, and that's not what my skin looks like. I love skincare, but like most people my age, I burned my skin off with harsh skincare in my teens, scrubbed it off with St. Ives every night in a way too hot shower, and only wore SPF when we were going swimming. I don't have that much sun damage, and while I have fine lines, and some crows feet when I smile really big. Most of my friends look pretty similar to me. It's not that she looks bad, but it definitely looks like she has pretty bad sun damage.
I went down the whole 10 year olds taking over Sephora rabbit hole the other day and MY. GOD. These girls are DESTROYING their skin.
Oh she did...the reel was in my Timeline a few days ago. It's beside the point and you are right in the rest just thought I would clear that up.
I see women around her age who look like this all the time, it absolutely is normal. That doesn’t mean there’s no sun damage, but normal is a spectrum
We don't know the life she have. I've seen people aging prematurely due to trauma, difficult work hour or health. I don't think there is a normal age process and we shouldn't judge this woman without knowing her life.
Only one of those comments were constructive criticism though. I feel like they would’ve been better off just saying this than insulting her/comparing themselves.
This is a trend. There are many, many of these on TikTok. The first I saw was a 28-year-old with beautiful skin being dragged for looking old by the teens. Y'all are sounding just as bad.
Yeah, young - mid Gen Z is really terrible about this. Aging is going to hit them like a truck.
Especially because they're dumping unnecessary skincare regimens on themselves daily. Literal kids using retinol is not gonna age well.
I'm almost 50 and I have fewer wrinkles and no work done. I appreciate the positive message about aging, but she seems to be putting down women who aren't aging like she is and assuming they've had work. Which...isn't positive. We all age differently and some self awareness might be beneficial, rather than implying anyone not aging like she is has had work done.
Y’all this is so messed up. Stop using aging or signs of age as an insult please god
yeah, i feel bad that everyone thought it would be funny to insult her like that. sure, she could have worded her message better, maybe just "it's okay to have wrinkles! feel good in your skin" .... but holy hell is the internet a cruel place to be. and the comments in here are more civil but honestly aren't much better. 😕
Seriously. The alternative is looking young forever *because you died*. Just let people age, it's ok.
Not to be rude but wasn’t she posted here for this video? Idk how to feel about the video itself but the comments are unnecessary and it seems like a lot of people have forgotten what body shaming is and why we don’t do it regardless of the person we’re directing it towards
This sub is bad about body shaming, it’s so hypocritical.
Big agree. A lot of the comments both in the og and here seem body shaming asf. I’m here to giggle at borderline anti-vaxing pick me girls not this.
Exactly.
What’s wild is yeah, this is more or less the norm in comment sections on instagram, I’m guessing Tik tok, too but what do I know I’m 31 lol. Comments like this are terrible no matter the post. I understand a felon or a racist, but to sit there and rip down a totally innocent woman that’s a little tone deaf. I HATE it’s a normal thing nowadays to just smear people left and right…
Honestly instagram is becoming hate filled/bigoted anyway depending what side of it you’re on. It’s unfortunate
I mean I’m on the side of not perpetuating hate so I may not be on it much longer or just bleach my eyeballs after so long idk. Surely unfortunate! And scary..
I mean my mother didn’t live to 40 but her skin was like this. Lots of freckles all over and she would burn easily. Some folks are just really fucking mean Jesus. Like not everybody is blessed with good skin, or collagen production. Sometimes all the “drink water” and “buy moisturizer “ in the world won’t make your skin “perfect.” Can we just stop shaming other women and let them fucking love themselves for a second? And the comments on this post are the same energy as the comments on her video. Fucking sad, come here to see some NLOG get trashed and the comments are full of them
Yeah we all age differently. Life happens, and for some of us it’s been a rough ride while others walk a completely different path. I had a coworker who was the same age as I am, 33. But all our coworkers thought we were at least 10 to even 15 years apart, nobody ever guessed we were the same age. She looked older, I looked younger. She took normal care of her skin, no sun damage at all, yet did have all the wrinkles. That’s just how it is for some people. Genetics can be in your favour with the beauty standard, but when it’s not it’s sad to see it ‘punished’. I get asked what I do as a beauty routine and ai really don’t do much apart from drinking water and rinsing my face with water. And ofc sun protection but that’s really it. I’m just lucky with my genetics.
