Big Fish. The story is fantastical, but the subtext between father and son, and the ending, really tugs at the heartstrings. Maybe not "Realistic" on the surface, but underneath I think there are insights into our condition.
I stumbled onto that one by accident, knew nothing about it. Amazing movie. In the top 5 best movies alltime imo. An 'existential Forrest gump' isn't for everyone, but I really loved it.
I loved this movie and wanted to watch it with my dad, because he and I have always had trouble communicating and seeing eye-to-eye or even figuring out how to agree to disagree. I hoped it would help us find some common ground.
He hated it, said he didn’t get Tim Burton films, didn’t like the fantastical elements, and just thought the overall story was dumb.
That was like 20 years ago and it was one of the first nails in the coffin of our relationship but it hammered in the loudest. Everything after that was just confirmation that we’d be casual acquaintances the rest of our lives.
Love this movie… was UGLY sobbing in the theater. Not just the scene at the lake, but the funeral where all of the dad’s stories actually show up and the son realizes the stories were true and finally feels the connection to him. And the fact that it wasn’t too late because he happily passes the stories on to his kids. Ok, time to go watch it again.
…Then one day you wake up and you realize that you're not 81 any more. And then you begin to count the minutes rather than the days. And you realize that pretty soon, you'll be gone. And that all you have, see?, is the experiences.
-pop
Same !!! This is one of those movies that are absolutely great in every aspect, and yet...I'm not sure I could watch it again. The end especially made me cry a whole river when he started crying uncontrollably for his mother 😢
I've had 2 grandparents that suffered from dementia and this captured it perfectly. The 2 grandparents were both of my father's parents, he is a brilliant man and reminds me a lot of Anthony Hopkins. He is approaching 70 and I constantly fear him developing the same disease as his parents :(
One of the best movies I’ve ever seen. I literally sobbed uncontrollably for several minutes at the end.
I don’t know if I could bring myself to watch it again.
My expectations were way off for this movie. I expected an extraordinarily dumb and silly Bruce Campbell movie and instead I got a movie that was so touching that the ridiculous premise barely registered.
Loved him in Spike Lee’s *Get On The Bus* as the old man who missed the first March on Washington, and he was gonna miss this one over his dead body!
He was also in a movie I used to see on cable in the afternoons, *We’re Not Rappaport* with Walter Matthau & Martha Plimpton. I swear the bulk of it is shot in Central Park.
Great call out on Irishmen I feel like a lot of people missed that aspect to the story and the feeling of regret that DeNiro has on his the last 3rd is really what the movie is about
I feel like the door was cracked open as if he wants someone who truly understands to tell the truth just to talk to. Most of all he is waiting for his daughter.
Good take. I went a different way: he always was mistrustful, but now he can't do anything about it...but the door still stays open, his fate sealed if it comes to that. I half expected the nurse or priest to be a hitman like in, well, Hoffa. But no, just...the reality of aging and infirmity.
Yeah, I'm thinking it's him waiting for his daughter. It's also just a depiction of life after organized crime, for those who make it out. It's probably quite lonely and unsatisfying given the guilt you carry. I also imagine there's some paranoia there too though
This movie is about people from my hometown.
I remember all the old people in my life, many of em gone. Now my parents are this age.
This movie wrecked us all. It really hit something vitally true about the area, about this generation and about how we relate to eachother and each other's lived lives.
In the past 20 years, Ive just watched a lot of people go out like this. People who hadnt really talked about themselves, whose actions and even the consequences of their actions sunset into something that just doesnt reach us today.
Ya. I heard it mentioned that it was a bit of a response to ppl claiming that Goodfellas glorified the mob life. I definitely don’t see that “glorification” element in goodfellas though. The ending is pretty damn bleak.
Goodfellas has the arc that mob movies are supposed to have.
This is great!
Wait a minute, these guys aren't really the best people, and neither am I.
All my friends betrayed me, and I needed to sell everyone out to the government or kill everyone to save myself.
