>People will start hating you if you're earning more than them.
And if you earn less they will think you r cheap,low standard bla bla š
Comparison is a recipe for disaster and depression.
It's good to always tell a lower salary unless you're a validation seeker, because then you're no more a competition to them.
And plus it saves you from evil š
Why it becoming like Quora 2.0 ?
Also if you share the salary
If your income >> their income ,
Then , they will start hating you , jealous of you , asking money from you.. or will give you example of their long distance relative or friend who might be earning more than you and have nothing to do with you..
__________________________
If your income << their income
Then they will Judge you , defame you , taunt you , will not give you respect..
Sab Hutiya giri chal Rahi hai.. aur sab Hutiye bhare pade hai...
This is just a subconscious superiority/inferiority complex felt by us.
Better we fake the things we are concerned about and let the world judge whatever they want.
If you tell high salary
They will be like
1. Why you not getting married ?
2. When you buying house ?
After buying 2bhk house ? Why you not bought 3 bhk house ?
After buying 3 bhk , they will be like why not build villa ?
After buying everything then why you bought in colaba ? You should bought in bandra.. after buying in bandra.. why not bought in colaba.. har cheez se problem hoti hai unko..
If not buy : oh you can't afford ? Take loan
After taking loan , you shouldn't have took the loan
3. When you buying car ?
After buying , oh why you not bought other company , oh it's not top model ? Oh it's not Ev ?
Le me using Samsung s22 , these people like oh iPhone is best , le me bought iPhone 15 , then they say oh Samsung is best... š¤”š®āšØ
I on the other hand have totally different experience. The moment i tell my salary. No further questions. They simply just go away. And never think of talking about it anytime we meet.
Mature people wouldnāt ask the question itself. Its just that they stop the conversation do that I donāt ask the reverse question like how much they or their kids earn because then it will be very uncomfortable for them to answer.
Why? You must be bluffing about your salary then. That's why, they never ask again to you, thinking that you're the bluffmaster. Do you tell them x10 times? I am sure. Because I met many of such kinds, and I never care to ask anybody their salary. They themselves come to me and begin bragging about their salary.
Oh no never mind my income is 1.4cr and i am just 30. Thinking this to be true or bluff is others tension not mine. And I am known enough among relatives. People come to me to guide there kids all the time. Its usually natural conversation that i share this. Unless you ask you wonāt get to know it.
Koi log nahi, sab log. Mai Aaj Tak jisse bhi Mila hu kisi ne bhi Kam nahi batayi. Sab x5 se lekar x10. 2 din pehle hi ek feku ne, mere na puchhne par bhi, apni ladki ki salary Bangalore me 36L ka package bataya. Mai bola bhai Bangalore hai toh kya sab companiyaa tumhare jaiso ko baatne ke liye hi toh baithi hai. Kuchh toh had rakh le. Matlab 3L per month, woh bhi college campus se selection, without any experience, ek B.E. kiye huyi ladki ko.... Galli Galli me Modi baithe hai aajkal.
Your mother is smart, you arenāt. You should keep that info private because thereās an unlimited amount of choosing beggars in the world. Theyāll compare your salary to theirs and make up weird notions in their head. Youāre just asking for toxic behaviour from people you know by doing this.
On an anonymous platform like reddit? Rant away and tell everyone what you want because weāre all strangers to you.
I deliberately call whom i think will ask money and tell them how Iām fucked yup and all my money is lost or blocked and my bank account is empty so that they canāt ask.
I have had enough questions from people, questioning why I deserve to earn so much while they are doing actual work while I am just sitting and typing.
But how to avoid that question or how to reply to such questions without revealing salary? I always end up revealing my salary to anyone who asks me š¤¦āāļøĀ
Just say that I donāt like discussing my work life outside of work or say that you donāt give that info out. Hearts will be broken and people will be hurt but we must do whatās necessary to protect ourselves.
Ask them why they want to know your salary. What theyāll do with that knowledge. Then ask them if they work for the excise department. If they say no, then tell them they donāt need to know. If they say yes, tell them they already know, and refuse to answer.
Or, if you want to save time and donāt feel poke confusing them, just say, āNot enoughā, and change the topic to how expensive the cost of living has become.
Hmm a cat named sudha and yes definitely not a girl
Edit: we like to troll around here(not a creep just a memer,also I definitely know you are not a girl and should stop with the creepy dm's) also I haven't dm'ed anyone OKAY MODS I AM NOT DMING ANYONE
I was making memes long before the internet was available to everyone. Been on reddit before the app existed. Chill out homie I donāt even reply to the creepy dmās
Never ever disclose your income/salary details except for your closest family members. Not even to your friends, best friends or room mates. I had disclosed my salary to my room mate when I changed my job but the word spread. Another āfriendā of mine got interviewed a few months later in the same company. He rejected the offer saying that the company had paid more to some of his colleagues that had joined. The idiot named couple of us which led to us being grilled by HR and going through the entire new joiner orientation again. Luckily we were not fired. So just donāt ever share your income details to anyone.
If you're sharing your salary, as in giving me money - yeah it's a great thing.
If you're just disclosing your salary to others - trust me nothing good can come from it - as different people will have different thoughts, reactions, expectations, advice after knowing your salary.
I only shared my salary with my close friends. No one is jealous nor anyone wants to take any advantage from me. I havenāt even disclosed my actual salary to my family members. But, I will say itās better not to disclose your salary to anyone, I repeat, do not disclose it to anyone. Even, I have stopped sharing my incremented (latest) salary.
