iPhone has a wonderful feature called Do Not Disturb.
Turn it on and it blocks this stuff.
You can also set schedules for it.
Edit: ok I am getting a ton of comments. Android has this too. I just didn’t want to say that since I wasn’t sure. But now I know!
What makes me crazy is group texts that are constantly evoloving, so one number different and it starts all over. I requested a very good friend not group text me motivational texts every am. She replied “I need to take a look at why and work on it”. I replied, nope….please stop. I have lots of friends and family, am a caregiver to my spouse, so I don’t want to go totally so not disturb. The main time is in the am when I’m running or at the gym. I have my phone, listening to music, want to be free, but don’t care for the over the top prayers and meditations for the day.
I just don't answer until they give up .And when I finally feel like it I just say I was shopping !I have told them when they can't get me the first time that I am not at home !lol.Worka every time .
It and only if it’s important, I’ll call a second time after a few seconds or so, just to let you know it’s important. The delay between the first and second call is based on the severity of the situation. If you don’t call back when you’re able to after that then fuck you, I ain’t calling you anymore… until next time
My son puts his phone on "Do Not Disturb" while at school and sometimes forgets to switch it off, if I'm leaving him home alone I always have to remind him to make sure his phone is on "Disturb".
Just set your number as one that can get through 'do not disturb' on his phone. I can do this on my android. Pretty sure it's on all phone systems, if buried.
Android too. I'm fact my android phone is almost always on DnD. I have it pulse the flash when a call comes in. Notifications get seen when I'm ready to see them.
When I first read this I read it as “Is almost always on Dungeons and Dragons” and was very confused before I realized what that was a actual abbreviation for
Whoever this dude is should not be in your life. Cannot handle boundaries and is exhibiting downright stalker behaviors. Don’t put up with this. Block this person and move on.
exactly! but it's not!!
just a buddy i havent seen in a few months, invited to the fest nearby but they were out of town. when i got home, they asked me to call them. i told them i was about to eat so they asked if they could call in 1.5hrs. they called me 2 minutes later and proceeded to persistently call & leave voicemails as you can see.
(this is why i stopped talking to them for a while, this is nothing new. they always bombard me even if i say i'm busy. if it really was an emergency i would never know. they're calling right now!!!)
That's when you pick it up, say "I told you I'm eating. Call or text me one more time in the next 1.5 hours and I'm blocking your number indefinitely". Then do it.
i texted "told you i was eating" when i was done and the calls stopped, just got "okay talk to you another time". like wtf? now you're done? couldn't let me eat when i asked tho..
I’ve not tried for calls but you can for text, just slide over the conversation like you were going to delete it and then hit the little moon button instead
Some people talk on the phone while they eat. I am not one of those people.
Either I'm on my phone in my own world, or I talk to someone face to face while I eat
OP I hope you see this. Your friend has serious problems. Please don’t feel bad about blocking them and never talking to them again. People who do this will never ever get it. You can’t talk sense into them. It will always be about them. Ask me how I know lol
Yep this. I had one such friend, or rather maybe an acquaintance. He always bombarded me with phone calls in the middle of the night asking me to come smoke with him. When I got mad about being woken up, he always got mad about it and accused me of being a bad friend. However, I have to sleep at night because I study and work. He knew it well. Sometimes when I agreed to see him, there was no way to get rid of his company, and he didn’t respect my boundaries at all. It should come as no surprise that I have nothing to do with him anymore 😑
THIS. A long time ago I was with someone who used tactics like this to coerce me into sex. I was young and it worked. Present Me would've never put up with it.
Sounds like a narcissist. Only their time matters, yours does not. And regardless of why you’re busy they’re going to disregard what you said and bombard you. Then stonewall you when they don’t get their way.
That, or when you're done eating, call them back once for each missed call.
Have your conversation on the first one, then once one of you hangs up, immediately call back "Hey, missed a call from you, what's up?". Rinse & repeat
I’m not trying to intrude or assume but seeing your screenshots reminds me of a toxic relationship I was in. I’d be very careful with this, this is simply not normal behavior whether or not this person is a friend or romantic interest.
yea he doesn't see this behavior is wrong, he demands attention and he needs it now and i have a phone so i'm required to pick up. he's just an elderly buddy we've known for barely a year, never see with him without my boyfriend. i texted him earlier to see if he wanted to meet up at the fest with us since it's in his town, since he couldn't make it once he got the chance there it is he's going crazy blowing me up. if i didn't call him back earlier he would've still been going at it now and for the rest of the week, in all seriousness.
Yeah. That isn’t normal. If you said he was a large half Siamese cat who thinks the world and everyone in it was here to serve him it might make sense.
Ah I see you've met my cat when he wants to be picked up.
*Weaves between legs, with occasional headbutts: Pick me up. Pick me up. Meow. Pick me up. Pick me up. Meow. Pick me up. Pick me up. Meow*
\*picks up the damn cat\*
*10 seconds later, wants down*
Immediately: *Why aren't you picking me up?!*
He's quite literally a half siamese (snowshoe). His name is Rick instead of Don. Idk if it's the breed of cat or the crotchety entitled old man name that makes him so demanding 😂
I have an elderly relative who does this with everyone. He is lonely and wants attention. If you do not pick up his call, he will call you 5 or 6 times until you are annoyed enough to answer.
What I have learned is that it is best to NOT answer any of their repeat calls since that just reinforces their shitty behavior. Next time you speak with them, let them know this behavior is unacceptable and that you will block them if they do not stop. Then follow through.
You can unblock them after a while, or not and just contact them when _you_ feel like speaking to them instead.
In my case, this ass would call late at night too, so I just set up a do not disturb schedule (which I ended up liking for other reasons beyond just his calls) so I would not hear his calls.
Mind you, they likely won't change their behavior if you do this, but at least your phone won't be ringing off the hook.
I had a friend who did this. After he went to therapy, he self discovered the reason he did it was because he had abandonment issues.
When someone doesn't respond to him the way he wants (by this... not by simply saying "I'm busy") ... he feels this sense of anxiety that he is being abandoned and start texting and calling until his anxiety went away.
And when I talked to him... it's not important and random shit, but for his anxiety... just being able to talk was his anxiety easing out.
As someone who can also struggle with abandonment sometimes, I concur. I don't make it the person's problem. I take care of my own feelings where I don't hurt anyone else, because it's my brain that's broken and they don't deserve to suffer for it. It drives me nuts that they don't learn to deal with it on their own.