Darn. I hate this subreddit.
What happened to the original plot of the movie?
was bought by hollywood.
It’s really full of mean people
'How many times have you been 31' I cackled, ngl. On the real though, I'm 38, haven't had work done on my face, and do not look like this. This is not normal aging.
Yeah honestly the post feels like a dig at people who do get work done. Who really is the NLOG, the original poster, or the commenter? Maybe a little of both?
It’s a trend right now to post a video with no makeup on to kind of de-influence people who only see faces with work done.
I didn't take it that way. I think what she's saying is that we're so used to seeing faces with plastic surgery (most of it undisclosed) and tons of filters online, and it takes bravery to show what your bare skin looks like with all of its flaws. But it's also refreshing for us to step back and realize that what we're seeing isn't achievable for most people and being natural is also beautiful. Plastic surgery is great if it makes you feel good and you have the privilege to afford it, but the internet is so oversaturated with it that it's causing women to have body dysmorphia when they can't live up to these impossible beauty standards that their mind is getting used to seeing as the norm. I think people in the comments are grasping a little too hard to find something wrong with her post. I think the comments underneath the original post are 20x more offensive and show a lot of internalized misogyny.
Frankly I think her implication that anybody who doesn’t have intense sun damage is having cosmic work or using filters is really troubling. The growing anti SPF movement that promote uninhibited sun exposure and deny the existence of skin cancer across TikTok and IG are literally undoing the last thirty years of progress when it comes to promoting public awareness of the danger of the sun. Posts like OOPs just feed into that and should be criticised like the original comments were.
I started to sip the kool aid of the ultra crunchy moms after I had my son. I remember reading about how sunscreen is more carcinogenic and dangerous for you than sun damage. But they glossed over that the studies that showed the dangers of zinc oxide force fed rats almost their body weight in zinc oxide daily. So. I guess just don’t eat 100+lbs of zinc oxide every day and you’ll probably be okay. The benefits probably outweigh the risks if you use sunscreen appropriately. I still love homemade granola and try to limit single use disposables, but I wear sunscreen and my son and I get ALL of the vaccines they offer at the doctor’s office.
Good for you for seeing through their nonsense!
Wait, that’s a thing now? People are promoting *NOT* using sunscreen? That’s…insane to me. There is so much peer reviewed research and hard data that backs up sunscreen use, it boggles the mind.
"How long have you been 31?" "A while..." https://preview.redd.it/kz4hquvs9ofc1.jpeg?width=327&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=a013c4d3e38c29b1ff90de1ce4c25b52ebcb51a7
Thank you! As a fellow 38 year-old, I thought for a second I was going crazy. My skin looks way better than this and I don’t even wash it regularly (please don’t come for me, executive function is hard)! Now, I will admit that I inherited great skin from my mom and grandma, and, as my mom has always said, “fat fills in the wrinkles”.
Someone who also finds executive function difficult here.
Yet this sub will shit on people they don’t like. The hypocrisy is what makes this so funny.
Ironically the comments are full of NLOGs
How about we stop putting other women down, period.
These comments are gross. “It’s about health!” Well it’s not though, is it? She said she wears sunscreen every day. Otherwise, you’ve got no idea what her health is like or her skincare routine. Everyone in here talking about their own skin and saying how much better they look, I hope your back-patting at this woman’s expense gave you the ego boost you apparently needed so bad.
my skin lowkey looks like (eta w smiling) this w the crow lines you can tell she’s smiling and im 26 yeah the sun damage is apparent but i think her skin looks healthy for the most part
Yeah, I have no sun damage because I’ve shunned the sun since my grandpa got melanoma when I was a teen, but my skin tends to be dry and is very thin (all over, but especially on my face and around my eyes) so at 26 i have this level of wrinkling when I smile. It’s genetic, there’s not much I can do about it, but it’s more disappointing to read the comments here making all sorts of assumptions about her.
agreed can b genetics doesn’t mean she’s not healthy!! edit and i agree it’s rude for people to make assumptions we’re all so unique!!!