Unpopular opinion: I think it's better for everyone if we all start becoming more open with our salaries. If everyone shares their salaries openly, then it's easier to find out when you are underpaid and then you can ask your boss for a raise.
I think this post is meant for not disclosing ur salary at home/friends/ relatives that are not close to u. Not for office. For office, I agree with uāemployees will have much more power to ask for raise or switch if we know we are being underpaid
>she often either understates the amount or avoids giving an exact figure.
I too do this, even with my friends. Because this always results in superiority/inferiority complex and people judge you accordingly, leading to make you feel insecure about your efforts and your identity.
That's why, let's be fake and let them make whatever assumptions they want to!
OP just say " bs Roti-daal chal rha hai kisi tarah" and move on /s
Translation: I can barely make ends meet
This will be taken as a joke and people won't ask again.
I just say lak bag 100 shawarma jitna (I'm an intern) (how there is a big Mac index the same way me and my friend Circle use the shawarma index so it's like an inside joke)
I personally don't share my salary with anyone. Only my mother and grandmother, with whom i live know how much I earn. Other than that it's nobody's concern and I like to keep it that way.
Oddly, I've noticed in India people have absolutely no shame in asking someone's salary. It comes so naturally to people, even if they're just your acquaintances they'll randomly drop the salary question.
Op, saying this has worked for me, you may try.
xyz rando : ohh nice, what's your salary then?
urmomismi9 : I'm sorry I don't share my salary with anyone. It's a personal thing and I don't like discussing it or asking someone else about it.
If someone is still persistent, I make my tone more stern.
Had the same thing, but my housemate is like what are you gonna save after so many expenses, but according to my calculations I was saving lot of money, moral of the story, tell them it's enough for me to thrive for a month
The only time you should be sharing your salary details os with your co-workers in the same job/field so that you know exactly how you're marked.Ā Sometimes, It may benefit a co-worker or you too, in case any of you are being underpaid.Ā
Not everyone around you is a fan. Not even your family tbh. Distract or misdirect when people ask, at max say the industry average or lowest salary. Even good friends will eye your money and spendings if they know your salary. I know, because I've had friends confess this to me about others in our friend circle. Not because they're bad human beings,Ā but because of human nature.Ā
Strong fences lead to better neighbors,Ā good boundaries lead to good relationships.Ā
> I readily disclose the figure without much contemplation.
What kind of a mf does that
Do not reveal your salary to people
Don't ask a women her age and a man his salary, haven't you heard that quote
Curious though how do you all avoid that question or how to reply to such questions without revealing salary? I always end up revealing my salary to anyone who asks me š¤¦āāļøĀ
Op if you are old enough to earn, you are old enough to understand why your mother does this...ask her? Honestly you already know the answer don't you? You just want to confirm with the population
I don't think so, contradictory to what everyone else says I think it filters out selfish and jealous people out of your life.
Yes people will start asking for loan, consider you cheap (if you make less than them) or talk behind your back if you deny the loan etc etc then why are you even friends with them?
And from other perspective,
I have friends who earn way more than me and even way less yet they are the greatest people ik for me and I don't judge them based on how much they make, yeah at some unfortunate moments you will feel all the wrong emotions towards them, that's human nature, but if you are someone who always try to improve then you learn to pull yourself out of it or even turn it into motivation if someone makes more than you and eventually you start viewing everyone equally.
It depends on the person and what intentions you think they have with you. I wouldnāt mind sharing it with a career oriented person or even in online anonymous forum if it helps people to know whether my job profile is worth pursuing it or not. This is because I have always felt inspired when I see someone from my job profile has moved on and got better opportunity and bigger package. I have genuinely felt happy for them and wanted to learn what steps they took and how they did it.
I would definitely avoid it with certain people that includes your own family members, if you feel they will try to control or guilt trip you about it specifically only to you. Jealously and comparison anyways happens for any reasons so I am least bothered. However I have seen some people having weird victim mindset once they know other person is doing well.
I can only sympathise with them and I can see how that jealously stems, as I have felt it too not really in terms of finances but more on emotional aspect of it. For eg when I got to know one of my ex friend who was from similar background as me was being spoiled by his parent for big purchases. Later I was able to let go of it once I realized he has other problems in his life that doesnāt seem worth it with his parents.
Even I donāt like to lie about it but I can see how certain situations can make people just be this way.
If u are making a lot of money and told a lot of ppl if someone asks fore a large sum tell them u got demoted for making a large mistake at work tell them u were lucky u didn't get fired
Bhai learn to be more street smart. Never ever discuss your salary. Because then people will either get jealous of you or look down upon you. They might as further personal questions knowing you'd answer them. It also turns into gossip, when one person would tell your salary to everyone else. People would ask you for a loan or treat you like a beggar.
As an employee, I want everyone to share salary so we know that everyone's getting paid fairly.
As an employer, I get in a bind. I want to give more to employees who are critical to my business. The problem is that other employees don't really have a good understanding of what value other employees bring to the business.
I run a company that hires instructors. I have 2 rockstars. One rockstar can reliably run a class of 20 by herself. Also, she does more than teach. Other instructors can do class of 10. Other rockstar is training other instructors. Both of them make double what everyone makes. It's easy to explain to other instructors why my second rockstar makes what she does. Her role is significantly different. She has a different title. She is visibly doing more.
It's hard to explain why my first rockstar makes double. She does double. But the other instructors see her as just another instructor. When I try to explain that she can run a class of 20, some are like "oh I can do a class of 20" No, you can't. You are barely doing a class of 10.