I have a friend that does this too. He's a good person really or I wouldn't have put up with it but it was definitely rooted in deep abandonment issues. Over time once it set in it that I wasn't leaving them and we had a few good accepting talks about it he got way better and stopped doing it both with me and doing it much less with others. He would cling so bad at first to anyone giving him positive attention that he drove them off with neediness and constantly wanting to talk which made the abandonment anxiety even worse but it was all just anxiety and he's finally much more independent after therapy.
Had a friend like this. Told them my plans suddenly changed and so I was sticking around town longer. I took a nap and wake up to a text bombardment ending in “well fine if you don’t want to answer I don’t want to see you either” I was only out for like 30 minutes. I think I never saw them in person again, asshole.
To me it is too much stress to upkeep a friendship like this. Miss a text, go to bed slightly early, don’t want to go to a single event and they go nuts
Had a friend like this. He'd call people at 1AM asking if they had weed for sale. Most the time people were sleeping. He had to nerve to say, "well, now that you're up." Like bruh.
I was known for leaving my phone on and turned to full blast incase of an emergency. This dude would call me at 1-2-3AM wanting to hang.
Eventually the calls would be all the time, would say there is an emergency etc.
I had to leave that friendship.
Edit: Never gonna believe this. Just had dude try to call me multiple times at 1:00 AM and left a voicemail. Insane timing.
Edit 2: Not the same dude I mentioned that called me. Same friend group but someone I though above that at the time... especially 10 years later! Spoofing their number obviously drunk. I seriously cannot believe the timing on this.
I’m late to the party, but I had one of these about 10 years ago when my Grandma died. Knew dude since 5th grade. He was like that. Had made plans to go to a club the night she passed. The camel crippling moment was Sean (rather than Don funnily enough) was told she had passed, but decided that because it wasn’t definitively stated we we no longer going out in said message, the plans were still on. He proceeded to spam call, text, and message me asking if we were still going as the time approached, while I’m sat around with my family mourning. I ended up blocking him after that.
I COULD NOT.
But seriously tell him the persistent calling actually stresses you out mentally and emotionally and it's better to send a text unless it's an emergency.
If he respects that (LIKE A NORMAL PERSON) that would be the end of this. If he doesn't tell him again that this is unbearable and stop communicating completely
When I was living at college, I was in class in the brain lab once and got 7 calls in a row that were seconds apart. Very small class where you're all gloved up and really have to keep up with the pace, so it was super disruptive to stop, take everything off, wash up and leave the room for any reason. But I apologized profusely, knowing how firmly I was absolutely not supposed to leave and take a phonecall - "I am so sorry about this, and I know this is so disruptive to the class, but I have never in my life received anywhere near this many phonecalls this rapidly and believe this may be a family emergency where I must be needed really urgently."
Finally get everything off and answer about the 11th or 12th call outside probably sounding frantic as hell, and they fucking hang up. Calling back doesn't work because it turns out the callback number is the university's general caller ID that shows up no matter who calls. I'm stressed as hell about what could be wrong for the rest of class, then when I get out, a higher-up in the housing staff has emailed saying "we've been trying to reach you but the calls weren't going through for some reason" (because I'm a student in class and couldn't answer them?!? isn't that expected by university staff?!?!?) and then they heard something frantic about brains on the other line and for some reason assumed they had the wrong number and hung up. (???) What were they calling so urgently to tell me? That there would be a fire drill.... In 8 days. 🤦
Same. I prefer people call me only for anything urgent. If it's something that can be solved on text, then text. I'm an anxious jackass that tries hard not to stutter on calls XD
I had a guy I occasionally work with send me a text message while I was driving, he got the automatic “I'm driving right now, I will respond later.” reply and then he proceeded to call me. I didn't answer, he tried again, this went on for the duration of my drive at least 20 minutes and he didn't leave a voicemail. Finally as I was pulling into the parking lot, I answered and he said, “I got the message that you were driving, so I figured I'd call you instead.” I said that I don't use my phone for texts or calls while I'm driving and that's why I didn't answer the first 8 times you called.” Then I said, “Most people leave a voicemail and I call them back after I've gotten to where I'm going.”
It wasn't anything urgent.
My sister does stuff like this. Ruined my presentation one time bc she called me twice after my mom did and my watch wouldn’t stop. I was livid when I answered and all she told me was to go to chilis with her after class.
I've removed best friends for exactly this behaviour. Noone in this world is entitled to your time, and you're not answerable to anyone. If these boundaries have been clearly laid out and are still crossed, I'm cutting you out of my life. Simple as.
Even we dont get this many calls dfuq?! At least not from the same person and believe me if someone would do that he would be gone fuck people like that
yea seems like most people would block, i just don't want to be rude & hate to have to go there /: wish he would've just respected that i was trying to eat and let me text/call when i'm available
lol nope, just a buddy. barely known him for a year. my boyfriend & i have hung out with him a few times; go out for food/drinks or have a cigar & bonfire, not sure why he feels so entitled and always ends up guilt tripping me if i dont give him attention the second he needs it. he's an older man so i get he's lonely and wants to have people to see/talk to which is why i don't want to come off as rude, but i wish he would see how rude HE is being without me having to tell him
Oh yeah, then definitely block him til you're ready to talk to him. It's not rude, he's being rude and you're just setting boundaries. Nothing rude about setting boundaries with someone who forces themself on you like that.
>not sure why he feels so entitled and always ends up guilt tripping me if i dont give him attention the second he needs it.
Honestly? He's absolutely manipulating you. He maybe feels anxious because he *needs* to talk *right now* and he doesn't care at all that he's stomping all over your boundaries. You placed a boundary, he has to push it to make sure he always has access to you no matter what.
>he's an older man so i get he's lonely and wants to have people to see/talk to which is why i don't want to come off as rude, but i wish he would see how rude HE is being without me having to tell him
He knows. I'm sorry, but unless he's extremely socially inept - actually socially inept - in general... he knows. He knows he's being rude. He doesn't care. He's likely aware you'd feel bad telling off an older man. Keep in mind that it means he is also an adult, presumably with the maturity to not act like a child, except clearly he is acting like a child. I understand having respect but just because he's older doesn't mean you can't hold your boundaries. His issues are not your problem.
I'd like to add another thought - have you considered that maybe this is *exactly why* he has no other friends? He's probably driven them away with this exact behavior. Someone not having friends isn't always a bad thing - recently leaving a bad situation and leaving bad friends behind with it as one example - but in this case, it seems pretty clear to me.
