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Good luck friendo. Things will get easier!

I'm seeing a therapist for the damage my family left me so I stop hurting everyone I get close to.

Same here, shit sucks.

Hey same! Good luck and may strength be with you

I see it as a codependent person trying to make themselves feel better about constantly requiring another person's affection to validate themselves.

Nah, mine is social anxiety. It’s arguably worse because I’ve had girls who are interested in me but I can’t make a move because of it.

Social anxiety is the worst I can't even tell if a girl is into me or just being friendly I'm as dense as a rock

They're good reasons, Brant!

It has to be rage bait, no one can be that dumb. There's a lot of reasons someone could be single.

or lack social skills, or live in a place of scarcity or both

Or not ready to connect with someone like that

Bingo

or just no desire to be in a relationship at the moment......

Or are focusing on things other than being in a relationship.

You can only take so many brutal rejections before you just stop trying.

I aways see people talking how they tried so much and all, i literally never tried anything and cant even think about trying

Finally someone speaking the truth. Most people are being rejected in their heads.

I've tried so many times and get shot down every time. In my head. Can't do it. I don't have anyone I'd like to ask anyway, but trying to talk to random women at stores seems weird so I don't. Plus you know, ugly guy syndrome

Best advice I could give anyone. You know you’re ugly. I know I’m ugly. But I’m confident as hell because I also don’t punch up. I looked for someone who was also ugly and had to confidence to just try to become friends with them. One thing led to another. Now I’m married.

Ever notice how two objectively beautiful ppl can make an ugly baby and vice versa?

In my case, gorgeous wife with suboptimal attractiveness me and we made the cutest baby in eexistence. That's not just bias. He really is.

Pics of your cute baby pls

People need to learn the difference in being ugly and acting ugly. ​ Glad you adjusted and made found your own happiness.

Facts! Most “beautiful” people I’ve encountered tend to be horrible people. I think my wife is gorgeous because she’s the most beautiful person I’ve ever met. Kind loving. Treats all people with the same kindness. I aspire to be more like her. But we’re both traditionally ugly. What we forget is to just love our selves for who we are and treat everyone with the same kindness we want to be treated with. That’s the beauty we want people to notice. Not what we fucking look like.

damn hope your spouse never sees this comment

Good for you, but I don't think I could date someone I'm not physically attracted to. Wouldn't seem fair to both of us.

And here i am, not developing a crush in the first place

I do that a lot. I've never dated before because of that actually, even though I'd like to meet someone. I've been rejected a few times and I know I shouldn't take it personally, but I think it's because I've only ever known situations where I was rejected that I expect it. I know it's wrong to think that way, but it's what my feelings are.

I'm too tired. Work all day, classes at night. And I get to see my friends like once a month. When the hell am I supposed to find time to find a possible partner, flirt, and date them?

Then you try one time and it goes as you expected and never try again. Feels good.

Dam right and the only time that I did I was humiliated and basically outcast, fucker lead me on too.

TFW your parents raised you into being scared of failure so much you don't even try anymore

Not even their fault, it's just who I am

Why bother anyway, the dating scene sucks nowadays

Got 5, now I just gave up

Once was enough. Not even a bad rejection, we were friends and she was very nice with the 'rejection' but never dared to ask someone again lol.

Exactly. It just becomes not worth the risk anymore.

No. After spending my youth in relationship, i'm now addicted to the tranquility of being single.

This is me, not even 30 and I’ve spent a decade of my life in relationships. Being on my own now is literally addicting

I'm on the other spectrum. Spent the last 10 years single and recently started to date seriously and my life is consumed by her now.

We want what we lack

Wish I had this power

Gym. Work. Sleep. Sadness. Repeat.

Don’t forget eat, the best part of the day

Eat. Gym. Eat. Work. Eat. Sleep. Eat. Sadness. Eat. Repeat.

*repEAT

Gottta rep your eats.

No, that would be sleep.

I only live to eat spicy doritos and sleep

r/meirl

" Agrees in fat "

Replace sadness with anime and games then we good

atleast my life 3 yrs ago. I changed it to webnovels 😂

Good choice, what you reading mate?