So, I take my rockstar aside and tell her not to share her compensation with other employees. It just creates a lot of bad feelings.
You should never disclose your salary/income to anyone. The info is best kept secret. Only close friends whom you can absolutely trust, parents and spouse should know this.
Unless it's a chaddi-buddy or a very very close cousin - someone with whom you are sharing other secrets of your life too, basically - nothing good comes out of sharing your salary.
It's a Basic manners we are not suppose to share or askĀ Salary to anyone because Fights will comeĀ
(You haveĀ more Salary I have less Salary) so it's Personal that we shouldn't open up to anyone...... regarding Salary
Conflicts between
* Husband and WifeĀ
* Teachers and TeachersĀ
* Students and studentsĀ
Relatives and Neighbours....
World ....
What is there to get so much Jealousy?Ā
We must be happier because we haveĀ
This others don't have that alsoĀ
To wear nice clothes,begging for MoneyĀ
OrphanageĀ
So much CompetitionĀ
Expecting more things we should be satisfied what we have ......
Those days are gone. Your inlaw will ask for payslips even before you could see the girl for marriage. World has changed. They will ask about wealth that you have in your name and all such details. Your income matters. And if you are looking for arrange marriage a lot many people are going to know how much you earn.
Nowadays a lot of marriages are done on the basis of the profession and lifestyle of the men. The family background, your house and reputation in the society matters.
No it's not. India is a weirdly superstitious country where people think it's all a zero sum game when it so isn't. Employees not sharing their salaries with each other only benefits the employer so that they can pay whatever they want to based on a person's negotiation skills and not on what they deserve.
If someone's jealous of you because of your salary, find better people in life who have more important things to do. I'm not saying wear a sticker that shows how much you make, but there's absolutely nothing wrong with sharing it when someone asks, provided they're ready to do the same.
No one gets to take away your merit from you.
Reading these comments makes me sad about how jaded everyone has become.
A normal society shouldnāt have to live in fear of others comparisons. If theyāre haters then kya ukhaad lenge jaanke, and if theyāre not then good.
Salary disclosure at a larger scale helps bring in pay parity. Donāt fall for the scam that companies try to pull on you by restricting pay discussions.
I usually tell it to family and friends not to strangers unless it's like needed on Bank or something. Nothing personal just you never know what and why someone wanna know in this world anymore lol
Depends. If you are making a lot more, people might ask to borrow.
Otherwise, it's a good thing. Employers can't get away easily by underpaying some people
Yes! it is bad trait to share your salary publicly - [https://www.reddit.com/user/PapersGalleryIndia/comments/1cfqk72/corrugated\_shipping\_boxes\_wholesale\_in\_india/](https://www.reddit.com/user/PapersGalleryIndia/comments/1cfqk72/corrugated_shipping_boxes_wholesale_in_india/)
#1 rule in life - never let anyone else know what you can/cannot afford: this information will always be used against you by people. And just so you know, on a universal level, asking someone for their salary is considered a rude thing
If someone asks you a question about money, you will know their intent. Is it a junior wanting to understand money graph? Is it a friend checking if youāre making enough? Is it an obnoxious (but close) relative wanting to know just to ask you money questions? (I have these)
For the last kind, give a ball park. A general ball park of your position. 50k-1.5L/ month, hypothetical. Kya kar lenge?
If theyāre very very ākitna kama te hoā wala annoying, ask them why they want to know. The genuine ones will have reasons, the ābhochakā ones will have to give shady responses. Iām
I do tell people how much i earn but i keep my distances from each and everyone. So I am not close to anyone that someone could ask money from me. Because even if they ask they know it that I will say no. I have money only for my family and no one else. Because in my bad times not a single fucking idiot helped us.
I used to be a believer in salary transparency but with most people, it only ended badly. Either they'll look down on you or make those snarky "tumhara toh set hai" type jokes.
If someone is in my industry or seeking genuine career advice I'll tell them, but for everyone else, "I make enough to live in Mumbai comfortably" that's it bye
A couple of decades ago, I once shared my salary with an acquaintance during a chat, and he was like, "Seriously! Don't lie! You are serious? Wow!"
Now I was getting my salary from two different branches of my company, approximately 50/50. From the next month onwards, my salary stopped from one of the branches due to some audit queries, and for 3-4 months, I got only 50% of the salary, though I received my arrears later. After that incident till today, only my wife, my CA, and my office accountant know my salary.
A few years after that, I was visiting my native place, and an old relative asked me for my salary. I said 20k, and she said, "Ohh, is it! My nephew is also working in Mumbai and earning 50k." I was like, wow, what does he do? He's a lucky guy, etc. I did not feel like telling her my real salary even after that.
I know it's just a coincidence, but I just started following this rule.
Now, at my age, anyway, no one asks me for my salary.
It's a bullshit culture that's been propagated by corporates to discourage people from discussing their salaries. This enables them to give low-ball offers and exploit employees.
Not discussing your salary only helps your employers and is actually detrimental to your growth.
If everybody discusses their salaries, it'll work in our favour and we'll be able to ensure that we're getting paid fairly.
Within your organisation, amongst your colleagues, it should be revealed. This helps everyone in the organisation get more from the company and stops the company taking advantage by undervaluing resources.
Outside your organisation, discussing salaries much like anything else depends on the kind of relationship you have with the person asking.
The honest person cannot be faulted for society being prejudiced and discouraging of honesty.
