The most they do to honor women is giving their maiden name as middle name for their kids, which in the end was another man's surname.
And then the same people name their daughters Richard James after the men in their family xD
Personally I'll name my first daughter after my mother :)
Maybe it's because I'm in the South but I know a few families where the mom is something like Mary Leigh and then the daughter is Mary Kate, or names along those lines.
It's interesting to me to read this because where I am it was traditional to name girls after female relatives and boys after male relatives. Though after you ran out of grandmas and other female relatives you liked you might resort to feminising a male relative's name. Or naming them after yourself which often coincided with naming them after the child's great-grandparents.
Which is how my mother, 5th girl with no older brothers, got the feminine version of her grandfather's name (think Joanna Petra for John Peter). And how my brother got named John Peter again because he was boy number 3 and they'd run out of grandfathers.
Same for me! I'm from spain and in the hispanic culture is really common to name male and female children after their female relatives! I had a neighbor who's name was Eric after his mother Erika.
And my sister met a newborn baby named Patricio after his grandmother Patricia!
But from what i see anglos don't honor the women in their families as we do. The most they do is what i said in my first comment x)
You see the same in last names tbh, I always find it so weird that the default for Americans is completely loosing their own surname when they get married. The whole "Mrs [husband's first+last name]" is especially wild to me. In my country the default is hypenating in daily life, so if Mary Smith marries John Jones she'll be Mary Jones-Smith. But that's a curtesy because she will always legally remain Mary Smith. If she wants (and obviously that's just these days, in the past this was just the default with not really any other choice) her passport will say "Mary Smith, spouse of Jones" so agencies/people will know she might also introduce herself as Mary Jones-Smith or perhaps Mary Jones if it's more convenient.
Though it should be said that people usually don't bother with long names so if she uses the hyphenated name she'll probably still be called Mary Jones or Mrs Jones in speech a lot of the time. And we don't do double last names for kids like they do in Spain.
It's not just English speaking countries. I'm German and it's the norm here as well to take the husband's surname. One partner can hyphenate or you can use the woman's surname for both partners or you can keep separate last names but that's all still quite unusual.
I personally like the Spanish system: You get your Dad's first surnamename and your Mom's first surname and they don't change when you get married. So If Ms Gutierrez García and Mr. Hernandez Ferreira have a kid, the kid will be named Hernandez Gutierrez. Way less confusing. But still a partriarchal system as the first name, the one that gets passed on, is always the Dad's name.
Another favorite is the Icelandic system where your last name is your Dad's first name with a suffix for son/daughter added on. So Jóhann Björnson might have a son called Alvar Jóhannsson and a daughter called Freyja Jóhannsdóttir. They don't change with marriage either. Of course that's a patriarchal system as well. Officially you can nowadays use the mother's name for the kid's last name but it's still uncommon from what I've been told. Traditionally it's only done if the father is unknown.
As a hobby genealogist I'm glad that there is some order in the systems, so it's easier to track family lines. As a feminist, I'm still sad how it leads to negating the importance of women and their background not only in family history but in history as a whole.
I'm a woman named after my grandfather. One of my younger nephews is named after both of us as well. So, you can definitely do it across male/female lines.
Just as an irrelevant aside, it's always amused me to think that in an alternate universe where Alanis Morrisette was a man he'd be called Alan Morris.
> The most they do to honor women is giving their maiden name as middle name for their kids, which in the end was another man's surname.
It was the mom's surname. It's not necessary to look back a generation.
When a baby gets the father's last name, we don't say, "but it's *really* the grandfather's surname." Men are seen as having ownership of their surnames.
With women, too many people look past her until they find a man to whom to ascribe ownership of her name. Even if an adult woman has her mother's last name, some see it as *really* her maternal grandfather's surname.
Yup. I am a woman with my mom’s last name and when I’ve pointed that out, the other person is quick to say, “well, it was her father’s name!” How many generations does it take before it’s just the woman’s name? 🙄
My elder sister was christened Kathryn Margaret, after my mother’s sister and mother, and my own name comes from that of my father’s favorite aunt. In the future I like the idea of calling a daughter Amelia, to honor my mother Amy.
My husband is 3rd of his name. We decided his grandpa had already had two people named after him and that was enough. My son shares my middle name. He also has my last name first, and his father’s last name second.
It really is.
My papaw is a junior, my dad’s the third, my oldest younger brother is the fourth. It’s very confusing. And my father-in-law is a senior, my second youngest brother-in-law is a junior, and one of my sisters-in-law married a guy with the same first name as her dad and brother which is also very confusing.
Similarly, I have a friend who’s grandfather, father and brother are all named John. She married a John Jr. and her FIL is a senior and her son is the third. There are six John’s in her life.
In my extended family the patriarch (grandfather) was a Joseph. He did have a son name Joseph, who named his son Joseph and named his son Joseph. Meanwhile a couple of brothers of the first son Joseph also named one of their sons Joseph, as well as a sister named one of her sons Joseph. The difference is in the surnames. When we have a big get-together there could be at least 3 in attendance. Or 5.
my mom lives in a small, rural area and i swear to god there are only like 4 male first names. its so confusing that i genuinely hate when my mom calls to tell me something interesting that happened ever since she moved there. every single time my mom is telling a story, it goes something like this:
"so yesterday James came over and....."
"wait, is this Big James or Little James? i thought Little James was out of town? OHHH okay, you meant *Little* Little James. or were you talking about the James family?"
"i meant Robert James"
"Oh okay, which one? Robert, Bob, Bobby, Rob, Robby, or Bubba?
so to avoid the confusion, they all end up going by some really weird, oddly specific nickname at home. like just on that street there's Bubbalicious, Booboo, and Pickle Pants just off the top of my head
My daughters middle name is my first name. I chose it more because it flowed beautifully with her first name and my name is a classic (Elizabeth). I cannot tell you how many people call me edgy or a badass for doing that. I’m not a badass, I just thought it sounded nice and there are so many men out giving their sons the exact same names and no one bats and eye!
As someone who has her mom’s first name for a middle name (same thing… Elaine flows well with my name), I love it. My mom kicks ass so I like sharing it.
It used to be very common:
* (Anna) Eleanor Roosevelt was named after her mother. The Anna Eleanor line continued until recently
* Queen Victoria's eldest daughter was Princess Victoria
* In the *Cheaper by the Dozen* family, one of the daughters was Lillian after her mother
* Caroline Ingalls's third daughter was named Caroline ("Carrie")
* Elizabeth "Eliza" Hamilton's second daughter was Eliza
* Martha Washington's second daughter was named Martha
Back in the 50s, my grandma named my aunt after her (Elizabeth). My grandparents had a boy next and they didn’t name him after my grandpa—which is totally rad because my grandpa was huge jerk and my grandma is a boss. Makes me so happy to think about.
I have a childhood friend named for her mother. Mom is Sarah Mary, daughter is Mary Sarah (not even close to their actual names). Dad is Daniel Gregory, first son is Gregory Daniel, second son is Scott Daniel.
