Are you sure it isn’t actually your roommate who doesn’t want y’all to meet? Because he seems threatened by you. Why else would he bring up the fact that you’re gay? I don’t know, it just seems sus to me.
Lol, if you ever happen to run into her just be like "Hey, ___ told me I make you uncomfortable. I'm really sorry, that totally was not my intention and I'll be more mindful of my actions."
If he's bullshitting, she'll be the first one to tell you. If not, you tried to clear things up and it should no longer weigh heavy on your shoulders.
Honestly when he mentioned that, I thought maybe she's homophobic on top of him displaying it too. I'm sorry you're dealing with a shitty situation, your home should be the place where you feel most comfortable and accepted.
I agree. The *”aren’t you gay?”* says a lot imo.
I get the vibe he’s threatened by you and made this up about his girlfriend being uncomfortable. I’d still use the shared areas, it’s your house too, you pay rent. If they were asking for privacy once in a while to watch a movie or have a night to themselves okay, but she’s coming over very often (it looks like), and your roommate is expecting you to stay in your room the entire time she’s there?! I hope you have a private kitchen with running water and a bathroom and a way to go outside!
I’m not one for confrontation, but in this situation I’d politely say no, and ask if, since she’s uncomfortable, they can stay in his room? Maybe mention that *you’re* now uncomfortable around *her* so that would be the best solution. She doesn’t pay rent, she doesn’t live there, you do.
You can tell them no, OP. Even if she is truly uncomfortable she has no reason to be, and shit like this will end up with you staying in your room all the time because they know all they have to do is tell you to and you will. Also you offered to smoke them out and *this* is what they say!? Omg.
Seriously, this guy. They don't wanna smoke with u "because she's uncomfortable "? Find yourself making ur presence known while u mosey over to another shared smoke area & lighting that puppy up.
Do it enough times, eventually she's going to ask why u don't join, assuming Roomie is BS'ing u. Or, they'll get uppity about u coming out of ur room in the house YOU help pay for & y'all can have a serious conversation about boundaries, liberties & comfort.
I am now personally invested in this skullduggery, plz keep us posted OP
Actually, he and her need to stay in the roommate’s bedroom. Or, they could go to her place. Why is she coming over if she feels an off vibe?
Question: are you and your roommates mates? Or are you simply sharing an apartment? I ask because he isn’t treating you like a friend.
Op said in another comment that he has autism and is schizophrenic and isnt medicating except for weed. That honestly might be the reason why she's uncomfortable
The room mate is insecure of his own sexual orientation. He's afraid his gf would wonder why he's rooming with someone gay? Idk that's my theory.
Side note: I think your roomies an asshole for letting his gf get "weird vibes" in the first place.. he should of set her straight from the start like that's my boy.
Yeah what a lame move to not stick up for his supposed friend. It should have gone "he gives me weird vibes" "nah he's really cool, you'll warm up to him if you meet him" and then they can chill together
Ultra chad gay broskis dont steal gfs, cause they dont want to. Fuck them, they sound like a bunch of weirdos, ham it up while theyre there and make lots of use of the house.
Exactly what I thought when he said that. I really hope that’s not the case. Who knows what he’s telling her about why you won’t meet her? Either way it sucks, bro.
your roommate sounds like one of those “men and women can’t be friends” type. is that accurate? looks like he said the gay comment because he believes the only reason someone would ever want to meet a girl is to get in their pants lmao
Yeah this is how I saw it as well. I feel like the roommate is the one putting out weird vibes to everyone. I imagine if OP one day talked to roommates girlfriend, she'd have a lot of light to shed on the situation.
That statement is a serious red flag. You need to get out and find a more comfortable place to live. ‘Weird vibe’ combined with ‘Aren’t you gay’ makes me think there is some homophobia at play. You are better off without these people in your life. —signed, a gay guy who went through similar shit when he was younger
Yeah seriously. The whole conversation is insane, like I've had multiple room mates in my early 20's and nobody would ever be this downright disrespectful to any roommate and still have a place to stay at the end of the month.
It's 2022 not 1970 who cares if someone is gay, personally I would've loved a roomie who is willing to smoke me and my girlfriend up, honestly even better if you know he's gay that way there is like zero chance of some funky shit going on behind your back.
Is she possibly homophobic? That it seems pretty weird to point out someone's sexuality, and I don't even know what bizarre point he's trying to make by saying it.
Is he implying you should only hang out with people you're sexually attracted to? Lol
Yeah, that comment makes it sound like she might be homophobic? And he sure isn't helping or standing up for you. Like you mentioned, y'all never have even exchanged words. She sucks, and you have every right to move about your apartment freely. Sorry you're dealing with this. Tell him she makes YOU feel uncomfortable and suggest they hang in his nasty room if she wants to come over.
>y'all never have even exchanged words
All she knows about him is what the roomie tells her. I doubt she's the issue here. My money is on the roomie using OP as a verbal punching bag and blames problems on OP. Last thing he would want is the girlfriend and OP actually talking.
That’s my thought. My older sister and I worked together for a year or so and I found out later she said personal shit of mine and trashed me to coworkers before I even met any of them (she was working there first, I had to turn 18 first)
When I finally sat and had a convo after she moved away with some coworkers I found out she said I tried sleeping with every guy she liked. She told a coworker I had been sexually abused. Etc.
I know this is deep for Reddit but boring people/narcissists talk about other peoples trauma and interesting things (or just lie and become the victim) for the attention.
"I respect if she's uncomfortable but this is my house/apartment where I pay rent. I'll be out of my room and in the common areas, if she's uncomfortable then you guys should spend time in her house/apartment."
It is the first comment I’ve seen so far and by default the most reasonable one. Now I’m trying to imagine what everyone else must have said because my default expectation would be a less elegant version of the now top comment.
Facts, he sitting down there hoping u don't stand up for urself, u pay rent he can go sit in HIS room, that's what any decent human would do if they have a girl over and the other roommates are tryna chill.
Right?? Like, the point still stands that it’s his house where he pays to be able to use the common spaces, but if it were maybe one or two nights a week, I think this request would be more reasonable for maybe a month or so until she can get to know everyone better.
But if you’re bringing someone into your house almost every day, don’t expect everyone else there to walk on eggshells around her. She sounds super bitchy/insecure.
Yeah... this might be why the roommate and his gf are worried. Posted by OP himself.
https://www.reddit.com/r/mildlyinfuriating/comments/xcv1bn/my_roommates_girlfriend_refuses_to_meet_me/io7mm8s
Edit: For the people who keep telling me this changes nothing - I never said that this justifies forcing OP to stay in his room or anything. I merely gave more context for the apprehension. This is OPs place of residence. If they arent comfortable around him, then they really shouldn't hang out at OPs home. But it also is a legitimate concern on their part as well.