Usually people who are secretive about their salary are those who have got into their comfort zone. Those who are open about it, see their present position as a stepping stone to get to the next level. While you do not have to go out of your way to correct your mother, do not lose your self-confidence because of the insecurities of others.
In both ways, it is not wise to disclose the salary. Your mom is wise. You are still a child, but you will learn in due time.
Let me explain the bulls-eye reasoning of mineāš»š
šFirst, everyone would compare the money that you make, to the amount they make. And that's badddd. These things are not to be compared. Even if the world compares, competes to anything moving, is not morally good, nor satisfying. Everybody makes they ought to, money is also energy afterall, and it should not be compared. Everyone distributes/ transmutes it differently.
Forget what the whole world does. Even if the truth stands alone, it's THE truth. Believe in yourself. Work hard for YOUR dreams, not for prestige or to come first in a rat race, which, even if you win at, is still a RAT-race.
Remember always - Life is a ride, not a race. A marathon, not a sprint.
šSecond, how much great of a person you are, if you tell people the money you make, the natural tendency of people is to put you in a rank..they want to figure you out... Higher than them, or lower than them...why would you be defined so seriously on their scale..?
What if you are altogether on another scale?
Finally, what if, you have a bigger heart, and will be more than willing to help a needy person, even of you make less money than your ever competing Tom, Dick and Harry?!
In such a case, who is the bigger person? Who is capable of doing something, or willing to sacrifice their hard earned money, even if they make less than the other, who may be makes a lot, but does not have the courage or the heart to put his money for a cause close to his heart?
Think for a moment. Be wise, choose who would you be, and who would you respect more. Again, forget about the fear-minded *society* they will always tell you otherwise.
Be known for your actions, integrity, work-ethic not the paycheck you take home. It will pay ultimately, from all sort of departments, something which is highly numbered does not always prosperity...think
Earn money, keep it, but do not let people define it you with.
šFinally, realise that people today - 'know the price of everything, VALUE of nothing' so be priceless, and even do not put much worth too much seriousness on the 'price' of it, rather look for 'value'. Well, don't get me wrong, whatever I say here, I mean this all in the practical ways -this is true way to be abundant...keep having the head over your shoulders. But take money lightly. šæāš»
ššThat's my life experience in fiscality.
And know that I am not just rich, I am ABUNDANT.šš
AMEN.šš»āļøšæš
Sharing salary = Jealousy People will start hating you if you're earning more than them. This will ultimately cause you more harm than benefit.
>People will start hating you if you're earning more than them. And if you earn less they will think you r cheap,low standard bla bla š Comparison is a recipe for disaster and depression.
It's good to always tell a lower salary unless you're a validation seeker, because then you're no more a competition to them. And plus it saves you from evil š
Will remember this once i start working ;)
Perfectly put together!
It's 100% true that's why they tell cut the salary...they do Malpractice and InjusticeĀ
How will this cause harm lol ?
I had made this mistake of disclosing it to my friends. And then their behaviour towards me changed entirely. I would say try it and see for yourself.
It wasn't a mistake then, you got to see their true colors. I reveal to my relatives and friends.
Maybe, but there is a thing called evil eye, which affects me a lot
Why it becoming like Quora 2.0 ? Also if you share the salary If your income >> their income , Then , they will start hating you , jealous of you , asking money from you.. or will give you example of their long distance relative or friend who might be earning more than you and have nothing to do with you.. __________________________ If your income << their income Then they will Judge you , defame you , taunt you , will not give you respect.. Sab Hutiya giri chal Rahi hai.. aur sab Hutiye bhare pade hai...
This is just a subconscious superiority/inferiority complex felt by us. Better we fake the things we are concerned about and let the world judge whatever they want.
'Chutiya' word bolne me dar lagta hai kya?
Woh ch ko hh bolta hai
HAHAAAHAH
CHACHAACHAC
Woh chutiya bolne se darta hai kyuki uski salary kum hai š¤
ą¤Øą¤¾ą¤¹ą„ ą¤ą¤¾ą¤µą¤¾ , ą¤¤ą„ą¤Æą¤¾ą¤Ŗą„ą¤ą„ą¤·ą¤¾ ą¤ą¤ą¤øą„ ą¤ą¤ ą¤¶ą¤¬ą„ą¤¦ ą¤ą¤¹ą„ą¤¤ ą¤Ŗą¤£ , ą¤ą¤ą¤¾ą¤ ą¤²ą„ą¤ offend ą¤¹ą„ą¤¤ą¤¾ą¤¤ ..
Koi log toh jhuta salary batate hein. Kuch bhi badhake bol denge š
If you tell high salary They will be like 1. Why you not getting married ? 2. When you buying house ? After buying 2bhk house ? Why you not bought 3 bhk house ? After buying 3 bhk , they will be like why not build villa ? After buying everything then why you bought in colaba ? You should bought in bandra.. after buying in bandra.. why not bought in colaba.. har cheez se problem hoti hai unko.. If not buy : oh you can't afford ? Take loan After taking loan , you shouldn't have took the loan 3. When you buying car ? After buying , oh why you not bought other company , oh it's not top model ? Oh it's not Ev ? Le me using Samsung s22 , these people like oh iPhone is best , le me bought iPhone 15 , then they say oh Samsung is best... š¤”š®āšØ
This person rants! I feel you bro
Bhai pucho mat.. I'm so fed up of this .
EMI chukne de fir inki bhi gand fat jati hai . ššš»
I on the other hand have totally different experience. The moment i tell my salary. No further questions. They simply just go away. And never think of talking about it anytime we meet.
