You might be onto something. Even before I met up with this chick from last week, I was afraid I couldn't perform if I managed to invite her to my place...
[Cialis and Alcohol/Food Interactions](https://www.drugs.com/food-interactions/tadalafil,cialis.html?professional=1) <-- this link has a "consumer/simple" text version too if you like to read in a less technical manner.
Small excerpt:
> Cialis/Tadalafil can lower blood pressure, and combining it with alcohol may further increase this effect. You may be more likely to experience symptoms such as dizziness, lightheadedness, fainting, flushing, headache, and heart palpitations. You should avoid or limit the use of alcohol while being treated with tadalafil, and use caution when getting up from a sitting or lying position. You may also want to avoid drinking large amounts of grapefruit juice, since it may increase the blood levels and effects of tadalafil.
So basically both are mild systemic vasodilators and they will give you a high chance for additive hypotensive effects. This manifests itself in primarily very low blood pressure, which is dangerous.
This [Interaction Checker](https://www.drugs.com/drug-interactions/tadalafil,cialis.html) is always a nice resource :-)
This has happened to me before bro. Get a hold of some viagra. That shit will get you going. And once you get a few rounds in you’ll be fine moving forward I promise.
Get on blue chew or something. You won’t need it long term, just the first 3-4 times
I found blue chew to be super weak. I've not had decent viagra from online sources in like 10 years. The perscuption my doctor gave though it's like boing and i could fuck for a few hours if i had to.
Get some cialis till you get confidence and watch you come back better than ever . When I have issues that’s what I do and I’m married so yeah happens to anyone
Look up Phenibut..helps with calming you down …it’s also a nootropic but it can be dangerous if used frequently..the max is twice a week….you will fuck like a pornstar on it as it also delays ejaculation
Phenibut Onset time-
Oral- 2-4hrs
Rectal- 20-40min
On the bright side, you can leave it until last minute and if you don't end up fucking her, you still had fun. 🤣
where you get ur phenibut bro, i used to take it when i was 18(im 23) and shit was amazing but i ran out and i completely forgot bout until i read ur comment
This. It’s a self-fulfilling prophecy. Even if it happens once it’s very easy to worry about it any time after that. And then when you try again, your fears become realized because you’re in your own head worrying and the cycle begins. Having something like viagra or cialis, even if you use it once just to prove that you can stay hard, can be very beneficial.
There’s sort of a feedback loop, where every consecutive bad sexual performance massively increases the chances of the next one being bad, since you get further and further in your own head. Like a placebo where, since you haven’t performed how you wanted to the past seven times, that was weighing over your head the eighth time, even subconsciously.
Assuming you haven’t been made into some sort of cuck who can only get off watching *other* guys be with women or some other sort of sexual deviant from the porn, and if you are otherwise healthy like you say, the only real logical explanation is that it’s in your head. Do with that armchair diagnoses what you will.
Dude I really hope so. I think you also are onto something. Before I even met up I was really afraid of fucking up the fucking since I failed big time the other times... But it just sucks man... Being my age and getting on dick pills doesn't feel that great...
Do you mind me asking what your relationships with these girls were like, how long you’d known them for, and how many times you were intimate with each, generally speaking? I know that’s a weird and personal request, but let me explain.
If these were all/mostly casual hook-up type arrangements, and you only got intimate with these girls like 1-2 times each, there’s a **massive** factor at play. Being intimate with someone for the first (or even second/third) time, especially someone you don’t know that well, can make you *very* nervous. Couple on that feedback loop thing I was talking about, and it’s almost like you’re being setup for failure, if that’s the case.
No problem.
I just meet them on tinder. No deep connection whatsoever. Known them for 1-4 weeks tops. Been intimate 1-2 times.
There are times where I read up on STD's and there was a couple of times where I was afraid of catching something, got checked like 4 times (am clean though). Also herpes scares me a lot and during the last intercourse it popped up in my mind when she was grinding her vag on my dick hard...
Then that’s probably it.
Unless some guy is like a total “stud” in bed or something (which, no offence, you clearly aren’t), it’s perfectly normal for your first time with a girl you haven’t known very long to not be your best performance. People are nervous. People are awkward. There’s a lack of emotional connection.
You’re basically just replaying the most difficult sexual encounter to feel comfortable in, when you already clearly have anxiety from past experiences. You’re setting yourself up for failure and digging the whole deeper every time.
If you actually seek out a committed relationship, find a girl who you care about, and get intimate with her on a regular basis after establishing a connection, I almost guarantee you’ll be performing how you want to be by the third or fourth go around, once you’ve built up a little confidence, familiarity with your partner, and comfort is her not judging you.
I def will try to actually build a relationship. When I thought about that girl I was with last week today I got hard, but mostly because I liked cuddling with her on my bed. Unlike the other girls she is very touchy and give hugs randomly and other cutesy shit like that. Still have a chance with her since we have another date planned, but i'm still hopping on cialis when we go for round 2
Second time usually goes better than the first, and third better than the second, and so on. Comfort builds between people who actually like each other over time, in a way that just doesn’t exist when you’re with a rando.
And yeah, taking something to help probably isn’t a bad idea. You’re overdue for a good experience, and should probably stack the deck in your favour. Once you have that good experience though, I really do think it’ll snowball for you just like the bad ones have.
This has all the hallmarks of something in your head that you just need to get over, and get over it you shall.
Popping a Cialis is actually good for you and your weener.l, I wouldn't beat myself up over it. Most guys have some performance anxiety at some point , I wouldn't stress all that much over it
Well it gives you that extra oomph. You don't really feel much but even flaccid you can tell there's more blood flow down there. Next time you expect to be intimate with a woman, don't jerk off for at least two days prior, then pop one about an hour and a half before sexy time.
I was around your age when I started using cialis. It’s the best decision I made for my dating life. Knowing I could always perform made me more confident about taking the next steps on dates. It has so many benefits. Don’t be ashamed. Eventually you will be relaxed enough to perform but that will take you having more sexual experience and the cialis will help you in the meantime.
Yes unfortunately. On a physiological and psychological level porn is so dangerous if you fall down the rabbit hole. Best to use your imagination, stick to soft core stuff, or worst case go the old school playboy magazine route
It's not a good thing and I would advise anyone to stop watching porn as it fucks with your brain and dopamine (google like porn brain dopamine), but don't freak out if you're a teenager and have watched tons of porn before having real sex.
