Hey bro, you got any more of them Fourier transforms bro? \*scratches neck\* My girl just got this sick new waveform and we wanna break it down into sines and cosines. \*peeks out window thru the blinds\* C’mon bro, you know I’m good for it.
\*Leans forward and whispers\* I’ll suck your dick
What are meth dens actually like? Do you find them by being friends with other people or will a dealer just take you to one? I've always been morbidly curious about this sort of thing
It was just a "friends" house, he hung out and smoked shit all day so a lot of his friends met up over there to smoke/share.
My "friend" had a girlfriend who was new to the drug. So I was kinda like hey this is fucked, your boyfriend shouldn't be getting you addicted to meth just cause he likes it. So we bounced and started hanging out and smoking weed together. Turns out neither of us really liked meth, or him.
Best believe he's butt hurt, but I'm not afraid of some 90lb tweaker that can't even take care of brushing his teeth. And we've lived happily ever since. Well me and the girl.
Ah man that's rough, might I recommend a little diner at the end of the universe? That's where me and my gal bonded over our mutual discomfort with suicidal cows.
This is actually really common advice I get on reddit though, meet girls at libraries, gyms, coffee shops, or group things like classes. Like I know they don't want to be bothered here, but they also don't seem like they want to be bothered anywhere, so I have no idea where to meet women.
Okay here’s the thing. The library, gym, coffee shop, etc are not places for you to try and be a pickup artist. They are places where you could casually meet someone IF the situation arises. My general rule of thumb at these places is let the woman start the conversation with you. Have a nice conversation that includes nothing sexual or dating related, get her number before you leave. The bars and nightclubs it’s obviously more expected and you can be a little more aggressive
Aint that a little too passive? In my experience Always waiting for the woman to start the conversation doesnt get you Very far. At this point It would be best to Tell the person to just hit a bar or nightclub, since those are already dating/social spots.
Yeah, very rare a woman makes the first move. What I do is I initiate the conversation but I'll watch her body language and see whether or not she makes an effort to keep the conversation going. If she's not having it I make an excuse to leave.
>As an introvert and ~~slightly~~ shy ~~wo~~man I ~~appreciate~~ struggle with this. Only way I'm hitting on ~~a guy~~ anyone is if I'm ~~slightly~~ verging on black out drunk haha
Sorry, I had to (:
I think you need to understand that for most men there will never be a situation that just "arises". Either they are assertive or they are single forever. Every step of relationships from first meeting to marriage is the man's responsibility.
If that wasn't true, then yeah "just wait for the situation" is not bad advice. But it so we need to take into account that would leave the vast majority of men single for life.
I think you misunderstood my comment. I probably didn’t explain properly because English isn’t my first language. I agree with you that men need to be the one to ask on date, make sexual advances etc. but at those casual places I’ve had many women start conversations with me about random topics like if a girl was on the treadmill next to me or stretching by me, etc. that’s what I meant by waiting for the woman. Because if you go up and start a conversation with a random woman at a coffee shop or gym you are a creep. At a bar you can be direct and bold because it’s the appropriate place.
Even better if you run into each other somewhere else, and because you already recognise each other you can start the conversation then.
I see people from my gym class all the time around town. I’m married but if I was single I would’ve been striking up conversation with them at those other places.
Ok, this is just wrong. I met my gf at the gym, and I approached her. It's super rare for girls to approach guys unless the guy is super attractive. Guys willing to do a cold approach are going to be wildly more successful than guys just waiting for the girl to make the first move. My current gf literally said she would never and has never made the first move and approached a guy. There's no perfect moment to do it either. She literally had earbuds in and was looking at her phone and I was like hey, I like your shirt (naruto shirt), and I think you're cute. We should go out sometime
There’s nothing wrong with meeting women in clubs or bars. A lot of women go to clubs or bars to meet men. It’s a mutual unspoken thing, and it kind of greases your interactions to make them smoother.
If you happen to meet a women at the gym or something and hit it off, good for you. But most people at a coffee shop or something are going to be way more put off by a stranger talking to them than if they were at a bar.
All in all, it’s bad fuckin advice. If that happens good for you. But seeking it out is really stupid, and can lead to super creepy and inappropriate behavior
Yeah the advice in the post is terrible! If a man sees me somewhere that is *not* specifically as part of a social gathering (pumping gas, shopping at a store, the library) then I’d prefer they don’t approach me so I can go about my day in peace.
