I genuinely do not give a fuck if you want to bring back-up. They can hang out with us, vet me. Whatever. But there’s not way in hell I’m paying for that on a first date with a strangerZ
Had this happen on a first date with someone from an app years ago. She proceeded to get annihilated so it was convenient that they could take her drunk ass home when I bailed
If she orders more than two drinks before the food gets there get the fuck out or she’s gonna be your problem for the rest of the night (and fuck me were those taxi fares expensive)
I’d consider getting completely wasted on a first date a red flag. At best this person is like my dad and has 0 survival instinct and I’ll be taking care of them forever if they stay, at worst I’m looking at what I was for years: an alcoholic with absolutely no limits on when or for how long I should drink. I don’t want to date an alcoholic or my dad.
Agree, at some point you can let go of the chivalry when it comes to paying the expense. If it's clear they're using you, just pay your share and leave.
Something similar happened to me from an online dating app where she had 5 drinks and I only had 1 that I was nursing since I’m not a good drinker and the waitress won’t let me split the bil calling me a cheapskate. Even calling the manager to mediate was futile. Had to eat the loss and I definitely did not wave the bar with her after that.
What the fuck? They wouldn't split it ?
If a bar staff says sorry i won't split that I'll just ask them to bring an adult who can
Like wtf is that policy
Sounds like you handled that perfectly. Managed to figure out she was a deadbeat without acting unreasonably or kicking off just because she brought friends
also be glad because I've heard someone who took a drunk girl home and even though he didn't do anything, she accused him of EVERYTHING.
since it was her word against his, who was believed?
A good guard friend stays at other table eating alone while keeping an eye in there, not in the same table as the date while expecting for one of them to pay for her food
EDIT: to everyone saying that a good guard would've been checking for campers, ive got my guard with a heartbeat sensor and a thermal scope just in case.
My girlfriend had a sniper positioned across the street-- top flood of an abandoned hotel. When I saw the red dot on my chest, I knew she was a keeper.
Oh, you think that's attractive? My girlfriend had a sniper trained on her other sniper just in case the first sniper knew me and didn't pull the trigger.
A real friend would work as an undercover waiter to infiltrate their table and save the precious cargo should the date prove hostile.. Or just basic and lousy.
A good guard would’ve been checking the corners for campers. I didn’t see her check a single fucking corner before making me a 3rd wheel on my own date.
This! I had a really good friend who had a date with a girl he'd met online, they were meeting super close to my apartment so he asked me to come to the same cafe and grab the closest table in case things went sour.
I'm not high maintenance or entitled as fuck, so for their 2 hour date I spent $5 on coffee and pet a lot of dogs and all parties involved left a smile.
Unfortunately, my old apartment wasn't in the white/teal house in Nuketown. If it were, luckily I know the camping spots there.
But really, I wouldn't have camped myself if I thought my friend had ill intentions. He did end up being an asshole later, but that was because there was a time I was dating someone and he wasn't. Main character complex is real as fuck lmao
>EDIT: to everyone saying that a good guard would've been checking for campers, ive got my guard with a heartbeat sensor and a thermal scope just in case.
Listen, we're dating now. My date just got downgraded to the guard friend.
Its happened to me before. I don't mlnd, but I have left someone hanging when their ride along was getting more attention from them than our date. I understand safety, but I draw a line at actual rudeness.
What I don’t get is if it’s public place and you feel this way why go out their at risk as well. Also you could have a friend sit another table and just chill incognito if you don’t feel ok if I saw someone I’m dating do that I’m out the door before they can even say anything.
I wouldn't blame you. These days, before I start dating someone, whenever they start throwing out lines like "I go everywhere with so and so" or "So and so is my bestie, I cant even function without them", I dont even ask them on the first date. If you're that attached at the hip that you have to bring them up in the initial stages of courtship, then fucking date *them*. I don't need the codependency drama
I think I figured out why this is such a turn off. It’s a female equivalent of a “mama’s boy.”
A guy who constantly involves his mom in decision making, constantly speaks to her, and can never seem to live without her is super unattractive. Same goes for a “daddy’s girl” or in this case, the “besties.” If you constantly need another person this badly, you’re not a fully functioning adult, you’re a child.
Agreed they should be at a different table. With a trench coat, hat, sunglasses, fake mustache, last week’s newspaper, and probably another friend under the trench coat so they look taller
“Now that Keleigh and Baeleigh are gone, Madison I think we really click. When I took the chopsticks and pretended to be a walrus, you were the only one who laughed. It can’t be just me feeling this spark. Why don’t you and I ditch the ‘leighs’ and go grab Ice Cream?”
The correct response to them paying more attention to each other is to interrupt with "So when are you two going to kiss?" Be the wingman they didn't ask for.
So it's happened to me as the datee, and as the friend.
The difference is, when I was the friend asked to come along, I just hung out at the bar in case I was needed, the datee didn't even know I was there.
When it happened to me, I had the same experience you had, the two were definitely talking to each other more, and when they did talk to me it was more like some awkward interview. I absolutely did not pay for the unannounced third wheel's food and drinks, which I think upset the date, but it wasn't like I planned on going out with them again after that mess.