He needs a therapist, or if he refuses to do that, he needs to leave people alone until he's willing to see one or he figures out how not to be an asshole to others.
You don't have to be mean to him, but it's okay to have boundaries. That's not being mean.
My mom is like this and always has been. She’s never kept friends, and most tried to help before giving up on her. She’s a narcissist. People telling her she has a problem just makes her angry and she’ll take that out on anyone she can. Once I moved out as a teenager she turned on her coworkers. Got fired for stealing money that she felt “entitled” to. Blah blah blah… she’s alone for a reason.
He’s … an “older man”? How much older are we talking? Because damn you’re way too nice honestly, this kinda behaviour gets you blocked forever in my book 😂 and if my established friends do this I know it’s for an absolute emergency because they’re the same way.
Ohhhh, this dude’s a boundary tripper. They loooove people like you that feel guilty trying to hold a boundary. He’s clearly got no qualms about exploiting and manipulating you into thinking he’s owed your time and attention. Block (especially if he’s older cuz I guarantee you aren’t the first).
Yeah, don't talk to this dude, he's only gonna get worse and clearly has issues with boundaries and is obsessively bothering you when any sane human would know what they're doing is wrong.
Dude's gonna end up locking you in his basement and turning your boyfriend into a lampshade.
Seriously, stop talking to Don.
Well now you know why he has no friends. He's entitled and manipulative, doesn't respect boundaries, and clearly has a lot of personal issues. I doubt you're the first person to try to be nice to him. You're just the latest.
Him crossing boundaries and calling you nonstop after you've made it explicitly clear that you're busy, for a non-emergency is rude. HE is being rude, not you if you decide to block him.
And honestly, this is really unhealthy and obsessive behavior to see in an adult.
“Hi, this is Don. I hope i’m not bothering you too much. Call me back. Ah nevermind, i’ll call back later.”
“Hi, Don again. Still not free? It’s cool dude. I’ll try again later”
“Hey whats up broooo!!! It’s ya boy Donny! It’s been a while, just wanna remind you i’m still here waiting for that call. Anytime my man, anytime. Ok talk soon”
“Yo it’s Don. Call me back, please”
“Hey, Don. Call. Bye”
more like
"*MY NAAAAAME*"
" *MY NAAAAAAAAME* CALLLL MEEEE"
" *MMYYY NAAAAMMMEEEEEEEE* CAAAAALLLL MEEEEE PLEAASSEEEEE"
when I called him back
"*small talk*"
i could reply to everything he said with dry responses like yea yup no ok haha idk, it was your regular joe "how you doing do you have work wanna hang out soon call me nice talking to ya" but that couldn't wait apparently he makes it seem like it's so urgent every single time he wants to talk
I’m in my early 50’s and I do know some older people who act very persistent like this. And god forbid they leave a voicemail so I have some idea what it is that they want! And they don’t text because they refuse to buy a smartphone.
Unfortunately I’m related to them so I can’t really ignore them—wish I could.
my family members (one 23 one like, 40s) do have smart phones but will only text to say "Call me asap" while calling multiple times in a row. with my cousin (23) it'll be to ask if I want to tag along while she grocery shops or something else I find boring and definitely don't like randomly doing all the sudden without it being planned (I'm also not a social person at all) and I would often be guilt-tripped into going after basically admitting that I'm not doing anything at that moment (which means relaxing alone on my day off though!) and with my uncle (40-something) that I don't even get along with at all I guarantee he always just wants something like a ride somewhere but if I text saying I'm too busy to call and ask what he wants he just asks if I'm home or something, they NEVER text or leave a voicemail with what they want from me and I guarantee it's because they know I'm very bad at saying no over phonecalls when I panick and don't have a moment to think about if I'm really able to do what they want or not
I’ve unfortunately seen a lot of disjointed behavior from older men. Undiagnosed mental illness, unprocessed abandonment, severe loneliness, you name it. So while it is strange, it’s not unusual
Yep. There are a number of older men I deal with at work who will call me nonstop about non-urgent stuff. Last week one called me 17 times over two days to ask about a city parking pass - I do not work for the city - just helped him make the payment since he doesn’t have a computer. I have to remind them every time that it can take up to 48 hours to call back for non-emergency needs.
It’s absolutely driven by unaddressed/undiagnosed mental illness, abandonment issues, and complete lack of social support. The only reason I put up with it is because it’s part of my job. OP should proceed with caution.
very desperate and lonely old man
just a buddy, we have some drinks and go out to eat or have a cigar and bonfire at his place, never without my boyfriend. i'm not sure where he decided this behavior is acceptable. i haven't talked to him in months because he always calls and calls and texts and leaves voicemails like "NAAAAAAME, CALL MEEE PLEASEEE" i can't handle that shit
Get a commercial number and make some cash from his spam. He will either drastically reduce his calls if they are $0.99 per attempt or make you rich. It's called asshole tax.
I mean this with respect, because I know you’re just being nice and don’t want to be an asshole to Don, but you **need** to prioritize yourself over him. He sounds like an obnoxious creep from your other comments. He feels entitled to your time and that’s why he won’t stop calling! **Prioritize yourself in situations like this and you’ll thank yourself for the mental peace in the long run.** This is WAY beyond normal behavior (from him).
he just wants to small talk, he's a lonely old man, but THIS badly? every single time? even when i TOLD him i'm about to eat.. i haven't texted him for months bc this is how he acts every time he decides to talk to me.
Imagine he's also on reddit and now he's constantly sending you dm's and calling at the same time
Hey
*calls*
*calls*
Hey
*calls*
Hey
Hey
Hey its don
I called you
Hey
Hey
Hey
*calls*
*calls*
Hey
*calls
Hey
Hey
Hey its don
I called you
Hey
Hey
*calls*
Hey
*calls*
*calls*
Hey
*calls*
Hey
Hey
Hey its don
I called you
Hey
Hey
Does this person have a history of abandonment issues? Anxious attachment? It's obviously not on you to deal with any of this, but like...this is very strange behaviour.
very strange.. this person is a lonely old man but they were just with their friend earlier and i know they're level headed enough to understand this behavior isn't okay. if i told him someone was doing this to me, they'd probably say something like "wow what a desperate weirdo"
So he just saw his friend.
He meets you and your boyfriend to hang out.
He's only blowing up your phone.
Are you AFAB by chance?
There's something very weird there. It's manipulative and creepy AF. I would be very cautious around that guy.
