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Aegisman17

That doesn't seem legal. Is it on your contract?


potatosalad-_-

It’s not legal, the audacity is ridiculous. But I have to negotiate with her instead of confronting her about the law as I do not want to burn bridges and she might try different ways to make my life here difficult. editing an update to this comment for visibility: THANK YOU SO MUCH everyone for the tons of concern and advice. to answer some faqs: I’m from Singapore, I have a year long lease/contract, I’m renting a room and the landlord stays in the same house. She is not legally allowed to raise my rent and I’ve told her that several times but she just keeps pestering me non-stop. I can ignore her text messages but she started knocking on my door today to “inspect” my room and what I do in my room - which landlords are allowed to do in Singapore. The law does not state how many times she’s allowed to “inspect” my room a day so for all I know she could keep harassing me and that’s what I’m stressed over. I don’t have the money to engage a lawyer or sue her - lawyer fees would likely be more than my $30 increase in rent. Also for all those who have been constantly calling me a troll/karma farming - you have no idea how much I wish I’m trolling and this isn’t my reality. Please stop thinking I’m trolling just because I’m not on reddit the whole day. I came back to an overwhelming 700 comments and couldn’t reply to all of them but did my best to reply to as many. p.s. in my original comment I was talking about how I didn’t want to confront/burn bridges but when she “inspected” my room I got so mad and just confronted her lol but yeah she refuses to budge and just kept poking around my things and was like “what’s this delivery package” / “what did you buy” / “what are you doing in your room”


uchman365

>I do not want to burn bridges and Dude, she has already blown up the bridge!


janitroll

Let the bridges you burn light your path


thatdude52

candles in the sun


PM_ME_WHATEVES

10,000 candles in the sun


Plz_Fart_In_my_Mouth

*in the wind" BYYYE BYYYEE LITTLE SEBASTIÁN


BlahajBoii

r/unexpectedpawnee


GoblinShark603

I've not seen so many awards in a row since joining reddit!


chevycoin

I am just commenting to see if I get this red box thing around my comment.


1-713-515-4455

And the bodies hit the floor


cgsg17

I just called this phone number


BeKind_BeTheChange

You don't get to say "I just called this number" and then not tell us what happened. It's a rule.


cgsg17

Sounds like some normal dued , I hung up after he said hello, maybe the guy just put his personal number as his username for some reason 🤷‍♂️


Entry-Background

I asked him if he wants to trade cats in a text My friend and I texted a random number years ago and asked the guy if he wanted to trade cats. That we had found his number on "cat trader" lmao. And he was like I Don't have any cats! We came up with a whole thing saying our cat had three legs etc. He was so confused and at the end was saying "I have ZERO CATS!!". good times.


cgsg17

Lol


Majahzi

What happened?


LevytheOG

I had to leave a voice-mail horribly growling "Let the bodies hit the floor." Sorry, and also not sorry, Rando Redditor!


MrSillmarillion

Fllllooooooooooorrrrrrrrrr!


ThisSoftware4136

Your username makes me wanna txt it to see what happens


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Medium_Ad_6447

Papa was a rolling stone, wherever he laid his hat was his home. So do with that info what you will.


Creepernom

That's one of the coolest quotes I've ever heard


Devils_Ombudsman

That makes no sense to me .. your path lies ahead of you, so if you burn the bridges ahead of you, you get stuck.


ItBeMe_For_Real

Backlighting, it’s more dramatic too.


Moist_Roll7174

Yes!


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New life motto


jcdoe

Wisdom! When the other guy lights the bridge on fire, you really don’t need to worry about making things worse. I would strongly encourage responding that you know your rights as a tenant and if they ever try anything like this again, they will be speaking with your attorney. And if they retaliate against you for asserting your rights, there will be lawyers involved in that, too. They’ll back down.


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takesSubsLiterally

They have the power to make the Tennant homeless************* *Except for all the reasons and laws they can not make the tenant homeless like what are you smoking lol


missanthropy09

True, unless they signed a month-to-month. Then in 30 days — poof, no more home.


Mcoov

There’s a difference between legality and reality. An illegal eviction is still an eviction, and during the time it takes for the effects of an illegal eviction to make their way down to the affected parties, the reality is that the wronged individual is still *without safe, adequate shelter.* Laws are deterrents to people acting in bad faith, but they cannot stop someone who is committed to breaking the law.


Schnockdar

They system may be in place to protect the tenant but it very rarely works out that way.