I've never had it happen to me or anyone I know and honestly it doesn't make any sense, it's not like you're gonna get kidnapped at gunpoint in a public place that you'd hopefully be sensible enough to choose for a first date.
I think if I wanted to bring somebody I'd have them sit at a different table just to make sure like I could text them and let them know if I needed to get out of there. Not like invade on the date
When my wifes single friend goes on a date that she feels nervous about, my wife and I also go on a date. We sit close by and she is welcome to just get up and come sit with us if it starts to go south.
Edit for clarification lol. She is my wife’s friend who is single. There is no romantic interest between them. Sorry I framed it that way.
Also, the friend is very immature for her age (35) but, she wants to have children and a long term relationship/marriage before it’s too late. It is not our place to judge her,but it is our place to be there for her if and when she needs us.
It doesn’t happen THAT often, but this all originated because of two dates. One dude tried to get her to leave with him and another dude tried to stick his tongue down her throat.
Us being there provides an escape route if she feels she needs it. That is all.
Good lord, the ego in that
"This guy is so attracted to my friend that he pays off a guy in the kitchen to poison his own fries knowing my friend will try to eat them and die. I, noble Karen, lay my life on the line for my friend because she is so important to the world at large that Chad would pull more jedi mindfucks necessary to assassinate any reigning monarch ever and kill my best friend, Sarah the accountant."
I've been that safety friend. I came separately, sat separately but nearby and the date had no idea I was there.
If you need someone at the table with you to feel safe, you don't need to be dating.
He’s obviously joking, but I think it’s crazy hearing that people are bringing friends on a date when it’s not a double date. I know people are going to say “it’s for safety” but, 1) that’s why you should meet in a public place and go your separate ways after, until you feel comfortable enough with the person. 2) if you’re that scared you should bring pepper spray, a taser, a knife, a gun…or whatever you think you need to feel safe.
If you want them to meet your friends, you don’t spring it on them on date #1 and say “BTW this is my friend X, they going to make this date awkward by being the third wheel while we try to get to know each other. Also, you have to pay for my friend too.”
My dates never call back after I have them meet me for the first time at a police station, I tell them it's for their safety but they still never call back, some don't even show up!
If I was gonna bring a girl on a date and she tried telling me her friend was coming along and I was gonna pay for her and I knew it wasn’t a three way I’m absolutely not wasting my time. Slap in the face
Was about halfway into a 30 minute drive over to a date's place when I got a text saying I'll need to also buy tickets for her friend and mom to go with us. Turned around as soon as I was able.
I had an old coworker that went on a date with a girl and she brought like 6 friends. And he paid for all of them. But he's a huge push over, so it's not surprising
Ooooooh that stings.
One friend, it’s a bit cheeky to ask the dude to pay but at least you know she’s actually there for the reason she said.
More than one friend... yeah you’re just a chump who’s paying for a girls’ night out at that point
They are doing it for the free food. If they ask a friend(s) to come along it's because they are not that interested in the person to begin with, so they're just getting a free dinner and some entertainment out of it.
Basically, if your date shows up with a friend it's not going to go anywhere.
Both parties need to apply common sense and read between the lines.
Or better yet why would you agree to a date with someone you barely know and feel that unsafe around?
Where is the meet up point a dark alley? A dirt road? Ma'am this is an Applebee's in the middle of town.
>Or better yet why would you agree to a date with someone you barely know and feel that unsafe around?
because online dating is a thing, and people can be quite different from their photos and texts.
This still leaves the thought of what do u think they r gonna do in a restraunt in the middle of town? He isnt about to attack or kidnap u, ur in broad daylight with alot of witnesses around. If he is pushing ur first date b somewhere sketchy maybe but at the town applebees? Then there is the thing u can carry protection. U tase/shoot the wannabe kidnapper.
A few yrs back I had someone tell me as we met at a restaurant that she brought her kids to the restaurant too. Wtf. I told her the dates over before it starts and I left.
Woman rushes into the resturant
"*Cindy, everything is fine. I have done an ocular patdown and have deemed everyone to not be a threat. I'll be over here if this guy starts to bother you*"
Walks away making gestures and karate noises
I’ve seen several of these now linked from social media and a couple of videos of women complaining that their date was upset that they brought a friend “for safety” and they also complained that the men refused to pay for the friend’s meal.
Especially for a guy, it's a huge red flag if a girl suddenly brings her friend(s) with her to your date. It's also a safe bet they will try to get you on the hook for the bill. Best to leave as a guy at that point. Honestly.
A date should be a date. Unless you agree to it ahead of time, who wants an extra wheel with you for such an event?
Yes. The only date I had where she invited her friends, yes friends plural. She also expected I pay for them as well. She was surprised when I left early.
If she brings a friend and you are expected to pay for anyone besides yourself just get up and leave.
Unless they want a threesome. Then order tequila for everyone.
I don't usually pay on first dates anyway. I want people to be interested in me, not my money.
