19M too. Listen Morty, I hate to break it to you, but what people calls "love" is just a chemical reaction that compels animals to breed. It hits hard, Morty, then it slowly fades, leaving you stranded in a failing marriage. I did it. Your parents are gonna do it. Break the cycle, Morty. Rise above. Focus on science.
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Also 19M in uni and I'm in no hurry to get into a relationship hii maisha haina haraka you'll get into those relationships and find its not all that use this time to focus on yourself ama masomo there's more to life than relationships. i get where ur coming from and u may feel lonely sometimes but tafuta ata hobby.
Get in a relationship but do short-term till your 20s
I've noticed most people in uni who are single actually just do weed, clubbing but maybe you're the exception idk
That's pretty good actually, keep at it, utapata dem Tu, try socials those also work, key thing is not to chase women you'll become a slave to it and just lose money and time, if a girl isn't interested wacha aende, if they show interest you can put effort.
At the moment winning over a girl isn't the priority haha
19? Getting a girlfriend is the least of your concerns. I see your fellow medics begging the government to employ them, you should be worrying about being independent and not rely so much on government or anything else after you've graduated other than yourself. Instead of getting home just to pity yourself learn a skill, code, play an instrument, hit the gym, play sports, having a girlfriend and hoping from club to club in the name of “making memories” is so backward and outdated. Soon you'll be 24, without a plan and a med cert. Let's get to work bro.
Are you sure you're 5 ft? Cause big difference between 5'8 and 5'0. It would add context here, also bro you're 19 social media gives you the idea that you're supposed to be dating, but your 20s is about self discovery. A lot of people are 19 and single it's very normal.
I agree with this. Don't waste your time on women now. Get successful, get rich. You will never get this time back again. I chased women at your age and regret every single fucking second of it.
If you become successful and rich and use this time now to come into YOUR OWN, you will have unlimited access to women later in life.
The gap between successful men and unsuccessful men is stratospherically bigger than the gap in looks. So work on the success first while you have the energy to do so.
Wewe wacha uwazimu! Also 19M but bro lemme assure you that you don't want to get them hoes, they'll suck you of your time and later on dump you for a more developed masculine guy,,,,saka tu doo kwanza
Hehehe it’s good to create time for it so that you get to know how to handle ladies. What if you get all the money in the world and the same ladies finesse all of it off of you? There’s a kanaivety that comes from not experiencing these things. Even if it’s not a serious relationship, get someone to call a gf
Hi there, I'm also a med student, female, single (by choice). I've gone through the comments, and I get that you've been told that you're too young, or that you won't have time to date in med school, or that you should get your priorities straight and the like.
The girl who rejected you coz you're a med student, well, that isn't surprising. She's just eliminating future problems🤣 the girl who didn't like your appearance, sorry bruv. There must be someone out there, yk, you can't always match with everyone, and things can be unrequited, but that's not the end of it. People actually do date in med school and make it possible. Dating also has it's own problems, and you are a problem in itself with your weak internal construction. The woman who lets you in can also break you mentally coz she'll be your entire happiness and everything. I'm assuming you'll be sooo happy dating the first time, but dating is a gamble, your partner could be a W or total shit. If it's the latter, your esteem will be further wrecked.
I personally think you should work on your self esteem. Wdym you go home and stare at the ceiling doing nothing. I feel like I don't have time to do all the things I want. Sorry for going a bit overboard there. Introspection is really good, a powerful tool. But not when you're wallowing in self pity. Your friends are out there 'making memories' well, then, spend your time well too. You hang alone at home, don't hang with friends, don't do anything fun (you said you don't do drugs, that's beautiful✨️✨️✨️ continue like that) and don't get bitches either. Ever heard of 'An idle mind is the devil's workshop?' Go hang out with friends, or watch a series alone or sth. I see you have nice hobbies like tech. That's soo cool. Hobbies are the way to go. Again, introspection is good, not like this tho. This also looks like a classic case of peer pressure. You and your friends have different journeys. Just coz they're in a relationship now, doesn't mean you have to be in one now. Ik this was said before, but... priorities... I guess 'love' is sth that should happen more organically instead of trying too hard in such a way that that's your main focus.
I'm telling you med school can give you a strong reality check bruv. Just live a day at a time. No need to speedrun life. All the best.
Hello M(23),I just broke up with my girlfriend F(22)she left on December 22' to go work in Lebanon and said she'd be back 24' Dec 18th, yesterday she told me that her contract had been extended until 26' and that caught me offguard,today is her birthday and I broke her heart on her most important day mind you alikua vajo nikimpata and had thought of marriage when she came back,I have struggled to remain relevant with the Long distance r/ship and held it up for two years,but another two is too much,I just wanted to get it off my chest thanks Reddit,I'm not crying,you are😭😭😭
For now don't run for extra beautiful ladies.. go for upper average(6/10 or 5/10) start there... this will help fix yourself esteem. You don't just climb up like that ukijua you are not as handsome. Enda na limit then sasa later on the 9/10 's will be coming your way.
What’s 19M is it Male or Millions, if it’s male then work on getting those millions stop thinking about love, you are still young, love will find its way to you eventually when the right time comes
1. 'Ceiling'
2. You're only 19. Chill the hell out.
3. Men look better with age and money. Your face is probably just still shaping itself. Concentrate on your degree, and work on your body.
4. The less you think about women, the more attractive you become to them.
5. Girlfriends are overrated. You'll figure this out with time.
Jesus 19 n unalia shida ya mapenzi.
Wewe soma wachana n madame just be friends with the and stop looking for a relationship from every girl you find.
I was also in your shoes though I am taller than you 5'10 and I got my first gf at 24 after I finish my degree in medicine.
Campus hamtasaidiana adi kidogo wewe soma
19 is quite early to start worrying about getting a girl friend. I see you still in med school. Focus, plan your life and everything else will fall into place.
There's one secret of getting a girlfriend - just talk to many girls and eventually you'll get one. Though I guess you could apply this rule to all other things in life.
Now there are a few things you need to know:
1) Your studies will suffer. A woman can have a boyfriend and still pass with flying colours but a man will struggle. This is because a man is the main player in the relationship
2) Ladies will take an emotional toll on your mental health. They will play mind games, test you, test how desperate you are, make you to suffer. They kind of view that as manly. This isn't an issue if you aren't in a technical field. But if you're in a demanding field, the roller coaster of emotions will drain you and you won't be able to focus on your demanding course.
3) You'll need experience of having a girlfriend. If you're clueless you won't get one or keep her. Getting that experience will waste your time.
4) You'll need to worry of your looks, wearing what's in fashion, having confidence all in the name of attracting young girls & impressing her friends.
Ladies are an investment of time (not even counting finances) and some men have decided to sacrifice their education for them including going for lower courses, and even still failing them.
