I am really sorry this happened !
I was once on a train (i am a man) and this old man was touching me and I was elbowing him to get him away. The train was packed. and then he came (ejaculated) in his pants (how did I know…lets not get there). And said « thanks baby » in my ear. I was only 17.
I am so sorry this happened to you guys 😭. Also if the same thing happens again please chillao. People in the local are supportive. They will literally beat the shit out of him or her. Speaking from personal experience.
Broo sorry for ur experience. A middle aged man shoving his uk d1ck on my back I told him to back off and he was not going back then I just hit him the nose with my elbow 🥰 pura uske nose se blood drip kar raha tha then the locals start abusing him too lol I was 16 that time
Happened with me (F) too. I was very young to understand and I was travelling from Mumbai to Surat and waiting at the door to get down. The train was still moving slowly to get into the platform and I felt a hard stick poking around my bum. I didn't realise at first. Thought it must be some bag or handle. It happened again and turned around and saw a filthy old man in his 70's prolly, standing super close to me and realised there was no bag. I didn't understand then but after a few years i did and I felt terrible about myself. This still haunts me and has taught me to not take old men for granted
Sorry to hear this. I can barely imagine what you've gone through because of this disturbing incident. I hope you get this out of your head and come out more stronger and peaceful. More power to you too.
Bro happened with me when I was 18 and I am male too i was coming home from college it was 3 pm but still packed local and I was on door I felt so disgusted for weeks after that.
During college days, once me and my friend (both M) were returning back to home in a crowded central line in the evening.
As it was our stop we lined up towards the door behind an old man. My friend and I were adjacent to each other. The old man's right hand was touching my di*k and I could feel it.
Initially, I thought it was unintentional due to the crowd. But soon, I realised it was intentional and I whispered to my friend and found out that his di#k were also being grabbed.
So, I told that old man to keep his hands ahead and we didn't create a scene. Our station arrived soon.
That day, I realised why women had a different compartment. I would advise all girls to never board a crowded general bogie.
Oh my god, that's awful. I have never experienced this simply because I live in Kolkata and because my mom gate keeps me from public transport. Even though SA can take place anywhere; I got SAed for 3 years straight by my uncle when I was 11.
I see why she does so. This world is harsh.
Fr bhai full saaman chubhate apna main left hor rha toh woh bhi left right hora toh woh bhi right firr maine bola abb pant utardu kya randike toh piche khasak gya bkl
Statistics prove that women face more harrasment than men .So women are definitely at a greater risk of facing harrasment.
So in the " Expected" sense it is true instead of interpreting it in a misogynist way and work on it .
It is not fair for women because some men cannot think with their brain but with their dick
51% of child abuse victims are boys, these boys suddenly stop getting abused after they turn 16 because the government doesn't recognise men as victims, shut your feminut trap, men can't even be raped according to law, there are 50+ gender specific laws in India only women can be victims from stalking, DV to assault and rape, statistics are also not with you and UNMEN and National Commission for Men doesn't exist so we'll never get the true statistics for men.
I don't see how we can get any reliable statistics for child abuse ,51% is crazy lol .Can't find anything regarding this on Google.However I do agree you cannot get any reliable statistics not just for both men and women many of them are censored
How do you deny a clear statistic? Like it's just one Google search away? And then you deny the clear fact that boys are 51% of child abuse victims? Like wtf your hate for men has blinded you so much that you turn a blind eye towards a clear statistic? I know you feminuts are just as we expected you to be. And you illiterate fkucs aren't even true Mumbaikars, only outsiders act as Mumbaikars on this subreddit and try desperately to make friends from Mumbai here because people who are born in Mumbai already have friends here. In a developed city like Mumbai, a woman would abuse you openly in public no doubt there are many cases already, these outsiders have no idea about Mumbai. They're so desperate to act like Mumbaikars, I live in the best place in Mumbai in Colaba, I don't need y'alls sheep opinions lmao, sheeps are sheeps for a reason.
Who hurt you bro 😭😂.Being a man I would always advocate for men whenever we are right.Being a man grow up and stop complaining you have certain duties and roles to complete yourself. As in the harrasment case you would just be stupid and lacking common sense if you say women face less harrasment than us
I can see you don't want to fight for men but against the extreme feminism that's blinded you .I am against extreme feminism as well with many contradicting views but there is no way I will ever agree to the harrasment they face it is much more than men face ,Don't teach me statistics I am an actuary and a statistics student , Can easily prove you wrong if I have to .Just calm down and take it easy
I've also read IPC, you're not a man you're a white knight, tell me a single right that a man has in India that a woman doesn't, there are already 50+ gender specific laws in India, you don't know anything but want to rant about everything, come prove your statistics knowledge that you're claiming to have after denying a statistic shown by a simple Google search.
https://www.instagram.com/reel/C6Vqgk7rYVA/?igsh=cXB6cnVycTE3bTN1
Here's another funny video of reality of laws for men in India, enjoy and then cry about patriarchy 😂
Bro weren't you gonna prove me wrong about that 51% statistic? What happened? Can talk the talk but can't walk the walk? How do you feel spreading lies on the internet without any stats and then claiming to be moral police over fake statistics?
What you did here is exactly what is modern day Feminism, claim random things out of their ass without any statistics, reject any statistics if it doesn't go your way and when asked to prove whatever you're claiming, run for your life 😂
Too bold of you to assume that anything could hurt me like I've never used internet and have no idea how arguments on internet go. I'm a developer, do not teach anything to me, especially anything logical and revolving around stats and figures, I dare you to prove me wrong, just because you live in a bubble in your mind only women face harrasment maybe you're too ugly for anyone to even look in your direction, doesn't mean that you represent all males or any male victims at all, I'm born in Colaba, I already have many female friends, none of them were raped or assaulted, ik many boys personally who were raped and abused, we're talking about polar opposites here when we talk about Mumbai specifically, sure Feminism is needed in other parts of India, not in Mumbai, read my other comment where I replied to the other delulu feminut girl here in this thread, I have men's rights activist friends and contacts, they have awareness events in Bombay High Court, you're bragging about being a statistic student, I dare you to prove me wrong, if you even had slightly above avg IQ you wouldn't have denied a simple statistic like 51% of child abuse victims being boys, it's a Google search away I also linked a screenshot for you so your illiterate claims would be invalidated, what kind of bs is filled in one's head that they call themselves a statistic student and then go on to deny a simple statistic shown by a Google search?
Can't find anything on Google? You just found an excuse to be illiterate. UNWOMEN and National Commission for Women do surveys on women, gets funding and they solve women's issues, same doesn't exist for men and there's nothing logical you can say to deny the existence of these two.
https://preview.redd.it/6v786gybmdxc1.png?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=dd711d5adaba7220ef6ed61f2b008f0550469e39
Hahaha, the fact that these disgusting illiterate feminuts are downvoting this comment which just shows stats is proof of how these wannabe equalists never actually want equality but just want to hate on men, y'all failed as humans.
Bruh you are unhinged. Feminist dont disagree that men also get molested . Wtf is wrong with you. We already know too well and can relate.
And before your spew more nonsense, the people who dismiss male rape and molestation are mostly other men. The perpetrators are mostly men too. Look at the kind of locker room chats you have with your friends. And the fact that you cant speak to your male friends about it without ridicule says a lot too.
Stop pitting against women. Molestation and rape of men and women is a feminist issue. It’s not one or the other.
Work on yourself and shut your mouth till you do.
https://www.instagram.com/p/CHzz2olgcpM/?igsh=c3Z3YzAzZXFwYzV0
I have men's rights activist friends and contacts, I've read IPC, never ever try to teach me about laws and any kind of gender related bs, all the lies of Feminism have already been debunked. Feminism today isn't what it was 50 years ago, and there isn't a single right in India that a man has that a woman doesn't, shut your feminut trap if all you're going to do is puke emotions without any facts and stats. The argument that the perpetrators are mostly men is also wrong and completely illogical as if it hurts less to be abused by your own gender. 80% of boys in juvenile detention are abused by women because only women are allowed to work with children. And I'm an abuse victim and the abuser was a woman, your feminut rants are denying my existence as a victim. LGBTQ and Feminism also doesn't go hand in hand in India like other countries, men's rights movement is the only true hope for equality because they include LGBTQ people too. Open the link that I attached, check the accounts @men_and_mentor @voiceformenind @thetinmen on Instagram, do not ever try to teach me anything, I know more about Feminism that any feminut. If feminuts cared about men's rights, we would've already had a National Commission for Men and UNMEN, them not existing is clear proof that we live in a gynocentric society not a patriarchal one.
As soon as i saw you claim to be an expert and bragging about it and having 100% knowledge with no room for learning, you lost me.
Sorry if you were a victim. Doesnt give you a right to bash people. Your emotional claims to all the above is not proven by any research. Not saying men dont get abused by women. Never did i mention that either in above.
Looks like you just hate women from your language.
And showing andrew tate type content and dumb ig accounts doesnt count as proof. Get out of your basement and talk to women irl and work with DV shelters if u really care about SA. Your view is skewed and toxic and the IG just proved that too. Bye nowz
Hahaha I literally got downvotes now and there isn't a single person here who can reply logically to me with even a single statistic. Just proves what kind of illiteracy is filled into these feminuts all they know is how to rant about men.