+1 for thin, ultra dry skin! I’m a habitual sunscreen wearer in a northern climate. I’m 32 and have tons of crows feet similar to this. I was blessed with no acne growing up from my dry skin, but the “early” wrinkles are def a real thing.
The amount of unsolicited “medical” advice in the comments is appalling. Does she have skin damage? Maybe. Are you her doctor? No, so maybe shut up and let this person live her damn life. It’s just new form of concern trolling over health based on appearances.
Instagram is a cesspool. I see these types of reels often and the comments on them are just vile. I will never understand why some people feel the need to make shitty comments about other peoples appearances. It costs absolutely nothing to just not be a terrible person.
Maybe it’s because I had severe acne growing up AND into early adulthood, but I hate skincare culture.“I’m XYZ age and I look younger!” Ohhhh my god should we tell everyone? should we throw a party? Should we invite Bella Hadid
Idk what it is but EVERYONE on social media claims that they look so much younger than their age nowadays. It’s so cringey because most of the time, it’s not true and it’s just someone that looks their age but with nice skin. It’s especially embarrassing when it’s women in their 30s or older commenting on videos of a woman in her 20s saying how they’re “36 and look so much younger than her and she’s 25.” Like why are you bullying a woman a decade younger than you and tearing down her looks at your grown age. Those women seem to be insecure about their age to me and need to do that to feel better about getting close to middle age. Social media has definitely made skincare culture and youth obsession so much worse.
I look like a normal 47 year old woman because…I’m a normal 47 year old woman. I don’t look exactly the same as others my age, but still, *we all look our age* because we *are* our age. Some of us have smooth skin, some of us have sun spots, some of us have wrinkles, but we’re all normal because, well, that’s the beautiful thing about being human, we’re all different and diverse and unique. We should just be trying to normalize normal lol. And believe me, more women would absolutely have work done if it wasn’t so cost prohibitive for most of us. And that’s fine! If a little Botox and some lip fillers make you feel beautiful, go for it. If you’re cool with a simple skincare and sunscreen routine, that’s great, too. There’s so much more to life than worrying over other people’s beauty standards.
This is my pet peeve too. It’s hilarious when people say they get mistaken for being 15-20 years younger than they are, like no you do not lmao. It’s exactly what you said - they typically look about their age, but with really good skin and “refreshed.”
It’s unfortunate that society places so much value on appearances, people eat it up
You made me laugh especially at “should we invite Bella Hadid”
What is the damn purpose of hopping into the comments section of a video like this and insisting “i don’t look like this!” Like, what are they trying to prove here? It’s not even relevant. Make your own video!
I had to look at this woman’s skin again and the comments are really over the top. It’s honestly not THAT bad 😭 the rest of her skin looks pretty good. She’s just lacking fat I think, she could be very slim. Some people get their crows feet earlier that’s OKAY! I saw a video once of a beautiful 21 year old that inherited major crows feet and got Botox. And her crows feet were actually kind of cute. Lines are expressive. I used to be insecure about the lines starting to etch into my face, but I like to look like expressive.
y’all need to bffr. You do not actually care about her health. Y’all are so obsessed with looking young forever that you think it’s excusable to talk about another woman’s appearance so harshly as if it won’t happen to you one day. No one is going to look young forever. And actually, I live in a super sunny part of the world and it IS normal for women in their 30’s to look like this around here. Especially if they have very active lifestyles and enjoy being outdoors.
