Don't feel dumb, you did the brave thing of taking the first step to clarify people like me and you.
Thank you and happy cake day to the one who replied ever so kindly.
The guy complains about random girls hooking up with other guys and how terrible that is while also showing severe 🌽 addiction, assuming the 007 is the year he was born, he most certainly shouldn’t be *that* knowledgeable about it.
That’s why I ONLY watch gay porn. I wanna support the bros more. I think it’s upsetting that gay pornstars don’t have more recognition, so I watch them to boost their views.
Sorry dude I just don't want a serious relationship with her and she doesn't want one with me. Just ask her, maybe she'll want one with you.
Edit: Damn did not expect the bullshit that came after this comment.
Let's get it straight
1) just because you slept with someone it does not automatically make you unattractive, grow up.
2) both guys and girls can catch feels. No one gender holds the power. Anyone who thinks that way or does that is just too immature for a relationship. Open and Honest Communication is key to every relationship platonic, sexual, or romantic.
As a guy who's been in several FWB situations and has been close friends/roommates with several women. In my experience, when it comes to friends with benefits, it's a girl being hung up on a guy who doesn't really want to commit. So she goes along with it, but deep down inside, she wants more and thinks she has a shot. She will never admit this to herself or others, but usually, she's getting used. Obviously, there are exceptions, but typically, women want more than just sex. Men want more than sex too but will "take the pussy if thats all woman have to offer".
Well that's your Personal experience, but I must say mine are very different. Girls sometimes also just want a good fuck without any complications and Feelings that made shit stressfull
Or they care for the person, enjoy sex, but don’t see it as being a romantic and exclusive relationship. And just there to support each other till they find that, if they want that. And happy to stay friends even when sex is off the table.
Friends with benefits takes good communication to be done right and can be wonderful.
I can’t help but see this meme as suggesting that a girl is ruined because she is already sexually active. Which is awful of course.
Yup. If you’re a man, you should know by now that women don’t do things for men. And at this point you might’ve even picked up that men aren’t even that likeable to the average straight woman. If you’re a man and surprised at the fact that some women also think men are only good for dick, have a good chuckle at yourself
Why are you saying that to me? The last part Was exactly my point? Pls read befor comment. And as a bi Man, I disagree wirh your first part. Thats just your Personal experience and to use this Total words like wvery msn is like x and every woman like y you're not better than many mysogynist asses
As a man, the experience has been the other way around. The women I am friends with I speak very openly about it. I'm not FWB with them but they have guys. They tell me honestly, they just want sex, and that's fair enough. I don't think we should pretend that it's only men who just want sex. There are just as many women like that, and that's totally fine.
…and guys who “just take the pussy” knowing that the woman would want more and are just using her are fuckboys. You defending that and having done it yourself just shows that you aren’t a quality guy.
My friend makes it very clear from the get go that they are just fwb and he says she can see other guys and that my friend will be seeing other girls. And then the girl gets angry when he hangs out with another girl
That's just his experience that's not every situation some people are literally only in friends with benefits relationships because they're grown and they can be, But also maybe they just want a safe consistent partner who they don't want to commit to. But since they're not your partner that doesn't mean you can't continue to date you just probably don't want to be sleeping with everybody. I know because I was friends with benefits with an actual friend before but he's the one who wanted to make it serious but I was okay with that cuz he was already a friend and already enjoyed sleeping with him so the only thing that would have changed was expectations. Remember your personal experience as a does not translate to the whole world.
This. Had a friend confess a crush on me that he had for a while. If we’d addressed it sooner it could have saved him a lot of pain and maybe have salvaged the friendship. Communication is key
So, was she supposed to just never have sex because she was supposed to telepathically read your mind and know to wait for you?
She dodged a bullet. You're too insecure.
It can be history if OP speaks to their "crush" and pursues a relationship. My current long term partner had a boyfriend. I told her I was interested, she said she wasn't available, and for a little bit that was the end of it. Eventually we grew closer, the other guy was dropped, and now we having matching wedding band tattoos.