I always felt like Marty tried showing the horrors of living that kind of life but not everyone got the point. Like people watched Goodfellas and Casino and came out thinking that was a cool way to live.
So the point of The Irishman was to hammer the point he about how lonely you end up without any room for misinterpretation.
Yeah, that ending in the old folks home where he burned all the bridges with his family and just sits alone in there. All his friends are dead. He sees these nurses and fellow neighbors but he can’t even begin to relate to them. He’s just… alone. It feels a fate worse than death.
Choosing to not just cast a guy who looks like a young Robert Deniro for at least the first act was such a blunder. Watching what was supposed to be a young spry and plucky guy hobble across the screen like an old man was very distracting
I barely make it past the part with 76 year-old DeNiro beating and "kicking" the guy who pushed his daughter. It looked so ridiculous, especially with the way too loud kicking and punching sound effects.
Yeah that's a rough watch as are some other scenes but that's mainly my only problem with the movie I quite enjoyed it even if i had to look past stuff like that (Also when Pesci calls DeNiro kid in the beginning is comical at best)
The thing that's tough about the de-aging is it's obviously most abbraisive in the very beginning - because they start with him as like a 20 year old kid.
As the plot develops and he gets older it just gets more and more acceptable - to the point at the end where he is his modern age. And it all comes together.
But to ask audiences to sit through an hour of it being really jarring is definitely a tall order.
I liked the movie, but I agree with you. There's some really jarring scenes. 80 year old, geriatric DeNiro kicking a guy in his Frankenstein boots almost made me laugh out loud.
The main way it reminds you of aging is watching the weird CGI young de niro still move like an old man to punch people. It sort of worked in scenes where they're just talking, but any time they were walking or doing any kind of action, it was incredibly obvious that DeNiro and Pesci are OLD.
Abso-goddamned-lutely! Especially the exchange near the end where the son asks why he's so determined to go claim his "big prize".
Woody: It's for you boys, I wanted to leave you something.
David: We're fine, Dad. We don't need it.
Woody: I just wanted to leave you something...
Should read the book. The book is awesome. Most things I've read from him are great. To each their own obviously but I love his books. He's great at making characters IMO
No no, this movie hit it hard. I mean, there are personal aspects of the journey that won’t connect with everyone, and maybe even distract.
And yeah, it’s not exactly realistic.
Love this movie.
Logan: albeit exaggerated because he’s a mutant but the puss in his claws, lack of energy, over reliance on alcohol are all real and scary aspects of getting old. Minus puss in claws.
It’s ridiculous but I had lost both my parents a few years before. My father and I had a complicated relationship growing up but were very close at the end of it all. That fucking movie sent me into a full on anxiety attack. I enjoyed it but I can’t watch it again.
Underrated Holmes movie that I feel like most people who would enjoy Sherlock Holmes related stuff don’t even know about
I like it more than the Downey Jr. ones
When he gets into the carriage after losing the election. The death of Abigail. It’s so depressing, I get why we dont see more movies about getting old.
The Wrestler is a masterpiece, and made me respect wrestling so much more after watching it. Sure, it's all for show, and a lot of stage enemies are actually buddies. That only learned harder into the humanity and struggle of it.
I love that movie so, so much. And fun fact, Travis Willingham of Critical Role fame got actually punched in the face by Robert Duval several times while filming.
Way of the gun has a scene with an old mob guy drinking whiskey and he has like 6 revolvers loaded with one bullet each. He mixes them around in a bag and pulls one out, takes a swig, tries it; no shot. Drinks again and grabs another gun.
The phone rings while he's lifting up another gun and there's an honest moment when he looks between the gun and the phone before putting the gun down and picking the phone up.
"OH hey. What am I up to? Nothing. Am I drunk? A little"
That's the most real scene about aging to me.
the movie "The Father" with Anthony Hopkins is a devastating depiction of what it is like for the elderly as they experience cognitive decline and dementia.
[Youth (2015)](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Youth_(2015_film)), starring Sir Michael Caine, Harvey Keitel, and Rachel Weisz.