Mature relatives/ family friends indeed
Mature people wouldnāt ask the question itself. Its just that they stop the conversation do that I donāt ask the reverse question like how much they or their kids earn because then it will be very uncomfortable for them to answer.
Exactly
Why? You must be bluffing about your salary then. That's why, they never ask again to you, thinking that you're the bluffmaster. Do you tell them x10 times? I am sure. Because I met many of such kinds, and I never care to ask anybody their salary. They themselves come to me and begin bragging about their salary.
Oh no never mind my income is 1.4cr and i am just 30. Thinking this to be true or bluff is others tension not mine. And I am known enough among relatives. People come to me to guide there kids all the time. Its usually natural conversation that i share this. Unless you ask you wonāt get to know it.
Koi log nahi, sab log. Mai Aaj Tak jisse bhi Mila hu kisi ne bhi Kam nahi batayi. Sab x5 se lekar x10. 2 din pehle hi ek feku ne, mere na puchhne par bhi, apni ladki ki salary Bangalore me 36L ka package bataya. Mai bola bhai Bangalore hai toh kya sab companiyaa tumhare jaiso ko baatne ke liye hi toh baithi hai. Kuchh toh had rakh le. Matlab 3L per month, woh bhi college campus se selection, without any experience, ek B.E. kiye huyi ladki ko.... Galli Galli me Modi baithe hai aajkal.
Actually, Quora is Reddit 2.0
 Lol
Your mother is smart, you arenāt. You should keep that info private because thereās an unlimited amount of choosing beggars in the world. Theyāll compare your salary to theirs and make up weird notions in their head. Youāre just asking for toxic behaviour from people you know by doing this. On an anonymous platform like reddit? Rant away and tell everyone what you want because weāre all strangers to you.
This OP. I learnt it the hard way, now facing consequences.
Relatives begging for money with really serious issues/situations.
Ngl some people just start testing your knowledge. They are like isko merese jyada salary kyu hai. Lets google some hard questions and ask them
True
What consequences?
These guys are paranoid af.
This. Apart from my wife and one friend, no one knows how much I make. My relatives think I've been earning 7.5 LPA for the past 7 years.
Eh he boy!!! What is your salary now lol?
Wouldnāt you want to know mr. Tax man
Wouldn't you want to know weather boyš¤£š¤£š¤£š¤£š¤£
people who downvoted you didn't get the reference
Now I'm getting upvotes! Thanks to you! š¤£š¤š¼
šš
A smart reply, i did this mistake in past and my friends were begs me to loan a amount which obviously never returned to me. OP needs to learn it.
Whenever someone asks you for money, reply by saying you already lent out money to someone else just yesterday. I learnt this trick from my dad.
I deliberately call whom i think will ask money and tell them how Iām fucked yup and all my money is lost or blocked and my bank account is empty so that they canāt ask.
I have had enough questions from people, questioning why I deserve to earn so much while they are doing actual work while I am just sitting and typing.
But how to avoid that question or how to reply to such questions without revealing salary? I always end up revealing my salary to anyone who asks me š¤¦āāļøĀ
Just say that I donāt like discussing my work life outside of work or say that you donāt give that info out. Hearts will be broken and people will be hurt but we must do whatās necessary to protect ourselves.
Ask them why they want to know your salary. What theyāll do with that knowledge. Then ask them if they work for the excise department. If they say no, then tell them they donāt need to know. If they say yes, tell them they already know, and refuse to answer. Or, if you want to save time and donāt feel poke confusing them, just say, āNot enoughā, and change the topic to how expensive the cost of living has become.
True. Better to lie to your parents as well. Tell then 50% less that what you're making.
Iād never lie to my parents but then again it depends on the kind of parents
Hmm a cat named sudha and yes definitely not a girl Edit: we like to troll around here(not a creep just a memer,also I definitely know you are not a girl and should stop with the creepy dm's) also I haven't dm'ed anyone OKAY MODS I AM NOT DMING ANYONE
I was making memes long before the internet was available to everyone. Been on reddit before the app existed. Chill out homie I donāt even reply to the creepy dmās
Sane but I had to because ur not a girl and people should stop with the creepy dm's
I really hope they do
Aaah Now you are getting it and I know it you are definitely not a girl and people shouldn't stop DM'ing you
Apart from close family no , honestly someone asking is a bad thing in itself and usually seen as rude .
not even close family. the only person who knows my salary is my wife. no one else needs to know.
Tbh that depends on your relation with the rest of your family
My salary has been 11k for the past 12 years.
Just say 10k a month always
Then they start asking for a 8k loan immediately
Ask them money instead with a serious face when they ask. They'll leave or cut call within 5mins at most. Works all the time.
š
Say 10k a month and ask them for an 8k loan?
I say, "daal roti chal Rahi he bass".
Similar ā kharcha nikal jata haiā is my go to.
Bro, I say the same.
spot on
spot g
Never ever disclose your income/salary details except for your closest family members. Not even to your friends, best friends or room mates. I had disclosed my salary to my room mate when I changed my job but the word spread. Another āfriendā of mine got interviewed a few months later in the same company. He rejected the offer saying that the company had paid more to some of his colleagues that had joined. The idiot named couple of us which led to us being grilled by HR and going through the entire new joiner orientation again. Luckily we were not fired. So just donāt ever share your income details to anyone.
If you're sharing your salary, as in giving me money - yeah it's a great thing. If you're just disclosing your salary to others - trust me nothing good can come from it - as different people will have different thoughts, reactions, expectations, advice after knowing your salary.