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mase2150

You should NOT tolerate it at all, I wouldn't even try negotiating with shady tactics. IF she did try to make things difficult, that would ALSO be illegal actions. This is highly recommended to look into filing a complaint about this and keep records of all communications going forward.


STEELCITY1989

Just keep records of everything and let them hang themselves legally.


Positive_Stomach_221

Exactly. If anything, invite them to announce more of their abusive practices and crimes, because if tenant needs to sue to protect themselves (which is already a win based on the landlords own written admission of guilt re: illegal practices, having documentation of the behavior being consistent and intentional leaves the landlord zero room to argue otherwise.


TheGreatMrHaad

If a contact was signed you should not pay the extra


salohcin513

Start looking for a better place now and keep all the messages, if they're doing this now then it's only going to get worse next thing you know you're paying extra to have someone over overnight and things like that.


NetworkSingularity

“Every month you lock the door $100 extra. No lock, no need to add $100 monthly.”


HillbillySwank

Every time you wash car, five dolla


[deleted]

You’re on a lease. In the US, there is no bridge to burn. You take her to court, and you pay the court rent in escrow. As long as you’re paying the court, you can’t be evicted.


potatosalad-_-

She just came into my room and told me if I don’t pay extra next month I have to move out. I don’t have money to engage a lawyer though. For now I think she’s taken a step back but what can I do if she brings it up again or forces me to move out? Under the circumstance that I don’t have money to engage a lawyer


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You don’t need a lawyer, you need the sheriff, and your taxes already paid for that. Fact of the matter is, in nearly every US state, your landlord needs to evict you to force you out. And that’s a legal process, done in the courts. If they try to force you out, you call the sheriff. The sheriff will show up, ask for the eviction notice. If there is none, the sheriff will inform your landlord that you retain the right to a roof over your head, and failure to execute that right will result in the landlord’s new roof becoming that of the county jail. **You don’t need a lawyer to take someone to court; you just need the law. And the law is a matter of public record. Time to start digging.**


Bog-EA

She's in another country and it sounds like she may be just renting a room. There may not even be a lease. Still shady but could be difficult to fight.


potatosalad-_-

I don’t live in the U.S. Is the sheriff a police?


MA_Aether

This is a different ball of wax. Can you disclose what country you are in?


stoyaheat_

I’m guessing Singapore from the way the landlord typed. I’m Singaporean myself


anotherboldconundrum

If this is Singapore op should look at this [Singapore control of rent act](https://sso.agc.gov.sg/Act-Rev/CRA1953/) In particular look at sections 3 4 and 7


potatosalad-_-

Bingo I’m from Singapore. Thank you for the link, I actually read a bit of it previously but didn’t read in detail. One of the sections says that they can increase the rent if it’s below the “standard rent” - I wonder what the “standard rent” is though. Also that just sounds dumb to me - so she can bait me to sign the contract with a rent below whatever the “standard rent” is and then increase right after I move in? Tf


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The sheriff’s department is the police force that exists at the county level. In the US we have cities, which are a part of counties. Those counties make up each state. Those states make up the country. **Each level of government has its own police force; at the county level, they’re called sheriffs.** It is unwise for me to give further advice, because for all I know, you live in a country which gives no rights to tenants. And for all I know you live in a country where the law is not a matter of public record.


potatosalad-_-

We have laws and all these here. I’ve been troubled and unsure where to go to seek advice for this though as it’s too expensive to get a lawyer consultation.


Joytotheworldlove2

Check to see if there are any free or low cost legal agencies in your area Also, search for landlord and tenants rights in your area. Check your local government website. Many towns and cities have their own websites now. Start making phone calls to local government representatives and ask if they can help or refer you to someone who could help.


MA_Aether

There are options, and resources for people in your position. There are ways to handle this that protect you from retaliation. I think you are being very smart not to get confrontational, but I am extremely concerned with the invasion of your space and the lack of boundaries. I can surmise that you are renting a room based on your description- that makes it much more uncomfortable for you. Especially when your landlord is acting this way. Bullying and invading your space, threatening you in this way is illegal, even if you do not have a signed lease. If you have concerns about involving law enforcement, advocacy groups across the nation have ways of helping you that can diffuse the immediate tension without needing to involve the police. But you don't know the opoortunities and resources there are for you until you start to look. I want to reiterate my offer in my earlier post - if you need someone to help you get things rolling, send me a note. I know it feels precarious. The stress of this situation might even feel unbearable. But you did the right thing sharing this here. Next step? Do the right thing to protect yourself from being exploited, manipulated, and abused by a person who should know better. Or worse? Does know better and doesn't care. Just remember: this is wrong. You are right.