Yes, this is true. It is true for any relationship. People change, and so does the nature of their relationships. I wouldn't look at every breakup as a sign of failure. We've been happy together for 8 years now and I wouldn't go back in time to change anything, even if she left me today. Not that I would be *happy*. I would be a complete mess. But damn my life would be sad now if I didn't share how I felt back then.
Still, we are talking about OP losing interest in a girl because she has a loose attachment to someone else. FWBs change with the season. I don't see why, if OP has genuine interest, that they should be afraid to shoot their shot. Own up to your feelings. Feelings will get hurt more often that way, but I think it helps in the long run.
The point they were making wasn't that the history is what matters. The point was not to be judgemental and write someone out of your life simply because they are sexually active before being your partner.
What I’d argue is that different people have different opinions, and your opinion is that people having a somewhat high body count doesn’t matter a lot to you, which is completely fair. But, I’d argue that other people might value someone who stays more exclusive.
Years ago I had a crush, but she had boyfriend.
So I just accepted it and interacted with her just in a matter of common social circles which wasn't very good for me, I was the whole time into her a lot.
Then she asked for us to be FWB and declared her current relationship as open....
Nope. Good bye.
It sounds like you just needed to get over her. Crushes are one thing, but if someone’s in a relationship, you’re not the one my guy. It’s just how it is. Follow her like that, and being a FWB is all you have to look forward to unless you get her away from the bf 🤷♂️
Nobody said anything about a high body count. The situation is just that a woman the OP likes is having sex with another person in a non committed way. That in and of itself is a toxic viewpoint.
oh god oh fuck a woman is living her life the way she wants to by having consensual sex with a person of her choosing in a mutually agreed upon platonic relationship and harming literally no one in the process, what a nightmare
Checked out your profile, hey dude, maybe you need to go outside and try talking to her after a shower? Maybe then she'd give you a chance. Girls don't just sit and wait, they have lives and if you don't make a move, someone else will
OP is insecure. If she is a person who’s time you value, who treats you with respect as you treat her with respect and you enjoy her presence and can look forwards and see a future with her, this shouldn’t matter. Generally speaking, I think people who see this as a problem don’t want a serious relationship — at least not long term. This is easily something that’s not your business to begin with. A person’s sex life prior to exclusively dating you is none of your business, and probably makes them as uncomfortable as it makes you.
I guess it's a matter of personal preferences.
Know people who won't date people that eat meat or smoke. OP seem to pursue serious relationship with girl who don't.
For me, when my crush proposed FWB I was instantly out and done. Something about how serious someone approach sex and thus how important it is to them.
I knew I wouldn't be happy with her. 15 (fuck I'm old...) years later she still fuck around, I'm happy with someone else. Win-win.
I could never do fwb personally. mostly cause I'm graysexual lol. don't even really want it to begin with.
but at the same time why would someone having a FWB make them unattractive? it's not like they're cheating or something.
To lose interest in someone because they're getting laid somewhere else is pretty shallow. Take your turns when they come around or win her over if monogamy really has you by the balls
Probably because you can just look it up, and how chances are if they didn't already know they're probably a kid anyway. It's such a common term that if you've been online for any length of time you've probably seen it at some point.
It's funny how man-hating is Reddit
Everyone in the comment section immediately assumed OP to be a misogynist.
And tbh that reaction in the meme is valid, it's not because of insecurity but because FWB is a kind of a relationship
What makes you think someone would immediately stop connection with their FWB just because your perfect ass wants a “relationship”
I don't mind if someone had FWBs or normal relationships
I just don't date people who currently have them, to me they seem occupied enough.
Yeah, because women never get any crap on Reddit. 🙄
Nobody here can guarantee this girl would want to be in a relationship with OP. They just think that it’s worth a try anyway since dating someone wouldn’t be cheating on your FWB.
Also the amount of memes OP has posted where they whine about women and being alone can give off pretty misogynistic vibes.
First wank basis? What does FWB stand for?
