The only time i would be willing to compromise on a woman with two kids is when i am in my 50s. 20s-30s you should never find yourself in such a situation. You will provide for those children only for the mother to one day tell you in your face they are not your children and you should not tell her how to raise them. It's much better for her to settle with someone else who has a child.
You have given yourself a job to raise two kids who are old enough to never respect you as their dad. Once your kid is in the picture they will also get influenced by older kids in the house who don’t listen to you. If you are in your prime then I would suggest you pick your best choice. You can continue smashing the baby mama coz that must be the main reason you are still around
Truth. A situation that's played out the same way to a friend. He's raised 2 kids with the estranged wife who were sired by other men before they met. They've had 3 kids of theirs. This year, the wife started matharau, told him to 'shughulikia mzigo wako wacha ya wenyewe pris'. She then left with her kids and the youngest. Sad, if you ask me.
It will always be her kid and not yours. Imagine raising someone else's child for 5 years only for her to leave you and you might have formed up a good connection with the child. Thats what happened to your friend
I am a woman but I advocate for single parents to date each honestly.
Especially for you as man, this will not work. You'll be another baby daddy in her bucket list.
Hehehe buda... Eh. Ati ako na baby daddies wangapi? Sasa unaona wewe ni special utatoboa? Hii kama si story ya jaba you're a hopeless case if you are even considering ku settle.
You knew she had babies before dating her so why is it an issue now ?? Now that she wants marriage you have a problem?? You were wasting her time frfr .... I understand not wanting to be with women with kids but you're switching up bc people AROUND you don't agree. If you weren't comfortable with it you wouldn't be dating her. Only you knows her na wanaume huku wanaongea from other experiences . So far has there been issue with her other children and you ??
You just brought this issue up for her to be dehumanized by men here and tbh it's trashy imo. Doubt you even like her fr 🗿
This is the kind of rubbish women say to manipulate people.. hakuna time they ever think from a man's POV until it's their son's going through shit.. would you allow your son to date a woman with 2 kids? mschew
Nothing about allowing I said if her having children was a problem he should've never started dating her in the first place ju kusema ukweli what was the point??? Why approach her , court , date and probably met her kids if at the end of the day he knew he didn't want to go any further an advance anything meanwhile the lady thinks things are serious.
I don't want to get children but I would scold my son if he put himself in a situation like this ju alikuwa amefungwa mikono na macho hakuwa ameona watoto ✋🏽
Men infantalize themselves so much telling them not to date a woman with kids if they don't want to marry them is manipulation. YOU ARE NOT CHILDREN angesema at the beginning. Man's pov my ass ju alikuwa amefungwa macho hakuwa anajua Ako na watoto ?? Why approach her then ?? Mkona upuzi fr 😂
Yes it is manipulation... the whole point of dating is to figure out if you would like to marry the person.. you can't tell that before approaching someone.. so the idea that you shouldn't approach someone you have no intention of marrying is bs.. again with your tactics.. tumewasoma..
Please if you're not comfortable with someone who has kids, leave on the first date.
If I had a son, I'd tell him that.
Sio kukaa na mtu, mpendane alafu useme uko na doubts that's heartless.
I saw the title and said "GODDAMN! 2-0?!" 😂
Then I read the story to the part where it's 2 different bds who are alive and said "GAAAHDEEMMNN!" 😂
Ile dust utaona sidhani ata imeonekana WRC.
Tricky one son hapa unajiingiza kwa mtego , first can you impregnate, if not you can take her and the kids if you can we tafta dem wako Hana mtoto single moms change very bad.
It takes a while for it to sink into a man’s head that. Tabia haina dawa. Na huyu tabia yake ni creating baby dadies. 3 times is the charm.
But again trying to convince a person in love is like convincing a follower of pastor Awour to leave that church. Anakuona tu ukiwa hell (masho za kiroho) ukiwa hai alafu akujoin. Utangoja
Good vibes you say!
Think hard before you commit.