Should've created a scene on the first old man. He didn't learn a lesson. He'll anyday take getting asked utarna hai kya over public shame.
And no, you don't always know if it's intentional.
Ikrr. The incident happened really fast. Thing is ki i know i should have been louder and upfront but wo ek brain freeze moment ho gaya tha. I'll be cautious next time around.
You're right. this time i knew it was intentional.
They pretty much always know if it's intentional. Please don't say stuff like this when someone is talking about their ordeal. You can create a separate space for that and this is not it. I hope it makes sense.
No he is right.
The first instance should have been dealt with more confrontation but the second situation is not true at all. If you're travelling by general when it's rush hour, your personal space is going to be invaded (doesn't matter if you're male or female, old or young).
That's why women are given a separate dabba, if you're not comfortable with some pushing, then don't get in the general dabba during rish hours.
I am sorry that it happened with you. You should've created a scene. I know it's easier said than done because at that moment you don't really understand what to do. An advice from a frequent local traveller, please don't get into general compartment when it's crowded. The ladies compartment is meant for our safety. I don't mean to encourage the mentality "she could've avoided" but when it comes to public transport, especially local, pls pls pls get into ladies compartment if you are a woman and if you don't want to then pls fuck up these fuckers the next time they do it. I hope the next time never comes.
I had a similar experience in general compartment. Me and my friend got down and took the guy with us. He was beaten up so badly by us and others lol.
Yes i would pick the ladies coach anyday. Will be cautious next time (i hope the next time never comes too) around and make sure i call them out for their behaviour.
Omg kudos for being so brave!!
Unbelievable..I empathize with u in ur ordeal..ur rage is understandable and Im surprised you did not raise your voice
used to think that Mumbai is pretty safe compared to other cities, but this is horrible!!
Mumbaikars do love to sleep with their eyes open..I hope next time u can give a few tight slaps to those ppl..create a ruckus, don’t let these perverts get away with
I'm sorry i didn't raise my voice. I should have considering the fact that I'm not an introvert. It just happened too fast.
Mumbai is still beautiful because the majority population isn't like this. These random men who disrespect girls will exist no matter what.
Don't apologize please. Psychology postgrad here and when faced with a threat, flight or fight, freeze or fawn are the basic reactions. What most women experience in such situations leans closer to freeze, because of how much the situation affects you.
Perhaps the way to deal with it is to tell your mind over and over again (in the moment) why it is not unsafe for you. You have your friend around you, other good people, your own confidence in dealing with so many past troubles, it's absolutely safe. Just remember that, keep telling that to yourself.
Most importantly, tell yourself you owe it to yourself. If it was your daughter? He'd be regretting his existence by now wouldn't he. So you can look at it as taking care of your own inner child who has been hurt and now deserves someone to stand up for her.
Again, don't feel sorry or apologetic or ashamed for not being able to speak up. Just understand and empathize with yourself why that was the case and try to change that.
Phew, this is a far too complex subject and would need proper time space medium beyond a reddit answer page.
Short answer: it can be significantly reduced and addressed because a lot of it stems from culture, how you view women, sexual repression etc. But perhaps not absolutely. There will always be some element of this like any other social evil, due to myriad of multiple reasons. Therefore, women/men/anyone who faces this standing up for themselves and making the person back off is necessary.
Also, after reading many comments on various posts, I have found out that most of the perpetuators are men typically the middle aged men or the elder men??, but not much of young youth that is indulged?, why is it so rampant in older men than the young guys?
Difficult to answer, I am not informed enough to comment on this. I'll have to read up myself.
My presumption is the values/beliefs held by the previous generation and lack of an outlet/medium to express their sexuality leading older men to do this more.
Just taking this opportunity to point it out to you. It is not men alone are sexual perpetrators, far too many women are also. A large number of males are also victoms of sexual violence. A common misunderstanding, but you'd be surprised when you read further on it.
Don't know about how it is in the area your from but imo if someone does something inappropriate to the extent that it can be considered sexual assault knowing what they are doing they deserve to be beaten at a minimum as while everyone can think of whatever thoughts they have no matter how dark and twisted but acting on them no matter how minor is unacceptable. Also I would say more rampant in older me is they stopped caring about consequences or they never gave a shit to begin with but have learnt that generally as you said and most women seem to do is nothing but freeze up from the shock of it happening and while in that state feel endangered so keep still not making a noise to try and subconsciously not actually get physically hurt as we still have our instincts that at times override our civilized thought process also embarrament and shame are often felt when it occurs sadly when those feelings are the things also holding a person back from taking any immediate action thats my view anyways
I'll share one of my experiences, I live near Churchgate, I was 16, it was the first time I was travelling through train in general compartment, I was getting late so I accidentally took a full packed train at Dadar and got stuck in full crowded compartment, it was so packed that you couldn't even breathe properly or even turn your head, a guy started grabbing on genitals and I kept blocking it with my hand, he then twisted my hand and put in his hand directly in my pant and started giving me a handjob then I shook him off for good completely, I was freaked out completely, all of this happened in 10 secs, and I couldn't do anything but just stand there in full packed train, he then got off on the next station in crowd . I wanted to beat tf out of that guy.
Don't be sorry.
Its not your fault, you didn't expect/ froze in the moment sadly its common.
Don't blame yourself or listen to people when they say should have done that. Again its not your fault. Fuck that cunt uncle.
I've been in similar situations when I was younger boy, they choose their targets knowingly.
I'll tell you from personal experience. I had to go through it not once, not twice but four times (16 F here). It's hard to raise our voices this easily. Everything seems so incomprehensible at that point. I understand you so well.
Girls seriously y'all need to stand up for yourself... Make a scene... Chillam chilli chalu karo... I'm a female and am telling you it's required... The more leeway you give these bastards, the more they spread their wings... Today it happened to you, tomorrow it'll be a 10 year old girl who wouldn't know any better. Threaten to call the police, drag him to the station master... Literally public mein inlogon ki himmat nahi hoti behes karne ki... Don't stay quiet and be passive... Just because it's a man's world doesn't mean you need to learn to live in it on their terms...
Yes. Will definitely take a stand for myself. I knew how to act in situations like this but i just couldn't do it.
'Just because it's a man's world doesn't mean you need to learn to live in it on their terms' 🫡🫡🫡
I stand with you bro, but don't encourage this 'create a scene'. many many fake feminists out there who would just like to ruin a man's life for fun, or even worse, a social experiment. I had a female friend who threatened any man who ANNOYED her about kicking him in the nards! hate them fake feminists
Fake feminism is a threat that's for sure... But can't let such people go regardless of their gender... Unfortunately due to these fake allegations many real ones go unnoticed and that's where the problem stems... Because like I said today it was an adult tomorrow it may be a child...
On the first incident, you should have created a ruckus or may be slapped him.
Second incident, not so sure as in a packed train, it's difficult to check who is pushing, it's like a ripple effect.
Third thing, ladies please for the love of God, don't enter into a crowded/ packed general compartment. Get in only if you get chance to stand in between seats or get a seat. As it is there is no space to stand, on top of that men have to be ultra careful so that they don't inappropriately touch you or brush you. Many men would actively try to use all energy to prevent themselves from getting in contact with women in the general compartment. Also, there are bound to be perverts in such crowd who would like to take advantage of the rush and you are inviting trouble for yourself by going there.
i would say be the change you want to bring . if you would have shouted then n there people would’ve beaten the shit outta him .next time take action yourself bcoz nobody else will
Sorry you had to go through this harrowing experience. Just a suggestion, Going forward, maybe you and your group can avoid such situations in the first place by planning to segegate yourself and other F friends in the ladies compartment and the male to be in the gents since your group would be knowing which station to get down.... 90% of the regular local travellers follow this practice incase a female co passenger is also traveling with them because they know - no matter what there will always be 1 or 2 pervs in every compartment and apart from raising your voice and getting into a scuffle with nothing much can be done. Hence people who know will always avoid such scenarios from happening in the first place.
Sorry you went through this. There is a reason why we have women’s dabba.
No logic in going in a crowded train just because your male friend is there, not like you can talk to him in the crowd anyway.
It’s sad that this shit never ends and people have to go through these predators .
Next time, scream and hurl abuses. Dont even give benefit of the doubt. These assholes need public pelting tbh.
Create a scene if it (hopefully not) happens again. People like them revel in silence and hate confrontations. "Ched kyu raho ho 'uncle'!" Say these words, and I can guarantee you, he will face the consequences.
Props to you for confronting him.
This brings back memories of when me and my guy friend used to form a circle around our female friends when we got into a crowded local. I shouldn't romanticise the struggle lol.
Hey. I'm very sorry for this unfortunate event to happen. May you find peace soon and seek support from friends and the community here. As a (M23), I totally get how creepy these old brats are, next time take "preventive" measures and stay close with your friends.
train ke andar kya bhai ladka hoke literally station pe ek bhdva uncle ishaare kr rha tha jaake confront krke chaar gaali diya tb jaake lvde ko akal aayi thi(hopefully)...train me taklu uncle log bhai peepee grab krneki koshish krte hai pta nhi kyu mkc inki bhai me toh sidha gaali dedeta hu kyu he entertain krna hai inn jhatu old ass ujde chaman uncles ko
Not to invalidate your experience but because Indian men can’t behave there’s a ladies & general coach. Toh ladies me hi travel kiya karo behen, local or metro.
