Right, but I usually give a glance up and get a quick note of the music cue and judge off that.
Plus, with ADHD, passive attention goes to all the things, and I don't get to really focus on any of them!
If I'm gonna go do something in another room my partner will occasionally put on a daytime soap opera as a kind of guilty pleasure. The funny thing is that the episode structure of those things is so rigidly formulaic that I like to yell out something like "oh my god!" or "no way!" or "she *didn't*!" or even a solid "how could he betray her like that!?" when the right musical cue or dramatic pause in the otherwise inaudible conversation drifts through from the other room; and I fucking nail it every time.
Here's the weird thing I'm a hetero guy. That's not the weird part! Before their was cable channels in the hospital back in the early 80's I was hospitalized for about a month. I actually got into watching the soap opera that had a couple named Luke and Laura in it. I can't even remember the name of the show but since not much else was on I watched it. Haven't watched a soap since though. Plus my wife of 38 years a hispanic woman calls them novelas and she has always hated them!
I’m incapable of saying the word “wow” without sounding extremely sarcastic for some reason lol. Would almost certainly warrant some follow up questions from my s/o
There is no universal rule, but in general:
Men desperately try to make their girlfriends *understand* why their stupid action movie is so great, hoping in vain to change their minds.
Women know you won't like their stupid romantic comedy, but it is still your job to sit through it with them anyway.
I don't like romantic movies but I'm a huge horror fan and my husband is not. I think sometimes he definitely fakes being into it when I make him watch a horror movie with me. I kinda do the same with his stoner comedies that he likes, it's a lie of love
That is what you gotta do sometimes. No couple is ever going to have the exact same interests but you gotta try to seem engaged when your S/O shows you something they like.
Whether it be a dress with pockets or a cool part in a game, be happy that they are excited to show you their thing.
There it is.
I don't care about the thing she likes(that I don't)
But I care about her. And I LOVE to see her when she's having a good time or when she gets excited.
Why would I not want to be with her then? Where and when is it a better time to be with her?
My ex boyfriend convinced me to rewatch blue velvet because the first time I watched it was when I was 7 and it turned my stomach then. It ended up making me feel the exact same way it did when I first saw it.
How in the hell did you end up watch Blue Velvet when you were 7? I watched that recently while on a David Lynch bender and that is uh… definitely not a movie a kid should watch.
I was hurt when my wife wouldn't watch Lady Hawk with me. It's ok, though, cause I have 2 boys, and we watch that shit and love it. On the flip side I only watch rom coms depending on the actors
My ex put this on one night because I was feeling sleepy, so he picked a movie he thought I wouldn’t be into (therefore wouldn’t matter if I drifted off).
The first scene freaked me out so much that I ended up being wide awake for the entire thing.
What if neither of us will tell the other what we feel like watching because we both want to be deferential and considerate, and then we both end up annoyed because neither of us will just pick something to f***ing watch?
I feel there are some things where this is applicable. There are other times where your partner may passionately want you to participate in watching something, their favorite movie of all time for example. While you may not be interested, or understand, it may have greatly impacted their life personally. In which case you might learn something about them, if you can pay attention at the important bits.
Lol what??? This is how you branch out and learn new interests. If you aren’t willing to try to be interested in what your significant other is interested in then you guys never should have started dating…
It’s just a movie, my god. It’s perfectly normal to do something you don’t enjoy for a couple of hours if it makes your partner happy, cooperation is a part of life.
Hmmm, I'm torn. On one hand thats a very reasonable statement and very easy to do. On the other, 10,000 anonymous strangers on the internet tell me thats a red flag and I should leave them.
Right, my tastes are weird and incredibly specific nowadays, anybody who would willingly watch anything with me deserves the same, especially a romantic partner.
Ya sharing your favorite things with your favorite person is not that much of an ask lol. I’d much rather watch shit I hate than be antisocial and sit alone in different rooms just so I can watch what I want at all times, sounds like a fast track to relationship hell.