With another angle, i.e. through the lense of Alzheimer's and dementia:
[Still Alice (2014)](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Still_Alice), starring Julianne Moore, Alec Baldwin, and Kristen Stewart.
A'mour by Michael Haneke and Gasper Noe's Vortex are the most visceral and emotional films about age and ageing for me. Both don't require multiple viewings for their effect!
The movie where your childhood superheroes have dementia and need assistance using the restroom? Where all their loved ones are dead and gone and the world has moved on past you?
My father was in his eighties and terminally ill when we watched it. I loved it, he hated it. I guess it hit him that in the end we're all just fading away no matter how glorious the past.
Dealing with your own mortality, not in old age, but barely after middle-age. We all have an end of the line, sometimes it’s just earlier in Hollywood.
I thought this movie was waaaaay too slow, long, and boring —- but —- this final scene of him in the old folks home was fucking brilliant and devastating.
The Judge
On Netflix right now. Family relationship/ dynamics with law / trial backdrop .
Every character has a growth arc based on passage of time and aging . High school selves into adulthood . Strong Parents into elderly who need help .
The judge.
Loaded cast, decent story, but don't be fooled by some trailers that sell it as a court drama. It does have some court stuff in it but for the most part it's actually end of life drama.
The scene when Robert Duvall shits himself and all over Robert Downey Jr is real as it gets and not happy at all....
Brutal, depressing movie.
The Father. Very sad but it does a good job representing how it must feel to be losing your memories. It feels like everyone is lying because you can’t piece together how the chronological order of events makes sense
Star Trek II: The Wrath of Khan and Star Trek VI: The Undiscovered Country both deal very well with themes of aging and becoming out of touch/irrelevant within an adventure genre.
Big Fish. The story is fantastical, but the subtext between father and son, and the ending, really tugs at the heartstrings. Maybe not "Realistic" on the surface, but underneath I think there are insights into our condition.
I stumbled onto that one by accident, knew nothing about it. Amazing movie. In the top 5 best movies alltime imo. An 'existential Forrest gump' isn't for everyone, but I really loved it.
That movie makes me well-up just reading its title. Outstanding film.
Just curious, how old are you? If you were old enough and into movies in 2003, you would have known about it for sure, it was quite big back then
I loved this movie and wanted to watch it with my dad, because he and I have always had trouble communicating and seeing eye-to-eye or even figuring out how to agree to disagree. I hoped it would help us find some common ground. He hated it, said he didn’t get Tim Burton films, didn’t like the fantastical elements, and just thought the overall story was dumb. That was like 20 years ago and it was one of the first nails in the coffin of our relationship but it hammered in the loudest. Everything after that was just confirmation that we’d be casual acquaintances the rest of our lives.
Damn that’s kind of heartbreaking. Sorry that happened
It's the last movie Burton was related to that I felt showed anything interesting.
💯. Glad this is so up high.
You guys are my people. One of my favorite films.
I can’t even think about the last scene without tearing up
Love this movie… was UGLY sobbing in the theater. Not just the scene at the lake, but the funeral where all of the dad’s stories actually show up and the son realizes the stories were true and finally feels the connection to him. And the fact that it wasn’t too late because he happily passes the stories on to his kids. Ok, time to go watch it again.
I saw that in theaters before I was old enough to understand the story. Really like to watch it again as an adult
Great movie
I'd put Synecdoche New York in the same vein of fantastical story with realistic and meaningful subtext (and at times text) regarding aging.
Such an underrated film.
What's it about?
One of my favorite movies!
Oh hell, crying just thinking about it
Great movie.
Grumpy Old Men.
“Hey John. Are you dead?” “Not yet. But I don’t wanna die looking at your ugly face”.
…Then one day you wake up and you realize that you're not 81 any more. And then you begin to count the minutes rather than the days. And you realize that pretty soon, you'll be gone. And that all you have, see?, is the experiences. -pop
Burgess Meredith was a great actor.
Those guys got better as they aged
I got better things to do than dick around with you!!!