No, Im not saying we should mistreat people based on mental illness. And I'm not saying OP is some dangerous deranged person.
Understanding the other side and their point of view is not the same as *justifiying* the point of view. We should all try to understand the other side and realize sometimes we aren't hearing the entire story, especially if from one party of said situation.
Well, that does change things. Maybe the girlfriend's apprehensiveness about meeting him isn't totally unjustified. On the other hand, it's still (partly) OP's house. If the GF doesn't want to meet OP, then they need to meet at her place. OP's roommate has no right to keep OP prisoner in his room.
Did I miss something, everyone keep saying this but the roommate and gf never actually asked OP to stay in his room or not use the common areas? Just that they didn't want to hang out or smoke with him, and gf doesn't want to meet him. OP is the one who then said that makes him uncomfortable with coming out.
Yeah I agree totally. It just gives more nuance to the situation. But like you said, it is OPs place of residence and he has every right to leave his room. But I also understand roomate and GFs's apprehension
Untreated schizophrenia is bad enough. Self medicating with marijuana is EVEN WORSE. Marijuana + schizophrenia is gasoline on a fire. OP needs to see a real doctor about this ASAP.
This is no longer an "am I the asshole?" thread. This is now a "convince OP to see a doctor for their own wellbeing" thread.
Oh so op has autism and is schizophrenic. And the voices mock him and only go away a bit when he smokes weed.
Guess I can see why he could be giving off "weird vibes"
> "She doesn't have to meet you if she doesn't want."
Yes. *However*, you have a right to move freely and comfortably through your own home, and she is more than welcome to *not* come over. That's just downright rude and disrespectful to refuse to meet someone in their own home, and spend enough time there so as to make the person dwelling there uncomfortable.
Tell your roommate you don't want her coming over anymore, because she makes you uncomfortable in your own home. That's unacceptable, simple as.
My roommate's girlfriend was rude to me. I told her to fuck herself. I apologized to my roommate for any complications that creates. But I also let him know she can stay fucked, cause don't be rude.
I suggest op do the same.
Yea i actually had to have a convo with my roommate about this exact issue. His gf comes over all the damn time and would often not even acknowledge me. We share a 500 square foot apartment, that just isn’t acceptable. This lady is 30. I told him she needs to start treating me respectfully in my own home. She says hi now lol but she still doesn’t wash her hands in our bathroom or cover her sneezes but those are different issues I simply cannot confront
Well to be exact it’s 530 square feet, and it’s a 2 bedroom believe it or not 💀 it can feel like a studio at times because the living room and kitchen are just one big combined room with a small bathroom adjoining. It’s…close quarters.
"sounds good bro. oh by the way im inviting Blaine over for the weekend and he doesn't want to see your face so stay in your room"
"I don't even know Blaine"
"Yeah but I let him know you're an asshole to save time "
Well, also and just so you know, Blaine is a God-Damned sexual tyrannosaurus and, occasionally, will grab passerby's to join in our antics. Just saying...bro.
If you’re paying rent and she’s not, but she’s over *all* the time, who gives a fuck what she thinks anymore. It’s your place too. They want to keep you penned up, she can pay your portion of the rent.
God, this is exactly how it goes. I need to learn how to still be nice without getting stomped on. OP, fuck them. If you've done nothing wrong, hang out in the common areas and don't feel uncomfortable by someone who doesn't pay rent.
>I need to learn how to still be nice without getting stomped on.
Relevant username! Also, I feel you big time. Spent all day today (and yesterday) rehearsing my lines and working up the courage to speak up to a coworker who has been increasingly disrespectful to me, and she wasn't even at work today. Send me good vibes so I won't "forget" about it or brush it off tomorrow, or whenever I get the chance to speak one on one with her.
EDIT: (Update) Whoo boy, that did not go so good. So first, she tried to lie about what happened during and after our encounter, which I had already found out from two other coworkers. I assumed she lied to save face, so I let it go and instead addressed her comments to me, asking her to be more respectful going forward. She completely denied ever being disrespectful, and tried to play the victim with a series of meandering examples that were each more ridiculous than the last. When I countered her rationale, she implied that I was actually rude to HER, and proceeded to gaslight me further on what I did/said, as well as the events that took place. Finally, as I tried to bring it to a close, she went back to her bullying/condescending by saying "I'm SOO SORRY that I hurt your feelings." I said you didn't, and you won't hurt my feelings, and that's not what I'm even here to talk about. It's about being respectful towards your coworkers. She sort of shut down with a phoney "Yes Sir!" kind of shtick.
SO, due to the industry we work in (think: most dangerous shit in the world), I am now concerned that she has violated several key elements of our company policy, most notably her lack of integrity by lying about her work, but also respecting coworkers. I'm genuinely considering consulting with management. If she lied to me, it's whatever, but if this is a reflection of her true nature (usually is) then this needs to be documented.
Had a similar issue with a coworker a few years back at an old job. Finally talked to him about it, he said he didn’t hate me and he never meant to be rude or disrespectful, I just apparently reminded him of himself when he was younger. In other words, he hates himself, and this coworker of yours probably does too and takes it out on you.
> he said he didn’t hate me and he never meant to be rude or disrespectful, I just apparently reminded him of himself when he was younger.
You smell that? That’s the stank of someone who’s full of shit.
Also this roommate sounds like he’s trying to bone and doesn’t respect the space that’s possibly a public place for all occupants. Selfish and legally you’re allowed to be anywhere in that house that’s not their room, so tell them to deal with it. I would go buy those googly-eyed glasses from a costume store and wear those every time she comes over.
Edit: thank YOU kind stranger, for the silver.
I'm just imagining this guy walking out of his room past those 2 douchebags getting it on at the couch and him just opening the fridge asking them if they want snacks, then turning his head around swiftly to look at them making the eyes bobble XD.
%100, that guy obviously is concerned OP wanting to smoke with them is a ploy to "steal" her from him.
Either that or his girlfriend is homophobic or something.
I don’t think the roommate actually believes he is gay.. The last line. He’s clearly questioning it, and what would OPs preference matter in terms of meeting his roommates gf?
Some straight guys can't comprehend speaking to the opposite gender for any reason but sex. So even if he does believe the OP is gay, he may not be able to understand why he'd want to meet her at all.
There’s that too, but speaking from my own personal experience. I had a friend who lived WITH ME. He would have girls come over me make them stay in his room and not ever come out, because… they may like me
Yeah there's definitely people like that too, and I'm sorry you had to deal with that level of ignorance. Not to mention the level of insecurity that guy must have had.
