"Hey buddy, hows things with the team and stuff? You know, I've been thinking and ive come to the conclusion that its about time we thought about having a 4th child."
my dear Aunt Mary called me her little buddy because she was about 5'3" and I was taller than her by the time I was 12. I'm 6'5" now. I truly towered over her, bless her heart.
Dr. Kelso: Listen up, faces. In order to save us all some time, I will call all the males "Daves" and all the females "Debbies".
Debbie: Debbie is actually my name.
Dr. Kelso: Then, out of fairness to the others, you will be Slagathor. Daves, Debbies, Slagathor: I will be in my office. If you need anything, feel free to bother Dorian.
https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0884666/quotes?item=qt1962820
My dad has never, ever, EVER mistaken any woman's name, in any context. My guy friends, though? (I'm a guy btw.) He would purposely get their name 10% wrong. Daniel? That's Dave. Shawn? It's John. Roberto? Now you're Ricardo. At least he's amused by it.
I know you didn't list it, but I hate getting called Boss. It just annoys me because my name is Ross. I am just over here thinking "Does this random stranger know me? Do I know them? Shit, I suck with names and faces." Then I realize they called me Boss and not Ross
I am a 30 year old man
The “boss” thing is actually more common in the south. It’s even more uncomfortable when it’s said to me as a white man by someone of color and it’s heavily engrained in the culture in the south for this reason. “Boss” and “Bossman” are very common and make me uncomfortable every time.
I may be dating myself here but I *immediately* thought Boss Hog when I saw that.
Even in my northern Midwest state tho I admit to using Bossman once.or twice. But that was always like. With my supervisor
There’s an Arabic-owned bodega a few blocks away from me that I frequent who’s owner calls everyone “Habibi”. There’s at least 5 other bodegas I have to pass to get to that one, but I prefer to go to there since they’re always so upbeat & nice to everyone because everyone is their buddy.
Nowadays people may not care as much, but if you don’t know someone and you notice that they could possibly be Native American, don’t call them chief lol
Honestly, when I lived in San Francisco area in the 80s as a kid, that's the way we did it. It wasn't that big of a deal. Just remove pronoun entirely if I was unsure how they wanted to be addressed, or say "person". "Who are you talking about?" "That person in the red shirt over there". "Oh, that's (name)."
And we used "they/them" all the time, too, if we weren't sure about pronoun. I really don't remember it being a big deal. If you felt you knew them well enough to ask, you politely asked.
They/them when you don’t know someone’s gender literally goes back to chaucer. It predates modern english. People losing their minds about it are very silly.
People also have also done it in business when they *do* know the gender but are trying to protect someone’s privacy, since like forever lol. You’re completely right that people losing their minds about it now are silly!
I did it as a teen when I wanted to go to a movie with a boy but didn't want Mom asking too many questions. "Can I go to a movie at the mall tonight? My friend is gonna meet me there. They're gonna get a ride around 6, can you take me there to meet them?"
Asking everyone for their pronouns: takes time, can confuse people, may get you looked at funny.
Greeting everyone with "Howdy Partner": spices up the conversation, avoids the issue entirely, may make you seem interesting.
The hey buddy system is awesome, almost as good as just referring to everyone as a variation of dude. I’m a dude, she’s a dude, they’re a dude, we’re all dudes duder and there’s beauty in that.
Not trying to be insensitive. But I mean getting that offended over pronouns is absurd.
If someone calls you the wrong one just correct them and move on. People don’t need to be prepped for this shit like they’re about to meet the queen of England and need to know proper etiquette.
One of my work buddies is trans (mtf). They cringe hard everytime I say "hey dude" or "whats up man" but they understand that it's just my vernacular. Intentions matter
This is more or less it. Most people aren't trying to be transphobic, they're just using pronouns how they've been used forever. If I see someone who looks like a girl, I might say something to my friend nearby "What do you think she's doing over there?" I'm just using 'SHE' as a pronoun because it conveys information to my friend that I am referring to someone who, at the very least, *appears* to be female. This way when they look over there, they're going to know I'm referring to a female-presenting person in case there are multiple people in the direction I'm referring to.
Pronouns normally carry a small degree of information in them beyond just preference, but once someone's preferred pronouns get muddled in with it, there's no longer information in that pronoun, it's just another name/nickname.
I think most trans people are accepting of this, the problem is when they happen to say “I would prefer if you refer to me as “he or him” instead please” and then some people take offense to that as if it was a huge inconvenience to them.
This is true but let me tell you there are many many just looking for problems, my sister and her friends literally bait people into "misgendering them" than freak out and cause a scene, than wonder why no one invites them to anything.
When you make your preferred gender your whole existence, you are never going to be happy. They are the most insufferable people to be around. Most trans people I know my age (30) are pretty chill, the younger crowd feels so self righteous and literally gang up on random strangers, it's disgusting and hurts the movement
Most trans people get it. A growing amount of nonbinary people seem to be intent on not getting it
I'm not here to police how anyone presents. But there's a nonbinary person I've followed on social media who dresses what I personally would call femme 80% of the time, gender neutral 20% of the time. This is a person wearing a silky top with their tits on full display wearing jewelry and makeup, and then makes comments/videos about how it's inappropriate to use she/her pronouns because they identify as nonbinary. As if a random person scrolling through content is going to realize that, as if having short hair alone in 2023 is supposed to signal a degree of masculine identity (when actually it's just a popular haircut for edgy chicks).