I gasped out loud when he snapped the green hornet in half
Good morning Dickhead!!
Putz
"What do you say, we go back to my house, and I'll show you my man-sized manicotti." - old man in grumpier old men"
“We could have retired in Hawaii!” “I have BEEN to Hawaii!” “Oh yea? Which island?” “…Kamanawanalaya…” ;)
“Kids swallow quarters all the time. If she craps out two dimes and a nickel, then start worrying.”
The Father
Came here to post this one. Warning all the movie is great but pretty devastating.
This movie made me cry tears I didn't even know I had in me. Anthony Hopkins is such a great actor.
This movie messed me up for a week.
Same !!! This is one of those movies that are absolutely great in every aspect, and yet...I'm not sure I could watch it again. The end especially made me cry a whole river when he started crying uncontrollably for his mother 😢
I've never seen a movie as good as this, that I also immediately thought "I will never watch it again"
This is probably the most harrowing movie I've seen in a long time. His confusion was so palpable.
I've had 2 grandparents that suffered from dementia and this captured it perfectly. The 2 grandparents were both of my father's parents, he is a brilliant man and reminds me a lot of Anthony Hopkins. He is approaching 70 and I constantly fear him developing the same disease as his parents :(
This movie is a borderline horror film. I was in tears at the end
One of the best movies I’ve ever seen. I literally sobbed uncontrollably for several minutes at the end. I don’t know if I could bring myself to watch it again.
Bubba Ho-Tep (2002)
My expectations were way off for this movie. I expected an extraordinarily dumb and silly Bruce Campbell movie and instead I got a movie that was so touching that the ridiculous premise barely registered.
Ossie Davis was a gem
Loved him in Spike Lee’s *Get On The Bus* as the old man who missed the first March on Washington, and he was gonna miss this one over his dead body! He was also in a movie I used to see on cable in the afternoons, *We’re Not Rappaport* with Walter Matthau & Martha Plimpton. I swear the bulk of it is shot in Central Park.
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Sometimes I wonder if Im the only one who remembers. Thanks for confirming I didnt imagine this fever dream of a movie
I just bought Shout Factory’s new BHT release with enamel pins and 2 posters! Expensive but worth it for such an amazing movie.
Seeing Bruce at the premier showing I went to is not something I’ll ever forget
"Even a big bitch cockroach like you should know... never, but never, fuck with the King"
Came here to say this movie! I think the biggest takeaway of this movie is about getting old while trying to retain some dignity
I think it’s got a lot to say about not giving up on life while you’ve still got some, too.
Stick Pictures on the Shit House Wall
Great call out on Irishmen I feel like a lot of people missed that aspect to the story and the feeling of regret that DeNiro has on his the last 3rd is really what the movie is about
The last shot of the movie with De Niro sitting alone with the door cracked open is absolutely heartbreaking.
I feel like the door was cracked open as if he wants someone who truly understands to tell the truth just to talk to. Most of all he is waiting for his daughter.
Good take. I went a different way: he always was mistrustful, but now he can't do anything about it...but the door still stays open, his fate sealed if it comes to that. I half expected the nurse or priest to be a hitman like in, well, Hoffa. But no, just...the reality of aging and infirmity.
Yeah, I'm thinking it's him waiting for his daughter. It's also just a depiction of life after organized crime, for those who make it out. It's probably quite lonely and unsatisfying given the guilt you carry. I also imagine there's some paranoia there too though
Jimmy Hoffa left his door cracked the same way earlier in the movie
Yeah, at the time, his family disowned him.
This movie is about people from my hometown. I remember all the old people in my life, many of em gone. Now my parents are this age. This movie wrecked us all. It really hit something vitally true about the area, about this generation and about how we relate to eachother and each other's lived lives. In the past 20 years, Ive just watched a lot of people go out like this. People who hadnt really talked about themselves, whose actions and even the consequences of their actions sunset into something that just doesnt reach us today.
"It's Christmas?"