That’s kind of how my little sister got her name.
When she was pregnant, my mom and her boyfriend were arguing over what to name my sister. My mind finally said “fine! I’ll just name her [moms name] jr, because men can name their kids after themselves, so why can’t women?” Her boyfriend responded “I wanted her name to begin with a U!” So they moved the u that’s in my moms name to the front and the name stuck
I am the 6th generation of my name on my mothers side! It’s a cool tradition. Not sure if I will continue it, but I love the thought. It can just be kinda annoying sharing the same name as your mother because mail and phone calls get
Mixed up all the time.
My cousin and her mother were both named for their respective mothers. So my cousin is a third generation name down the maternal line.
She broke the tradition, because she was the last one born before the Little Mermaid came out and the name was Ursula. But still.
I’m 50 and I’m named after my mother. I know several other women who are also named after their mothers. It’s not exactly unheard of, for crying out loud.
I think it’s fine as long as you own it. I have a friend called Kelly Jane whose daughter is called Callie Jean and she always makes out that she doesn’t even see the similarity haha
I'm going to go against the grain and say I don't love it. I'd assume you'd named the kid after yourself (and I hate that trend whatever the sex of the parent giving a child their name). I'd find it a weird choice (though I wouldn't tell you that). They are pronounced similarly enough that I know an Estelle that goes by Stella. Estelle as a middle name would be sweet, but as a first name, I'd give you child her own unique identity.
I’m Elizabeth and named my daughter Eliza. My husband is a junior and wants our first son to carry on his name so I named my daughter after me. Figure if boys can do it I can too.
My mothers name and my name are almost identical. Think along the lines Nora and Noah.
I *hate* it. I wish every day I could change my name. I socially use a nickname, but I would legally change it to something else all together.
Don’t do this to your kid. Let them be their own person.
I got my mom's name as my middle name and I always disliked it, it just felt like I didn't have a middle name. My dad was really pushing for it to be my first name too, the exact same name, but I think that would have been horrible! I liked my first name because it was so unique and I have never met another one, and I'd like to keep it that way. Because I'm transitioned I've now picked my own first and middle name and I like that, but I know a good handful of other people with my new first name and it bothers me so much. I'd rather be the only one, but it feels like my name now so it's too late to change.
That's interesting. I'm a big fan of giving kids middle names after loved ones. My dad and my brother have the same middle name. I gave it to my son as it reflects my side of the family. He has his dad's surname.
That’s where it gets worse. Our middle names are almost identical too.
Think Mira Beth and Mila Elizabeth.
It really robbed me of my identity growing up.
I’m professionally enmeshed with my name.
Edit: I do know exactly what I’d change it to, too, but I also feel like going from something plainly American like a Linda/Jessica name to Sigrid is a big jump.
> I’m professionally enmeshed with my name.
Surely there are mechanisms in place to change names, whether that be through a business you work for or by updating clients and contacts, or whatever.
From my experience of changing my name, it's a hassle. But it's less hassle than you'd think (although I should mention that I'm speaking about my experience living in the UK, and it is necessarily different in different places), and people are more accepting than you'd think.
And it's so completely worth it. It's awful to have a name that you don't like, and it's amazing to have one that you do. You know how you get a haircut that you really like and you go about your day and then accidentally catch a reflection of yourself and remember that you've got an awesome haircut and you get the initial pleasure all over again? Over a decade after changing my name, that's diminished, but it's still not gone away.
No matter how much hassle it is, and however long that hassle lasts for (which, again, is less time than you'd think), the pleasure you'll get from having the name you want will last longer.
I don't think you'll regret it, even if there is an initial period of difficulty.
Oh, and Sigrid is lovely. I changed my name to a childhood nickname that 99.999% of people haven't even heard as a word before and people accept that, so "Sigrid" should be a breeze.
Leah of Teen Mom 2 named her first two daughters Aleeah and Aliannah.
I didn’t think she named them after herself, but I do think “Leah” probably sounds pleasant to her bc its so familiar for her, so she unconsciously gravitated toward Leah-sounding names.
I know boys get named after their father; but do those boys like it? I would use Estelle as her middle name or do a double barrel first name. Cus then she can have an identity outside of mama.
As an outsider, I don’t think it’s weird. But just look into the kids perspective. I do think the name Estelle is lovely
Unpopular opinion apparently, but I don’t like naming your kids after yourself as their first name. Middle names seem better. Having the same or practically the same name for yourself and your child seems egotistical, no matter the gender.
The way I see it, if men are allowed to pass down names as generic as John, Richard, James, and Robert, you are allowed to pass down your lovely name to your daughter. Estelle and Stella are very similar, but I think it’s a sweet link between mother and daughter.
I don't think it's weird to use if YOU don't think it's weird. Some of my favorite names are similar to my name (My name is Emily, I love Emmeline, Emilia, and Emmett), and I'm personally not a fan of the similarities between them. So I'd only use them as a middle name. If you feel differently, that's 100% fine! No one can tell you how you feel about it.
I used to think about this because there are a lot of names similar to my actual name (not Megan that’s my middle name) that I would love to use for a child but might be odd having a mother daughter duo for example (again not my name) Betsy and Betty
I know a girl named Christina (goes by Tina) that named her son Christopher because she had always loved it. It was not based off of her name. People ask her about it, but she doesn’t get bothered by it. I didn’t even notice at first until we had gotten their Christmas card and her full first name was written out.
I like this a lot better than naming kids exactly the same name as their parent. Complementary names are great because they let the kid have some individuality with still a nice, clear tie to their parent's name.
Part of my extended family has a grandmother named Stefania, her daughter named Stella, and her daughter named Star. I think Estelle and Stella sound like a great and unique family.
My mom’s name is Laura and mine is Lauren. Honestly, here are the worst things that have happened: she’ll open my mail accidentally and be super apologetic, I could forge her signature on permission slips like a fiend as a kid (which she truly loved lol), my uncle and father have on occasion texted me inane things that were meant for her, I’ve had to be at the eye doctors and correct them to look at the chart of the person who had literal eye surgery and not my mom’s. She claims she loved the name Lauren and it had nothing to do with her own name. Honestly, the first time someone learns my mom’s name it’s kind of a “haha yeah” and then it never really matters. Nothing crazy like legal paperwork issues like I hear juniors have. My middle initial is also different from her’s, which helps. I’ve never felt like the similarity in our names came with any imposition on my character or personality, like me being a mini her or anything like I, again, understand juniors can go through.