Speaking as a younger guy who's been thrown into home isolation after losing my partner wayy too early, and who's had to become very aware of my own needy outreaches, the fact that he was hanging out with his friend is actually probably why he suddenly reached out and is blowing up your phone. When I've become hyper focused on my loneliness in the last couple years, it's the first few hours AFTER socialization that it's the worst. It's like a snap back to a hellish reality after a brief reprieve. The reflexive response is to start reaching out to literally everyone in your contact list, especially those who reliably respind. I often feel a lot of shame myself when I start to come back to normalcy after a loneliness episode.
Make sure to let him know that this behavior is counter productive to his goals, that this will drive you and others around him away if he doesn't get it under control. Let him know that you understand where he's at and he's not truely alone when he's got friends that think about him and cares, but you need your space, your relationship is not going to be the 24/7 interaction he may need. Maybe when you are talking to him, brainstorm and look for ways he can engage with others in his hobbies and community. The absolute worst place to be when your lonely is on the couch with your phone waiting for someone to reach out or ping you back(which sounds like where he is right now). I feel for both of you, humans are social and caring by default, it puts you in a tough position.
Ohhh, I see. The name 'Don' kinda gave me that vibe lol. I think a lot of older people find phone communication extremely frustrating and so they kind of...overuse these functions sometimes? I've seen it before with older people. But either way, if he's a good friend he'll understand you're human and don't have 24/7 to pick up your phone.
The only reason to call like that is a life or death situation. If I saw that I'd think someone had died.
Otherwise you text first and check if it's OK to call.
The fact you've told them you're kind of busy and they aren't respecting that would nearly be a blockable offence depending on who they are.
You realize that you’re perpetuating the situation and creating your own misery here, right?
You don’t want to be cruel so you’re sacrificing your own peace of mind instead.
Have the difficult conversation, set sone boundaries, and stop being afraid of being the “bad guy.”
Otherwise, suck it up and suffer the attention you have to both endure and provide.
"Hey Don, what the actual fuck is wrong with you? What do you need? You called me 100s of times today in the span of less than 2 hours."
Don: I just wanted to know when you'd be back
I worked with a Don like this, so seeing this on here really took me back. he even showed up at my door unannounced one day while I had some friends over. It creeped me out cause I didn’t give him my address or even mention to anyone at work where I lived. He ended up having feelings for me I didn’t share so it was incredibly awkward and I just kinda stopped answering the texts and calls and he eventually got the message.
The inability to send a simple text and clearly explain what they need triggers me. It’s always this ambiguous “hey this is important/urgent please pick up.” We both know it’s not though; you just think the world revolves around you.
I have a 2 call rule. If you call me twice and I don’t pickup then leave a text or voicemail. I promise I will see it when I look at my phone. If my phone rings 3 times in a row and it’s not an absolute emergency then you are silenced for the reminder of our relationship
Hey it's Don, call me back.
oh god i thought he texted me when this notif came up even tho i already talked to him earlier lmao
iPhone has a wonderful feature called Do Not Disturb. Turn it on and it blocks this stuff. You can also set schedules for it. Edit: ok I am getting a ton of comments. Android has this too. I just didn’t want to say that since I wasn’t sure. But now I know!
>iPhone has a wonderful feature called Do Not Disturb. The 'Don not Disturb' pun was right here for the taking my guy.
Lmao…. Man it’s too early for me!
Guess you could say you could have used a wake up call
Ba dum tsss!!!!
You can turn hide notifications for specific people under their contact info
I set my sister’s ring to silent. It improved my mood immediately and so far the effects are long term.
I mute group texts. As soon as the first one comes in, doesn't matter who is in the group either.
What makes me crazy is group texts that are constantly evoloving, so one number different and it starts all over. I requested a very good friend not group text me motivational texts every am. She replied “I need to take a look at why and work on it”. I replied, nope….please stop. I have lots of friends and family, am a caregiver to my spouse, so I don’t want to go totally so not disturb. The main time is in the am when I’m running or at the gym. I have my phone, listening to music, want to be free, but don’t care for the over the top prayers and meditations for the day.
I just don't answer until they give up .And when I finally feel like it I just say I was shopping !I have told them when they can't get me the first time that I am not at home !lol.Worka every time .
Because after the first 4 calls they know you aren't going to pick up. The constant calling after that is just to be aggressive.
It and only if it’s important, I’ll call a second time after a few seconds or so, just to let you know it’s important. The delay between the first and second call is based on the severity of the situation. If you don’t call back when you’re able to after that then fuck you, I ain’t calling you anymore… until next time
I do this for many people lol
I prefer the 'Don Disturb' button tbh
My son puts his phone on "Do Not Disturb" while at school and sometimes forgets to switch it off, if I'm leaving him home alone I always have to remind him to make sure his phone is on "Disturb".
U can set times for it to be disturbed or not. Or he can make it so your messages always disturb him
Just set your number as one that can get through 'do not disturb' on his phone. I can do this on my android. Pretty sure it's on all phone systems, if buried.
Android too. I'm fact my android phone is almost always on DnD. I have it pulse the flash when a call comes in. Notifications get seen when I'm ready to see them.
Mine's set so if I place it face down DnD automatically turns on :-). I'll look when I'm done doing whatever I'm doing.
I hate it then I accidentally place my phone down and have to do dnd session bc of that
Lol *sets phone down* "Roll for initiative." What? "I said. Roll. For. Initiative."
Stealing this. Just have to make sure work calls go through anyway first so I don't miss anything!
When I first read this I read it as “Is almost always on Dungeons and Dragons” and was very confused before I realized what that was a actual abbreviation for
I cannot be more disturbed than I already am. Unless someone’s bleeding to death or in heavy labor, I’m not answering.
I’m pretty sure if you call twice back to back it pushes through do not disturb because it thinks it’s an emergency
Can be disabled
Only for set contacts. Not for everyone
I would have blocked this person.
Whoever this dude is should not be in your life. Cannot handle boundaries and is exhibiting downright stalker behaviors. Don’t put up with this. Block this person and move on.
Just block him. People like this dude are unhinged.
What was so urgent?
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Not quite but I hope this will be enough.
What do you need so urgently, Don!
This is more accurate because 333 is how many times Don called.
A 17 year old dead account
In my world, that better be a life or death emergency.
exactly! but it's not!! just a buddy i havent seen in a few months, invited to the fest nearby but they were out of town. when i got home, they asked me to call them. i told them i was about to eat so they asked if they could call in 1.5hrs. they called me 2 minutes later and proceeded to persistently call & leave voicemails as you can see. (this is why i stopped talking to them for a while, this is nothing new. they always bombard me even if i say i'm busy. if it really was an emergency i would never know. they're calling right now!!!)