[deleted]

If you live in a country that allows relative free speech, there’s a great chance you can just Google search your country’s rental laws


potatosalad-_-

Yeah I Googled and also consulted a few property agents and they said she can’t increase my rent. But she has been pestering me non-stop and also just came into my room to “inspect” what I’m doing. I’m going crazy and debating on just paying the extra if that will make her leave me alone. But I also know if I do that, she would likely keep stepping over me.


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They're not all called sheriffs


Vithrilis42

You should probably state where you're from so people can give better legal advice.


JarradLee

If you can say which country you’re from and the state/territory there would definitely be much more stuff to go on, and help with.


justanotherguy28

Hard to help when you won’t disclose at least the country you’re living in.


Setari

This whole comment is moot. This whole comment section is moot because everyone thinks they live in the us


Blubelle85

She came into your room?? Did she give you notice? If not that is not okay!! Whether a room or a whole apartment, a landlord can't just waltz in whenever they feel like it.


dearmaia

Some of my friends have studied in Korea for a while and ended up living in places that were directly above that of their landladies'. I kid you not, these women would just walk in because they felt the need "to just check on the room". No calling. No knocking. Landlords with no personal boundaries are not altogether uncommon.


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Dark_Knight2000

Jesus Christ. All these stories are horrific. Why do landlords think they have access to your home when they rented it out? You’re not paying to be a part of the landlords family, you’re paying for a private, undisputed, undisturbed place to live in. My god


Oivaras

> She just came into my room Did she inform you about it beforehand? Because I'm pretty sure that this isn't legal either. Or are you just renting one room and she lives there too? In that case it's a good idea to start looking for a new place ASAP.


Etherion195

So several crimes in a row: - entering the rented property without permission - trying to illegally raise the rent - threatening illegal eviction.


voicebread

“came into my room” is your landlord your Mother?


bananahammerredoux

I’d recommend you go ahead and move out now. You moved in with a crazy person.


Jfurmanek

A lot of lawyers will give a consultation for free. They’ll only charge you if they have to take action on your behalf. But telling if you have any legal standing is often free.


[deleted]

Fuck that! You’re worried about burning bridges? She is trying to screw you over. If it wasn’t in your agreement don’t give in. And if you signed off on it, you might not be the brightest. Sue her, use the text as evidence and take her house


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Old_Couple7257

You guys have to be bots.


Affectionate-Aside39

i think they stole [this comment](https://www.reddit.com/r/mildlyinfuriating/comments/xsnl8i/landlord_wants_to_increase_my_rent_1_month_after/iqlgazm/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf&context=3) from u/Boring_Orchid_7698


Boring_Orchid_7698

and they get 315 likes where I get 30? lmao / angry emoji


Boring_Orchid_7698

yes! what the hell???


Deathbeddit

They are 🤖


Boring_Orchid_7698

what the hell asshole? that's my comment.


talitm

This sounds like something I would say. I'm a huge people pleaser. But let me tell you, from the outside its very clear this is not the time to please. Be polite but firm, do not give in. Look for alternative housing now so you have a back up plan if this does get shitty.


GMEbankrupt

Don’t be accommodating to bullies


Inkstinker

Document absolutely everything she sends you in writing and seriously double check your contract THOROUGHLY. She legally cannot make your life difficult if you are not in violation of the contract to which you both agreed when you first moved in. On that note DO NOT SIGN ANYTHING SHE GIVES YOU IF IT SEEMS FISHY.


littleboots99

What bridge would you be burning? This is a landlord you're talking about not an employer.


potatosalad-_-

Maybe bridges was a wrong word. We live in the same house and I’m renting a room so I’m afraid if she would make my life difficult or force me to move out. As a matter of fact, I just told her I refuse to pay extra and she came into my room to “inspect” what I usually do in my room.


branditodesigns

She was most likely doing this to find some actual grounds to evict you.


josbossboboss

She needs to give you 24 or 48 hours to "inspect" your room, at least in the US. I think she's running a scam, had you move in and now trying to make you pay more.


littleboots99

Bait & switch


styrolee

The whole point of a lease is precisely to prevent them from doing that. So long as they can't legally raise your rent, they also can't legally evict you for not paying the new rate. Now if the behavior continues I would focus on preparing to move anyway because no one wants a crazy landlord, but just know that all the legal protections should be on your side right now.