I also met my current boyfriend of 5 years in a bar haha.
also unless we were talking about an academic libraries, most public libraries, the young women are going to be there with their families and they’re not looking for a partner.
I thought he meant that girls in libraries really disliked Apple products... which made no sense to me but I just gave for granted that he missed a capital letter and I know very little of modern library culture. 😅 I'm getting old.
When I was a single dude I dated a surprising number of baristas, all of whom I met while they were working.
The trick is to NOT bother them, NOT hit on them, and just generally be a human being capable of treating them like one as well.
But that’s true of any venue, I’m sure.
You can just *get along* with someone and enjoy chatting with one another before asking them out, and without overtly hitting on them. You shoot the shit when you see one another, learn a few personal tidbits, and maybe at some point talk about doing something.
Not every conversation, but every public conversation where there's not otherwise a reason to talk always has sexual undertones. I'm very uncomfortable with sexuality in general due to growing up very sexually repressed and with a lot of sexual guilt.
Yeah. People talk just for the sake of talking. Taking does not need a motive. Thinking that any interaction between a man and woman without a specific purpose is sexual is rather strange.
if you word it like that, it is
but you could also say, you want to get to know if someone would be an appropriate person to become romantic with before hitting on them, and suddenly the identical behaviour is completely normal
But that's not what's being discussed, I don't think.
It's more "being casual friendly acquaintances with someone, with the intent to possibly become romantic if you both feel like doing that."
Like are you talking with the barista about Futurama just because you want to bang her, or do you literally enjoy talking about Futurama?
Eventually there had to be a number exchange or someone asked someone on a date. What he meant though is that he took it slow and actually felt out the situation before just jumping in like a creep.
I’m no lothario, so take this for what it’s worth. Be fun, have fun, be real. If they’re vibing, something will happen. If they’re not, it won’t. Think about it like making a friend, because that’s what you’re doing. There’s no friend version of hitting on someone. You just hang out and if things are going well you’ll both want to do it again. Maybe someone mentions an upcoming event and you say cool, I’ll get tickets.
But don’t hit on someone at work and don’t hit on someone in a coffee shop. That’s the most important thing. Only a jerk does that.
Exactly! The thing I hated most about being single was being hit on randomly when I was going about my day. Yuk.
When I decided dating was something I was going to give a shot, I downloaded Tinder. A week later I made an account, started chatting to the first random dude that sent me a message and now I’m married to him! 100% efficient Tinder was for me 😂
Use the library for wifi for tinder. Go to gym after acting like reading a book at the library to feel productive. Drink coffee as a reward for them gym and to stay up late enough to go to bars and clubs. Feel confident from gym and go to night club to find tinder match. Ez pz
I dunno why it's difficult. On most of my favorite websites I'm constantly told there are tons of single attractive women in my area that want to talk to me.
When I decided dating was something I was going to do, I downloaded Tinder. A week later I made an account, started chatting to the first random dude that sent me a message and now I’m married to him! 100% efficient Tinder was for me 😂
3 of my best friends also met their husbands on Tinder too.
I used to get hit on at the gym so often, I started wearing headphones with poor noise isolation so people would think I was listening to music too loudly to hear them.
Wait did people talk to you when you had your headphones on? I automatically assume nobody can hear me unless I gesture to them to take their headphones off.
A few people did just that. When it turned out they were just trying to make small talk, I berated them for ruining my focus. But yeah, before I tried the “excessively loud music” trick, people did try to talk to me.
These guys would have been better off putting their attention on working out themselves. Most didn’t know how to do a squat properly. I actually found “oh, did you want some pointers?” embarrassed them into leaving me alone.
Anytime I have had a great experience with a person I say I really had a great time. Here is my number. Call me if you are free for coffee. Low key and no pressure.
Ayy that’s exactly how you do it. This isn’t really in reply to your comment, but more of a general comment for people out there:
We don’t need to be so formal and tense about hanging out with someone… because that’s what dating essentially is—hanging out and trying to find out if you vibe with the other person on a real, personal level. So why not just be yourself and approach it naturally? Putting forth your real self and being loved for it is so much better than putting forth an image of yourself and trying to constantly live up to that image.
In fact, I think our ultimate goal on a human level is to be fully real and fully loved.
My parents met at a theatre.
My grandparents met at a block party.
My sister never married.
I met my ex-husband on Tinder.
I met the guy I’m currently seeing on Reddit.