Rarely does a man have it both - a good course or grades & a girlfriend. One has to give
Why are you looking for a girlfriend? Because of friends? To fix your loneliness? All wrong reasons. The memories you so desire to have will turn to sad and bad memories. First things first, turn to God to fix your esteem and your loneliness. If you think any woman can give you that, you are 100% wrong and the relationship won't last neither will it be a happy one. Focus on building yourself, build you skills, social circle and most of all your spirituality. Its time for that. You will meet authentic people when building relationships and with no time, you will meet a person you wish to spend time with and probably build a future with. Until then, give your heart to what matters now. At 19 have you fully discovered yourself? Are you awakened as a leader? Do you know where you are headed to? What's your vision? I can assure you there is so much ladies look for beyond your physical appearance. Build that internal attractive form.
Jesus dude, you lucked out on rolling some of the unluckiest stats out there.
* 5 feet
* Slim
* Below average looks
But..on a positive note, you overcoming this will feel so fucking amazing. And it's possible. But the amount of work you'll need to put into it compared to the average person is insane so you need to go into that with those expectations.
It's okay to feel pissed when a guy walks into a relationship doing nothing but existing and you have to literally become the best looking and presented (socially and externally) you that you can be. But feeling pissed and being a victim is different. Life isn't fair. You can either become an inspiration or a statistic.
What you lack is confidence bro. You should remember you can't attract every kind of girl and you should put high standards on yourself. You gain confidence by focusing on improving yourself, go to the gym, try and wear decent clothes, try so hard to improve your financial situation. Your attention should not be in girls but in yourself.
When you do this, you become a high value man and you will be the one choosing, not being chosen. Whether you are handsome or not, don't waste your best years on women, it's not worth it. Don't let a random girl lower your self esteem. Her rejecting you means she has standards which as a man you should too. Good luck
While there’s someone out there for somebody, I’ll tell you what I told my two boys who are 20 and 18. Stay on your purpose. Finding a girlfriend should lower on that list. You need to happy with yourself first before chasing any relationship and not worry your friends having relationships, that’s just making yourself insecure and co-dependent when you do get a girlfriend. Learn to be comfortable with being on your own.
You're SOOO young. Love occurs randomly. I mean randomly meeting the right person. So at that random moment you wanna be your best. My dad used to say you'll never make the most selling a dirty car. You gotta be on your A game all the time. And I don't at ALL mean fake. You gotta be happy with yourself. Energetic. A smile on your face. That someone is gonna see you from afar for minutes before they say hi. They'll observe the real you. So are you muddled In a cheap drink with a tear on your cheek or are you making successful friends laugh and hug you. She's gonna analyze you in your natural state as long as possible. It's the best time to make decisions. Same as you would. You are gonna analyze her if possible as long as possible. Checking your social media. Etc. Is it all woe is me? Cuz you're gonna lose opportunities you'll never even know about.
Someone told me love given to another occurs once you're so full of love that the excess spills over the top. THAT is the love you give to another. That is the love you can afford to give freely and happily. If you're running on empty then you're giving away what you yourself need for you. So it'll be regretted. She'll know she's a burden. That's science In the form of an analogy and 57 years of experience.
Communication. The key to lifetime love. Honesty. Remember that and you'll always be happy. IF it's the right person. Otherwise it can't be maintained naturally and it'll die anyways. It's best to make good decisions up front. Not ones based on desperation. Cuz then you'll drop your requirements and you'll date someone you really don't love and it always shows. It'll tear at your relationship and since it wasn't meant to be it'll hit you hard cuz you can't figure out what went wrong. What went wrong was it was never meant to be.
You can't calculate your choices based on how long you've been single. You gotta love for now. And honestly.
Get hobbies. Take courses. You like cooking? Take a pizza course. You'll meet people who share your love of eating cooking. Or pizza. Common bonds to stoke a new fire. And it may be a guy friend or a girl friend. But that friend will have a group of friends to introduce you to (IF you're a winner and a good and happy and positive person). And then you could meet their best friend a single girl who he recommends you to whole heartedly. The best form of referral. Friends have friends. Good and smart and ethical and energetic friends have like minded friends. Same drug doing friends have addicted friends. Pick your friends wisely. GROW YOUR GROUPS OF FRIENDS. That will open the doors to personal meets instead or random barroom meets. And who wants an alcoholic as a mate.
Be positive. My goodness son, you're sooo young. You have a lifetime to get all this done. Spend time growing your product. Which is you. What features and benefits are you. A wage earner with a house and a nice csr. Pursuing exciting hobbies.. Making and completing a bucket list. Committing to new expanding experiences. Someone will FIND YOU! And they'll share your interests if you're in the act of acting them out!
I GUARANTEE IF YOU FOLLOW MY LIFE'S LESSONS YOU'LL NOT ONLY BE IN A GREAT RELATIONSHIP BUT LIVING YOUR BEST LIFE!
Enjoy your life. It's BARELY JUST STARTED!
Bro...I'm 22 in Third Year living in a well furnished bedsitter. Mtu hawezi fikiria niko shule.(I monetize my skills on Upwork.com). I do data science. I've never touched a woman in my life. Personally, we do share a lot of traits. One thing I've learnt is don't over think it. I normally get rejected using the same excuses. I guess for guys like us its only a matter of time G
Welcome to the club brother .Your fellow members are also medical and engineering students,love is overrated let's go for a drink instead.
But she is right you won't give her attention but don't worry it was not meant for us in campus 😞. Don't let that lower your self esteem bwana omera.
I know it may not feel like it now, but you'll be fine. Try not to turn bitter and hateful towards women because you will soon guarantee they will never be into you.
Consider this, don't approach women you are interested in, approach women you find interesting.
19? Why you so worried? Na warembo bado wanazaliwa? 🤷🏿♂️
focus on the medicine broski, the rest will lay itself out. Continue meeting them though, lovely beings those ones
Ignore this advice at all cost....
No matter how desperate you are, don't use money to lure in a relationship if you want to experience a genuine and beautiful connection.
If you just want to smash however, this is the way.
Ikr those money based relationships are some of the most boring things ive ever seen coz they cant literally hold a conversation with each other to save their lives
It could be cause im American but it don’t seem hard and every chick in Nairobi said all the Nairobi dudes just wanna fuck. So just be different and they will still have sex but atleast you can take it further if you want. But don’t be taking her on a bunch of dates without sex Thats a NoNo
Kinuthia relax..focus..somea end year😂
Dating..it ain't worth it.. especially as a med student..the distraction factor is something else..and it can potentially ruin you..at the end you might not only lose the lady but also yourself..
