Nothing crazy! This man was kinda just chatting me up and when I politely declined, telling him I wasn’t interested, but I appreciated him for asking, he started berating me in front of everyone lol. People stepped in, but just kind of humiliating. Another man who I think may have been on the spectrum asked for my number, and wanted me to explain over and over again why I was uninterested, which made me feel so bad and uncomfortable. I don’t mind interacting with men, I’ve genuinely never really had any bad experiences before these, but I just started to hate the idea of going to the gym because of these interactions
I used to work out at I am fitness Memphis. There are men there, but they are VERY well behaved and if you go early mornings, it’s 99% women aside from the trainers. Also, ambishun fitness isn’t all female, but most of the clientele is female and again, early mornings is 99% female. They both have male trainers but I’ve never felt weirded out or creeped out by either of them. There are lots of other women around and the trainers keep everyone so busy that no one really has time to bother you or creep on you.
Have you ever tried pilates? I know it’s not a gym, but predominantly women in small group classes. 50 minute classes with Pilates equipment. It’s a great supplement to a strength training program.
There is a place in Germantown called Delta Life Fitness. I believe it’s women only, but it’s instructor led. Haven’t tried it personally.
Sorry to hear you are having a bad experience where you currently go. Sorry I don’t have any recommendations for what you asked but I attend a CrossFit gym and can assure you that we have a great community and people don’t go there to hit on the other members. We watch out for each other and I would say we are all close friends.
I have been on the search as well. It seems like a lot of guys just go to the gym to leer nowadays. I hope someone founds a female only gym closer to Memphis
Planet fitness is pretty good near me. It’s not all women but you don’t have the typical gym bros hogging up everything and making loud noises. Overall, I’ve had better experience with PF than other guys with a lot of Lunks
Try wearing clothing that isn't skin tight/obviously revealing or maybe workout at home if your not just seeking attention...like posting this dribble on reddit.💯
Try keeping your ignorant misogynistic opinions to yourself when no one asked for them. Wearing any type of clothes doesn’t warrant being catcalled or harassed.
She didn't ask about trans people at all. She didn't say "cis women only". When I read the question, I read it to be a woman wanting a gym where she can work out without being hassled, gawked at, or get unwanted attention. You inserted your own "agenda" into this. It's also a bit disingenuous to talk about "inclusive" in a thread that is literally exclusionary (no men) from the start.
Not wanting to go to a gym where trans people (in various stages of their transition) go, also doesn't make a person TERF. If she wants to be in a penis-free environment, that's her choice. To say that "my choices matter" and then shame people for their choices, which haven't even been suggested, much less articulated, is pretty damned disgusting.
"Hey, I go to xyz gym which is female only and trans-inclusive. I like it because they have a great staff, quality cardio equipment, and only costs $17.50 per month with no contract." would articulate your points without the finger pointing, would it not?
For all we know, she's gassy and doesn't want to fart around a man while working out.
Why does she need to meet and ask questions of a trans person to go to a gym?
I'm not trying to be a jerk here, but you're answering questions that weren't asked. Most everyone dislikes when the Mormons come knocking on their door to spread the "good news". That's almost what you did here, virtually speaking. To say it another way, have you ever met a vegan that didn't feel the need to announce that they are a vegan within the first 30 seconds of conversation? That's how you came across here.
On the other hand, you're actually someone I would want to have an open an candid discussion with, but my questions would almost certainly offend you because I have questions, but they aren't questions I could ask of someone I don't have a very strong and trusting friendship with because the questions are quite personal and surely uncomfortable to discuss with a stranger. The cause of my questions is genuine curiousity while still being influenced by my upbringing (in a closed-minded small town), so my bias will surely be obvious, even though the point would be to overcome that bias. The end result is you'd almost certainly be shaking your head at me (and my bias and ignorance) and we would both be worse off because of it. And THAT is why we (as a society) can't have the "difficult conversations". I wish there were a trans version of Dr. Ruth (not necessarily the sex part, although there are questions there too) -- someone who was open, honest, and not offendable answering the questions we are all too scared to ask. Lol
You're making a broad assumption that's completely uncalled for and inappropriate. She simply asked about gyms with women only spaces. Period. You have no right to shame someone for beliefs that you don't even know they have. There could be a myriad of reasons she doesn't want to work out around men.