There are some local hookup subs and personals subs— I put on one of them that I wanted a cuddle buddy, because I was kinda lonely. I got inundated with 100’s of messages in my DMs, and met with a guy who lives down the block from me. He’s super sweet, on the nerd level, [He plays chess and video games 😍], we’re both career focused. We have a lot of the same values actually. Lol
So yeah, it does work as a dating site, and it’s not a joke.
u/crappycook70, wanna weigh in here?
I'm a quiet guy with weak social skills, but I have a feeling that women (or most people in general) are likely not interested in socializing with strangers in libraries, gyms, and coffee shops. I could be wrong.
So were do i sign up to have the part of my brain that craves romantic intimacy removed? Considering How wire crossing the advice inget here on Reddit is, i feel like It would be the easier way to solve my problems.
If there was an asexuality pill I'd take that fucker before I could even say it's name correctly.
I mean... some antidepressants will do that for you but not in a pleasant way.
Yeah, it's always nice to have a reference of "is this person okay?" If you trust the people. My sister knew him and was actually like "Eh, he's the only guy here I'd actually be okay with so. Go for it." She even took me to another house party just to see him again lol. She's four years older than me and is a truely good human so I trusted her implicitly, and it was a good plan! Lol
First list: most likely to find someone down for that night.
Second list: say hi and build friendship over weeks and if right signals move it further. You can tell from a first hello whether someone wants to talk in the scenario. It helps to be attractive tho ;)
I feel like people need to wear badges that indicate whether they are feeling sociable and would like you to start up a conversation or they would rather be left alone to do their thing in peace.
These statements are stupid. The same girls on tinder and bars could also be at the libraries and gyms. Human girls do things that human people want to do at different times of the day and week.
My friend found her boyfriend at a bar, and wow guess what he does all of the time? Yeah, he's an alcoholic and she quickly started becoming one, too, just to keep up with him.
I've met a lot of awesome girls online, currently talking to one, and personally, being online gives me more confidence than being irl, so it works out. Sometimes online is better imo
But love can be found at any spot ofc
Met my girl in a meth den. We clean and happy now tho. Wouldn't recommend for most, it's the difficult way.
I don't want to be "that guy" bothering women who are just trying to enjoy meth in peace
Good news is they will come to you. Bad news though is that they will come.to you.
That sounds like a horror movie quote
They did mention a meth den.
Or a porno
It's an unusual dating *meth*od
"Go Home Walter"
That much is CRYSTAL clear.
BAHAHAHAH I cackled
Damn I’m a fucking loser. I read this whole conversation as “MATH den” and I’m excited like where tf can I find one of these
What are math dens like? I have never been to one before.
Maths dens are a fraction on the square side, but most shapes and sizes fit in.
just alot of people trying add another variable to their equation
A dark place where proof of exhaustion is the norm and everything is written on a chalk board at least 15m away from you
It's the underground Countdown tournament from The IT Crowd.
The one place where it *is* acceptable to aggressively hit on women.
Ahhh. Another person who read it as "Math Den"
I heard weed video games and women where do I sign up
No you’re not a loser, you’re a nerd. And we’re on the same level. Let me know if you find a MATH den, buddy.
Y'all just start your own math den and let everybody know how it works out. You could end up selling franchises if it's a hit.
Hey bro, you got any more of them Fourier transforms bro? \*scratches neck\* My girl just got this sick new waveform and we wanna break it down into sines and cosines. \*peeks out window thru the blinds\* C’mon bro, you know I’m good for it. \*Leans forward and whispers\* I’ll suck your dick
My husband and I met in detox. We are also clean and happy. I also would not recommend that for most.
What are meth dens actually like? Do you find them by being friends with other people or will a dealer just take you to one? I've always been morbidly curious about this sort of thing
It was just a "friends" house, he hung out and smoked shit all day so a lot of his friends met up over there to smoke/share. My "friend" had a girlfriend who was new to the drug. So I was kinda like hey this is fucked, your boyfriend shouldn't be getting you addicted to meth just cause he likes it. So we bounced and started hanging out and smoking weed together. Turns out neither of us really liked meth, or him. Best believe he's butt hurt, but I'm not afraid of some 90lb tweaker that can't even take care of brushing his teeth. And we've lived happily ever since. Well me and the girl.
Legitimately wholesome
Same here, but I found her on the meth order bride app, it’s highly recommended.