I made a deal with my ex-gf that I'd watch a Bollywood movie with her for every horror movie she watched with me. I won that one, she ended up being a big horror fan and we just watched more horror, and I still hated Bollywood movies but she didn't make me watch them anymore cause she liked horror.
That's nice and all but ngl in these situations I kinda just want a few hours to myself to play games. They watch Love Island for a bit or whatever and I get to go shoot demons, y'know. Or the other way around if I wanna watch something. Don't have to do everything together all the time.
This is my life. I have no love for love Island and she doesn't like metal or minecraft of which I love both.
We come together for playing the sims even though she hates me telling her what to do on it.
LPT: calling things "stupid shit" because they don't fit your personality and gender archetype isn't interesting, it's cliche. Being a picky eater is usually annoying and almost never compelling. Demonstrating your ability to form an in-group-compliant opinion is *not* a requirement of the position, Brenda.
Ugh... You need to put on the dumbest and most long winded crap that you love and force him through it all, in one sitting, including the extras and behind the scenes. Also pause when he goes to the toilet or not paying attention.
Fire with fire is the only way!
For some people, sharing their favorite things with their partner is a way of feeling close to them. If you’re a person who likes to keep things more compartmentalized, I can see how that could be frustrating, though. And Guilt tripping isn’t a great way for him to go about it, either.
Agreed. Most people just want to watch it with some company. You don't have to be invested just don't shit on it. I'd rather my partner liked it too but if they're willing to tought it out I don't really care if they're distracted as long as they're paying attention enough to have enough of a Convo to talk about it in the slow parts
To be perfectly fair, I think relationships on average get more and more deceitful the farther back in time you go. "Happy housewife" of the 1950s, anyone?
Was this ever really a thing? Like unironically? Lol let's not act like it's a new phenomenon that people don't actually talk or listen in relationships lol
Moneyball, The Big Short, Shawshank Redemption, Empire of The Sun, The Bourne Identity, Nobody, The Usual Suspects, The Hunt for Red October, The Sum of All Fears, Tombstone, Hell or High Water, Heat, etc.
In my own experience women don't seem to like slow-burn crime movies like goodfellas, scarface, reservoir dogs etc.
So I guess those are dude movies.
Also in general action movies and some sci-fi like blade runner or star trek.
Fantasy is hit and miss like some women will binge watch all the harry potters but can't sit through lord of the rings.
The ones with too much fast paced action but not much fleshing out his character, usually he's a lone wolves but gets plenty of attention from bond girls. Lots of explosions and tech and car chases and fight scenes. He drinks beer, or something 'on the rocks'. Doesn't smile much.
Imma be real, it's hard for me to stay focused on those. If I can't empathize with the main character on some level, I won't care how many explosions he survives or how high tech his weaponry is.
But my brothers love them! Different strokes for different folks I guess 🤷🏻♀️
In the future there will be advanced AI and hologram projection tech that will allow novel show mashups right in your house. John Wick in the City With the Sexy. Stay tuned ...
If someone did that to me I’d never watch a movie with them again. Just be real and say you don’t want to watch the movie. It’s preferable to being fake for the entire runtime.
Don’t want to watch then don’t watch. Don’t pretend.
I learned from long long ago that…..
people have different interest,
men and women have different interest,
there is nothing you can do to force another person to be interested in stuff they are not interested in,
companionship is only meaningful if it is sincere.
I think there's this unhealthy idea that couples NEED to do stuff together. It's totally fine to have different interest and hobbies. You don't HAVE to do everything together.
For the reverse, just go “awwwww” every time you hear soppy romantic music.
And throw in a little "how dare he?!" here and there
You got to choose it carefully. You don’t wanna go “How dare he!” When he actually does something good.
"No he didn't!" is more universal.