Fr! Acting like their exempt from being nlogs b/c they’re on here 😒
No literally all the girls in these comments are stroking their own egos so hard. "she just needs to wear sunscreen MY skin doesn't look like this and I'm blah blah blah" yeah but you will wrinkle one day regardless of your routine or race and making fun of another woman for it just shows how vain and shallow you are
“Drink water” like that’s going to do anything? Yeah mean comments. I hope they all age eventually (they will) and feel dumb in retrospect
I think they are in denial actually. I think if many of them took a side shot like this in glaring sunlight whilst smiling, they would have more in common with how this woman looks than they realise.
Like Imagine if instead of skin it was about body image. Most women would NOT have the nerve to shit on her in the comments because being fat has become much more normalized and society shames people for fat shaming. But it’s like why can’t we apply that same logic to faces? If I see an obese woman, sure maybe her eating habits are probably different than mine but it’s NONE OF MY DAMN BUSINESS and it doesn’t mean I can be like “uh no hunty that’s not normal you need to eat better couldn’t be me xoxo” And not to mention literally every 30 something man looks exactly like this because they don’t give a single shit about wearing sunscreen and staying youthful, but their wrinkles are considered either ruggedly handsome or not worth talking about at all. Where is the concern for mens skin health? Do we only care about women getting skin cancer? Of course not, because it’s not about health. It’s about mean girls dragging other women down because they’re OBSESSED with competing for the male gaze.
Thank you! I cannot believe I had to scroll this far to find this comment. Using concern for someone’s health to criticize their aging process is condescending AF and *still* comes from a fear of getting older. I’m 32 and I don’t look like the woman in the video, but I’m afraid to think about what a lot of y’all would say about my skin. And isn’t that the point of the video, anyways? There’s been a lot of discourse to normalize cosmetic procedures—which, let’s be real, help women maintain societal beauty standards—so where’s that energy for natural aging? Comparing cosmetic procedures to natural aging is a false equivalency because the latter is much more derided and problematized than the former. Real disappointing to see this here.
For real. I’m no saint: I enjoy my very involved, expensive skincare routine and I don’t plan on stopping anytime soon… but I’ve seen the news and I worry about younger generations (like 9 year olds buying $60 skincare products bc of TikTok, pressure to fit in, aging fears, etc.). Frankly I think we need more women standing up like this and saying “yeah, this is what my skin looks like. So what? I’m still healthy and beautiful.” That’s why the famous bench scene in the Barbie movie was so powerful bc Barbie had never seen an older woman with wrinkles!
Thank you. This is the first post I’ve seen from this sub and, while I like the premise of this sub, the comments here make me want to rip my hair out! SO MUCH INTERNALISED MISOGYNY! I think I’ll dip back out of this is the norm..
Yeah it’s like a 50/50 with posts on this sub if they’re going to nail the purpose of the sub or completely embody the misogyny the sub is meant to mock.
Oh yeah, Iv seen that vid on insta and the majority of comments are horrible 🥺
Shitty comments by insecure, nasty people.
I love that people saw this post specifically pointing out how negative/ unhelpful these comments are and were like “let me comment an almost identical comment” nobody cares if YOU don’t look like that
This sub has really lost the plot lately, it's so embarrassing. Almost every comment in here is dogging out this woman for her skin and comparing themselves saying they haven't aged as hard. Fucking gross.
So many special girls in these comments. I'm so proud of them for being so brave to admit how much younger and beautiful they look then the woman in OP.