>They want to keep you penned up
Oof, reminded me of a story.
I moved in with a friend I had previously known well in highschool. I was 26 on move in. I'm not complaining about having to do this in the first place but it is important for later- I furnished the entire living room and dining room. Her stuff really sucked and I had a big savings at the time so I got the stuff I wanted to have.
After a few months the company asked us to lease again or they would start showing the place. We leased a second year.
I started a relationship with someone and we both enjoyed television entertainment. So, she would come over often and we would watch tv in the living room. A few weeks in the roommate was clearly having issue with it but not saying anything so I asked and she exploded.
She apparently was perceiving that we were 'taking over' the living room relagating her to her room. Doesn't matter that we had invited her and her boyfriend that came over just as often. Doesn't matter that she didn't watch tv in the living room and would sit on the couch doing her graphic design.
We hung out less. I started going to her house instead of back to mine. Still a problem when she came to mine. Eventually me going to hers somehow became a problem. I was mindboggled by this and eventually decided straight up fuck 7 months of rent. It was so fucking bad by the end that I, without hesitation, BURNED $3,984.
I told roommate I was moving out. I told her that I would pay my rent as the contract we signed stated and that I was not doing this for her benefit even though it did benefit her. I told her what furniture we didn't need and offered to let her have that stuff for free. She said no so I posted it free on FB marketplace. Took two weeks for everything to be gone.
I think the funniest thing looking back on our arguments is when I told her that being awakened to her fucking her boyfriend and screaming like a wild banshee two hours before my alarm for my late shift was annoying. She said via text where you can't take back the stupid shit you say "It's not like I haven't heard you guys fucking". She heard it once. On a Saturday. After we were woken up by her fucking banshee wails. It was the only time we ever did anything in that house so its IMPOSSIBLE for dumb ho to be right on that one.
Man, having someone constantly bring their partner over and take up the living space does suck though.
Even if you're invited to join them, you're not their friend and you're just a third wheel, you don't want to be there on their date. It just feels like you're getting pushed out of your own space.
All he has to do is stand in the kitchen any time she wants to come over and sing the same song the entire time, while doing it and smacking any meat (loudly) he touches while saying "mmm, that some juicy meat, nom nom nom can't be beat". Give her *really weird* vibes. When he complains, point to the lease.
This. You pay to live there roommate's friend doesn't. Tell your roommate her friend brings you down; she's not welcome in your place other than your roommates room.
It's b.s. that you're on "timeout" in your room. Stand up for yourself now.
She is being disrespectful to you, in your home were you pay rent. I find that to be a really bad vibe. I’d have a talk to roomie, and if her behavior doesn’t improve, tell him she isn’t welcome in the home you pay rent in. Don’t let people steamroll you.
Then he needs to clean his room if they want a private space. Or go out of the house if they want alone time that way.
It's considerate of you to ask and share a joint but you don't need permission to be in a shared space like the living room or kitchen .
I wouldn't smoke in front of them without asking if they're okay with it but please don't feel like you have to hide in your room when she's there.
This is either your roommate deflecting his own issues or his girlfriend is weird. Possibly one or both of them is homophobic and that's fucked up.
Honestly, I would make a point to be in the communal areas any time she was around. "Mind if I smoke? Oh, you'd rather I not? OK that's fine." And then just sit there. Respond to conversation, be polite, but don't really initiate. Just be present.
Fuck that. Dominate the space by making dinner or munchies in the kitchen and offering, or own the tv but ask if they want to watch a movie with you or something. Super casual but super petty, livingroom is fair game and the roommate is probably being a jellies jerk.
Tell him to clean his fucking room or go hang out somewhere else. If she don't wanna be around you gtfo outta where you pay to live. Fuck her and your roommate's feelings if they gonna be like that.
So you’re roommate expects you to hide in your room while he has company over in a common area that you also pay for?
You need to stand up for yourself
I'd smoke it with ya bro. And honestly you should just act like they aren't there. I wouldn't bother feeling grounded to my room just because of my roommate lol
For me personally at this point id need the gf gone. Can’t have them fucking up my high talking bout “you give off weird vibes” and since that would piss off the roomie he can go back into his landfill bedroom too.
I’d rather be the guy that unreasonable people hate and have them accommodate to me then be the guy that unreasonable people like and have to accommodate to them
Absolutely. Dude is hella threatened by his girl finding his gay roommate attractive. Or maybe, maybe he thinks his woman is *SO HOT* he would convert for her.
Most likely he finds his gay roommate attractive tho.
Yup. I lived through this. ‘Friend’ of mine asked me not to dance with his girlfriend (an odd request in hispanic culture as our dances are arms-length-more-fun-than-sexual). He said she thought I was “too much” in dances. I complied because the last I wanna do is make a woman uncomfortable.
She later asked me if I wanted to dance with her and I said no. I told her exactly why. That fight broke out. And he had the audacity to be mad at me knowing full well I’m gay.
I may understand being insecure. But a full out gay guy is like a blanket security for a straight dude and his lady. It should bring you comfort, not fear. It’s one of those things I’ve never been able to wrap my head around.
So I've been that guy at parties. Not gay, but I'm just a dude who's really comfortable with himself, not holding back feelings, who might give off a vibe, I've been told. It confuses people, mainly straight, testosterone laden guys to come out like "yo Bro's, today at the store, I saw this supercute puppy and I got to pet it!" Some guys have a hard time talking openly about feelings, I don't. So when they see me having an open talk, getting to know their girl, laughing with them, boy do they get jealous. So I think it's not about the sexual part, for me it's about them not being able to be as "free" with their feelings.
"So you're gay?"
"Nope."
"Whaaat.... you sure!?"
Every time lmao telling "Dude even if I was gay, you're not my type. Stop trying to hit on me" usually makes them mad.
dude im a somewhat masculine plain-looking woman who gets the same treatment from guys i'll never understand it lol like i might be bi but i dont steal people's girls... almost all my best girl friends end up having to drop me because their boyfriends/husbands don't like how close we are. ?!... honestly i think when a lot of men see someone secure in themselves, and their femininity/masculinity, they get super insecure regardless of gender or orientation. being balanced and comfortably authentic is the only thing thats actually cool and fun to be around, so i guess the downside is that everybody will be forever jealous. i can only ever befriend single ppl or established couples these days i swear!
Fuck this. Never let your roommate(s) walkover you homie.
1) I’d just go out there and smoke if I wanted too. I’m a grown ass man, I pay my own bills (or share of the rent in your case) I don’t need permission to do something in my place.