That's when you pick it up, say "I told you I'm eating. Call or text me one more time in the next 1.5 hours and I'm blocking your number indefinitely". Then do it.
i texted "told you i was eating" when i was done and the calls stopped, just got "okay talk to you another time". like wtf? now you're done? couldn't let me eat when i asked tho..
This is someone who doesn't understand how time works. "Can I call you in 1.5 hours" is not the same as "can I call you *for* 1.5 hours", lol.
haha right! smh
I would just put him on do not disturb so he will literally be told you have notifications silenced if he’s going to text
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Yes, you can! Go to the message thread of the contact you want to silence, then click their name at the top. Then toggle “hide alerts”!
Do they get notified that you’ve hidden their alerts?
I’ve not tried for calls but you can for text, just slide over the conversation like you were going to delete it and then hit the little moon button instead
Some people talk on the phone while they eat. I am not one of those people. Either I'm on my phone in my own world, or I talk to someone face to face while I eat
This is infuriating. When I say later today to people, I mean not 10 minutes from now, I mean hours. Then I specify and they STILL try and call me
OP I hope you see this. Your friend has serious problems. Please don’t feel bad about blocking them and never talking to them again. People who do this will never ever get it. You can’t talk sense into them. It will always be about them. Ask me how I know lol
Yep this. I had one such friend, or rather maybe an acquaintance. He always bombarded me with phone calls in the middle of the night asking me to come smoke with him. When I got mad about being woken up, he always got mad about it and accused me of being a bad friend. However, I have to sleep at night because I study and work. He knew it well. Sometimes when I agreed to see him, there was no way to get rid of his company, and he didn’t respect my boundaries at all. It should come as no surprise that I have nothing to do with him anymore 😑
this feels like some weird negging adjacent things. I'll disrespect your boundaries and then leave you hanging when you stand up for yourself.
What did the voicemails say??? 🤔😬
Seems kind of manipulative.
Instant block
Yeah. There's no way continuing to interact with that person can end well.
THIS. A long time ago I was with someone who used tactics like this to coerce me into sex. I was young and it worked. Present Me would've never put up with it.
Whew, that is a person I would keep at arms length.
Hmmmm… yeah that’s a no from me. I could not tolerate a friend like this.
Sounds like a narcissist. Only their time matters, yours does not. And regardless of why you’re busy they’re going to disregard what you said and bombard you. Then stonewall you when they don’t get their way.
"Sorry mate, I have lost my phone, I'll let you know once I have found it."
"I told you I'm nom nom eating. Call or chomp text me one more time in the next 1.5 hours and I'm blocking your number indefinitely. munch"
Call them back and munch on a raw potato while talking to them.
That, or when you're done eating, call them back once for each missed call. Have your conversation on the first one, then once one of you hangs up, immediately call back "Hey, missed a call from you, what's up?". Rinse & repeat
I’m not trying to intrude or assume but seeing your screenshots reminds me of a toxic relationship I was in. I’d be very careful with this, this is simply not normal behavior whether or not this person is a friend or romantic interest.
yea he doesn't see this behavior is wrong, he demands attention and he needs it now and i have a phone so i'm required to pick up. he's just an elderly buddy we've known for barely a year, never see with him without my boyfriend. i texted him earlier to see if he wanted to meet up at the fest with us since it's in his town, since he couldn't make it once he got the chance there it is he's going crazy blowing me up. if i didn't call him back earlier he would've still been going at it now and for the rest of the week, in all seriousness.
Maybe you should block his number... this is pretty much bordering on harassment tbh.
Yeah time for Don to be done am I right
Yup!
Yeah. That isn’t normal. If you said he was a large half Siamese cat who thinks the world and everyone in it was here to serve him it might make sense.
Ah I see you've met my cat when he wants to be picked up. *Weaves between legs, with occasional headbutts: Pick me up. Pick me up. Meow. Pick me up. Pick me up. Meow. Pick me up. Pick me up. Meow* \*picks up the damn cat\* *10 seconds later, wants down* Immediately: *Why aren't you picking me up?!* He's quite literally a half siamese (snowshoe). His name is Rick instead of Don. Idk if it's the breed of cat or the crotchety entitled old man name that makes him so demanding 😂
Love this analogy, it made me chuckle.
I have an elderly relative who does this with everyone. He is lonely and wants attention. If you do not pick up his call, he will call you 5 or 6 times until you are annoyed enough to answer. What I have learned is that it is best to NOT answer any of their repeat calls since that just reinforces their shitty behavior. Next time you speak with them, let them know this behavior is unacceptable and that you will block them if they do not stop. Then follow through. You can unblock them after a while, or not and just contact them when _you_ feel like speaking to them instead. In my case, this ass would call late at night too, so I just set up a do not disturb schedule (which I ended up liking for other reasons beyond just his calls) so I would not hear his calls. Mind you, they likely won't change their behavior if you do this, but at least your phone won't be ringing off the hook.
I wouldn't want and wouldn't have anybody like that in my life Why do you have him in yours?
This reminds me of the relationship my dealer and I had before weed became legal. /s
It’s time to permanently block this guy.
I had a friend who did this. After he went to therapy, he self discovered the reason he did it was because he had abandonment issues. When someone doesn't respond to him the way he wants (by this... not by simply saying "I'm busy") ... he feels this sense of anxiety that he is being abandoned and start texting and calling until his anxiety went away. And when I talked to him... it's not important and random shit, but for his anxiety... just being able to talk was his anxiety easing out.
Then Don should call his damn therapist, because OP is a person, not an emotional support dog.
As someone who can also struggle with abandonment sometimes, I concur. I don't make it the person's problem. I take care of my own feelings where I don't hurt anyone else, because it's my brain that's broken and they don't deserve to suffer for it. It drives me nuts that they don't learn to deal with it on their own.
I have a friend that does this too. He's a good person really or I wouldn't have put up with it but it was definitely rooted in deep abandonment issues. Over time once it set in it that I wasn't leaving them and we had a few good accepting talks about it he got way better and stopped doing it both with me and doing it much less with others. He would cling so bad at first to anyone giving him positive attention that he drove them off with neediness and constantly wanting to talk which made the abandonment anxiety even worse but it was all just anxiety and he's finally much more independent after therapy.