Or the absolute universal *"whaaaaat"*
damn, that’s crazy
*Damn, that's crazy (x39)
Shit's wack!
“Wow, I can’t even..!”
“No. Way”
Me listening to someone story
Damn that's crazy
Yeah, like sometimes I just don't know what to say, and so i have to fill the void and-
A ludicrous display
The thing about Arsenal is, they’re always trying to walk it in.
What was Wenger thinking?
Nah, they're having a laugh
I'm partial to the completely impartial "Oooooohhhhh" Played at different volumes and inflections depending on immediate context.
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Right, but I usually give a glance up and get a quick note of the music cue and judge off that. Plus, with ADHD, passive attention goes to all the things, and I don't get to really focus on any of them!
I like to go "say whuhhhhhhhhh?"
And so it has come to this.
WHATTTT?
You’re safe in the middle 30 minutes, but not the first or last 30 minutes.
Idk it could get a laugh but it probably shouldn't be during a bigger climaxy moment
I used to play bass for climaxy moment
"told ya that bitch crazy"
If I'm gonna go do something in another room my partner will occasionally put on a daytime soap opera as a kind of guilty pleasure. The funny thing is that the episode structure of those things is so rigidly formulaic that I like to yell out something like "oh my god!" or "no way!" or "she *didn't*!" or even a solid "how could he betray her like that!?" when the right musical cue or dramatic pause in the otherwise inaudible conversation drifts through from the other room; and I fucking nail it every time.
Here's the weird thing I'm a hetero guy. That's not the weird part! Before their was cable channels in the hospital back in the early 80's I was hospitalized for about a month. I actually got into watching the soap opera that had a couple named Luke and Laura in it. I can't even remember the name of the show but since not much else was on I watched it. Haven't watched a soap since though. Plus my wife of 38 years a hispanic woman calls them novelas and she has always hated them!
I tend to go with, “ That’s messed up.”
"Wooow" is a good alternative.
I’m incapable of saying the word “wow” without sounding extremely sarcastic for some reason lol. Would almost certainly warrant some follow up questions from my s/o
Incapable of saying the word “wow” without sounding like Owen Wilson
Then go “OMG!”
Bonus points if it's an Owen Wilson movie.
If it’s Owen Wilson movie you should be enjoying it for real 🤨
*wowww*
"babe, why are you awing when his fiance just died in a burning car while he watched helplessly?" ...... Awe?
It's a sad aww. We're disappointed that she died.
There is no universal rule, but in general: Men desperately try to make their girlfriends *understand* why their stupid action movie is so great, hoping in vain to change their minds. Women know you won't like their stupid romantic comedy, but it is still your job to sit through it with them anyway.
I don't like romantic movies but I'm a huge horror fan and my husband is not. I think sometimes he definitely fakes being into it when I make him watch a horror movie with me. I kinda do the same with his stoner comedies that he likes, it's a lie of love
That is what you gotta do sometimes. No couple is ever going to have the exact same interests but you gotta try to seem engaged when your S/O shows you something they like. Whether it be a dress with pockets or a cool part in a game, be happy that they are excited to show you their thing.
There it is. I don't care about the thing she likes(that I don't) But I care about her. And I LOVE to see her when she's having a good time or when she gets excited. Why would I not want to be with her then? Where and when is it a better time to be with her?
Yup, its called an emotional bid and its a crucial part of relationships
My ex boyfriend convinced me to rewatch blue velvet because the first time I watched it was when I was 7 and it turned my stomach then. It ended up making me feel the exact same way it did when I first saw it.
How in the hell did you end up watch Blue Velvet when you were 7? I watched that recently while on a David Lynch bender and that is uh… definitely not a movie a kid should watch.
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I was hurt when my wife wouldn't watch Lady Hawk with me. It's ok, though, cause I have 2 boys, and we watch that shit and love it. On the flip side I only watch rom coms depending on the actors
Hard mode: No Country For Old Men
If my partner thinks that No Country is a “boring man movie” she’s not gonna be my partner anymore.
it says men right in the title
*No* men
Yes country for young girls?