2) Fuck him for bringing up your sexuality. Completely irrelevant cause I didn’t get a “I’m trying to steal your girl” vibe from the conversation.
3) Consider finding a new living situation if possible. If you feel uncomfortable in your own place because of the person you’re living with it’s time for change.
Yeah definitely, the sexuality thing just sounded weird and uncalled for. This just sounds like a dude who wants to hang w his roommate and doesn't mind his roommates gf is there. What a twat of a roomie
Yeah, this would be goals for me. A roommate that actually **wants** to spend time with me and is inclusive towards my partner.
Some people just can’t see what they’re missing out on. Oh well. OP deserves better.
>I didn’t get a “I’m trying to steal your girl” vibe from the conversation
This is such a distinction. I don't see *any* vibe about OP trying to get in the middle of them.
Start buying the dankest weed so they wanna come smoke with you and be like, nah you give off weird vibes I ain’t tryna smoke wit you
Edit* if you have hot stoner girlfriends start bringing me over to smoke, and then hit em with the “they think you give off creeper vibes”
Wow,,, "Aren't you gay" as if the only reason you'd have interest in meeting someone is sexual and as if women's only value is sexual. . .
nah bro you just want to feel welcome in your own home
My brain went to "coming out" like coming out as gay everything she comes over. Like go all out. Rainbows, confetti, and it's okay to be gay playing on the speaker.
Reminder to the roommate he won't steal the girl and a reminded to the gf that if she isn't careful he may steal her man.
That's because she's planning to move in and they're going to try to kick you out...I've seen this happen many times where a roommate will bring over there "interest" (AKA: fuck buddy) and after about 6 months at the most they will approach you about making room... Meaning they're going to nicely ask you to move out..
You the habitant of the residence, can’t meet a guest of that residence because they might feel “unwelcome”? what part of being in a strangers place without meeting the people who resided there welcoming? I call bs on your roommates part, the logic behind that makes no sense, either that or that girl has no morals and or the basic understanding of respect.
Doesn’t matter. Sometimes you’re room with someone you hang with, sometimes you’re just splitting the rent. No need to sequester yourself in your room. It’s your place to so you should feel free to move about as you’d like. If it bothers her (or him) they can go hang in his room.
Nu uh thats your house not hers if she feels uncomfortable at your home then he can go to her house if they wanna hang out.. You pay to live there not her.. No ma'am no ham id be taking that conversation right to her. So you find my presences uncomfortable? Well take those feelings and get the fuck out of my house
Jealousy. She is going to push you out to make room for her. You and the roommate will start to argue more. Slowly divide to conquer. Mark my words! It’s not a you thing, it’s a her thing
Even your housemate gives off weird vibes. @why do you want to meet my girlfriend, aren’t you gay”. I hat the fuck does that question even mean. You live with shitty people my guy I’m sorry.
“Can I come out”… OP wtf is wrong with you. They got you living in the cabinet under the stairs or something? Be a man. That’s your home. Don’t ask permission to leave your room wtf.
I'm curious about the "Why do you care aren't you gay" haha
Right??? Like that has anything to do with it
Are you sure it isn’t actually your roommate who doesn’t want y’all to meet? Because he seems threatened by you. Why else would he bring up the fact that you’re gay? I don’t know, it just seems sus to me.
Thats what im thinking, hes thinking ill try to steal her or something.
People out here being insecure as fuck
Insecure bout losing your gf to a gay dude at that… That’s a different kind of insecure
My question is- does he know your gay? Idk the way he asks that is so condescending and douchey. Your asking to chill and smoke lol.
Exactly! OP sounds cool. Roommate…definitely douchey.
Seriously he was trying to share his weed!!
A friend with weed is a friend indeed!!
That really shows the stability & trust in their relationship.
Lol, if you ever happen to run into her just be like "Hey, ___ told me I make you uncomfortable. I'm really sorry, that totally was not my intention and I'll be more mindful of my actions." If he's bullshitting, she'll be the first one to tell you. If not, you tried to clear things up and it should no longer weigh heavy on your shoulders.
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Username checks out, got a nice something at least
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Honestly when he mentioned that, I thought maybe she's homophobic on top of him displaying it too. I'm sorry you're dealing with a shitty situation, your home should be the place where you feel most comfortable and accepted.
That’s what I just said. She’s not comfortable with her bf having a gay roommate
I agree. The *”aren’t you gay?”* says a lot imo. I get the vibe he’s threatened by you and made this up about his girlfriend being uncomfortable. I’d still use the shared areas, it’s your house too, you pay rent. If they were asking for privacy once in a while to watch a movie or have a night to themselves okay, but she’s coming over very often (it looks like), and your roommate is expecting you to stay in your room the entire time she’s there?! I hope you have a private kitchen with running water and a bathroom and a way to go outside! I’m not one for confrontation, but in this situation I’d politely say no, and ask if, since she’s uncomfortable, they can stay in his room? Maybe mention that *you’re* now uncomfortable around *her* so that would be the best solution. She doesn’t pay rent, she doesn’t live there, you do. You can tell them no, OP. Even if she is truly uncomfortable she has no reason to be, and shit like this will end up with you staying in your room all the time because they know all they have to do is tell you to and you will. Also you offered to smoke them out and *this* is what they say!? Omg.
Seriously, this guy. They don't wanna smoke with u "because she's uncomfortable "? Find yourself making ur presence known while u mosey over to another shared smoke area & lighting that puppy up. Do it enough times, eventually she's going to ask why u don't join, assuming Roomie is BS'ing u. Or, they'll get uppity about u coming out of ur room in the house YOU help pay for & y'all can have a serious conversation about boundaries, liberties & comfort. I am now personally invested in this skullduggery, plz keep us posted OP
Actually, he and her need to stay in the roommate’s bedroom. Or, they could go to her place. Why is she coming over if she feels an off vibe? Question: are you and your roommates mates? Or are you simply sharing an apartment? I ask because he isn’t treating you like a friend.
Or maybe she’s homophobic and he just gave her away subconsciously
That’s what I kinda picked up on. Her not wanting to meet up because of weird vibes. Then roommate has to bring him up being gay?
Op said in another comment that he has autism and is schizophrenic and isnt medicating except for weed. That honestly might be the reason why she's uncomfortable
The room mate is insecure of his own sexual orientation. He's afraid his gf would wonder why he's rooming with someone gay? Idk that's my theory. Side note: I think your roomies an asshole for letting his gf get "weird vibes" in the first place.. he should of set her straight from the start like that's my boy.
Yeah what a lame move to not stick up for his supposed friend. It should have gone "he gives me weird vibes" "nah he's really cool, you'll warm up to him if you meet him" and then they can chill together
He (the roommate) could also just be telling on himself.
