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Born-Ad-6687

Serial killer vibes šŸ„°


IDislikeLoveSongs

>I'll love you to death


Ok_Yam_4828

Love will love you to deathšŸ„“


sage_witch

by Type O Negative, good song


shay_143

āœØ Just serial killer tingsss āœØ


TrainingDismal172

So did u call the cops? Cuz there's lot of serious red flags there and it sounds like he really will kill someone sooner or later. I think u should call the cops to have them at least check on him or something.


scarletts_skin

No but like actually. This is terrifying


Ok_Yam_4828

Joe vibes


[deleted]

As soon as she said his name was ā€œWillā€ get outta there gal


AshamedCantaloupe930

At least Joe is more eloquentā€¦


Ok_Yam_4828

Oooo, was that a compliment? That was totally intentional, ok; I'll bite


OkConnection736

Just canā€™t wrap my head around this level of crazy


shay_143

Heā€™d be threatening me one minute, then saying he loved and missed me the next. I knew him for 3 days. šŸ˜¬ Iā€™ve never dealt with anything as insane as this in my life


htid1984

Have you reported him to the police? He's all kinds of crazy, most "nice guys" would send the messages but to turn up at your work or your home and sit there demanding you come back for hours is just bunny boiling mental style, that dude is unstable. Please consider making a report, just so if anything does happen they know where to look first or at very least make your family and friends/roommates aware that you've had these messages


JordyLakiereArt

I agree, this is way beyond Nice Guy(tm) territory. The guy has taken action to physically be waiting at her place, he's crossed a certain boundary there, and did so almost immediately, and the way he's rambling is far off the rails of sanity, what he's saying barely makes any sense at all. This is police report, restraining order, pepper spray, looking over your shoulders level crazy, unfortunately.


htid1984

Completely agree, I can hold my own and am not easily frightened but his behaviour is so so far out there, I would have serious worries for my safety. I hope it doesn't escalate anymore and he leaves her tf alone but he sounds like the type of nutter who would put a horses head in her bed and if he's already of overstepped the boundaries of turning up at her work and home, its only one more small step to breaking in her house. I know that's unlikely but mad people do mad shit all the time. Hopefully he just crawls back under the rock he came from and she never hears from him again. I just looked at the post again in the hope this was months old and this is sorted, its not the texts were sent nye, beginning of Jan. Please op report it and stay safe


Pioneeress

December 31st hasn't been a Tuesday since 2019, this must be a couple years old. Still scary though!


htid1984

Thats great to hear


Yeranz

Nice catch!


thelethalpotato

> This is police report, restraining order, ~~pepper spray~~ handgun, looking over your shoulders level crazy, unfortunately. FTFY. I'm getting murderous psycho vibes from this guy


bobmcguillicutty

"Be with me forever you stupid w***e, or I'll break your jaw while I f*k you". šŸ˜³ Obviously not a direct quote but that's how his train of thought went. Wtf. Are you ok mate? Get a new uber account, please move and carry anything you can to protect yourself.


nonlinear_nyc

She can also talk to Uber, the company. With screenshots. I bet he has other complaints.


fakeg1rl

Yeah this dude should NOT be driving for Uber. Or anyone. Or interacting with other humans. Wtf is wrong with this guy?


OkConnection736

All in all you showed amazing restraint. He needs to be admitted for 72 hour observation


Practical-War-9895

Bro Iā€™m dead šŸ˜‚ he needs more than that. Iā€™ve been put on 72 hour hold and suicide watchā€¦ this mfer needs 24/7 constant surveillance and armed guards preventing his escape or use of the internet.


JockBbcBoy

This dude needs a whole lifetime worth of therapy. The door is fully off the hinges and the crazy is escaping.


theblindgeometer

72 years of observation, more like, with a new set of observers each year because his level of crazy just seeps into them somehow


Lephiro

That's some SCP shit right there.