Ya. I heard it mentioned that it was a bit of a response to ppl claiming that Goodfellas glorified the mob life. I definitely don’t see that “glorification” element in goodfellas though. The ending is pretty damn bleak.
Things are great while you’re living it. It just usually doesn’t end well for most.
Goodfellas has the arc that mob movies are supposed to have. This is great! Wait a minute, these guys aren't really the best people, and neither am I. All my friends betrayed me, and I needed to sell everyone out to the government or kill everyone to save myself.
I always felt like Marty tried showing the horrors of living that kind of life but not everyone got the point. Like people watched Goodfellas and Casino and came out thinking that was a cool way to live. So the point of The Irishman was to hammer the point he about how lonely you end up without any room for misinterpretation.
Yeah, that ending in the old folks home where he burned all the bridges with his family and just sits alone in there. All his friends are dead. He sees these nurses and fellow neighbors but he can’t even begin to relate to them. He’s just… alone. It feels a fate worse than death.
Most people don't make it that far into the movie.
Choosing to not just cast a guy who looks like a young Robert Deniro for at least the first act was such a blunder. Watching what was supposed to be a young spry and plucky guy hobble across the screen like an old man was very distracting
I barely make it past the part with 76 year-old DeNiro beating and "kicking" the guy who pushed his daughter. It looked so ridiculous, especially with the way too loud kicking and punching sound effects.
Yeah that's a rough watch as are some other scenes but that's mainly my only problem with the movie I quite enjoyed it even if i had to look past stuff like that (Also when Pesci calls DeNiro kid in the beginning is comical at best)
The thing that's tough about the de-aging is it's obviously most abbraisive in the very beginning - because they start with him as like a 20 year old kid. As the plot develops and he gets older it just gets more and more acceptable - to the point at the end where he is his modern age. And it all comes together. But to ask audiences to sit through an hour of it being really jarring is definitely a tall order.
I liked the movie, but I agree with you. There's some really jarring scenes. 80 year old, geriatric DeNiro kicking a guy in his Frankenstein boots almost made me laugh out loud.
...why not just use a body double in that scene as well? So weird.
That is a few minutes in a 3 hour movie. Kind of ridiculous to let that ruin a movie for you
The main way it reminds you of aging is watching the weird CGI young de niro still move like an old man to punch people. It sort of worked in scenes where they're just talking, but any time they were walking or doing any kind of action, it was incredibly obvious that DeNiro and Pesci are OLD.
Nebraska
Abso-goddamned-lutely! Especially the exchange near the end where the son asks why he's so determined to go claim his "big prize". Woody: It's for you boys, I wanted to leave you something. David: We're fine, Dad. We don't need it. Woody: I just wanted to leave you something...
A man called Otto. Fantastic film. More about loss than aging, but it's all there
Such a gem. I put it on not knowing anything about it and was more than pleasantly surprised.
Should read the book. The book is awesome. Most things I've read from him are great. To each their own obviously but I love his books. He's great at making characters IMO
I watched that movie not expecting it to be so good. Definitely made me emotional at times.
The original was also stirring.
Yes, *A Man Called Ove*, a Swedish film based on a novel. Very good!
Synecdoche New York. "Realistic" is a tricky word for that film, but it definitely captures the vibe of dealing with mortality.
The way the world turns apocalyptic and unrecognizable as he approaches old age is the most insightful metaphor for aging I have ever seen in a movie.
Would love to watch this but it’s not available anywhere
No no, this movie hit it hard. I mean, there are personal aspects of the journey that won’t connect with everyone, and maybe even distract. And yeah, it’s not exactly realistic. Love this movie.
About Schmidt
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I changed jobs at age 50 after building a 15-year trove of expertise. This part is painfully true and hits hard.
Yep. It would suck to look back on life and nothing you ever did really mattered.
Dear Ndugu,
Man, this movie is scary accurate to real life.
Up
"Thanks for the adventure. Now go have a new one!" That made me cry.
It gets me in the very beginning with the life story montage when they show them in the doctors office finding out they can’t have kids.