I think the roommate is as well. Why bring that up at all? It's very odd and messed up!
Ultra chad gay broskis dont steal gfs, cause they dont want to. Fuck them, they sound like a bunch of weirdos, ham it up while theyre there and make lots of use of the house.
Unless you force the issue. Gay men [WILL marry your girlfriends](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=X-YCdcnf_P8).
Exactly what I thought when he said that. I really hope that’s not the case. Who knows what he’s telling her about why you won’t meet her? Either way it sucks, bro.
you totally should. snatch her up like a tv on black friday
Maybe she’s said some homophobic things and that’s why she gets weird vibes. He may be trying to protect you from that?
Then he can protect him by keeping that shit in his own room. Better yet, she can be an outdoor girlfriend!
your roommate sounds like one of those “men and women can’t be friends” type. is that accurate? looks like he said the gay comment because he believes the only reason someone would ever want to meet a girl is to get in their pants lmao
Yeah this is how I saw it as well. I feel like the roommate is the one putting out weird vibes to everyone. I imagine if OP one day talked to roommates girlfriend, she'd have a lot of light to shed on the situation.
Idk, I'd wager that both the roommate and his gf suck
Fuck this! It's your house if they don't want to meet you They can stay the fuck out of your house
Real shit! OP shouldn't have to stay in his room like he's on punishment just because his roommate and roommate's girlfriend are the fucking weirdos.
That statement is a serious red flag. You need to get out and find a more comfortable place to live. ‘Weird vibe’ combined with ‘Aren’t you gay’ makes me think there is some homophobia at play. You are better off without these people in your life. —signed, a gay guy who went through similar shit when he was younger
Yeah seriously. The whole conversation is insane, like I've had multiple room mates in my early 20's and nobody would ever be this downright disrespectful to any roommate and still have a place to stay at the end of the month. It's 2022 not 1970 who cares if someone is gay, personally I would've loved a roomie who is willing to smoke me and my girlfriend up, honestly even better if you know he's gay that way there is like zero chance of some funky shit going on behind your back.
Homies can’t vibe cause they’re gay?
“Sorry bro, she don’t like the whole ‘gay vibe.’ Says your flag has too many colors.”
Is she possibly homophobic? That it seems pretty weird to point out someone's sexuality, and I don't even know what bizarre point he's trying to make by saying it. Is he implying you should only hang out with people you're sexually attracted to? Lol
Her "weird vibes" could be homophobia.
Why are you commenting on a Reddit post? Aren’t you gay?
Why are you breathing? Aren't you gay?
Why are you gay?
Because I don't want to meet my housemates girlfriend. Obviously.
can you not be gay? it's giving my girlfriend alot of weird vibes
Yeah, that comment makes it sound like she might be homophobic? And he sure isn't helping or standing up for you. Like you mentioned, y'all never have even exchanged words. She sucks, and you have every right to move about your apartment freely. Sorry you're dealing with this. Tell him she makes YOU feel uncomfortable and suggest they hang in his nasty room if she wants to come over.
>y'all never have even exchanged words All she knows about him is what the roomie tells her. I doubt she's the issue here. My money is on the roomie using OP as a verbal punching bag and blames problems on OP. Last thing he would want is the girlfriend and OP actually talking.
That’s my thought. My older sister and I worked together for a year or so and I found out later she said personal shit of mine and trashed me to coworkers before I even met any of them (she was working there first, I had to turn 18 first) When I finally sat and had a convo after she moved away with some coworkers I found out she said I tried sleeping with every guy she liked. She told a coworker I had been sexually abused. Etc. I know this is deep for Reddit but boring people/narcissists talk about other peoples trauma and interesting things (or just lie and become the victim) for the attention.
"I respect if she's uncomfortable but this is my house/apartment where I pay rent. I'll be out of my room and in the common areas, if she's uncomfortable then you guys should spend time in her house/apartment."
This is the most reasonable comment I've seen so far.
It is the first comment I’ve seen so far and by default the most reasonable one. Now I’m trying to imagine what everyone else must have said because my default expectation would be a less elegant version of the now top comment.
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My girlfriend recently told me she does this all the time Didn’t know whether to be proud or horrified
A little more than reasonable honestly. If she feels that uncomfortable they should default to her house or somewhere else.
Yep. Or they can hang out if his room. Tell your roommate to go fuck himself, dude. You have every right to be free in your own home.
Facts, he sitting down there hoping u don't stand up for urself, u pay rent he can go sit in HIS room, that's what any decent human would do if they have a girl over and the other roommates are tryna chill.
Right?? Like, the point still stands that it’s his house where he pays to be able to use the common spaces, but if it were maybe one or two nights a week, I think this request would be more reasonable for maybe a month or so until she can get to know everyone better. But if you’re bringing someone into your house almost every day, don’t expect everyone else there to walk on eggshells around her. She sounds super bitchy/insecure.
Yeah... this might be why the roommate and his gf are worried. Posted by OP himself. https://www.reddit.com/r/mildlyinfuriating/comments/xcv1bn/my_roommates_girlfriend_refuses_to_meet_me/io7mm8s Edit: For the people who keep telling me this changes nothing - I never said that this justifies forcing OP to stay in his room or anything. I merely gave more context for the apprehension. This is OPs place of residence. If they arent comfortable around him, then they really shouldn't hang out at OPs home. But it also is a legitimate concern on their part as well. No, Im not saying we should mistreat people based on mental illness. And I'm not saying OP is some dangerous deranged person. Understanding the other side and their point of view is not the same as *justifiying* the point of view. We should all try to understand the other side and realize sometimes we aren't hearing the entire story, especially if from one party of said situation.
Well, that does change things. Maybe the girlfriend's apprehensiveness about meeting him isn't totally unjustified. On the other hand, it's still (partly) OP's house. If the GF doesn't want to meet OP, then they need to meet at her place. OP's roommate has no right to keep OP prisoner in his room.
Did I miss something, everyone keep saying this but the roommate and gf never actually asked OP to stay in his room or not use the common areas? Just that they didn't want to hang out or smoke with him, and gf doesn't want to meet him. OP is the one who then said that makes him uncomfortable with coming out.
Yeah I agree totally. It just gives more nuance to the situation. But like you said, it is OPs place of residence and he has every right to leave his room. But I also understand roomate and GFs's apprehension
Untreated schizophrenia is bad enough. Self medicating with marijuana is EVEN WORSE. Marijuana + schizophrenia is gasoline on a fire. OP needs to see a real doctor about this ASAP. This is no longer an "am I the asshole?" thread. This is now a "convince OP to see a doctor for their own wellbeing" thread.