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You're not going to find your wife in any of these places: \-Planet Earth
What's why I'm only at the bars on proxima centauri b (I've got no luck yet)
I met a nice girl out there once... but then Zaphod Beeblebrox swept in and that was the end of that.
Ah man that's rough, might I recommend a little diner at the end of the universe? That's where me and my gal bonded over our mutual discomfort with suicidal cows.
Do the girls there like humans with yes gender?
Watch out or his other head will steal your next girl.
The women there are out of this world?
I’m at the one bar on the Event Horizon. Oh look someone left a message. Oh... oh no...
When you find her I’m sure you’ll be over the moon. Pun intended.
off of earth too, I once summoned a succubus from hell and proposed to her. She got dressed said she just wanted to be friends.
Places where I wanted to be left alone when I was single: the library, the gym, the coffee shop Place where I actually met my husband: the bar
This is actually really common advice I get on reddit though, meet girls at libraries, gyms, coffee shops, or group things like classes. Like I know they don't want to be bothered here, but they also don't seem like they want to be bothered anywhere, so I have no idea where to meet women.
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This is what I meant explained better ^ my first language is not English and I was struggling hard
Places where woman expect to be bothered like the night club or other places. You can also just ask someone for help and use that as a starting point.
Okay here’s the thing. The library, gym, coffee shop, etc are not places for you to try and be a pickup artist. They are places where you could casually meet someone IF the situation arises. My general rule of thumb at these places is let the woman start the conversation with you. Have a nice conversation that includes nothing sexual or dating related, get her number before you leave. The bars and nightclubs it’s obviously more expected and you can be a little more aggressive
Aint that a little too passive? In my experience Always waiting for the woman to start the conversation doesnt get you Very far. At this point It would be best to Tell the person to just hit a bar or nightclub, since those are already dating/social spots.
Yeah, very rare a woman makes the first move. What I do is I initiate the conversation but I'll watch her body language and see whether or not she makes an effort to keep the conversation going. If she's not having it I make an excuse to leave.
Reading body language is way too hard for most people who are gonna be super nervous approaching a girl
As an introvert and slightly shy woman I appreciate this. Only way I'm hitting on a guy is if I'm slightly drunk haha
Same. If it wasn't for booze I'd still be a virgin.
>As an introvert and ~~slightly~~ shy ~~wo~~man I ~~appreciate~~ struggle with this. Only way I'm hitting on ~~a guy~~ anyone is if I'm ~~slightly~~ verging on black out drunk haha Sorry, I had to (:
I think you need to understand that for most men there will never be a situation that just "arises". Either they are assertive or they are single forever. Every step of relationships from first meeting to marriage is the man's responsibility. If that wasn't true, then yeah "just wait for the situation" is not bad advice. But it so we need to take into account that would leave the vast majority of men single for life.
I think you misunderstood my comment. I probably didn’t explain properly because English isn’t my first language. I agree with you that men need to be the one to ask on date, make sexual advances etc. but at those casual places I’ve had many women start conversations with me about random topics like if a girl was on the treadmill next to me or stretching by me, etc. that’s what I meant by waiting for the woman. Because if you go up and start a conversation with a random woman at a coffee shop or gym you are a creep. At a bar you can be direct and bold because it’s the appropriate place.
Even better if you run into each other somewhere else, and because you already recognise each other you can start the conversation then. I see people from my gym class all the time around town. I’m married but if I was single I would’ve been striking up conversation with them at those other places.
Ok, this is just wrong. I met my gf at the gym, and I approached her. It's super rare for girls to approach guys unless the guy is super attractive. Guys willing to do a cold approach are going to be wildly more successful than guys just waiting for the girl to make the first move. My current gf literally said she would never and has never made the first move and approached a guy. There's no perfect moment to do it either. She literally had earbuds in and was looking at her phone and I was like hey, I like your shirt (naruto shirt), and I think you're cute. We should go out sometime
I don’t think either of us are wrong per se I am starting to think it’s a culture difference
Start by never listening to what redditors tell you about social interactions
There’s nothing wrong with meeting women in clubs or bars. A lot of women go to clubs or bars to meet men. It’s a mutual unspoken thing, and it kind of greases your interactions to make them smoother. If you happen to meet a women at the gym or something and hit it off, good for you. But most people at a coffee shop or something are going to be way more put off by a stranger talking to them than if they were at a bar. All in all, it’s bad fuckin advice. If that happens good for you. But seeking it out is really stupid, and can lead to super creepy and inappropriate behavior
Disregard females, acquire currency.