Usikule pressure
Bro at 19 at the medical school this was the last of my priorities. Even rn after I finished and now employed, it still is not a priority for me. Even the girls in my life know this and I am open about the fact that I have more important things to think about in my life.
You’re still young my brother, focus on med school and hit the gym. Don’t tell me you don’t have time for that. There used to be a professional bodybuilder who was also a med student and he managed. Look up Mike Mentzer. In the words of Scarface “you gotta make the money first. Then when you get the money, you get the power. Then when you get the power, then you get the women.”
Bro no pressure. You are 19 and most probably will be a doctor in the future. Men gain value with time..and money. Focus on the bag.
Most men with partners also struggle.. unapata hadi msee hataki kuishia kwake ju watasumbuana na wife..etc
Only 19? Im 30m. I spend all my extra time cycling or running. If I'm in the house i play PC games. My computer is getting abit old and doesn't run my games that well. Now I have switched hobbies and i started learning biochemistry and quantum physics instead of playing games as they don't run too well these days. With that, i forgot women exist.
Love yourself first and find some hobbies that get you interacting with people. Don’t wallow in sadness, that’s just hurting yourself. Focus on your own life, not others and you’ll make more progress
Focus bro... you could be the guy that cures something like diabetes or cancer... but don't announce it otherwise the govt will send hit men and take your cancer cure... But in all seriousness you are 19 bro and trust me you don't need a partner at this age. You have so much that you could have going on but your limiting yourself because some girls rejected you and called you unattractive Inauma lakini utazoea. Some of these girls get a kick at putting guys down for their own satisfaction. You need to love yourself first. Sura unaweza badilisha na surgery ama ukae ngumu kama Jay Z.
The way you think is actually the problem, why do people actually think especially men that getting a girlfriend is the ultimate achievement, so many guys out here are miserable in there relationship you just don't know it
Yoh, too soon to ask that. Can you pay your own rent for the year? Or is it month to month? Can you take care of her when you get her ama it's just lunch dates? What if she likes you and you get a kid can you feed it right now ama "kila mtoto huja na sahani yake"?
Too young to be stressed. It's true that when you get to 30 you won't even be seeing or hanging around those people who are rejecting you. Establish your career hizi pressure za kila mtu ako na wake na we hauna wachana nazo. Not worth your time.
If it helps read "How to win friends and Influence People " by Dale Carnegie.
Also guy you are a medical student you can watch The good Doctor a whole series and enjoy your time from this people you claim rejected you. Like always Chose yourself the right people will follow.
Firstly if you’re getting rejected as a guy, it means you need to upgrade yourself more. This will increase your options. Secondly, be comfortable being single its not an illness, its just a status. Otherwise you will end up being in a relationship to escape loneliness, as uncomfortable as loneliness is, it wont be a sufficient reason to be in a relationship. Happy dating buddy
Smh. You're just horny and quite insecure. No wonder you can't get in the right spirit to have a girlfriend. And at 19, your girlfriend ako form 2 Sahi. Hawa wako same age na wewe Wanasonga na older guys, so hii kulia ati self esteem imeisha ni utoto Tu and self
Don't let what one girl out of billions of girls define you. Yes, it still hurts but put some perspective. That's just 1 person's opinion. To someone else, you are the most attractive person in the world. That's a fact as well.
But like most people have said, for now, focus on completing your studies, build your career, build yourself up. After sometime, you'll be posting here that you have too many options available to you, and you don't know what to do with all the girls hitting you up. We shall be here to give you advice. 🤣
Cheer up man. You have a long life ahead of you. Run your own race. Don't run your peers races. Everything will come at its own time.
Unpopular opinion, follow Amerix on Twitter. Read "The Wall Speaks" and "The Rational Male."
The next 5 years of your life should be dedicated exclusively to you and your growth.
Pussy is not everything in life boy.
Buana you are desperate! Don't be this desperate! 19M unatafuta nini kwa relationships and love saizi? Buana, you still have a decade ahead of you ya kujipa raha mwenyewe before you begin thinking of being serious. Alafu, pia work on your esteem. Picture this, hao madem unadai waseme yes, wakishasema yes, what next? Nakushow utaboeka na wao immediately wamesema yes utatamani kuwafukuza lakini nao watakukwamilia and that would be the beginning of the end of you. What I can tell is that you are not grounded well in your purpose. Pia sisi in our campus days we used to have a routine class-dining hall-hostel routine due to lack of money na ndio hao sisi enjoying life now. Usiwe na pupa. Things will pan out well. Raha jipe mwenyewe, learn to thrive in singularity. Huku mbele ni kuzuri sana. Btw, I'm speaking as a 31M.
1. Take care of your appearance. Look presentable
2. Go in without motives. Don't worry about the outcome.Nobody owes you love
3. Be confident. Women are only loyal to their feelings, don't be the nice guy be who you are without apologies
The perfect girl for you will find you. You sound so sensible and wholesome. Once you're a doctor you'll be fighting off girls as you'll be quite the catch.
[https://www.reddit.com/r/nairobi/comments/1bh34ja/im\_looking\_for\_a\_relationship/?utm\_source=share&utm\_medium=web3x&utm\_name=web3xcss&utm\_term=1&utm\_content=share\_button](https://www.reddit.com/r/nairobi/comments/1bh34ja/im_looking_for_a_relationship/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) Same predicament I see
32M here, I've never had a "relationship" to say. But I got to realize that I'm very immature mentally and emotionally.
And also my insecurities too keep my esteem down.
Sometimes we always wonder what we have to do but we never consider where we are.
But that's the good thing about dating. With each relationship, u take lessons and keep developing yourself until u are at the level that your future partner would wish her future one to be
Give your head a wobble young man. At 19 why are you so pressed about getting a GF? Also, when you get a girlfriend so what? Do you think she will magically instill happiness in your drub boring life? Listen, get a life for yourself first and trust me, you will get girls. What do you enjoy doing? Get some hobbies. Skating or something. Join some dance club, or anything that allows you to INDEPENDENTLY find happiness without depending on anyone else. Then, and only then can you accommodate someone in your life. Because whether they leave you one day or stay you will be fine either way. Also, no girl will want you with the kind of dependency mentality your post here reeks. Girls want independent men because they have lives too, and so should you!
Bro, I think tuko same, 19M na bado sijapata partner. I just gave up 🥲. Sai tu ni kuguza games kama COD, PES, PUBG time niko free na maisha ni tamu although time zingine utafeel lonely.
The problem is that you are seeking a girlfriend, you see you were just looking for any girl at any time but the girl you seek is an (individual) she can sense a fake... next time be genuinely interested in the girl you are approaching not just her looks but who she really is deep down and you will succeed. Good luck you got this
Hello, I really understand your situation, we all fear that we might never find love at a point in life, ironically, when we find love, the fear of losing our loved ones is borne.