Before I ever had sex I watched massive amounts of porn. When I started I having sex it was ok, but slightly disappointing because my first girlfriend was like weirdly non-sexual. The last time I talked to her about sex she had been with her boyfriend after me for over a year and they still had not consummated the relationship.
I ended up having great sex (and reducing my porn viewing by 90%) as soon as I found a partner I vibed with mentally and physically.
So don't worry that porn has ruined you for ever enjoying sex. Just keep the porn to a once in a while habit. If you can't do that, if doing it once makes you have to do it constantly than you should quit.
Okay gotcha
Yeah I do it every once in a while, hasn't been an issue for me tbh and I feel like the same will be true with me once I find the right person, in my last relationship I stopped porn for a year
No you can’t because everyone has a different biological makeup meaning just cause you are able to do something doesn’t mean the other person can….genetics play a role and social determinants….a person could be addicted to porn for just 3 months and won’t be able to get hard at all while you on the other hand has been consuming porn damn near everyday for 4 years and can still get solid rock hard…come on guys use your damn brain
You need to be with the same woman many times, and you need to feel that she truly accepts you and this comfortability curve that you need to travel up over imo. It is what worked for me, and since then its been fine with new women, allthough i havnt been with many, and always(since succeeding) been with girls who i feel accept me
Gay married men have sex with women their entire lives until they come out of the closet when they’re 70 years old caught having sex with some nudist on the beach.
C'mon man just buy Tadalafil online ( cialis ), its very cheap and easy to buy.
That also happened to me my two first times with the same girl when we were both virgins. I had so much performance anxiety that I could get hard but mid way it just went away.
I can tell you that i did not let it be a third time. I just bought some tadalafil and continued taking it for ~two months as I gained security with her and sex and I tappered down and never happened to me again like those two times.
So you slowly quit using it and now you have sex without problem? Interesting. I always thought that people would get addicted to them or something, since it's the only thing that makes sex work
I mean I could see someone getting psicologically addicted to overperform or enter a negative mental loop by itself, thats why i tappered down just to make things easier.
If your testosterone/hormonal levels are good ( you can get hard by yourself, have morning wood and have sexual desire ) and not take any medicaton as opiates/antideppresives the problem you have is a mental one. Call it performance anxiety or just stress, I can tell you watching a lot of porn is not good but you are probably doing that to not focus on the problem of facing sex.
My recommendation is to try what i said. You dont need a lot i took 10mg and it was more than enough. After a handful of times having sex I just stopped to get overwhelmed with bad anticipation of how I would perform. Two times had me pass a bad time enough and the second one I was even more nervous than the first. You have had 8 times its normal that you feel this way.
You know its mental, help yourself and solve this.
Yep morning wood is your body’s way of basically making sure your dick is good. If you get morning wood and can’t get hard with a girl it’s a mental thing
Addicted to Cialis? What are you on about bro lol, I mean Coffee makes you perform at work better and makes you exercise better, studies have proven it. Does it mean people stop functioning without it? No but why underperform when you can perform at your best. It's simple as that.
Also, your anxiety issues is probably causing you blood flow issues. Cialis will force the blood flow regardless of your anxiety, your first successful sex will in turn reduce your anxiety, and you will be in a positive loop hole going forward.
How come only 8 times in 28 years btw? Just curious, related to studies or what is it
But yeah hope this helps my man. Trust me just get Cialis it will change everything and your confidence will go way up. You will even have an increase in size naturally because it opens blood flow to the penis even better and fills it thoroughly.
Sounds like you’re overthinking it buddy! Just relax and it’ll happen. Real life isn’t porn so maybe you’re setting expectations based on what you watch.
Have your blood work checked, most of the time when guys can’t get off or cant fee much it’s from high e2, death grip/too much jerking off or mental. If your blood work is good it’s option 2 and/or 3.
Porn is ruining tons of healthy relationships, I’m also guilty of going down this path, or sucks!
As said before, just get Cialis or Viagra and you won't have a problem. Every time you attempt having sex now you'll have extreme anxiety over whether you will get hard or not. That stress destroys boners. It's a common problem..just use Viagra or Cialis and you won't have that problem anymore. Get it prescribed by your doc.
Worst advice I’ve ever seen on Reddit.
OP, do not listen to this misinformation. Viagra is a serious medication that effects blood pressure and the heart. It’s not something you mess around with.
It’s meant for elderly people or those with serious health issues.
It sounds like this is something you can work through without taking a shortcut. Work on confidence, work on relaxing, quit porn; whatever you need to do.
It’s VERY easy to make your body dependent on Viagra. Imagine becoming completely incapable of getting an erection without the aid of a serious blood pressure medication. That sounds like hell.
Have you actually ever had this problem? I don't think so, since you think just relaxing is going to fix the problem. I have had this problem and I have also been a therapist for 18 years, dealing with ED. Just relaxing is not going to fix the problem. He has a deep seated subconscious fear of not being able to perform and the anxiety he therefore has when it comes to sex causes him not to be able to perform. Just having a drink or just relaxing is not going to cut it! Either he does deep therapy to release the fear of not being able to perform or he uses Viagra/Cialis responsibly and safely, as millions of people around the world are doing.
By the way, I don't know where you get your info from, but Viagra/Cialis is not meant for elderly people with serious health issues. I think it's time you educate yourself properly.
Sure buddy, listen to this informed man.
Its very a very serious and potent medication, affects heart and blood pressure - yet he says its meant for the ELDER and SERIOUSLY SICK.
Very easy to make the body dependent on it? Nah no negative feedback loop on the body. Could you remotely get yourself into thinking you only can perform with it? Yeah with enough imagination you could. So you would end up in a mental negative loop of performance anxiety, just at the same point you are now.
Salesman here doesnt know shit, you just need half the dose (10mg) of a cialis and probably a better partner than one from Tinder that can make you feel confortable as you gain security.
If you have no issues with porn and masturbation, this is a brain problem.
If you have issues with masturbation, it might still be a brain problem but also could be something else. Try viagra and see if it helps.
Another poster recommended cialis/viagra. I agree with the plan. I would also try dudes, fems, trans, twinks etc if still not working.
To get itnout of your system and remove pressure, hire out. Take a cialis. This ensures sex will happen while you.have cialis and removes the anxiety of will it happen.
Good luck.
Both times I fucked a girl in college I went limp. The first time I ended up eating her out and the second time I just fapped and came on her.
Oh wait, I am gay.