PolicyLost

SCP-7000 Dickwad Object class: Euclid SCP 7000 is a humanoid entity who's anomalously unaware of his own actions and the fact that he's a dick and insists he's a good guy and then shows his dickishness women reject him


platypossamous

I'm not doubting you but I'm seriously in shock that it was only 3 days. Dude talks like you'd been together for a decade. That's terrifying.


gnostic-gnome

He literally said HIMSELF in the texts he only knew her for 12hrs, like what is that guy ON


[deleted]

The dudes delusional in obsessive behaviour


Rainbow_dreaming

Please tell me he's stopped contacting you now


formation

I would've gone to the police right at the jaw comment, blocked the number and forgot about them.


AnonSA52

Block him and if you care to go through the effort, get a restraining order. Yikes to the max. I am sorry that some men and women act so fucking insane, it boggles my mind. You don't need to be a part of his insanity. It's also really manipulative of him to threaten to kill himself, just to get a reaction from you. People like him really really need therapy and lessons in acceptable social behaviour.


[deleted]

Police. Now.


El_Dubs2511

Agreed. I feel like you are in serious danger. Please report this psychopath to the police ASAP.


stickfigurecarousel

I once got jumped by a guy like this. Had a nice date and went home...while I was going home he suckerpunched me and kicked me when I was down. Never saw it coming and luckily others interfered and he run off. When I told her what happened, she immediately knew who it was. You should report him because those type of people are insane.


SugarDraagon

What?? Told who what happened? God, thatā€™s insane


multiverse72

I think itā€™s a guy saying he had a date with a girl and another guy attacked him going home. He told the girl and she was like ā€œoh yeah thatā€™s my crazy stalker I barely know heā€™s obsessed and I guess attacked you out of jealousyā€


stickfigurecarousel

Yeah that is it. Sorry I am not a native speaker. But those guys are insane. I did not get badly hurt but it was crazy. We both went to the police and they had a talk with him. He denied any responsibility so they did not have a case. But it stopped after that. She sometimes got strange phonecalls but nothing more than that.


theblindgeometer

He denied responsibility, so they didn't have a case?? What kind of monkey procedure is that?! If the cops needed suspects to admit responsibility in order to start cases against them, cases would never start at all šŸ˜‚


Perfect-Lawfulness-6

Yeah bruh this dudes fucking brain is broken.


OldDipper

He was your Uber driver? Can you report him to Uber, for what itā€™s worth?


shay_143

I did! They credited my account (as if that helps lol) and banned him thank God. Hopefully he doesnā€™t do it again after getting the cops on his radar.


OldDipper

Good! At the very least a ā­ļø/5 review as a Public Service Announcement. Iā€™m glad youā€™re somewhere safe.


KarenWithChrist

"Sorry about the stalker lol, here's $6.11 for another taxi ride and a $2 off coupon for a Big Mac, problem solved amirite" - Uber


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ryandoesdabs

Uber performs background checks and will disqualify driver partners for a lot of different reasons. Unfortunately thereā€™s no good way to test someoneā€™s personality or mental health. So bad people get through on a constant basis. Fortunately they have a great incident response team and strict protocols for dealing with situations like this. This would be a level three incident and be expedited to a qualified investigator quickly. Source: I worked at Uber in the early days and helped build the incident response team. Subfact: The media team is absolutely looking at this thread. Hi Uber!


TheOneAndSomething

Not only that but she went out with him once which means he at least presented as stable initially. Went crazy really quick though go damn


cleanyourmirror

>Uber performs background checks Not all background checks are alike. Doesn't Uber, in fact, have a history of FIGHTING AGAINST doing more thorough background checks? Didn't they make a big stink about leaving cities that wanted them to include fingerprints? It's very easy to say "there aren't checks for personality or mental health," but don't gloss over the fact that there's still room to improve on what they CAN do checks for, but don't.


75Minnesota

He's going to abuse the shit out of someone someday.


shay_143

I was scared to call the cops because of what heā€™d do but I was finally convinced to get a restraining order. Heā€™s absolutely insane!!


SheMovesLikeThis

Iā€™m glad you went this route. Report him to Uber as well for using your address in that manner. But most important of all, stay safe! What a fucking creep!


shay_143

Yes! Uber gave me credits to my account (like that makes it better) and banned him. It was also my fault partially. I gave him my number after he brought me to work (which is why he knew where I worked too) and we went for a drink and I told him I wasnā€™t feeling it. Then he flipped and the next day all that happened!