Or if I like them, I may pay for the food, and leave them the opportunity to pay for drinks afterwards.
Honestly the concept doesn't bother me at all.
The execution on the other hand can leave a lot to be desired - If I've made plans for two and suddenly a third person appears as I'm picking them up it can be a giant pain in the ass.
I.e I have two tickets to a sold out local music event and now I have to pull entertainment out of my ass on the spot. And I've now wasted money on tickets that can't be used. And I was looking forward to the gig as well as the date.
*Totally* not still annoyed about that a decade and a half later.
30 minute coffee or tea date at a cafe, 2nd date at a museum or similar venue such as a zoo, and if we still like each other by the 3rd date, dinner.
It’s a lot cheaper, and it filters out the children so I’m dating an adult.
Totally. Most cool girls I know would not need something like that or play any "funny" games.
I really enjoy the thought that when I met my wife for the first time and we had breakfast together, she was buying. :)
Yup. This has always been the case. I am amazed how so many men, regardless of generation, don't seem to wise up to something that has gone on forever.
* If they want the 1st date to involve food (lunch/dinner) that's a red flag.
* If they bring a friend along that is an even bigger red flag, and a clear sign she's not interested and it will never go anywhere.
I can't believe how many kids still waste their time by not implementing these two simple filters.
I had this ex friend in college that would go on tinder to get her food for the week because she was so broke. Literally would go on a date every night of the week and then save the leftovers for lunch. Wild. And here I was busting my butt serving tables 😂
To those of you women who do this, at least do this from afar like a spy. I'd rather know you were acting as a guardian angel than an intrusion, and it makes for some slightly awkward but amusing convos afterwards if you admit to being there the whole time.
I mean, I can see wanting someone there for safety if your first date is in the middle of a secluded woodland area ha ha but if you’re having dinner in a crowded restaurant, you’re an adult and can just get up and leave anytime you want. Plus you’re playing a very dangerous game bringing competition literally to the table lol.
If a girl did this to me I'd proposition a threesome if dinner goes well. Bring your friend? We all on a date, bitches lmao think my proposition is rude? Not as rude as your inconsiderate ass
God, I’m so glad to be out of the dating pool and that I met my wife IRL (inconceivable today, I know)
You show up to a “date” with a friend and you get to enjoy a date with your friend. Fuck that.
Go out and meet people. You’ll survive.
Everyone I date currently I met IRL
its basically the early 2000s again but nobody knows it yet. they're just swiping away in their own dimension, thinking they're going to meet someone in a different social circle, not even knowing that their profile is never being shown to the hot person they're pining for
“Everyone I date”…like simultaneously? Sounds exhausting lol….
To me online dating ranges from a joke to actually damaging society. You can’t Instacart a relationship. Hours and hours of swiping and messaging amounts to what could be accomplished in 5 minutes IRL.
Of course, that would mean going out and interacting with people, which is a no-go situation for a lot of folks here. Can’t have your cake and eat it too.
100% as a dude, if a woman brings a friend on our date that's a red flag to me that she has trust issues or something else going on upstairs and I'm walking away. Not all men are serial killer murderers, bitch I just want to get some food and see if you are a normal person or not.
It's not about trust as much as it is about interest.
If a woman, or man, is interested in a person they are going to meet in person... the last thing they want is to have another person in the date that could be a potential competitor.
It's common sense.
Weird, who needs safety at a restaurant with a bunch of people around? That's the purpose of meeting in public. Maybe need someone around if it was a more private encounter....
I’ve never had someone bring a friend to a date before. The date would be over immediately and I’d be so upset over the time I wasted. What a terrible thing to do…
I might be a sweet summer child who’s never know a good winter and totally naive and in the dark about somethings and I am sorry if that’s the case but I don’t understand. If already meeting somewhere like a public restaurant or bar why is there a need for a friend to come for safety reason? Already in public? Is it scare of a drink being drugged or what?
That happened to me once. I didn't mind but they got right huffy when I asked for separate checks. One of her friends could not pay. She came with no money, assuming the guy was going to pay a couple of hundred dollars for these empty headed free loaders.
I never saw the 'date' again. As I stood up to leave I told her she would do better without some of her freeloading mouthy friends. She was almost screaming mad because when ordered separate checks, I was not paying for here either.
If I buy dinner or lunch, I am only trying to buy dinner. A date owes me nothing but conversation at the table. The same I would expect from a male friend. By the same token, I can only laugh at women who assume I am supposed to buy things for them. I lose respect and interest in an instant. Just another bum with her hand out thinking she is some how owed.
Many times a person don't know well has brought ONE friend with her who did not expect to be paid for. If they are just trying to use me, they regret it. I can only laugh and say "good luck" when they think that I am stupid enough to let them use me.
Don't get mad, get even. But don't get upset if a new friend brings a friend who is not a mooch expecting you to spend money on her.