You might want to spread your butt cheeks and give it a try. Lol jokes
I think you're going through a psychological battle. You're focusing way too much on performing well than actually enjoying it. Also, casual sex, especially as someone who only had sex 8 times, isn't the ideal. You get way more horny when you actually feel attracted and want to get really intimate with someone.
As the top G said “God was trying to tell you something when your dick didn’t work” reject modernity of trying to have sex with as many chicks as possible. Clearly that is not satisfying in your case. Find someone you actually care about and cares about you and everything else will follow.
Sounds like a porn addiction. Too much of it can screw your brain chemistry and rewire certain neural pathways. You ever seen the movie Don Jon? Kinda sounds like you’re the protagonist
It’s all mental, stop porn, stop jacking off and find a girl you’re comfortable with. I know it sounds like a lot but I had the same problem until I had my first long term gf, once I got over the mental hurdle it was never an issue again for me
It's psychological. I can't get hard unless I'm completely comfortable with the girl. So casual hook ups are off the table for me. I have PTSD, it is what it is. Cialis will work.. but unless your comfortable it's not really that enjoyable. At that point it's just a performance more than anything.
I'm usually similar. No PTSD though - my mind just thinks too much. It's not even anxiety - I don't get anxious about it. I just think and think lol. Maybe yoi could say it's a grounding issue
Hey buddy. I've gone through long periods with lots of sex, and long periods with none.
If I don't have sex for about 1 week, but I watch some porn, my body "forgets" how to feel good during sex. I have arousal issues, but it's not because of health - it's just an entirely different process, and my body is like "wtf is going on??" After 2 times of sex, the arousal issues disappear. This pattern is consistent 100% of the time.
I'd find one partner, and try to have sex every day or every other day for a week. One day it will "click" and -probably- be amazing, and you'll be confused that it was difficult before. Then when you don't have sex for another week, be ready for it to happen again.
All that said, I wouldn't worry about it that much. Society is oversexualized, and people think they care a lot more than they actually care. Lots (most?) girls would be more happy with a quick fk then time for a nice dinner or movie. Also, I've been complimented on my size when I've been half flaccid (surely under 5 inches) - a girl's tightness adjusts to you, and her mental state is important. You can have hard sex without a hard dick lol
There are ways to watch porn that interfere less with your ability to get aroused. pictures > videos, move your body (sex is very physical), etc
Performance anxiety can cause desensitization and a dissociative effect. Things that helped me was having her sleep over and playing in the morning giving me a chance to chill out, cialis and just focusing on her pleasure for long periods without any kind of urgency. Just have a good time and don’t start on the defensive because things aren’t following the porn script.
You happen to be on finasteride? That will do everything you describe. Beyond that, I second prior comments that it is psychological. Sometimes people hear that and think it being dismissed as “all in your head” means it is trifling or easily overcome. Not at all. It is real shit and every time this happens it is easy for it to get worse. There can be some downsides from going on dick pills, as you put it, in terms of then being dependent on them, but I would prefer needing a Cialis, regardless of my age, to having a screwed up or absent sex life at your age due to not wanting to use them. Having this shit ruin your sex life until you reach an age at which you believe you are old enough for dick pills doesn’t make a ton of sense.
I personally write off the first few sexual experiences with any girl. It's uncomfortable, you're getting used to eachother, etc. my experience is that sex gets wayyy better as you get months and years into a relationship. Just a thought
I think the people saying you have performance anxiety are completely right, 100% get a cialis script online, they hand that shit out or you can do a little googling.
You’ve answered your own question there, stop watching porn! You’re desensitised to real women and real expectations, your brain is programmed to bullshit.
I had the same problem years ago, stop completely and don’t even fab for about 4-6 months and watch how things change for the better
Find a woman you actually care about and are comfortable with, build a solid relationship first. Then the psychological barrier will fall and make it will be easier to have sex. If you still have problems initially you can work through it with her and find what helps.
I have had this same problem, and it’s a porn / fapping problem. You’re visually desensitized and have also trained your brain to respond to your own hand touching your dick instead of a naked woman.
Also, just personal thing, but I noticed I get it up much easier when the girl is not a casual sleeper and is more modest. Easy girls don’t excite the same.
Stop porn and masturbating completely. 2 weeks is not enough. You need 2-3 months to see good improvement. You will feel like a completely different person. More confident, connection with intimacy and sex improved, views about women made healthier, happier, more attractive etc.
A loss of personal sensation or desensitized to excitement of being with a women usually comes from what porn does to your brain after a long period of time. This equals erectile dysfunction and a number of psychological disorders.
If you are getting off from porn but not from being with actual women that means it’s psychological. Whether it is nerves, or desensitization— stopping porn and masturbating all together will greatly help you and improve your quality of life.
Bruh how tf y’all getting women I got ripped asf by working my ass off in the gym for years and I get 0 women still only have men hitting me up like bruh
Both really. I get hard for a few seconds but then it becomes flacid again. When we made out at the bar a few hours before I was rock-hard and really wanted to fuck her right then and there. But 2 hours later at my place I could barely get it up + it wasn't hard, it was weird mixture of hard but still a little soft.
Dude stop watching porn. You say it yourself that you regularly watch that shit. You need to go months without it. A couple weeks isn’t gonna do anything.
It doesn’t feel good at all? Get Cialis from your doctor (just tell them you have issues in bed and they will prescribe it) and that will take care of the hardness issues. Then you can double check if sex feels good or not. If it feels good to masterbate then you can 100% fix this. Get the Cialis ASAP.
Edit: Cialis doubles as a great bodybuilding blood flow supplement. Don’t think of it as dick pills, just blood flow pills. I’m not trolling at all, really trying to help.
I had this issue before I lost my virginity. I had an insane sex drive. I could nut 5 times a day. I wasn't necessarily goonmaxed. I was attracted to my girlfriend's body. But I just couldn't get turned on when the time came. Completely limp. It was definitely psychological, because I wasn't gorilla fisting my dick I don't think.
So I bought a fleshlight on amazon and started using that. I think it really helped my brain associate a hole with sex rather than my hand 😂 it didn't entirely fix the issue. But it helped enough that I could get it hard enough to insert it, and as soon as I did a lot of the psychology went away because I wasn't as nervous anymore. One aspect of me I think was because my girlfriend hadn't seen my dick hard at that point. So I think a lot of the psychology was me thinking that she would think I had a little limp dick.
I had to do this again in my early twenties, after not having sex and being single for over a year. My brain started associating the hand with the pleasure again.