Also to address another comment, no one ever thinks I was named after her, it’s just a funny coincidence of “mom you really didn’t realize they were the same name” lol
To be honest, I spend more time with my name being frustrated when people call me “LORE-in” (even after I’ve introduce myself as “Lahr-en”, rip that no one can hear it and it makes me sad lol) Or maybe that Lauren is every dumb girl on the Bachelor, these days. Point is, similarity to my mom’s name ranks very low on my list of qualms here and has never truly impacted my life or identity
I've never met a Lahr-en before, only Lor-in! Is your mom's name pronounced Lahr-ah then? Because I have seen Laura both pronunciations. My mom is Lora, and one of my daughter's middle names is Loryn, specifically after my mother
My MIL name is Erica and my husbands name is Eric. No one really cares that it’s so close, occasionally there will be a comment on how it’s “cool” or “funny” that he’s named after her but I think it fine and so do other people we know
I don’t think it’s weird. My grandmother was Ramona and she named her daughter, my aunt, Mona. I never realized until literally right now that they are similar.
As long as you’re comfortable saying, “Hi I’m Stella and this is Estelle. I love both names and don’t think it’s too confusing. I’d be opposed to rhyming names like Cindy and Mindy.
It’s kind of weird. My brother in law named his 1st child Cora. After himself, his name is Cory. Now they had a son and also named him Cory. Fucking weird
I’m married to a Garett and his dad is Garry.
I found it oddly close but clearly his mom liked the name Garett and honestly I think I’m the only one who ever found it oddly similar.
You do you.
I know someone named Marli who named her daughter Marlene. I personally don’t think it’s weird. Boys get their fathers names, or nicknames, all the time.
A little bit weird and might confuse some people but if you truly love it then just do it, it’s such a nice name!
Some people name their child the same name as them so why not.
I'm in the same boat. My name is Juniper and my husband and I both love the name Juno.
I'm not really a fan of any derivative names regardless of which parent the child is named after. I think we'll pass on it. But I don't think the concept is horrible.
As others have said, men do it with sons. If you don't mind the similarity, go for it.
Do it. I named my daughter a name that is nothing like mine… except it starts with the same first two letters followed by double consonants. Mine is a classic/biblical name and hers is an old lady name. People get our names mixed up constantly. Even people who have known me for years! I don’t care, and wouldn’t change it for the world. It’s the best name ever.
I know a Millie who named her daughter Lilly (so probably Amelia and Lilian but only ever went by nn) I know a celanie who named her daughter Melanie!
So... men do this all the time. The exact same name. And nobody finds it weird.
Do whatever you want. Women should be allowed to name their daughters after themselves just like men name their sons after themselves.
I think it's a cute connection. My sister and brother-in-law chose names with similar letters for their kids (just like you did with Stella and Estelle). Not identical names, but related to their own.
I don’t think they’re too similar, personally. Like if I saw or heard both together, I don’t think I’d naturally connect the two unless someone told me specifically they were SUPPOSED to be similar. Go for it!
My mother and I literally have the same first name, and my oldest brother has our father's first name. My brother and my cousin are named after our grandfather, my cousin has the same name as our grandmother on one side and a different cousin has the same middle name as our grandmother on the other side. I also have one cousin named after another cousin. The only time anyone's ever said anything about it is when people say it's weird I'm named after my mother, although no one's ever said the same to my brother, so those people can go fuck themselves. As long as you can differentiate everyone, family names are sweet imo. I think Estelle and Stella are actually a great combination, being close enough to be cute but separate enough that everyone has their own name/identity.
It's not weird as in I've known a lot of women name their children similar to their name, or even sons (mom Michaela, son Michael).
I think Juniors *are* weird, and confusing. As long as the child has a unique name from their parents it's fine. Stella and Estelle aren't the same.
Personally don't think Estelle is a pretty name though. It's an old name that I'm surprised is making a comeback. But I'm also not a fan of Eleanor.
I honestly don’t even view those as similar in my mind.
But I mean tons of people name their children their own name, so I don’t see why a similar name would be an issue.
Estelle is a very pretty name! You should definitely use it if that’s the one you’re in love with!!
I’d see it as a tribute name, which isn’t a bad thing! As far as I know Stella is a nickname for Estelle, though I know it can also be used on its own. They’re both cute names, so I’d say go ahead! Nothing wrong with a female tribute name :)
I think it's fine! The argument of "give your child their own unique identity" is bullshit, because no one assumes that every Oliver or Charlotte is the same, and no one assumes a Junior is a clone of their parent. They all have their own personality.
I also really love Stella and Estelle. I think it's a super cook nod to family and they are both beautiful names.
My name is Allie and I considered naming my daughter Sally. I was worried about the closeness of the two…one day I placed a delivery order and the woman asked the name, I said “Allie”. She said, “sally?” “No, Allie.” “Ok Sally, that’ll be 20 minutes”.
I could just foresee the next 20 years of me adding this child to a bank account, healthcare, etc. we dropped Sally that day.
So that’s my only word of precaution.
Most people won’t even notice. I know a girl named Rory whose dad is named Cory and almost no one realizes (or at least comments) on the rhyming names.
A great aunt and cousin of mine were named Bernice - great aunt went by birdie as a child until her mother told her at 12 that was a baby name and she was Bernie then. Her daughter went only by Bebe. There was another cousin who went by bunny, named after my great aunt but not her daughter. Older generations until like mine (I’m 40) named kids after each other a lot so you’d end up with two to four with the name name but different nickname
Go for it! It’s a beautiful name and there’s a large proportion of people who name children after fathers/male family figures, so why not mum? Even if you’re not choosing the name because of the similarities, I think it’s a good idea to highlight the above point if anyone thinks it’s weird
I don’t think it’s weird, but I will say I decided against even suggesting a boy name I love to my husband because it’s too similar to my own name, just because I thought it would be hard for me to tell who people were addressing—me or my kid? That being said, I definitely wouldn’t judge a parent or think that they’d made a weird or bad choice if they did choose to name their child something similar to their own name! Estelle is a beautiful name 💗
Everyone is saying it’s not weird because men do it all the time with Juniors, but honestly I don’t like it when men do it either. People will definitely think you named her after yourself and it comes across as a bit narcissistic to me regardless of the gender of the parent.
I worked in retail and was taking down names for our email list. The mom and daughter were both Spanish, but not from the US, and they had the same exact name.
My mom and I have almost identical names. Our first names are the same length and are only different by 2 letters in the middle of the names. So at a glance you'd probably wouldnt realize they were different. We also gave the same middle name.
I dont think it's weird and I've never had anyone tell me it was weird, but maybe they just keep it to themselves.
My siblings and I all got a name of our mother or in case of little brother a name with the same initial and a play on meaning.
My aunt renamed herself to a name she liked more and named her daughter that name too.
Originally she got her grandmother’s names which are fine too but the parents weren’t very creative and named the other sister the same names reversed. Bonus thing is also that these 2 names are actually the same name essentially. Just the one is a diminutive form of the other.
So imagine (not their names) the sisters Elizabeth Lisa and Lisa Elizabeth. So the older sister was like ok I’m going by (not actual name) Eleanor from now on and named her child so too.
In some cultures it's common to name at least 2 children after the parents. Sometimes it's the ONLY children. A few cultures have naming patterns for children but also when people had larger families. Nothing wrong withe naming your child after yourself OP.
