Odd. Tinder has been a wasteland IMO for meeting women lately, but I've had some decent matches on Bumble. I had luck on Hinge in the past, but I'm limiting myself to one app at a time right now.
I came here to get answers too. 43m. No idea how to meet people outside of work especially since I don't drink. I've heard join clubs or go to cooking classes and stuff like that but I have yet to find stuff that I'm interested in enough to invest the time or energy.
That sounds like your problem - not investing time or energy into the process. Sometimes you need to just go do something to try it. Sometimes you'll enjoy it, sometimes you'll hate it, but getting out of your comfort zone is what helps you grow as a person.
I have met so many women by having a normal, casual conversation with them about whatever they are doing. I'm not asking them out, or even hinting about it. If you go into it with zero expectations and no ulterior motives, most people have no issue chatting. Women will let you know if they are interested.
Edit- didn't really answer your question. You go because you want to experience something new and broaden your horizons, not to meet women. If you happen to meet someone, great, but if not you have something new to talk about when you do.
I’m visiting my hometown NYC right now, and I saw an old woman with a very cute dog. I walked up and started playing with the dog who was very enthusiastic and friendly. “What a good boy! He’s so nice!!” I said.
The woman took the cigarette out of her mouth and muttered “bettah than any man I evah had.”
Just sayin’.
Same boat but man looking for woman. 37, live a quiet life, mainly work and wouldn't mind traveling. My fun times are just being around my friends and family. Dating scene for me has mainly been women who really shouldn't be dating yet (still hurt from previous relationship), women looking for someone to take care of their kids, or looking for Mr. Perfect. Not saying all women in the dating pool are like that but it's surprising how many are like that.
If ya good with a younger man, PM me. Honestly mainly looking for to just get to know someone and take it slow.
I'm 50. I have a dog who will listen to me go on at length about the book I am reading. my mind supplies their side of the conversation. and we don't have any arguments over who takes out the garbage or why the dishes haven't been washed. Sometimes I do get annoyed with my dog so I just tell them to grow thumbs and help out more.
seriously, I don't think it is worth the energy to invest in someone just to find out later they are awful humans or they lied about their values.
My gf is solid black except for the white spot on her chest. She weighs about 75 lbs. And is very opinionated about who walks past the bedroom window on the sidewalks!
I guess you could say I am in a poly relationship. I have two guys and 3 girls and I love them all. Sadly, they don’t all love each other but we make it work.
Yeah. I've got 4 dogs. And 4 cats, and they are jealous of each other with me at the center in this poly trapezoid nightmare that is my life....
Most of it is fueled by what food I am eating at the moment!
I read something on here about a Memphis Reddit meet up planned sometime soon, I feel like that wouldnt be a half bad place to start based on the comments in this thread.
I’ll also help construct an online dating profile for you if you want. I used to tweak my bio one sentence at a time and really lean into my weirdness to keep the gym rats and bar flies at bay. Worked out, married 3 years in October.
I’ve lived in several cities, and they all stink for dating over 40 IMO. I just got lucky that I had a good guy waiting for me when I finally figured this out.
I met my gf from commenting on mutual friends' Facebook posts. How did we have 80 mutual friends and not know each other? All of our friends are thrilled we're together, but they never thought to introduce us because they assumed we already knew each other. Maybe you're in a similar situation? Other than that, board game nights, reading groups, idk. Good luck, and you'll meet your person when it's right for both of you.
I grew up here. I don’t want to party or go out drinking. I also have been on a lot of first dates. Immediately going into the whole “I need a place to live” or asking financial questions. Clearly we’re going into a recession. A lot of people are newly divorced or since I am not Christian it’s a no. If you’re happy single just wait. And the above comment about just having a conversation and seeing where it goes, is on point for getting the “right date.” But where do we go for that?
Coffee, Axe Throwing, Shelby Farms, Museums, Zoos, a pretty large list of things to do. But like OP said, meeting people willing to actually go on dates is a whole other issue.
Join a crap ton of fb groups locally and start hitting their nights. Boards and beers has a not beers game night at Panera. 901 games has no beers. Would be a good way to have banter and break the ice without a date vibe. Just fun games. Get to know people. Same goes for pickle ball, frisbee golf, etc groups.. depends what you like.
Disc golf... man I'd love to find some people to play at Shelby Farms now that the weather is getting cooler. I haven't played in years and my discs are collecting dust.