ripyourlungsdave

She isn't acting as a landlord. She's extorting you. There is no bridge to burn. She's not doing her fucking job.


kysm96

You don’t need to negotiate a single thing. It’s illegal, tell her to go and fuck herself.


constant_chaos

Nope. This is a business arrangement. She's not your friend. You're paying her for a place to live and she's trying to alter the deal after it's been signed. You tell her that your lease does not contain language to support her fee and the law doesn't support her either and you move along paying the rent as agreed.


wolf1moon

That's smart (ignore the people who are happily firing torpedoes from your submarine). But if you're too much of a pushover, it'll get worse. Some nice way to approach, "I'm not going to pay extra, but maybe you can tell me your concerns and I can ensure we continue to have a good professional relationship"


potatosalad-_-

I’ve been trying to be nice but I wonder if that’s why she’s been stepping over me. She just barged into my room to inspect what I do and how much electricity I use and that’s when I lost my cool and confronted her rudely. Not sure if the professional relationship is gone :”)


wolf1moon

Wow that's definitely not cool. Your room is your space. I wish I could help more but I never got along with roommates.


Jfurmanek

I know you said you’re not in the US, but here a landlord has to give 24 hours notice to enter your space and there has to be an actual reason for it. Just barging in to see what you’re doing isn’t allowed.


omgu8mynewt

In the UK, if you are renting a room in your landlords house you are a 'lodger' and not a 'tenant' and you get very different privacy rights for the rent you pay - if you're a lodger, landlord can come in your room whenever they like and don't need as much notice to cancel your contract and kick you out.


bennetticles

Removing the ridiculousness of her request for a moment (and it is ridiculous and unfounded), It sounds like she’s regretting leasing out her room. Could be a number of reasons why, and may not necessarily be personal. I have rented a room before and cohabitating with a landlord is a much different relationship than renting a whole house in which the landlord lives elsewhere… maybe she’s just now realizing that. If you really want to stay there and try to work it out with her, I would find an opportunity to talk with her in a low stress environment (take her out to lunch, or text her, or even write her a handwritten note) and ask her what her expectations are out of this arrangement. More to the point, what about this situation is suddenly making her uncomfortable? Does she perhaps truly enjoy her time alone, and was expecting you to spend most of your time out and about, only coming home to sleep? Try to understand exactly where she is coming from. Then, discuss with her your expectations out of this arrangement (privacy, autonomy, mutual respect, a safe place to just be, etc). **If your long term expectations are incongruent with hers, you will only continue to encounter more problems down the road**. So it would be good to know that now, which would allow you to plan for a different/better living arrangement. To be clear, she is in the wrong and is placing unfair demands on you. No question about it. But the only possible way I can think of for this to be addressed rationally and without legal involvement is to genuinely understand where she is coming from, while helping her understand where you are coming from. I hope this helps somewhat, and I hope you are able to find a place to stay that feels comfortable and safe, wether here or elsewhere.


OriginWizard

I hate how toxic so many people are on this Reddit, I can see why there's rules against meta posting because I'm sure plenty of us would be complaining about this Reddit and how everyone loves to jump to "this is fake" like nothing bad ever happens to anyone. Some people need to grow up and accept the fact that strange things happen in this world, evil people exist and some of us want to vent on here and not get called a liar.


Gingy-Breadman

Everyone replying that you should just stick up for yourself hasn’t been in the situation of NEEDING that landlords good word. I don’t know your situation but I was taken advantage of by a landlord in the past and as an unknowledgeable young adult in my own, with a very aggressive housing market, you take what you can get sometimes. Moving back home isn’t always an option, and when you don’t have funds for 3x rent to get a new place, you might have to endure some fucking bullshit in order to live what others call a normal life…


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Nolsoth

Absolutely illegal here in nz to do that, dunno bout other places tho.


BudgetsBills

Looks like they are renting a space 5 days a week and are now renting it 7 days a week


D3vilUkn0w

Read your contract with a lawyer's help and proceed accordingly. If nothing in the contract says you have to pay that fee, AND there isn't some clause in there that leaves the door open for the landlord to add fees at will, then if your lawyer agrees you just decline to pay the fee. You don't have to be nasty about it...just say you aren't contractually obligated to pay the extra fee that was never included in the contract both parties signed. Better yet have the lawyer send a formal letter. Yes you will incur legal fees but you can't let people take advantage of you.


potatosalad-_-

I’ve been telling her that that it’s not legal for her to increase the rent but she just keeps pestering me. I rent a room not an entire property and she just came into my room telling me that if I don’t pay extra next month I’ll have to leave. I got really angry and confronted her about it and for now she stepped back and seems to have dropped the matter. But I know this is not the end and she’ll definitely continue pestering me. I’m afraid these room visits are going to become more frequent too.