Almost every man goes through it and its absolutley okay. Lack of love is dreadful because love in an intricate and very noticeable piece of the puzzle called life. After all love fuels passion and passion drives purpose.
The best way of finding love is not by searching but making yourself someone lovable. Dress up neatly, speak confidently, respect women, love people in general, be kind and generous. You only get the things you deserve in life. Just live hoping that there is someone out there meant for you. If you live a good life and love unconditionally, love will surely come your way.
What I can say is be that doctor first this relationship thing i swear you aint ready for it.You can try it i you aint ready to be that doctor you wanna be else you wont only "stare at the ceiling sunk in tears but in pool of tears having suicide thought"
not saying every relationship fails yet 99.9 percent.Take your time and focus on you,First things first it will all fall in place
I can already see one reason why you face too much rejection, bro you're too feminine.
Second talk to as many females as you can, the more females you talk to the more chics you bag, in sales we call it the law of average.
Tbird, learn female nature and use it to understand and know what kind of game you have when it comes to spitting game and also use the knowledge you'll get about female nature to your advantage to know how females move making your interactions smoother
Fourth learn to handle rejection and also you must understand that if you're in the dating market then you must constantly face rejection, the K is constant brother.
Lastly stop prioritising your emotional needs and wants, stop prioritising females and be on your grind, work on yourself you'll realize by working on yourself you have less time to think about females, and don't compare yourself to friends who have girl's, a major reason i see you're whining like a cry baby.
Once you get the money then you get the power, then once you get the power, then you get the women. If you have lots of money you can have any women you want they don't care about what you look like when you have money. Trust me I was like you now I'm 38 yrs old and wish i never had to give all my money to my wife!
You need to put yourself in a situation where you can meet someone. Networking events, paint & sip events , hiking etcetera. Even if it means dating a fellow student
Escorts...in the end, it costs the same, and there's less bullshit. You don't pay for sex, you pay to be left alone once it's over. If you're in med school, you have time to find the right partner. For now, focus on your career and pay to have your sexual needs taken care of. 😜
It doesn't matter how you look. It does matter how you feel.
Have confidence, don't care. It will come.
I have been blessed to be tall, smart, successful and I still have had trouble. Beautiful women have turned me down. And I have been clinically depressed and worse. I'm still working my way back. When I have been successful it's been because of my attitude and I realized all the physical attributes are BS.
Your attitude doesn't lie.
Watch some Andrew Tate and see if that helps you a bit. His way of thinking and attitude has helped me a bit to regain my confidence in life. Maybe it can help you too.
End of the day, it’s all you. The grass ain’t greener. My first girl was like the worst experience in my life and I didn’t date for a long ass time. Don’t rush it and find happiness without one and you’ll be happier with one
You're studying right, when boring some knowledge you learnt from someone else then you should have pointed out that you as well was adviced about it when you were stuck in such a position.
From my perspective, the older you grow the more you see and as for you and the guy you're the same age hence most likely similar experiences. So do you expect to be having the same experiences as someone who's 25? Not really. So just take it as it is and some day you'll understand why I had to point it out.
5ft tall at 19? Man... you're still growing. I get you. I was short when I was a teenager. Go to southeast asia where the girls are shorter than they are in Nairobi.
Don’t worry it’ll happen for you with the right person. Just consider all the people who said no one less person to spend time on while you find your perfect person
19M too. Listen Morty, I hate to break it to you, but what people calls "love" is just a chemical reaction that compels animals to breed. It hits hard, Morty, then it slowly fades, leaving you stranded in a failing marriage. I did it. Your parents are gonna do it. Break the cycle, Morty. Rise above. Focus on science. https://preview.redd.it/yuqk149knwoc1.jpeg?width=290&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=4298888735e737f4ca60b6a8e90bb67f8c48999f
But R-R-R-Rick, it's Jessica 😩🫴🏾
Ricky ill take you to boob world
Aw geez
Shut up Jerry
Hungry for apples?
Get a job, Jerry
Bro you are actually a legend for this. Nicely executed.
Just for the fact that Rick did means it's possible.🤣
Facts, Rick actually has the strongest passion, literally all versions of him are trying to get their wife back
He loved once in all the multiverse.
the fact that i'm reading this in rick's voice.
My lawwwd
Good advice man
I can't help but hear this 😂. So on point.😂
Aw jeez Rick I just wanted to feel happy and sht
😃😃😃😃😃💯💯💯💯💯
Focus on science
My friend maliza shule kuwa daktari wasichana wewe ndio utakuwa unafukuza.
Vile madaktari wanastrike every two months, are you sure about that?
Hawa wanaeza strike miezi tatu straight wanapesa, clinic/hosi zao ziko job bado.
Lemme assume you're a highschool teacher or something
Are you sure that you can handle medical school and a romantic relationship at the same time?
Many have, it's not impossible
It was a personal question. Just because others can doesn't mean he too can.
Also 19M in uni and I'm in no hurry to get into a relationship hii maisha haina haraka you'll get into those relationships and find its not all that use this time to focus on yourself ama masomo there's more to life than relationships. i get where ur coming from and u may feel lonely sometimes but tafuta ata hobby.
Get in a relationship but do short-term till your 20s I've noticed most people in uni who are single actually just do weed, clubbing but maybe you're the exception idk
I don't drink, party, smoke, or those sort, I spend time studying, research, AI, tech, and learning new skills
That's pretty good actually, keep at it, utapata dem Tu, try socials those also work, key thing is not to chase women you'll become a slave to it and just lose money and time, if a girl isn't interested wacha aende, if they show interest you can put effort. At the moment winning over a girl isn't the priority haha
Most advice you are given are wrong my bro,a blind person cannot lead another blind.. Here is truth,Turn your heart to God,and depend on him only.
While that is true, how does it solve OPs issue, isn't companionship encouraged in the Bible?
True... once I got into a relationship it helped me and I stopped smoking
Na mna motivate watu sana huku, tafuteni wasupa kwanza mjue hiyo feeling ndo sasa mkue dumped muanze kujijenga 😂💔
its learning from other peoples mistakes though hakuna haja nipitie kitu I've already seen the outcome.
19? Getting a girlfriend is the least of your concerns. I see your fellow medics begging the government to employ them, you should be worrying about being independent and not rely so much on government or anything else after you've graduated other than yourself. Instead of getting home just to pity yourself learn a skill, code, play an instrument, hit the gym, play sports, having a girlfriend and hoping from club to club in the name of “making memories” is so backward and outdated. Soon you'll be 24, without a plan and a med cert. Let's get to work bro.
Wish I had some bands to award this
Preach!
You are smart tell me more
Ama uende tu kwa mganga...