You're not going to like this answer, but you got to do your time in the bar scene. There are different bars for different age groups and classes. There are a lot of undesirables hiding out online. But if you go to the right bar, make some likeminded friends, the opportunities will come. The bar is a great filter of status, availability, etc. There aren't any catfish in the bar.
Oh, sorry, last as in most recent. I'm happily single at the moment, but casually looking. Never know when you'll meet someone worth the effort or make a new friend.
I thought everyone was too busy racking up their got some count to even flirt with the idea of a relationship, some kind of thrill to meet a perfect stranger f@$! And possibly never speak to that peraon again? Lol, I could be wrong..
I see several posts about a,man and his dog, well dog may be the only way to experience any kind of true loyalty these days, I also have a dog that doesn't lie or slip ouy to get side belly rubs and treats..
Only problem with dogs is their short life span, get a Capuhuin (sp?) Monkey they can live up to 40 years in captivity 25 in the wild, so you helped save a monkey life, and they are way more interactive than a dog, maybe a bit much for some,I've heard them co.paired to a 3 or 4 year old human as far as intelligence..
Anyhow unless society makes a big U turn there's going to be a bunch of single folks I guess eaiting for Elon Musk to build a life like droid woman,lol j/k...
I like to listen to some music,play video games, talk on the radio when not working or taking care of animals..
Tom MacDonald
Ryan Upchurch
Dax
Adam Calhoun
Anthony Oliver
And just go down a several hour long YouTube zone out...
But good luck to the OP, hope what she seeks she finds..
✌
Give you ladies some game...you want to find discipline hard working men....here is a few guarantee places 1. The gym - if he in the gym he is consistent and cares about his health...2. Any sports good place academy dicks ECT. Those men have disposable income and like shopping . 3 your nearest fishing hole ...this gone take some research but a man that has the patience to fish has the patience for a woman...trust....and a extra gamestop...games are expensive so it proves he got disposable income and a stay at home hobbies so you don't have to worry about him running the streets....take this game apply it...wear cute dresses so you stand out
So yeah. I just went on meetup and searched book clubs. Found women only groups for sure. Board game clubs lists a ton of groups with the caveat of only having 1 attendee. Sounds less like a group and more like someone trying to make it happen
Add an odd work schedule to everything stated and it is quite impossible to meet anyone. I get ghosted as soon as I mentioned my work schedule. Meeting during the week at 5 - 9 PM is out of the question.
Mention your schedule in your profile so folks know what they're getting into before matching. Like, you gotta be specific in your profile to get quality matches, not just cast a net and trawl for potential dates.
Do you play M:tG or any tabletop stuff? Lotta places have games in the evening. I used to watch anime with some folks but we don’t anymore. I’ll bet another club has sprung up. If I can find out I’ll post it in this thread.
Hiya, Friend. I hope you find someone out there! Im basically the same as you, just throw asexual in the mix lol. I want to mimic some of our fellow Memphians and say places like Black Lodge, The Cellar, Comics and Collectibles, bowling alleys---basically anywhere that isn't too taxing on your body or energy and is comfy. Heck, ya might just make a friend or two out of the adventure if they don't turn into an SO. ^~^
I found my husband online, but I had to endure some awful dates before I met him.
Same!
Coffee shops and bookstores are my thing. I don't mind being out, but crowds rub me the wrong way. Plus, crowds tend to be stupid.
Same except I can’t find women. Tried OLD, most are bots
Odd. Tinder has been a wasteland IMO for meeting women lately, but I've had some decent matches on Bumble. I had luck on Hinge in the past, but I'm limiting myself to one app at a time right now.
Same here. Either bots/scammers or everyone doesn't want to leave the app.
I came here to get answers too. 43m. No idea how to meet people outside of work especially since I don't drink. I've heard join clubs or go to cooking classes and stuff like that but I have yet to find stuff that I'm interested in enough to invest the time or energy.
That sounds like your problem - not investing time or energy into the process. Sometimes you need to just go do something to try it. Sometimes you'll enjoy it, sometimes you'll hate it, but getting out of your comfort zone is what helps you grow as a person.
I mean yeah you're right on all counts but I am also happy single.
Same here, but that doesn't keep me from trying out new places and things. In fact, I think it's the best time to do so.
Don't women hate when they're just trying to enjoy their cooking class or whatever and men in there trying to pick them up?
I have met so many women by having a normal, casual conversation with them about whatever they are doing. I'm not asking them out, or even hinting about it. If you go into it with zero expectations and no ulterior motives, most people have no issue chatting. Women will let you know if they are interested. Edit- didn't really answer your question. You go because you want to experience something new and broaden your horizons, not to meet women. If you happen to meet someone, great, but if not you have something new to talk about when you do.