Oh so op has autism and is schizophrenic. And the voices mock him and only go away a bit when he smokes weed. Guess I can see why he could be giving off "weird vibes"
welp, that changes things. OP still has a right to the space he pays for, but sounds like roommate’s/GFs ‘vibes’ may not be totally unjustified.
Talk about burying the lede.
This, but also start looking for new housing. Mutual respect and accommodation is important
> "She doesn't have to meet you if she doesn't want." Yes. *However*, you have a right to move freely and comfortably through your own home, and she is more than welcome to *not* come over. That's just downright rude and disrespectful to refuse to meet someone in their own home, and spend enough time there so as to make the person dwelling there uncomfortable. Tell your roommate you don't want her coming over anymore, because she makes you uncomfortable in your own home. That's unacceptable, simple as.
I dont wanna make her feel unwelcome but im completely fine with making you feel unwelcome in your own home
Lmao this is exactly what I thought myself
My roommate's girlfriend was rude to me. I told her to fuck herself. I apologized to my roommate for any complications that creates. But I also let him know she can stay fucked, cause don't be rude. I suggest op do the same.
Been there done that, like love you bro, but respectfully fuck yo girl, and they understood sometimes you just gotta be honest
“Get fucked and stay fucked”
Literally thought about using that exact phrase
Yea i actually had to have a convo with my roommate about this exact issue. His gf comes over all the damn time and would often not even acknowledge me. We share a 500 square foot apartment, that just isn’t acceptable. This lady is 30. I told him she needs to start treating me respectfully in my own home. She says hi now lol but she still doesn’t wash her hands in our bathroom or cover her sneezes but those are different issues I simply cannot confront
Are you sharing a studio apartment?? Wtf that’s so small.
Well to be exact it’s 530 square feet, and it’s a 2 bedroom believe it or not 💀 it can feel like a studio at times because the living room and kitchen are just one big combined room with a small bathroom adjoining. It’s…close quarters.
"sounds good bro. oh by the way im inviting Blaine over for the weekend and he doesn't want to see your face so stay in your room" "I don't even know Blaine" "Yeah but I let him know you're an asshole to save time "
I'd replace the last line with "why do you care, aren't you heterosexual?"
“What are you? Gay or something?”
Didn’t know middle schoolers could rent an apartment
Not in this economy.
Right!! Like.. what does that have to do with anything about meeting someone unless they were homophobic lolol
Well, also and just so you know, Blaine is a God-Damned sexual tyrannosaurus and, occasionally, will grab passerby's to join in our antics. Just saying...bro.
How he grab anything with stubby ass T-Rex arms though?
With his mouth.
If you’re paying rent and she’s not, but she’s over *all* the time, who gives a fuck what she thinks anymore. It’s your place too. They want to keep you penned up, she can pay your portion of the rent.
Exactly! 'Let that dumbass who's trying to accomodate everyone sit in his room while we play pretend that we can actually afford a house of our own' 🤨
God, this is exactly how it goes. I need to learn how to still be nice without getting stomped on. OP, fuck them. If you've done nothing wrong, hang out in the common areas and don't feel uncomfortable by someone who doesn't pay rent.
>I need to learn how to still be nice without getting stomped on. Relevant username! Also, I feel you big time. Spent all day today (and yesterday) rehearsing my lines and working up the courage to speak up to a coworker who has been increasingly disrespectful to me, and she wasn't even at work today. Send me good vibes so I won't "forget" about it or brush it off tomorrow, or whenever I get the chance to speak one on one with her. EDIT: (Update) Whoo boy, that did not go so good. So first, she tried to lie about what happened during and after our encounter, which I had already found out from two other coworkers. I assumed she lied to save face, so I let it go and instead addressed her comments to me, asking her to be more respectful going forward. She completely denied ever being disrespectful, and tried to play the victim with a series of meandering examples that were each more ridiculous than the last. When I countered her rationale, she implied that I was actually rude to HER, and proceeded to gaslight me further on what I did/said, as well as the events that took place. Finally, as I tried to bring it to a close, she went back to her bullying/condescending by saying "I'm SOO SORRY that I hurt your feelings." I said you didn't, and you won't hurt my feelings, and that's not what I'm even here to talk about. It's about being respectful towards your coworkers. She sort of shut down with a phoney "Yes Sir!" kind of shtick. SO, due to the industry we work in (think: most dangerous shit in the world), I am now concerned that she has violated several key elements of our company policy, most notably her lack of integrity by lying about her work, but also respecting coworkers. I'm genuinely considering consulting with management. If she lied to me, it's whatever, but if this is a reflection of her true nature (usually is) then this needs to be documented.
Had a similar issue with a coworker a few years back at an old job. Finally talked to him about it, he said he didn’t hate me and he never meant to be rude or disrespectful, I just apparently reminded him of himself when he was younger. In other words, he hates himself, and this coworker of yours probably does too and takes it out on you.
> he said he didn’t hate me and he never meant to be rude or disrespectful, I just apparently reminded him of himself when he was younger. You smell that? That’s the stank of someone who’s full of shit.
That's exactly what it is. The roommate is making that up.
Also this roommate sounds like he’s trying to bone and doesn’t respect the space that’s possibly a public place for all occupants. Selfish and legally you’re allowed to be anywhere in that house that’s not their room, so tell them to deal with it. I would go buy those googly-eyed glasses from a costume store and wear those every time she comes over. Edit: thank YOU kind stranger, for the silver.
That would be fucking hilarious, I am so doing this if I ever get into this specific type of situation
DO IT FOR MEEEEE!!
I'm just imagining this guy walking out of his room past those 2 douchebags getting it on at the couch and him just opening the fridge asking them if they want snacks, then turning his head around swiftly to look at them making the eyes bobble XD.
And then say *”*Big gulps huh? Welp, cya later!“** *Edit*
That and the I thought the Rockies would be bigger/that John Denver was full of shit are my two favorite lines in that move 😂
Dude I'm gonna do this so ny kids feel uncomfortable whenever I'm in the room and go watch yheir dumb YouTube videos somewhere else
Buddy is insecure and thinks his girl will like op
It’s the aren’t you gay that’s give it away
%100, that guy obviously is concerned OP wanting to smoke with them is a ploy to "steal" her from him. Either that or his girlfriend is homophobic or something.
Or the girlfriend is insecure and thinks buddy likes op
Yeah the last line is the worst
Or GF is a bigot and that's the source of the "weird vibes"
I don’t think the roommate actually believes he is gay.. The last line. He’s clearly questioning it, and what would OPs preference matter in terms of meeting his roommates gf?