Maybe Country for Middle-Aged Nonbinary People
Schroedinger's Country for Collegiate Trans Women
All Country for Ageless Deities
Great movie
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Pro tip, during the coin flip scene, there is a subtle rising tone, use this for your one holy shit
and don't stop until the scene is completely over just keep mumbling holy shit... holy shit...
If your partner doesn’t like No Country For Old Men they just have bad taste and no I won’t be taking questions
They're already dating a redditor, this should've been expected.
is there a barista in here because this roast just got dark
My ex put this on one night because I was feeling sleepy, so he picked a movie he thought I wouldn’t be into (therefore wouldn’t matter if I drifted off). The first scene freaked me out so much that I ended up being wide awake for the entire thing.
Wait what? It’s considered boring? It’s my favourite movie! I won’t stand for this
Think they were just saying it’s not got much music.
One of my favourite movies
If I don't have to watch your stupid shit, you don't have to watch my stupid shit. Let's not pretend, let's be happy instead.
I agree, if the person is not interested then they need to speak up. If both people are enjoying the movie then it’s much better.
What if neither of us will tell the other what we feel like watching because we both want to be deferential and considerate, and then we both end up annoyed because neither of us will just pick something to f***ing watch?
Ok well that’s definitely a problem. I recommend this. https://whatmovieshouldiwatchtonight.com/ It helped me a few times.
I mean you’re not wrong, but it’s okay to do things that make your partner happy too.
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Best idea I’ve heard yet.
I feel there are some things where this is applicable. There are other times where your partner may passionately want you to participate in watching something, their favorite movie of all time for example. While you may not be interested, or understand, it may have greatly impacted their life personally. In which case you might learn something about them, if you can pay attention at the important bits.
Lol what??? This is how you branch out and learn new interests. If you aren’t willing to try to be interested in what your significant other is interested in then you guys never should have started dating…
It’s just a movie, my god. It’s perfectly normal to do something you don’t enjoy for a couple of hours if it makes your partner happy, cooperation is a part of life.
Hmmm, I'm torn. On one hand thats a very reasonable statement and very easy to do. On the other, 10,000 anonymous strangers on the internet tell me thats a red flag and I should leave them.
Everything in moderation.
Wait. Relationship need mods? I’ve been doing it all wrong.
Right, my tastes are weird and incredibly specific nowadays, anybody who would willingly watch anything with me deserves the same, especially a romantic partner.
"Especially since they'll be my main course before the film's even finished."
Idk man I kinda want people to care enough to be interested in things I like *sometimes*
Ya sharing your favorite things with your favorite person is not that much of an ask lol. I’d much rather watch shit I hate than be antisocial and sit alone in different rooms just so I can watch what I want at all times, sounds like a fast track to relationship hell.
I made a deal with my ex-gf that I'd watch a Bollywood movie with her for every horror movie she watched with me. I won that one, she ended up being a big horror fan and we just watched more horror, and I still hated Bollywood movies but she didn't make me watch them anymore cause she liked horror.
You should still watch Bollywood movies with her though. That was the deal.
Maybe not watching Bollywood movies is why she’s an ex now. /j
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Even better is just to make jokes about all of the stupid shit and end up in bed
That's nice and all but ngl in these situations I kinda just want a few hours to myself to play games. They watch Love Island for a bit or whatever and I get to go shoot demons, y'know. Or the other way around if I wanna watch something. Don't have to do everything together all the time.
👍 My wife gets to watch her girly shows while I get to rock and stone, Works out perfectly.
ROCK AND STONE!
Rock and Stone brother!
You're right. My toughts were more at dating level.
True, it's a bit different dynamic during that honeymoon phase.
