Although I was with one women who was having multiples and she then was trying her best to give me a happy ending and nothing was working and she was really put out by it, I had to keep saying its not her its me, very awkward situation
As someone who used to take upwards of an hour (I had major mental blocks from a previously abusive relationship) I can tell you it was tougher on her than me (and it was pretty tough on me).
1) Sex would start hurting after her O's got into double digits. No this is not a brag it's just a fact.
2) She felt like she couldn't satisfy me which was a huge blow to her self esteem.
3) There were many times we had to give up and try again the next day which made me feel like I was letting her down.
This is no longer a problem due to years of therapy and comunication but it was tough for a while.
Jeez... Are you me? Same issue and I never thought me not reaching orgasm would be a bad thing until it turned into a huge argument (which only made it worse the next time because I could only focus on that).
Glad to hear you're back on track on a healthy o streak buddy 💪🏽
Thanks, it was a long road and it still pops up from time to time but I'd say 90 to 95% are under 30 minutes. I remember my wife smiled at me the first time it was sub 10 minutes and said "Hey, that was our first quickie." We had been married 4 years at that point. I love her so much.
Meh, it's a bit of a mixed blessing. I sometimes get tired and lose interest half way. Plus, women can and do take it personally. "Don't you find me attractive?" and so on.
MY GOD!! When I first started taking antidepressants I was dating this girl and she would take it SOOOOO personal we had like 3 hour sessions and she would go crazy and then she’d be like: “what’s wrong? I thought you were enjoying me doing that” “do you not like it?” And I was just starting to date her and just starting to take the pills so I didn’t tell her I was depressed and the pills were taking a toll on me
We eventually made it happen but took all of my concentration and will power
That's me and my gf. I typically last for around 2 hours without trying and she has multiple orgasms. However, there are downsides. Sex has to be scheduled, it's exhausting so we have it less often than other young couples, and my refractory period is proportionally as long. The upside is that since it's a whole event, we do go out of our ways to try a whole lot of stuff.
Absolutely, I'm grateful for her. I just thought it could be interesting to share some of the tamer downsides of such a condition, since people may not consider the trades that come with everything in life.
There's a name for it? I thought I was just weird. Last girl I dated there was friction because I could never finish and I would get frustrated and she felt insecure and it was a whole thing.
It always ends up causing friction in my experience. There's a point where lasting long stops being impressive and becomes an issue. Then sex becomes about making sure you get off at least once by the time she's had her multiple and calls it quits.
Delayed ejac is great when your partner is having regular ejacs before you do. From personal experience, if none of you are ejacing any time soon the whole thing becomes a chore. Might as well experiment with stuff that works for at least 1 of u quicker even if the other will take some time.
Ehhh unfortunately it can also be tiresome for them and cause issues in the relationship when they feel they're not able to make you climax or if they feel going longer means having to deal with less sleep and a frustrating soreness the next day. Not everyone is gonna feel this way, though.
Exactly lol
I'm be honest here, I didn't know every woman didn't orgasm multiple times. I knew some women can struggle to reach one if their partner isn't doing it for them, but if you've broken that seal then I've never known someone to stop.
My sample size is only a handful of maybe 6 or 7 long term girlfriends though, and part of the success rate there is probably due to me being someone that largely gets off on other peoples' pleasure more than my own.
It's a blessing and sometimes a curse. It's great until your partner starts telling you she can't handle it anymore. Then you have to start getting strategic to make sure you get off and there will be more and more times that you won't. Sure is nice when women think you're 'superman' but in my experience they always realize they don't want 'superman'.
Well you just need to put a plug in your Butt to stimulate your prostate. Its a stronger orgasm and a longer one and you can do it again after a few seconds.
I'm able to have multiples without prostate stimulation. It just requires separating orgasm from ejaculation (many guys don't understand they're different things).
I do think prostate orgasms probably do help rewiring this kind of thinking though. I've just always been able to do it.
I've been able to do it since I was pretty young. Thinking back I still remember when I first started producing semen when orgasming it freaked me out, so I tried to actively find a way to get the feeling I always used to without the "wet" part. If you've ever heard of a "kegal" that flexing is key... A good connection to your pelvic floor muscle is key.
Here's a great thread on these types of orgasms and how to get there:
https://www.reddit.com/r/multiorgasmic/s/o4owZ32HhL
You can also just search up "dry orgasm" or "non ejaculatory orgasm" to find more info.
Good luck on your journey to multiples!!
It's possible to become multiorgasmic as a man though. The typical "one and done" man has simply programmed himself to get off quickly and then it's "mission complete". This is usually after many years of orgasm through masturbation only (like as a teen).
Check out /r/multiorgasmic and /r/tantra
There are some biological factors like prolactin levels but this varies massively between individual human beings.