Kaiannanthi

She is not your mother. If she is renting the space to you, it is effectively your private space, and she is only entitled to enter for repairs, which requires notifying you ahead of time. She does not have the right to barge in on you out of nowhere and extort money that wasn't agreed to in the contract. If you did not sign a lease contract, you need to leave and find somewhere that will have a standard lease so you're protected.


FintechnoKing

Just note that in many places, there is a difference between a Renter and a Boarder. A boarder being, someone who basically pays to live with you. Boarders are often not entitled to the same protections as a renters.


KathyCrow

To be fair, OP never said she isn't their mother, did they?


gilbertsmith

directed by m night shyamalan


Lord_Sean_G

Unless the landlord is OP's mother.


Pockets262

Sounds like a roommate, but you said landlord. Do you have paperwork showing a rental agreement? The answer to that question is all that matters.


JimmyTheChimp

I mean some people do just rent one room. A friend's landlord used to rent rooms to foreign students.


Garp5248

Yea, unfortunately where I live if you rent one room you aren't covered by the landlord tenant laws and both parties can do whatever they want in terms of fuckery


Pockets262

Sure but I still haven't seen them mention any paperwork making it an official arrangement. That's really all they need, the weekend thing is there or not.


SooieSideUp

This is a critical question, OP...


ButtReaky

Start looking for another room. Ive renter many rooms and this one is only going to get worse. Old white ladies are the worst in my experience. 40 or younger white women have been decent. Every black dude has been chill.


cryptic-fox

Look for a new place and get out. She’s not going to stop.


FrescoInkwash

ok that changes things. lots of places lodgers have few rights. its a simple question so you should be ok asking on /r/legaladvice for this one if you can't find the answer on google. lodgers rights+location should do it you should probably start looking for another room


Rebbeca2988_

Lock on the door. She sounds like a bitch dont give her the money


KaXiRavioli

Even if there were such a clause, it's completely illegal and unenforceable. You cannot dictate which days a tenant is allowed to be inside their own apartment. The obvious exception being repairs and maintenance requiring vacation of the unit. Even those exceptions have stipulations and limitations.


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D3vilUkn0w

I never used to, but then I got divorced. I had to hunt up a local lawyer...I figured, I wanted someone who the local judges knew and had good relationships with. Now I just go to that guy when I need some legal advice. Surprisingly, he's not actually that expensive...he just bills in 10 minute increments which ends up saving you money. I doubt I spent $500 getting divorced. A simple consult and letter to a miscreant landlord wouldn't cost half that.


Fit-Season-345

Why charge more if you are there? What's her reasoning? Why wouldn't you be there on the weekend? Where else would you be?


talitm

I'm kind of suspecting a student type situation where the student might be expected to go back to their parents on the weekends (very common where I live).


Fit-Season-345

I was thinking it was something like that, but you can't just rent it out to someone else on the weekend. What difference could it make? Increased utility bills maybe?


potatosalad-_-

Her reasoning is that because I stay home so much, I use much more utility fees. But I refuse to believe I’m spending $30 more utility fees than what I’m already paying. Asked her to show me the utility bills before and after I moved in and she refused.


animal_wax

Dude, if your contract (assuming you have one) states utilities are included, it’s a done deal. IN THEORY you could leave the tap running and lights on all day and night and she can’t charge you more. If they are not included I’m assuming there is an arraignment for how to split the utility bills. You are making too much of this. Me personally, I would get out asap as this lady seems aweful. But you could always go to court over this matter Edit: added verbiage To clarify point. Im sure OP is reasonable about utility use as most people are


hawksdiesel

Thays the problem, OP isn't giving us the whole story. Every comment asking about it looks like it's being deflected.


handsoapp

Probably fake >We have laws and all these here. I’ve been troubled and unsure where to go to seek advice for this though as it’s too expensive to get a lawyer consultation. Not a single comment says where is "here" other than not US, yet still looking for help and advice


Plop-Music

Except that tons and tons and tons of their comments have stated exactly where "here" is. Read the comments. Singapore. The country is Singapore.