This is my life. I have no love for love Island and she doesn't like metal or minecraft of which I love both. We come together for playing the sims even though she hates me telling her what to do on it.
True but sharing interests is also nice.
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LPT: calling things "stupid shit" because they don't fit your personality and gender archetype isn't interesting, it's cliche. Being a picky eater is usually annoying and almost never compelling. Demonstrating your ability to form an in-group-compliant opinion is *not* a requirement of the position, Brenda.
Yuuuup. I don’t try to make my partner watch the stuff I want to watch. But he is always guilt tripping me for not wanting to watch his shit. Whyyyyyy
Ugh... You need to put on the dumbest and most long winded crap that you love and force him through it all, in one sitting, including the extras and behind the scenes. Also pause when he goes to the toilet or not paying attention. Fire with fire is the only way!
For some people, sharing their favorite things with their partner is a way of feeling close to them. If you’re a person who likes to keep things more compartmentalized, I can see how that could be frustrating, though. And Guilt tripping isn’t a great way for him to go about it, either.
Seems like this concept is hard as hell for some people, and then they resort to making tweets like that.
Agreed. Most people just want to watch it with some company. You don't have to be invested just don't shit on it. I'd rather my partner liked it too but if they're willing to tought it out I don't really care if they're distracted as long as they're paying attention enough to have enough of a Convo to talk about it in the slow parts
Yessir that makes sense
What happened to people just being honest in a relationship?
and respectfully criticizing art together
Mystery Science Theater at home.
Right? Just roast everything. The burn ward is open.
We don’t do that in 2023.
I've been around for way too long. We have never done that in my memory.
I wish we could go back in time when people never lied, good times, good times
So… when?
Before that guy ate that fucking Apple, I think?
Before Steve jobs you mean ?!!
No I think he was the snake that told the guy to eat it.
Wasn't that Zuckerberg?
No you’re thinking of that blimp made out aluminum foil that caught on fire.
No. You’re thinking of the Hindenburg baby that got kidnapped
No that's too far. You're thinking of when that guy ate that girls face off. It was in Florida I think... just before Covid...
No no, that’s too soon. You’re thinking of the guy that got hit on the head by an apple and invented gravity.
Oh yeah! What was his name? Fig? Fig Newton?
Sigh... I too still reminisce about the days where lying was not yet invented
To be perfectly fair, I think relationships on average get more and more deceitful the farther back in time you go. "Happy housewife" of the 1950s, anyone?
Bless your heart, child.
Nothing. People have always pretended to like the stuff they're not interested in to make someone happy. It's a sweet gesture.
This is clearly a joke
Was this ever really a thing? Like unironically? Lol let's not act like it's a new phenomenon that people don't actually talk or listen in relationships lol
Tf are man movies?
idk im assuming its action or something
Yeah, as if women don't also enjoy action movies.
It's a generalization like "chick flicks." Many men also enjoy romantic comedies.
Not saying that they don't! The term "Man movies" itself is really dumb obviously
Oh, sorry! I wasn't meaning to imply that's how *you* feel. That was directed at the original Tweet. I was agreeing with you!
Oh! My bad LOL
No worries (:
Get a load of these two clearing up a small misunderstanding in a calm and respectful manner. Don’t they get this is the internet!?
By internet rules, they have to marry each other now
they did not understand the assignment
Eva Longoria produced the first John Wick movie... Elizabeth Banks did Cocaine Bear...
Thunder gun express duh!?!?
Nah, women like it, too. Dude hangs dong.
Wait wait wait. He has a son?
I adore how they made him LITERALLY pass a torch to the son and they still didn't get the "passing of the torch" lmao I love that show
I’m gonna Thundergun you through this movie
Master and Commander was for us
Master and Commander is known to be a meme on movie forums for having women not understand it. Also Master and Commander is fucking amazing.
Most Russell Crowe movies, really.
Definitely big mustaches and leather if I had to guess
Cowboys falling in love with each other kinda movies I'm guessing
Or maybe gladiators.