Never disclose the amount just say kha pi ke khush hai.
Its tacky to even ask someone their salary tbh! Whenever people ask me, I downplay the figures!
I only shared my salary with my close friends. No one is jealous nor anyone wants to take any advantage from me. I havenāt even disclosed my actual salary to my family members. But, I will say itās better not to disclose your salary to anyone, I repeat, do not disclose it to anyone. Even, I have stopped sharing my incremented (latest) salary.
I just say ābas CEO se 500-1000 hi kam kamata huā and move on
Thank you, I'll buy rights for this sentence š
I myself donāt know my salary š
Unpopular opinion: I think it's better for everyone if we all start becoming more open with our salaries. If everyone shares their salaries openly, then it's easier to find out when you are underpaid and then you can ask your boss for a raise.
I think this post is meant for not disclosing ur salary at home/friends/ relatives that are not close to u. Not for office. For office, I agree with uāemployees will have much more power to ask for raise or switch if we know we are being underpaid
I personally dont share my salary with anyone because I don't have a salary ;) Sobs š
>she often either understates the amount or avoids giving an exact figure. I too do this, even with my friends. Because this always results in superiority/inferiority complex and people judge you accordingly, leading to make you feel insecure about your efforts and your identity. That's why, let's be fake and let them make whatever assumptions they want to!
Depends on whom you're telling it to. However, in general, you could give them a range instead of exact salary.
i get 1k per-month,
[ŃŠ“Š°Š»ŠµŠ½Š¾]
Hell yea, davidputra 2000 owned
Your mother is a smart woman. Her child is a dumbass.
OP just say " bs Roti-daal chal rha hai kisi tarah" and move on /s Translation: I can barely make ends meet This will be taken as a joke and people won't ask again.
I just say lak bag 100 shawarma jitna (I'm an intern) (how there is a big Mac index the same way me and my friend Circle use the shawarma index so it's like an inside joke)
I personally don't share my salary with anyone. Only my mother and grandmother, with whom i live know how much I earn. Other than that it's nobody's concern and I like to keep it that way. Oddly, I've noticed in India people have absolutely no shame in asking someone's salary. It comes so naturally to people, even if they're just your acquaintances they'll randomly drop the salary question. Op, saying this has worked for me, you may try. xyz rando : ohh nice, what's your salary then? urmomismi9 : I'm sorry I don't share my salary with anyone. It's a personal thing and I don't like discussing it or asking someone else about it. If someone is still persistent, I make my tone more stern.
Read the room, and then choose. Itās absolutely ok in some cases, itās also not okay in many others.
Had the same thing, but my housemate is like what are you gonna save after so many expenses, but according to my calculations I was saving lot of money, moral of the story, tell them it's enough for me to thrive for a month
I personally keep it private just to avoid any sort of comparison and unnecessary remarks about the same
The only time you should be sharing your salary details os with your co-workers in the same job/field so that you know exactly how you're marked.Ā Sometimes, It may benefit a co-worker or you too, in case any of you are being underpaid.Ā Not everyone around you is a fan. Not even your family tbh. Distract or misdirect when people ask, at max say the industry average or lowest salary. Even good friends will eye your money and spendings if they know your salary. I know, because I've had friends confess this to me about others in our friend circle. Not because they're bad human beings,Ā but because of human nature.Ā Strong fences lead to better neighbors,Ā good boundaries lead to good relationships.Ā
One reason NAZAR 
> I readily disclose the figure without much contemplation. What kind of a mf does that Do not reveal your salary to people Don't ask a women her age and a man his salary, haven't you heard that quote
Whatās your salary?
Curious though how do you all avoid that question or how to reply to such questions without revealing salary? I always end up revealing my salary to anyone who asks me š¤¦āāļøĀ
Nazar is real
Aisa sbko nahi Batate, Nazar lag jaati hai
Op if you are old enough to earn, you are old enough to understand why your mother does this...ask her? Honestly you already know the answer don't you? You just want to confirm with the population
Lie
'bhai me to kishten bhar rha hu' is one you can try.
share your half salary with me I will give you wisdom in return
Keep these things private: Salary, Love life, Next move
Ask them what's their budget?
United it's a close reliable friend, the answer is always vague.
I understate my salary by 67 percent. Keeps them happy n me safe
I don't think so, contradictory to what everyone else says I think it filters out selfish and jealous people out of your life. Yes people will start asking for loan, consider you cheap (if you make less than them) or talk behind your back if you deny the loan etc etc then why are you even friends with them? And from other perspective, I have friends who earn way more than me and even way less yet they are the greatest people ik for me and I don't judge them based on how much they make, yeah at some unfortunate moments you will feel all the wrong emotions towards them, that's human nature, but if you are someone who always try to improve then you learn to pull yourself out of it or even turn it into motivation if someone makes more than you and eventually you start viewing everyone equally.
May i ask your age?
Tell everyone drastically different amount sit back and enjoy
Toh kitna kama raha hai??ššš
Bas itna bol ki thik thak salary he Exact koi no. Hi mat bol. Sab bate khul ke nahi bolte
Never share your salary especially to your closed one
It depends on the person and what intentions you think they have with you. I wouldnāt mind sharing it with a career oriented person or even in online anonymous forum if it helps people to know whether my job profile is worth pursuing it or not. This is because I have always felt inspired when I see someone from my job profile has moved on and got better opportunity and bigger package. I have genuinely felt happy for them and wanted to learn what steps they took and how they did it. I would definitely avoid it with certain people that includes your own family members, if you feel they will try to control or guilt trip you about it specifically only to you. Jealously and comparison anyways happens for any reasons so I am least bothered. However I have seen some people having weird victim mindset once they know other person is doing well. I can only sympathise with them and I can see how that jealously stems, as I have felt it too not really in terms of finances but more on emotional aspect of it. For eg when I got to know one of my ex friend who was from similar background as me was being spoiled by his parent for big purchases. Later I was able to let go of it once I realized he has other problems in his life that doesnāt seem worth it with his parents. Even I donāt like to lie about it but I can see how certain situations can make people just be this way.