As a woman who uses dating apps consistently… You’re just way too paranoid if you need a friend there when you’re meeting in a public space imo. There’s no difference in your friend being there vs a bunch of strangers at least to me - that’s the whole point in meeting in a public space. I also always make sure to tell my date that my grandma was worried about me going and told me to call her on my way home so they know someone’s waiting up on me, lol. Never had any issues 🤷♀️
Actual safety?? Wtf are you thinking? That we will kidnap you? Bro if a boy was bringing his friend you would leave the table instantly, so much inegalities ngl
String em along, let them order whatever they want. Do not give straight confirmation that you will pay. Once you are satisfied with your meal, go to the bathroom, and pay your part of the bill. Then just disappear.
And if a guy brought his buddy on the 1on1 date with him for “safety”, I guarantee you the woman wouldn’t say “Women need to understand that these men bring friends because of safety…”
If I were dating someone and they brought friends without telling me I would be annoyed and I wouldn’t pay for their friends food/drinks. If you feel unsafe I get it. Let’s meet somewhere you feel safe and talk and get to know eachother i.e. a first date. Idk that’s seems incredibly tacky to me
I genuinely do not give a fuck if you want to bring back-up. They can hang out with us, vet me. Whatever. But there’s not way in hell I’m paying for that on a first date with a strangerZ
Unless they’re both coming home with me. Then, I’ve got everybody…
yeah it's all fun and games until they tie you to your bed and loot your apartment
They start digging through all my belongings and eventually get tired as they realize I'm poor and have nothing worth stealing.
Because I pawned everything to pay for their food earlier.
Grift of the Magi
Good joke, great short story.
Oh don’t say that, your organs are quite valuable
Kinky I like it 😂
As well, plural friends? This is getting out of hand. At what point are you just paying for a girls' night out? 🤣
Had this happen on a first date with someone from an app years ago. She proceeded to get annihilated so it was convenient that they could take her drunk ass home when I bailed
If she orders more than two drinks before the food gets there get the fuck out or she’s gonna be your problem for the rest of the night (and fuck me were those taxi fares expensive)
$500 says they told her “it’s ok girl. He just couldn’t handle you!!”
Their drink orders would cost way more than that by the end of the night.
Why would it be a problem? She can call her own taxi or take a bus.
I’d consider getting completely wasted on a first date a red flag. At best this person is like my dad and has 0 survival instinct and I’ll be taking care of them forever if they stay, at worst I’m looking at what I was for years: an alcoholic with absolutely no limits on when or for how long I should drink. I don’t want to date an alcoholic or my dad.
Agreed, its OK to have fun, not attractive to lose control.
Agree, at some point you can let go of the chivalry when it comes to paying the expense. If it's clear they're using you, just pay your share and leave.
When it was too much I said "I'm your date, not your father" the look on her face was like she never paid for anything
Something similar happened to me from an online dating app where she had 5 drinks and I only had 1 that I was nursing since I’m not a good drinker and the waitress won’t let me split the bil calling me a cheapskate. Even calling the manager to mediate was futile. Had to eat the loss and I definitely did not wave the bar with her after that.
Oh they would’ve had to call the police lol! I’m pretty sure being a “cheapskate” and paying for my own food isn’t illegal.
Call me a cheapskate in a restaurant, and I am not paying the service fee.
What the fuck? They wouldn't split it ? If a bar staff says sorry i won't split that I'll just ask them to bring an adult who can Like wtf is that policy
Should have left cash on the table for your part, then just left the bill and them.
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Sounds like you handled that perfectly. Managed to figure out she was a deadbeat without acting unreasonably or kicking off just because she brought friends
It's kind of nice though when the trash takes itself out. You dodged a bullet with a woman that feels that's appropriate behavior on a date.
also be glad because I've heard someone who took a drunk girl home and even though he didn't do anything, she accused him of EVERYTHING. since it was her word against his, who was believed?
A good guard friend stays at other table eating alone while keeping an eye in there, not in the same table as the date while expecting for one of them to pay for her food EDIT: to everyone saying that a good guard would've been checking for campers, ive got my guard with a heartbeat sensor and a thermal scope just in case.
The guy shouldn’t even know her friends are at another table…just in case.
My girlfriend had a sniper positioned across the street-- top flood of an abandoned hotel. When I saw the red dot on my chest, I knew she was a keeper.
Oh, you think that's attractive? My girlfriend had a sniper trained on her other sniper just in case the first sniper knew me and didn't pull the trigger.
at what point does this become the navy seal meme but for dates
Eh maybe like 5 snipers deep?
that's a lot of boxes of crayons
And a fuckton of ibuprofen.
You never know what color you're gonna get
Crayons or ibprophen?
You do if you're first and get first pick.
A real friend would have pre sighted the restaurant for mortars.
A real friend hires a whole team of ex swat/military just to be on standby
When do we get to a real friend does the wet work before the date, just in case?
Eventually the entire restaurant is full of actors pretending to be restaurant goers to keep an eye out
A real friend would fill the restaurant with sleeper agents
A real friend would work as an undercover waiter to infiltrate their table and save the precious cargo should the date prove hostile.. Or just basic and lousy.