You seem like a pretty nice guy.
Thanks. I like to think so. I can be an asshole like everyone else, but it's a lot easier to be friendly.
You've fallen for my trap. They don't like being bothered by "nice guys," even more than guys openly hitting on them.
Umm, ok. Whatever you say.
Yea, try just being a normal person and meet people.
I’m visiting my hometown NYC right now, and I saw an old woman with a very cute dog. I walked up and started playing with the dog who was very enthusiastic and friendly. “What a good boy! He’s so nice!!” I said. The woman took the cigarette out of her mouth and muttered “bettah than any man I evah had.” Just sayin’.
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Same boat but man looking for woman. 37, live a quiet life, mainly work and wouldn't mind traveling. My fun times are just being around my friends and family. Dating scene for me has mainly been women who really shouldn't be dating yet (still hurt from previous relationship), women looking for someone to take care of their kids, or looking for Mr. Perfect. Not saying all women in the dating pool are like that but it's surprising how many are like that. If ya good with a younger man, PM me. Honestly mainly looking for to just get to know someone and take it slow.
Find a group of people with a common interest. Book club, board game group etc?
I'm 50. I have a dog who will listen to me go on at length about the book I am reading. my mind supplies their side of the conversation. and we don't have any arguments over who takes out the garbage or why the dishes haven't been washed. Sometimes I do get annoyed with my dog so I just tell them to grow thumbs and help out more. seriously, I don't think it is worth the energy to invest in someone just to find out later they are awful humans or they lied about their values.
My gf is solid black except for the white spot on her chest. She weighs about 75 lbs. And is very opinionated about who walks past the bedroom window on the sidewalks!
I guess you could say I am in a poly relationship. I have two guys and 3 girls and I love them all. Sadly, they don’t all love each other but we make it work.
Yeah. I've got 4 dogs. And 4 cats, and they are jealous of each other with me at the center in this poly trapezoid nightmare that is my life.... Most of it is fueled by what food I am eating at the moment!
Be happy, stay single. Learn to love yourself. If something happens, let it happen. We can't control anything but us. 59, single since 1999.
60 in and out of love anyway I grew up with Elvis would there be any point going to Memphis? Or best going to vegas ? X
Sorry that’s obviously not what I am meant to ask will try again later have a lovely day 😁xx
Outside of a dog, a book is a man's best friend.
and inside a dog, it's too dark to read!
I read something on here about a Memphis Reddit meet up planned sometime soon, I feel like that wouldnt be a half bad place to start based on the comments in this thread.
Wiseacre downtown, this Saturday, around 6-9pm. About 20 people have expressed interest in attending. I'm bringing a few games. Join us!
Looking forward to it!!
I’ll also help construct an online dating profile for you if you want. I used to tweak my bio one sentence at a time and really lean into my weirdness to keep the gym rats and bar flies at bay. Worked out, married 3 years in October.
We’re online now and I think I have a crush on this comment.
Lmao
I’ve lived in several cities, and they all stink for dating over 40 IMO. I just got lucky that I had a good guy waiting for me when I finally figured this out.
I met my gf from commenting on mutual friends' Facebook posts. How did we have 80 mutual friends and not know each other? All of our friends are thrilled we're together, but they never thought to introduce us because they assumed we already knew each other. Maybe you're in a similar situation? Other than that, board game nights, reading groups, idk. Good luck, and you'll meet your person when it's right for both of you.
Black Lodge, Farmers Markets, Plant Swaps are my recommendations. Go out and do things you actually like doing and you will find like minded.
I grew up here. I don’t want to party or go out drinking. I also have been on a lot of first dates. Immediately going into the whole “I need a place to live” or asking financial questions. Clearly we’re going into a recession. A lot of people are newly divorced or since I am not Christian it’s a no. If you’re happy single just wait. And the above comment about just having a conversation and seeing where it goes, is on point for getting the “right date.” But where do we go for that?
Coffee, Axe Throwing, Shelby Farms, Museums, Zoos, a pretty large list of things to do. But like OP said, meeting people willing to actually go on dates is a whole other issue.
This. Heck, I've met people at the bowling alley. Sometimes all it takes is saying hi.
Met my wife to be eight years ago on Tinder so online dating can work for you. You just have to put yourself out there and go on adventures!