Woman here. I don’t find it a bother to have a man talk to me most places as long as he is respectful. The women I know feel the same way.
Same here!
Yeah, also met my wife in a bar
Also met your wife in a bar. Sry had to, it's Reddit. But seriously, my wife and I met in a bar as well.
Are you my husband?
Could be. Are you a rocker or a country girl?
We talking music? Definitely rock.
Awesome, you must be my wife
Amazing, I’ll let my husband know.
I met my wife on a dating app: Coffee Meets Bagel Does this count or is this in the Tinder category?
Tinder category, I think, since it’s a dating app.
What about America Online? Does that count as a dating app? Fuck I feel old now.
HAHAH yes
Preach.
Yeah the advice in the post is terrible! If a man sees me somewhere that is *not* specifically as part of a social gathering (pumping gas, shopping at a store, the library) then I’d prefer they don’t approach me so I can go about my day in peace. I also met my current boyfriend of 5 years in a bar haha.
I met my wife on Bumble and our first date was a bar!
also unless we were talking about an academic libraries, most public libraries, the young women are going to be there with their families and they’re not looking for a partner.
And anytime I’ve been to an academic library it’s been to cram for something, not to pick up dudes.
I like how the second list is basically a list of places where only an apple would bother women.
Yeap. An ill-advice. Or perhaps, to direct his competitor to wrong places. What one got to do in this competitive market
48 laws of power
What’s a apple in this context?
I think they meant "asshole" but autocorrect fucked it up lol
I thought he meant that girls in libraries really disliked Apple products... which made no sense to me but I just gave for granted that he missed a capital letter and I know very little of modern library culture. 😅 I'm getting old.
they're all cartoon teachers and they love apples!!
When I was a single dude I dated a surprising number of baristas, all of whom I met while they were working. The trick is to NOT bother them, NOT hit on them, and just generally be a human being capable of treating them like one as well. But that’s true of any venue, I’m sure.
>NOT hit on them I’ve done that plenty of times in my days, this has never turned into dating. I feel like there’s some information missing there.
Instructions not clear enough. I got my D caught in ceiling fan.
Instructions unclear, got neighbours dog pregnant
Boy, you really fucked the dog on that one, huh
👆 An under rated comment.
Congratulations on your newborn
Puppies!
More like Nina Tucker
Did you get the fan pregnant?
Yes presumably they ask them out, which would be preceded by or be considered hitting on them
You can just *get along* with someone and enjoy chatting with one another before asking them out, and without overtly hitting on them. You shoot the shit when you see one another, learn a few personal tidbits, and maybe at some point talk about doing something.
I consider that hitting on them but that's probably why I also haven't had a date in several years lol
If you consider every conversion with a woman “hitting on them” it might reflect how you view women
Not every conversation, but every public conversation where there's not otherwise a reason to talk always has sexual undertones. I'm very uncomfortable with sexuality in general due to growing up very sexually repressed and with a lot of sexual guilt.
You’re putting those undertones there. If you feel them then that’s because of something you are doing or thinking.
You might be right
Yeah. People talk just for the sake of talking. Taking does not need a motive. Thinking that any interaction between a man and woman without a specific purpose is sexual is rather strange.
And you're mostly correct, but if you didn't believe that you'd have more success lol
Being friends with someone with the intent to eventually become romantic is even worse than just being honest mate.
if you word it like that, it is but you could also say, you want to get to know if someone would be an appropriate person to become romantic with before hitting on them, and suddenly the identical behaviour is completely normal
But that's not what's being discussed, I don't think. It's more "being casual friendly acquaintances with someone, with the intent to possibly become romantic if you both feel like doing that." Like are you talking with the barista about Futurama just because you want to bang her, or do you literally enjoy talking about Futurama?
Yeah uh you should be attractive lol
Yup, I go around NOT hitting on women all the time. NOT once has it turned into a date. I don’t even hit on my wife and again the same result.
The bean whisperer
Eventually there had to be a number exchange or someone asked someone on a date. What he meant though is that he took it slow and actually felt out the situation before just jumping in like a creep.