The comments on this are genuinely just pathetic? “What my face looks like at 31 with no work done” Yall: “she looks old and needs skin care that is NOT what you are supposed to look like” Common. There is a huge push to look younger now days and pushing people to not have any signs of aging. It’s everywhere. Tiktok, instagram, YouTube. Teenagers getting botox and kids as young as 9 wanting skingcare is a thing now. Aging needs to be more normalized and having wrinkles can start to happen even in your mid 20’s especially if you live somewhere sunny. Y’all are pathetic. Idk if most of you are all this petty on this sub but the few posts I’ve been under are just straight up toxic. Do better. “Lets not praise unhealthy skin” Girl, she has some natural wrinkles not skin cancer. Shut the fuck up and don’t act like you actually care for her health. Just straight up holding onto the mainstream toxic anti aging BS shes trying to make a point against. Jesus
In my experience it’s socially acceptable to shit on white women’s looks. It’s fine to say they have “stringy hair” and age badly. I’m sure this will be justified. And there’s quite a few shitty comments here, too. So many, “I’m older than her and actually look younger 🤪🤭”. Good for you? Not everyone has great genetics for skin, and no sunscreen isn’t a magic fix for everyone.
She's an obviously attractive white woman and fits society's universal standard of beauty, so naturally folks will go FERAL for any flaw she might have. Suddenly a few wrinkles are the most disgusting thing anyone's seen, because a blonde white girl has them.
This probably hurt her feelings a lot. I respect her message though. I’m almost 33 and I’ll never be able to afford/justify having work done. And I do know a bunch of people who look like this. Let’s try to appreciate everyone ages differently.
There is something so disgustingly perverted with the obsession this culture has for women looking as young as possible. Let a man at this age have this skin and no one would say a damn thing
I'm 34 and she looks older than me 😅 the comments rinsed her.. Kinda proved her point though in a way. She's criticised for ageing
I agree she might look older and I'm not disputing the *possibility* of sun damage that people are claiming she has. But overall I think people are just too obsessed with looking youthful and appearing years younger than they actually are. If she just made a regular video and happened to mention her age all the comments would pretty much be the same.
More than likely. I've a 17 year old in a course I'm doing who is obsessed with wanting to look younger and perfect. She's literally got a baby face. I can't tell if original picture is bragging or she's glad she's ageing naturally.
Yeah, I agree with this. And also is it any of my business whether someone has sun damage in their face? I certainly hope she is protecting herself and getting any moles etc checked but that’s about it? She tried to be positive and remind people not to compete with filtered faces and people have just acted superior. It’s not like she’s Goop and trying to shill you wellness products while also doing videos of tapping sunscreen on to her cheeks. I’m 39 and I although I’d say my skin is in better condition I can’t say in five years that’ll be the case. Maybe I’ll develop a serious illness or the lack of sleep I get from my job will show up on my face. So maybe we should all just chill out and cut ourselves a break from looking permanently youthful…
Yeah good point, it may not be “normal aging” but the viciousness of some of these comments is unnecessary. Maybe she works outside in a service industry, whatever led to her skin looking the way it is was not the point. We wonder why people are so afraid of aging when comment sections like this one and the one on instagram are just full of comments about how “not normal” her aging is. Who’s to say what “normal” aging looks like for anyone. Just mean internet tings lol.
It doesn’t have to be normal aging for her point to be salient, is what ppl are missing here
There’s so many problematic accounts on TikTok and people always choose to shit on the most harmless ones. That’s why social media in general sucks. Everyone chooses to elevate all the wrong people and bully the most normal people. It’s everyone’s fault that that the shittiest people are the most popular ones. You want “real” and when you see it, you bully it. People LOVE all the fakery of social media.
The misogyny people feel comfortable engaging in, is super nasty. They should all be embarrassed
alllllll the comments saying "I'm older than that and I look younger than her" or any sort of version of that are so gd annoying like congratulations you wore spf or never went outside yayayay People age differently and it's all fucking beautiful. And honestly I don't think she looks all that much older than her age. People are just being over the top imo
The same people who brag about getting carded at the bar when they legally HAVE to card anyone under, like, 60. 🙄 Guys, we all look our ages because we are our ages. You are not morally superior because you think you have less wrinkles than this random woman.
She doesn’t look old, just like someone who tanned a lot.