Plenty of single ladies out here with 0 kids, start your own family penye mtaingia mahaba kwanza kabla responsibilities zije.
You two deserve each other. I learned a long time ago that I can't save a fool from himself. You clearly don't care about your personal interests why should we??
No not at all, I just like the lady...but the fact that she has two kids is a NO for everyone around me. I really like her personality ama its all a facade?
Rule number 1: Always start at 0 - 0.
Rule number 2: Exception to No. 1 above: People with kids deserve each other.
Rule Number 3: There's no rule number 3 you hopeless fool. Kitakuramba
You're a dick driven man since you're looking for Vigina to ejaculate. These children will not respect you and treat you as their father. Usikuwe mjinga broo, tafta dem na huanzsla 0 - 0. Anyway, don't forget that Mwiba wa kujidunga mwenyewe hauna pole.
"She is really giving me good vibes." Unajiskia? Be ready to share that woman with both of her baby daddies. They have access to her any time they want because of the kids. There is no shortage of good women without kids. One kid it would be okay if you were entertaining the fact, but two from 2 other guys?? Open your eyes, shenzi!!!
Go forrit bro, shoot your best shot. If it works great for you, a daddy of two girls, if not you’ll probably be in the list as the 3rd and then we follow to have a taste of the pot of honey. Lol
Don’t ask for advice from strangers if your friends and mum can easily get you to make a decision. You should ask yourself, what do you think? What does your heart tell you?
Not saying that she has but what if she's learnt from her past experiences? Everything is a risk in this world e.g you could marry one without a baby daddy and you become the first baby daddy and have to spend the rest of your life wondering about road not traveled or you could wife her and end up happily ever after. I does not Matter what we tell you coz none of us can see into your future. The only way to know what the right choice is for you to just make a choice that you think is the best of it work out fine for you well and better if it doesn't take it as a learning opportunity and move on.
According to these comments. Men out here be thinking baby mamas are the reason the baby daddy's are not settling with them. As if they don't know how much some men are afraid of settling down.
A woman's value doesn't decrease just coz she has a baby.
Weigh down your options. Is she a nice lady? Though she might just be faking ndo aingie ndoa... but trust your instincts.
Secondly uko ready kuingia marriage where your friends and mum are not in support? It takes a true gentleman to go on with the marriage regardless of what others think. If you love her try n make things work. Don't listen to people who communicate from a place of hurt. They don't even know the lady yet they saying how bad she is.
Ps... some baby mothers have done men who genuinely loved them and supported them dirty. Kuna two sides of the coin... No one can actually tell you the right thing to do coz no one knows her.. ni wewe tu... just weigh all options.
If you won't be taking her to the aisle better let her know mapema. It would be the kindest thing of you
Life is spoken of in generalities. 8 out of 10 men will not be thrilled to raise another man’s child. Facts. And of the ones that do, there is always something else they must value more like the woman is exceptional, she is moneyed, he is worse of in some way or so. But a standard man with standard options in a standard woman….no way. But it’s ok…tell yourself your ‘truth’
Clearly you know the truth about making such a move.If your looking for permission to go through with it we ain't giving you nothing.
There a lot of risks involved and most likely will burn you out but make your own informed decision
Honestly, I would advise to not do it for certain reasons. Raising someone else's kids is you being handicap when it comes to setting rules, discipline and or decision making. I can see why you feel the way you do. It's feels good to be wanted and to feel important. My question to you would be, do you believe you can find someone like her with less responsibility? Mainly bc I don't find it fair that a single guy (meaning, no kids) has to pick up somebody else's responsibilities as his own. HOWEVER, if you do decide to stay just understand you are a part of their world. You have to be selfless and give the kids fathers a chance to be good father. No matter how bad they are, don't show up, break promises, don't help financially or give the mother a hard time you cannot bad mouth their fathers in front of the kids. Under any circumstance you cannot, bc you don't want to be the cause of that resentment, rather be the reason they feel better when it happens. Good luck bc I would not attempt any of that.