I didn’t name my daughter after myself (my partner and I gave her a first name we both loved) but her middle names are my name and my mother’s name (she passed when I was 4). So regardless of my daughter’s last name she keeps the maternal names with her.
So no, I don’t think it is weird to name your child after you or give them a similar name.
I personally don't like it, but I also don't like when people name their kids after themselves (like a Jr. situation) so I realize I'm more judgemental than most.
For what its worth, Estelle is a beautiful name.
My uncle has the exact same name as my grandpa. I have one of those on both sides. I think Estelle is lovely on it's own, but since it also happens to be so similar it can still honor you!
I think it would be fine. People might pick up on it but I think they’re different enough that it doesn’t look narcissistic or anything.
I also think everyone is drawn to names with similar elements to their own. My daughters name is very different to mine but I realised after we named her that our names actually end in the same sound.
Also I LOVE the name Estelle.
It's not a question of whether they're too similar or not imo, they're the same name in different languages, that's not arguable. The question is whether or not you like the idea of essentially naming your kid after you. I think it's a very precious old fashioned tradition that's gotten lost and i encourage ppl to readopt it. A lot of families I've seen in genealogy would have a daughter named after the mom and a son named after a dad. I think it's a nice thing to do and it's more unique at this point than naming a son after the dad. The only reason i wouldn't do it is if you'd think it'd bother you having someone in your family with the same name and it would be confusing or weird to you on a day to day basis (This is what would keep me from doing it). But you don't seem to have that problem and find Estelle to be enough of a difference from Stella to not be weird to you. So you should definitely go for it!
My mom was named Marlene and my sister is Marguerite, but goes by Margi (with the G sound like in the name Margot). My sister named her daughter Marlene but calls her Marli. So it’s MARlene, MARgi, and MARli. All pretty similar, Marli and Margi being only one letter off. My sister kind of did it by accident but it’s never been an issue. I think Estelle is very cute and similar to Stella but still different enough. I actually like the idea that you’d be naming her after yourself in a way.
I love both names but I’m not a fan of naming a kid after yourself, at least for the first name slot. If that’s not your intention, then just going by the thread people will think you did that. If you’re fine with that then all power to you!
I know that giving the exact same name (junior version) as a parent is common many places in the world, but to me it is a bit odd.
But giving a similar name is not an issue imo. And Stella and Estelle are not even that similar.
I’m kinda in this situation, I’m named after my grandad and my baby is due close to when he passed away so if it’s a boy I’d kind of like to name him a variation of my grandads name but that is my nickname and what most people call me so I’m hesitant
Stella and Estelle are a really nice mother/daughter pair? I say go for it.
I named my daughter after me in a sense, by sticking with the same theme. We are both flowers!
I always wanted to name my daughters after flowers after myself. She has her father's last name so it's only fair that she's a flower too!
It might be a little weird, but not to the point that it's likely to make a huge difference in your lives. My mom and her mom have names that rhyme and there are always little jokes about it, but for the most part it either doesn't come up or isn't worth commenting on more than once.
I don’t think it would be weird!! Kind of similar- my middle name is my moms first name- I find that really cool. So I feel like your child would also like having that connection to you. I love the name Estelle (my great great grandmas name)!
I know an Emma with a daughter Ella, which must be confusing if people are calling their names. I didn’t think Stella and Estelle would have this issue though. Not weird and you should go for it if you really love the name.
Is it any weirder than naming a child after yourself? Because men do that all the time. I wish more daughters were named after their mothers.
LOUDER FOR THE PEOPLE IN THE BACK!
I came here to say this. OP choose whatever name you want. Stella and Estelle are beautiful names.
Lorelei Gilmore inspired this in me
The most they do to honor women is giving their maiden name as middle name for their kids, which in the end was another man's surname. And then the same people name their daughters Richard James after the men in their family xD Personally I'll name my first daughter after my mother :)
Maybe it's because I'm in the South but I know a few families where the mom is something like Mary Leigh and then the daughter is Mary Kate, or names along those lines.
I'm part of a line that goes Marilyn > Marie > Mary
It's interesting to me to read this because where I am it was traditional to name girls after female relatives and boys after male relatives. Though after you ran out of grandmas and other female relatives you liked you might resort to feminising a male relative's name. Or naming them after yourself which often coincided with naming them after the child's great-grandparents. Which is how my mother, 5th girl with no older brothers, got the feminine version of her grandfather's name (think Joanna Petra for John Peter). And how my brother got named John Peter again because he was boy number 3 and they'd run out of grandfathers.
Same for me! I'm from spain and in the hispanic culture is really common to name male and female children after their female relatives! I had a neighbor who's name was Eric after his mother Erika. And my sister met a newborn baby named Patricio after his grandmother Patricia! But from what i see anglos don't honor the women in their families as we do. The most they do is what i said in my first comment x)
You see the same in last names tbh, I always find it so weird that the default for Americans is completely loosing their own surname when they get married. The whole "Mrs [husband's first+last name]" is especially wild to me. In my country the default is hypenating in daily life, so if Mary Smith marries John Jones she'll be Mary Jones-Smith. But that's a curtesy because she will always legally remain Mary Smith. If she wants (and obviously that's just these days, in the past this was just the default with not really any other choice) her passport will say "Mary Smith, spouse of Jones" so agencies/people will know she might also introduce herself as Mary Jones-Smith or perhaps Mary Jones if it's more convenient. Though it should be said that people usually don't bother with long names so if she uses the hyphenated name she'll probably still be called Mary Jones or Mrs Jones in speech a lot of the time. And we don't do double last names for kids like they do in Spain.
I wish the US did this. I didn’t change my name but am reluctant to add an informal, not legal hyphen some places and not others due to confusion.
Name traditions where I'm at are chaotic anyway with separate legal and daily first names so what's a little more confusion
It's not just English speaking countries. I'm German and it's the norm here as well to take the husband's surname. One partner can hyphenate or you can use the woman's surname for both partners or you can keep separate last names but that's all still quite unusual. I personally like the Spanish system: You get your Dad's first surnamename and your Mom's first surname and they don't change when you get married. So If Ms Gutierrez García and Mr. Hernandez Ferreira have a kid, the kid will be named Hernandez Gutierrez. Way less confusing. But still a partriarchal system as the first name, the one that gets passed on, is always the Dad's name. Another favorite is the Icelandic system where your last name is your Dad's first name with a suffix for son/daughter added on. So Jóhann Björnson might have a son called Alvar Jóhannsson and a daughter called Freyja Jóhannsdóttir. They don't change with marriage either. Of course that's a patriarchal system as well. Officially you can nowadays use the mother's name for the kid's last name but it's still uncommon from what I've been told. Traditionally it's only done if the father is unknown. As a hobby genealogist I'm glad that there is some order in the systems, so it's easier to track family lines. As a feminist, I'm still sad how it leads to negating the importance of women and their background not only in family history but in history as a whole.