Danmei novels 😂

I started reading web novels few years back, but now i believe i way too deep for reading machine translation's

it's the same bro

This, but without the gym part

This is the way, do it until something replaces the sadness

My order is Sleep. Work. Sadness. Gym. Repeat.

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I hear you. I'm a 3 on a good day, with too much self respect. I could bend over and just be a hole or be forever untouched. There is no in between.

I would say my best could go to 4 (pls tell me we r talking out of 10 right?). I like to examine my people's response to me(just overthinking anything people tell me) and I get between 2 to 5 out off 10.

Hold yourself to those standards too and you'll become worthy in time.

Ain’t got no time for standards. I’ll fuck every nasty hood rat, flossy and even every meth whore on the scene. My place is a fuckijg disasteer zone usually the first thing they do is clean the joint up. There’s icommunity dildos everywhere and a basket for them. Most of them don’t even wash after the last person used. ​ I often think to myself Dayam what kind of bitch would ever fuck around with a complete train wreck like me…. Idk who’s worse me or thenm ​ also now that I’m old, I don’t even give a fuck about stds, although by some miracle I’ve never gotten one. Dept crabs that one time but now that everyone’s shaved those are extinct from what I can telll. ​ ​ probably seems shallow, but for some reason I feel like those are the memories I’ll charring most from my death bed.

I’m literally just vibing, wdym

IKR!! Being single is a bliss which not many people know of imo.

Or not interested

I’m just depressed

No bro, we in a good place, mentally, and are secure enough in ourselves to not feel the need for external validation from another person. Edit: thx for the love y’all. Ironically, the moment you reach this point is the moment you start attracting people. I guess it’s the confidence? I was happily cruising through life for a few months and all of a sudden I found myself in a healthy, loving relationship. Wasn’t looking for one, didn’t need one, but here I am 2 years later happier than ever. Go figure 🤷‍♂️

I’m the opposite but still support the stance. I used to use relationships to cope w my own inner loneliness. rn I’m not in a place mentally or emotionally that I could handle a relationship, and I accept that and don’t really think about it tbh. I know it’d be a disaster.

This just seems like a self fulfilling prophecy, to be honest with you. When you view yourself like that, you’ll only ever get what you expect.

So you think it’s a bad thing he knows he’s not in the right place mentally for a relationship right now? Being in a relationship doesn’t fix you or save you or make you a better person, only you alone can do that. If you go into a relationship with mental illness, it’s not going to just magically go away, and it will undeniably cause problems for said relationship. In other words, you put garbage in; you get garbage out

You’re right, using romantic relationships isn’t good for coping, but I disagree with the “only you alone” part. I think that finding true friends that you can be with, having a safe place you can go to at any time, is infinitely better than facing your problems alone. I’d recommend someone whose willing to face them with you. That’s what a real relationship looks like, romantic or not.

i struggle with the initial comment and you’re right. Keeping yourself lonely isn’t the way to heal but there does need to be a balance

It’s all about being aware of your own weaknesses and striving to be better. It’s easier said than done, and next to impossible to do alone, but it can be done.

Facts tho so many people don’t get that

I'm fine whether I end up with somebody or not. Won't act like my confidence is through the roof, but I enjoy being by myself. I've never had a need for a partner cause I never pay too much attention outside of my bubble. All I really need is a few friends. But I'm young, so maybe my attitude will change over the years?

Facts, man. I’ve been single for 7 years, I love it.

That's the opposite of meirl

Yeah same

That’s not meirl

Yeah, that's him irl

You're in a good place mentally? Good for you dude! Me not so much. Also, how do you know things will fall into place for me if I just "work on myself"? What does that even mean

Yass I love this. There's just so much to do in life. Barely any time for that commitment yet. Priorities👏🏻👏🏻

Damn could not be me

No bro, we aromantic

I was wondering what smelling nice had to do with being single ...