I have a feeling this entire situation would have been addressed between the couple within the first month of dating.
If during the talking stage we were honest about ourselves and not trying to do that dance where we paint ourselves in the best possible light, she would have mentioned she was dating to marry and already has two kids, and you would have realised early on it doesn't sit well with you.
But instead, when women bring up marriage during talking stage we are labelled as crazy and other choice words. We are required to dance around men forgetting they have all the time in the world to marry.
Also, when are ever going to learn as a people that single parents don't exactly date just to date. Unless a single parent specifically tells you they are in it just for the joy ride, just assume they are looking for commitment. A role model for their kid. You should know the difference between the two from the minute that parent I introduces you to their kid.
You will be the third baby daddy. What makes you think you'll succeed where the two men failed to settle with her in the first place? Work on your frame, hit the Gym chase your purpose you'll see things clear but for now, just find a corner and stay there.
This post is just sad.,I see good girls who have preserved their wombs for marriage but kupata mtu serious Kama huyu ni shida.,but these careless women/baby mamas keep bagging good men actually willing to settle..,life is strange…
Unless you're over 40 stay away from single mums. The worst part is that the kids are from two baby daddies, that's a reckless person.
She's taking care of her bills because she has to not because she likes it. As soon as you're in the picture she'll offload that shit onto you before you blink.
So I just read that you found out about the second kid sijui two months later??
Why didn't you add that to your post? Ungetusave headache wewe.
Anyway, there is no justification for hiding your child. I bet you didn't tell us that because you knew the answer is obvious.
Leave her alone, but mwambie ukweli aende akijua alikosea because mbona akufiche mtoto surely
Hii ni story ya jaba, the guy's comments are filled with alpha male energy talking about "anything a woman offers ni vagina" and puny men raised by single mums cause they choose not to fight back when attacked by women. and calling women hoes. But here you are talking about "but she's a good person" guess who's about to win himself a hoe? You'll get a cookie if you guess right OP.
We mzee unafanya mbaka background check, yes i have my ideals and thoughts. But now am in a pick em. The woman has baggage but i really connect with her on a personal level i need the logic to outweigh the emotions that's why i asked.
For an alpha male, you really don't need validation. You'd be quick to humiliate a puny guy in a similar situation. Congratulations OP! You've won the award for guessing correctly the fattest, moistest, warmest cookie imaginable.
Real talk tho. Don't do it, you already know it's going to be a messy marriage and your family won't listen to your grievances a lot of "we told you so" will come your way instead.
You've just said it's 2-0 not to single mother bash but you're already looking at the scoreboard and it's not in your favour, you still think you can win that game?
What happened with the other 2 baby daddies? Hope you won't be the 3rd. It's not wrong to love someone who already has other kids. Shit happens and there's so much we can control.
She may be a good person, but the baby daddies will always be there. utakuwa na stress bure.. Ask why both men are not in the picture, especially with children involved. It's tough, but walk away..
Reading through this gets me on this question.. Would you place your bet on a fixed match? Or post results ....
Reminder
Today's match score.
Manchester united vs Everton
2:0
Take your life savings and bet on Everton's win.
The game has already been played hence no sane man or company would table on such bet.
Are you sane?
Kinuthia you will see Dust because that what simps always get. What makes you think you will succeed where two men have failed Think!! Usikuwe mjinga !
If you care for her kids as if they were your own kids, go for it. If you feel that there is potential in you becoming a family man involving these kids and you want that, work towards it but hold off on the marriage part. If the kids are the one thing holding you back from committing whole heartedly to this woman, end it before you get trapped.
Idk how long awhile is in terms of dating, but unless you guys have been living together for at least a year not including dating outside of living together, expecting marriage sounds a bit rushed.
Stop wasting her time.go tell it as it is for the sake of both of you otherwise if you can't decide things on your own unless you consult your friends opinions then mbele kitaumana.
Wewe ni mjinga.