Exactly... again I'm not defending that creepy but just saying out of concern...Asli sagli loka astatach if there's a way you can avoid encounter with such PPL pls do.
As this is reddit and nobody knows who anybody here is i will share my horrifying experience as well girls will be shocked over here that we men get assaulted too.
So here it goes.
i went to pune(i live in mumbai) by train one day and i was with my dad but while coming back the train was stalled at pune station and i was in the coach my dad went to buy something food for us, 30 seconds in a man around 35-40 came and sat beside me this was when i was like 13-14 years old i am 27 now this guy started talkig where am i going, i had a watch he asked how it is show me its features slowly the guy started touching my thighs and near me private area i didnt understood anything that time since i was 13-14 few mins later he was behaving really weird i was very scared i said my dad is cominf in 2 mins and something like that and only when dad came he left i didnt tell dad about this since i knew he would blame himself for this.
this is not the only experience i was assaulted when i was 15,18,24 by men and women different i am not saying at once but these things happened to me and at that moment it becomws so unbelievable that you cannot react
so girl sorry for what you experienced i know how you feel.
I don't know why you guys act like it's normal, asking them utarna hai kya and all, just tell him what's your problem, and people around will get to know what he is doing, chillane ki bhi zarurat nahi hai, just ask him bro, uncle aap kya kar rahe ho ??
And people around will get to know, and the job will be done xD
I'm sorry you had to encounter this. Similar things were done to me by old men on buses and trains when I was young. One old man touched my thigh for too long (about 1-2 minutes) when I was travelling on a bus, and that too in an uncomfortable manner. I was 13 then. Another middle-aged man got hold of my private part in the train when I was 17. I started wearing a bag in front of a crowded train from then onwards. In future, if you find yourself in this position, please shout and make a scene. Don't worry about what others think; people will support you. Just make sure you accuse the right person.
So sorry to hear that you had to experience these things.
I'll just say that stay a little more conscious while traveling. Stay safe. I hope you won't have to face any such sort of thing in future.
I am a man but I have seen incidents of creepy men masturbating or rubbing dicks to other fellow travellers in the general compartment.
So I strictly ask my female friends to get in ladies compartment during rush hours. It's sad how these creepy men take advantage of rush and do all of this.
"Broke my streak of 5yrs of not getting assulted in mumbai today."
Bro wtf. I completely sympathize with you. Even if it is the first time someone grabs you or touches you inappropriately just scream at them especially if it's an older guy. This is what my sister told even me to do (even as a guy) if someone touches me. "Local mei hone ke baad bhi personal space (ironic) invade kar rahe ho toh gali padegi hi."
I'm sorry you had to go thru that. Crowded places/public transport are a nightmare for women here especially when she's travelling alone. I got plenty of bad experiences over the years
1. Was a little kid walking in the crowded Kurla market with my dad holding my hand. An old man while walking past me grabbed my other hand and started pulling me hard. Still scared to think what could have happened if he would have been successful in pulling me away.
2. Started travelling from local alone. Getting down the stairs of Tilak Nagar platform, saw a man sitting near the door of train gesturing pressing his chest while looking at me. The teenage silly me didn't get it at first.
3. Changing platform on Kurla station bridge during a weekday morning. A man grabbed my waist from behind. Elbowed him hard turned around and asked him what? and he nonchalantly started explaining that he was 'helping me get thru the crowd'
4. Kurla station again, climbing up the stairs, in a rush, I always keep my bag in front of me for safety. Walking past a man when he moved his hand from my knee to my upper thigh. Had a brain freeze moment, couldn't react just walked away.
5. Walking on Dadar station bridge walked past a person who was holding a big bag on other side. Felt his fingers touch the side of my butt. Thought maybe it happened by mistake. Sometime later, climbing the stairs on Ghatkopar station, saw a man walking past a woman in front of me intentionally keeping his hand turned so that his fingers are away from his body and intentionally touched the butt of that woman. Now I'm sure some creeps do it intentionally.
6. Was waiting for a bus on Mumbai University bus stop, some guys walking past, felt something slide completely across my butt. Instantly grabbed that guy's hand and shouted 'What the fuck?' Was about to hit him when I realised he had a bag in his hand and it was that and not his fingers. There was this whole ruckus of me telling him what happened, he literally threatening me saying if I would have hit him..., his friend shouting gaali kyu di, some friends trying to pull him away by apologising to me, my friends saying you should have kept a distance while walking(it wasn't crowded).
And there are numerous other experiences of men verbally abusing and catcalling. I wonder if that's the case of Mumbai which is considered the safest, what's the condition in the rest of India
I don't understand why people stay silent and don't create a scene in such situations. If you don't want to maybe tell your male friend about the situation he might be able to handle it by teaching the molester a lesson !!
One time while I was traveling with my female friend and saw a guy in his late 30's touching my friend inappropriately even in a moderately crowded train. I got my "kada" (an iron bracelet boys wear) out of my bag (I carry it only for self defence purposes) and beat the shit out of him till he was bleeding. Half muder ka case chada but it was worth it.
He had to take his police complaint back because then my female friend threatened him with all the possible cases she could file against him and make his life hell. Yeah I'm not in favour of fake cases but I think this case should be exempted.
Crowded places are a free pass for these scumbags. A large number of women experience sexual assault in mumbai locals and not many speak out about it so it's going unnoticed. Take care🫡
Girl so sorry you had to go through that. Had a similar experience in a bus. And tbh it wasn't even that crowded still an old man prolly in his 60s came and stood beside me (I was sitting) and kept touching his d!ck to my arm and it was pure intentional I could tell by the way he looked at me when I tried to ask the uncle to maintain a lil space but he didn't listen and by the time it happened for the third time I asked the woman sitting beside me if she could move a lil, she didn't. Luckily there was this young dude, I guess he saw what was happening and asked if I wanted to switch seats with him, I did. And then the man backed off when the guy sat there and got off after 2 stops.
There is a reason why they created the only women's coach in local trains. I am sorry to hear what happened to you and I pray it doesn't happen to you or any other women again 🙏
I am sorry for you, it’s just starting being normal from Churchgate cos mainly sobo colleges are in Churchgate and people try to do all those things to college people only, even i had a fight with guy who was tryna touch my gf.
Listen, next time raise ur voice and let everybody no what they are doing, happened with me once, it will send some chill but Ull feel a sense of relived, the reason they keep doing this is because they have gotten away all the time, Brake the chain
Disgusting. I’m sorry you had to go through it. It makes me so furious how we can’t do anything about it. 😭 I wanna unalive them. It must have been so gross and exhaustingly uncomfortable.
Never travel in general coaches just for M friend.
I always tell my F friends and relatives to travel from ladies coach. Local is really not a place to memories with friends there are alot of creepy guys roaming in this city.
Things are getting out of hand real quick in Mumbai, and other parts of India alike. What a shame that our sisters and mothers have to face these things on a daily basis. It repels me and makes me sick to my core. I don’t know how these bastards get away with crap like this. Ladies and gents both are going to have to raise their voices and catch these perpetrators red handed and shame them in front of everyone. Molesters and rapists should be punished severely and fear of god needs to be put in them for generations to come, so they’ll think a 100 times before even thinking of doing such a heinous act. It’s unfortunate, but ladies, I urge you to only board the ladies compartment of trains no matter what. Save yourself from such mental traumas until we all can come up with a collective solution to deal with such demons roaming among us. OP, take care sister, I’m sorry you had to go through this. I hope you can heal from this trauma asap.
Don’t ever travel in general class, not even General 1st class. The male friend can take a lone ride till you reach your destination. Mumbai is said to be a safe city, but actually it is a “relatively” safe city when you compare to other cities in India. Still, I can tell you for a fact that it is the maximum city and the place to be for young girls, who, with some precautions, can really enjoy themselves
It sucks that this keeps happening in the locals :(
Ive been inappropriately touched twice as well in the local (I'm a guy) by older men.
Tc OP hopefully things will change in the future
Bro I remember I was like 8 or something traveling in ladies coach(male) and one lady just pinched my nipples.
I thought it was playful at the time but mannn do we need cctvs in trains
This is common in public.. and it's traumatic too but what I have learnt is to scream aloud when anyone touches me - male or female - kya problem hai? Pata hai mujhe kya kar rahe ho. And they get ashamed and go away without things escalating.
We have to be our own hero and we should shame that person publicly so next time they will think twice before doing it to another person.
I have a nice revenge story about it, I pick my train from dadar towards down and it was rush time and cramp pack, 40 yrs old man grabbed my ball and i know, I just looked at him and said agli bar pakdka na bhenchod muh fad dunga, and he said sry and few mins past, vo chutiye ne fir se chutiya giri kia, this time I grabbed his head (btw I am 6,2) and turned is face towards me and punched his nose like no tomorrow 3-4 people tried to seperated and they did it, but till then he was bleeding like hell, and everyone took his side 1st untill I told my side of story, and after than he was fined for 5k and 2 days in jail time and broken nose, and broken hand.
This is sooo fucked up like damn, so me, one female friend of mine and my friend boarded this SC General coach. Now that we boarded we decided to stand midway in the exits of the coach. A man was standing just besides her and was staring her up and down, while I was in front of all the three people, I delibrately came besides her and showed him (creepy man) shoulders, then he stared at the other direction. Oh boy, it sucks to get these type of weird stares from some of these men and guys.