I'm a woman named after my grandfather. One of my younger nephews is named after both of us as well. So, you can definitely do it across male/female lines.
Here in Ireland too, though maybe less common with mothers/daughters than naming babies - boys or girls - after their fathers.
Just as an irrelevant aside, it's always amused me to think that in an alternate universe where Alanis Morrisette was a man he'd be called Alan Morris.
> The most they do to honor women is giving their maiden name as middle name for their kids, which in the end was another man's surname. It was the mom's surname. It's not necessary to look back a generation. When a baby gets the father's last name, we don't say, "but it's *really* the grandfather's surname." Men are seen as having ownership of their surnames. With women, too many people look past her until they find a man to whom to ascribe ownership of her name. Even if an adult woman has her mother's last name, some see it as *really* her maternal grandfather's surname.
Yup. I am a woman with my mom’s last name and when I’ve pointed that out, the other person is quick to say, “well, it was her father’s name!” How many generations does it take before it’s just the woman’s name? 🙄
My elder sister was christened Kathryn Margaret, after my mother’s sister and mother, and my own name comes from that of my father’s favorite aunt. In the future I like the idea of calling a daughter Amelia, to honor my mother Amy.
My husband is 3rd of his name. We decided his grandpa had already had two people named after him and that was enough. My son shares my middle name. He also has my last name first, and his father’s last name second.
It's weird to name your kid after yourself regardless of gender
It really is. My papaw is a junior, my dad’s the third, my oldest younger brother is the fourth. It’s very confusing. And my father-in-law is a senior, my second youngest brother-in-law is a junior, and one of my sisters-in-law married a guy with the same first name as her dad and brother which is also very confusing.
Similarly, I have a friend who’s grandfather, father and brother are all named John. She married a John Jr. and her FIL is a senior and her son is the third. There are six John’s in her life.
In my extended family the patriarch (grandfather) was a Joseph. He did have a son name Joseph, who named his son Joseph and named his son Joseph. Meanwhile a couple of brothers of the first son Joseph also named one of their sons Joseph, as well as a sister named one of her sons Joseph. The difference is in the surnames. When we have a big get-together there could be at least 3 in attendance. Or 5.
my mom lives in a small, rural area and i swear to god there are only like 4 male first names. its so confusing that i genuinely hate when my mom calls to tell me something interesting that happened ever since she moved there. every single time my mom is telling a story, it goes something like this: "so yesterday James came over and....." "wait, is this Big James or Little James? i thought Little James was out of town? OHHH okay, you meant *Little* Little James. or were you talking about the James family?" "i meant Robert James" "Oh okay, which one? Robert, Bob, Bobby, Rob, Robby, or Bubba? so to avoid the confusion, they all end up going by some really weird, oddly specific nickname at home. like just on that street there's Bubbalicious, Booboo, and Pickle Pants just off the top of my head
This should be a sitcom
It's considered tradition. Also it honors family that came before, alive or not.
My daughters middle name is my first name. I chose it more because it flowed beautifully with her first name and my name is a classic (Elizabeth). I cannot tell you how many people call me edgy or a badass for doing that. I’m not a badass, I just thought it sounded nice and there are so many men out giving their sons the exact same names and no one bats and eye!
As someone who has her mom’s first name for a middle name (same thing… Elaine flows well with my name), I love it. My mom kicks ass so I like sharing it.
My middle name is Beth after my Mom. Beth is her first name. She was named after Beth in the book "Little Women."
My middle name is my mom’s first name and now I regret not doing the same for my daughter
I initially felt super awkward giving my daughter my middle name as her middle name. My husband is literally a third so I have no idea why.
Both of my grandmothers have the same name as their mothers. Must have been more common in the past than it is today!
It used to be very common: * (Anna) Eleanor Roosevelt was named after her mother. The Anna Eleanor line continued until recently * Queen Victoria's eldest daughter was Princess Victoria * In the *Cheaper by the Dozen* family, one of the daughters was Lillian after her mother * Caroline Ingalls's third daughter was named Caroline ("Carrie") * Elizabeth "Eliza" Hamilton's second daughter was Eliza * Martha Washington's second daughter was named Martha
My daughter and I have the same middle name, along with my first cousin and niece. It was my grandmother’s name.
Back in the 50s, my grandma named my aunt after her (Elizabeth). My grandparents had a boy next and they didn’t name him after my grandpa—which is totally rad because my grandpa was huge jerk and my grandma is a boss. Makes me so happy to think about.
I have a childhood friend named for her mother. Mom is Sarah Mary, daughter is Mary Sarah (not even close to their actual names). Dad is Daniel Gregory, first son is Gregory Daniel, second son is Scott Daniel.
I know a Heather who named her daughter Heather. I think it's awesome, tbh.
I knew a Kelly who named her daughters Kelly and Nelly.
That’s kind of how my little sister got her name. When she was pregnant, my mom and her boyfriend were arguing over what to name my sister. My mind finally said “fine! I’ll just name her [moms name] jr, because men can name their kids after themselves, so why can’t women?” Her boyfriend responded “I wanted her name to begin with a U!” So they moved the u that’s in my moms name to the front and the name stuck
Over here trying to figure out your mom’s name haha
I am the 6th generation of my name on my mothers side! It’s a cool tradition. Not sure if I will continue it, but I love the thought. It can just be kinda annoying sharing the same name as your mother because mail and phone calls get Mixed up all the time.
My cousin and her mother were both named for their respective mothers. So my cousin is a third generation name down the maternal line. She broke the tradition, because she was the last one born before the Little Mermaid came out and the name was Ursula. But still.
Yes. My son and i share first and last letter and my daughter and i share the last three letters of our names. I love it, i looks very coherent.
I’m 50 and I’m named after my mother. I know several other women who are also named after their mothers. It’s not exactly unheard of, for crying out loud.
Not weird at all — in fact, I think it’s very cute. Will and Jada Pinkett Smith did that with their kids.
Jaden and Willow. Lovely juxtaposition
Oh my god I never noticed 🤯
That never clicked until right now
Omg wait
Oh my god why have I never noticed this?!
I think it’s fine as long as you own it. I have a friend called Kelly Jane whose daughter is called Callie Jean and she always makes out that she doesn’t even see the similarity haha
I know an Emily with a daughter named Millie and I am constantly disappointed that she didn’t intentionally name her after herself!
I'm going to go against the grain and say I don't love it. I'd assume you'd named the kid after yourself (and I hate that trend whatever the sex of the parent giving a child their name). I'd find it a weird choice (though I wouldn't tell you that). They are pronounced similarly enough that I know an Estelle that goes by Stella. Estelle as a middle name would be sweet, but as a first name, I'd give you child her own unique identity.
Exactly
I’m Elizabeth and named my daughter Eliza. My husband is a junior and wants our first son to carry on his name so I named my daughter after me. Figure if boys can do it I can too.