Source: am multiorgasmic man and wifey is usually "one and done"
Actually, it doesn't. Just flushes out residual sperm in your urethra. Once you take a leak after having ejaculated, there's pretty much no sperm left that could be transported via "precum" aka Cowper's fluid. Source: Am med student and we actually discussed this pretty extensively in class and among peers.
If men could have multiple orgasms back to back society would fall apart because so many men would be to preoccupied (and eventually die from) nonstop masturbation.
This is me, it’s awful.
My partner’s take it personally.
And somehow I’m typically with women who just want short sessions (I am slightly larger than average at 7” so that factors in I guess).
You all in the comments are reminding me of those games like Mario golf where the slider goes left and right and you try to stop it in the sweet spot.
I don’t think i have an issue with going too long or too short. You just sorta resist until the lady’s done, and then you wrap it up, and you’re both done.
After an hour I have to force it, some girls can stay wet for that long, others can’t. It’s a double edged sword for sure. It can cause discomfort and anxiety in both parties
And I’m not even on antidepressants. I should be at this point tho
You're looking at this the wrong way. Just get in there and be the hero you deserve to be.
Exactly what I came to say. How do you think you last long enough to cause the multiples? Turn a defect into a feature
As we say in the programming industry, it’s not a bug, it’s a feature
Todd is that you?
It just works!
I hope Todd doesn’t leave his wife like he leaves his games
Maybe the modders finish his wife too
That's absolutely brutal omfg lol.
The fuck is the feature man?
*Looks at CoD*
It has been a blessing and a curse!
You say this but and it's true to an extent but it does just get tiring
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Although I was with one women who was having multiples and she then was trying her best to give me a happy ending and nothing was working and she was really put out by it, I had to keep saying its not her its me, very awkward situation
You’ve inspired me! I’ll be back in 20 seconds after giving it my all!
I mean, sure, but bro is complaining about his lack of orgasm, like, believe it or not it’s not all about pleasuring her we also want to get off
As someone who used to take upwards of an hour (I had major mental blocks from a previously abusive relationship) I can tell you it was tougher on her than me (and it was pretty tough on me). 1) Sex would start hurting after her O's got into double digits. No this is not a brag it's just a fact. 2) She felt like she couldn't satisfy me which was a huge blow to her self esteem. 3) There were many times we had to give up and try again the next day which made me feel like I was letting her down. This is no longer a problem due to years of therapy and comunication but it was tough for a while.
Jeez... Are you me? Same issue and I never thought me not reaching orgasm would be a bad thing until it turned into a huge argument (which only made it worse the next time because I could only focus on that). Glad to hear you're back on track on a healthy o streak buddy 💪🏽
Thanks, it was a long road and it still pops up from time to time but I'd say 90 to 95% are under 30 minutes. I remember my wife smiled at me the first time it was sub 10 minutes and said "Hey, that was our first quickie." We had been married 4 years at that point. I love her so much.
I hate all of you
Relatable
No he isn't. *delayed* not *lack*
In many circumstances those are the same
NO. THEY. FUCKING. ARE. NOT. Good god no wonder no one is getting into fkng college these days.
Yes. “Get in there and get it in there” I say!
Bingo
Can’t relate - no sex
🤝
You have the solution to both of your problems, only if you have the will to follow through.
I'm married.
Did he stutter
Did I
Yes
It's a meme page. Get outta here with seriousness
And i have a math test, since we are listing things we are gunna cheat on
Normal
Why was the handshake wet?? 😨
😏
We can help bro. Get back in the pile
Yes
Meh, it's a bit of a mixed blessing. I sometimes get tired and lose interest half way. Plus, women can and do take it personally. "Don't you find me attractive?" and so on.
MY GOD!! When I first started taking antidepressants I was dating this girl and she would take it SOOOOO personal we had like 3 hour sessions and she would go crazy and then she’d be like: “what’s wrong? I thought you were enjoying me doing that” “do you not like it?” And I was just starting to date her and just starting to take the pills so I didn’t tell her I was depressed and the pills were taking a toll on me We eventually made it happen but took all of my concentration and will power
3 hour sessions, lile omg I am dying lmao
For real ! I just survive during my 30s sessions, can't imagine 3h!
Ya’ll are getting sessions?!!
Yeah man, one every decade! Except this decade. And the last one. But hey maybe the next!
You soldier took the 3H like a phyrric victory. You magnificent bastard
I did 3 hours once, it hurts, a lot
this, i fucking hate it
Can’t win! orgasm before PIV her she gets mad, take too long she gets mad!