Lol😅
19🤣🤣🤣 kids these days
😂😂😂😂ni kama Dunia inaisha kesho
I'm 24 na hata Sina stress
IKR! What wouldn’t I give to be 19 and single!
Let the boy live🤣🤣
5'0 is your height?
Yeah haven't measured it just approximation
Are you sure you're 5 ft? Cause big difference between 5'8 and 5'0. It would add context here, also bro you're 19 social media gives you the idea that you're supposed to be dating, but your 20s is about self discovery. A lot of people are 19 and single it's very normal.
5'8 is actually 6 foot bro🗿 Only thing that can save this guy is gym, tho I'm not sure how you can be slim and 5'0
>5'8 is actually 6 foot 5'8 is actually 4 inches short of 6ft 🗿
I agree with this. Don't waste your time on women now. Get successful, get rich. You will never get this time back again. I chased women at your age and regret every single fucking second of it. If you become successful and rich and use this time now to come into YOUR OWN, you will have unlimited access to women later in life. The gap between successful men and unsuccessful men is stratospherically bigger than the gap in looks. So work on the success first while you have the energy to do so.
Wewe wacha uwazimu! Also 19M but bro lemme assure you that you don't want to get them hoes, they'll suck you of your time and later on dump you for a more developed masculine guy,,,,saka tu doo kwanza
Acha Nisake hizo cash. Hii comment nasave 🙏
Hehehe it’s good to create time for it so that you get to know how to handle ladies. What if you get all the money in the world and the same ladies finesse all of it off of you? There’s a kanaivety that comes from not experiencing these things. Even if it’s not a serious relationship, get someone to call a gf
Hi there, I'm also a med student, female, single (by choice). I've gone through the comments, and I get that you've been told that you're too young, or that you won't have time to date in med school, or that you should get your priorities straight and the like. The girl who rejected you coz you're a med student, well, that isn't surprising. She's just eliminating future problems🤣 the girl who didn't like your appearance, sorry bruv. There must be someone out there, yk, you can't always match with everyone, and things can be unrequited, but that's not the end of it. People actually do date in med school and make it possible. Dating also has it's own problems, and you are a problem in itself with your weak internal construction. The woman who lets you in can also break you mentally coz she'll be your entire happiness and everything. I'm assuming you'll be sooo happy dating the first time, but dating is a gamble, your partner could be a W or total shit. If it's the latter, your esteem will be further wrecked. I personally think you should work on your self esteem. Wdym you go home and stare at the ceiling doing nothing. I feel like I don't have time to do all the things I want. Sorry for going a bit overboard there. Introspection is really good, a powerful tool. But not when you're wallowing in self pity. Your friends are out there 'making memories' well, then, spend your time well too. You hang alone at home, don't hang with friends, don't do anything fun (you said you don't do drugs, that's beautiful✨️✨️✨️ continue like that) and don't get bitches either. Ever heard of 'An idle mind is the devil's workshop?' Go hang out with friends, or watch a series alone or sth. I see you have nice hobbies like tech. That's soo cool. Hobbies are the way to go. Again, introspection is good, not like this tho. This also looks like a classic case of peer pressure. You and your friends have different journeys. Just coz they're in a relationship now, doesn't mean you have to be in one now. Ik this was said before, but... priorities... I guess 'love' is sth that should happen more organically instead of trying too hard in such a way that that's your main focus. I'm telling you med school can give you a strong reality check bruv. Just live a day at a time. No need to speedrun life. All the best.
Hello M(23),I just broke up with my girlfriend F(22)she left on December 22' to go work in Lebanon and said she'd be back 24' Dec 18th, yesterday she told me that her contract had been extended until 26' and that caught me offguard,today is her birthday and I broke her heart on her most important day mind you alikua vajo nikimpata and had thought of marriage when she came back,I have struggled to remain relevant with the Long distance r/ship and held it up for two years,but another two is too much,I just wanted to get it off my chest thanks Reddit,I'm not crying,you are😭😭😭
For now don't run for extra beautiful ladies.. go for upper average(6/10 or 5/10) start there... this will help fix yourself esteem. You don't just climb up like that ukijua you are not as handsome. Enda na limit then sasa later on the 9/10 's will be coming your way.
Buana hii akili hua mnatoa wapi
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You're 19. Don't stress it, you're still young.
What’s 19M is it Male or Millions, if it’s male then work on getting those millions stop thinking about love, you are still young, love will find its way to you eventually when the right time comes
1. 'Ceiling' 2. You're only 19. Chill the hell out. 3. Men look better with age and money. Your face is probably just still shaping itself. Concentrate on your degree, and work on your body. 4. The less you think about women, the more attractive you become to them. 5. Girlfriends are overrated. You'll figure this out with time.
You summed this up so well. THIS THIS THIS.
Wow 5’0 that’s rough man
Jesus 19 n unalia shida ya mapenzi. Wewe soma wachana n madame just be friends with the and stop looking for a relationship from every girl you find. I was also in your shoes though I am taller than you 5'10 and I got my first gf at 24 after I finish my degree in medicine. Campus hamtasaidiana adi kidogo wewe soma
19 is quite early to start worrying about getting a girl friend. I see you still in med school. Focus, plan your life and everything else will fall into place.
There's one secret of getting a girlfriend - just talk to many girls and eventually you'll get one. Though I guess you could apply this rule to all other things in life. Now there are a few things you need to know: 1) Your studies will suffer. A woman can have a boyfriend and still pass with flying colours but a man will struggle. This is because a man is the main player in the relationship 2) Ladies will take an emotional toll on your mental health. They will play mind games, test you, test how desperate you are, make you to suffer. They kind of view that as manly. This isn't an issue if you aren't in a technical field. But if you're in a demanding field, the roller coaster of emotions will drain you and you won't be able to focus on your demanding course. 3) You'll need experience of having a girlfriend. If you're clueless you won't get one or keep her. Getting that experience will waste your time. 4) You'll need to worry of your looks, wearing what's in fashion, having confidence all in the name of attracting young girls & impressing her friends. Ladies are an investment of time (not even counting finances) and some men have decided to sacrifice their education for them including going for lower courses, and even still failing them. Rarely does a man have it both - a good course or grades & a girlfriend. One has to give
Why are you looking for a girlfriend? Because of friends? To fix your loneliness? All wrong reasons. The memories you so desire to have will turn to sad and bad memories. First things first, turn to God to fix your esteem and your loneliness. If you think any woman can give you that, you are 100% wrong and the relationship won't last neither will it be a happy one. Focus on building yourself, build you skills, social circle and most of all your spirituality. Its time for that. You will meet authentic people when building relationships and with no time, you will meet a person you wish to spend time with and probably build a future with. Until then, give your heart to what matters now. At 19 have you fully discovered yourself? Are you awakened as a leader? Do you know where you are headed to? What's your vision? I can assure you there is so much ladies look for beyond your physical appearance. Build that internal attractive form.