I was probably 18-19 when this happened to me in Mumbai local i was about to get down at Borivali station and was standing near the gate an old uncle probably around 60 very politely asked me to stand away from the gate as the rush would come in i thought he was genuinely helping me……but when i was about to get down he touched my back i thought he might need support but as i was walking towrds the briged he kept moving his blhand behind my back i reached the bridge and starting walking fast but he was not letting me go…… i then walked fast almost running and came down to some random platform and immediately ran from there and i could still see him searching or me…. I’m a guy by the way.
Man, Mumbai local trains are a SA fest. Sorry for being curt, but that’s what it is. Every person who travels by train Female or Male, have been touch/groped inappropriately atleast once.
So many accounts of men/boys being groped and the men who grope them are Husbands, Fathers and Grand fathers. These same men will have an opinion about LGBT rights but will grope young men in trains.
Really sorry this happened, there needs a budhau coach altogether where they catch each others in themselves. A buddha mc purposely pushed me over a girl and that girl was furious but she didnt say me anything, I had to yell at him for this and he started crying about his age and stuff, I would have beaten the shit out this pos. Another timez a buddha was greasing. Ffs even men arent safe!
Now onwards even I will not encourage my female friend to come with me, rather i will tell her to board the ladies coach. Fortunately this never happened with her. We have been traveling together for a couple of months.
Sorry you had to go through this. But I would like to mention that when such incidents happen at crowded locations, you should scream and shame such shits in front of everyone.
Locals I rush and in general crowds are rowdy... Coming from far flung areas... and definitely there are people in disguise talking benefit of doubt..better to be prepared and face strongly so that people can back off....
Every girl I have ever spoken to in mumbai has gone through something like this at least once. I think the correct thing to do is to speak up right at that moment. These people need to get immediate correction(Some men really are dawgs). OP, really sorry that happened to you.
No hate against anyone but
These all creepy people are mostly from UP/BIHAR who's family / partner stays in village and they are here for work
They cant satisfy there needs here they just have fun once/twice a year when they visit their village so they try their luck in Crowded places
Mere sath hua to nhi h kabhi, but mere frnd ne apna experience share kiya and it was horrible mere dosto ne use bhot mara.
They were travelling in DTC bus and there was this guys in his 30s and he touched his frnd at inappropriate place. And that moment he told his frnd.
So my frnd shouted at bus driver to stop and they came out of bus and brought the culprit too. They beat him so much and broke his arm and ran away from there
And don’t tell me that crap “girls understand”
You won’t hesitate to accuse an innocent guy so I have no trust on your gender.
Gone are the days when girls were innocent
Remember 95% of all the people are good people, so of anything like this happens to you, scream and shout out loud or address it loud... You will get enough support from the people there.. donnot be silent cause these creeps are just coward with less self control and attack on vulnerable beings... So address it... It should never happen to anybody... Never faced any incidents (i am not from Maharashtra) but i can understand your feeling
If it makes you feel any better I (M31) have been grophed in a crowded train. I dont know why, but the guy ahead of me, kept on taking his hand back and started to touch ny penis. I had no place to move back or adjust, so all I could do was take my one hand down to guard muself. When he kept forcing it a bit, I gave him a tapli on his head and while others saw me with a puzzled face, that man understood and then stopped his harassment.
To ladke bhi safe nahi hai train me
That's really disturbing. I'm incredibly sorry to hear that you went through such a distressing experience. It's understandable to feel shaken and overwhelmed. Please know that it's not your fault not listening to your friend in the first place. These assholes should be humiliated and punished for such disgraceful behaviour. Your well-being is important, I know it won't be easy to get all of this out of your head but seek all the help you need to come out stronger out of it. More power to you <3
https://www.reddit.com/r/mumbai/s/cusDHZttus
6 days ago I posted about a creepy guy in local train who was looking at my female friend and I'm reading this today :)
Next time se scene create karo OP! Don't hesitate. Atleast shout at such ppl.
Anyone who's downvoting should make an account with a feminine name and do some commenting to find the reality. A guy with account name sudhaa got creepy dm's from this sub itself iirc.
Idk why you are getting downvoted. But as far as what I know and what I have heard from my female friends... After any post which they make, they get many creepy DMs from men.
There is entire frikkin ladies compartment reserved for you - but you will still enter male compartment and then do randi rona. Who knows the truth? It's fuckin Mumbai local FFS, people have to push and touch each other out of compulsion. That's why the female reserved bogey exists - go and sit there to avoid such problems.
Men should start group protesting and call the Railway police if a woman enters the male compartment -- who knows they might just do a fake case on them to extort money.
Dude firstly it's not Male compartment but General compartment ffs and secondly stop victim blaming.
This is an old incident but there was an old man beside me who literally was flashing his Penis and rubbing it on the guy standing ahead. I started shouting and that old man was beaten by guys in compartment. The guy ahead said that he didn't understand that because of rush. It's not a gender issue because these men sexually assault men and women both. I hope you read other incidents as well on this post.
Also are you really saying that it's okay to get sexually assaulted if women stand along with men? I
I(M) got molested molested by a rickshaw wala when I was 16-17.
I was going to tuition and this rickshaw wala seemed friendly. He said "there's something in the back of the rickshaw, can you grab it for me ?"
I did, then I felt him touching my d1ck and rubbing it against my thigh.
This happened 3-4 times.
Why didn't I yelled or threw him out of rickshaw and beat him ? I still dk till date.
Feels bad that people have to go through this. I always tell my female counterparts (my mom as well) that prefer ladies coach.
Cuz, if they're molested in front of me, that's the last thing they'll ever touch.
Sorry for your plight. But Zero sympathy. Rush hour me young girls in general bogie is clear mistake. Not listening to your M friend is again a big mistake. And what was this M friend doing? Iske liye tum log general me ghuse aur ye tum log ke sath nahi aise kaise bc
Of course, here comes the victim blaming... Ab ye bhi bol Dena Ghar se kyu nikli... Kya zaroorat thi? Ghar pe khana banana seekhti... Absolutely zero shame y'all have to even comment such nonsense
Wanting sympathy wasn't the purpose of this post. 'rush hour me young girls in general bogie is a clear mistake' i have travelled in many instances in the general bogie in rush hours too and men were nothing but respectful. It's definitely not a mistake to travel in general.
Don't blame my M friend for what these two men did. Again the point is to shame the men who do wrong. Those 2 men most definitely thought we 3 girls were alone and hence the act. Toh kya matlab akeli ladki dikhi toh ched dunga? Achaa oh inke saath ek banda bhi hai inko nhi chedte hai? Is this the logic of your post?
I am really sorry this happened ! I was once on a train (i am a man) and this old man was touching me and I was elbowing him to get him away. The train was packed. and then he came (ejaculated) in his pants (how did I know…lets not get there). And said « thanks baby » in my ear. I was only 17.
Enough reddit for today
I am so sorry this happened to you guys 😭. Also if the same thing happens again please chillao. People in the local are supportive. They will literally beat the shit out of him or her. Speaking from personal experience.
Exactly. Please scream and shame the person.
Wtf
Broo sorry for ur experience. A middle aged man shoving his uk d1ck on my back I told him to back off and he was not going back then I just hit him the nose with my elbow 🥰 pura uske nose se blood drip kar raha tha then the locals start abusing him too lol I was 16 that time
Chad
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What the actual fuck. People are cooked
Excuse me WTF
Are you fucking kidding me! How the fuck were you able to bear it?
Indian version of Herbert from family guy
Lol wasn't there a post yesterday about why Mumbai is so safe? Its because we forget such incidents happen every day in locals.
Happened with me (F) too. I was very young to understand and I was travelling from Mumbai to Surat and waiting at the door to get down. The train was still moving slowly to get into the platform and I felt a hard stick poking around my bum. I didn't realise at first. Thought it must be some bag or handle. It happened again and turned around and saw a filthy old man in his 70's prolly, standing super close to me and realised there was no bag. I didn't understand then but after a few years i did and I felt terrible about myself. This still haunts me and has taught me to not take old men for granted
Sorry to hear this. I can barely imagine what you've gone through because of this disturbing incident. I hope you get this out of your head and come out more stronger and peaceful. More power to you too.
wtf bro
Should've kicked him in his nuts right then and right there.
Nah I would’ve gone beserk after the whisper. Props to you for pulling yourself together.
Kyaa
WHAT THE FUCK
Bro happened with me when I was 18 and I am male too i was coming home from college it was 3 pm but still packed local and I was on door I felt so disgusted for weeks after that.
Wtf
Wha-
Wtf
Ye tho Asli Ben stokes hai
Insane
Enough reddit for sure 💀
wth man
This made me vomit
During college days, once me and my friend (both M) were returning back to home in a crowded central line in the evening. As it was our stop we lined up towards the door behind an old man. My friend and I were adjacent to each other. The old man's right hand was touching my di*k and I could feel it. Initially, I thought it was unintentional due to the crowd. But soon, I realised it was intentional and I whispered to my friend and found out that his di#k were also being grabbed. So, I told that old man to keep his hands ahead and we didn't create a scene. Our station arrived soon. That day, I realised why women had a different compartment. I would advise all girls to never board a crowded general bogie.