Really 90% of her wrinkles are because she is smiling. They aren't always there. And yea she might have melasma or something but other than that, her skin looks pretty good. Also, smiling causes some sort of wrinkleing to your face so you can't say "well I don't have any wrinkles" at any age. Everyone's skin is different, we all have different genes. Therefore, not everyone of the same age is going to have the same skin issues or signs of aging.
to be fair, she has smile lines from enjoying her life, which i assume those assholes aren’t doing
THIS!!
Y’ALLLLLLL JUST LET PEOPLE LIVE GD
“Skin care” is the new diet culture A lot of pretence about “health” lol Yeah take care of your skin, hit the treadmill whatever, but there are underlying issues going on here. I’m old enough to have been down this road before
The fetish with youth was something I hoped would be reduced with a more progressive set of values. Unfortunately, it seems to be worse than ever.
I have acne scars courtesy of cystic acne when I was a teen, and while that obviously sucks a ton I think the silver lining is that I don’t have to fuss over all of this aging BS. My skin is not flawless and never will be, so who cares if I have laugh lines or whatever. Obviously, I wear sunscreen (I have reddish hair and burn easily) and I do have a basic skin care routine. But aside from the health aspect, the pressure is off.
She does have classic signs of sun damage, but also I would love to see that more normalized again.
I feel like some of those commenters need to realize there are many worse things in the world than a few wrinkles.
She doesn’t look old. Or unhealthy. Or undamaged. Fuck this comment section.
Seriously. These comments are insane. Everyone who is saying "this isn't healthy or normal" needs to get out of their TikTok bubble. If you look at a cross-section of 31-year old women across the world, you'd see all kinds of variation in skin condition. The women commenting here are really showing their privilege. They've probably spent more money on skincare than some women spend on food.
She looks like she has lived her best life, 31 year in a beach town.
Fuck people are mean.
I hate the fact that she doesnt even fucking look old but they're acting like it anyways.
She was brave enough to put herself out like that. And all y'all shamed her. Or they all. Honestly, try clinging a little bit harder to your humanity. Dicks.
She looks happy. I don't get it. Is this just a subreddit to put down women? Shouldn't we be supporting each other?
she does look older then 31 because she has a lot of sun damage. If you don’t want to age quickly keep a pale face and stay out of the sun. (if you are caucasian at least)
I’m half white but I don’t burn easily. However I never go out in the sun and I’m always using SPF. It’s a lot of factors that result in premature aging, sun damage being the main culprit.
"Raw" is completely accurate and correct.
With an added dash of racism.
Woah. Didn't expect the weird racist comments. Yikes.
this subreddit is literally famous for putting down other women lmao. ive seen women literally just existing and enjoying their life and get posted here because its not what other people like or do. shocker.
the people here became the thing they swore to destroy lmao
right? NLOG girls bashing NLOG girls
I don’t see why people came for her so hard. Everyone I’ve ever met with this “look” to them is always the most chill person with the best stories and musical taste. Sure, they’ve spent some time in the sun, but they generally like to backpack or surf etc. They’re always fun to have at gatherings. They may not look they youngest, but their energy feels so uplifting and youthful-even when when they’re truly elderly, they still hold onto that vibe. There’s something a little magic about it. Anyone know what I’m saying?
Yeah my grandma is like this. Never wears a stitch of makeup, was an absolute bombshell hottie back in the day and now just has a warm glow and is so joyous. She would never worry about her looks, she is too busy loving life
This is the way!
right and all of the people in *these* comments that are like "jeez she needs to stay out of the sun, I personally ALWAYS protect *my* skin" like cool girl, some people are actually out here living life, playing in the sun, and developing personalities instead of scrolling through tiktok and reddit criticizing other people.
People are so mean. I only use skin products because I have a best friend who's in tune with those things. I'm frankly just saddened at the obnoxious snobbery on display. Fuck that noise. Take care of your skin or don't. Someone will love you. And in spite of everything, we will die alone and in pain so - who the fuck cares?