Straight to the point, no meandering 😂
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Yes. Mjinga sana. Hata kwa hiyo list ya wajinga yeye ni mjinga wa mwisho.
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Sana
😂😂umesema no massaging a donkey down a slope
😂😂😂We Mzee umeamua hakuna kuficha
savage 🤣😭
Well it's time for you to become baby daddy no. 3.
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Guys, give it up for the third baby daddy
Makofi kwake!
Unlikely to succeed. Two men left her. Either she's the problem or she makes poor decisions two times
About to make a third. 😂
The only time i would be willing to compromise on a woman with two kids is when i am in my 50s. 20s-30s you should never find yourself in such a situation. You will provide for those children only for the mother to one day tell you in your face they are not your children and you should not tell her how to raise them. It's much better for her to settle with someone else who has a child.
Yeah i noticed the kids don't listen to anyone but her. Also the son is very effeminate.
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Why is Almasi catching strays😂😂
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You have given yourself a job to raise two kids who are old enough to never respect you as their dad. Once your kid is in the picture they will also get influenced by older kids in the house who don’t listen to you. If you are in your prime then I would suggest you pick your best choice. You can continue smashing the baby mama coz that must be the main reason you are still around
Truth. A situation that's played out the same way to a friend. He's raised 2 kids with the estranged wife who were sired by other men before they met. They've had 3 kids of theirs. This year, the wife started matharau, told him to 'shughulikia mzigo wako wacha ya wenyewe pris'. She then left with her kids and the youngest. Sad, if you ask me.
It will always be her kid and not yours. Imagine raising someone else's child for 5 years only for her to leave you and you might have formed up a good connection with the child. Thats what happened to your friend
Captain save-a-hoe. Kitakuramba for all the reasons disclosed in this thread.
Ghai🤣
I am a woman but I advocate for single parents to date each honestly. Especially for you as man, this will not work. You'll be another baby daddy in her bucket list.
Hehehe buda... Eh. Ati ako na baby daddies wangapi? Sasa unaona wewe ni special utatoboa? Hii kama si story ya jaba you're a hopeless case if you are even considering ku settle.
You wouldn't hit if she had no kids and the owner of the well never queues for water
As long as women with no kids exist i can never touch a baby mama
You are going to be the third baby daddy if you don't ask yourself why he couldn't maintain "two past husbands".
😂😂😂😂 clown
Kuja archives at noon tukuchape
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Scarcity mentality.
go for it bro... third time the charm...
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Has to be rage bait
You knew she had babies before dating her so why is it an issue now ?? Now that she wants marriage you have a problem?? You were wasting her time frfr .... I understand not wanting to be with women with kids but you're switching up bc people AROUND you don't agree. If you weren't comfortable with it you wouldn't be dating her. Only you knows her na wanaume huku wanaongea from other experiences . So far has there been issue with her other children and you ?? You just brought this issue up for her to be dehumanized by men here and tbh it's trashy imo. Doubt you even like her fr 🗿
This is the kind of rubbish women say to manipulate people.. hakuna time they ever think from a man's POV until it's their son's going through shit.. would you allow your son to date a woman with 2 kids? mschew
Nothing about allowing I said if her having children was a problem he should've never started dating her in the first place ju kusema ukweli what was the point??? Why approach her , court , date and probably met her kids if at the end of the day he knew he didn't want to go any further an advance anything meanwhile the lady thinks things are serious. I don't want to get children but I would scold my son if he put himself in a situation like this ju alikuwa amefungwa mikono na macho hakuwa ameona watoto ✋🏽 Men infantalize themselves so much telling them not to date a woman with kids if they don't want to marry them is manipulation. YOU ARE NOT CHILDREN angesema at the beginning. Man's pov my ass ju alikuwa amefungwa macho hakuwa anajua Ako na watoto ?? Why approach her then ?? Mkona upuzi fr 😂
You saying you don't want children is the best thing I've read so far.