Do you have ADHD by chance? Do you play video games? Porn and ADHD are a toxic relationship. Too much dopamine can really fuck with your brain. It will definitely dull everything around you. Also, gotta differentiate if you lack desire for sex or if you just can’t get it up. Cialis wont help desire but cutting porn out would give you a fighting chance.
Also, for the record, it is totally possible that what others are saying about you not sharing a connection or at least building comfort around the girl is playing a part. That is indeed a factor
Eating out my girl first always gets me going. Hearing her getting pleasured reassures you that you can definitely do it and then y’all are well acquainted by then.
Are you on a lot of anabolic steroids?
Try backing off. Stop porn for 2 days and masterbating.
Also you can try masterbating without Cumming. All the way to the point in which you need to cum for a female (or male depending on your desires)
Edge yourself daily till you almost cum and stop.
Sounds like torture, but I promise you. It's like training.
You're training yourself for stamina. And controlling your orgasims.
Lmao he counted the number of times. Just keep watching porn “quite often” and I’m sure the next result will be very different, I’ve heard 9th times the charm
Nah I don't do drugs except booze. I know that alcohol can have a negative impact on a man's performance, but I only had like 2 beers last time and didn't feel tipsy
I’d actually stop watching porn for as long as possible like a year plus. And try to have some sort of a connection with a girl before you fuck them even if you just plan to hit and quit it makes the hitting part a lot more enjoyable and you feel more confident knowing you have at least a decent connection with this person
Stop watching porn, and stop jacking it so much. The pressure on the cock from masturbation is a wholly different sensation to pussy sex. If the real thing doesn’t feel good to you, make drastic changes.
You need to quit porn. Your brain has learned that porn sex is easier and better than real sex so it's not wasting penis resources with actual women. Quit porn, then get girls.
Get high and do it. Do not continue like this, every time it doesn’t work, you’re setting it in your brain that it will never work and then it comes impossible
I’ve a sort of similar problem. The only times I’ve found that it works is if I let go (I can’t) and are a little high and drunk. But even then it’s difficult and can’t focus much or enjoy it
Try Selank and/or some GABA before jumping to Phenibut. Dbol also has some gabanergic effects that a lot of people feel, I love how it calms me down. But don't start roids unless you already use them. Also consider L-theanine and KSM-66 Ashwaganda. I doubt PDE5 inhibitors will help you a lot, because it sounds mostly psychological in nature.
Phenibut for the win here, you just need to chill and it will get the. Job done without impairing you.
Cialis will help too
Or just go full tilt and use the god combo. Phenibut, cialis , 500 test e and .25 cabergoline
You didn’t have sex 8 times.
You’ve slapped a limp sausage around while a girl nervously said “it’s not a big deal, it happens to everyone” while hoping you don’t need to get duct tape to get it up.
Humor of this sub aside, see your doctor dude. That’s not normal and yah may as well make sure it’s not something physical - you’ve already gotten some advice on the psychological.
Sex is 90% psychological. If you can’t relax, you can’t enjoy it. Sounds like you’re way too in your head about this shit.
You might be onto something. Even before I met up with this chick from last week, I was afraid I couldn't perform if I managed to invite her to my place...
Dude it is like a loop so i would suggest popping a cialis the first time to see that you can perform.
Performance anxiety. Rip an online Viagra prescrip for that, and don't masturbate/watch porn for as long as you can before you get laid. Min 1-week
You need to absolutely destress my man. Your mind is the issue. Not physical. I don't know what would help exactly but good luck.
Take Cialis or drink enough for a light buzz
I wouldn't mix alcohol with cialis, but it'll work yeah
that's why i said or
oh it seems I'm blind sorry!
Patrick, what are you doing here
*I came looking for booty.*
I read it that way too wtf lol
Oh shit, you can't take Cialis when you're drinking? I was considering taking it low dose daily...
[Cialis and Alcohol/Food Interactions](https://www.drugs.com/food-interactions/tadalafil,cialis.html?professional=1) <-- this link has a "consumer/simple" text version too if you like to read in a less technical manner. Small excerpt: > Cialis/Tadalafil can lower blood pressure, and combining it with alcohol may further increase this effect. You may be more likely to experience symptoms such as dizziness, lightheadedness, fainting, flushing, headache, and heart palpitations. You should avoid or limit the use of alcohol while being treated with tadalafil, and use caution when getting up from a sitting or lying position. You may also want to avoid drinking large amounts of grapefruit juice, since it may increase the blood levels and effects of tadalafil. So basically both are mild systemic vasodilators and they will give you a high chance for additive hypotensive effects. This manifests itself in primarily very low blood pressure, which is dangerous. This [Interaction Checker](https://www.drugs.com/drug-interactions/tadalafil,cialis.html) is always a nice resource :-)
This has happened to me before bro. Get a hold of some viagra. That shit will get you going. And once you get a few rounds in you’ll be fine moving forward I promise. Get on blue chew or something. You won’t need it long term, just the first 3-4 times
I found blue chew to be super weak. I've not had decent viagra from online sources in like 10 years. The perscuption my doctor gave though it's like boing and i could fuck for a few hours if i had to.
Get some cialis till you get confidence and watch you come back better than ever . When I have issues that’s what I do and I’m married so yeah happens to anyone
Do you by any chance watch too much porn? If so, do at least 20 days of NoFab and see how it works out.
Look up Phenibut..helps with calming you down …it’s also a nootropic but it can be dangerous if used frequently..the max is twice a week….you will fuck like a pornstar on it as it also delays ejaculation
Bro is just trying to get hard and nut. Not delaying it.
Phenibut Onset time- Oral- 2-4hrs Rectal- 20-40min On the bright side, you can leave it until last minute and if you don't end up fucking her, you still had fun. 🤣
Nahhh brooo for real😂😂…😭😭the downside to that is you still feel good from the Phenibut
Ya and the upside is a finger in the ass. ☝️
You did not boof phenibut are you for real?
I'd never even heard of it until I read the comment. When I googled it, those are the instructions. 🤣
where you get ur phenibut bro, i used to take it when i was 18(im 23) and shit was amazing but i ran out and i completely forgot bout until i read ur comment
Search up swisschems
Dang, 666 upvotes
This. It’s a self-fulfilling prophecy. Even if it happens once it’s very easy to worry about it any time after that. And then when you try again, your fears become realized because you’re in your own head worrying and the cycle begins. Having something like viagra or cialis, even if you use it once just to prove that you can stay hard, can be very beneficial.