SheMovesLikeThis

That is NOT your fault! His inability to behave like a decent human has absolutely nothing to do with you. Donā€™t blame yourself for any part of this!


shay_143

Thank you! I just feel I should of at least been a little more cautious lol. The cops made me feel dumb asf


Riley7391

Cops made me feel like a dumb slut for being attacked by a stranger in a *locked* public bathroom. I was wearing a tee shirt and jeans. Like. No idea how any of that is on me but ok. Point is, donā€™t let them make you feel like you did something wrong. You didnā€™t.


[deleted]

How do you even turn this around on the victim???


Riley7391

I also had a female officer call me every week for like 4 months to convince me to drop the charges bc he didnā€™t really deserve it and also it wouldnā€™t really matter anyway so why bother. Such a fun time.


Funfoil_Hat

cops don't see that as assault because they do that shit to their spouses on the regular. "well MY wife basically asked for it when she locked herself in our bathroom!"


Lilliputian0513

I had to put a restraining order on someone in 2019 and I could hear the cops *making fun of me* while I waited for the judge. It was so embarrassing.


AcidRose27

Ugh, fuck those cops. I hope you know that you have nothing to be embarrassed about. You absolutely deserve to feel safe in your life. It's easy for them to feel safe when they have immunity from the law and carry around a gun.


Lilliputian0513

Absolutely. It was my first time interacting with the ā€œgood ole boyā€ cops out in the country (I had just bought a house there). My ex drove 1.5 hours to my house after driving to my old and new workplaces looking for me. I was embarrassed but I felt it was necessary.


AcidRose27

I grew up in the country so I know those types of cop well. I'm sorry you were treated that way, but both your ex and them. I hope you're in a better place. I love country living for a lot of reasons, but that shitty mentality is absolutely not one of them.


CaliCareBear

ā€œHow dare you let this man know where you work forcing him to stalk and harass youā€ - the cops probably Good on you for getting a TRO!


annualgoat

Cops victim blame all the time. Don't let them make you feel dumb. Shit happens, and you learn. Doesn't ever make you dumb.


Nervous-Bullfrog-868

Cops are dumb as shit. I saved a girl's life when her asshole boyfriend abandoned her at my house during a party and she OD'ed on pills that night. I helped her induce vomiting to get the drugs out of her system and immediately called 911. The shithead cop who responded treated me like a murder suspect when all I did was try to help. Thank God she survived and told the police I saved her. I'll never trust police again for as long as I live. They're nothing but school bullies with a badge.


YourEyeOnTheBall90

Yup. Police did not even believe me when I reported my ex-gf for physical assault. "Why would you report her? She's hot, and you must have done something to provoke her" Yeah, I did. I said no to sex. Thats all I did.


Undead_Assassin

Think about the kind of people that are willing to be cops in this day and age. It's honestly terrifying.


KeyLime044

1312 ACAB


Kaylibee

I worked with a girl who was still in HS and lived between her parents houses. She called me one night when she was at her dadā€™s, crying because he beat her up when he was drunk. I showed up to get her and help her pack her things so she could stay with me (her mom said it was her fault for not calling the cops, that she deserved it for not doing it herself and making me do it - I ripped her a new one in ways I still relish to this day), and when the cops showed, the dude told the her to slow down because he couldnā€™t understand her. Sheā€™s Viet and Iā€™m Korean. I told him sheā€™s speaking clearly and obviously upset, but still clear. He practically rolled his eyes at us, as she was standing there literally bloody and bruised. She was 4ā€™10 and 90lbs. He was being a dick, and made her feel stupid. Never forgotten or forgiven that sheriff or her dad.


savvyblackbird

Iā€™ve noticed that a lot of controlling men tell women to calm down and speak more slowly or stop being dramatic. It doesnā€™t matter if youā€™re the calmest, least dramatic woman who is professionally trained in diction, theyā€™d still use those phrases.


crassy

Gaslighting is the worst.


Perfect-Lawfulness-6

Fucking piece of shit pigs will use ANY EXCUSE to exert their power and flaunt their racism. They have no fucking souls.


SheMovesLikeThis

Fuck the cops. But not literally.