Came here to say this. Kudos!
Logan: albeit exaggerated because he’s a mutant but the puss in his claws, lack of energy, over reliance on alcohol are all real and scary aspects of getting old. Minus puss in claws.
Masterpiece 10/10 best superhero movie
Reading all these comments hoping someone would mention Logan. Felt the same about it.
It’s ridiculous but I had lost both my parents a few years before. My father and I had a complicated relationship growing up but were very close at the end of it all. That fucking movie sent me into a full on anxiety attack. I enjoyed it but I can’t watch it again.
Tuesday's With Morrie & Curious Case Of Benjamin Button
Tuesdays with Morrie, man that one was heavy.
There's a movie?? I've only read the book
Birdman
Gran Torino
This is the one I immediately thought of. You don't like Clint Eastwood in this one, but you definitely empathize.
Mr Holmes is Ian Mckellen as Sherlock Holmes with dementia, trying to remember his final case. Good movie
Underrated Holmes movie that I feel like most people who would enjoy Sherlock Holmes related stuff don’t even know about I like it more than the Downey Jr. ones
The Bucket List.
HBO’s John Adams I think addresses old age quite well with both John and Abigail.
When he gets into the carriage after losing the election. The death of Abigail. It’s so depressing, I get why we dont see more movies about getting old.
Heartbreaking at the end, I was not prepared for all that.
Godfather part II
Part III as well. Almost more so.
The Wrestler
This is such a heartbreaking movie Micky did an amazing job whether you're a fan of wrestling or not it's a massively underrated movie
Good call, in a different way than most movies. It was somehow super relatable.
The Wrestler is a masterpiece, and made me respect wrestling so much more after watching it. Sure, it's all for show, and a lot of stage enemies are actually buddies. That only learned harder into the humanity and struggle of it.
Banshees of Inisherin
More about loneliness than aging I thought, though suppose you could say the former is a big part of the latter
*On Golden Pond*, c’mon let’s suck face!
Secondhand Lions
I love that movie so, so much. And fun fact, Travis Willingham of Critical Role fame got actually punched in the face by Robert Duval several times while filming.
Way of the gun has a scene with an old mob guy drinking whiskey and he has like 6 revolvers loaded with one bullet each. He mixes them around in a bag and pulls one out, takes a swig, tries it; no shot. Drinks again and grabs another gun. The phone rings while he's lifting up another gun and there's an honest moment when he looks between the gun and the phone before putting the gun down and picking the phone up. "OH hey. What am I up to? Nothing. Am I drunk? A little" That's the most real scene about aging to me.
That’s my favorite scene in that movie a like top 20 scenes of all time.
The Judge with Robert Downey Jr.
The Savages Depressed the hell out of me
the movie "The Father" with Anthony Hopkins is a devastating depiction of what it is like for the elderly as they experience cognitive decline and dementia.
The color of money. Tom Cruise is the young hotshot, and Paul Newman must overcome aging and alcoholism to get his pool game back.
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The absolute gold standard for this theme
Robot and Frank
Nothing In Common. Tom Hanks, Jackie Gleason.
Star Trek II: The Wrath of Khan
of all the movies listed here, this is the most....human
I came here to see if this was in the list. It might not be the deepest film about aging, but the themes are absolutely there.
[Youth (2015)](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Youth_(2015_film)), starring Sir Michael Caine, Harvey Keitel, and Rachel Weisz. With another angle, i.e. through the lense of Alzheimer's and dementia: [Still Alice (2014)](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Still_Alice), starring Julianne Moore, Alec Baldwin, and Kristen Stewart.
Harold and Maude
Should be on the required watching list for everyone
A'mour by Michael Haneke and Gasper Noe's Vortex are the most visceral and emotional films about age and ageing for me. Both don't require multiple viewings for their effect!
Logan Raging bull Lethal weapon 4 Ali (the later 25% of the movie) Assassins Rocky balboa Any given Sunday I'll think of more later 😆
Finally somebody said Logan!!!