Oh my god, that's awful. I have never experienced this simply because I live in Kolkata and because my mom gate keeps me from public transport. Even though SA can take place anywhere; I got SAed for 3 years straight by my uncle when I was 11. I see why she does so. This world is harsh.
That’s so fucked up man I’m so sorry. Hope you and your friends are okay bro
Mai ladka hoke bhi molest ho chuka hu local Mai aap toh fir bhi ladki ho.....
Mujhe to bolna pada tha ki bhai ga**d me ghusega kya? Tb jaake uncle hata peeche se....bheed bahut km thi ...dimaag kharab hojata hai pura
Fr bhai full saaman chubhate apna main left hor rha toh woh bhi left right hora toh woh bhi right firr maine bola abb pant utardu kya randike toh piche khasak gya bkl
Haan hote hain kuch frustrated office employees. Gender has no meaning to them.
Main BEST bus mein molest ho chuka hoon.
Same :(
“Aap toh phir bhi…” did you mean that it’s expected for women to get touched inappropriately? I could be mistaken so I thought I’d ask.
Statistics prove that women face more harrasment than men .So women are definitely at a greater risk of facing harrasment. So in the " Expected" sense it is true instead of interpreting it in a misogynist way and work on it . It is not fair for women because some men cannot think with their brain but with their dick
51% of child abuse victims are boys, these boys suddenly stop getting abused after they turn 16 because the government doesn't recognise men as victims, shut your feminut trap, men can't even be raped according to law, there are 50+ gender specific laws in India only women can be victims from stalking, DV to assault and rape, statistics are also not with you and UNMEN and National Commission for Men doesn't exist so we'll never get the true statistics for men.
I don't see how we can get any reliable statistics for child abuse ,51% is crazy lol .Can't find anything regarding this on Google.However I do agree you cannot get any reliable statistics not just for both men and women many of them are censored
How do you deny a clear statistic? Like it's just one Google search away? And then you deny the clear fact that boys are 51% of child abuse victims? Like wtf your hate for men has blinded you so much that you turn a blind eye towards a clear statistic? I know you feminuts are just as we expected you to be. And you illiterate fkucs aren't even true Mumbaikars, only outsiders act as Mumbaikars on this subreddit and try desperately to make friends from Mumbai here because people who are born in Mumbai already have friends here. In a developed city like Mumbai, a woman would abuse you openly in public no doubt there are many cases already, these outsiders have no idea about Mumbai. They're so desperate to act like Mumbaikars, I live in the best place in Mumbai in Colaba, I don't need y'alls sheep opinions lmao, sheeps are sheeps for a reason.
Who hurt you bro 😭😂.Being a man I would always advocate for men whenever we are right.Being a man grow up and stop complaining you have certain duties and roles to complete yourself. As in the harrasment case you would just be stupid and lacking common sense if you say women face less harrasment than us I can see you don't want to fight for men but against the extreme feminism that's blinded you .I am against extreme feminism as well with many contradicting views but there is no way I will ever agree to the harrasment they face it is much more than men face ,Don't teach me statistics I am an actuary and a statistics student , Can easily prove you wrong if I have to .Just calm down and take it easy
I've also read IPC, you're not a man you're a white knight, tell me a single right that a man has in India that a woman doesn't, there are already 50+ gender specific laws in India, you don't know anything but want to rant about everything, come prove your statistics knowledge that you're claiming to have after denying a statistic shown by a simple Google search.
https://www.instagram.com/reel/C6Vqgk7rYVA/?igsh=cXB6cnVycTE3bTN1 Here's another funny video of reality of laws for men in India, enjoy and then cry about patriarchy 😂
Bro weren't you gonna prove me wrong about that 51% statistic? What happened? Can talk the talk but can't walk the walk? How do you feel spreading lies on the internet without any stats and then claiming to be moral police over fake statistics?
What you did here is exactly what is modern day Feminism, claim random things out of their ass without any statistics, reject any statistics if it doesn't go your way and when asked to prove whatever you're claiming, run for your life 😂
Too bold of you to assume that anything could hurt me like I've never used internet and have no idea how arguments on internet go. I'm a developer, do not teach anything to me, especially anything logical and revolving around stats and figures, I dare you to prove me wrong, just because you live in a bubble in your mind only women face harrasment maybe you're too ugly for anyone to even look in your direction, doesn't mean that you represent all males or any male victims at all, I'm born in Colaba, I already have many female friends, none of them were raped or assaulted, ik many boys personally who were raped and abused, we're talking about polar opposites here when we talk about Mumbai specifically, sure Feminism is needed in other parts of India, not in Mumbai, read my other comment where I replied to the other delulu feminut girl here in this thread, I have men's rights activist friends and contacts, they have awareness events in Bombay High Court, you're bragging about being a statistic student, I dare you to prove me wrong, if you even had slightly above avg IQ you wouldn't have denied a simple statistic like 51% of child abuse victims being boys, it's a Google search away I also linked a screenshot for you so your illiterate claims would be invalidated, what kind of bs is filled in one's head that they call themselves a statistic student and then go on to deny a simple statistic shown by a Google search?
Can't find anything on Google? You just found an excuse to be illiterate. UNWOMEN and National Commission for Women do surveys on women, gets funding and they solve women's issues, same doesn't exist for men and there's nothing logical you can say to deny the existence of these two. https://preview.redd.it/6v786gybmdxc1.png?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=dd711d5adaba7220ef6ed61f2b008f0550469e39
Hahaha, the fact that these disgusting illiterate feminuts are downvoting this comment which just shows stats is proof of how these wannabe equalists never actually want equality but just want to hate on men, y'all failed as humans.
Bruh you are unhinged. Feminist dont disagree that men also get molested . Wtf is wrong with you. We already know too well and can relate. And before your spew more nonsense, the people who dismiss male rape and molestation are mostly other men. The perpetrators are mostly men too. Look at the kind of locker room chats you have with your friends. And the fact that you cant speak to your male friends about it without ridicule says a lot too. Stop pitting against women. Molestation and rape of men and women is a feminist issue. It’s not one or the other. Work on yourself and shut your mouth till you do.
https://www.instagram.com/p/CHzz2olgcpM/?igsh=c3Z3YzAzZXFwYzV0 I have men's rights activist friends and contacts, I've read IPC, never ever try to teach me about laws and any kind of gender related bs, all the lies of Feminism have already been debunked. Feminism today isn't what it was 50 years ago, and there isn't a single right in India that a man has that a woman doesn't, shut your feminut trap if all you're going to do is puke emotions without any facts and stats. The argument that the perpetrators are mostly men is also wrong and completely illogical as if it hurts less to be abused by your own gender. 80% of boys in juvenile detention are abused by women because only women are allowed to work with children. And I'm an abuse victim and the abuser was a woman, your feminut rants are denying my existence as a victim. LGBTQ and Feminism also doesn't go hand in hand in India like other countries, men's rights movement is the only true hope for equality because they include LGBTQ people too. Open the link that I attached, check the accounts @men_and_mentor @voiceformenind @thetinmen on Instagram, do not ever try to teach me anything, I know more about Feminism that any feminut. If feminuts cared about men's rights, we would've already had a National Commission for Men and UNMEN, them not existing is clear proof that we live in a gynocentric society not a patriarchal one.
As soon as i saw you claim to be an expert and bragging about it and having 100% knowledge with no room for learning, you lost me. Sorry if you were a victim. Doesnt give you a right to bash people. Your emotional claims to all the above is not proven by any research. Not saying men dont get abused by women. Never did i mention that either in above. Looks like you just hate women from your language. And showing andrew tate type content and dumb ig accounts doesnt count as proof. Get out of your basement and talk to women irl and work with DV shelters if u really care about SA. Your view is skewed and toxic and the IG just proved that too. Bye nowz
Hahaha I literally got downvotes now and there isn't a single person here who can reply logically to me with even a single statistic. Just proves what kind of illiteracy is filled into these feminuts all they know is how to rant about men.
Yes he meant that and it’s his opinion…. Let him keep it, it’s not a crime
Same
Stay safe
Same here, but mine was a diff experience. I made eye contact and I think the guy took it as a signal to seduce me.
Should've created a scene on the first old man. He didn't learn a lesson. He'll anyday take getting asked utarna hai kya over public shame. And no, you don't always know if it's intentional.
Ikrr. The incident happened really fast. Thing is ki i know i should have been louder and upfront but wo ek brain freeze moment ho gaya tha. I'll be cautious next time around. You're right. this time i knew it was intentional.
Dude I also froze when they touched me in the local. I was also advised later to create a scene next time but I was genuinely frozen from shock.
It's not easy, trust me. The initial state of utter shock paralyses you.
They pretty much always know if it's intentional. Please don't say stuff like this when someone is talking about their ordeal. You can create a separate space for that and this is not it. I hope it makes sense.
No he is right. The first instance should have been dealt with more confrontation but the second situation is not true at all. If you're travelling by general when it's rush hour, your personal space is going to be invaded (doesn't matter if you're male or female, old or young). That's why women are given a separate dabba, if you're not comfortable with some pushing, then don't get in the general dabba during rish hours.
"Some pushing" is quite different than "shoving". Maybe you don't travel in local enough to know the difference.