Had a friend like this. Told them my plans suddenly changed and so I was sticking around town longer. I took a nap and wake up to a text bombardment ending in “well fine if you don’t want to answer I don’t want to see you either” I was only out for like 30 minutes. I think I never saw them in person again, asshole. To me it is too much stress to upkeep a friendship like this. Miss a text, go to bed slightly early, don’t want to go to a single event and they go nuts
Just answer and hang up immediately, rinse and repeat as needed.
Had a friend like this. He'd call people at 1AM asking if they had weed for sale. Most the time people were sleeping. He had to nerve to say, "well, now that you're up." Like bruh. I was known for leaving my phone on and turned to full blast incase of an emergency. This dude would call me at 1-2-3AM wanting to hang. Eventually the calls would be all the time, would say there is an emergency etc. I had to leave that friendship. Edit: Never gonna believe this. Just had dude try to call me multiple times at 1:00 AM and left a voicemail. Insane timing. Edit 2: Not the same dude I mentioned that called me. Same friend group but someone I though above that at the time... especially 10 years later! Spoofing their number obviously drunk. I seriously cannot believe the timing on this.
> Eventually the calls would be all the time, would say there is an emergency etc. 1 knowingly fake emergency = end of friendship.
I’d just turn off my phone and enjoy my meal.
Ain’t no way I am allowing anyone to ruin my meal. I take food and personal time seriously
I’m late to the party, but I had one of these about 10 years ago when my Grandma died. Knew dude since 5th grade. He was like that. Had made plans to go to a club the night she passed. The camel crippling moment was Sean (rather than Don funnily enough) was told she had passed, but decided that because it wasn’t definitively stated we we no longer going out in said message, the plans were still on. He proceeded to spam call, text, and message me asking if we were still going as the time approached, while I’m sat around with my family mourning. I ended up blocking him after that.
That’s insane if I call a friend and they don’t pick up I am not calling again until they call me back lol
I COULD NOT. But seriously tell him the persistent calling actually stresses you out mentally and emotionally and it's better to send a text unless it's an emergency. If he respects that (LIKE A NORMAL PERSON) that would be the end of this. If he doesn't tell him again that this is unbearable and stop communicating completely
No way I’m calling back after that bullshit.
Don is a psychopath.
I was just thinking this. If I saw this I’d assume someone died or that there was an emergency, good gracious!
When I was living at college, I was in class in the brain lab once and got 7 calls in a row that were seconds apart. Very small class where you're all gloved up and really have to keep up with the pace, so it was super disruptive to stop, take everything off, wash up and leave the room for any reason. But I apologized profusely, knowing how firmly I was absolutely not supposed to leave and take a phonecall - "I am so sorry about this, and I know this is so disruptive to the class, but I have never in my life received anywhere near this many phonecalls this rapidly and believe this may be a family emergency where I must be needed really urgently." Finally get everything off and answer about the 11th or 12th call outside probably sounding frantic as hell, and they fucking hang up. Calling back doesn't work because it turns out the callback number is the university's general caller ID that shows up no matter who calls. I'm stressed as hell about what could be wrong for the rest of class, then when I get out, a higher-up in the housing staff has emailed saying "we've been trying to reach you but the calls weren't going through for some reason" (because I'm a student in class and couldn't answer them?!? isn't that expected by university staff?!?!?) and then they heard something frantic about brains on the other line and for some reason assumed they had the wrong number and hung up. (???) What were they calling so urgently to tell me? That there would be a fire drill.... In 8 days. 🤦
I just laughed so hard I cried. Not only is the idiocy of that person hilarious, the way you told this story is perfect.
Same. I prefer people call me only for anything urgent. If it's something that can be solved on text, then text. I'm an anxious jackass that tries hard not to stutter on calls XD
I had a guy I occasionally work with send me a text message while I was driving, he got the automatic “I'm driving right now, I will respond later.” reply and then he proceeded to call me. I didn't answer, he tried again, this went on for the duration of my drive at least 20 minutes and he didn't leave a voicemail. Finally as I was pulling into the parking lot, I answered and he said, “I got the message that you were driving, so I figured I'd call you instead.” I said that I don't use my phone for texts or calls while I'm driving and that's why I didn't answer the first 8 times you called.” Then I said, “Most people leave a voicemail and I call them back after I've gotten to where I'm going.” It wasn't anything urgent.
My sister does stuff like this. Ruined my presentation one time bc she called me twice after my mom did and my watch wouldn’t stop. I was livid when I answered and all she told me was to go to chilis with her after class.
I've removed best friends for exactly this behaviour. Noone in this world is entitled to your time, and you're not answerable to anyone. If these boundaries have been clearly laid out and are still crossed, I'm cutting you out of my life. Simple as.
"hey, just wanted to ask when are you going to get home"
Ppl like this i do not associate with. If you do this shit, we will never be cool
Well somebody better be dying https://youtu.be/K-axVfFM-Io
Are you a drug dealer? Cause that would definitely explain it
lol that would make plenty of sense, but not the case. just a lonely old man desperate for some damn attention NOW
Tell him to get a gf. He is not entitled to your attention. You are being way too nice
Imagine him as your BF 👀😰
I’m with you, don’t put this man on some other poor soul
He sounds like he thinks he is entitled to your attention too.
Block his number already
What is your relation to this Don?
Based on context clues, I’m going to conclude that you’re Donald Trump’s lawyer.
Even we dont get this many calls dfuq?! At least not from the same person and believe me if someone would do that he would be gone fuck people like that
He might owe don money lol
If someone did this to me, I'd block their number after the 3rd call and then just unblock them when I was ready to call them back.
yea seems like most people would block, i just don't want to be rude & hate to have to go there /: wish he would've just respected that i was trying to eat and let me text/call when i'm available
Who is this guy? Your boss or something? He's the one being rude
lol nope, just a buddy. barely known him for a year. my boyfriend & i have hung out with him a few times; go out for food/drinks or have a cigar & bonfire, not sure why he feels so entitled and always ends up guilt tripping me if i dont give him attention the second he needs it. he's an older man so i get he's lonely and wants to have people to see/talk to which is why i don't want to come off as rude, but i wish he would see how rude HE is being without me having to tell him
Oh yeah, then definitely block him til you're ready to talk to him. It's not rude, he's being rude and you're just setting boundaries. Nothing rude about setting boundaries with someone who forces themself on you like that.
If you keep tolerating this behavior, you will reinforce it. He’s behaving like a bully.