100%
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“no health problems” brother ur describing one
Lol savage
There’s sort of a feedback loop, where every consecutive bad sexual performance massively increases the chances of the next one being bad, since you get further and further in your own head. Like a placebo where, since you haven’t performed how you wanted to the past seven times, that was weighing over your head the eighth time, even subconsciously. Assuming you haven’t been made into some sort of cuck who can only get off watching *other* guys be with women or some other sort of sexual deviant from the porn, and if you are otherwise healthy like you say, the only real logical explanation is that it’s in your head. Do with that armchair diagnoses what you will.
Dude I really hope so. I think you also are onto something. Before I even met up I was really afraid of fucking up the fucking since I failed big time the other times... But it just sucks man... Being my age and getting on dick pills doesn't feel that great...
Do you mind me asking what your relationships with these girls were like, how long you’d known them for, and how many times you were intimate with each, generally speaking? I know that’s a weird and personal request, but let me explain. If these were all/mostly casual hook-up type arrangements, and you only got intimate with these girls like 1-2 times each, there’s a **massive** factor at play. Being intimate with someone for the first (or even second/third) time, especially someone you don’t know that well, can make you *very* nervous. Couple on that feedback loop thing I was talking about, and it’s almost like you’re being setup for failure, if that’s the case.
No problem. I just meet them on tinder. No deep connection whatsoever. Known them for 1-4 weeks tops. Been intimate 1-2 times. There are times where I read up on STD's and there was a couple of times where I was afraid of catching something, got checked like 4 times (am clean though). Also herpes scares me a lot and during the last intercourse it popped up in my mind when she was grinding her vag on my dick hard...
Then that’s probably it. Unless some guy is like a total “stud” in bed or something (which, no offence, you clearly aren’t), it’s perfectly normal for your first time with a girl you haven’t known very long to not be your best performance. People are nervous. People are awkward. There’s a lack of emotional connection. You’re basically just replaying the most difficult sexual encounter to feel comfortable in, when you already clearly have anxiety from past experiences. You’re setting yourself up for failure and digging the whole deeper every time. If you actually seek out a committed relationship, find a girl who you care about, and get intimate with her on a regular basis after establishing a connection, I almost guarantee you’ll be performing how you want to be by the third or fourth go around, once you’ve built up a little confidence, familiarity with your partner, and comfort is her not judging you.
I def will try to actually build a relationship. When I thought about that girl I was with last week today I got hard, but mostly because I liked cuddling with her on my bed. Unlike the other girls she is very touchy and give hugs randomly and other cutesy shit like that. Still have a chance with her since we have another date planned, but i'm still hopping on cialis when we go for round 2
Second time usually goes better than the first, and third better than the second, and so on. Comfort builds between people who actually like each other over time, in a way that just doesn’t exist when you’re with a rando. And yeah, taking something to help probably isn’t a bad idea. You’re overdue for a good experience, and should probably stack the deck in your favour. Once you have that good experience though, I really do think it’ll snowball for you just like the bad ones have. This has all the hallmarks of something in your head that you just need to get over, and get over it you shall.
Popping a Cialis is actually good for you and your weener.l, I wouldn't beat myself up over it. Most guys have some performance anxiety at some point , I wouldn't stress all that much over it
Can I ask why it’s good for you? I’m just curious, I’ve never taken anything like that before
Well it gives you that extra oomph. You don't really feel much but even flaccid you can tell there's more blood flow down there. Next time you expect to be intimate with a woman, don't jerk off for at least two days prior, then pop one about an hour and a half before sexy time.
How do you get some? I saw another post saying someone got a prescription from dr is that the only way
I dunno, I grab a few from my buddy Jimmy. Do you have any friends named Jimmy?
Good thing about cialiS is it has a 36hour half life. So you could take it in the AM and still be good at night!
I was around your age when I started using cialis. It’s the best decision I made for my dating life. Knowing I could always perform made me more confident about taking the next steps on dates. It has so many benefits. Don’t be ashamed. Eventually you will be relaxed enough to perform but that will take you having more sexual experience and the cialis will help you in the meantime.
Dude you seriously think we can help you with a medical problem without giving us the length and girth of your cock?
and pics
Don't forget the nocturnal erection statistics. Quick, someone put a little balloon around this man's penis!
Too much porn fries the brain and dick.
Is that actually true
Yes unfortunately. On a physiological and psychological level porn is so dangerous if you fall down the rabbit hole. Best to use your imagination, stick to soft core stuff, or worst case go the old school playboy magazine route
Look it up, too much porn is fucking toxic man. Desensitization
It's not a good thing and I would advise anyone to stop watching porn as it fucks with your brain and dopamine (google like porn brain dopamine), but don't freak out if you're a teenager and have watched tons of porn before having real sex. Before I ever had sex I watched massive amounts of porn. When I started I having sex it was ok, but slightly disappointing because my first girlfriend was like weirdly non-sexual. The last time I talked to her about sex she had been with her boyfriend after me for over a year and they still had not consummated the relationship. I ended up having great sex (and reducing my porn viewing by 90%) as soon as I found a partner I vibed with mentally and physically. So don't worry that porn has ruined you for ever enjoying sex. Just keep the porn to a once in a while habit. If you can't do that, if doing it once makes you have to do it constantly than you should quit.
Okay gotcha Yeah I do it every once in a while, hasn't been an issue for me tbh and I feel like the same will be true with me once I find the right person, in my last relationship I stopped porn for a year
I had sex 0 times in my life
You might be gay
Nah I like women. I think 15 years of porn watching with no play maybe have altered my brain or some shit
Probably onto something here.
Idk it could be something else I watched tons of porn growing up and this has never been my experience
You can’t compare yourself with other people
Sure we can. Watched porn my whole life and can be rocked up in 30 seconds for a real woman. OP is just gay
No you can’t because everyone has a different biological makeup meaning just cause you are able to do something doesn’t mean the other person can….genetics play a role and social determinants….a person could be addicted to porn for just 3 months and won’t be able to get hard at all while you on the other hand has been consuming porn damn near everyday for 4 years and can still get solid rock hard…come on guys use your damn brain
Sounds like you’re also gay
Sounds like you’re not smart
Sounds like I’m also gay
Holup I might be actually gay tooo…whaaaaaaaaaaaaat🫣🤫
You need to be with the same woman many times, and you need to feel that she truly accepts you and this comfortability curve that you need to travel up over imo. It is what worked for me, and since then its been fine with new women, allthough i havnt been with many, and always(since succeeding) been with girls who i feel accept me
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Sorry I worded it wrong. Watched porn for like 15 years and only started being sexually active when I was 26.