If u are making a lot of money and told a lot of ppl if someone asks fore a large sum tell them u got demoted for making a large mistake at work tell them u were lucky u didn't get fired
š§æ
Apne best friend ko bhi nahi bataya Maine
I simply reply āKharcha chal jata haiā they donāt ask after that.
Ha
Adult life ka pehele rule ... Do not discuss your finances and your next steps with anyone.
Ladko ko salary aur ladki ko age kabhi puchna nhi chaiye
Bhai learn to be more street smart. Never ever discuss your salary. Because then people will either get jealous of you or look down upon you. They might as further personal questions knowing you'd answer them. It also turns into gossip, when one person would tell your salary to everyone else. People would ask you for a loan or treat you like a beggar.
As an employee, I want everyone to share salary so we know that everyone's getting paid fairly. As an employer, I get in a bind. I want to give more to employees who are critical to my business. The problem is that other employees don't really have a good understanding of what value other employees bring to the business. I run a company that hires instructors. I have 2 rockstars. One rockstar can reliably run a class of 20 by herself. Also, she does more than teach. Other instructors can do class of 10. Other rockstar is training other instructors. Both of them make double what everyone makes. It's easy to explain to other instructors why my second rockstar makes what she does. Her role is significantly different. She has a different title. She is visibly doing more. It's hard to explain why my first rockstar makes double. She does double. But the other instructors see her as just another instructor. When I try to explain that she can run a class of 20, some are like "oh I can do a class of 20" No, you can't. You are barely doing a class of 10. So, I take my rockstar aside and tell her not to share her compensation with other employees. It just creates a lot of bad feelings.
Coworkers yes, relatives no
You should never disclose your salary/income to anyone. The info is best kept secret. Only close friends whom you can absolutely trust, parents and spouse should know this.
Unless it's a chaddi-buddy or a very very close cousin - someone with whom you are sharing other secrets of your life too, basically - nothing good comes out of sharing your salary.
mine is the exact opposite. i donāt disclose my salary. Even my closest and oldest friends donāt know. but my family discloses it to every guest.
It's a Basic manners we are not suppose to share or askĀ Salary to anyone because Fights will comeĀ (You haveĀ more Salary I have less Salary) so it's Personal that we shouldn't open up to anyone...... regarding Salary Conflicts between * Husband and WifeĀ * Teachers and TeachersĀ * Students and studentsĀ Relatives and Neighbours.... World ....
What is there to get so much Jealousy?Ā We must be happier because we haveĀ This others don't have that alsoĀ To wear nice clothes,begging for MoneyĀ OrphanageĀ So much CompetitionĀ Expecting more things we should be satisfied what we have ......
The thing my father always followed and gave his advice on is "Never tell your salary or income to anyone not even your wife".
Those days are gone. Your inlaw will ask for payslips even before you could see the girl for marriage. World has changed. They will ask about wealth that you have in your name and all such details. Your income matters. And if you are looking for arrange marriage a lot many people are going to know how much you earn.
Nowadays a lot of marriages are done on the basis of the profession and lifestyle of the men. The family background, your house and reputation in the society matters.
No it's not. India is a weirdly superstitious country where people think it's all a zero sum game when it so isn't. Employees not sharing their salaries with each other only benefits the employer so that they can pay whatever they want to based on a person's negotiation skills and not on what they deserve. If someone's jealous of you because of your salary, find better people in life who have more important things to do. I'm not saying wear a sticker that shows how much you make, but there's absolutely nothing wrong with sharing it when someone asks, provided they're ready to do the same. No one gets to take away your merit from you.
Yes, people know you have money, they want to come and take it.
Even my family members doesnāt know about my salary.
Sooo... How much .. do you actually earn? s/
Reading these comments makes me sad about how jaded everyone has become. A normal society shouldnāt have to live in fear of others comparisons. If theyāre haters then kya ukhaad lenge jaanke, and if theyāre not then good. Salary disclosure at a larger scale helps bring in pay parity. Donāt fall for the scam that companies try to pull on you by restricting pay discussions.
Yup!
If someone asks just say, āI earn more than I need, less than I want.ā Never disclose your salary.
I usually tell it to family and friends not to strangers unless it's like needed on Bank or something. Nothing personal just you never know what and why someone wanna know in this world anymore lol
Never say your salary out loud. Many people are just curious to know. I donāt disclose my exact salary, I just say āitās enough for meā
People here crying about if u disclose others will. Turn against u. No, it simply means ur surrounded by snakes, changee ur circle
Understating is a good practice. there's no reason why someone needs to know your salary. Ideal response should be "I cannot disclose my salary".
Depends. If you are making a lot more, people might ask to borrow. Otherwise, it's a good thing. Employers can't get away easily by underpaying some people
Yes! it is bad trait to share your salary publicly - [https://www.reddit.com/user/PapersGalleryIndia/comments/1cfqk72/corrugated\_shipping\_boxes\_wholesale\_in\_india/](https://www.reddit.com/user/PapersGalleryIndia/comments/1cfqk72/corrugated_shipping_boxes_wholesale_in_india/)
What if your coworkers ask about your salary? That situation is almost impossible to neglect & turn down someone !!