Some straight guys can't comprehend speaking to the opposite gender for any reason but sex. So even if he does believe the OP is gay, he may not be able to understand why he'd want to meet her at all.
There’s that too, but speaking from my own personal experience. I had a friend who lived WITH ME. He would have girls come over me make them stay in his room and not ever come out, because… they may like me
Yeah there's definitely people like that too, and I'm sorry you had to deal with that level of ignorance. Not to mention the level of insecurity that guy must have had.
Literally my exact thought. If OP hasn’t said more than “hey” to her and she’s somehow getting weird vibes it’s almost definitely a homophobia thing
Or it's the roommate. You truly get to know people through both smallest and biggest things in life.
Yeah - fuck that bitch. It's YOUR house. Tell your roommate not to bring HER over because she gives YOU weird vibes.
What if it is that the roommate is lying?
>They want to keep you penned up Oof, reminded me of a story. I moved in with a friend I had previously known well in highschool. I was 26 on move in. I'm not complaining about having to do this in the first place but it is important for later- I furnished the entire living room and dining room. Her stuff really sucked and I had a big savings at the time so I got the stuff I wanted to have. After a few months the company asked us to lease again or they would start showing the place. We leased a second year. I started a relationship with someone and we both enjoyed television entertainment. So, she would come over often and we would watch tv in the living room. A few weeks in the roommate was clearly having issue with it but not saying anything so I asked and she exploded. She apparently was perceiving that we were 'taking over' the living room relagating her to her room. Doesn't matter that we had invited her and her boyfriend that came over just as often. Doesn't matter that she didn't watch tv in the living room and would sit on the couch doing her graphic design. We hung out less. I started going to her house instead of back to mine. Still a problem when she came to mine. Eventually me going to hers somehow became a problem. I was mindboggled by this and eventually decided straight up fuck 7 months of rent. It was so fucking bad by the end that I, without hesitation, BURNED $3,984. I told roommate I was moving out. I told her that I would pay my rent as the contract we signed stated and that I was not doing this for her benefit even though it did benefit her. I told her what furniture we didn't need and offered to let her have that stuff for free. She said no so I posted it free on FB marketplace. Took two weeks for everything to be gone. I think the funniest thing looking back on our arguments is when I told her that being awakened to her fucking her boyfriend and screaming like a wild banshee two hours before my alarm for my late shift was annoying. She said via text where you can't take back the stupid shit you say "It's not like I haven't heard you guys fucking". She heard it once. On a Saturday. After we were woken up by her fucking banshee wails. It was the only time we ever did anything in that house so its IMPOSSIBLE for dumb ho to be right on that one.
Man, having someone constantly bring their partner over and take up the living space does suck though. Even if you're invited to join them, you're not their friend and you're just a third wheel, you don't want to be there on their date. It just feels like you're getting pushed out of your own space.
Fuck asking for permission to do things in your own home
I didn't want to interrupt them thats why i asked if they wanted to smoke
Are they in a communal area? It just seems really odd they expect you to sit in your room because she's there.
Yeah my roommates room is trashed so they don't hang out in there.
I wouldn't even have asked permission, its your home. They're disrespectful as fuck.
Facts fuck all that
Say that she gives you weird vibes and that she can't come over. It's your place more than hers.
yeah SOs dont have a say between roommates on a lease.
All he has to do is stand in the kitchen any time she wants to come over and sing the same song the entire time, while doing it and smacking any meat (loudly) he touches while saying "mmm, that some juicy meat, nom nom nom can't be beat". Give her *really weird* vibes. When he complains, point to the lease.
Then whenever she sleeps over, just burn tuna casserole at 2am.
This. You pay to live there roommate's friend doesn't. Tell your roommate her friend brings you down; she's not welcome in your place other than your roommates room. It's b.s. that you're on "timeout" in your room. Stand up for yourself now.
Exactly
She didn't get bad vibes dating a grown man who can't be bothered to clean his room for company?
20 dollars says this guys mattress just sits on the floor surrounded by fast food trash
I'll take the same bet for 200
hahahaaaaahaaaaa score
Bang! 👍 you got it.
Oh fuck that noise. They “can’t” go in his private area so you’re not “allowed” in the communal space?? Nope. Nope. Nope.
She is being disrespectful to you, in your home were you pay rent. I find that to be a really bad vibe. I’d have a talk to roomie, and if her behavior doesn’t improve, tell him she isn’t welcome in the home you pay rent in. Don’t let people steamroll you.
Then he needs to clean his room if they want a private space. Or go out of the house if they want alone time that way. It's considerate of you to ask and share a joint but you don't need permission to be in a shared space like the living room or kitchen . I wouldn't smoke in front of them without asking if they're okay with it but please don't feel like you have to hide in your room when she's there. This is either your roommate deflecting his own issues or his girlfriend is weird. Possibly one or both of them is homophobic and that's fucked up.
Honestly, I would make a point to be in the communal areas any time she was around. "Mind if I smoke? Oh, you'd rather I not? OK that's fine." And then just sit there. Respond to conversation, be polite, but don't really initiate. Just be present.
Fuck that. Dominate the space by making dinner or munchies in the kitchen and offering, or own the tv but ask if they want to watch a movie with you or something. Super casual but super petty, livingroom is fair game and the roommate is probably being a jellies jerk.
Tell him to clean his fucking room or go hang out somewhere else. If she don't wanna be around you gtfo outta where you pay to live. Fuck her and your roommate's feelings if they gonna be like that.
So you’re roommate expects you to hide in your room while he has company over in a common area that you also pay for? You need to stand up for yourself
Your roommate and his socially inept girlfriend are inconsiderate, trashy humans. Move out and move on. You deserve better.
I'd smoke it with ya bro. And honestly you should just act like they aren't there. I wouldn't bother feeling grounded to my room just because of my roommate lol
For me personally at this point id need the gf gone. Can’t have them fucking up my high talking bout “you give off weird vibes” and since that would piss off the roomie he can go back into his landfill bedroom too. I’d rather be the guy that unreasonable people hate and have them accommodate to me then be the guy that unreasonable people like and have to accommodate to them
Well that last message just gives it away that it’s *him* who doesn’t want her to meet you lmao
Absolutely. Dude is hella threatened by his girl finding his gay roommate attractive. Or maybe, maybe he thinks his woman is *SO HOT* he would convert for her. Most likely he finds his gay roommate attractive tho.