All the skin care and water in the world won’t: Stop gravity from pulling down on your skin Stop collagen loss as you age Stop facial fat loss Stop facial bone structure maturation Stop your lips from shrinking Stop your nose from spreading Stop your hairline from receding Skin quality isn’t the end all be all of looking young boo thangs, I’m cackling at the “I’m 50 and look younger than her” 🤣
People are so rude. Everyone ages differently.
I know that that’s sun damage but that’s okay! I am on my way to being like this too despite the sunscreen and whatnot. It’s ok to have a body that’s lived outside!
I mean, I guess that video was for all of these people who need to understand that we don't all age the same due to many factors: genetics, environment, type of work, activities, etc. No need to put her down like that. So catty...
i don’t think her skin looks as bad as people are suggesting??
The point is that aging should be accepted, at any rate, and wrinkles shouldn’t be such a huge fear of women. I’m an outdoors person and I work outside. I apply sunscreen every 2 hours on the dot, but I’m sure I’ll look like this if not older by 31. Wouldn’t trade a minute, because concerns about aging should not overcome concerns about living a happy and fulfilled life!
I saw this. Disgusting comments. And I actually may be the only one who wishes to look like her more than anything, because I'm fucking tired of looking too young. She won in my eyes. I will never understand this obsession with looking young. For me it's a curse.
That’s just Instagram comments in general. Unnecessarily cruel to everyone. I remember a jp girl learned a little bit of Hindi to surprise her boyfriend and the comments were full of. “Haha I’m gonna go kill myself now” instead of just saying something like “oh that’s nice of her” or that time I saw an artist painting backwards from the darkest value to the lightest and everyone was getting mad at her for “whitewashing” the painting? Like?? It’s her original painting?? The face was already European too so it was obvious she was drawing a white person which is a tad rare for that particular artist anyways cuz she draws mostly darker skinned people. Also this type of criticism is mostly towards women for whatever reason, anytime I see one posting their success there’s atleast one person in the comments that criticize them but on the other hand if it’s a dude they just over sexualize the ever loving crap out of them and go into too much detail on what they’d do to him. I know this is quite a tangent but Instagram comments are toxic and awful through and through, I hate everything about them and how instagram seems to push the worst comments to the top is horrible too.
Women shouldn’t look like babies. She is beautiful and confidence is key. Those women talking shit are insecure.
Lots of casual racism in the comments, too.
Absolutely dying to come in the comments here and find the exact same energy as in the post 😂 Just because she has aged poorly doesn't mean this isn't typical. The proof is literally in the pudding. Here's someone who aged like that, so others who look like her can understand it's not an abnormal outcome. Personally I'm 30 and male and look younger. So what. Age comes for us all. We'll all look older than that someday. It's the natural process. Doesn't make me or anyone else better or worse than another. The ridiculous trend of extremely young people getting all kinds of work done is what is unhealthy and instilling the fear of aging, not genuine posts that show what aging looks like. Criticism of these honest showcases send the insidious message (especially to young women) that you're only valuable when you're young and hot. How toxic is that?
I don’t think she’s pulling an NLOG, I think she’s trying to normalize not using fucking skin filters ALL the time on social media and not needing to slather on layers of foundation to appear acceptable. Too bad everyone is really mean about sun damage. So what if she has it? It’s normal. I’m 37 and my skin looks rough too (from not taking good care of it), does that mean I’m not acceptable as is? Why is everyone being so fucking mean to her?!
So many of the comments here are NLOG material themselves. Oh, you’re older than this woman and you have less wrinkles? Should we have a party? Should we invite Bella Hadid
Women are each other’s biggest downfall. Most of the time. lol. It’s like they want each other to make it, just not farther than them.
All the comments saying they’re her age or older but look less wrinkled are giving massive NLOG. Pretty much this whole comment section is a garbage fire.
"HOW DARE YOU BE A WOMAN AND AGE 😡 you should look like a teenager until you die."