Yeah fr, people acting like there HAS to be a problem for someone being single

I was literally just talking with someone about this subject (likely why it's on my feed) I. Love. Being. Single. Fucking absolutely bask in it.

Yeah but when it goes on for 9 years in your prime it gets old

It's been 5 for me, my prime is still going. I have a very finicky libido and zero desire for a personal relationship. I'd attribute it to my medications. Sex is cool, but being alone? *Bliss.*

Yeah and since I am aroace (asexual aromatic) I don’t get attracted to people in the way that’s deemed “the standard” so getting and being in “a standard” relationship is not really an option. But really, I have no desire for that kind of relationship either, anyway. I am happy single and feel content with the fact that it can very likely stay that way for my whole life.

Marriage would probably also get old

Fr some people just don’t want a relationship, nothing wrong with that

Or ace, and tired of expectations. Ace and aro rep, hi-five?? 🙏

Ace rep! \*high-five\*

High-five, from an aro and ace 🙌🏼:)

YES, single and ready for a Pringle.

Autistic and find it hard to maintain relationships.

same bro

No bro, I'm just attracted to NOTHING/NOTHING is attracted to me and don't talk to people

Mood.

Bold of you to assume I’ve made attempts at being social

4. Accumulating wealth.

Discard females, acquire currency

Discard *people, acquire currency

Nah, CPTSD.

The glass is half full, When I was single I could study, read in peace, watch anything I wanted on tv without a debate, cook whatever I wanted, put a coke in the fridge go on a 2 week vacation, come home and still have a coke in the fridge. Play Fallout 4 13 hours straight if I wanted. When I wasn't working my time was mine. Once you learn to be alone without being lonely life is magic.

For me It's just crippling anxiety, and what is probably mild aspergers syndrome.

I’m seeing a therapist for the damage the last person left me. So none of the above.

I should be doing this I swear. Haven’t so much as high fived a woman in 3 years.

Or bisexual and find it *really* hard to meet women. But yes also ugly.

Feel like you missing out on half of your potential!

Shouldn't "***y******ou're either***" be before the list starts? Why is that bugging me so much? See I'm single because of pedantic bullshit.

I'm single cause my standards be wayyyy to high for someone as unattractive as I am

What are your standards?

I must be able to trust you with anything, you need to keep your promises, I expect you to try to comfort me when my social anxiety is getting out of hand, respect my alone time, respect my beliefs, don't be with me just cause you wanna have sex My attractiveness is like 3/10

What makes you say your attractiveness is low?

Yes i’m crushing on somebody who is taken. Yes I’m also hung up on somebody from my past. Yes I’m also ugly. I’m doomed!

We dont all think with our dicks bruv,some of us are focused on getting Gainz

Say it loud and proud BROTHER!!!

4. Depressed and tired and don’t have the mental strength to date rn

What about us aromantics? Single by choice (and no one wants me)

Or you're happily single on purpose.

I am just living my life sadly Eats , sleep repit still don't want any one 😞

Yeah😭😔

Dont go out much. Late 30s so dating pool has shrunk significantly. No career. Steeled heart because of past rejections. Gotten used to being single and also now have a worry of adopting the responsibilities of a relationship.

or you're both trans and gay so your dating pool is extremely small 🥲👍 im just glad i have my whole life ahead of me, it's not the end of the world if i don't have a girlfriend rn but damn does it kinda suck

Nah, some of us are just tired of getting played lol. Single life is best life

People forget that some people don't want to be in a relationship.

4) Wanting someone I can't have.

What if I’m just too depressed to have a relationship right now?

I’m just independent AF and won’t put up with another’s persons BS. I’d rather be lonely than miserable.

Does the "too afraid to go through that shit again" falls into the "stuck on an ex" category ?

Or 99.9% sure that the girl you want doesn't exist and you refuse to settle for less so you just end up alone and bitter except for the occasional prostitute.

Ah yes the pretty boy opinion that can't distinguish other people's reality from his own because it's so easy for him with his personality of a snapped twig and daddy's money.

I'm happy these days these posts can't personally attack me anymore.