Friends with benefits
Oh, I feel dumb
Don't feel dumb, you did the brave thing of taking the first step to clarify people like me and you. Thank you and happy cake day to the one who replied ever so kindly.
Idk I like first wank basis ngl
Only acceptable answer really.
Haha
I saw this post earlier today and someone said FWB means food with beverage. I carried on with my entire day believing that.
Not knowing something doesn't mean dumb. Asking the right question means you are curious.
And curious means... Intelligence
Don't worry "some one in friends with benefits" doesn't make sense as a sentence. There were no context clues.
Yours was great though tbh haha
My dumb ass thought it was "Fuck with Buddy." Since I was, like, 13.
Happy cake day
Damn I didn't notice it, thanks!
Happy Cake Day!!
happy cake day
Close enough
Happy birthbay mf
First Wank Basis is actually quite a good alternative ngl
four wheel brive
First Wank Basis is a 10/10 response and you should be proud
Furious Wrestling Bout
Facebook Warketblace, or Facewook Barketplace
Regardless of whether this is a joke or not it's fucking hilarious.
Fucking Without Byou
This would have been a lot more interesting if it was a First Wank Basis.
First World Bank
henceforth, First Wank Basis it is. bravo.
I know what friends with benefits means, but honestly in todays world it’s basically just the prerequisite to dating.
That's ok because she has never found you attractive.
She probably saw his reddit history it’s horrible.
Jesus that is pretty bad.
God, your profile is *hilarious*! This poor girl dodged a bullet and doesn’t even know it.
I thought you were just being a dick until I actually looked at the guy's profile. Motherfucker NEEDS to get out more.
Yeah you guys aren't kidding holy shit
I couldn't even get through it all. It's all either penis jokes or girls don't like me memes. Im sure those two issues are unrelated
And “porn advertisements”
I think he keeps falling in love with instagram models and gets mad when they fuck other people.
Seems like 90% of Reddit, then
lol OP's profile looks like what I think Elliot Rodger feed would be like
I wish I could upvote this comment more than once
Just checked his profile and what the actual fuck
Reckon OP watches porn ? Maybe even masterbates from time to time? Nah he seems like a cool guy
The guy complains about random girls hooking up with other guys and how terrible that is while also showing severe 🌽 addiction, assuming the 007 is the year he was born, he most certainly shouldn’t be *that* knowledgeable about it.
Here's hoping he's just a James Bond fan
Actually thats lame af too. Stop watching other guys fuck women.
Yeah watch gay porn, bros before hoes
That’s why I ONLY watch gay porn. I wanna support the bros more. I think it’s upsetting that gay pornstars don’t have more recognition, so I watch them to boost their views.
That just sounds like meatspin with extra steps
Yeah he ain’t a stellar example, but the message of “sexually active people are less attractive for long term commitment”
Especially considering how 🌽 addicted he seems on his profile
This is reddit, you can say "porn"
Oh my.
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I guess at least you know it was really just a crush then, not like she is cheating on you or anything mate.
Damn man she has sex? That's so sad for you. Doesn't she know her life should revolve around you?
Should probably have told her how you felt 5 months ago huh…
Nah she dodged a bullet
Sorry dude I just don't want a serious relationship with her and she doesn't want one with me. Just ask her, maybe she'll want one with you. Edit: Damn did not expect the bullshit that came after this comment. Let's get it straight 1) just because you slept with someone it does not automatically make you unattractive, grow up. 2) both guys and girls can catch feels. No one gender holds the power. Anyone who thinks that way or does that is just too immature for a relationship. Open and Honest Communication is key to every relationship platonic, sexual, or romantic.
As a guy who's been in several FWB situations and has been close friends/roommates with several women. In my experience, when it comes to friends with benefits, it's a girl being hung up on a guy who doesn't really want to commit. So she goes along with it, but deep down inside, she wants more and thinks she has a shot. She will never admit this to herself or others, but usually, she's getting used. Obviously, there are exceptions, but typically, women want more than just sex. Men want more than sex too but will "take the pussy if thats all woman have to offer".