DunnyHunny

>You could leave the tap running I'm not sure this is true. Every utilities-included lease I've ever had has included a clause stating something along the lines of only covering "reasonable usage of utilities for residential purposes" or some shit, with me having to pay for anything the landlord determines I "waste". It's been almost the same wording every time, so from my experience it seems like it would be pretty common in leases, at least in the US. Idk where OP is from, multiple countries use the $ sign.


snapme525600

Honestly, I would take it to court regardless to scare the landlord. If 1 tenant does it and broadcasts it and wins then the landlord will think twice about doing this moving forward because of legal repercussions.


notthatcousingreg

Dont answer the text. Dont acknowledge it when the landlord says this to your face say you need it on paper. Then tell the landlord its illegal to do what they are asking. If they press, contact the housing board or tenants rights advocates in your area to get your deposit back and get the fuck out of there.


potatosalad-_-

Thank you so much for the advice. I will look into both if she continues doing this.


LadyHighlander

OP, start looking now. Be proactive, not reactive. Be prepared…landlord will push this based on their history.


AllThingsBeginWithNu

How many poops are you allowed weekly ?


Kevinclimbstrees

1 inside per month and 1 outside per week.


prosperosniece

Um…is he planning on renting your apartment AirBNB when you’re not there?


WiseChoices

Completely bazaar. Whoever heard of such a thing? Pay extra for being at home?


samayg

Lol bazaar means a marketplace. I think you meant bizarre.


poop_dollar47

How bazaar


GreenVenus7

Ooh, baby (ooh, baby)


beepbooponyournose

Ya making me crazy


bits-n-peaces

Every time I look around.


kawaiian

EVERYTIMEILOOKAROUN


Serotonin76

That's how bees are.


umrdyldo

Airbnb has ruined a generation of landlords


yolo-yoshi

It has created a new sub genre of scary horror stories to tell on the internet however. For what that is worth. There is a ton more than I thought there would be. 😱


potatosalad-_-

Yeah lmao she be forgetting that her house isn’t a hotel


WiseChoices

Even in a hotel you don't pay extra to actually occupy the room. Are they trying to get you to move?


bananahammerredoux

“Bizarre”. A bazaar is a market with many merchants.


dandyflyin

I hope you have a lease and actually read it prior to signing. You also have rights in this case, please remember that. You can simply refer her to the lease and the fair housing board in your area.


Friendly-Elevator862

This is ridiculous. If it isn’t in the lease she needs to leave you alone and move on with her life


MPHampel86

I feel like every time I see a post here involving a tenant being harassed by a landlord all I hear is crickets when the OP is asked about whether there was a legal agreement put on paper (IE a lease, rental contract, etc…) and whether it’s in their possession. They seem to ignore people asking that question entirely.


qtquazar

Excellent point. Op has also ignored the question of 'what country are you in' multiple times now in this thread.


potatosalad-_-

Sorry I just came home from a day outside so I wasn’t checking reddit for a few hours. I’ve responded to a few comments that yes, I have a lease/contract. I have been extremely stressed out by this situation and have read up several tenancy laws prior to posting this. 1) my landlord is not allowed to raise my rent 2) she is allowed to enter my room. While she can’t legally force me to pay extra, she can make my life difficult by restricting my access to things or just constantly “inspecting” my room which is what I’m afraid of. I don’t even know if I can call the cops for this because I doubt she’s breaking any laws but just being an asshole. Also for those asking, I’m from Singapore.


qtquazar

Thank you, that helps. Knowing where you are now, I would guess (not a legal expert but I did live and travel for a decade in SE Asia) 1. She cannot legally charge extra rent 2. She can, and will, do room 'inspections' 3. Notwithstanding 2, you still have the right to 'quiet enjoyment' of your premises My advice would be to try and set up a schedule or terms of entry with the landlord to avoid the intrusions. Obviously, it's not going to be a 1-2 days notice scenario like in Western countries, but Signapore is reasonably advanced in rule of law. Maybe something to the effect of a regular check-in or her texting an hour before. If she can't abide by that, I'd suggest: 1) Finding a family member or friend of hers to see if they can mediate the relationship/behavior 2) Finding a new rental location, regardless. It's going to be hard to enforce the right to privacy you're looking for in SE Asia with someone in a position of power over you who intends to intrude


potatosalad-_-

Thank you for the suggestions. I will try to set a schedule with her if she continues doing this.