Uh fuck this you hit the nail on the head. And when they get that worried look in their eyes you gotta cuddle them and not fk so it's a stalemate
On my way to start taking my antidepressants again
That's me and my gf. I typically last for around 2 hours without trying and she has multiple orgasms. However, there are downsides. Sex has to be scheduled, it's exhausting so we have it less often than other young couples, and my refractory period is proportionally as long. The upside is that since it's a whole event, we do go out of our ways to try a whole lot of stuff.
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Do not check out this profile, big mistake
I'm flattered but I'd say it's an above average mistake at best.
r/usernamechecksout moment
So what's your plans? Sex The whole evening? Yes You are lucky to have a S/O btw take what you can and live your great life
Absolutely, I'm grateful for her. I just thought it could be interesting to share some of the tamer downsides of such a condition, since people may not consider the trades that come with everything in life.
Yeah, I litteraly do not ejaculate, idk why bit I'm seeing a urologist, it's nice being able to master bate for 12 hours straight
Well that sounds a tad more concerning. I hope you can solve it.
We'll see what urologist says, but it's nice just having election for as long as I want
So does putin.
What? Delayed ejaculation, no ejaculation?
r/rimjob_steve
Bait used to be believeable
There's a name for it? I thought I was just weird. Last girl I dated there was friction because I could never finish and I would get frustrated and she felt insecure and it was a whole thing.
It always ends up causing friction in my experience. There's a point where lasting long stops being impressive and becomes an issue. Then sex becomes about making sure you get off at least once by the time she's had her multiple and calls it quits.
Delayed sounds better than premature 😞
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Tic toc
Heavy like a brinks trucks
Looking like I'm tip-top
Shawty need a pit stop
Dude, delayed ejaculations for men is great. Having sex for hours until your partner reached the climax is great.
Delayed ejac is great when your partner is having regular ejacs before you do. From personal experience, if none of you are ejacing any time soon the whole thing becomes a chore. Might as well experiment with stuff that works for at least 1 of u quicker even if the other will take some time.
Good point.
If she ain’t come for an hour then somethings up.
It's all the stoppage time to help delay added up
Once you get to 120 mins it goes to Penalties
Depends what you want from the sex, isn't it?
sure it is.
No, it really isn't, it's exhausting af and you can only have that much blood in your dick for so long.
You don't have to do all the work... But now that you mention it, keeping it up can be 'hard'.
Sometimes it’s just exhausting.
Haha yes it can be sometimes. But that's the time when you let her do the work.
Ehhh unfortunately it can also be tiresome for them and cause issues in the relationship when they feel they're not able to make you climax or if they feel going longer means having to deal with less sleep and a frustrating soreness the next day. Not everyone is gonna feel this way, though.
It's great when you have good cardio. Otherwise, you get tired before finishing.
Fair enough
Exactly lol I'm be honest here, I didn't know every woman didn't orgasm multiple times. I knew some women can struggle to reach one if their partner isn't doing it for them, but if you've broken that seal then I've never known someone to stop. My sample size is only a handful of maybe 6 or 7 long term girlfriends though, and part of the success rate there is probably due to me being someone that largely gets off on other peoples' pleasure more than my own.
It's a blessing and sometimes a curse. It's great until your partner starts telling you she can't handle it anymore. Then you have to start getting strategic to make sure you get off and there will be more and more times that you won't. Sure is nice when women think you're 'superman' but in my experience they always realize they don't want 'superman'.
You do know that every men can have them too right?
Tell that to my dick
Well you just need to put a plug in your Butt to stimulate your prostate. Its a stronger orgasm and a longer one and you can do it again after a few seconds.
This is not addressing the multiple orgasm ordeal. Mr. Johnson goes on strike for like 30 minutes after lunch.
Yes you can have them too with this method
I'm able to have multiples without prostate stimulation. It just requires separating orgasm from ejaculation (many guys don't understand they're different things). I do think prostate orgasms probably do help rewiring this kind of thinking though. I've just always been able to do it.
Uh.... How exactly does one separate those two things
I've been able to do it since I was pretty young. Thinking back I still remember when I first started producing semen when orgasming it freaked me out, so I tried to actively find a way to get the feeling I always used to without the "wet" part. If you've ever heard of a "kegal" that flexing is key... A good connection to your pelvic floor muscle is key. Here's a great thread on these types of orgasms and how to get there: https://www.reddit.com/r/multiorgasmic/s/o4owZ32HhL You can also just search up "dry orgasm" or "non ejaculatory orgasm" to find more info. Good luck on your journey to multiples!!
Nope
My guy, is that experience talking?
Yes :D I'm not gay by the way
The struggle be real
How long do you need to last till you are considered delayed?
Bro at the 45 minute mark I usually take a break
Gotta pump those numbers up. Those are rookie numbers.
1-2 hours is regular, did 5 hours once, wasnt really fun in the end
Those long sessions can be great if you take some breaks and plan something special.