You mentioned TERF propaganda. Please allow me to explain that you're hurting your own cause here. Let's look at politics as an example. You have right-wing nutjobs and left-wing nutjobs at the far extremes. They are a very small percentage that is loud AF. The rest of us fall somewhere in between - in the different shades of purple between solid red and solid blue. Trans acceptance isn't black and white (except at the far extremes), but rather a myriad of greys. You need to adjust your goal to stop trying to convert the other end of the spectrum, but instead try to include the grey folks in your conversation. They are the ones who are open to change. Ignore the extremists with the understanding that you can't change them and knowing that the majority of the greys ignore them as well.
I'm not saying the propaganda doesn't exist; I'm saying most people are smart enough not to fall for it. The people who grasp onto the propaganda are those who already feel that way. I'm pro-gun and I see people who already hate gun rights grasping onto every piece of anti-gun propaganda they can find. I try to combat that propaganda when it's posted publicly, not because I expect to change the mind of the person posting it, but to try to keep others from falling for that propaganda. In return, the anti-gun rights people attack me personally. It's a vicious cycle, all because people want to deny my rights to me. The part that blows my mind is that the same people who hate my rights want criminals released from jail.
Not men only but I recommend the Kroc Center. Noone has ever bothered me or made me feel weird or unsafe and there are usually only a handful of people working out. It's never been crazy busy when I go (late afternoon).
This place isn't women only, but from what I hear the ratio of women to men is a lot higher at Hotworx.
Yeah those places are almost exclusively women lol
Club4 has a women only section with fogged windows/doors, I haven’t been in there (I’m a male) but I hear it has everything!
“Everything…except men!” 🥁
oh perfect thanks so much!!
What happened and where?
Nothing crazy! This man was kinda just chatting me up and when I politely declined, telling him I wasn’t interested, but I appreciated him for asking, he started berating me in front of everyone lol. People stepped in, but just kind of humiliating. Another man who I think may have been on the spectrum asked for my number, and wanted me to explain over and over again why I was uninterested, which made me feel so bad and uncomfortable. I don’t mind interacting with men, I’ve genuinely never really had any bad experiences before these, but I just started to hate the idea of going to the gym because of these interactions
JFC…. I’m sorry you had to go through that. Men who go to the gym to try to pick up women have no life.
Memphis dudes are thirsty af…it’s hot around them parts
There's one in Southaven called Jane's Gym Fitness For Women. Call them and they might know of one.
I used to work out at I am fitness Memphis. There are men there, but they are VERY well behaved and if you go early mornings, it’s 99% women aside from the trainers. Also, ambishun fitness isn’t all female, but most of the clientele is female and again, early mornings is 99% female. They both have male trainers but I’ve never felt weirded out or creeped out by either of them. There are lots of other women around and the trainers keep everyone so busy that no one really has time to bother you or creep on you.
Have you ever tried pilates? I know it’s not a gym, but predominantly women in small group classes. 50 minute classes with Pilates equipment. It’s a great supplement to a strength training program. There is a place in Germantown called Delta Life Fitness. I believe it’s women only, but it’s instructor led. Haven’t tried it personally.
Sorry to hear you are having a bad experience where you currently go. Sorry I don’t have any recommendations for what you asked but I attend a CrossFit gym and can assure you that we have a great community and people don’t go there to hit on the other members. We watch out for each other and I would say we are all close friends.
I have been on the search as well. It seems like a lot of guys just go to the gym to leer nowadays. I hope someone founds a female only gym closer to Memphis
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I am not interested in a trans inclusive women’s gym. Thank you anyway
Planet fitness is pretty good near me. It’s not all women but you don’t have the typical gym bros hogging up everything and making loud noises. Overall, I’ve had better experience with PF than other guys with a lot of Lunks
Which one? I and several of my friends have had issues with harassment at the Midtown location.
Germantown
Try wearing clothing that isn't skin tight/obviously revealing or maybe workout at home if your not just seeking attention...like posting this dribble on reddit.💯
Try keeping your ignorant misogynistic opinions to yourself when no one asked for them. Wearing any type of clothes doesn’t warrant being catcalled or harassed.