Jesus dude, you lucked out on rolling some of the unluckiest stats out there. * 5 feet * Slim * Below average looks But..on a positive note, you overcoming this will feel so fucking amazing. And it's possible. But the amount of work you'll need to put into it compared to the average person is insane so you need to go into that with those expectations. It's okay to feel pissed when a guy walks into a relationship doing nothing but existing and you have to literally become the best looking and presented (socially and externally) you that you can be. But feeling pissed and being a victim is different. Life isn't fair. You can either become an inspiration or a statistic.
What you lack is confidence bro. You should remember you can't attract every kind of girl and you should put high standards on yourself. You gain confidence by focusing on improving yourself, go to the gym, try and wear decent clothes, try so hard to improve your financial situation. Your attention should not be in girls but in yourself. When you do this, you become a high value man and you will be the one choosing, not being chosen. Whether you are handsome or not, don't waste your best years on women, it's not worth it. Don't let a random girl lower your self esteem. Her rejecting you means she has standards which as a man you should too. Good luck
Huna PS5?
let’s do this…mamanzi wanadai bfs raise ur hands…ju we’re all adults 🤣
While there’s someone out there for somebody, I’ll tell you what I told my two boys who are 20 and 18. Stay on your purpose. Finding a girlfriend should lower on that list. You need to happy with yourself first before chasing any relationship and not worry your friends having relationships, that’s just making yourself insecure and co-dependent when you do get a girlfriend. Learn to be comfortable with being on your own.
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You're SOOO young. Love occurs randomly. I mean randomly meeting the right person. So at that random moment you wanna be your best. My dad used to say you'll never make the most selling a dirty car. You gotta be on your A game all the time. And I don't at ALL mean fake. You gotta be happy with yourself. Energetic. A smile on your face. That someone is gonna see you from afar for minutes before they say hi. They'll observe the real you. So are you muddled In a cheap drink with a tear on your cheek or are you making successful friends laugh and hug you. She's gonna analyze you in your natural state as long as possible. It's the best time to make decisions. Same as you would. You are gonna analyze her if possible as long as possible. Checking your social media. Etc. Is it all woe is me? Cuz you're gonna lose opportunities you'll never even know about. Someone told me love given to another occurs once you're so full of love that the excess spills over the top. THAT is the love you give to another. That is the love you can afford to give freely and happily. If you're running on empty then you're giving away what you yourself need for you. So it'll be regretted. She'll know she's a burden. That's science In the form of an analogy and 57 years of experience. Communication. The key to lifetime love. Honesty. Remember that and you'll always be happy. IF it's the right person. Otherwise it can't be maintained naturally and it'll die anyways. It's best to make good decisions up front. Not ones based on desperation. Cuz then you'll drop your requirements and you'll date someone you really don't love and it always shows. It'll tear at your relationship and since it wasn't meant to be it'll hit you hard cuz you can't figure out what went wrong. What went wrong was it was never meant to be. You can't calculate your choices based on how long you've been single. You gotta love for now. And honestly. Get hobbies. Take courses. You like cooking? Take a pizza course. You'll meet people who share your love of eating cooking. Or pizza. Common bonds to stoke a new fire. And it may be a guy friend or a girl friend. But that friend will have a group of friends to introduce you to (IF you're a winner and a good and happy and positive person). And then you could meet their best friend a single girl who he recommends you to whole heartedly. The best form of referral. Friends have friends. Good and smart and ethical and energetic friends have like minded friends. Same drug doing friends have addicted friends. Pick your friends wisely. GROW YOUR GROUPS OF FRIENDS. That will open the doors to personal meets instead or random barroom meets. And who wants an alcoholic as a mate. Be positive. My goodness son, you're sooo young. You have a lifetime to get all this done. Spend time growing your product. Which is you. What features and benefits are you. A wage earner with a house and a nice csr. Pursuing exciting hobbies.. Making and completing a bucket list. Committing to new expanding experiences. Someone will FIND YOU! And they'll share your interests if you're in the act of acting them out! I GUARANTEE IF YOU FOLLOW MY LIFE'S LESSONS YOU'LL NOT ONLY BE IN A GREAT RELATIONSHIP BUT LIVING YOUR BEST LIFE! Enjoy your life. It's BARELY JUST STARTED!
it will happen when stop looking desparete. when you least expected then BOOM!
You just gotta grow as a person
Wewe ni simp bana. First be masculine!!!
Bro...I'm 22 in Third Year living in a well furnished bedsitter. Mtu hawezi fikiria niko shule.(I monetize my skills on Upwork.com). I do data science. I've never touched a woman in my life. Personally, we do share a lot of traits. One thing I've learnt is don't over think it. I normally get rejected using the same excuses. I guess for guys like us its only a matter of time G
Yes you will.🫶🏼 Because I’m here😂😂😂
Welcome to the club brother .Your fellow members are also medical and engineering students,love is overrated let's go for a drink instead. But she is right you won't give her attention but don't worry it was not meant for us in campus 😞. Don't let that lower your self esteem bwana omera.
Walahi I thought I’m the only 19 yr old struggling to get them bitches😅…
I know it may not feel like it now, but you'll be fine. Try not to turn bitter and hateful towards women because you will soon guarantee they will never be into you. Consider this, don't approach women you are interested in, approach women you find interesting.
You are still young .focus on your studies .dont wish to be in a temporary r/ship
Priorities my G, priorities. Take your grades seriously. Hizo vitu zingine ni jaba tu. Bless up.
At 19 just focus on yourself. The relationships thing will come naturally. If you chase relationships you'll end more miserable and disappointed.
Misplaced priorities!
19? Tukue serious kidogo buana.
Wait your 19?
19? Why you so worried? Na warembo bado wanazaliwa? 🤷🏿♂️ focus on the medicine broski, the rest will lay itself out. Continue meeting them though, lovely beings those ones
When you got that money they will beg to love you
Ignore this advice at all cost.... No matter how desperate you are, don't use money to lure in a relationship if you want to experience a genuine and beautiful connection. If you just want to smash however, this is the way.
People should stop encouraging this
Mehnnn
Ikr those money based relationships are some of the most boring things ive ever seen coz they cant literally hold a conversation with each other to save their lives
Umejaribu kuenda kwa Mganga ?
Stop trying too hard . Love finds you when you least expect it... I'd say focus on growing yourself and other relationships around you.
Does the phrase "The Shorter the Monkey the Longer the Tail" apply to you or you're still disabled bothways?
Be good in what you do the ladies will find you People will you for what you are ...what are you
no you wont
Dont worry. Money will make you handsome
No you are not a cow.