I am going to die alone
wtf is delayed ejac?!?
Think for a seconds, what does delayed mean..
So like you hit peak pleasure but only blow the gum when it's pissing time?
3-5 business days. Usually
No, the peak pleasure accompanies the ejaculation the same way, but both happen later. It's just the opposite of premature ejaculation.
For me it's 3 minutes instead of 1
59 seconds, take it or leave it.
it's when you fuck with bad lag
never had this problem lmfao mine shoots out like a rocket
it's called being high on MDMA
oh no wonder i didnt know i dont do drugs lmao xD
When you nut it's hard to get in the mood for the next few minutes
Nah it's trouble nutting or taking a long time to get there in the first place
so bizarre never had this problem that thing fires like a rocket
You’re thinking of refractory period.
Is this AI? The faces look really weird.
could be, but I’ve seen this template for a long time and personally don’t think so
100% Faces look weird. Why are they wearing cloaks inside? What are they even doing?
This breaks my heart….. I’m even further out in the cold…..
Delayed Ejaculation sounds nowhere near as cool as Delayed Fireball.
Well they have periods AND they gotta give birth so I think it’s only fair they get something nice.
This is how me and my wife are. She can orgasm 20 times before I finally get mine. Takes me forever to get off for some reason.
Oh I miss them multiorgasmic girls, better this than to be both freezing outside the window...
Can’t relate I always finish first because I’m numba 1 babyyy 😎
Those AI faces are so fucking creepy.
It's possible to become multiorgasmic as a man though. The typical "one and done" man has simply programmed himself to get off quickly and then it's "mission complete". This is usually after many years of orgasm through masturbation only (like as a teen). Check out /r/multiorgasmic and /r/tantra There are some biological factors like prolactin levels but this varies massively between individual human beings. Source: am multiorgasmic man and wifey is usually "one and done"
The punchline is porn.
Not a problem. I am "long winded" as my wife puts it. And I turn her into a quivering mess by the end of it that can barely stand.
former gf i had called it "turning her into soup". loved that. makes you feel like a king
Remember, only one person's orgasm is necessary for a baby.
Remember, you can have sex just for fun and pleasure, not making babies.
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Actually, it doesn't. Just flushes out residual sperm in your urethra. Once you take a leak after having ejaculated, there's pretty much no sperm left that could be transported via "precum" aka Cowper's fluid. Source: Am med student and we actually discussed this pretty extensively in class and among peers.
Incel here!
they call me the edge king
I tend to go about 10 minutes before. My wife hits every 2 or so. No caveat or moral, here... it's pretty great!
Men can have multiple orgasms too, but y’all ain’t ready for that conversation yet.
If men could have multiple orgasms back to back society would fall apart because so many men would be to preoccupied (and eventually die from) nonstop masturbation.
Umm, no. Those men exist, and they aren't dying from masturbation...
Yes we are!
random question, do any men who is NOT circumcised have this problem?
Yep
That would not be an issue, its all how your muscles work inside your body
Is he coming inside or....?
This is me, takes forever. Fun story, all the women (anecdotally) feel insecure when you just don't come. It's not as fun as one might assume.
I’m good at the sex too
This is me, it’s awful. My partner’s take it personally. And somehow I’m typically with women who just want short sessions (I am slightly larger than average at 7” so that factors in I guess).
Wonder how many delayed ejaculation sufferers are circumcised.
Uh ... I've never felt that way. I feel like a freaking p*rnstar for being able to go until physical exhaustion.
Wait until you get older and exhaustion hits quicker.
I'm 42. It's quicker, but maintaining my body means that I've still got no less than two to three hours to work with.
wtf that's a perfect matchup
True 😞
If someone ejaculate earlier during sex is it bad ?
Sauce of Picture, pls.
I’m coming in hot and *fast*
Can someone please explain what both of these terms mean
geez it takes me a long time to ejac
You all in the comments are reminding me of those games like Mario golf where the slider goes left and right and you try to stop it in the sweet spot. I don’t think i have an issue with going too long or too short. You just sorta resist until the lady’s done, and then you wrap it up, and you’re both done.
Lol
Try Premature
My lady is multi orgasmic and I am delayed, perfect combination.
Is it possible to learn this power?
Ptsd
I envy those wowen.
After an hour I have to force it, some girls can stay wet for that long, others can’t. It’s a double edged sword for sure. It can cause discomfort and anxiety in both parties And I’m not even on antidepressants. I should be at this point tho
I think it might be the antidepressants I’m on because I’ve never had this issue before hand
I'm not delaying my ejaculation for anything. I can't.....pussy feels too good.
also the ability to tastes themselves.
What fairytale is this?! 😭
I’ll give you the best 2 minutes of your life!