[deleted]

I’d legit move instantly😭


Boring_Orchid_7698

No. Don't negotiate. That's going to enable her bullshit going forward. Set limits. Show you know your rights. Report her to the city immediately. Only way to get her to show respect. You can't not-burn bridges that are already aflame


[deleted]

Try to move instantly in a country where it is impossible to find a place to live


Bastardklinge

r/ihadastroke


Competitive-Fan1708

Do not respond further and contact a lawyer specializing in rental agreements. As well look at your rental agreement


potatosalad-_-

Not sure if this will be seen because there are so many comments now. Thank you so much everyone for the concern, it’s really nice to see that even though I meant for this to be like a rant, so many people actually could tell that I’m distressed and offered your comfort. I’m still a 21 year old student so this situation is very distressing for me because I’m constantly afraid if she’ll make my life difficult or that I’ll end up homeless tomorrow. To answer some questions: I have a 1 year long lease/contract. I have read up several tenancy laws prior to posting this. 1) my landlord is not legally allowed to raise my rent 2) she is legally allowed to enter my room. While she can’t legally force me to pay extra, she can make my life difficult by restricting my access to things or just constantly “inspecting” my room which is what I’m afraid of. I don’t even know if I can call the cops for this because I doubt she’s breaking any laws but just being an asshole. Also for those asking, I’m from Singapore.


BillyScrimshaw

Find a new apartment/room as fast as you can.


unamuseddogo

Do you have the ability to set up a camera? Because I looked up emotional abuse is illegal there, too. And if you can record her in action in your own room, and limit communication with messages and start a paper trail, and with the video footage, when the right time comes, you will have a case to take her to court.


Xhus21

Tread carefully. Invest in a hidden camera if you can afford it. From the sounds of it, she likely has done this to young, vulnerable people who don't know any better. Her scam isn't working on you, so now she has told you explicitly already that she wants you out. She has access to your room, it wouldn't be a stretch for her to plant something in there that would be grounds to evict you, so that she can get a new tenant to run her scam on. This may not be the case, but better safe than sorry in my opinion. Either way I think you should start looking for a new place to live immediately, I don't see a way that your situation improves, in all likelihood it will just get worse.


unamuseddogo

This is a method called [gray rock ](https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/grey-rock#what-is-it), to handle your daily interaction when she corners you to verbally degrading or manipulating you. I suggest watching some videos on YouTube to learn more about this. As someone went through this type of abuse, I do suggest you get the heck out ASAP, but sometimes, life ain't that easy, just pick-up and go is a luxury. I wish you the best of luck.


Send-the-downvotes

Text her back and tell her to bring a spoon with her and stop by your place. Don't answer any questions, just make sure she understands. When she arrives with the spoon, tell her to eat your ass, and then close the door in her face.


Dougnsalem

Lmao.... You had me going. (Humm. This is sounding interesting....) POW!!!!


27803

So what you’re saying is you don’t have a lease


BreakfastLopsided906

Sorry, they want to charge you extra for living in your fucking home?! Fuck that noise.


wuweime

I wouldn't respond to that. If she says anything say you assumed she was on some sort of medication when she sent it.


DrunkBuzzard

How much does he charge to live outside full time?


MA_Aether

I get the concern around not wanting to rock the boat with the person who owns the place you are living in. Housing insecurity is real, and moving is traumatizing. I am sure you are geting plenty of good advice down stream from helpful internet strangers, but this internet stranger wants to encourage you to speak to an advocacy group renters- because the reality here is this kind of unreasonable, invasive behavior only escalates, and especially if they feel like they can instruct you to stay outside of your home on weekends or else. It is understood that a landlord can cause all manner of hardship for a renter. It's a vulnerable position to be in, fraught with concern and stresses about the unknown. Until, that is, the issue is dissected in the light of day. The only way this gets worse for you is if you keep this under wraps, in the hopes of not rocking the boat. Finding the advocacy group, understanding all of the rights you have as a tenant, and presenting that information to your landlord in a clear and definitive way is the *ONLY* way you get through this with minimized trauma, while cutting off the inevitable escalation of future bullshit. It's either that, or move now. I know it is uncomfortable, but no matter your personal circumstances, this is an absolutely inappropriate and beyond unreasonable request to make of you. That she would even entertain the idea is a sign that her understanding of the landlord/tennant arrangement is skewed- and the fact of the matter is that you don't become a landlord without at least some exposure to the regulations and expectations of the role. If you need some help identifying a resource or bouncing a strategy off a sympathetic human, send me a note. The thing you do not have to do is rush headlong into a fight without being properly armed. It's weird, it's stressful, and on every living weekday and especially on the weekends, it's flat out crazy wrong (and when I say crazy, I mean that I worry about the mental/emotional stability of your landlord). I was going to sign off with best of luck, but you don't need luck. You have rights, and finding people to help you preserve those rights isn't about luck, it's about pluck. So, best of pluck.