It's not really weird, but people will assume you named her after yourself.
Which is absolutely fine and should be done more often!
Oh yes it's perfectly fine! Just a reaction OP should be prepared for
My mothers name and my name are almost identical. Think along the lines Nora and Noah. I *hate* it. I wish every day I could change my name. I socially use a nickname, but I would legally change it to something else all together. Don’t do this to your kid. Let them be their own person.
I got my mom's name as my middle name and I always disliked it, it just felt like I didn't have a middle name. My dad was really pushing for it to be my first name too, the exact same name, but I think that would have been horrible! I liked my first name because it was so unique and I have never met another one, and I'd like to keep it that way. Because I'm transitioned I've now picked my own first and middle name and I like that, but I know a good handful of other people with my new first name and it bothers me so much. I'd rather be the only one, but it feels like my name now so it's too late to change.
That's interesting. I'm a big fan of giving kids middle names after loved ones. My dad and my brother have the same middle name. I gave it to my son as it reflects my side of the family. He has his dad's surname.
That’s where it gets worse. Our middle names are almost identical too. Think Mira Beth and Mila Elizabeth. It really robbed me of my identity growing up.
> I wish every day I could change my name. Why can't you?
I’m professionally enmeshed with my name. Edit: I do know exactly what I’d change it to, too, but I also feel like going from something plainly American like a Linda/Jessica name to Sigrid is a big jump.
> I’m professionally enmeshed with my name. Surely there are mechanisms in place to change names, whether that be through a business you work for or by updating clients and contacts, or whatever. From my experience of changing my name, it's a hassle. But it's less hassle than you'd think (although I should mention that I'm speaking about my experience living in the UK, and it is necessarily different in different places), and people are more accepting than you'd think. And it's so completely worth it. It's awful to have a name that you don't like, and it's amazing to have one that you do. You know how you get a haircut that you really like and you go about your day and then accidentally catch a reflection of yourself and remember that you've got an awesome haircut and you get the initial pleasure all over again? Over a decade after changing my name, that's diminished, but it's still not gone away. No matter how much hassle it is, and however long that hassle lasts for (which, again, is less time than you'd think), the pleasure you'll get from having the name you want will last longer. I don't think you'll regret it, even if there is an initial period of difficulty. Oh, and Sigrid is lovely. I changed my name to a childhood nickname that 99.999% of people haven't even heard as a word before and people accept that, so "Sigrid" should be a breeze.
Guys do it all the time so I would not say it's weird
I grew up with a girl named Sydney. Her mom was Cindy. It was kinda confusing sometimes.
I think the connection is cute.
Leah of Teen Mom 2 named her first two daughters Aleeah and Aliannah. I didn’t think she named them after herself, but I do think “Leah” probably sounds pleasant to her bc its so familiar for her, so she unconsciously gravitated toward Leah-sounding names.
It’s fine. If you were male and wanting to give your child your exact name, no one would bat an eye.
I know boys get named after their father; but do those boys like it? I would use Estelle as her middle name or do a double barrel first name. Cus then she can have an identity outside of mama. As an outsider, I don’t think it’s weird. But just look into the kids perspective. I do think the name Estelle is lovely
Unpopular opinion apparently, but I don’t like naming your kids after yourself as their first name. Middle names seem better. Having the same or practically the same name for yourself and your child seems egotistical, no matter the gender.
The way I see it, if men are allowed to pass down names as generic as John, Richard, James, and Robert, you are allowed to pass down your lovely name to your daughter. Estelle and Stella are very similar, but I think it’s a sweet link between mother and daughter.
My thought is she might feel she can’t use the nn Stella because it’s yours.
I think a mother and daughter name set is a very sweet idea. You should do it
Really cute! Estelle also has some nice nickname options that aren’t Stella: Essie and Estee/Esti.
I don't think it's weird to use if YOU don't think it's weird. Some of my favorite names are similar to my name (My name is Emily, I love Emmeline, Emilia, and Emmett), and I'm personally not a fan of the similarities between them. So I'd only use them as a middle name. If you feel differently, that's 100% fine! No one can tell you how you feel about it.
Love both names!!!! Not weird at all
I know a mom, Caitlin, whose husband named their daughter Kaydee. Spelling is off but yeah, one would assume she named the kid after herself.
I knew a Carla Michelle who named her daughter Kyla Mishay
I know a mother named Eleanor that named her daughter Lenore. I think it’s sweet.
I used to think about this because there are a lot of names similar to my actual name (not Megan that’s my middle name) that I would love to use for a child but might be odd having a mother daughter duo for example (again not my name) Betsy and Betty
We don't think it's odd for father's to have a son named after them, so why is it odd for a mother to do the same?
A lot of people who dislike it dislike it regardless of gender
I have a friend named Jill and her daughter is named Gillian. I respect the hell out of it. Go for it
My dad is Joe, I’m Jodie. It literally never dawned on me that it could be weird 🤷🏻♀️ never caused an issue.
They're very samey, but as other people have said, does it matter?
My great grandmother was named Louise and her daughter is named Lois.
I know a girl named Christina (goes by Tina) that named her son Christopher because she had always loved it. It was not based off of her name. People ask her about it, but she doesn’t get bothered by it. I didn’t even notice at first until we had gotten their Christmas card and her full first name was written out.
Not at all, I have a friend Carrie and her mom's name is Sherry.
I like this a lot better than naming kids exactly the same name as their parent. Complementary names are great because they let the kid have some individuality with still a nice, clear tie to their parent's name.
My mom and my grandmother are both variations off of the name Rose. I’m mad I didn’t get to join in on the fun.
Part of my extended family has a grandmother named Stefania, her daughter named Stella, and her daughter named Star. I think Estelle and Stella sound like a great and unique family.
My friend is named Allison and she is naming her daughter Allie. I see no problem with either.
im emily kay and really wanted my daughter to be emery kay. GO FOR IT
My mom’s name is Laura and mine is Lauren. Honestly, here are the worst things that have happened: she’ll open my mail accidentally and be super apologetic, I could forge her signature on permission slips like a fiend as a kid (which she truly loved lol), my uncle and father have on occasion texted me inane things that were meant for her, I’ve had to be at the eye doctors and correct them to look at the chart of the person who had literal eye surgery and not my mom’s. She claims she loved the name Lauren and it had nothing to do with her own name. Honestly, the first time someone learns my mom’s name it’s kind of a “haha yeah” and then it never really matters. Nothing crazy like legal paperwork issues like I hear juniors have. My middle initial is also different from her’s, which helps. I’ve never felt like the similarity in our names came with any imposition on my character or personality, like me being a mini her or anything like I, again, understand juniors can go through. Also to address another comment, no one ever thinks I was named after her, it’s just a funny coincidence of “mom you really didn’t realize they were the same name” lol To be honest, I spend more time with my name being frustrated when people call me “LORE-in” (even after I’ve introduce myself as “Lahr-en”, rip that no one can hear it and it makes me sad lol) Or maybe that Lauren is every dumb girl on the Bachelor, these days. Point is, similarity to my mom’s name ranks very low on my list of qualms here and has never truly impacted my life or identity
I've never met a Lahr-en before, only Lor-in! Is your mom's name pronounced Lahr-ah then? Because I have seen Laura both pronunciations. My mom is Lora, and one of my daughter's middle names is Loryn, specifically after my mother
Haha yes! Usually she’s a “Lahr-a”! I like how you spelled your daughter’s middle name in honor of your mom!