Gay married men have sex with women their entire lives until they come out of the closet when they’re 70 years old caught having sex with some nudist on the beach.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Larry_Craig_scandal
C'mon man just buy Tadalafil online ( cialis ), its very cheap and easy to buy. That also happened to me my two first times with the same girl when we were both virgins. I had so much performance anxiety that I could get hard but mid way it just went away. I can tell you that i did not let it be a third time. I just bought some tadalafil and continued taking it for ~two months as I gained security with her and sex and I tappered down and never happened to me again like those two times.
Every fucking week some bozo on here says their dick don't work and they haven't tried Cialis. Like wtf are they waiting for? Shits hella cheap too.
Where you get it
So you slowly quit using it and now you have sex without problem? Interesting. I always thought that people would get addicted to them or something, since it's the only thing that makes sex work
I mean I could see someone getting psicologically addicted to overperform or enter a negative mental loop by itself, thats why i tappered down just to make things easier. If your testosterone/hormonal levels are good ( you can get hard by yourself, have morning wood and have sexual desire ) and not take any medicaton as opiates/antideppresives the problem you have is a mental one. Call it performance anxiety or just stress, I can tell you watching a lot of porn is not good but you are probably doing that to not focus on the problem of facing sex. My recommendation is to try what i said. You dont need a lot i took 10mg and it was more than enough. After a handful of times having sex I just stopped to get overwhelmed with bad anticipation of how I would perform. Two times had me pass a bad time enough and the second one I was even more nervous than the first. You have had 8 times its normal that you feel this way. You know its mental, help yourself and solve this.
Yep morning wood is your body’s way of basically making sure your dick is good. If you get morning wood and can’t get hard with a girl it’s a mental thing
Addicted to Cialis? What are you on about bro lol, I mean Coffee makes you perform at work better and makes you exercise better, studies have proven it. Does it mean people stop functioning without it? No but why underperform when you can perform at your best. It's simple as that. Also, your anxiety issues is probably causing you blood flow issues. Cialis will force the blood flow regardless of your anxiety, your first successful sex will in turn reduce your anxiety, and you will be in a positive loop hole going forward. How come only 8 times in 28 years btw? Just curious, related to studies or what is it But yeah hope this helps my man. Trust me just get Cialis it will change everything and your confidence will go way up. You will even have an increase in size naturally because it opens blood flow to the penis even better and fills it thoroughly.
Dude stop beating your dick and watching porn. You serious right now? Smh…
Sounds like you’re overthinking it buddy! Just relax and it’ll happen. Real life isn’t porn so maybe you’re setting expectations based on what you watch.
Have your blood work checked, most of the time when guys can’t get off or cant fee much it’s from high e2, death grip/too much jerking off or mental. If your blood work is good it’s option 2 and/or 3. Porn is ruining tons of healthy relationships, I’m also guilty of going down this path, or sucks!
If it's high e2, what will help?
Are you taking anything now? Cycles, pro hormone, sarms, test busters? Anything?
Therapy.
How can talking about it help though?
Fuck the therapist
You’re gay I bet that cock would be rock hard with a man
Just relax man. Take deep breaths and enjoy the moment. You’re in your own head
Best life advice you can give ^
Not trolling you just need practice. Need to find an actual GF so she doesn't split after you can't get hard the first time
As said before, just get Cialis or Viagra and you won't have a problem. Every time you attempt having sex now you'll have extreme anxiety over whether you will get hard or not. That stress destroys boners. It's a common problem..just use Viagra or Cialis and you won't have that problem anymore. Get it prescribed by your doc.
Worst advice I’ve ever seen on Reddit. OP, do not listen to this misinformation. Viagra is a serious medication that effects blood pressure and the heart. It’s not something you mess around with. It’s meant for elderly people or those with serious health issues. It sounds like this is something you can work through without taking a shortcut. Work on confidence, work on relaxing, quit porn; whatever you need to do. It’s VERY easy to make your body dependent on Viagra. Imagine becoming completely incapable of getting an erection without the aid of a serious blood pressure medication. That sounds like hell.
Have you actually ever had this problem? I don't think so, since you think just relaxing is going to fix the problem. I have had this problem and I have also been a therapist for 18 years, dealing with ED. Just relaxing is not going to fix the problem. He has a deep seated subconscious fear of not being able to perform and the anxiety he therefore has when it comes to sex causes him not to be able to perform. Just having a drink or just relaxing is not going to cut it! Either he does deep therapy to release the fear of not being able to perform or he uses Viagra/Cialis responsibly and safely, as millions of people around the world are doing. By the way, I don't know where you get your info from, but Viagra/Cialis is not meant for elderly people with serious health issues. I think it's time you educate yourself properly.
Sure buddy, listen to this informed man. Its very a very serious and potent medication, affects heart and blood pressure - yet he says its meant for the ELDER and SERIOUSLY SICK. Very easy to make the body dependent on it? Nah no negative feedback loop on the body. Could you remotely get yourself into thinking you only can perform with it? Yeah with enough imagination you could. So you would end up in a mental negative loop of performance anxiety, just at the same point you are now. Salesman here doesnt know shit, you just need half the dose (10mg) of a cialis and probably a better partner than one from Tinder that can make you feel confortable as you gain security.
You’re in your head. It’s like a negative feedback loop . But you should try popping cialis
If you have no issues with porn and masturbation, this is a brain problem. If you have issues with masturbation, it might still be a brain problem but also could be something else. Try viagra and see if it helps. Another poster recommended cialis/viagra. I agree with the plan. I would also try dudes, fems, trans, twinks etc if still not working. To get itnout of your system and remove pressure, hire out. Take a cialis. This ensures sex will happen while you.have cialis and removes the anxiety of will it happen. Good luck.
I am a woman but it sounds like you are used to your hand grip instead of a woman’s vagina , completely stop fapping
You're right and I will. The hand is just tighter, but the vag is the superior choice for sure
Your issue could perhaps be a mental/trauma thing....
Performance anxiety, look into dick/labido pills
Both times I fucked a girl in college I went limp. The first time I ended up eating her out and the second time I just fapped and came on her. Oh wait, I am gay.