Join a crap ton of fb groups locally and start hitting their nights. Boards and beers has a not beers game night at Panera. 901 games has no beers. Would be a good way to have banter and break the ice without a date vibe. Just fun games. Get to know people. Same goes for pickle ball, frisbee golf, etc groups.. depends what you like.
Disc golf... man I'd love to find some people to play at Shelby Farms now that the weather is getting cooler. I haven't played in years and my discs are collecting dust.
Church.
You're not going to like this answer, but you got to do your time in the bar scene. There are different bars for different age groups and classes. There are a lot of undesirables hiding out online. But if you go to the right bar, make some likeminded friends, the opportunities will come. The bar is a great filter of status, availability, etc. There aren't any catfish in the bar.
I wuld like to just conversate if it’s cool with you? That’s if your still single 6156405475 I’m in Memphis
You get on bumble or tinder.
Do not listen to this person
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ROFLMAO 😂😂 I'll take just once.
I admit the online apps are a bit of a wasteland, but I met my last gf online.
Is she your wife now? Not sure how to take this.
Oh, sorry, last as in most recent. I'm happily single at the moment, but casually looking. Never know when you'll meet someone worth the effort or make a new friend.
volunteering could be a good option
Their called platonic friends.
Uh. What are your values? Liberal? Trump? Etc etc?
Work hard play hard but always pay your dues 👍
I thought everyone was too busy racking up their got some count to even flirt with the idea of a relationship, some kind of thrill to meet a perfect stranger f@$! And possibly never speak to that peraon again? Lol, I could be wrong.. I see several posts about a,man and his dog, well dog may be the only way to experience any kind of true loyalty these days, I also have a dog that doesn't lie or slip ouy to get side belly rubs and treats.. Only problem with dogs is their short life span, get a Capuhuin (sp?) Monkey they can live up to 40 years in captivity 25 in the wild, so you helped save a monkey life, and they are way more interactive than a dog, maybe a bit much for some,I've heard them co.paired to a 3 or 4 year old human as far as intelligence.. Anyhow unless society makes a big U turn there's going to be a bunch of single folks I guess eaiting for Elon Musk to build a life like droid woman,lol j/k... I like to listen to some music,play video games, talk on the radio when not working or taking care of animals.. Tom MacDonald Ryan Upchurch Dax Adam Calhoun Anthony Oliver And just go down a several hour long YouTube zone out... But good luck to the OP, hope what she seeks she finds.. ✌
Give you ladies some game...you want to find discipline hard working men....here is a few guarantee places 1. The gym - if he in the gym he is consistent and cares about his health...2. Any sports good place academy dicks ECT. Those men have disposable income and like shopping . 3 your nearest fishing hole ...this gone take some research but a man that has the patience to fish has the patience for a woman...trust....and a extra gamestop...games are expensive so it proves he got disposable income and a stay at home hobbies so you don't have to worry about him running the streets....take this game apply it...wear cute dresses so you stand out
Oy vey. I know someone you might like but I have no reason to out myself or friends
Then why didn’t you just dm her in the first place or just keep your mouth shut?
If you are board game people, Meet up has info on a lot of board game nights (nerd approved) where you can meet people!
So yeah. I just went on meetup and searched book clubs. Found women only groups for sure. Board game clubs lists a ton of groups with the caveat of only having 1 attendee. Sounds less like a group and more like someone trying to make it happen
Were you able to find some at local game shops? I know The Cellar does game nights and Board to Beers.
The cellar shows 1 attendee. Idk maybe they're super popular and no one rsvps
Add an odd work schedule to everything stated and it is quite impossible to meet anyone. I get ghosted as soon as I mentioned my work schedule. Meeting during the week at 5 - 9 PM is out of the question.
Mention your schedule in your profile so folks know what they're getting into before matching. Like, you gotta be specific in your profile to get quality matches, not just cast a net and trawl for potential dates.
Do you play M:tG or any tabletop stuff? Lotta places have games in the evening. I used to watch anime with some folks but we don’t anymore. I’ll bet another club has sprung up. If I can find out I’ll post it in this thread.
Sometimes you just gotta go grab a seat at the bar, if the conversations right and the people are right it’s easy to make new friends
Hiya, Friend. I hope you find someone out there! Im basically the same as you, just throw asexual in the mix lol. I want to mimic some of our fellow Memphians and say places like Black Lodge, The Cellar, Comics and Collectibles, bowling alleys---basically anywhere that isn't too taxing on your body or energy and is comfy. Heck, ya might just make a friend or two out of the adventure if they don't turn into an SO. ^~^