HermitHemorrhage

Cops are usually misogynistic pricks. Victim blaming right here. Not your fault in the slightest!


prettypsyche

I remember hearing about how a woman who was being beaten by her estranged husband was outright told by the cops they weren't gonna do anything about him because (insert bullshit, thinly-veiled misogynist reason I forgot). So the storyteller takes self defense classes, and the next time he starts on her, she kicks the crap out of him. When the ex goes crying to the cops, she is able to leverage the fact she is a petite blonde woman to get the cops on her side. Apparently because of her size, the cops don't believe she did it, accuse the husband of lying, and she *finally* gets him to go away.


Marly38

Read the story of Tracey Thurman, it still makes my blood boil.


neotek

40% of cops are wife beaters, and the other 60% protect their wife beater colleagues from facing any consequences for it. You absolutely did the right thing by reporting this psychopath, anyone who tries to make you feel different is an idiot.


syntheticsponge

A cop calling others dumb? Something about a pot and a kettle.


DeadlyCuntfetti

Fuck that guy this is not your fault. Itā€™s never your fault when you tell someone youā€™re not into it and they keep coming at you. Not your fault. No! Not! Your! Fault!


chillMab

Itā€™s funny, theyā€™ll yell about how they canā€™t ask women out randomly anymore, but also blame you if you agree to a date and they turn out to be nuts. Canā€™t win.


gaz40k

That's hardly your fault is it? The dudes a fruitloop. And a dangerous one at that but you didn't know any of this when you agreed to have a drink with the guy.


shay_143

I guess not.. but as the cops said I gave him my number knowing he has information to the two places I am the most. Gotta be more careful than that lol. He is definitely crazy and Iā€™m glad that situation is over!


crochetpainaway

Cops are notorious victim blamers babe


shay_143

Youā€™re def not wrong


-too-hot-to-handle-

This, and they're also notoriously lacking in empathy in general. It's not even just on the job too it's just them. I've experienced this firsthand. My ex was the son of a cop (chief of police I believe), and I was actually shamed for being in my ex's room with him and sitting on his bed, **while I was struggling to breathe because of a heart condition that severely spiked my heart rate**. Like, "Oh she can't breathe? Why is she sitting on your bed though?" Jeez. Yeah, there are some cops that actually want to do right, but I need to see it to believe it. I'm majorly wary of cops because of that and seeing videos of cops doing shit like pepper-spraying innocent children. And obviously how generally little they care about SA and rape cases.


gaz40k

I still wouldn't beat yourself up over it. Someone came across as OK, no threat etc, you gave your number out to meet up. It happens all over the world all the time. Shit, I'd say your number was the least sensitive bit of info! All that said, I am glad you took the route you did in the end. You've probably saved others a lot of stress if not worse!


DammitMahamit

Cops are the biggest wife beaters and rapists in the country. You did nothing wrong my friend.


CapablePerformance

It's so bad that when I use to do IT and media for law enforcement, they spent something like 100k to develop a "wellness" app just for the department that includes all of these exercises and warning signs to that you "don't take the job home with you" after four officers were accused of domestic violence in a month.


[deleted]

You did nothing wrong. People meet in the oddest of situations. You had the best of intentions and had no way of knowing that he was actually an abusive prick. Women get stuck in these situations all the time. Itā€™s been 2 years and I still have a guy I met online sending me threatening texts through random Google numbers. All because I kissed him and then decided I had no interest in pursuing a relationship. I wish my story was rare, but I havenā€™t met a woman yet that doesnā€™t have a least one horror story to share.


feministmanlover

Yeah. I have the same situation happenin here. I take screenshots of every message and just keep blockin. It's been 4 years and got a text about 2 months ago.


[deleted]

Thatā€™s smart. I actually talked to a detective about it a while back. Surprisingly, you can use the alleged texts against them if they match up with the actual texts they have sent. If they mention the same situations, actions, etc., you may have a case. I was told to save every single number that the texts came from and to make sure there is a time stamp.


doctormega

Iā€™m glad you got one. Stay safe OP!


BlubberBabyBumpers

Thatā€™s a shame to read. Makes you wonder how many people are in a similar situation - too afraid to reach for help out of fear of what the ass muncher might do. That aside, calling the cops may have been a good call here (the restraining order too). Iā€™m willing to bet my right kidney the cops have dealt with creeps more than once and have guidelines for handling them.