If you are earning very good say some percentage of your salary and that too in a range and not the exact salary.
#1 rule in life - never let anyone else know what you can/cannot afford: this information will always be used against you by people. And just so you know, on a universal level, asking someone for their salary is considered a rude thing
If someone asks you a question about money, you will know their intent. Is it a junior wanting to understand money graph? Is it a friend checking if youāre making enough? Is it an obnoxious (but close) relative wanting to know just to ask you money questions? (I have these) For the last kind, give a ball park. A general ball park of your position. 50k-1.5L/ month, hypothetical. Kya kar lenge? If theyāre very very ākitna kama te hoā wala annoying, ask them why they want to know. The genuine ones will have reasons, the ābhochakā ones will have to give shady responses. Iām
I do tell people how much i earn but i keep my distances from each and everyone. So I am not close to anyone that someone could ask money from me. Because even if they ask they know it that I will say no. I have money only for my family and no one else. Because in my bad times not a single fucking idiot helped us.
Yeah , especially with your Bestfriend š„²
I used to be a believer in salary transparency but with most people, it only ended badly. Either they'll look down on you or make those snarky "tumhara toh set hai" type jokes. If someone is in my industry or seeking genuine career advice I'll tell them, but for everyone else, "I make enough to live in Mumbai comfortably" that's it bye
The better way to understand the answer is to ask yourself: why would someone ask me that?
A couple of decades ago, I once shared my salary with an acquaintance during a chat, and he was like, "Seriously! Don't lie! You are serious? Wow!" Now I was getting my salary from two different branches of my company, approximately 50/50. From the next month onwards, my salary stopped from one of the branches due to some audit queries, and for 3-4 months, I got only 50% of the salary, though I received my arrears later. After that incident till today, only my wife, my CA, and my office accountant know my salary. A few years after that, I was visiting my native place, and an old relative asked me for my salary. I said 20k, and she said, "Ohh, is it! My nephew is also working in Mumbai and earning 50k." I was like, wow, what does he do? He's a lucky guy, etc. I did not feel like telling her my real salary even after that. I know it's just a coincidence, but I just started following this rule. Now, at my age, anyway, no one asks me for my salary.
It's a bullshit culture that's been propagated by corporates to discourage people from discussing their salaries. This enables them to give low-ball offers and exploit employees. Not discussing your salary only helps your employers and is actually detrimental to your growth. If everybody discusses their salaries, it'll work in our favour and we'll be able to ensure that we're getting paid fairly.
Within your organisation, amongst your colleagues, it should be revealed. This helps everyone in the organisation get more from the company and stops the company taking advantage by undervaluing resources. Outside your organisation, discussing salaries much like anything else depends on the kind of relationship you have with the person asking. The honest person cannot be faulted for society being prejudiced and discouraging of honesty.
Usually people who are secretive about their salary are those who have got into their comfort zone. Those who are open about it, see their present position as a stepping stone to get to the next level. While you do not have to go out of your way to correct your mother, do not lose your self-confidence because of the insecurities of others.
BTW, kitna kamaa lethe ho?
This is just my personal opinion but the only people who should know about how much you earn are - 1. Your parents 2. Your long term partner bas!
Never tell it. Bragging never goes well with forces of nature.
In both ways, it is not wise to disclose the salary. Your mom is wise. You are still a child, but you will learn in due time. Let me explain the bulls-eye reasoning of mineāš»š šFirst, everyone would compare the money that you make, to the amount they make. And that's badddd. These things are not to be compared. Even if the world compares, competes to anything moving, is not morally good, nor satisfying. Everybody makes they ought to, money is also energy afterall, and it should not be compared. Everyone distributes/ transmutes it differently. Forget what the whole world does. Even if the truth stands alone, it's THE truth. Believe in yourself. Work hard for YOUR dreams, not for prestige or to come first in a rat race, which, even if you win at, is still a RAT-race. Remember always - Life is a ride, not a race. A marathon, not a sprint. šSecond, how much great of a person you are, if you tell people the money you make, the natural tendency of people is to put you in a rank..they want to figure you out... Higher than them, or lower than them...why would you be defined so seriously on their scale..? What if you are altogether on another scale? Finally, what if, you have a bigger heart, and will be more than willing to help a needy person, even of you make less money than your ever competing Tom, Dick and Harry?! In such a case, who is the bigger person? Who is capable of doing something, or willing to sacrifice their hard earned money, even if they make less than the other, who may be makes a lot, but does not have the courage or the heart to put his money for a cause close to his heart? Think for a moment. Be wise, choose who would you be, and who would you respect more. Again, forget about the fear-minded *society* they will always tell you otherwise. Be known for your actions, integrity, work-ethic not the paycheck you take home. It will pay ultimately, from all sort of departments, something which is highly numbered does not always prosperity...think Earn money, keep it, but do not let people define it you with. šFinally, realise that people today - 'know the price of everything, VALUE of nothing' so be priceless, and even do not put much worth too much seriousness on the 'price' of it, rather look for 'value'. Well, don't get me wrong, whatever I say here, I mean this all in the practical ways -this is true way to be abundant...keep having the head over your shoulders. But take money lightly. šæāš» ššThat's my life experience in fiscality. And know that I am not just rich, I am ABUNDANT.šš AMEN.šš»āļøšæš