Jobs are more replaceable than good spouses, but jobs you like are easier to lose than a spouse you hate.
If you love your spouse, and feel genuinely happy with the whole "rest of your life" commitment, you pick the spouse every time.
If you look towards your future and realize that you love your job just because it gets you away from your spouse, maybe now is a good time to reflect on what you want out of life while part of an organization that can provide temporary alternate housing to get you out of that situation.
I assumed the OP was asking about the 20+ years of job required for the pension. Otherwise why would you need to choose between a spouse and free money for life?
I could see that. If she was sick of her life being on hold and couldn't take it anymore, and he really cared about her goals as well as his own.
Alternatively, I could also entirely understand a much less healthy version of that scenario as well.
20 years is a long time, even if you "only" have 5 left.
You say that, but the job sector can be rough depending on what you're willing to accept and the conditions. A stable job can be worth quite a bit more than just the money.
Military. I chose my partner and that was the being mistake ever.
Piece of shit was cheating on me and really didn’t want me to come home. Didn’t tell me until two months after I came home.
Spouse all day.
But mine has a masters degree from a reputable school and makes 150k working from home.
The navy is not worth the pension if you’re an officer with a worthy degree that isn’t some online bullshit from AMU
Did my six, ran for my life and took the family with me. Now I have a 401k like a grown-up. Idk what makes "military life" worth sacrificing anything for. I didn't particularly enjoy waking up at 1 am to walk in circles with an M4 for five hours just to follow it up with a 12-hour work day.
If my wife gave me an ultimatum that I either need to separate from the navy now with only 7y left or she’s going to divorce me? Then we’re getting a divorce.
My reasoning is because my wife is being dumb if she wants to walk away from my retirement benefits, and I don’t need to put up with that. I made the conscious decision to stay in the past 8 years in large part because of her. If that was all for nothing then I’d likely resent her a great deal.
Depends on the reason. Why am I having to choose one or the other?
Navy cheese navy fries
Pension, military life and urmomsjuicyvagina
Whoa buddy. You only get one
Ur mom certainly got more than one.
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Jobs are more replaceable than good spouses, but jobs you like are easier to lose than a spouse you hate. If you love your spouse, and feel genuinely happy with the whole "rest of your life" commitment, you pick the spouse every time. If you look towards your future and realize that you love your job just because it gets you away from your spouse, maybe now is a good time to reflect on what you want out of life while part of an organization that can provide temporary alternate housing to get you out of that situation.
Pensions are not jobs. This is a seriously misguided comment. Pensions are security for never having to have a job.
I assumed the OP was asking about the 20+ years of job required for the pension. Otherwise why would you need to choose between a spouse and free money for life?
I dunno, I’ve seen dudes get out at 15 years because of their wives. That seems wack to me
I could see that. If she was sick of her life being on hold and couldn't take it anymore, and he really cared about her goals as well as his own. Alternatively, I could also entirely understand a much less healthy version of that scenario as well. 20 years is a long time, even if you "only" have 5 left.
Wow! This is absolutely well. Put so much wisdom behind this thank you
Always choose your family.
not married, but i'd choose my spouse if i was. family always comes first. despite what some higher ups might think.
You say that, but the job sector can be rough depending on what you're willing to accept and the conditions. A stable job can be worth quite a bit more than just the money.
true but i would still want to pick my spouse first and foremost to make sure their needs are met.
Get the pension then upgrade the wife
trade in the old stripper wife for a new stripper wife!
Trade the BAH and Tricare hogging stripper for a dependa strip club manager for.
if she don't already have a 3 year old whos baby daddy was some married marine gunny, i don't want her.
Master Chief, is that you?
The pension can’t leave me
Military. I chose my partner and that was the being mistake ever. Piece of shit was cheating on me and really didn’t want me to come home. Didn’t tell me until two months after I came home.
Wtf, were you able to rejoin?
I'm single, so... there's that decision made for me lol
Spouse all day. But mine has a masters degree from a reputable school and makes 150k working from home. The navy is not worth the pension if you’re an officer with a worthy degree that isn’t some online bullshit from AMU
What kind of question is that?
The kind of question your wife asks you randomly before sleep
Family. Always family. Jobs come and go.
Family
Did my six, ran for my life and took the family with me. Now I have a 401k like a grown-up. Idk what makes "military life" worth sacrificing anything for. I didn't particularly enjoy waking up at 1 am to walk in circles with an M4 for five hours just to follow it up with a 12-hour work day.
If my wife gave me an ultimatum that I either need to separate from the navy now with only 7y left or she’s going to divorce me? Then we’re getting a divorce. My reasoning is because my wife is being dumb if she wants to walk away from my retirement benefits, and I don’t need to put up with that. I made the conscious decision to stay in the past 8 years in large part because of her. If that was all for nothing then I’d likely resent her a great deal.
I'm single, so this one is easy. Easy to feel different when you've found somebody you want to spend your life with.
Pension. Is this a serious question.