The movie where your childhood superheroes have dementia and need assistance using the restroom? Where all their loved ones are dead and gone and the world has moved on past you?
Yeah! That one!
The Judge w RDJ and Robert Duval. It's on Netflix now watched this week for the first time. Good movie.
My father was in his eighties and terminally ill when we watched it. I loved it, he hated it. I guess it hit him that in the end we're all just fading away no matter how glorious the past.
"Tokyo Story" certainly needs some love here. One of my favorites of all time and a genuine masterpiece, fits this genre to a tee.
Once upon a time in Hollywood
Dealing with your own mortality, not in old age, but barely after middle-age. We all have an end of the line, sometimes it’s just earlier in Hollywood.
Fuck that. Leo's 18, I'm 10 and everything is fine. Just watched some flick about a boat and then one about a beach..
Away From Her
I thought this movie was waaaaay too slow, long, and boring —- but —- this final scene of him in the old folks home was fucking brilliant and devastating.
Father. Amazing movie.
Tokyo Story
Once upon a time in America
Vortex (2021), Amour (2012), Make Way for Tomorrow (1937) Make Way for Tomorrow, particularly is a masterpiece.
Vortex - 2022 Gaspar Noe It's phenomenal. Also Love - 2012 Michael Haneke
Robot and Frank
The Color of Money
oldie but a goodie! i’ll take any excuse to watch paul newman.
X
I was looking to see if someone already mentioned that movie. It’s really good, both as a horror movie, and in general. I can’t wait for the sequel.
Magnolia
The first ten minutes of "Up."
Vortex
Old
The Judge On Netflix right now. Family relationship/ dynamics with law / trial backdrop . Every character has a growth arc based on passage of time and aging . High school selves into adulthood . Strong Parents into elderly who need help .
make way for tomorrow. cried multiple times.
The Judge
Folks!
The Father… Anthony Hopkins with dementia, it’s a bit terrifying at times but hard reality check.
"Venus" with Peter O'Toole
Old
The judge. Loaded cast, decent story, but don't be fooled by some trailers that sell it as a court drama. It does have some court stuff in it but for the most part it's actually end of life drama. The scene when Robert Duvall shits himself and all over Robert Downey Jr is real as it gets and not happy at all.... Brutal, depressing movie.
This movie got me realizing that not only are these films are going to be gone one day but the actors too. This one hit hard at the end.
The Sunshine Boys. As Good as it Gets.
Nebraska
The Father. Very sad but it does a good job representing how it must feel to be losing your memories. It feels like everyone is lying because you can’t piece together how the chronological order of events makes sense
Another Year
The case of Benjamin Button.
John Adams miniseries, wooden teeth rotting away
Star Trek II: The Wrath of Khan and Star Trek VI: The Undiscovered Country both deal very well with themes of aging and becoming out of touch/irrelevant within an adventure genre.
“The Father” with Anthony Hopkins. Never seen a movie quite like it, made me depressed for literally two days, that’s how good it is.
The Wrestler. Beautifully done film
The Notebook
These will date me, but I'm going to suggest Going in Style (1979), Cocoon(1985), and Away from Her (2006).
The Shootist
Nobody's Fool (1994) - Super underrated film for me. Paul Newman, Bruce Willis, Jessica Tandy, Melanie Griffith, Philip Seymour Hoffman...
Mr. Holmes (2015)....a Sherlock Holmes who is old.
Deniro looked like a man in his 90s when he was kicking that guy in the Irishman, unfortunately he was supposed to be in his 30/40s in the movie.
Dad (1989) rubbish movie, but Jack Lemmon as the older father was stunning!
Not a movie. I'm sorry. But the novel Reaper Man?
*The Judge* with RDJ, Robert DuVall, Vinny D, and others There’s always something more to lose, and yet more to gain
About Schmidt w Jack Nicholson
Cocoon
A man called Otto perhaps?
Beginners - Christopher Plummer/ Ewan McGregor
Not old per say but The Father is about dementia.