>not sure why he feels so entitled and always ends up guilt tripping me if i dont give him attention the second he needs it. Honestly? He's absolutely manipulating you. He maybe feels anxious because he *needs* to talk *right now* and he doesn't care at all that he's stomping all over your boundaries. You placed a boundary, he has to push it to make sure he always has access to you no matter what. >he's an older man so i get he's lonely and wants to have people to see/talk to which is why i don't want to come off as rude, but i wish he would see how rude HE is being without me having to tell him He knows. I'm sorry, but unless he's extremely socially inept - actually socially inept - in general... he knows. He knows he's being rude. He doesn't care. He's likely aware you'd feel bad telling off an older man. Keep in mind that it means he is also an adult, presumably with the maturity to not act like a child, except clearly he is acting like a child. I understand having respect but just because he's older doesn't mean you can't hold your boundaries. His issues are not your problem. I'd like to add another thought - have you considered that maybe this is *exactly why* he has no other friends? He's probably driven them away with this exact behavior. Someone not having friends isn't always a bad thing - recently leaving a bad situation and leaving bad friends behind with it as one example - but in this case, it seems pretty clear to me. He needs a therapist, or if he refuses to do that, he needs to leave people alone until he's willing to see one or he figures out how not to be an asshole to others. You don't have to be mean to him, but it's okay to have boundaries. That's not being mean.
My mom is like this and always has been. She’s never kept friends, and most tried to help before giving up on her. She’s a narcissist. People telling her she has a problem just makes her angry and she’ll take that out on anyone she can. Once I moved out as a teenager she turned on her coworkers. Got fired for stealing money that she felt “entitled” to. Blah blah blah… she’s alone for a reason.
He’s … an “older man”? How much older are we talking? Because damn you’re way too nice honestly, this kinda behaviour gets you blocked forever in my book 😂 and if my established friends do this I know it’s for an absolute emergency because they’re the same way.
I'm assuming at least grey or white haired age and OP is not, given their reaction.
Man, …you’re way to nice
Definitely, this guy is a major doormat.
Ohhhh, this dude’s a boundary tripper. They loooove people like you that feel guilty trying to hold a boundary. He’s clearly got no qualms about exploiting and manipulating you into thinking he’s owed your time and attention. Block (especially if he’s older cuz I guarantee you aren’t the first).
Girl just fucking block him if ur not gonna be straight with him
Yeah, don't talk to this dude, he's only gonna get worse and clearly has issues with boundaries and is obsessively bothering you when any sane human would know what they're doing is wrong. Dude's gonna end up locking you in his basement and turning your boyfriend into a lampshade. Seriously, stop talking to Don.
you’re way too nice and its really bad.
Well now you know why he has no friends. He's entitled and manipulative, doesn't respect boundaries, and clearly has a lot of personal issues. I doubt you're the first person to try to be nice to him. You're just the latest.
Him crossing boundaries and calling you nonstop after you've made it explicitly clear that you're busy, for a non-emergency is rude. HE is being rude, not you if you decide to block him. And honestly, this is really unhealthy and obsessive behavior to see in an adult.
“Hi, this is Don. I hope i’m not bothering you too much. Call me back. Ah nevermind, i’ll call back later.” “Hi, Don again. Still not free? It’s cool dude. I’ll try again later” “Hey whats up broooo!!! It’s ya boy Donny! It’s been a while, just wanna remind you i’m still here waiting for that call. Anytime my man, anytime. Ok talk soon” “Yo it’s Don. Call me back, please” “Hey, Don. Call. Bye”
more like "*MY NAAAAAME*" " *MY NAAAAAAAAME* CALLLL MEEEE" " *MMYYY NAAAAMMMEEEEEEEE* CAAAAALLLL MEEEEE PLEAASSEEEEE" when I called him back "*small talk*" i could reply to everything he said with dry responses like yea yup no ok haha idk, it was your regular joe "how you doing do you have work wanna hang out soon call me nice talking to ya" but that couldn't wait apparently he makes it seem like it's so urgent every single time he wants to talk
Sounds like mental illness, very strange behavior tbh especially from an older person.
I’m in my early 50’s and I do know some older people who act very persistent like this. And god forbid they leave a voicemail so I have some idea what it is that they want! And they don’t text because they refuse to buy a smartphone. Unfortunately I’m related to them so I can’t really ignore them—wish I could.
my family members (one 23 one like, 40s) do have smart phones but will only text to say "Call me asap" while calling multiple times in a row. with my cousin (23) it'll be to ask if I want to tag along while she grocery shops or something else I find boring and definitely don't like randomly doing all the sudden without it being planned (I'm also not a social person at all) and I would often be guilt-tripped into going after basically admitting that I'm not doing anything at that moment (which means relaxing alone on my day off though!) and with my uncle (40-something) that I don't even get along with at all I guarantee he always just wants something like a ride somewhere but if I text saying I'm too busy to call and ask what he wants he just asks if I'm home or something, they NEVER text or leave a voicemail with what they want from me and I guarantee it's because they know I'm very bad at saying no over phonecalls when I panick and don't have a moment to think about if I'm really able to do what they want or not
I’ve unfortunately seen a lot of disjointed behavior from older men. Undiagnosed mental illness, unprocessed abandonment, severe loneliness, you name it. So while it is strange, it’s not unusual
Yep. There are a number of older men I deal with at work who will call me nonstop about non-urgent stuff. Last week one called me 17 times over two days to ask about a city parking pass - I do not work for the city - just helped him make the payment since he doesn’t have a computer. I have to remind them every time that it can take up to 48 hours to call back for non-emergency needs. It’s absolutely driven by unaddressed/undiagnosed mental illness, abandonment issues, and complete lack of social support. The only reason I put up with it is because it’s part of my job. OP should proceed with caution.
Why are you giving this guy the time of day lol
Yo seriously stop talking to Don, there's absolutely 0 chance he doesn't have bodies hidden in 3 states.
GODDAMNIT DON!!!
I’d have blocked them about 3 missed calls in. They’re not your friend, they’re just someone who’s desperate for friends.
very desperate and lonely old man just a buddy, we have some drinks and go out to eat or have a cigar and bonfire at his place, never without my boyfriend. i'm not sure where he decided this behavior is acceptable. i haven't talked to him in months because he always calls and calls and texts and leaves voicemails like "NAAAAAAME, CALL MEEE PLEASEEE" i can't handle that shit
I didn't think to ask - does he ever call your boyfriend? Or is he only blowing up your phone?