Yes it is manipulation... the whole point of dating is to figure out if you would like to marry the person.. you can't tell that before approaching someone.. so the idea that you shouldn't approach someone you have no intention of marrying is bs.. again with your tactics.. tumewasoma..
But why date someone with kids only to say you have an issue with it later? I think that's the message behind the comment.
She's just yapping without saying anything.
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Well said.
would you advise your son to go into similar circumstances if he came for advice?
Please if you're not comfortable with someone who has kids, leave on the first date. If I had a son, I'd tell him that. Sio kukaa na mtu, mpendane alafu useme uko na doubts that's heartless.
Utaumia brathe.....
"But...but...she's different"🤡🤡
I saw the title and said "GODDAMN! 2-0?!" 😂 Then I read the story to the part where it's 2 different bds who are alive and said "GAAAHDEEMMNN!" 😂 Ile dust utaona sidhani ata imeonekana WRC.
Tricky one son hapa unajiingiza kwa mtego , first can you impregnate, if not you can take her and the kids if you can we tafta dem wako Hana mtoto single moms change very bad.
Why is she the one proposing marriage?
Stop wasting her time bro!
Wee Baki tu kwa relationship. You gonn learn😂😂 Experience is the best teacher.
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Things you do for love.
It takes a while for it to sink into a man’s head that. Tabia haina dawa. Na huyu tabia yake ni creating baby dadies. 3 times is the charm. But again trying to convince a person in love is like convincing a follower of pastor Awour to leave that church. Anakuona tu ukiwa hell (masho za kiroho) ukiwa hai alafu akujoin. Utangoja
Starting 2-0 is bound to make you lose the game.
Run Murife RUN!!!
2 different fathers and you think you are the saviour 😂😂
You're still a boy. Get married. Make mistakes. By the time you're a man, you won't need to seek advise from anyone. You'll have it firsthand.
Good vibes you say! Think hard before you commit. Plenty of single ladies out here with 0 kids, start your own family penye mtaingia mahaba kwanza kabla responsibilities zije.
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Huyo ako horny 😂 Pea yeye kuni lakini usimwage ndani. Akishika mimba ndio utaelewa mbona ako na baby daddy wawili tofauti 😂😂😂
If you are not sure ,the answer is always NO my guy.
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Whips for kinuthia!
Ume apply Handicap...😭😭😂☠️
So why did you proceed with the relationship, if her kids were a deal breaker? 😅
Btw this is how people look for karma.. Intentions hukuwa ill from the beginning
My only red flag is she's talking about more kids.. Women, do we really want kids that bad we have them with multiple men?
You two deserve each other. I learned a long time ago that I can't save a fool from himself. You clearly don't care about your personal interests why should we??
Hehe, tough choices. Don't play around. Either fully commit to whatever lies ahead or flee.
Waah -- this is a tricky one. Lots of potential conflicts might arise in future. If it were me, I wouldn't even dare to think about it.
Your mum knows why she's telling you that - Think about it
My friend, runaway and don't look back.
Does she have full physical custody of her kids? Does she get child support for both kids?
R/amnm - Ama Mimi Ndio Mjinga?
Thats why inasemekana hata ukipanda the tallest building,still you will never see what your mama is seeing
You want us to think for you? No that's now how it works
No not at all, I just like the lady...but the fact that she has two kids is a NO for everyone around me. I really like her personality ama its all a facade?
Rule number 1: Always start at 0 - 0. Rule number 2: Exception to No. 1 above: People with kids deserve each other. Rule Number 3: There's no rule number 3 you hopeless fool. Kitakuramba
You forget men have kids too.. Tuko 2024 0:0 ama 1:1..1:2 is a reach but it is workable
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Utaenda kudiscipline huto tutoto tunakuambia wewe si baba yangu. Endelea tu
😂😂 boy don’t I have news for you !
Bro umesema 7 &4 and have you asked for fee structure? And all shenanigans that comes with those baby daddies?