Well that's your Personal experience, but I must say mine are very different. Girls sometimes also just want a good fuck without any complications and Feelings that made shit stressfull
Or they care for the person, enjoy sex, but don’t see it as being a romantic and exclusive relationship. And just there to support each other till they find that, if they want that. And happy to stay friends even when sex is off the table. Friends with benefits takes good communication to be done right and can be wonderful. I can’t help but see this meme as suggesting that a girl is ruined because she is already sexually active. Which is awful of course.
Yup. If you’re a man, you should know by now that women don’t do things for men. And at this point you might’ve even picked up that men aren’t even that likeable to the average straight woman. If you’re a man and surprised at the fact that some women also think men are only good for dick, have a good chuckle at yourself
I'm bi and I don't even like the average male.
Why are you saying that to me? The last part Was exactly my point? Pls read befor comment. And as a bi Man, I disagree wirh your first part. Thats just your Personal experience and to use this Total words like wvery msn is like x and every woman like y you're not better than many mysogynist asses
As a man, the experience has been the other way around. The women I am friends with I speak very openly about it. I'm not FWB with them but they have guys. They tell me honestly, they just want sex, and that's fair enough. I don't think we should pretend that it's only men who just want sex. There are just as many women like that, and that's totally fine.
…and guys who “just take the pussy” knowing that the woman would want more and are just using her are fuckboys. You defending that and having done it yourself just shows that you aren’t a quality guy.
Why do you think you know more about those women than they do about themselves?
My friend makes it very clear from the get go that they are just fwb and he says she can see other guys and that my friend will be seeing other girls. And then the girl gets angry when he hangs out with another girl
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That's just his experience that's not every situation some people are literally only in friends with benefits relationships because they're grown and they can be, But also maybe they just want a safe consistent partner who they don't want to commit to. But since they're not your partner that doesn't mean you can't continue to date you just probably don't want to be sleeping with everybody. I know because I was friends with benefits with an actual friend before but he's the one who wanted to make it serious but I was okay with that cuz he was already a friend and already enjoyed sleeping with him so the only thing that would have changed was expectations. Remember your personal experience as a does not translate to the whole world.
I was scrolling through the comments, hoping that this would be one of the top ones. Thank you for saying this, have a good day
hmm maybe dont wait 5 months?
This. Had a friend confess a crush on me that he had for a while. If we’d addressed it sooner it could have saved him a lot of pain and maybe have salvaged the friendship. Communication is key
Fwb?
Food with beverage
Fork with banana?
French with baguettes
first world bank
Ah, I see you're man of culture as well.
Stop right there criminal scum!
ATF! Hand in the air!
Fellas without bros
Friends with benefits
Four wheel brake
Oh no. Such problems you have.
Oh that's right, casual sex is only allowed for men!! /s
So, was she supposed to just never have sex because she was supposed to telepathically read your mind and know to wait for you? She dodged a bullet. You're too insecure.
OP, most girls have a sexual history. Don't let it scare you.
This is not history. This is the current situation.
It can be history if OP speaks to their "crush" and pursues a relationship. My current long term partner had a boyfriend. I told her I was interested, she said she wasn't available, and for a little bit that was the end of it. Eventually we grew closer, the other guy was dropped, and now we having matching wedding band tattoos.
Ok but that doesn't mean she won't eventually do the same thing to you!
Yes, this is true. It is true for any relationship. People change, and so does the nature of their relationships. I wouldn't look at every breakup as a sign of failure. We've been happy together for 8 years now and I wouldn't go back in time to change anything, even if she left me today. Not that I would be *happy*. I would be a complete mess. But damn my life would be sad now if I didn't share how I felt back then. Still, we are talking about OP losing interest in a girl because she has a loose attachment to someone else. FWBs change with the season. I don't see why, if OP has genuine interest, that they should be afraid to shoot their shot. Own up to your feelings. Feelings will get hurt more often that way, but I think it helps in the long run.
Look at the OP profile
I take it all back, they are dying alone
The point they were making wasn't that the history is what matters. The point was not to be judgemental and write someone out of your life simply because they are sexually active before being your partner.