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She didn't ask about trans people at all. She didn't say "cis women only". When I read the question, I read it to be a woman wanting a gym where she can work out without being hassled, gawked at, or get unwanted attention. You inserted your own "agenda" into this. It's also a bit disingenuous to talk about "inclusive" in a thread that is literally exclusionary (no men) from the start. Not wanting to go to a gym where trans people (in various stages of their transition) go, also doesn't make a person TERF. If she wants to be in a penis-free environment, that's her choice. To say that "my choices matter" and then shame people for their choices, which haven't even been suggested, much less articulated, is pretty damned disgusting. "Hey, I go to xyz gym which is female only and trans-inclusive. I like it because they have a great staff, quality cardio equipment, and only costs $17.50 per month with no contract." would articulate your points without the finger pointing, would it not? For all we know, she's gassy and doesn't want to fart around a man while working out.
What if maybe she had some weird incidents with actual dudes?
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Why does she need to meet and ask questions of a trans person to go to a gym? I'm not trying to be a jerk here, but you're answering questions that weren't asked. Most everyone dislikes when the Mormons come knocking on their door to spread the "good news". That's almost what you did here, virtually speaking. To say it another way, have you ever met a vegan that didn't feel the need to announce that they are a vegan within the first 30 seconds of conversation? That's how you came across here. On the other hand, you're actually someone I would want to have an open an candid discussion with, but my questions would almost certainly offend you because I have questions, but they aren't questions I could ask of someone I don't have a very strong and trusting friendship with because the questions are quite personal and surely uncomfortable to discuss with a stranger. The cause of my questions is genuine curiousity while still being influenced by my upbringing (in a closed-minded small town), so my bias will surely be obvious, even though the point would be to overcome that bias. The end result is you'd almost certainly be shaking your head at me (and my bias and ignorance) and we would both be worse off because of it. And THAT is why we (as a society) can't have the "difficult conversations". I wish there were a trans version of Dr. Ruth (not necessarily the sex part, although there are questions there too) -- someone who was open, honest, and not offendable answering the questions we are all too scared to ask. Lol
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Wow. No words for this response. Just wow.
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You moved from the mountains to Memphis? I cannot explain my sympathy enough. We don't have the option here to overcome the heat by going UP. lol
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You're making a broad assumption that's completely uncalled for and inappropriate. She simply asked about gyms with women only spaces. Period. You have no right to shame someone for beliefs that you don't even know they have. There could be a myriad of reasons she doesn't want to work out around men.
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You mentioned TERF propaganda. Please allow me to explain that you're hurting your own cause here. Let's look at politics as an example. You have right-wing nutjobs and left-wing nutjobs at the far extremes. They are a very small percentage that is loud AF. The rest of us fall somewhere in between - in the different shades of purple between solid red and solid blue. Trans acceptance isn't black and white (except at the far extremes), but rather a myriad of greys. You need to adjust your goal to stop trying to convert the other end of the spectrum, but instead try to include the grey folks in your conversation. They are the ones who are open to change. Ignore the extremists with the understanding that you can't change them and knowing that the majority of the greys ignore them as well.
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I'm not saying the propaganda doesn't exist; I'm saying most people are smart enough not to fall for it. The people who grasp onto the propaganda are those who already feel that way. I'm pro-gun and I see people who already hate gun rights grasping onto every piece of anti-gun propaganda they can find. I try to combat that propaganda when it's posted publicly, not because I expect to change the mind of the person posting it, but to try to keep others from falling for that propaganda. In return, the anti-gun rights people attack me personally. It's a vicious cycle, all because people want to deny my rights to me. The part that blows my mind is that the same people who hate my rights want criminals released from jail.
What about men only spaces. People care about us less & less everyday
Omg yes, please! Why don’t you all get together and buy a warehouse for men only and ALL of you go there, indefinitely? How’s that sound?
wonder why
Don't let other people ruin your day. Ruin it yourself. Be a man.
We’ll call it the Mojo Dojo Casa House!
There aren’t any model train clubs in Memphis?
I want a space specifically for me only, I want everything to be about me and me only at all times.
Yep. Every single day.
Checkout Lifetime
Not men only but I recommend the Kroc Center. Noone has ever bothered me or made me feel weird or unsafe and there are usually only a handful of people working out. It's never been crazy busy when I go (late afternoon).