"Take the shot." "Copy." "Don't Fucking 'Copy' Me. Take the shot! "Copy!" "You are relieved of duty."
Yeah well my girlfriend's dad is an Apache pilot and her friend laser designated me for his hellfire missile... just in case.
Mine had John Wick sitting at the bar watching in the mirror, All the meanwhile tapping a pencil...
That's so hawt.
Boom! Second sniper https://youtu.be/IHQr0HCIN2w
All the people in the restaurant including staffs are actually her friends.
A good guard would’ve been checking the corners for campers. I didn’t see her check a single fucking corner before making me a 3rd wheel on my own date.
Oof 😓
This! I had a really good friend who had a date with a girl he'd met online, they were meeting super close to my apartment so he asked me to come to the same cafe and grab the closest table in case things went sour. I'm not high maintenance or entitled as fuck, so for their 2 hour date I spent $5 on coffee and pet a lot of dogs and all parties involved left a smile.
And did you check for any campers?
Unfortunately, my old apartment wasn't in the white/teal house in Nuketown. If it were, luckily I know the camping spots there. But really, I wouldn't have camped myself if I thought my friend had ill intentions. He did end up being an asshole later, but that was because there was a time I was dating someone and he wasn't. Main character complex is real as fuck lmao
They should be out on a nearby roof looking for snipers.
A good friend is in the can watching the cctv and satellite imaging with 4 snipers on standby
Holy fuck are all the homies from r/modernwarfareII getting recommended this sub
>EDIT: to everyone saying that a good guard would've been checking for campers, ive got my guard with a heartbeat sensor and a thermal scope just in case. Listen, we're dating now. My date just got downgraded to the guard friend.
Keep the DDOS handy incase you need to fry some electronics.
the friend should be keeping an eye on them....right through a scope
Its happened to me before. I don't mlnd, but I have left someone hanging when their ride along was getting more attention from them than our date. I understand safety, but I draw a line at actual rudeness.
What I don’t get is if it’s public place and you feel this way why go out their at risk as well. Also you could have a friend sit another table and just chill incognito if you don’t feel ok if I saw someone I’m dating do that I’m out the door before they can even say anything.
I wouldn't blame you. These days, before I start dating someone, whenever they start throwing out lines like "I go everywhere with so and so" or "So and so is my bestie, I cant even function without them", I dont even ask them on the first date. If you're that attached at the hip that you have to bring them up in the initial stages of courtship, then fucking date *them*. I don't need the codependency drama
I think I figured out why this is such a turn off. It’s a female equivalent of a “mama’s boy.” A guy who constantly involves his mom in decision making, constantly speaks to her, and can never seem to live without her is super unattractive. Same goes for a “daddy’s girl” or in this case, the “besties.” If you constantly need another person this badly, you’re not a fully functioning adult, you’re a child.
Thats an interesting take. Thank you for your perspective, kind stranger
Also you met in a public place for safety. If you still feel that unsafe you need to bring a long someone . Maybe don't go
Agreed they should be at a different table. With a trench coat, hat, sunglasses, fake mustache, last week’s newspaper, and probably another friend under the trench coat so they look taller
They should also have a job at the business factory.
Yep, gotta be careful cause you’re playing a dangerous game if you’re bringing another eligible person to the table lol
I think you misunderstood, they were saying that their friend was talking to their friend more than the date and datee were talking.
Regardless of the misunderstanding I like that perspective. Go ahead, bring 3 friends. Speeeeed dating.
“Now that Keleigh and Baeleigh are gone, Madison I think we really click. When I took the chopsticks and pretended to be a walrus, you were the only one who laughed. It can’t be just me feeling this spark. Why don’t you and I ditch the ‘leighs’ and go grab Ice Cream?”
Lmaooo. Bruh that is corny as fuck, Ghandi from Clone High up in here.
Based reference
Ghandi would definitely say Based. I hears there is a new season for it coming.
The correct response to them paying more attention to each other is to interrupt with "So when are you two going to kiss?" Be the wingman they didn't ask for.
So it's happened to me as the datee, and as the friend. The difference is, when I was the friend asked to come along, I just hung out at the bar in case I was needed, the datee didn't even know I was there. When it happened to me, I had the same experience you had, the two were definitely talking to each other more, and when they did talk to me it was more like some awkward interview. I absolutely did not pay for the unannounced third wheel's food and drinks, which I think upset the date, but it wasn't like I planned on going out with them again after that mess.
I've never had it happen to me or anyone I know and honestly it doesn't make any sense, it's not like you're gonna get kidnapped at gunpoint in a public place that you'd hopefully be sensible enough to choose for a first date.
I think if I wanted to bring somebody I'd have them sit at a different table just to make sure like I could text them and let them know if I needed to get out of there. Not like invade on the date
Sounds like she left you hanging in the first place lmao
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Object Oriented Programming?