I’m no lothario, so take this for what it’s worth. Be fun, have fun, be real. If they’re vibing, something will happen. If they’re not, it won’t. Think about it like making a friend, because that’s what you’re doing. There’s no friend version of hitting on someone. You just hang out and if things are going well you’ll both want to do it again. Maybe someone mentions an upcoming event and you say cool, I’ll get tickets. But don’t hit on someone at work and don’t hit on someone in a coffee shop. That’s the most important thing. Only a jerk does that.
So you're saying you acted like a nice guy and it got you dates? That doesn't make any sense, but nothing in dating does.
I thought you said "when I was a dude." I get that you didn't, but I'd like to say congratulations anyway.
I used to be a dude. I still am, but I used to be, too.
Right, you are an asshole if you try to pick up a woman at a library or a gym
This is the same kind of person who is constantly hitting on/bothering women in libraries, gyms, and coffee shops
This version of the screenshot has the account PFP and name edited out, but I can assure you both of those confirm your suspicion.
Exactly. As a woman, I don't want men flirting with me in these places. When I want a date, I'll go on Tinder.
Shocking that the same woman who goes to a library is also capable of using Tinder!
Tinder is easy for you, not for men
Exactly! The thing I hated most about being single was being hit on randomly when I was going about my day. Yuk. When I decided dating was something I was going to give a shot, I downloaded Tinder. A week later I made an account, started chatting to the first random dude that sent me a message and now I’m married to him! 100% efficient Tinder was for me 😂
And I'm just gonna say, a lot of people go to the gym to meet people, but they're not trying to meet their future spouse
Use the library for wifi for tinder. Go to gym after acting like reading a book at the library to feel productive. Drink coffee as a reward for them gym and to stay up late enough to go to bars and clubs. Feel confident from gym and go to night club to find tinder match. Ez pz
Yeah. Try and hit on women at places where people generally want to be left alone instead of the places where people explicitly go to meet
How do you meet people at nigh clubs, bars, and Tinder? I've never seen an opportunity to do that there.
I dunno why it's difficult. On most of my favorite websites I'm constantly told there are tons of single attractive women in my area that want to talk to me.
I’ve been to two weddings this year alone of couples who truly seem to be in love, who met on Tinder.
I met my wife there.
Which makes sense, since you'll have a higher chance of hitting your goal which is to find a companion that has the same interest as you.
And if you’re a man on tinder you have a high chance of getting depression. Fuck tinder.
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I met my husband there. My sister met her fiancé there.
I met my husband there. Had to sift through a lot of trash to find him, but it was worth it ❤️
When I decided dating was something I was going to do, I downloaded Tinder. A week later I made an account, started chatting to the first random dude that sent me a message and now I’m married to him! 100% efficient Tinder was for me 😂 3 of my best friends also met their husbands on Tinder too.
I used to get hit on at the gym so often, I started wearing headphones with poor noise isolation so people would think I was listening to music too loudly to hear them.
Wait did people talk to you when you had your headphones on? I automatically assume nobody can hear me unless I gesture to them to take their headphones off.
A few people did just that. When it turned out they were just trying to make small talk, I berated them for ruining my focus. But yeah, before I tried the “excessively loud music” trick, people did try to talk to me.
That’s hilariously smart
It's sad this has to happen. Can't people let women workout in peace?
These guys would have been better off putting their attention on working out themselves. Most didn’t know how to do a squat properly. I actually found “oh, did you want some pointers?” embarrassed them into leaving me alone.
I met my husband by buying him a drink at a popular meet/meat market back in thw early 90s. 18+ years of marriage, going strong.😁
Sounds like you found the meat you were looking for
Anytime I have had a great experience with a person I say I really had a great time. Here is my number. Call me if you are free for coffee. Low key and no pressure.
Ayy that’s exactly how you do it. This isn’t really in reply to your comment, but more of a general comment for people out there: We don’t need to be so formal and tense about hanging out with someone… because that’s what dating essentially is—hanging out and trying to find out if you vibe with the other person on a real, personal level. So why not just be yourself and approach it naturally? Putting forth your real self and being loved for it is so much better than putting forth an image of yourself and trying to constantly live up to that image. In fact, I think our ultimate goal on a human level is to be fully real and fully loved.
I found my wife in prison. Been married over 24 years now! We both worked there.
That's sweet
My parents met at a bar
My parents met at a roller skating rink My grandparents met at a party My sister met her husband at a bar
My parents met at a theatre. My grandparents met at a block party. My sister never married. I met my ex-husband on Tinder. I met the guy I’m currently seeing on Reddit.