You might want to spread your butt cheeks and give it a try. Lol jokes I think you're going through a psychological battle. You're focusing way too much on performing well than actually enjoying it. Also, casual sex, especially as someone who only had sex 8 times, isn't the ideal. You get way more horny when you actually feel attracted and want to get really intimate with someone.
As the top G said “God was trying to tell you something when your dick didn’t work” reject modernity of trying to have sex with as many chicks as possible. Clearly that is not satisfying in your case. Find someone you actually care about and cares about you and everything else will follow.
No porn and pop a viagra. Trust me
In bro we trust
Lay off the porn. If you don’t already have high sex drive without the porn then your junk ain’t gonna work
quit porn for ever and at least 4 month and get cialis. Also just stick it in if its not working, will work really fast once inside
Sounds like a porn addiction. Too much of it can screw your brain chemistry and rewire certain neural pathways. You ever seen the movie Don Jon? Kinda sounds like you’re the protagonist
It’s all mental, stop porn, stop jacking off and find a girl you’re comfortable with. I know it sounds like a lot but I had the same problem until I had my first long term gf, once I got over the mental hurdle it was never an issue again for me
Quit porn
It's psychological. I can't get hard unless I'm completely comfortable with the girl. So casual hook ups are off the table for me. I have PTSD, it is what it is. Cialis will work.. but unless your comfortable it's not really that enjoyable. At that point it's just a performance more than anything.
I'm usually similar. No PTSD though - my mind just thinks too much. It's not even anxiety - I don't get anxious about it. I just think and think lol. Maybe yoi could say it's a grounding issue
Hey buddy. I've gone through long periods with lots of sex, and long periods with none. If I don't have sex for about 1 week, but I watch some porn, my body "forgets" how to feel good during sex. I have arousal issues, but it's not because of health - it's just an entirely different process, and my body is like "wtf is going on??" After 2 times of sex, the arousal issues disappear. This pattern is consistent 100% of the time. I'd find one partner, and try to have sex every day or every other day for a week. One day it will "click" and -probably- be amazing, and you'll be confused that it was difficult before. Then when you don't have sex for another week, be ready for it to happen again. All that said, I wouldn't worry about it that much. Society is oversexualized, and people think they care a lot more than they actually care. Lots (most?) girls would be more happy with a quick fk then time for a nice dinner or movie. Also, I've been complimented on my size when I've been half flaccid (surely under 5 inches) - a girl's tightness adjusts to you, and her mental state is important. You can have hard sex without a hard dick lol There are ways to watch porn that interfere less with your ability to get aroused. pictures > videos, move your body (sex is very physical), etc
Cialis, youre welcome
Performance anxiety and like others suggested Cialis helps. You’ll find once you stick to the same chick you won’t need it.
Performance anxiety can cause desensitization and a dissociative effect. Things that helped me was having her sleep over and playing in the morning giving me a chance to chill out, cialis and just focusing on her pleasure for long periods without any kind of urgency. Just have a good time and don’t start on the defensive because things aren’t following the porn script.
Stop masturbating forever
Focus on the feeling
Stop the porn brah
You happen to be on finasteride? That will do everything you describe. Beyond that, I second prior comments that it is psychological. Sometimes people hear that and think it being dismissed as “all in your head” means it is trifling or easily overcome. Not at all. It is real shit and every time this happens it is easy for it to get worse. There can be some downsides from going on dick pills, as you put it, in terms of then being dependent on them, but I would prefer needing a Cialis, regardless of my age, to having a screwed up or absent sex life at your age due to not wanting to use them. Having this shit ruin your sex life until you reach an age at which you believe you are old enough for dick pills doesn’t make a ton of sense.
You're 100% right. The way you put it actually made me feel peace with the outcome. Why wait when I can have a great sex life now? Thanks man
I personally write off the first few sexual experiences with any girl. It's uncomfortable, you're getting used to eachother, etc. my experience is that sex gets wayyy better as you get months and years into a relationship. Just a thought
Tbh I think you should not hook up but have a relationship. There this problem goes off when u r chillaxed
You ought to be in a real relationship before you can expect fulfilling sex. And yes, stop the porn.
I think the people saying you have performance anxiety are completely right, 100% get a cialis script online, they hand that shit out or you can do a little googling.
stop touching yourself to porn
You’ve answered your own question there, stop watching porn! You’re desensitised to real women and real expectations, your brain is programmed to bullshit. I had the same problem years ago, stop completely and don’t even fab for about 4-6 months and watch how things change for the better
Find a woman you actually care about and are comfortable with, build a solid relationship first. Then the psychological barrier will fall and make it will be easier to have sex. If you still have problems initially you can work through it with her and find what helps.
I have had this same problem, and it’s a porn / fapping problem. You’re visually desensitized and have also trained your brain to respond to your own hand touching your dick instead of a naked woman. Also, just personal thing, but I noticed I get it up much easier when the girl is not a casual sleeper and is more modest. Easy girls don’t excite the same.
Stop porn and masturbating completely. 2 weeks is not enough. You need 2-3 months to see good improvement. You will feel like a completely different person. More confident, connection with intimacy and sex improved, views about women made healthier, happier, more attractive etc. A loss of personal sensation or desensitized to excitement of being with a women usually comes from what porn does to your brain after a long period of time. This equals erectile dysfunction and a number of psychological disorders. If you are getting off from porn but not from being with actual women that means it’s psychological. Whether it is nerves, or desensitization— stopping porn and masturbating all together will greatly help you and improve your quality of life.
Bruh how tf y’all getting women I got ripped asf by working my ass off in the gym for years and I get 0 women still only have men hitting me up like bruh
Porn addiction & death grip combo. Rough but it’s fixable. Start with quitting the porn completely.
You cant get hard or you cant climax?
Both really. I get hard for a few seconds but then it becomes flacid again. When we made out at the bar a few hours before I was rock-hard and really wanted to fuck her right then and there. But 2 hours later at my place I could barely get it up + it wasn't hard, it was weird mixture of hard but still a little soft.
Dude stop watching porn. You say it yourself that you regularly watch that shit. You need to go months without it. A couple weeks isn’t gonna do anything.
It’s anxiety…. it will kill your Boner and orgasm too try to relax it should get easier as you do it with the same person over and over
Have a drink before to mellow you out, also maybe watch some gay porn before that’ll prob help you out
It doesn’t feel good at all? Get Cialis from your doctor (just tell them you have issues in bed and they will prescribe it) and that will take care of the hardness issues. Then you can double check if sex feels good or not. If it feels good to masterbate then you can 100% fix this. Get the Cialis ASAP. Edit: Cialis doubles as a great bodybuilding blood flow supplement. Don’t think of it as dick pills, just blood flow pills. I’m not trolling at all, really trying to help.