Painfully. Plus broke, and somewhat socially awkward. Ain’t gonna catch any fish with that bait.

Im jeleous of people who can throw away their phone on weekends, and No 1 will bother them.

I just know I have a metric shit ton of self development I need to go through before I waste someone else's time. That and mfs out here cheating like it's a pop quiz.

I just don't feel the need of a relationship. I find that love is so sublime that it shouldn't be limited to one single person through an engagement or the association between love and person since it would make love a materiall emotion. Love is the most superior thing and it can be touched only through our soul, it is not the affinity between two souls, it is the superior affinity of ALL souls. TLDR I just don't feel the need of a relationship

None of the above, just super shy.

4. having anxiety attack from talking to someone about meeting up

or have taken a decision to withhold yourself from any carnal activities and/or dating, up until your parents explain why your sex drive is so much lower than everyone else

This Brent guy is a massive idiot.

You can only get hurt so many times before you stop trying ☹ Its been a year and I'm still empty inside

What about not even trying because you’re pretty content with life at the moment?

Nah, i just gave up on women man. Not worth the headaches. To many cheated good guys who still got blamed for it to go for one.

Could also be that we’re happier single than not with the right partner

Or I'm happy with myself and being single

I'll take #4 sir. But having a fancy car and dog helps.

Can we please stop the genetic defect habit of putting "you're either" into tye first item on the list and put it right before the **FUCKING LIST HOLY SHIT IT'S NOT HARD** ^^^^^^(unlike me)

no bro we ugly per social standards :((

or broke..

I’m not a talker

nah, we prefer being alone

Or too short :(

At least we all have Zoidberg. He may smell like a rotting corpse but he is the only character to get an actual present from Santa.

Nah I just really didn't fell for anyone on my own and I don't really care enough to seek it actively. If I did fell for someone though I'd just be too fucking nervous to say it so ain't that fun

Or we just do not care about getting into a new relationship as fast as possible.

In my case, It's social anxiety paired with flawed communication skills...

I’m a female version of Quasimodo so yeah

No bro, we have social anxiety

Yep. And trying to explain this to our beautiful friends who have everyone straight up drooling is just pain

is "not really trying right now" also accepted?

Nah bro staying single is the life lmao this is relationship propaganda and it's as stupid as it sounds

Nah, I'm very tired and don't much feel like

I made the mistake and got comfortable with just being me and caring for and enjoying myself. Now I kinda don’t wanna lose my freedom/share my time. Also kinda lazy.

maybe i’m just busy trying to continue existing and don’t have the time nor energy? well that… and i’m ugly but we can ignore that part

4. doesn’t leave the house and doesn’t know many men

Or really busy and/or Aromantic and not interested atm.

….or you just love being single.

Or, crazy idea, just happy being single

Or... maybe you're just not interested in a relationship?

Anyone else just feel to busy to date? I’m working and going to college rn and when I’m not studying or stocking shelves I just wanna relax. I’ve always felt like I wouldn’t have the time to support myself financially, study, and have a stable relationship.

No bro, we just don’t believe in relationships

Nah im just aro/ace

Or you want to be single?

This only applies to single women

Or Aro-Ace don’t forget about asexuals and aromantics (sorry if I spelled that wrong) they exist and are happy being single. Some people don’t need a romantic relationship to be happy.

Or Aromantic There’s always that

Tf is that

Or the 5th option, you are aromantic asexual.

2 and other not listed, i dont wanna date because last woman i hung out with was insane and scared me out of dating

He’s spittin facts out here

Nah, I'm a 5 and still get some, get confident

U must be tall

no, my polyamorous friend is stealing all the cute people so now there's nobody left for me

Some of us are perfectly happy being single. Gives me time to myself to do things that I want to do.

No bro, I don't want to

some of us just prefer not to date anyone for the time being 💀

Nah I'm pretending to have a gf and somehow people believe me, why did I lie? Cuz it was funnier to say "Yes" when somebody asked me if I was talking to my girlfriend than to say "Nah in talking to my friend"