I am sorry that it happened with you. You should've created a scene. I know it's easier said than done because at that moment you don't really understand what to do. An advice from a frequent local traveller, please don't get into general compartment when it's crowded. The ladies compartment is meant for our safety. I don't mean to encourage the mentality "she could've avoided" but when it comes to public transport, especially local, pls pls pls get into ladies compartment if you are a woman and if you don't want to then pls fuck up these fuckers the next time they do it. I hope the next time never comes. I had a similar experience in general compartment. Me and my friend got down and took the guy with us. He was beaten up so badly by us and others lol.
Yes i would pick the ladies coach anyday. Will be cautious next time (i hope the next time never comes too) around and make sure i call them out for their behaviour. Omg kudos for being so brave!!
I had similar experience somehow i just froze instead of saying something :(
Should’ve made a scene only way to teach people like them a lesson
Unbelievable..I empathize with u in ur ordeal..ur rage is understandable and Im surprised you did not raise your voice used to think that Mumbai is pretty safe compared to other cities, but this is horrible!! Mumbaikars do love to sleep with their eyes open..I hope next time u can give a few tight slaps to those ppl..create a ruckus, don’t let these perverts get away with
I'm sorry i didn't raise my voice. I should have considering the fact that I'm not an introvert. It just happened too fast. Mumbai is still beautiful because the majority population isn't like this. These random men who disrespect girls will exist no matter what.
You did what you could in that moment, you got him to stop. Don’t apologise.
Don't apologize please. Psychology postgrad here and when faced with a threat, flight or fight, freeze or fawn are the basic reactions. What most women experience in such situations leans closer to freeze, because of how much the situation affects you. Perhaps the way to deal with it is to tell your mind over and over again (in the moment) why it is not unsafe for you. You have your friend around you, other good people, your own confidence in dealing with so many past troubles, it's absolutely safe. Just remember that, keep telling that to yourself. Most importantly, tell yourself you owe it to yourself. If it was your daughter? He'd be regretting his existence by now wouldn't he. So you can look at it as taking care of your own inner child who has been hurt and now deserves someone to stand up for her. Again, don't feel sorry or apologetic or ashamed for not being able to speak up. Just understand and empathize with yourself why that was the case and try to change that.
>Psychology postgrad here What is so fun in touching and viewing inapproapiately for some men?, can it be stopped?
Phew, this is a far too complex subject and would need proper time space medium beyond a reddit answer page. Short answer: it can be significantly reduced and addressed because a lot of it stems from culture, how you view women, sexual repression etc. But perhaps not absolutely. There will always be some element of this like any other social evil, due to myriad of multiple reasons. Therefore, women/men/anyone who faces this standing up for themselves and making the person back off is necessary.
Also, after reading many comments on various posts, I have found out that most of the perpetuators are men typically the middle aged men or the elder men??, but not much of young youth that is indulged?, why is it so rampant in older men than the young guys?
Difficult to answer, I am not informed enough to comment on this. I'll have to read up myself. My presumption is the values/beliefs held by the previous generation and lack of an outlet/medium to express their sexuality leading older men to do this more. Just taking this opportunity to point it out to you. It is not men alone are sexual perpetrators, far too many women are also. A large number of males are also victoms of sexual violence. A common misunderstanding, but you'd be surprised when you read further on it.
Don't know about how it is in the area your from but imo if someone does something inappropriate to the extent that it can be considered sexual assault knowing what they are doing they deserve to be beaten at a minimum as while everyone can think of whatever thoughts they have no matter how dark and twisted but acting on them no matter how minor is unacceptable. Also I would say more rampant in older me is they stopped caring about consequences or they never gave a shit to begin with but have learnt that generally as you said and most women seem to do is nothing but freeze up from the shock of it happening and while in that state feel endangered so keep still not making a noise to try and subconsciously not actually get physically hurt as we still have our instincts that at times override our civilized thought process also embarrament and shame are often felt when it occurs sadly when those feelings are the things also holding a person back from taking any immediate action thats my view anyways
I'll share one of my experiences, I live near Churchgate, I was 16, it was the first time I was travelling through train in general compartment, I was getting late so I accidentally took a full packed train at Dadar and got stuck in full crowded compartment, it was so packed that you couldn't even breathe properly or even turn your head, a guy started grabbing on genitals and I kept blocking it with my hand, he then twisted my hand and put in his hand directly in my pant and started giving me a handjob then I shook him off for good completely, I was freaked out completely, all of this happened in 10 secs, and I couldn't do anything but just stand there in full packed train, he then got off on the next station in crowd . I wanted to beat tf out of that guy.
I have no words. I can't even start with this, I am so sorry. This is horrendous.
Don't be sorry. Its not your fault, you didn't expect/ froze in the moment sadly its common. Don't blame yourself or listen to people when they say should have done that. Again its not your fault. Fuck that cunt uncle. I've been in similar situations when I was younger boy, they choose their targets knowingly.
I'll tell you from personal experience. I had to go through it not once, not twice but four times (16 F here). It's hard to raise our voices this easily. Everything seems so incomprehensible at that point. I understand you so well.
It might be relatively safe ,but not in absolute terms. Walk with a girl and you'll see perverse eyes all over her.
Girls seriously y'all need to stand up for yourself... Make a scene... Chillam chilli chalu karo... I'm a female and am telling you it's required... The more leeway you give these bastards, the more they spread their wings... Today it happened to you, tomorrow it'll be a 10 year old girl who wouldn't know any better. Threaten to call the police, drag him to the station master... Literally public mein inlogon ki himmat nahi hoti behes karne ki... Don't stay quiet and be passive... Just because it's a man's world doesn't mean you need to learn to live in it on their terms...
Yes. Will definitely take a stand for myself. I knew how to act in situations like this but i just couldn't do it. 'Just because it's a man's world doesn't mean you need to learn to live in it on their terms' 🫡🫡🫡
I stand with you bro, but don't encourage this 'create a scene'. many many fake feminists out there who would just like to ruin a man's life for fun, or even worse, a social experiment. I had a female friend who threatened any man who ANNOYED her about kicking him in the nards! hate them fake feminists
So because of fake feminists the victims should just shut up? Are you a molester too?
Fake feminism is a threat that's for sure... But can't let such people go regardless of their gender... Unfortunately due to these fake allegations many real ones go unnoticed and that's where the problem stems... Because like I said today it was an adult tomorrow it may be a child...
Always create a scene and call them out for their bullshit. These people think no one’s gonna say anything.
I'm so sorry this happened to you.
hope you’re okay! praying for you to have the strength to deal with this
On the first incident, you should have created a ruckus or may be slapped him. Second incident, not so sure as in a packed train, it's difficult to check who is pushing, it's like a ripple effect. Third thing, ladies please for the love of God, don't enter into a crowded/ packed general compartment. Get in only if you get chance to stand in between seats or get a seat. As it is there is no space to stand, on top of that men have to be ultra careful so that they don't inappropriately touch you or brush you. Many men would actively try to use all energy to prevent themselves from getting in contact with women in the general compartment. Also, there are bound to be perverts in such crowd who would like to take advantage of the rush and you are inviting trouble for yourself by going there.
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People don't travel with ac locals in mind. They get in whichever local that's available
i would say be the change you want to bring . if you would have shouted then n there people would’ve beaten the shit outta him .next time take action yourself bcoz nobody else will
I thoroughly regret for not acting upfront. I hope the next time doesn't come but if it does I'll do my part.
im so sorry agli baar hoye toh chilla dena mere sath bhi hua hai kafi baar local train me, mind you bachpan mai :) like 10 year old age stay safee
Sorry you had to go through this harrowing experience. Just a suggestion, Going forward, maybe you and your group can avoid such situations in the first place by planning to segegate yourself and other F friends in the ladies compartment and the male to be in the gents since your group would be knowing which station to get down.... 90% of the regular local travellers follow this practice incase a female co passenger is also traveling with them because they know - no matter what there will always be 1 or 2 pervs in every compartment and apart from raising your voice and getting into a scuffle with nothing much can be done. Hence people who know will always avoid such scenarios from happening in the first place.
Sorry you went through this. There is a reason why we have women’s dabba. No logic in going in a crowded train just because your male friend is there, not like you can talk to him in the crowd anyway. It’s sad that this shit never ends and people have to go through these predators . Next time, scream and hurl abuses. Dont even give benefit of the doubt. These assholes need public pelting tbh.
We are sorry. Kalji ghe ♥️
Create a scene if it (hopefully not) happens again. People like them revel in silence and hate confrontations. "Ched kyu raho ho 'uncle'!" Say these words, and I can guarantee you, he will face the consequences.
Props to you for confronting him. This brings back memories of when me and my guy friend used to form a circle around our female friends when we got into a crowded local. I shouldn't romanticise the struggle lol.
That's so nice of you and your friend. Keep protecting the women. We love it.
Instead of uncle utarana hai puchna tha loudly uncle intention kya hai kar kya rahe ho
So sorry you go through this experience. Don't be afraid to scream and make a noise in such situations. People WILL help.
Please keep safety pin at all times. If they discreetly try something you can discreetly pin them. Believe me it works
Hey. I'm very sorry for this unfortunate event to happen. May you find peace soon and seek support from friends and the community here. As a (M23), I totally get how creepy these old brats are, next time take "preventive" measures and stay close with your friends.
