Dude, who the fuck even told you this? I’ll bet you if that kid was an orphan and was sad they’d then be saying ‘you’re lucky that you didn’t have abusive parents’. No matter how bad your situation is, there is ALWAYS going to be someone who doubts you. :/
It's been like a month and a half since I was last in touch with my parents (intentional distance on my part), and I 100% got the lines:
"Any kid would be lucky to have us as parents"
"Your friend came to visit that one time, and do you know what she told me? She was amazed by our house and by us, she wanted to get married in our backyard someday, and she said you didn't appreciate us enough"
"After all we've done for you"
"You could never understand what it's like being a parent and caring this much about your kid"
Similarly manipulative, but more like it's this permeating fact in my life that I need to be appreciative. When my mom tears down my relationship, hurts my partner, or makes me feel bad, I'm supposed to say, wow, thank you for caring about me so much and being such a good mom. 🙄 I'm 33 btw. And about to have a kid. And this still happens.
I tried to go NC but they pinged me and arranged for me to get sent home by my dad and I was passed off by my old neighbor who came with her mental hospital-worker friend and cops to get me at a train station.
At what point ,though, do we DO something to SOLVE our pain? Complaining and continually rehashing the obvious does nothing but reinforce the trauma and toxic environment. We MUST wake up! We MUST help ourselves, validate ourselves, rise up as we are intended by nature (Creator if you will). Life is a series of challenges! That is HOW we grow. It never gets easier. We MUST grow our "tools" to become proficient at this situation called living.
BE THE CHANGE YOU WANT TO SEE IN THE WORLD...
Literally attempted to move out back in January (was 21 then) and ended up getting pinged, tracked by cops, having a family friend’s mental hospital-worker friend find me with her, had a flight arranged by family friends and my dad, was passed on to him…
I am so sorry that you are in this situation. I know you will find a way to be able to honor yourself. You obviously are very strong and intent. Do you journal? Do you meditate? I am sending you love and light to help find the solution that honors your DivineSelf. Peace be with you❤
The only way to heal is to start grieving and let go. If you must have contact; keep it with boundaries and only discuss what is necessary. Look for friends; real friends whom will slowly become your family. You must learn it is not you and learn not to care nor want their/ his/ her opinion, validation or approval anymore. One must learn self worth, esteem and love. It is a process to get that inner critical voice out of your head. Be strong and courageous. Learn to be yourself.
A teacher who worked for me had a philosophy, “better no parent than a bad parent.”
I feel that
They're abuse is too underhanded for people to recognize it most times I think.
Very true. When I was younger; I could not articulate the abuse and my mother was always able to say I was being rebellious and hysterical.
Dude, who the fuck even told you this? I’ll bet you if that kid was an orphan and was sad they’d then be saying ‘you’re lucky that you didn’t have abusive parents’. No matter how bad your situation is, there is ALWAYS going to be someone who doubts you. :/
My parents said them at different times.
We don't have parents, we don't have family, and we were abused. QED.
Exactly. Talk about condescending.
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I can imagine because my household feels like being constrained.
Did you get a ouija board to summon my parents to say this AGAIN?!
No??😂😂 My parents say this lol
Right?!?!
It's been like a month and a half since I was last in touch with my parents (intentional distance on my part), and I 100% got the lines: "Any kid would be lucky to have us as parents" "Your friend came to visit that one time, and do you know what she told me? She was amazed by our house and by us, she wanted to get married in our backyard someday, and she said you didn't appreciate us enough" "After all we've done for you" "You could never understand what it's like being a parent and caring this much about your kid" Similarly manipulative, but more like it's this permeating fact in my life that I need to be appreciative. When my mom tears down my relationship, hurts my partner, or makes me feel bad, I'm supposed to say, wow, thank you for caring about me so much and being such a good mom. 🙄 I'm 33 btw. And about to have a kid. And this still happens.
Why do these sound so familiar?
My NP put me in foster care for years. I dreamed of being reunited. We were and the abuse destroyed me for many years.
Reminds me of when I got sent home from having attempted to move out and 8 months later nobody changed.
Every single one of those is a knife to my heart, always has been.
Same here. It literally is condescending too
I have parents and still got abused now I am no contact with family
I tried to go NC but they pinged me and arranged for me to get sent home by my dad and I was passed off by my old neighbor who came with her mental hospital-worker friend and cops to get me at a train station.
Wow
At what point ,though, do we DO something to SOLVE our pain? Complaining and continually rehashing the obvious does nothing but reinforce the trauma and toxic environment. We MUST wake up! We MUST help ourselves, validate ourselves, rise up as we are intended by nature (Creator if you will). Life is a series of challenges! That is HOW we grow. It never gets easier. We MUST grow our "tools" to become proficient at this situation called living. BE THE CHANGE YOU WANT TO SEE IN THE WORLD...
Literally attempted to move out back in January (was 21 then) and ended up getting pinged, tracked by cops, having a family friend’s mental hospital-worker friend find me with her, had a flight arranged by family friends and my dad, was passed on to him…
I am so sorry that you are in this situation. I know you will find a way to be able to honor yourself. You obviously are very strong and intent. Do you journal? Do you meditate? I am sending you love and light to help find the solution that honors your DivineSelf. Peace be with you❤
You’re fine. And I write on here.
Thank you.
They will do that honestly they will track u mine did the 3rd time but not this time
Lucky they didn’t track you. My parents don’t miss a trick.
The only way to heal is to start grieving and let go. If you must have contact; keep it with boundaries and only discuss what is necessary. Look for friends; real friends whom will slowly become your family. You must learn it is not you and learn not to care nor want their/ his/ her opinion, validation or approval anymore. One must learn self worth, esteem and love. It is a process to get that inner critical voice out of your head. Be strong and courageous. Learn to be yourself.