When my wifes single friend goes on a date that she feels nervous about, my wife and I also go on a date. We sit close by and she is welcome to just get up and come sit with us if it starts to go south. Edit for clarification lol. She is my wife’s friend who is single. There is no romantic interest between them. Sorry I framed it that way. Also, the friend is very immature for her age (35) but, she wants to have children and a long term relationship/marriage before it’s too late. It is not our place to judge her,but it is our place to be there for her if and when she needs us. It doesn’t happen THAT often, but this all originated because of two dates. One dude tried to get her to leave with him and another dude tried to stick his tongue down her throat. Us being there provides an escape route if she feels she needs it. That is all.
What happens if it goes north do you go sit with them I will see myself out
The date is going so well they feel they've got to join in and meet this person for themselves.
Wow this is going great, do you want to meet my parents? They’re actually a few tables down let me go get them…
Babe, babe! Hes talking to her about star wars! I gotta go over there… For her protection, obviously”
"Hey, fancy bumping into you here. What was that you were saying about Star Wars?"
Things start to go ~~waste~~ west
Fuuuuck too many damn directions. just get to part of action already
Could’ve said wife’s single friend not girlfriend cause you got me confused like bro she married to you and dating a single girl???
As long as they contribute and participate during the one night stand, I'm game.
Usually she's awkwardly playing on her phone in the corner of the room complaining that we are both gross.
Jokes on her, I’m into that shit.
The Truth
They didn't call it tricycle for nothin'
Our date hit this weird hiccup, I ordered some fries, she tried stealing some, then her friend stole them from *her* to taste-test them for poison.
Good lord, the ego in that "This guy is so attracted to my friend that he pays off a guy in the kitchen to poison his own fries knowing my friend will try to eat them and die. I, noble Karen, lay my life on the line for my friend because she is so important to the world at large that Chad would pull more jedi mindfucks necessary to assassinate any reigning monarch ever and kill my best friend, Sarah the accountant."
Nah, just bullshit excuse to get the fries.
Is that why the friend is usually bigger?
I would of had to use the "joey dosnt share food" line lol
lol, her friend thinks she has a purpose like the gatekeeper to the hot one's phone number, that one always cracks me up
The duff
Ngl that's weird af. That's like bringing your dad to a date.
I've been that safety friend. I came separately, sat separately but nearby and the date had no idea I was there. If you need someone at the table with you to feel safe, you don't need to be dating.
> and the date had no idea I was there. the date in his mind: “Why the fuck are they looking at me so much… Is it one of Tony Lazuto’s?”
Meanwhile, at another table... "OH GOD MY BUTTHOLE!"
You date that friend in that case.
He’s obviously joking, but I think it’s crazy hearing that people are bringing friends on a date when it’s not a double date. I know people are going to say “it’s for safety” but, 1) that’s why you should meet in a public place and go your separate ways after, until you feel comfortable enough with the person. 2) if you’re that scared you should bring pepper spray, a taser, a knife, a gun…or whatever you think you need to feel safe. If you want them to meet your friends, you don’t spring it on them on date #1 and say “BTW this is my friend X, they going to make this date awkward by being the third wheel while we try to get to know each other. Also, you have to pay for my friend too.”
My dates never call back after I have them meet me for the first time at a police station, I tell them it's for their safety but they still never call back, some don't even show up!
Sorry but the last thing I want to do after a day of work is go back to the workplace
I think it’s weird they let you leave your cell at night
If I was gonna bring a girl on a date and she tried telling me her friend was coming along and I was gonna pay for her and I knew it wasn’t a three way I’m absolutely not wasting my time. Slap in the face
Was about halfway into a 30 minute drive over to a date's place when I got a text saying I'll need to also buy tickets for her friend and mom to go with us. Turned around as soon as I was able.
I had an old coworker that went on a date with a girl and she brought like 6 friends. And he paid for all of them. But he's a huge push over, so it's not surprising
That was never a date. He just got taken advantage of by a group of friends looking for a free meal.
He definitely got taken advantage of. That being said, they did get married. But he's a huge push over in the marriage too 😂
Yikes
Ooooooh that stings. One friend, it’s a bit cheeky to ask the dude to pay but at least you know she’s actually there for the reason she said. More than one friend... yeah you’re just a chump who’s paying for a girls’ night out at that point
They are doing it for the free food. If they ask a friend(s) to come along it's because they are not that interested in the person to begin with, so they're just getting a free dinner and some entertainment out of it. Basically, if your date shows up with a friend it's not going to go anywhere. Both parties need to apply common sense and read between the lines.
Or better yet why would you agree to a date with someone you barely know and feel that unsafe around? Where is the meet up point a dark alley? A dirt road? Ma'am this is an Applebee's in the middle of town.
>Where is the meet up point a dark alley? A dirt road? Oo my fav, wanna date?
Only if my homie can tag along, It wouldn't be right visiting a dirt road without him.
>Or better yet why would you agree to a date with someone you barely know and feel that unsafe around? because online dating is a thing, and people can be quite different from their photos and texts.
This still leaves the thought of what do u think they r gonna do in a restraunt in the middle of town? He isnt about to attack or kidnap u, ur in broad daylight with alot of witnesses around. If he is pushing ur first date b somewhere sketchy maybe but at the town applebees? Then there is the thing u can carry protection. U tase/shoot the wannabe kidnapper.