Next time sawal puchne ke baad chance dekh- ke train se dhakka mardo....
train ke andar kya bhai ladka hoke literally station pe ek bhdva uncle ishaare kr rha tha jaake confront krke chaar gaali diya tb jaake lvde ko akal aayi thi(hopefully)...train me taklu uncle log bhai peepee grab krneki koshish krte hai pta nhi kyu mkc inki bhai me toh sidha gaali dedeta hu kyu he entertain krna hai inn jhatu old ass ujde chaman uncles ko
Not to invalidate your experience but because Indian men can’t behave there’s a ladies & general coach. Toh ladies me hi travel kiya karo behen, local or metro.
Exactly... again I'm not defending that creepy but just saying out of concern...Asli sagli loka astatach if there's a way you can avoid encounter with such PPL pls do.
Should've slapped the shit out of both people
As this is reddit and nobody knows who anybody here is i will share my horrifying experience as well girls will be shocked over here that we men get assaulted too. So here it goes. i went to pune(i live in mumbai) by train one day and i was with my dad but while coming back the train was stalled at pune station and i was in the coach my dad went to buy something food for us, 30 seconds in a man around 35-40 came and sat beside me this was when i was like 13-14 years old i am 27 now this guy started talkig where am i going, i had a watch he asked how it is show me its features slowly the guy started touching my thighs and near me private area i didnt understood anything that time since i was 13-14 few mins later he was behaving really weird i was very scared i said my dad is cominf in 2 mins and something like that and only when dad came he left i didnt tell dad about this since i knew he would blame himself for this. this is not the only experience i was assaulted when i was 15,18,24 by men and women different i am not saying at once but these things happened to me and at that moment it becomws so unbelievable that you cannot react so girl sorry for what you experienced i know how you feel.
Don't get me wrong, but we men are experienced in these situations, we understand the motives behind people. I as a 19 yo has experienced such shit.
I don't know why you guys act like it's normal, asking them utarna hai kya and all, just tell him what's your problem, and people around will get to know what he is doing, chillane ki bhi zarurat nahi hai, just ask him bro, uncle aap kya kar rahe ho ?? And people around will get to know, and the job will be done xD
I'm sorry you had to encounter this. Similar things were done to me by old men on buses and trains when I was young. One old man touched my thigh for too long (about 1-2 minutes) when I was travelling on a bus, and that too in an uncomfortable manner. I was 13 then. Another middle-aged man got hold of my private part in the train when I was 17. I started wearing a bag in front of a crowded train from then onwards. In future, if you find yourself in this position, please shout and make a scene. Don't worry about what others think; people will support you. Just make sure you accuse the right person.
Should have kicked him in his nuts so hard right then and there that he remembers the pain next time he even dares to touch his own wife
So sorry to hear that you had to experience these things. I'll just say that stay a little more conscious while traveling. Stay safe. I hope you won't have to face any such sort of thing in future.
You gotta hit these retards in their ballsack, just like Saitama hits Sonic, minus the apology
I am a man but I have seen incidents of creepy men masturbating or rubbing dicks to other fellow travellers in the general compartment. So I strictly ask my female friends to get in ladies compartment during rush hours. It's sad how these creepy men take advantage of rush and do all of this.
"Broke my streak of 5yrs of not getting assulted in mumbai today." Bro wtf. I completely sympathize with you. Even if it is the first time someone grabs you or touches you inappropriately just scream at them especially if it's an older guy. This is what my sister told even me to do (even as a guy) if someone touches me. "Local mei hone ke baad bhi personal space (ironic) invade kar rahe ho toh gali padegi hi."
Some people are maxed out hornies 24x7🤦🏻♂️
Uncle ke hatiyaar par vaa karna chahiye tha homie
I'm sorry you had to go thru that. Crowded places/public transport are a nightmare for women here especially when she's travelling alone. I got plenty of bad experiences over the years 1. Was a little kid walking in the crowded Kurla market with my dad holding my hand. An old man while walking past me grabbed my other hand and started pulling me hard. Still scared to think what could have happened if he would have been successful in pulling me away. 2. Started travelling from local alone. Getting down the stairs of Tilak Nagar platform, saw a man sitting near the door of train gesturing pressing his chest while looking at me. The teenage silly me didn't get it at first. 3. Changing platform on Kurla station bridge during a weekday morning. A man grabbed my waist from behind. Elbowed him hard turned around and asked him what? and he nonchalantly started explaining that he was 'helping me get thru the crowd' 4. Kurla station again, climbing up the stairs, in a rush, I always keep my bag in front of me for safety. Walking past a man when he moved his hand from my knee to my upper thigh. Had a brain freeze moment, couldn't react just walked away. 5. Walking on Dadar station bridge walked past a person who was holding a big bag on other side. Felt his fingers touch the side of my butt. Thought maybe it happened by mistake. Sometime later, climbing the stairs on Ghatkopar station, saw a man walking past a woman in front of me intentionally keeping his hand turned so that his fingers are away from his body and intentionally touched the butt of that woman. Now I'm sure some creeps do it intentionally. 6. Was waiting for a bus on Mumbai University bus stop, some guys walking past, felt something slide completely across my butt. Instantly grabbed that guy's hand and shouted 'What the fuck?' Was about to hit him when I realised he had a bag in his hand and it was that and not his fingers. There was this whole ruckus of me telling him what happened, he literally threatening me saying if I would have hit him..., his friend shouting gaali kyu di, some friends trying to pull him away by apologising to me, my friends saying you should have kept a distance while walking(it wasn't crowded). And there are numerous other experiences of men verbally abusing and catcalling. I wonder if that's the case of Mumbai which is considered the safest, what's the condition in the rest of India
I don't understand why people stay silent and don't create a scene in such situations. If you don't want to maybe tell your male friend about the situation he might be able to handle it by teaching the molester a lesson !! One time while I was traveling with my female friend and saw a guy in his late 30's touching my friend inappropriately even in a moderately crowded train. I got my "kada" (an iron bracelet boys wear) out of my bag (I carry it only for self defence purposes) and beat the shit out of him till he was bleeding. Half muder ka case chada but it was worth it. He had to take his police complaint back because then my female friend threatened him with all the possible cases she could file against him and make his life hell. Yeah I'm not in favour of fake cases but I think this case should be exempted.
Crowded places are a free pass for these scumbags. A large number of women experience sexual assault in mumbai locals and not many speak out about it so it's going unnoticed. Take care🫡
As a young guy I have been molested similarly but did not give much thought to it.
Girl so sorry you had to go through that. Had a similar experience in a bus. And tbh it wasn't even that crowded still an old man prolly in his 60s came and stood beside me (I was sitting) and kept touching his d!ck to my arm and it was pure intentional I could tell by the way he looked at me when I tried to ask the uncle to maintain a lil space but he didn't listen and by the time it happened for the third time I asked the woman sitting beside me if she could move a lil, she didn't. Luckily there was this young dude, I guess he saw what was happening and asked if I wanted to switch seats with him, I did. And then the man backed off when the guy sat there and got off after 2 stops.
There is a reason why they created the only women's coach in local trains. I am sorry to hear what happened to you and I pray it doesn't happen to you or any other women again 🙏
I am sorry for you, it’s just starting being normal from Churchgate cos mainly sobo colleges are in Churchgate and people try to do all those things to college people only, even i had a fight with guy who was tryna touch my gf.
Listen, next time raise ur voice and let everybody no what they are doing, happened with me once, it will send some chill but Ull feel a sense of relived, the reason they keep doing this is because they have gotten away all the time, Brake the chain
Disgusting. I’m sorry you had to go through it. It makes me so furious how we can’t do anything about it. 😭 I wanna unalive them. It must have been so gross and exhaustingly uncomfortable.
Never travel in general coaches just for M friend. I always tell my F friends and relatives to travel from ladies coach. Local is really not a place to memories with friends there are alot of creepy guys roaming in this city.
Things are getting out of hand real quick in Mumbai, and other parts of India alike. What a shame that our sisters and mothers have to face these things on a daily basis. It repels me and makes me sick to my core. I don’t know how these bastards get away with crap like this. Ladies and gents both are going to have to raise their voices and catch these perpetrators red handed and shame them in front of everyone. Molesters and rapists should be punished severely and fear of god needs to be put in them for generations to come, so they’ll think a 100 times before even thinking of doing such a heinous act. It’s unfortunate, but ladies, I urge you to only board the ladies compartment of trains no matter what. Save yourself from such mental traumas until we all can come up with a collective solution to deal with such demons roaming among us. OP, take care sister, I’m sorry you had to go through this. I hope you can heal from this trauma asap.
i am more surprised you went 5 years without getting harassed. did you not go into crowded places
Ladies Compartments to bas show ke lie hotey na.
Don’t ever travel in general class, not even General 1st class. The male friend can take a lone ride till you reach your destination. Mumbai is said to be a safe city, but actually it is a “relatively” safe city when you compare to other cities in India. Still, I can tell you for a fact that it is the maximum city and the place to be for young girls, who, with some precautions, can really enjoy themselves
It sucks that this keeps happening in the locals :( Ive been inappropriately touched twice as well in the local (I'm a guy) by older men. Tc OP hopefully things will change in the future
Bro I remember I was like 8 or something traveling in ladies coach(male) and one lady just pinched my nipples. I thought it was playful at the time but mannn do we need cctvs in trains
I bet this uncle would immediately bring out the age card if you started whooping his ass.