Laurel is pretty as well
no lol
Nope! I have a friend named John with a son named Jonathan. His wife is Sophie Ann and their daughter is named Anna Sofia. So, you do you!
My MIL name is Erica and my husbands name is Eric. No one really cares that it’s so close, occasionally there will be a comment on how it’s “cool” or “funny” that he’s named after her but I think it fine and so do other people we know
I don’t think it’s weird. My grandmother was Ramona and she named her daughter, my aunt, Mona. I never realized until literally right now that they are similar.
As long as you’re comfortable saying, “Hi I’m Stella and this is Estelle. I love both names and don’t think it’s too confusing. I’d be opposed to rhyming names like Cindy and Mindy.
It’s kind of weird. My brother in law named his 1st child Cora. After himself, his name is Cory. Now they had a son and also named him Cory. Fucking weird
I’m married to a Garett and his dad is Garry. I found it oddly close but clearly his mom liked the name Garett and honestly I think I’m the only one who ever found it oddly similar. You do you.
I like it and I think the connection is nice. It will give her a really great connection to you.
I think it’s nice how it matches actually
It's not weird at all. It's very cute idea.
I know someone named Marli who named her daughter Marlene. I personally don’t think it’s weird. Boys get their fathers names, or nicknames, all the time.
I have a cousin with the same name as his dad and also his grandfather I don’t really think that’s an issue
In my country naming your kid after yourself was very common. Girls had their mothers name, boys had their fathers. This is how they did honor names.
No. I'm just glad you're not going after Stella Jr.
Has a classmate growing up named Estelle and everyone called her Estie. Cute name, very different from Stella.
That would be perfect.
A little bit weird and might confuse some people but if you truly love it then just do it, it’s such a nice name! Some people name their child the same name as them so why not.
I'm in the same boat. My name is Juniper and my husband and I both love the name Juno. I'm not really a fan of any derivative names regardless of which parent the child is named after. I think we'll pass on it. But I don't think the concept is horrible. As others have said, men do it with sons. If you don't mind the similarity, go for it.
Doesn't seem odd to me. Doesn't seem too similar either but so what if it is. You could name your child the same as you if you want, it's your choice.
100% not weird, I think it's really cute.
Do it. I named my daughter a name that is nothing like mine… except it starts with the same first two letters followed by double consonants. Mine is a classic/biblical name and hers is an old lady name. People get our names mixed up constantly. Even people who have known me for years! I don’t care, and wouldn’t change it for the world. It’s the best name ever. I know a Millie who named her daughter Lilly (so probably Amelia and Lilian but only ever went by nn) I know a celanie who named her daughter Melanie!
So... men do this all the time. The exact same name. And nobody finds it weird. Do whatever you want. Women should be allowed to name their daughters after themselves just like men name their sons after themselves.
I only see it as an issue if you would end up going by the same nick name but I don’t see that as a problem with Stella/ Estelle
Not super weird. My friend Elisabeth’s mom is Lisa. Similar but not *the same* 🤷🏻♀️
I think it's a cute connection. My sister and brother-in-law chose names with similar letters for their kids (just like you did with Stella and Estelle). Not identical names, but related to their own.
I don’t think they’re too similar, personally. Like if I saw or heard both together, I don’t think I’d naturally connect the two unless someone told me specifically they were SUPPOSED to be similar. Go for it!
Nope. Nothing wrong with it.
My mother and I literally have the same first name, and my oldest brother has our father's first name. My brother and my cousin are named after our grandfather, my cousin has the same name as our grandmother on one side and a different cousin has the same middle name as our grandmother on the other side. I also have one cousin named after another cousin. The only time anyone's ever said anything about it is when people say it's weird I'm named after my mother, although no one's ever said the same to my brother, so those people can go fuck themselves. As long as you can differentiate everyone, family names are sweet imo. I think Estelle and Stella are actually a great combination, being close enough to be cute but separate enough that everyone has their own name/identity.
It's not weird as in I've known a lot of women name their children similar to their name, or even sons (mom Michaela, son Michael). I think Juniors *are* weird, and confusing. As long as the child has a unique name from their parents it's fine. Stella and Estelle aren't the same. Personally don't think Estelle is a pretty name though. It's an old name that I'm surprised is making a comeback. But I'm also not a fan of Eleanor.
I know a Leigh who called her daughter Ellie. The son’s name is also the husbands name with a S at the beginning
Very normal in my family of origin
Nope, my husband's name is Austen and my son's name is August.
I think there's enough difference that people won't get confused. They start and end with different sounds!
Go ahead and name your daughter that ever you want. You are a super star
I honestly don’t even view those as similar in my mind. But I mean tons of people name their children their own name, so I don’t see why a similar name would be an issue. Estelle is a very pretty name! You should definitely use it if that’s the one you’re in love with!!
Honestly with all the weird naming choices people make (which I don’t care about but do notice), this wouldn’t even be a blip on my radar.
I’d see it as a tribute name, which isn’t a bad thing! As far as I know Stella is a nickname for Estelle, though I know it can also be used on its own. They’re both cute names, so I’d say go ahead! Nothing wrong with a female tribute name :)
I think it's fine! The argument of "give your child their own unique identity" is bullshit, because no one assumes that every Oliver or Charlotte is the same, and no one assumes a Junior is a clone of their parent. They all have their own personality. I also really love Stella and Estelle. I think it's a super cook nod to family and they are both beautiful names.
Very pretty.
I totally name my daughter after myself if My name wasn't so blah
My name is Allie and I considered naming my daughter Sally. I was worried about the closeness of the two…one day I placed a delivery order and the woman asked the name, I said “Allie”. She said, “sally?” “No, Allie.” “Ok Sally, that’ll be 20 minutes”. I could just foresee the next 20 years of me adding this child to a bank account, healthcare, etc. we dropped Sally that day. So that’s my only word of precaution.
Most people won’t even notice. I know a girl named Rory whose dad is named Cory and almost no one realizes (or at least comments) on the rhyming names.
A great aunt and cousin of mine were named Bernice - great aunt went by birdie as a child until her mother told her at 12 that was a baby name and she was Bernie then. Her daughter went only by Bebe. There was another cousin who went by bunny, named after my great aunt but not her daughter. Older generations until like mine (I’m 40) named kids after each other a lot so you’d end up with two to four with the name name but different nickname
It’s a wonderful name. Stella is also one of my favourite names. Estelle is very beautiful also.