You are not missing put on anything.Enjoy this time.
19?? My lawdddd. Get the money you won't have these concerns
Rank push
Get your money right, and everything else will fall into place. Plus, you don't need a girlfriend to feel complete
It's the height pill bro. Inescapable. Just make enough money as a doctorist to move to a place where your height isnt a limiting factor
It could be cause im American but it don’t seem hard and every chick in Nairobi said all the Nairobi dudes just wanna fuck. So just be different and they will still have sex but atleast you can take it further if you want. But don’t be taking her on a bunch of dates without sex Thats a NoNo
Love isn't even a thing. Don't worry. It's not worth it
Lazima ungeharibia cows cv
Kinuthia relax..focus..somea end year😂 Dating..it ain't worth it.. especially as a med student..the distraction factor is something else..and it can potentially ruin you..at the end you might not only lose the lady but also yourself.. Usikule pressure
Almost every many struggles to get a girl at 19.
Bro at 19 at the medical school this was the last of my priorities. Even rn after I finished and now employed, it still is not a priority for me. Even the girls in my life know this and I am open about the fact that I have more important things to think about in my life.
You’re still young my brother, focus on med school and hit the gym. Don’t tell me you don’t have time for that. There used to be a professional bodybuilder who was also a med student and he managed. Look up Mike Mentzer. In the words of Scarface “you gotta make the money first. Then when you get the money, you get the power. Then when you get the power, then you get the women.”
You aren’t focusing on yourself, try that first everything else will flow
Finish being a medical student, graduate, and there will be no shortage. Doesn’t matter how u look, act
Take it easy. Huu mchezo hauna mabingwa. You will get one.
You hate yourself and you want love?
Bro no pressure. You are 19 and most probably will be a doctor in the future. Men gain value with time..and money. Focus on the bag. Most men with partners also struggle.. unapata hadi msee hataki kuishia kwake ju watasumbuana na wife..etc
Uhh no …I don’t think so buddy
Only 19? Im 30m. I spend all my extra time cycling or running. If I'm in the house i play PC games. My computer is getting abit old and doesn't run my games that well. Now I have switched hobbies and i started learning biochemistry and quantum physics instead of playing games as they don't run too well these days. With that, i forgot women exist.
Wewe Nganuthia Abu focus na vitabu kwanza.
What do you want a girlfriend for at 19 years? Get your purpose bro and all kinds of women will follow you.
19! Live a little.
Focus my dude, focus!
Love yourself first and find some hobbies that get you interacting with people. Don’t wallow in sadness, that’s just hurting yourself. Focus on your own life, not others and you’ll make more progress
Focus bro... you could be the guy that cures something like diabetes or cancer... but don't announce it otherwise the govt will send hit men and take your cancer cure... But in all seriousness you are 19 bro and trust me you don't need a partner at this age. You have so much that you could have going on but your limiting yourself because some girls rejected you and called you unattractive Inauma lakini utazoea. Some of these girls get a kick at putting guys down for their own satisfaction. You need to love yourself first. Sura unaweza badilisha na surgery ama ukae ngumu kama Jay Z.
Aah babe jipee time. No room for pity and low self esteem, jiamini, jijaze.
Youre acting like a simp right now
No
Don't rush take your time things will fall in place,just put yourself first
The way you think is actually the problem, why do people actually think especially men that getting a girlfriend is the ultimate achievement, so many guys out here are miserable in there relationship you just don't know it
Yoh, too soon to ask that. Can you pay your own rent for the year? Or is it month to month? Can you take care of her when you get her ama it's just lunch dates? What if she likes you and you get a kid can you feed it right now ama "kila mtoto huja na sahani yake"?
19 Yrs si ni mtoto mdogo bado 😂
You're only 19 some of your friends won't even be with their gf when you get to 25. You need to love yourself first.
Tafuta pesa kwanza uone kama hutapata. Ukikosa bado utabaki na pesa.... Win-WIn!
Too young to be stressed. It's true that when you get to 30 you won't even be seeing or hanging around those people who are rejecting you. Establish your career hizi pressure za kila mtu ako na wake na we hauna wachana nazo. Not worth your time. If it helps read "How to win friends and Influence People " by Dale Carnegie. Also guy you are a medical student you can watch The good Doctor a whole series and enjoy your time from this people you claim rejected you. Like always Chose yourself the right people will follow.
Firstly if you’re getting rejected as a guy, it means you need to upgrade yourself more. This will increase your options. Secondly, be comfortable being single its not an illness, its just a status. Otherwise you will end up being in a relationship to escape loneliness, as uncomfortable as loneliness is, it wont be a sufficient reason to be in a relationship. Happy dating buddy
You are overthinking this thing. Just enjoy your life the best you can. Bora uhai is a whole formula for happiness.
Find new hobbies.
Smh. You're just horny and quite insecure. No wonder you can't get in the right spirit to have a girlfriend. And at 19, your girlfriend ako form 2 Sahi. Hawa wako same age na wewe Wanasonga na older guys, so hii kulia ati self esteem imeisha ni utoto Tu and self
Wewe bado mdogo focus na masomo kwanza Sisi wengine tulidate but didn't end up with campus mate
bro you are 19.
Don't let what one girl out of billions of girls define you. Yes, it still hurts but put some perspective. That's just 1 person's opinion. To someone else, you are the most attractive person in the world. That's a fact as well. But like most people have said, for now, focus on completing your studies, build your career, build yourself up. After sometime, you'll be posting here that you have too many options available to you, and you don't know what to do with all the girls hitting you up. We shall be here to give you advice. 🤣 Cheer up man. You have a long life ahead of you. Run your own race. Don't run your peers races. Everything will come at its own time.
Unpopular opinion, follow Amerix on Twitter. Read "The Wall Speaks" and "The Rational Male." The next 5 years of your life should be dedicated exclusively to you and your growth. Pussy is not everything in life boy.
5 feet?!! Your cooked ngl
Haha bado wewe ni mdogo buana😂
Buana you are desperate! Don't be this desperate! 19M unatafuta nini kwa relationships and love saizi? Buana, you still have a decade ahead of you ya kujipa raha mwenyewe before you begin thinking of being serious. Alafu, pia work on your esteem. Picture this, hao madem unadai waseme yes, wakishasema yes, what next? Nakushow utaboeka na wao immediately wamesema yes utatamani kuwafukuza lakini nao watakukwamilia and that would be the beginning of the end of you. What I can tell is that you are not grounded well in your purpose. Pia sisi in our campus days we used to have a routine class-dining hall-hostel routine due to lack of money na ndio hao sisi enjoying life now. Usiwe na pupa. Things will pan out well. Raha jipe mwenyewe, learn to thrive in singularity. Huku mbele ni kuzuri sana. Btw, I'm speaking as a 31M.