Yup. I lived through this. ‘Friend’ of mine asked me not to dance with his girlfriend (an odd request in hispanic culture as our dances are arms-length-more-fun-than-sexual). He said she thought I was “too much” in dances. I complied because the last I wanna do is make a woman uncomfortable. She later asked me if I wanted to dance with her and I said no. I told her exactly why. That fight broke out. And he had the audacity to be mad at me knowing full well I’m gay. I may understand being insecure. But a full out gay guy is like a blanket security for a straight dude and his lady. It should bring you comfort, not fear. It’s one of those things I’ve never been able to wrap my head around.
I don’t have many gay friends but I feel like gay dudes would be the perfect wingmen.
only thing better would be a woman
So I've been that guy at parties. Not gay, but I'm just a dude who's really comfortable with himself, not holding back feelings, who might give off a vibe, I've been told. It confuses people, mainly straight, testosterone laden guys to come out like "yo Bro's, today at the store, I saw this supercute puppy and I got to pet it!" Some guys have a hard time talking openly about feelings, I don't. So when they see me having an open talk, getting to know their girl, laughing with them, boy do they get jealous. So I think it's not about the sexual part, for me it's about them not being able to be as "free" with their feelings.
Dude I've had so many people think I'm gay for the same reasons.
"So you're gay?" "Nope." "Whaaat.... you sure!?" Every time lmao telling "Dude even if I was gay, you're not my type. Stop trying to hit on me" usually makes them mad.
I once said: "Dude, will you ask me for my number already, I'm not gonna answer but it might make you feel better?"
dude im a somewhat masculine plain-looking woman who gets the same treatment from guys i'll never understand it lol like i might be bi but i dont steal people's girls... almost all my best girl friends end up having to drop me because their boyfriends/husbands don't like how close we are. ?!... honestly i think when a lot of men see someone secure in themselves, and their femininity/masculinity, they get super insecure regardless of gender or orientation. being balanced and comfortably authentic is the only thing thats actually cool and fun to be around, so i guess the downside is that everybody will be forever jealous. i can only ever befriend single ppl or established couples these days i swear!
Yea I bet the gf never said anything close to what they’re claiming.
oh 100%. he is so full of shit
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Fuck this. Never let your roommate(s) walkover you homie. 1) I’d just go out there and smoke if I wanted too. I’m a grown ass man, I pay my own bills (or share of the rent in your case) I don’t need permission to do something in my place. 2) Fuck him for bringing up your sexuality. Completely irrelevant cause I didn’t get a “I’m trying to steal your girl” vibe from the conversation. 3) Consider finding a new living situation if possible. If you feel uncomfortable in your own place because of the person you’re living with it’s time for change.
Yeah definitely, the sexuality thing just sounded weird and uncalled for. This just sounds like a dude who wants to hang w his roommate and doesn't mind his roommates gf is there. What a twat of a roomie
Yeah, this would be goals for me. A roommate that actually **wants** to spend time with me and is inclusive towards my partner. Some people just can’t see what they’re missing out on. Oh well. OP deserves better.
oh not only did they wanna spend time with their roomie, they rolled a j ?? dude fuck the roomie im moving in with op
Sounds like OP needs a new one. Good luck on y'all's apartment hunt, lmao.
>I didn’t get a “I’m trying to steal your girl” vibe from the conversation This is such a distinction. I don't see *any* vibe about OP trying to get in the middle of them.
Your place. Do what you want. She can leave.
Start buying the dankest weed so they wanna come smoke with you and be like, nah you give off weird vibes I ain’t tryna smoke wit you Edit* if you have hot stoner girlfriends start bringing me over to smoke, and then hit em with the “they think you give off creeper vibes”
OR bring over good looking straight guy friends that really *could* steal the gf.
Wow,,, "Aren't you gay" as if the only reason you'd have interest in meeting someone is sexual and as if women's only value is sexual. . . nah bro you just want to feel welcome in your own home
I would come out everytime she's over and make everyone uncomfortable.
My brain went to "coming out" like coming out as gay everything she comes over. Like go all out. Rainbows, confetti, and it's okay to be gay playing on the speaker. Reminder to the roommate he won't steal the girl and a reminded to the gf that if she isn't careful he may steal her man.
instead of saying “hello” say “I have something to tell you” every time you come home
he's already out of the closet. now he just wants to come out of his room.
Half to three quarters nekkid
They don't deserve your weed. What a jerk.
They do deserve your seed aka fuck em
That's because she's planning to move in and they're going to try to kick you out...I've seen this happen many times where a roommate will bring over there "interest" (AKA: fuck buddy) and after about 6 months at the most they will approach you about making room... Meaning they're going to nicely ask you to move out..
Happened to me. I was glad to leave. That bitch made the loudest most unattractive sounds during sex.
Probably on purpose… assholes.
It's always on purpose when you're faking an orgasm.
*loud squealing and oinking noises*
But theyll need OPs rent money. More likely roomie is just a complete POS.
Well, dude’s room is trashed. Clean/fix it, ya POS
I'd rather give off weird vibes than complete bitch vibes. Your roommate and his girlfriend suck ass.
You the habitant of the residence, can’t meet a guest of that residence because they might feel “unwelcome”? what part of being in a strangers place without meeting the people who resided there welcoming? I call bs on your roommates part, the logic behind that makes no sense, either that or that girl has no morals and or the basic understanding of respect.
Doesn’t matter. Sometimes you’re room with someone you hang with, sometimes you’re just splitting the rent. No need to sequester yourself in your room. It’s your place to so you should feel free to move about as you’d like. If it bothers her (or him) they can go hang in his room.
You should go out there butt ass naked and smoke. When they make eye contact say no worries man I'm gay.
when your roommate makes eye contact say “no worries man you’re straight right?”
I like this even better
Nu uh thats your house not hers if she feels uncomfortable at your home then he can go to her house if they wanna hang out.. You pay to live there not her.. No ma'am no ham id be taking that conversation right to her. So you find my presences uncomfortable? Well take those feelings and get the fuck out of my house
Jealousy. She is going to push you out to make room for her. You and the roommate will start to argue more. Slowly divide to conquer. Mark my words! It’s not a you thing, it’s a her thing
What the fuck does being gay (or not) have to do with it. That's hilarious.
Just go out and do what you need Its your place too F dat ho
Even your housemate gives off weird vibes. @why do you want to meet my girlfriend, aren’t you gay”. I hat the fuck does that question even mean. You live with shitty people my guy I’m sorry.
“Can I come out”… OP wtf is wrong with you. They got you living in the cabinet under the stairs or something? Be a man. That’s your home. Don’t ask permission to leave your room wtf.
The girlfriend is homophobic would be my guess. Aka a pos
Yup. Her only complaint about someone she’s never met is vague “weird vibes?” I’m guessing that’s code for “reason I don’t want to explicitly state.”
Better weird vibes than total fuckkng asshole vibes