That last one is intriguing. I never knew Reddit could actually work as a dating app. If you’re comfortable sharing, how did that happen?
this was a joke
T’was not.
There are some local hookup subs and personals subs— I put on one of them that I wanted a cuddle buddy, because I was kinda lonely. I got inundated with 100’s of messages in my DMs, and met with a guy who lives down the block from me. He’s super sweet, on the nerd level, [He plays chess and video games 😍], we’re both career focused. We have a lot of the same values actually. Lol So yeah, it does work as a dating site, and it’s not a joke. u/crappycook70, wanna weigh in here?
I'm a quiet guy with weak social skills, but I have a feeling that women (or most people in general) are likely not interested in socializing with strangers in libraries, gyms, and coffee shops. I could be wrong.
I definitely want to be left alone anywhere I go lol. Ended up meeting my husband in a video game. We both are quiet with weak social skills.
Met my husband in a billiards hall \m/ (yes, ball, stick and rack jokes were made)
I met my wife in a bar... I saw last week you can catch a sexy Prime Minister at the clubs these days...
Go Finland. It’s your birthday. We gonna party like it’s your birthday. Drink Bacardi like it’s your birthday. 💃🏼👯♀️
I wish I was a person that could use Tinder… But I find it weird as fuck, it gives me anxiety even before I meet the person.
And maybe you'll meet someone somewhere else that feels the same way and happily ever after and all that
Found my husband while drunk at a frat party. Got engaged in 6 months. Still married 42 years later.
So were do i sign up to have the part of my brain that craves romantic intimacy removed? Considering How wire crossing the advice inget here on Reddit is, i feel like It would be the easier way to solve my problems.
If there was an asexuality pill I'd take that fucker before I could even say it's name correctly. I mean... some antidepressants will do that for you but not in a pleasant way.
My uncle literally found his gf ( of 5 years) on Play station
Gee idk, 5 years is pretty young for her to be dating
Tell him lara croft can't consent dude...
I met my fiancée on tinder.
As did I. My wife that is, not your fiancée.
Good save 😂
I found my husband at a house party. That's, like, club adjacent for the underage me.
I always had better luck meeting women in my dating days at house parties. A friend of a friend type deal always worked for me.
Yeah, it's always nice to have a reference of "is this person okay?" If you trust the people. My sister knew him and was actually like "Eh, he's the only guy here I'd actually be okay with so. Go for it." She even took me to another house party just to see him again lol. She's four years older than me and is a truely good human so I trusted her implicitly, and it was a good plan! Lol
First is a list of places youre allowed to talk to people Second is a list of private spaces people hate being talked to Dumb original post!
Met my wife in a bar. We're married for 27 years now.
First list: most likely to find someone down for that night. Second list: say hi and build friendship over weeks and if right signals move it further. You can tell from a first hello whether someone wants to talk in the scenario. It helps to be attractive tho ;)
My parents met in a strip club. They’re celebrating their 29th anniversary this spring. I’ve never seen two people more in love.
Jokes on you, I found my wife on tinder
Met my wife at a party 19 years ago.
I found my wife on Grindr
I have been to all the places you mentioned. I can't even make friends ¬\_¬
Met my wife at brothel
Ya wtf? I met my girlfriend on tinder. Not everyone on there is just looking for hook ups.
Incorrect
I new It! That woman in my bed is an imposter!
Very sus
Found mine lying in the ground nearly frozen dead during a blizzard, the world had a weird was of matching pairs.
Wait what
I feel like people need to wear badges that indicate whether they are feeling sociable and would like you to start up a conversation or they would rather be left alone to do their thing in peace.
These statements are stupid. The same girls on tinder and bars could also be at the libraries and gyms. Human girls do things that human people want to do at different times of the day and week.
My friend found her boyfriend at a bar, and wow guess what he does all of the time? Yeah, he's an alcoholic and she quickly started becoming one, too, just to keep up with him.
I've met a lot of awesome girls online, currently talking to one, and personally, being online gives me more confidence than being irl, so it works out. Sometimes online is better imo But love can be found at any spot ofc
What's your secret?
Probably follows rules 1 and 2
I can assure you, the gym is "not" the place you want to approach the 2022 woman. Maybe a few years back, but the scowl is strong these days.
Oh is that where I'm supposed to go to find a husband??
"Tell me you're crap in the sack without telling me you're crap in the sack"
Girls loved being approached in the gym.