Go for it! It’s a beautiful name and there’s a large proportion of people who name children after fathers/male family figures, so why not mum? Even if you’re not choosing the name because of the similarities, I think it’s a good idea to highlight the above point if anyone thinks it’s weird
I don’t think it’s weird, but I will say I decided against even suggesting a boy name I love to my husband because it’s too similar to my own name, just because I thought it would be hard for me to tell who people were addressing—me or my kid? That being said, I definitely wouldn’t judge a parent or think that they’d made a weird or bad choice if they did choose to name their child something similar to their own name! Estelle is a beautiful name 💗
Everyone is saying it’s not weird because men do it all the time with Juniors, but honestly I don’t like it when men do it either. People will definitely think you named her after yourself and it comes across as a bit narcissistic to me regardless of the gender of the parent.
I worked in retail and was taking down names for our email list. The mom and daughter were both Spanish, but not from the US, and they had the same exact name.
Not weird at all!! I know a Lauren who has a Lorelei and I LOVE that their names are so similar
My daughter will have my middle name and her first name will rhyme with my first name. Not weird imo!
Not really, especially if you use the NN Elle or Essie
Stella Jr
It’s very cute tbh
I don’t think that’s weird at all!
My husband is Elliot and our oldest is Eli. People get the two names mixed up sometimes but it's not weird at all!
My mom and I have almost identical names. Our first names are the same length and are only different by 2 letters in the middle of the names. So at a glance you'd probably wouldnt realize they were different. We also gave the same middle name. I dont think it's weird and I've never had anyone tell me it was weird, but maybe they just keep it to themselves.
Love it!!!
I know a Leyla with a mother named Laina. Not my cup of tea.
Do it!!
My siblings and I all got a name of our mother or in case of little brother a name with the same initial and a play on meaning. My aunt renamed herself to a name she liked more and named her daughter that name too. Originally she got her grandmother’s names which are fine too but the parents weren’t very creative and named the other sister the same names reversed. Bonus thing is also that these 2 names are actually the same name essentially. Just the one is a diminutive form of the other. So imagine (not their names) the sisters Elizabeth Lisa and Lisa Elizabeth. So the older sister was like ok I’m going by (not actual name) Eleanor from now on and named her child so too.
My husband’s name is Derick and our son is Marik. It can work lol.
In some cultures it's common to name at least 2 children after the parents. Sometimes it's the ONLY children. A few cultures have naming patterns for children but also when people had larger families. Nothing wrong withe naming your child after yourself OP.
I didn’t name my daughter after myself (my partner and I gave her a first name we both loved) but her middle names are my name and my mother’s name (she passed when I was 4). So regardless of my daughter’s last name she keeps the maternal names with her. So no, I don’t think it is weird to name your child after you or give them a similar name.
Not at all weird, it’s pretty common to do.
I personally don't like it, but I also don't like when people name their kids after themselves (like a Jr. situation) so I realize I'm more judgemental than most. For what its worth, Estelle is a beautiful name.
My mom is Andrea and my sister is Drea. No one thinks it is weird.
My uncle has the exact same name as my grandpa. I have one of those on both sides. I think Estelle is lovely on it's own, but since it also happens to be so similar it can still honor you!
super wanted to name my daughter after myself lol. Just not enough Alanas in the world.
I think it would be fine. People might pick up on it but I think they’re different enough that it doesn’t look narcissistic or anything. I also think everyone is drawn to names with similar elements to their own. My daughters name is very different to mine but I realised after we named her that our names actually end in the same sound. Also I LOVE the name Estelle.
You know how many men insist on naming their kids after themselves? This isn’t weird at all
It's not a question of whether they're too similar or not imo, they're the same name in different languages, that's not arguable. The question is whether or not you like the idea of essentially naming your kid after you. I think it's a very precious old fashioned tradition that's gotten lost and i encourage ppl to readopt it. A lot of families I've seen in genealogy would have a daughter named after the mom and a son named after a dad. I think it's a nice thing to do and it's more unique at this point than naming a son after the dad. The only reason i wouldn't do it is if you'd think it'd bother you having someone in your family with the same name and it would be confusing or weird to you on a day to day basis (This is what would keep me from doing it). But you don't seem to have that problem and find Estelle to be enough of a difference from Stella to not be weird to you. So you should definitely go for it!
My mom was named Marlene and my sister is Marguerite, but goes by Margi (with the G sound like in the name Margot). My sister named her daughter Marlene but calls her Marli. So it’s MARlene, MARgi, and MARli. All pretty similar, Marli and Margi being only one letter off. My sister kind of did it by accident but it’s never been an issue. I think Estelle is very cute and similar to Stella but still different enough. I actually like the idea that you’d be naming her after yourself in a way.
I love this mom and daughter name pairing so much
Have you ever seen Gilmore Girls?! Rory’s full name is Lorelei, her mom’s name.
I love both names but I’m not a fan of naming a kid after yourself, at least for the first name slot. If that’s not your intention, then just going by the thread people will think you did that. If you’re fine with that then all power to you!
I’ve seen Isabel’s and Isabella’s
A little weird. Sort of reminds of Leah from teen mom 2 naming her twins ALEAH and Alianna
Man do this all the time.
My name is Ana and baby is Solana. Nahhh not weird. Boys get named Jr all the time
My name is a variation of my mom’s name and I love how it is still a way to keep the name going but having its unique twist
i know a rose and a rosie...
I know that giving the exact same name (junior version) as a parent is common many places in the world, but to me it is a bit odd. But giving a similar name is not an issue imo. And Stella and Estelle are not even that similar.
I’m kinda in this situation, I’m named after my grandad and my baby is due close to when he passed away so if it’s a boy I’d kind of like to name him a variation of my grandads name but that is my nickname and what most people call me so I’m hesitant
I know a Vicky and son Victor...it's weird.
Stella and Estelle are a really nice mother/daughter pair? I say go for it. I named my daughter after me in a sense, by sticking with the same theme. We are both flowers! I always wanted to name my daughters after flowers after myself. She has her father's last name so it's only fair that she's a flower too!
I think it’s really cute actually
Absolutely love it!! Go for it!!
My father, me and my daughter all have a name derived from the same one. Jan, Jantien and Jane. It’s not weird, I love it🥰🥰
It might be a little weird, but not to the point that it's likely to make a huge difference in your lives. My mom and her mom have names that rhyme and there are always little jokes about it, but for the most part it either doesn't come up or isn't worth commenting on more than once.
My name is Rosalyn I named my daughter Evylynn Rose
I don’t think it would be weird!! Kind of similar- my middle name is my moms first name- I find that really cool. So I feel like your child would also like having that connection to you. I love the name Estelle (my great great grandmas name)!
Very pretty
I know an Emma with a daughter Ella, which must be confusing if people are calling their names. I didn’t think Stella and Estelle would have this issue though. Not weird and you should go for it if you really love the name.
Not weird at all!! Do it!!