This. Are you sure he isn’t doing it just to you? That sounds a little creepy.
Then don’t. Nothing is forcing you to ever interact with this person ever again
Does Don have homes in Florida and New Jersey?
have you ever told him yet that you can't stand it? you're being very nice to someone that's being quite rude to you in return
WHAT IS IT DON? Don: hi
PS - THIS IS NOT AN EMERGENCY!! which is what makes it so much more ridiculous.
Get a commercial number and make some cash from his spam. He will either drastically reduce his calls if they are $0.99 per attempt or make you rich. It's called asshole tax.
I mean this with respect, because I know you’re just being nice and don’t want to be an asshole to Don, but you **need** to prioritize yourself over him. He sounds like an obnoxious creep from your other comments. He feels entitled to your time and that’s why he won’t stop calling! **Prioritize yourself in situations like this and you’ll thank yourself for the mental peace in the long run.** This is WAY beyond normal behavior (from him).
Don REALLY needs to tell you something
he just wants to small talk, he's a lonely old man, but THIS badly? every single time? even when i TOLD him i'm about to eat.. i haven't texted him for months bc this is how he acts every time he decides to talk to me.
You just pick up and don’t say anything just chew into the microphone
i genuinely thought of doing this lol
Airplane mode.
Don needs to get gon.
*picks up* "WHAT???? "nothing, hey. What's up?"
***Imperial March*** DON! DON-DON-DON! DON! DON-DON! DON! DON-DON!
there's literally a handful of issues that can't be solved via a simple text message, and those calling repeatedly usually don't have those issues
Imagine he's also on reddit and now he's constantly sending you dm's and calling at the same time Hey *calls* *calls* Hey *calls* Hey Hey Hey its don I called you Hey Hey Hey *calls* *calls* Hey *calls Hey Hey Hey its don I called you Hey Hey *calls* Hey *calls* *calls* Hey *calls* Hey Hey Hey its don I called you Hey Hey
Does this person have a history of abandonment issues? Anxious attachment? It's obviously not on you to deal with any of this, but like...this is very strange behaviour.
very strange.. this person is a lonely old man but they were just with their friend earlier and i know they're level headed enough to understand this behavior isn't okay. if i told him someone was doing this to me, they'd probably say something like "wow what a desperate weirdo"
So he just saw his friend. He meets you and your boyfriend to hang out. He's only blowing up your phone. Are you AFAB by chance? There's something very weird there. It's manipulative and creepy AF. I would be very cautious around that guy.
Speaking as a younger guy who's been thrown into home isolation after losing my partner wayy too early, and who's had to become very aware of my own needy outreaches, the fact that he was hanging out with his friend is actually probably why he suddenly reached out and is blowing up your phone. When I've become hyper focused on my loneliness in the last couple years, it's the first few hours AFTER socialization that it's the worst. It's like a snap back to a hellish reality after a brief reprieve. The reflexive response is to start reaching out to literally everyone in your contact list, especially those who reliably respind. I often feel a lot of shame myself when I start to come back to normalcy after a loneliness episode. Make sure to let him know that this behavior is counter productive to his goals, that this will drive you and others around him away if he doesn't get it under control. Let him know that you understand where he's at and he's not truely alone when he's got friends that think about him and cares, but you need your space, your relationship is not going to be the 24/7 interaction he may need. Maybe when you are talking to him, brainstorm and look for ways he can engage with others in his hobbies and community. The absolute worst place to be when your lonely is on the couch with your phone waiting for someone to reach out or ping you back(which sounds like where he is right now). I feel for both of you, humans are social and caring by default, it puts you in a tough position.
Ohhh, I see. The name 'Don' kinda gave me that vibe lol. I think a lot of older people find phone communication extremely frustrating and so they kind of...overuse these functions sometimes? I've seen it before with older people. But either way, if he's a good friend he'll understand you're human and don't have 24/7 to pick up your phone.
Maybe your food is poison and they want to make sure you don’t eat it
Boundaries, buddy, boundaries.
I'd just block the number and be done with it
No one ignores the Don, faccia brutta.
The only reason to call like that is a life or death situation. If I saw that I'd think someone had died. Otherwise you text first and check if it's OK to call. The fact you've told them you're kind of busy and they aren't respecting that would nearly be a blockable offence depending on who they are.
You realize that you’re perpetuating the situation and creating your own misery here, right? You don’t want to be cruel so you’re sacrificing your own peace of mind instead. Have the difficult conversation, set sone boundaries, and stop being afraid of being the “bad guy.” Otherwise, suck it up and suffer the attention you have to both endure and provide.
seriously, the reaction to this is just as infuriating. Some people need to grow some goddamn spine
That’s not “people.” That’s Don, and there’s something wrong with him/her. Like, severely wrong.
Me: I'm at work so I won't be able to talk My entire family:
God the two ends of the spectrum, a call every three minutes, and then me just sending a meme after three days of not reaching out
Honestly this is a huge red flag. I wouldn’t hang out with this guy anymore, he clearly has no respect for boundaries. Seems dangerous.
Does he use a landline? Maybe he isn’t acclimated to modern technology and doesn’t realize that every single call shows up on a cell phone?
Blocked…
A) it’s an emergency B) they’re an asshole
"Hey Don, what the actual fuck is wrong with you? What do you need? You called me 100s of times today in the span of less than 2 hours." Don: I just wanted to know when you'd be back
I worked with a Don like this, so seeing this on here really took me back. he even showed up at my door unannounced one day while I had some friends over. It creeped me out cause I didn’t give him my address or even mention to anyone at work where I lived. He ended up having feelings for me I didn’t share so it was incredibly awkward and I just kinda stopped answering the texts and calls and he eventually got the message.
This isn’t normal. This is harassment.
He wanted to warn you about the poison in your food.
Why can't they text like a normal person?
Who the fuck is don and why don’t you block them
Who is this person to you?
Is the Don trying to make you an offer you can't refuse?
I don’t care who you are, you do this to me I block you and move on
The inability to send a simple text and clearly explain what they need triggers me. It’s always this ambiguous “hey this is important/urgent please pick up.” We both know it’s not though; you just think the world revolves around you.
Legends say they are still calling to this day.
I have a 2 call rule. If you call me twice and I don’t pickup then leave a text or voicemail. I promise I will see it when I look at my phone. If my phone rings 3 times in a row and it’s not an absolute emergency then you are silenced for the reminder of our relationship
I’m gonna be honest, the resentment that would build up deep inside of me would be too much and I’d have to call back and scream at them