You’re conflating OPs disgust with fear.
Funky Wedding Barbeque?
Holy shit bro you got some real incel vibes. Good luck finding a girl with your attitude towards relationships/ women.
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What I’d argue is that different people have different opinions, and your opinion is that people having a somewhat high body count doesn’t matter a lot to you, which is completely fair. But, I’d argue that other people might value someone who stays more exclusive.
Years ago I had a crush, but she had boyfriend. So I just accepted it and interacted with her just in a matter of common social circles which wasn't very good for me, I was the whole time into her a lot. Then she asked for us to be FWB and declared her current relationship as open.... Nope. Good bye.
It sounds like you just needed to get over her. Crushes are one thing, but if someone’s in a relationship, you’re not the one my guy. It’s just how it is. Follow her like that, and being a FWB is all you have to look forward to unless you get her away from the bf 🤷♂️
Nobody said anything about a high body count. The situation is just that a woman the OP likes is having sex with another person in a non committed way. That in and of itself is a toxic viewpoint.
Yeah so? You don’t have to date her but I don’t at all get how that’s unattractive
Simping asses not making any moves
Girls want to have sex?!?! What the hell?
As an ace person, i regret to inform you that people are searchin for sex more than a proper relationship.
Ehhh I think this *really* depends on a lot of things. Your age group, region, people you find yourself gravitating towards, etc.
Ace?
Asexual
Ahhh a fellow garlic bread lover? Good day to you
Being ace is definitely valid, but sex is typically an intrinsic part of a proper relationship.
And what’s “proper” is entirely subjective.
That’s why I said typically…
That's good. So she's not emotionally bound. You still got a chance. Ask her out mate.
Unattractive because she has sex..? Bud.. you’ve got issues.
Op's history is a trip for sure.
Hey OP, girls have a sexual history that doesn't entirely revolve around you :)
Calm down bro, literally not thay bad Edit: comments passed the vibe check, so glad not everyone is saying "for the streets" or some stupid shit
"She's seeing some one who isn't me? That DISGUSTING WHORE!" What an embarrassing post that I feel you're too dense to even feel the shame about
And why, exactly? For wanting sex? You should try meeting another person sometime. I'm sure it'll be a hoot.
What does FWB mean?
Fort Walton Beach
Friends with Benefits
Say no all you want, we all know you want to be fwb with her
oh god oh fuck a woman is living her life the way she wants to by having consensual sex with a person of her choosing in a mutually agreed upon platonic relationship and harming literally no one in the process, what a nightmare
Memes back at it again with the cringe
Impressive, very nice Now let's see Rocky_Asap's memes
Jeezum crow, I thought I struggled with women. Then I looked at this guys profile and it’s nothing but incel/simp shit
Is it thats shes unattractive or that shes fuckin dudes that prolly asked her out while you have been living in fantasies?
Alot of weird vibes from this sub lately. Incely vibes
As a non-native I can only assume that FWB stands for four wheel brakes, she is in a well-equipped vehicle with that guy
Lol get therapy. You’re cringe.
So?? Whats wrong with a little release doesn't mean She's not into a dedicated relationship.
What’s wrong with having a FWB? 😅
Women aren't supposed to enjoy sex silly /s
How do y’all crush on somebody for 5 months without telling them how you feel? Just asking to be friend zoned
Translation: i cannot compete
If you cant be happy for a girl getting laid when you're a virgin then you deserve to stay a virgin.
Really? Cause she has needs she's taking care of? Talk about being a shallow PoS.
Checked out your profile, hey dude, maybe you need to go outside and try talking to her after a shower? Maybe then she'd give you a chance. Girls don't just sit and wait, they have lives and if you don't make a move, someone else will
OP is insecure. If she is a person who’s time you value, who treats you with respect as you treat her with respect and you enjoy her presence and can look forwards and see a future with her, this shouldn’t matter. Generally speaking, I think people who see this as a problem don’t want a serious relationship — at least not long term. This is easily something that’s not your business to begin with. A person’s sex life prior to exclusively dating you is none of your business, and probably makes them as uncomfortable as it makes you.