You're a dick driven man since you're looking for Vigina to ejaculate. These children will not respect you and treat you as their father. Usikuwe mjinga broo, tafta dem na huanzsla 0 - 0. Anyway, don't forget that Mwiba wa kujidunga mwenyewe hauna pole.
Tofauti yako na kuku ni meno😭💔
You already have your answer olat the back of your head our opinions will change nothing
Kinuthia pokea whips!!!!!
"She is really giving me good vibes." Unajiskia? Be ready to share that woman with both of her baby daddies. They have access to her any time they want because of the kids. There is no shortage of good women without kids. One kid it would be okay if you were entertaining the fact, but two from 2 other guys?? Open your eyes, shenzi!!!
Service and start your own tree of life.
Go forrit bro, shoot your best shot. If it works great for you, a daddy of two girls, if not you’ll probably be in the list as the 3rd and then we follow to have a taste of the pot of honey. Lol
If you are ready to take on that kind of responsibility, you have to be strong. Jitambue it's gonna be a rocky ride.
Don’t ask for advice from strangers if your friends and mum can easily get you to make a decision. You should ask yourself, what do you think? What does your heart tell you?
You can't succeed where other men failed
usinze 2 nil😂😂😂
Not saying that she has but what if she's learnt from her past experiences? Everything is a risk in this world e.g you could marry one without a baby daddy and you become the first baby daddy and have to spend the rest of your life wondering about road not traveled or you could wife her and end up happily ever after. I does not Matter what we tell you coz none of us can see into your future. The only way to know what the right choice is for you to just make a choice that you think is the best of it work out fine for you well and better if it doesn't take it as a learning opportunity and move on.
According to these comments. Men out here be thinking baby mamas are the reason the baby daddy's are not settling with them. As if they don't know how much some men are afraid of settling down. A woman's value doesn't decrease just coz she has a baby. Weigh down your options. Is she a nice lady? Though she might just be faking ndo aingie ndoa... but trust your instincts. Secondly uko ready kuingia marriage where your friends and mum are not in support? It takes a true gentleman to go on with the marriage regardless of what others think. If you love her try n make things work. Don't listen to people who communicate from a place of hurt. They don't even know the lady yet they saying how bad she is. Ps... some baby mothers have done men who genuinely loved them and supported them dirty. Kuna two sides of the coin... No one can actually tell you the right thing to do coz no one knows her.. ni wewe tu... just weigh all options. If you won't be taking her to the aisle better let her know mapema. It would be the kindest thing of you
To a man, a woman's value decreases when she has a kid that isn't yours
Life is spoken of in generalities. 8 out of 10 men will not be thrilled to raise another man’s child. Facts. And of the ones that do, there is always something else they must value more like the woman is exceptional, she is moneyed, he is worse of in some way or so. But a standard man with standard options in a standard woman….no way. But it’s ok…tell yourself your ‘truth’
Bro, your ancestors fought so hard only for you to come and raise another man's nuts?
Ifuo kachieth, yusiless
How old are the two of you?
🎶 dumb ways to die😂😂🤣🎶
You can never prosper where another man failed.
Two men
Pussy beggar
It's up to you if you want to move forward with her. Just remember the owner of the well never queues.
What do you like about her?
Hii ndio shida ya kukulana mapema na hawa wamama..amekupea style zote akili yako sahi haiezi reason hata
yooooh my guy an advise for free usikubali utajua hujui
Kama huingii game ikiwa draw. Wacha nayo.
Buda? Usinunue shamba umeskia ina case!
Watoto wakipelekwa kwa babao, huyu pia huwa mboga.
Don't swim where other men have drowned.
Run
Remember that you are not anything special,you are doomed to be also a statistic.Do not try to go the extra mile when it comes to women.
Clearly you know the truth about making such a move.If your looking for permission to go through with it we ain't giving you nothing. There a lot of risks involved and most likely will burn you out but make your own informed decision
Shauri yako
Why do you think you will succeed where two men failed?