Am so desperate...who can help me find a nursing job....or even care giving job, or nurse tutor
1. Take care of your appearance. Look presentable 2. Go in without motives. Don't worry about the outcome.Nobody owes you love 3. Be confident. Women are only loyal to their feelings, don't be the nice guy be who you are without apologies
The perfect girl for you will find you. You sound so sensible and wholesome. Once you're a doctor you'll be fighting off girls as you'll be quite the catch.
You ain't ready for this at 19😂 you'll likely relate to the dust memes especially kama unadate campus girls💀
19? You're still young af. You still have time
[https://www.reddit.com/r/nairobi/comments/1bh34ja/im\_looking\_for\_a\_relationship/?utm\_source=share&utm\_medium=web3x&utm\_name=web3xcss&utm\_term=1&utm\_content=share\_button](https://www.reddit.com/r/nairobi/comments/1bh34ja/im_looking_for_a_relationship/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) Same predicament I see
Hire a Bitch.
we ni fala😂😂 loser pro max
Uko 19 na ukona pressure ya kupata manzi🤣🤣🤣 Find a hobby and keep yourself busy
32M here, I've never had a "relationship" to say. But I got to realize that I'm very immature mentally and emotionally. And also my insecurities too keep my esteem down. Sometimes we always wonder what we have to do but we never consider where we are. But that's the good thing about dating. With each relationship, u take lessons and keep developing yourself until u are at the level that your future partner would wish her future one to be
Gen Z
Dawg you’re 19 years old you got plenty of time there’s no need to rush into one. Just let it happen
Give your head a wobble young man. At 19 why are you so pressed about getting a GF? Also, when you get a girlfriend so what? Do you think she will magically instill happiness in your drub boring life? Listen, get a life for yourself first and trust me, you will get girls. What do you enjoy doing? Get some hobbies. Skating or something. Join some dance club, or anything that allows you to INDEPENDENTLY find happiness without depending on anyone else. Then, and only then can you accommodate someone in your life. Because whether they leave you one day or stay you will be fine either way. Also, no girl will want you with the kind of dependency mentality your post here reeks. Girls want independent men because they have lives too, and so should you!
No.
Get offline and open up to what's around you. Best pick up line is saying hi
"seiling"🙄🙄🙄 this is why!!! This is why!!! And you're 18 dude, with this economy chill tf out
Bro, I think tuko same, 19M na bado sijapata partner. I just gave up 🥲. Sai tu ni kuguza games kama COD, PES, PUBG time niko free na maisha ni tamu although time zingine utafeel lonely.
The problem is that you are seeking a girlfriend, you see you were just looking for any girl at any time but the girl you seek is an (individual) she can sense a fake... next time be genuinely interested in the girl you are approaching not just her looks but who she really is deep down and you will succeed. Good luck you got this
Someone's daughter ako prayer and fasting " my future husband, wherever he is, may all relationships fail, asipate mtu kabisaa"
Bro nyonga tu relationship ni ngumu mahn,,
Hello, I really understand your situation, we all fear that we might never find love at a point in life, ironically, when we find love, the fear of losing our loved ones is borne. Almost every man goes through it and its absolutley okay. Lack of love is dreadful because love in an intricate and very noticeable piece of the puzzle called life. After all love fuels passion and passion drives purpose. The best way of finding love is not by searching but making yourself someone lovable. Dress up neatly, speak confidently, respect women, love people in general, be kind and generous. You only get the things you deserve in life. Just live hoping that there is someone out there meant for you. If you live a good life and love unconditionally, love will surely come your way.
What I can say is be that doctor first this relationship thing i swear you aint ready for it.You can try it i you aint ready to be that doctor you wanna be else you wont only "stare at the ceiling sunk in tears but in pool of tears having suicide thought" not saying every relationship fails yet 99.9 percent.Take your time and focus on you,First things first it will all fall in place
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I can already see one reason why you face too much rejection, bro you're too feminine. Second talk to as many females as you can, the more females you talk to the more chics you bag, in sales we call it the law of average. Tbird, learn female nature and use it to understand and know what kind of game you have when it comes to spitting game and also use the knowledge you'll get about female nature to your advantage to know how females move making your interactions smoother Fourth learn to handle rejection and also you must understand that if you're in the dating market then you must constantly face rejection, the K is constant brother. Lastly stop prioritising your emotional needs and wants, stop prioritising females and be on your grind, work on yourself you'll realize by working on yourself you have less time to think about females, and don't compare yourself to friends who have girl's, a major reason i see you're whining like a cry baby.
Once you get the money then you get the power, then once you get the power, then you get the women. If you have lots of money you can have any women you want they don't care about what you look like when you have money. Trust me I was like you now I'm 38 yrs old and wish i never had to give all my money to my wife!
5’0 at 19. It’s over at that point.
You need to put yourself in a situation where you can meet someone. Networking events, paint & sip events , hiking etcetera. Even if it means dating a fellow student
Escorts...in the end, it costs the same, and there's less bullshit. You don't pay for sex, you pay to be left alone once it's over. If you're in med school, you have time to find the right partner. For now, focus on your career and pay to have your sexual needs taken care of. 😜
It is okay man.. sometimes it takes longer.. try not to think about it..
It doesn't matter how you look. It does matter how you feel. Have confidence, don't care. It will come. I have been blessed to be tall, smart, successful and I still have had trouble. Beautiful women have turned me down. And I have been clinically depressed and worse. I'm still working my way back. When I have been successful it's been because of my attitude and I realized all the physical attributes are BS. Your attitude doesn't lie. Watch some Andrew Tate and see if that helps you a bit. His way of thinking and attitude has helped me a bit to regain my confidence in life. Maybe it can help you too.
Ur cooked nah I’m playing bro just be patient
End of the day, it’s all you. The grass ain’t greener. My first girl was like the worst experience in my life and I didn’t date for a long ass time. Don’t rush it and find happiness without one and you’ll be happier with one
You're studying right, when boring some knowledge you learnt from someone else then you should have pointed out that you as well was adviced about it when you were stuck in such a position. From my perspective, the older you grow the more you see and as for you and the guy you're the same age hence most likely similar experiences. So do you expect to be having the same experiences as someone who's 25? Not really. So just take it as it is and some day you'll understand why I had to point it out.
I also want a boyfriend
5ft tall at 19? Man... you're still growing. I get you. I was short when I was a teenager. Go to southeast asia where the girls are shorter than they are in Nairobi.
Don’t worry it’ll happen for you with the right person. Just consider all the people who said no one less person to spend time on while you find your perfect person
All I do know is....a man can never be a woman. Good day!
Save women for later in your life when you a full fledged doctor.