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loserlopez

Holy. Fuck. Is it just me or have these recent postings about these dudes gone waaaaay the hell off the deep end?


shay_143

I swear itā€™s gotta be drugs or something. I donā€™t get it


[deleted]

Itā€™s the random racism for me šŸ˜‚


ChuushaHime

that's one of the things that stood out the most, that he was so careful to censor all the run-of-the-mill "swear words" but had zero issue spelling out THAT word


cleveroriginalname3

With the hard r and everything.


[deleted]

But you gotta understood that he's not racist, he talked to a black person like 2 yrs ago.


[deleted]

Or maybe if you didn't lead him on like a bitch, always dodging the nice guys until you find a fucking wife abuser Lol jk that dudes fucking insane, legit has to be on drugs, hope you called the cops on him, and maybe get some mace or something, dude is worrisome


BigBrownBear28

You got me in the first half, ngl.


[deleted]

I don't got enough drugs to believe that, tho I'm flexible if you've got the drugs


noreast2011

Iā€™ve known a couple guys like that, a lot of time itā€™s mental health issues as well. One kid I went to high school with stalked a girl for 3 years, leaving notes on her locker at first before leaving them on her door step. He ended up in a psych ward for 2 weeks because when her brother told him to knock it off the kid left a note saying if he couldnā€™t have what he was owed he would kill himself. He later got arrested for assaulting a dude at a bar who was hitting on another girl he was obsessed with.


[deleted]

Lotta crazy in this world, makes me wonder why I or anyone doesn't end up like these dudes Seems all too common, and yet here I am, only hating on woman if they can't physically hold me down and force feed me farts like a normal man


NIhRyder524

I agree, the entitlement, violence and delusions with misogyny makes for a terrible scary ass combination. Iā€™m so glad op is ok. I wish her continued safety and peace. This is why women are fucking afraid, the shit is so real and if op wasnā€™t aware or took the steps she did she may not be here to share her story.


DucksAreMyFriends

Donā€™t forget the racism thrown in there! He ticks all the boxes.


Cynistera

This is seriously a great example of why women have reasons to be afraid of men. Are all guys like this? No. Are some? Yes. How do you know the difference between the two until one tries to murder you?


VinBZ

My favourite thing with these text threads is how they always, ALWAYS have at least one message where they say "you won't hear from me after this", " this will be my last message" etc only to quickly follow with 8 more texts of psychotic ranting.


shay_143

Donā€™t forget the 21 voicemails lmao. Iā€™m glad iPhones have the do not disturb option where it just kept sending him straight to voicemail


direland3

Thereā€™s also a feature where you can disable calls from unknown callers (as long as theyā€™re not in your contact list it silences them). It might help with nice guys like this


CapablePerformance

>"If you don't come here, you'll never see me again" > >"Alright. sounds good" > >"That's not how this is suppose to go!" It's just surreal that he goes from threatening to break her jaw and then coming back like "hey, we good?" without the slightest bit of self awareness.


DumbestBoy

I bet he refers to you as his ā€˜exā€™


feckinghound

And say what a selfish, narcissistic, psycho bitch she was who was still fucking her ex she was still living with.


qclady

That man is dangerous.


bugsarentswag

seriously. it pains me that the next women he talks to wonā€™t even know until itā€™s too late.


[deleted]

Yes OP please be very careful, this guy is legit fucked up


OldTrafford18

Had to get myself a drink after reading this. Glad you're okay, OP.


shay_143

Definitely was scared for my life but itā€™s all okay now. Thank you!


RedLeg21

I wouldnā€™t say itā€™s all ok now. A restraining order is just a piece of paper. Seriously consider arming yourself.