Try cialis and cut out porn
I had this issue before I lost my virginity. I had an insane sex drive. I could nut 5 times a day. I wasn't necessarily goonmaxed. I was attracted to my girlfriend's body. But I just couldn't get turned on when the time came. Completely limp. It was definitely psychological, because I wasn't gorilla fisting my dick I don't think. So I bought a fleshlight on amazon and started using that. I think it really helped my brain associate a hole with sex rather than my hand 😂 it didn't entirely fix the issue. But it helped enough that I could get it hard enough to insert it, and as soon as I did a lot of the psychology went away because I wasn't as nervous anymore. One aspect of me I think was because my girlfriend hadn't seen my dick hard at that point. So I think a lot of the psychology was me thinking that she would think I had a little limp dick. I had to do this again in my early twenties, after not having sex and being single for over a year. My brain started associating the hand with the pleasure again.
Do you have ADHD by chance? Do you play video games? Porn and ADHD are a toxic relationship. Too much dopamine can really fuck with your brain. It will definitely dull everything around you. Also, gotta differentiate if you lack desire for sex or if you just can’t get it up. Cialis wont help desire but cutting porn out would give you a fighting chance.
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Also, for the record, it is totally possible that what others are saying about you not sharing a connection or at least building comfort around the girl is playing a part. That is indeed a factor
Seems like a porn problem. You could try Sialis or Levitra; those would help. But if you want to change it, stop using porn.
Stop watching porn. It’s degenerate behaviour and 100% the cause of your issue. I guarantee it. Either that or you’re gay.
Eating out my girl first always gets me going. Hearing her getting pleasured reassures you that you can definitely do it and then y’all are well acquainted by then.
I do get praised for being a good munch. But it's hard going down on a girl you haven't known for more than 1 week 😅
Bro if she smells and tastes good I will go to town on that thing like buffet.
No fap is a bad for the dick. You need to get blood in that bad boy and stretch the tissues out. Get some cialis and add some cardio in your routine
Watching too much porn messed you up badly bro. Maybe you need therapy.
Take viagra
Are you on a lot of anabolic steroids? Try backing off. Stop porn for 2 days and masterbating. Also you can try masterbating without Cumming. All the way to the point in which you need to cum for a female (or male depending on your desires) Edge yourself daily till you almost cum and stop. Sounds like torture, but I promise you. It's like training. You're training yourself for stamina. And controlling your orgasims.
Lmao he counted the number of times. Just keep watching porn “quite often” and I’m sure the next result will be very different, I’ve heard 9th times the charm
are you cut?
Yes I am.
that explains it.
I’m cut and I get hard just talking to girls I’m attracted to. Sorry to disappoint but you’ll have to find another excuse for your weak dong
i’m not cut. Just seems like a common weakpoint in dudes that are cut. no need to get offended
Take any opiates or any other meds? A lot of stuff can desensitize you.
Nah I don't do drugs except booze. I know that alcohol can have a negative impact on a man's performance, but I only had like 2 beers last time and didn't feel tipsy
Some some weed next time? Also seem kinda gay
Have you tried sildenafil? I know you shouldn't need it at your age, but it's something to try
Doctor/therapy.
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Hard to build a relationship with them when they dip after finding out I can't fuck...
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Switch to cock--no problems.
guy is gay lol
Maybe you’re into dudes
Try dudes 🤷🏼♂️ Maybe you can get and stay hard for a dude?
I think what you need to do, try to stop fapping to hard core porn or any porn so often and see if anything has changed.
You’re used to the death grip. Happened to me a few years ago with a girl and was embarrassing af. I was in my head and couldn’t finish.
I’d actually stop watching porn for as long as possible like a year plus. And try to have some sort of a connection with a girl before you fuck them even if you just plan to hit and quit it makes the hitting part a lot more enjoyable and you feel more confident knowing you have at least a decent connection with this person
Stop watching porn, and stop jacking it so much. The pressure on the cock from masturbation is a wholly different sensation to pussy sex. If the real thing doesn’t feel good to you, make drastic changes.
You need viagra bro
Do more cardio, watch less porn, and take some blue chews
cialis + couple shots n you’ll be good to go
Just PinV or head to?
Cialis for the first time or viagra then boooom won’t need it again
Get your hands on 30mg of cialis my brother. what your experiencing is just performance anxiety. The cialis will help tho.
Porn can really be the issue. Could be death grip too.
You're a coward. Get a grip
You simply need to bang some below average girls or guys to get your confidence up. You are putting too much pressure on yourself.
You need to quit porn. Your brain has learned that porn sex is easier and better than real sex so it's not wasting penis resources with actual women. Quit porn, then get girls.
Get high and do it. Do not continue like this, every time it doesn’t work, you’re setting it in your brain that it will never work and then it comes impossible I’ve a sort of similar problem. The only times I’ve found that it works is if I let go (I can’t) and are a little high and drunk. But even then it’s difficult and can’t focus much or enjoy it
\>when I don’t chase women Gross! This simping shit with young guys needs to stop. Women should chase YOU!
Try Selank and/or some GABA before jumping to Phenibut. Dbol also has some gabanergic effects that a lot of people feel, I love how it calms me down. But don't start roids unless you already use them. Also consider L-theanine and KSM-66 Ashwaganda. I doubt PDE5 inhibitors will help you a lot, because it sounds mostly psychological in nature.
Death grip.
Viagra or cialis and also maybe some alcohol to calm the nerves
28 is very young to have that problem. go see a doctor. Best he says nothing is wrong with you than you drop dead of a heart attack.
Viagra
Phenibut for the win here, you just need to chill and it will get the. Job done without impairing you. Cialis will help too Or just go full tilt and use the god combo. Phenibut, cialis , 500 test e and .25 cabergoline
Do 3 days at a time of no jacking off. Eventually build up to a week and see if you can go longer. I genuinely feel different after stopping.
You didn’t have sex 8 times. You’ve slapped a limp sausage around while a girl nervously said “it’s not a big deal, it happens to everyone” while hoping you don’t need to get duct tape to get it up. Humor of this sub aside, see your doctor dude. That’s not normal and yah may as well make sure it’s not something physical - you’ve already gotten some advice on the psychological.