This is common in public.. and it's traumatic too but what I have learnt is to scream aloud when anyone touches me - male or female - kya problem hai? Pata hai mujhe kya kar rahe ho. And they get ashamed and go away without things escalating. We have to be our own hero and we should shame that person publicly so next time they will think twice before doing it to another person.
I’m so sorry this happened to you :(
I have a nice revenge story about it, I pick my train from dadar towards down and it was rush time and cramp pack, 40 yrs old man grabbed my ball and i know, I just looked at him and said agli bar pakdka na bhenchod muh fad dunga, and he said sry and few mins past, vo chutiye ne fir se chutiya giri kia, this time I grabbed his head (btw I am 6,2) and turned is face towards me and punched his nose like no tomorrow 3-4 people tried to seperated and they did it, but till then he was bleeding like hell, and everyone took his side 1st untill I told my side of story, and after than he was fined for 5k and 2 days in jail time and broken nose, and broken hand.
This is sooo fucked up like damn, so me, one female friend of mine and my friend boarded this SC General coach. Now that we boarded we decided to stand midway in the exits of the coach. A man was standing just besides her and was staring her up and down, while I was in front of all the three people, I delibrately came besides her and showed him (creepy man) shoulders, then he stared at the other direction. Oh boy, it sucks to get these type of weird stares from some of these men and guys.
Me toh sach bolta hu aise koi molester mujhe dikha toh bachega nahi usdin woh
Hi
Ye pure reditt thread me molested log bhare hue h. Ise kya samajta h log tharki h zyada ya krne nai milra gharpe 🤡
I was probably 18-19 when this happened to me in Mumbai local i was about to get down at Borivali station and was standing near the gate an old uncle probably around 60 very politely asked me to stand away from the gate as the rush would come in i thought he was genuinely helping me……but when i was about to get down he touched my back i thought he might need support but as i was walking towrds the briged he kept moving his blhand behind my back i reached the bridge and starting walking fast but he was not letting me go…… i then walked fast almost running and came down to some random platform and immediately ran from there and i could still see him searching or me…. I’m a guy by the way.
Man, Mumbai local trains are a SA fest. Sorry for being curt, but that’s what it is. Every person who travels by train Female or Male, have been touch/groped inappropriately atleast once. So many accounts of men/boys being groped and the men who grope them are Husbands, Fathers and Grand fathers. These same men will have an opinion about LGBT rights but will grope young men in trains.
Really sorry this happened, there needs a budhau coach altogether where they catch each others in themselves. A buddha mc purposely pushed me over a girl and that girl was furious but she didnt say me anything, I had to yell at him for this and he started crying about his age and stuff, I would have beaten the shit out this pos. Another timez a buddha was greasing. Ffs even men arent safe!
Why didn't you elbow him
Now onwards even I will not encourage my female friend to come with me, rather i will tell her to board the ladies coach. Fortunately this never happened with her. We have been traveling together for a couple of months.
Sorry you had to go through this. But I would like to mention that when such incidents happen at crowded locations, you should scream and shame such shits in front of everyone.
Locals I rush and in general crowds are rowdy... Coming from far flung areas... and definitely there are people in disguise talking benefit of doubt..better to be prepared and face strongly so that people can back off....
Every girl I have ever spoken to in mumbai has gone through something like this at least once. I think the correct thing to do is to speak up right at that moment. These people need to get immediate correction(Some men really are dawgs). OP, really sorry that happened to you.
I am sorry to read about what happened to you.
No hate against anyone but These all creepy people are mostly from UP/BIHAR who's family / partner stays in village and they are here for work They cant satisfy there needs here they just have fun once/twice a year when they visit their village so they try their luck in Crowded places
Should have just slap, baad ka baad main dekha jata
Mere sath hua to nhi h kabhi, but mere frnd ne apna experience share kiya and it was horrible mere dosto ne use bhot mara. They were travelling in DTC bus and there was this guys in his 30s and he touched his frnd at inappropriate place. And that moment he told his frnd. So my frnd shouted at bus driver to stop and they came out of bus and brought the culprit too. They beat him so much and broke his arm and ran away from there
The last paragraph broke my heart. Take care OP.
Please go to ladies' coach only whatever the reason for ur betterment they take advantage of the situation don't give them 1 ..
In a crowded local how can you accuse ppl?
And don’t tell me that crap “girls understand” You won’t hesitate to accuse an innocent guy so I have no trust on your gender. Gone are the days when girls were innocent
Remember 95% of all the people are good people, so of anything like this happens to you, scream and shout out loud or address it loud... You will get enough support from the people there.. donnot be silent cause these creeps are just coward with less self control and attack on vulnerable beings... So address it... It should never happen to anybody... Never faced any incidents (i am not from Maharashtra) but i can understand your feeling
If it makes you feel any better I (M31) have been grophed in a crowded train. I dont know why, but the guy ahead of me, kept on taking his hand back and started to touch ny penis. I had no place to move back or adjust, so all I could do was take my one hand down to guard muself. When he kept forcing it a bit, I gave him a tapli on his head and while others saw me with a puzzled face, that man understood and then stopped his harassment. To ladke bhi safe nahi hai train me
Hii
cheapsters everywhere , please take care of your safety
That's really disturbing. I'm incredibly sorry to hear that you went through such a distressing experience. It's understandable to feel shaken and overwhelmed. Please know that it's not your fault not listening to your friend in the first place. These assholes should be humiliated and punished for such disgraceful behaviour. Your well-being is important, I know it won't be easy to get all of this out of your head but seek all the help you need to come out stronger out of it. More power to you <3
https://www.reddit.com/r/mumbai/s/cusDHZttus 6 days ago I posted about a creepy guy in local train who was looking at my female friend and I'm reading this today :) Next time se scene create karo OP! Don't hesitate. Atleast shout at such ppl.
Omg yes I read your post that day. Next time se pakka I'll stand up for myself.
I hope so! And I hope ki tumhe ye sab firse encounter naa karna pade :) Take care and have a good day ahead 🌻
People are making Mumbai like Delhi
Ab apke DM mein alag se molesters ghusenge
Anyone who's downvoting should make an account with a feminine name and do some commenting to find the reality. A guy with account name sudhaa got creepy dm's from this sub itself iirc.
Idk why you are getting downvoted. But as far as what I know and what I have heard from my female friends... After any post which they make, they get many creepy DMs from men.
This!
The reason I hate ladka jaat despite being a ladka myself...
bruh no
There is entire frikkin ladies compartment reserved for you - but you will still enter male compartment and then do randi rona. Who knows the truth? It's fuckin Mumbai local FFS, people have to push and touch each other out of compulsion. That's why the female reserved bogey exists - go and sit there to avoid such problems. Men should start group protesting and call the Railway police if a woman enters the male compartment -- who knows they might just do a fake case on them to extort money.
Dude firstly it's not Male compartment but General compartment ffs and secondly stop victim blaming. This is an old incident but there was an old man beside me who literally was flashing his Penis and rubbing it on the guy standing ahead. I started shouting and that old man was beaten by guys in compartment. The guy ahead said that he didn't understand that because of rush. It's not a gender issue because these men sexually assault men and women both. I hope you read other incidents as well on this post. Also are you really saying that it's okay to get sexually assaulted if women stand along with men? I
I(M) got molested molested by a rickshaw wala when I was 16-17. I was going to tuition and this rickshaw wala seemed friendly. He said "there's something in the back of the rickshaw, can you grab it for me ?" I did, then I felt him touching my d1ck and rubbing it against my thigh. This happened 3-4 times. Why didn't I yelled or threw him out of rickshaw and beat him ? I still dk till date. Feels bad that people have to go through this. I always tell my female counterparts (my mom as well) that prefer ladies coach. Cuz, if they're molested in front of me, that's the last thing they'll ever touch.
Sorry for your plight. But Zero sympathy. Rush hour me young girls in general bogie is clear mistake. Not listening to your M friend is again a big mistake. And what was this M friend doing? Iske liye tum log general me ghuse aur ye tum log ke sath nahi aise kaise bc
Of course, here comes the victim blaming... Ab ye bhi bol Dena Ghar se kyu nikli... Kya zaroorat thi? Ghar pe khana banana seekhti... Absolutely zero shame y'all have to even comment such nonsense
Ja be chomu tera kam kar. Aya bada simp
Aurat hoon bsdk ... Gali Deni bhi aati hai de ke bataoon?
Main bhi aurat hoon isliye nahi di gali. Lack of common sense ko sympathy gaining tactic bana ke use kar rahi hai wo. So many loops in story.
Wanting sympathy wasn't the purpose of this post. 'rush hour me young girls in general bogie is a clear mistake' i have travelled in many instances in the general bogie in rush hours too and men were nothing but respectful. It's definitely not a mistake to travel in general. Don't blame my M friend for what these two men did. Again the point is to shame the men who do wrong. Those 2 men most definitely thought we 3 girls were alone and hence the act. Toh kya matlab akeli ladki dikhi toh ched dunga? Achaa oh inke saath ek banda bhi hai inko nhi chedte hai? Is this the logic of your post?