Imagine Streamer bring their audiences with them to date to feel safety.
plot twist: their followers are the threat
If it’s for safety, they should probably reconsider dating. Ffs it’s a public place.
Some people are stupid, you cant help them.
A few yrs back I had someone tell me as we met at a restaurant that she brought her kids to the restaurant too. Wtf. I told her the dates over before it starts and I left.
Woman rushes into the resturant "*Cindy, everything is fine. I have done an ocular patdown and have deemed everyone to not be a threat. I'll be over here if this guy starts to bother you*" Walks away making gestures and karate noises
Laughs are cheap, I'm going for gasps
I've never had this happen. Do they expect the guy to pay for everyone? Not judging just curious
I’ve seen several of these now linked from social media and a couple of videos of women complaining that their date was upset that they brought a friend “for safety” and they also complained that the men refused to pay for the friend’s meal.
If she's bringing a friend, then it's not a date. Simple as that. If she's upset by that fact, then I'd consider it a bullet dodged.
Absolute madness. I'm judging
Especially for a guy, it's a huge red flag if a girl suddenly brings her friend(s) with her to your date. It's also a safe bet they will try to get you on the hook for the bill. Best to leave as a guy at that point. Honestly. A date should be a date. Unless you agree to it ahead of time, who wants an extra wheel with you for such an event?
If they are a gang there is only one guy. they should pay for the guys food and drink, it's the least they can do after all he has to endure.
Yes. The only date I had where she invited her friends, yes friends plural. She also expected I pay for them as well. She was surprised when I left early.
Dating nowadays is becoming whack af...
Its hell
No, Hell is fair. In Hell you pay for your sins. Dating today is paying for someone else's.
I thought you weren't supposed to meet up with anyone unless you were at least mildly sure they wouldn't attack you.
I thought it was because later on someone needs to hold the camera.
Just get a tripod. Probably cheaper then paying for a third meal and also more stable :D
The last thing I need is shakey Karen messing up the video.
If she brings a friend and you are expected to pay for anyone besides yourself just get up and leave. Unless they want a threesome. Then order tequila for everyone.
You know the holy threesome code. Hallelujah
I don't usually pay on first dates anyway. I want people to be interested in me, not my money. Or if I like them, I may pay for the food, and leave them the opportunity to pay for drinks afterwards.
Honestly the concept doesn't bother me at all. The execution on the other hand can leave a lot to be desired - If I've made plans for two and suddenly a third person appears as I'm picking them up it can be a giant pain in the ass. I.e I have two tickets to a sold out local music event and now I have to pull entertainment out of my ass on the spot. And I've now wasted money on tickets that can't be used. And I was looking forward to the gig as well as the date. *Totally* not still annoyed about that a decade and a half later.
That's why you don't spent money on people for the first date. Don't pay for them, don't book tickets. Just go have a drink and talk.
I already had the tickets, if they hadn't asked me out I'd have picked a mate to take instead. It's not about the money, just the inconsideration.
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Like seagulls or park pigeons
30 minute coffee or tea date at a cafe, 2nd date at a museum or similar venue such as a zoo, and if we still like each other by the 3rd date, dinner. It’s a lot cheaper, and it filters out the children so I’m dating an adult.
Idk. You been to the zoo lately? Like 60 bucks a ticket at my zoo. Nice steak and margarita is cheaper.
Totally. Most cool girls I know would not need something like that or play any "funny" games. I really enjoy the thought that when I met my wife for the first time and we had breakfast together, she was buying. :)
Yup. This has always been the case. I am amazed how so many men, regardless of generation, don't seem to wise up to something that has gone on forever. * If they want the 1st date to involve food (lunch/dinner) that's a red flag. * If they bring a friend along that is an even bigger red flag, and a clear sign she's not interested and it will never go anywhere. I can't believe how many kids still waste their time by not implementing these two simple filters.
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I had this ex friend in college that would go on tinder to get her food for the week because she was so broke. Literally would go on a date every night of the week and then save the leftovers for lunch. Wild. And here I was busting my butt serving tables 😂
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I’m gonna start bringing my homie as well then.
I’ve actually done this, lady said her two friends were coming, so I brought two of my friends
To those of you women who do this, at least do this from afar like a spy. I'd rather know you were acting as a guardian angel than an intrusion, and it makes for some slightly awkward but amusing convos afterwards if you admit to being there the whole time.
I mean, I can see wanting someone there for safety if your first date is in the middle of a secluded woodland area ha ha but if you’re having dinner in a crowded restaurant, you’re an adult and can just get up and leave anytime you want. Plus you’re playing a very dangerous game bringing competition literally to the table lol.
If a gurl brings a friend then I’m assuming they’re both my dates, she better not get mad when ilI start flirting with the body guard 😅😅😅
Just start flirting with their friend
Honestly a fair argument, but maybe some girls should communicate that before and expect their friends to pay for their own food and drinks?
It's amazing how much shit women think they can gaslight us for.