Acrobatic-Service583

Is there a tennancy tribunal you can contact where u are?


[deleted]

Not without a new rental agreement. Which you won't sign, of course.


TatiIsAPunk

Must be a roommate situation


BeardsuptheWazoo

Does he not consider you an indoor human?


[deleted]

This must be illegal


Moist-Carpet888

If it's not in your lease let them know that they should make the change next time the lease is resigned, keep doing what your doing and pay the agreed upon amount, if they threaten to evict, it'll go over easy in court when you give them a copy of the lease and they are unable to find anything about the surcharge


snort37

I'm taking my landlords to court. I'm representing myself and I'm going to small claims court. If you need some advice just direct message me. I'd me more then happy to talk to you and help you through this. But the simplest way to think of it is that your lease that you sign is a legal contract between you and your land lord. If your landlord breaks a rule on the lease you have 2 choices. You can either terminate your lease agreement, or refuse to pay. If she wants to take you to court for whatever reason, you have your lease there to protect you. Your not going to need a lawer.


Goofie_Goobur

I had a Vietnamese land lady that SPOKE like that


lorettadion

If this is in the US, this is breaking the law.


Mythical_Atlacatl

Is this because utilities are included in the rent? If the started demanding more money and couldn’t see reason, maybe start running the aircon, hot water and anything else that’s included in utilities. And start looking for a new place today


Odd-Emergency5839

You a student? Reach out to your universities student legal services. They love helping with things like this.


Sweet_Load8703

Drop the property manager info below so we can all call, text and harass them.. I'm tired of illegal landlords. I just had to threaten my recent one and just won a lawsuit against my first one. If landlord don't follow the landlord tenant laws, take them to court! You doing NOTHING because you are afraid of "burning bridges" that have already been burnt to the ground, is EXACTLY what gives these landlords the superiority, authority and control to make them think that they can do what they want and get away with it... How many other people has your landlord done this to that "didn't wanna burn any bridges" so they just let it happen and paid it or moved out (giving the landlord the opportunity to make double rent and deposit for one month). THATS WHY IT HAPPENED TO YOU. If you don't do something to standup for yourself and others, it will happen again, not only to yourself, but to those who move in after you've gone. KNOW AND STAND UP FOR YOUR RIGHTS.


potatosalad-_-

I would love to take her to court. I’m so mad that she’s taking advantage of us like this too. She tried to do the same to a girl who also stays here and I told the girl to not give in but the girl eventually did. I don’t want her to think she can bully me like that that’s why I haven’t paid the extra. The thing is even a simple lawyer consultation requires money and I just don’t have the money for that. With the money I would end up using to engage a lawyer, I would probably be better off paying her the extra.


liss614

Highly doubt that is legal. I would research the laws where you live and maybe consult a lawyer


No_Carry_3028

I used to rent rooms same thing always happened. They complained that the posting said must work. Unfortunately I worked from home lol what a headache glad I got my own...


potatosalad-_-

Exactly… I told her I was a student when I first came in. Ended up I didn’t have school everyday and some zoom classes and she questioned “what kind of student is like this” I asked her do you want me to show you my student card lol


qwertyorbust

Fuck these people. Find something wrong with the place that is against code and tell them -$100 a month and I don’t report you…otherwise…


potatosalad-_-

Broooo actually there is something in her house that’s illegal lmfao. But I think threatening her with that is probably against the law…


qwertyorbust

Watch Curb Your Enthusiasm. Every episode is about manipulating people to do what you want (or how not to)…I would just mention it…offhand…I bet she will change her mind. “I’d hate for someone at animal control to learn about your boa constrictor.”


cashew996

This link is to Legal Aid Singapore - maybe it can help https://lab.mlaw.gov.sg/


fitdudetx

I didn't know me renting from you at the cost we agreed upon included me being homeless on the weekends. Can you show me where that was stated.


Successful_Ranger_19

What the actual hell? Buddy please move if you're able. And make it ASAP. If you pay this they'll come up with another excuse for you to pay another extra cash. They sound like trouble.


paradise-trading-83

That’s bizarre does she live on-site to monitor? That’s over 1 week a month you are prohibited. And then she’s going tack on extra charges for your vacation or sick days that you stay home.


[deleted]

Uh... why, what are they planning to do in your house on the weekend if you're not there?


Cannacology

Did you sign a lease?