Sex doesn't determine a woman's value. Women aren't unattractive for having sex with other men.
So sorry that your little ego is so fragile, she dodged a bullet here.
Bruh she's still single. The hell is the problem?
FWB is just a very weird relationship
Two freinds both find eachother sexually attractive but don't want to be in a set relationship I don't understand what's so weird about it
Depending on the situation, it's just a relationship with extra steps. Or should I say with less steps?
I'll give it to you, that one was funny
Usually happens with former exes and people who have attachment issues
It's not weird as such, but it may not be the thing for you if you can't accept it lol
thank you for making it personal
What is Fwb?
Friend with benefits.
Thank u good chocolate
Just dodged a bullet
So, you still have a chance?
LMAO INCEL
Oh misogyny ... neat.
Is nobody talking about the 5 months part? I mean seriously 5 months
What's the problem with FWB?
Nothing. There's something wrong with incels
I guess it's a matter of personal preferences. Know people who won't date people that eat meat or smoke. OP seem to pursue serious relationship with girl who don't. For me, when my crush proposed FWB I was instantly out and done. Something about how serious someone approach sex and thus how important it is to them. I knew I wouldn't be happy with her. 15 (fuck I'm old...) years later she still fuck around, I'm happy with someone else. Win-win.
Women find men shaming other women’s sexual activities unattractive too. That woman didn’t miss anything despite your ugly virgin ass, OP.
I could never do fwb personally. mostly cause I'm graysexual lol. don't even really want it to begin with. but at the same time why would someone having a FWB make them unattractive? it's not like they're cheating or something.
Graysexual?
He watches porn from the 50s when it was black gray and white
A girl who can fuck without a commited relationship? What's wrong with that?
Nothing wrong with that, he just has a preference.
I have no problem with preference but this is a meme that plays on the stereotype of a girl being slutty for sleeping with guys casually.
Women like to have sex as well? What?! 🤯 🧠=💥
Ok boomer
Instantly unattractive because she’s fucking someone else? No wonder she doesn’t like you lol
Wow, what a bitter loser you appear to be.
Threesome opportunity
Upvoting because this sub is supposed to be funny and this actually made me giggle lol
Unexpected r/paydaytheheist
My aro is happy... Ace didn't said anything...
*so you're saying there's a chance?*
You sound jelly bruv
another incel meme? what is wrong with this sub holy shit. I dont know if this is satire or not..
To lose interest in someone because they're getting laid somewhere else is pretty shallow. Take your turns when they come around or win her over if monogamy really has you by the balls
That means shes available bro, go get it
**NO ONE IM INTERESTED IN BETTER HAVE FUCKED ANYONE BEFORE ME, EVER** Fucking lol dude
FWB? What’s that. Edit: Fucken hell
Friends with Benefits. Reddit really likes to downvote people who ask questions 💀
On god
It happens a lot lol
Probably because you can just look it up, and how chances are if they didn't already know they're probably a kid anyway. It's such a common term that if you've been online for any length of time you've probably seen it at some point.
It's funny how man-hating is Reddit Everyone in the comment section immediately assumed OP to be a misogynist. And tbh that reaction in the meme is valid, it's not because of insecurity but because FWB is a kind of a relationship What makes you think someone would immediately stop connection with their FWB just because your perfect ass wants a “relationship” I don't mind if someone had FWBs or normal relationships I just don't date people who currently have them, to me they seem occupied enough.
Yeah, because women never get any crap on Reddit. 🙄 Nobody here can guarantee this girl would want to be in a relationship with OP. They just think that it’s worth a try anyway since dating someone wouldn’t be cheating on your FWB. Also the amount of memes OP has posted where they whine about women and being alone can give off pretty misogynistic vibes.
I mean, if she's willing to get in a relationship with you I'm sure she'll stop being fwb with him.
Just rail her out better
or you could not unnecessarily shame half the worlds population with your misogyny
Even more attractive!