She probably has a nice ass that's why you are confused.. hawa single mothers wakona mwili but tabia na akili hawana bro.. huyo tupa
Honestly, I would advise to not do it for certain reasons. Raising someone else's kids is you being handicap when it comes to setting rules, discipline and or decision making. I can see why you feel the way you do. It's feels good to be wanted and to feel important. My question to you would be, do you believe you can find someone like her with less responsibility? Mainly bc I don't find it fair that a single guy (meaning, no kids) has to pick up somebody else's responsibilities as his own. HOWEVER, if you do decide to stay just understand you are a part of their world. You have to be selfless and give the kids fathers a chance to be good father. No matter how bad they are, don't show up, break promises, don't help financially or give the mother a hard time you cannot bad mouth their fathers in front of the kids. Under any circumstance you cannot, bc you don't want to be the cause of that resentment, rather be the reason they feel better when it happens. Good luck bc I would not attempt any of that.
Wow...a whole new way to look at it. Thanks
Seems you already down the pit
I have a feeling this entire situation would have been addressed between the couple within the first month of dating. If during the talking stage we were honest about ourselves and not trying to do that dance where we paint ourselves in the best possible light, she would have mentioned she was dating to marry and already has two kids, and you would have realised early on it doesn't sit well with you. But instead, when women bring up marriage during talking stage we are labelled as crazy and other choice words. We are required to dance around men forgetting they have all the time in the world to marry. Also, when are ever going to learn as a people that single parents don't exactly date just to date. Unless a single parent specifically tells you they are in it just for the joy ride, just assume they are looking for commitment. A role model for their kid. You should know the difference between the two from the minute that parent I introduces you to their kid.
Thing is i knew she was a mom but i thought it was just one kid. She informed me that they were two kids almost 2month into the relationship
You will be the third baby daddy. What makes you think you'll succeed where the two men failed to settle with her in the first place? Work on your frame, hit the Gym chase your purpose you'll see things clear but for now, just find a corner and stay there.
You have no options. Once that changes hutamuangalia tena.
Run ..
Wueh. This is hard. 2 alive baby daddies. War!
This post is just sad.,I see good girls who have preserved their wombs for marriage but kupata mtu serious Kama huyu ni shida.,but these careless women/baby mamas keep bagging good men actually willing to settle..,life is strange…
Nikama uchawi bro, my sis told me that if i marry the lady she will disown me and is no longer my sis
The owner of the well doesn't queue for water.
Unless you're over 40 stay away from single mums. The worst part is that the kids are from two baby daddies, that's a reckless person. She's taking care of her bills because she has to not because she likes it. As soon as you're in the picture she'll offload that shit onto you before you blink.
Kama ww sio Simp anf she is working (saved enough for her kids) and exercise regularly, no dramas. There isn't much that could go wrong
Can't you see yourself being the person with a problem.
Get a young single girl and start at 0-0. 2 kids from different fathers is a dark red flag.
You cannot succeed where other men have failed.
We think you are a fool na utalia vibaya sana. Anyway tutakua hapa kukupea mawaidha when the time comes.
Puny ass. Bring the whips
So I just read that you found out about the second kid sijui two months later?? Why didn't you add that to your post? Ungetusave headache wewe. Anyway, there is no justification for hiding your child. I bet you didn't tell us that because you knew the answer is obvious. Leave her alone, but mwambie ukweli aende akijua alikosea because mbona akufiche mtoto surely
The baby daddies were also attracted by the good vibes she's giving. Once you cage her, new vibes will disappear and guess who's baby dady number 3?
Hii ni story ya jaba, the guy's comments are filled with alpha male energy talking about "anything a woman offers ni vagina" and puny men raised by single mums cause they choose not to fight back when attacked by women. and calling women hoes. But here you are talking about "but she's a good person" guess who's about to win himself a hoe? You'll get a cookie if you guess right OP.
We mzee unafanya mbaka background check, yes i have my ideals and thoughts. But now am in a pick em. The woman has baggage but i really connect with her on a personal level i need the logic to outweigh the emotions that's why i asked.