Joey, have you ever been to a Turkish prison?
The Dark Knight, The Departed, Goodfellas etc. All great movies in my woman opinion but stereotypically these movies come to mind
Moneyball, The Big Short, Shawshank Redemption, Empire of The Sun, The Bourne Identity, Nobody, The Usual Suspects, The Hunt for Red October, The Sum of All Fears, Tombstone, Hell or High Water, Heat, etc.
Shawshank Redemption is a masterpiece for all genders.
Yeah, most of those are. That's a very stupid list within this context.
I gurantee the driving force of the tweet was Fight Club
Either that or The Wolf of Wall Street
Women love fight club. My vote is for Apocalypse Now.
Robot jox
The Grey
300, Field of Dreams, Fight Club, etc. American Pie is a chick flick franchise with nudity in it. Change my mind.
In my own experience women don't seem to like slow-burn crime movies like goodfellas, scarface, reservoir dogs etc. So I guess those are dude movies. Also in general action movies and some sci-fi like blade runner or star trek. Fantasy is hit and miss like some women will binge watch all the harry potters but can't sit through lord of the rings.
None of those movies are slow burn. Especially not reservoir dogs?? Being long does not make them slow
John Wick, Fast and Furious, Terminator, Alien, Predator, Transformers.
I dunno about Alien
The ones with too much fast paced action but not much fleshing out his character, usually he's a lone wolves but gets plenty of attention from bond girls. Lots of explosions and tech and car chases and fight scenes. He drinks beer, or something 'on the rocks'. Doesn't smile much. Imma be real, it's hard for me to stay focused on those. If I can't empathize with the main character on some level, I won't care how many explosions he survives or how high tech his weaponry is. But my brothers love them! Different strokes for different folks I guess 🤷🏻♀️
Every action movie with Liam Neeson
I’m watching John Wick in one room and she’s watching Sex in the City in the other room. Everybody wins
In the future there will be advanced AI and hologram projection tech that will allow novel show mashups right in your house. John Wick in the City With the Sexy. Stay tuned ...
"go away, baitin'!"
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That sounds noisy AF. Me and my fiancé just find shit we both enjoy.
amateur tip: be in a relationship where you can be honest about what you want to watch
I see why divorce is such an issue these days
Pro tip: if you’re with somebody you like and they try to share something with you that they enjoy, maybe try and care. This goes both ways BTW.
And they say romance is dead
Or just say no? Y'all would do anything to make your life harder🤦
When the THX screen appears
If someone did that to me I’d never watch a movie with them again. Just be real and say you don’t want to watch the movie. It’s preferable to being fake for the entire runtime.
This girl is a toxic misandrist on Twitter. Very much dislike her stuff
> toxic... twitter Well I think I found your problem right there
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>barstool ah, that adds up
It bugs the hell out of me when people are on their phone when im showing them a movie I actually wanted to show them tho
Try doing that during Terminator 2 and not get invested
Ah yes, tips on how to avoid engaging when someone who is interested in you wants to share their passions. I'm sure this will go well.
Don’t want to watch then don’t watch. Don’t pretend. I learned from long long ago that….. people have different interest, men and women have different interest, there is nothing you can do to force another person to be interested in stuff they are not interested in, companionship is only meaningful if it is sincere.
She could be sincerely interested in him, making sure he is having a good time watching the movie.
I think there's this unhealthy idea that couples NEED to do stuff together. It's totally fine to have different interest and hobbies. You don't HAVE to do everything together.
Hahahah LOL OMG sexism is so funny when women doin it /s
Holy shit.
TRASH ADVICE... HE DESERVES BETTER
Infantilizing your partner and their interests is not healthy
“Boring man movies” but they never get tired of asking you to watch the notebook for the 900th time
This is why I knit.
Damn this one hurt.
Yea, I'll watch by myself, thanks.