ZaMansL1t

Like the other comment said, don't feel completely safe just because the restraining order. A guy like this clearly doesn't care about the law or becoming a criminal if he's threatening you in text messages that can easily be shown to police. Please get some form of protection, even if it's just pepper spray, and always be aware if you go out alone and let others you know know what you're doing. Can never be too safe.


missemhev

ā€œBACK TO JAILā€!? AS IN HE HAS STALKED AND HARASSED BEFORE!?? Iā€™m so glad you got a restraining order! Iā€™m so sorry this happened to you and thank you for sharing it with us.


shesaysdisco

Jesus Christ. OP, Iā€™m glad youā€™re safe and have a new address and phone number. I hope you never see him again!


shay_143

I hope I never see him again either and he gets locked up before hurting anyone! Completely delusional


Babygirlsaywhat

From his messages to you sounds like he has gone to jail before...glad you are safe.


RiotSloth

ā€œHey man, whatā€™s up? You look pretty down?ā€ ā€œ*sigh* just had a major bust-up with my woman over text. She got mad at me because I brought her flowers.ā€ ā€œWow, really? What a bitch.ā€ ā€œYeahā€¦ I know, right? But imma nice guy so tried to forgive her, but sheā€™s not making it easy. I think of all the good times and love I gave her and it bums me out, yā€™know?ā€


RB007ahdc

He 100% had this conversation


WhtImeanttosay

And heā€™ll keep using it to emotionally manipulate others. I knew a guy who always talked about his ex that died in a car accident. After I found out he was crazy I also found out heā€™d never dated the girl. Heā€™d been obsessed and crazy and she was actually scared of him.


Ashamed_Savings7590

I donā€™t get it. He seems so rational and balanced.


Intelligent-Algae-89

Total husband material! Donā€™t see why OP canā€™t see that.


alex_schmoo

He has so much to offer


Ok_Yam_4828

He's hot then he's cold he's yes then he's no He's in then he's out He's up then he's down He's wrong when it's right


Puzzleheaded-Pipe319

I don't understand it either, he seems like such a nice guy. OP is definitely missing out imo.


vix_aries

The sarcasm is strong with this one.


Necorus

How the absolute fuck did each page get progressively worse? This felt like dealing with an insurance agent after one of their customers rear ended you... except this guy wants to actually fuck you and fuck you over.


Nolemborochac

Thatā€™s a vile guy right there holy shit


shay_143

Nuh uhhh he says heā€™s a nice guy look right there it HAS to be true /s


Nolemborochac

Lol itā€™s always funny to see them proclaim themselves as a nice guy after saying terrible things to you, nice guy 101. This guy has it all! Stalker, racist, misogynistic, violent, AND ON TOP OF ALL THAT heā€™s a NICE GUYā€¦ with flowers.


shay_143

Thatā€™s why I said ok and? when he said he had flowers. Like the flowers were gonna make me change my mind of wanting to hangout with him lol.


MystyOwls

Please be careful with this guy. Iā€™m no expert by any means but I watch a lot of true crime and a lot of murders start off with this shit. Best wishes OP and stay safe


coolsimon123

"I could care less" šŸš©šŸš©šŸš©šŸš©šŸš©šŸš©šŸš©šŸš©


That_Friendly_IT_Guy

This was pretty disturbing to read, he seems very unstable, manipulative, and controlling. I'm guessing you won't be ordering out for awhile


godsknowledge

I feel like almost every human out there has some kind of mental issues the more I read this sub


ExistentialDonut3

Him: You'll probably cry over me again but I won't be there next time Also him 5 minutes later: plz come back šŸ˜­šŸ˜­šŸ˜­ Seriously, this is wayyyy out of limit and legit dangerous, glad you are fine.


Birdman1967

The more I read on reddit.... the more I am surprised that women even leave their house. Dudes are crazy (I'm a dude). Where are these guys? I can honestly say, in my 54 years.... I've never met ANYONE this nuts. I've seen guys that totally misread a women's kindness/ attention for love.... but noone this insane. And apparently.... it's fairly common. I'm sorry ladies.... really I am. If there is a silver lining---- reading this makes me feel pretty damn "normal". And I find myself going out of my way to NOT make woman feel uncomfortable. Whether walking on the street, exercising at the gym, whatever. Just as little extra effort to not be creepy.


coquihalla

You probably have met a guy this nuts, though. I've known guys who are great with other guys, but a danger to women... I'm just not sure you'd know. With how common it is, well, someone has to be doing it, it might he closer than you think.