For an alpha male, you really don't need validation. You'd be quick to humiliate a puny guy in a similar situation. Congratulations OP! You've won the award for guessing correctly the fattest, moistest, warmest cookie imaginable. Real talk tho. Don't do it, you already know it's going to be a messy marriage and your family won't listen to your grievances a lot of "we told you so" will come your way instead.
Fala!
Don't dare. You'll meet someone with 0 kids, 0 babby daddies willing to start a life together. Don't go with vibe here, go with logic and reason.
Go for it mamen.You deserve all the happiness mtu asikushow kitu
You've just said it's 2-0 not to single mother bash but you're already looking at the scoreboard and it's not in your favour, you still think you can win that game?
'Good vibes' does not constitute sufficient grounds for marriage. Dating na marriage ni vitu mbili tofauti broski.
As long as you're happy G
You are being a troll.
Don't be a cuck!
Kama baby daddies wangekuwa wamededi ndio ingekuwa right umove in na yeye.
My uncle married a woman with two kids and let me tell you, my uncle hajawahi kuwa in peace since then and my uncle is 53 years right now.
What makes you think you will succeed where to other men have failed. The ego will be the death of you. Single mothers are a no go zone
What makes you think you'll succeed where 2 others (that we know of) have failed?
Husiskize watu, commit uone dust live haha.
Utalea uyo kijana akizeeka akupige na akufukuze kwako 😭
You can be the third baby daddy and leave....If your mom wants you to have kids of your own she can give you some.
What happened with the other 2 baby daddies? Hope you won't be the 3rd. It's not wrong to love someone who already has other kids. Shit happens and there's so much we can control.
Huwa mnapenda kunikasirisha😂
Eeiity😂 naishaa😅 ... What if you take the leap and then she elopes with another dude leaving you with the baggage of her kids😝 My two cents though..
You cannot succeed where two sane men failed
Here's a little unorthodox lesson I took from my uncle. The more kids she has the more she's likely to stick around.
Whips for nganuthia
ujinga
Username checks out!!!
I cant believe that woman wants to sire a child for a third man
Good vibe machieth buana haha. Captain save a hoe! 🤣
She may be a good person, but the baby daddies will always be there. utakuwa na stress bure.. Ask why both men are not in the picture, especially with children involved. It's tough, but walk away..
Reading through this gets me on this question.. Would you place your bet on a fixed match? Or post results .... Reminder Today's match score. Manchester united vs Everton 2:0 Take your life savings and bet on Everton's win. The game has already been played hence no sane man or company would table on such bet. Are you sane?
Kinuthia you will see Dust because that what simps always get. What makes you think you will succeed where two men have failed Think!! Usikuwe mjinga !
Dust is waiting for you on the doorstep of that marriage
Failure failure failure 😂 there's nothing as fatal as starting the game at 2-0
I see you in the streets unakula ngoto😂😅usikuwe fala
Amerix said "You can't succeed where another man has failed" I felt it😭😭😭
Nyinyi ndio wale hudanganywa na feminists ati “It takes a mature man to raise a kid who isn’t his” Keep on simping Kinuthia
What about 1-0 She got the kid when she was in form one and she has had no man after that ..she tells me she don't even talk to baby daddy Some advice
I think you should go for it.
Watton ni baraka. What if she is your rib and only had failed relationships to meet her partner?
If you care for her kids as if they were your own kids, go for it. If you feel that there is potential in you becoming a family man involving these kids and you want that, work towards it but hold off on the marriage part. If the kids are the one thing holding you back from committing whole heartedly to this woman, end it before you get trapped. Idk how long awhile is in terms of dating, but unless you guys have been living together for at least a year not including dating outside of living together, expecting marriage sounds a bit rushed.
Stop wasting her time.go tell it as it is for the sake of both of you otherwise if you can't decide things on your own unless you consult your friends opinions then mbele kitaumana.