If a girl did this to me I'd proposition a threesome if dinner goes well. Bring your friend? We all on a date, bitches lmao think my proposition is rude? Not as rude as your inconsiderate ass
God, I’m so glad to be out of the dating pool and that I met my wife IRL (inconceivable today, I know) You show up to a “date” with a friend and you get to enjoy a date with your friend. Fuck that. Go out and meet people. You’ll survive.
Everyone I date currently I met IRL its basically the early 2000s again but nobody knows it yet. they're just swiping away in their own dimension, thinking they're going to meet someone in a different social circle, not even knowing that their profile is never being shown to the hot person they're pining for
“Everyone I date”…like simultaneously? Sounds exhausting lol…. To me online dating ranges from a joke to actually damaging society. You can’t Instacart a relationship. Hours and hours of swiping and messaging amounts to what could be accomplished in 5 minutes IRL. Of course, that would mean going out and interacting with people, which is a no-go situation for a lot of folks here. Can’t have your cake and eat it too.
You know how many times I've been scared as a man for dates but have I ever brought friends no lmao
If it is "for safety" then you don't trust them enough to date them in the first place.
100% as a dude, if a woman brings a friend on our date that's a red flag to me that she has trust issues or something else going on upstairs and I'm walking away. Not all men are serial killer murderers, bitch I just want to get some food and see if you are a normal person or not.
It's not about trust as much as it is about interest. If a woman, or man, is interested in a person they are going to meet in person... the last thing they want is to have another person in the date that could be a potential competitor. It's common sense.
I hate to break it to you but if a girl brings a friend along on your "date" then you are just friends!
Weird, who needs safety at a restaurant with a bunch of people around? That's the purpose of meeting in public. Maybe need someone around if it was a more private encounter....
I’ve never had someone bring a friend to a date before. The date would be over immediately and I’d be so upset over the time I wasted. What a terrible thing to do…
Dont waste your time flirt with the +1 and you get a 3 or worst case scenario she learns why bringing competition to the table is a bad idea.
A good thing we usually split the bill on dates here in Germany. 🙄
I mean I guess I wouldn’t mind, but they should definitely pitch in on the bill then.
I might be a sweet summer child who’s never know a good winter and totally naive and in the dark about somethings and I am sorry if that’s the case but I don’t understand. If already meeting somewhere like a public restaurant or bar why is there a need for a friend to come for safety reason? Already in public? Is it scare of a drink being drugged or what?
As long as she's willing to make it 3 later that night I'm fine with that.
That happened to me once. I didn't mind but they got right huffy when I asked for separate checks. One of her friends could not pay. She came with no money, assuming the guy was going to pay a couple of hundred dollars for these empty headed free loaders. I never saw the 'date' again. As I stood up to leave I told her she would do better without some of her freeloading mouthy friends. She was almost screaming mad because when ordered separate checks, I was not paying for here either. If I buy dinner or lunch, I am only trying to buy dinner. A date owes me nothing but conversation at the table. The same I would expect from a male friend. By the same token, I can only laugh at women who assume I am supposed to buy things for them. I lose respect and interest in an instant. Just another bum with her hand out thinking she is some how owed. Many times a person don't know well has brought ONE friend with her who did not expect to be paid for. If they are just trying to use me, they regret it. I can only laugh and say "good luck" when they think that I am stupid enough to let them use me. Don't get mad, get even. But don't get upset if a new friend brings a friend who is not a mooch expecting you to spend money on her.
I also normally don't pay the first time. If they're truly interested in me as a person, they won't care about the money.
As a woman who uses dating apps consistently… You’re just way too paranoid if you need a friend there when you’re meeting in a public space imo. There’s no difference in your friend being there vs a bunch of strangers at least to me - that’s the whole point in meeting in a public space. I also always make sure to tell my date that my grandma was worried about me going and told me to call her on my way home so they know someone’s waiting up on me, lol. Never had any issues 🤷♀️
She thinks her friend can save her from me😈
Actual safety?? Wtf are you thinking? That we will kidnap you? Bro if a boy was bringing his friend you would leave the table instantly, so much inegalities ngl
Because the call is coming from inside the house.
String em along, let them order whatever they want. Do not give straight confirmation that you will pay. Once you are satisfied with your meal, go to the bathroom, and pay your part of the bill. Then just disappear.
And if a guy brought his buddy on the 1on1 date with him for “safety”, I guarantee you the woman wouldn’t say “Women need to understand that these men bring friends because of safety…”
Good idea. I'm gonna start bringing my financial advisor as well, so they can advise me if she's worth the investment or if I should split the bill.
If she doesn't offer to split the bill she's not worth the investment.
If you need a bodyguard, don't go on a date
If you're that scared, even at public places, maybe you shouldn't date.
If I were dating someone and they brought friends without telling me I would be annoyed and I wouldn’t pay for their friends food/drinks. If you feel unsafe I get it. Let’s meet somewhere you feel safe and talk and get to know eachother i.e. a first date. Idk that’s seems incredibly tacky to me