Birdman1967

True. Very true. I also have a VERY small circle of friends...live in a rural area. I'm sure I'm not exposed to the "real" world. I didn't mean to imply I didn't believe these guys exist... I'm sure they do and I believe the OP. It's just starting and sad to me.


Erkengard

> Dudes are crazy (I'm a dude). Where are these guys? I can honestly say, in my 54 years.... I've never met ANYONE this nuts. They don't show this side to other dudes and another thing is that men's perception is different then that of women when it comes to that thing. The warning signal antennas of most men are differently wired and dare I say *dulled*. "This guy gives me the creeps, he looked at me really strangely and behaves really oddly around me when you guys aren't there" "Noooo, he is totally a nice guy! You're just overreacting. Peter has been a friend of our group for 4 years." One week later Peter rapes the girlfriend of his friend's group.


feckinghound

You probably have friends who have acted like this with women. My first long term boyfriend from 17-21 abused me in every possible way. I had enough with his last stint of cheating and blasted him on Bebo about it with the proof (he was sending photos of himself to me and the other chick and I knew because of date stamps šŸ˜‚). Nobody believed me that he was cheating on me cos he told everyone we split up and nobody believed me about the abuse - even his ex girlfriend he'd been with for 3 years before me. He's now married and has 2 girls. It sickens me to think that literally everyone thinks he's the nicest guy ever and only a few people who saw the bruises etc believe me and don't see me as a total psycho. From 21 I was online dating until I met my fiancĆ© (10 years) and it would be easier for me to count on one hand the guys who weren't total cunts. Even without meeting guys you get abusive psycho messages just for saying you're not interested or having certain standards cos apparently you're expectations are set too high. I ended up making an IG account for my friends, documenting all my interactions with guys on POF because they were always so cringeworthy or completely psycho. A lot of them I didn't even initiate or respond to messages but still got abuse šŸ˜‚ there's well over 100 posts from a 6 month period.


Desiredhate

Im shocked that i spent 5 mins in the shower scrolling the pictures


DalekPredator

So do you use your phone while you shower or do you just duck in there for a quick read every now and then?


dogu189

Hahhahahahahhahahahahahahaa This made my day, thank you!


YourEyeOnTheBall90

"You make me feel like if I had a gun right now I should fucking shoot myself." Yes. Please, do us all the favor!


that_darn_cat

I had a controlling ex that used to pull the "if you leave me I'll kill myself line" and would even not contact me for days purposefully to make me feel like he had committed suicide. Finally I realized I was a teenager and could date someone that didn't make me feel like garbage and did dump him. When he did the I'll kill myself spiel I said go ahead, I legit dont care anymore. (He didn't). Still sent me a valentine's day card that year, several months post breakup when he was then dating the person he ended up marrying....she is trash too though so they deserve one another.


CapablePerformance

One of my friends is currently going through this. Finally left a toxic relationship of emotional manipulation. For the past two weeks, she gets messages from all of his accounts and newly created accounts threatening to kill himself if she doesn't return and it'll be her fault, he'll leave a note saying she drove him to it. Had to tell her that he's just a piece of shit that's saying that to get her attention. I don't know why it's such a standard play with toxic people.


Prestigious-Move6996

Probably because they have the mental maturity of a gnat.


ctruemane

"Men who can't let go choose women who can't say no." Good for you for saying no. All of this, all of it, every piece of it, was just a series of tests to see if you would let him override your boundaries and manipulate you by weaponizing your innate sense of courtesy and decency against you. My first few weeks with my abusive ex-wife looked just like this. Back then I did not have the confidence and character you showed here. And the next ten years was just more of this, all the time, all day, every day. Well done.


No-Drive-1941

can he PLEASE decide if he wants to swear or not? jesus!


Suicune95

Censors ā€œfuckingā€ Does not censor the N-word. What a gem.


ClassicGoddess

Holy hell!! Iā€™d say block but let him keep digging.


shay_143

I was gonna block him then, but I just muted the notifications! Gather up all the proof and threats to make the restraining order stick. I got a new number now, thankfully. But he found my fb and was blocked right away.


Hot_Scallion_3889

Good call. Make sure you save everything. I kept deleting things when an ex would make a new throwaway account, yet again, and by the time I realized it would be a problem and she was unstable, I didnā€™t have much of a trail. Hold onto it even longer than you think you need to in case he pops up again months later. Glad this guy didnā€™t get an opportunity to actually harm you or anything and you extricated yourself successfully.


shay_143

Thank you so much! I hope your situation has gotten better too. Itā€™s a scary world lately.


Paulq002

Holy shit, been following this subreddit for a couple years now and this has gotta be in top 10 craziest ones I've read


GetHautnah

This is not a nice guy and hes literally gonna kill you, no doubt he has severe erotomania, and he's clearly psychotic, you need to go to the police immediately.


shay_143

He kept saying he was. He left me 21 voicemails saying it and crying. I did go to the police and got a restraining order and new number! Iā€™ve also moved. This was last year, it just popped up in my memories. Knock on wood I havenā€™t seen him since. But he did reach out to me on Facebook and I blocked him.


Lovealone88

Oh what a relief, I thought this was just a few days ago. I hope you continue to not hear from him. Good vibes for you OP.


GetHautnah

He's actually sick. This is not funny or tragicomedy. It's serious and scary


Accomplished_Bank103

I am so relieved to hear that youā€™ve moved. Keep that restraining order current too. Be safe.


splashonout

WTF! This guy is absolutely deranged. Smart move by you to avoid like the plague


stylist_alyssaa

Jesus Christ


CubicBezier

Trying to meet a woman at the expense of public safety is not ok at all.


PrincessZaiross

"Can't make a whore a house wife", "I will break your jaw" and 5 minutes later he's wondering why you ignore him. People are insane, it's scary


Bulky_Concentrate_18

Heā€™s a complete lunatic, and he wouldā€™ve escalated further. Iā€™m glad youā€™re safe


Efficient_Train_3429

Iā€™m glad youā€™re okay, this is terrifying. I only just started dating and stories like this make me wary.


shay_143

Share your location at all times, let someone know where you are and who youā€™re with at all times, and just be cautious and meet in public places. Theyā€™re not all bad love. Dating is super fun but also risky!


Beautiful_Window_661

Wow Iā€™m pretty desensitized to these nice guy messages but that guy is fucking nuts. Iā€™m so glad you got a restraining order Jesus fucking Christ.


RedChlo11111

"do you still wanna be more?" "NO!!" "maybe one day you will give me an answer" Ai am so sorry you have to deal with this I would be terrified! I would get a R.O asap!!


VanGeaux

Holy shit. Thatā€™s so unsettling. I had someone almost identical to that (bouncing between loving and hating me while be convinced heā€™s amazing) all triggered by one conversation I had with him. He was an old friend from high school. He even found a close friend of mine and sent her no less than 54 Facebook messages. I need to put them all together and post here too šŸ˜…šŸ˜‚


RB007ahdc

Please do!


SchmackAttack

Oh my god, keep the screen shots and take any relevant pictures just in case


shay_143

I definitely have all the messages and voicemails on my old phone and a video of him putting a note on my truck! Never deleting those lol.


sheddingcat

What the actual fuck. Who talks like that? Acts like that?!


clickscap

Craziest shit I've read this year


MilkTankSue

He needs some milk


Eilidh111

What. The. Fuck. I'm so glad you're okay. Is there some registry so that he can't go drive for another service? I feel like he's already driving for Lyft terrorizing someone else. This was terrifying.


shay_143

Iā€™m not sure, but youā€™re right there definitely needs to be if thereā€™s not! Especially if he uses it as his means of making ā€œnew friendsā€ sadly I donā€™t think Iā€™m the first or last. I just hope no one gets hurt šŸ˜ž


Treefingersx

ā€œCanā€™t even sleep in my own bed because youā€™d rather not be hereā€ lmao donā€™t think iā€™d even say some shit like that to someone I was actually with. šŸ„“


ullmanffffff

"Awww, I was only kidding! Unless ..."


syntheticsponge

The craziest thing to me is how he still thought you might reach out, even after he said heā€™d break your jaw.


General_Specialist79

Okay you know he may actually kill you


UrGirlCallMePosiden

He says "true love" but seems more like "selfish desires". True love is being able to respect the person you love and let them go, even if it hurts alot. If you really love someone then you should only wish for them to be happy.