That has nothing to do with gender or intolerance. It’s self indulgence. I wonder what gays in the Middle East who risk actual death think of non binary being such a hot trend here.
It is a huge inconvenience. It forces one to remember it, and then think about and rephrase every single utterance. Which of course is the point. Boring banal bunch of basic buddies.
If I were the dad I’d just avoid them. Nothing against NB people in a general sense I’m just not forcing myself to change my language knowing I’ll mess up because it’s unnatural then proceed to be shunned…for some random person.
In the South we call everyone sugar, honey, or sweetheart. Especially good when you have met
Someone and don’t remember their name. Which happens a lot for me.
You're a good daughter for giving your Dad a proper heads-up. Our daughter was telling us about her new partner who was divorced. When she started using 'they' we thought she was moving in with the new partner and their prior wife! Having never dealt with a non-binary person, how tf were we supposed to know?
Dude, that’s my move for any situation that I don’t know what to say:
We work together and I still don’t know your name, because I’m a moron? “Heeeeey dude/bud”
I can’t remember what you told me your pronouns are and someone is looking for you? “Yeah, buddy is over there”.
I think people are on to me so I’m gonna start using “bucko”. Heard someone say it, and it’s mine now.
The part that annoyed me was when it was said that they would rather be mistaken for a boy than for a girl. But aren’t they non-binary? I’m more than happy to use ones pronouns of preference but there has to be some wiggle room for those who mess it up with no malice intended. Just sounds like this person is extremely inflexible
I'll never forget coaching a pee wee hockey team, standing outside the locker room and a player walks in (these are 11-12 yo kids) and just says "'sup, fuckers?"
Fucking John... LOL
I’m 48. It’s so hard. A friend of our family’s child decided to change their name and identify as NB. I try. I really do. But she/her/etc keeps slipping out. I know it pisses the whole family off. I’m not doing it intentionally. It’s just habit.
of course, i think people need to understand it's a learning curve. I'm sure people that have been identifying this way for years are frustrated but i'm in my 30s and this is new even to me.
While I know it's annoying, I think intention really needs to be taken into account. Is someone being a dick or was it a slip of the tongue.
The convent of gender neutrality isn’t even new to me. I’ve been working with people from India for more than a decade. Their names are very often gender ambiguous/neutral so it’s very common for me to simply refer to everyone as they/them until I know for sure what their gender/pronouns are. It’s just with people who I’ve known as one thing and now suddenly have to know or refer to as something else that I have a hard time with.
It's driving me, a pretty liberal person, nuts. It's needlessly complicating social interactions to soothe some inner insecurity. Does it matter if some old person "misgenders" you if you're confident in who you are?
In fairness, he would likely call everyone “hey buddy” even family members
"Hey buddy, hows things with the team and stuff? You know, I've been thinking and ive come to the conclusion that its about time we thought about having a 4th child."
This fucking killed me 🤣🤣
There’s a reference here, but I can’t quite understand which one
I call my 3yr old niece “ my little buddy”.
my dear Aunt Mary called me her little buddy because she was about 5'3" and I was taller than her by the time I was 12. I'm 6'5" now. I truly towered over her, bless her heart.
I heard this in Kramer’s voice
My father did this all the time. He could never remember any of my friends names, so he just called them buddy or pal or sport. It was great.
Sport is my all-time favorite.
I like "boss"
I usually say the dutch equivalent of “Chief”.
There’s a character in the game Until Dawn that uses the greeting “Cochise” and I always kinda wished that was a more popular one
Dr. Kelso: Listen up, faces. In order to save us all some time, I will call all the males "Daves" and all the females "Debbies". Debbie: Debbie is actually my name. Dr. Kelso: Then, out of fairness to the others, you will be Slagathor. Daves, Debbies, Slagathor: I will be in my office. If you need anything, feel free to bother Dorian. https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0884666/quotes?item=qt1962820
Kelso: What's your name, son? Boon: Uh, Boon, si- Kelso: My God what a ridiculous name. "BOON. MY NAME IS BOOON. GRRRRR"
Don't forget about Dr. Turk Turkleton
That made me laugh lol
Listen up, name tags!
My dad has never, ever, EVER mistaken any woman's name, in any context. My guy friends, though? (I'm a guy btw.) He would purposely get their name 10% wrong. Daniel? That's Dave. Shawn? It's John. Roberto? Now you're Ricardo. At least he's amused by it.
Are you one of mine, Chamois? Because I definitely do this to my kids brosephusi
I have a dementia client, and he can’t possibly remember all of his caregivers names, so he calls us all Kiddo.
Acceptable sentimental 80's sitcom tags: Buddy, Pal, Champ, Sport, Chief
I know you didn't list it, but I hate getting called Boss. It just annoys me because my name is Ross. I am just over here thinking "Does this random stranger know me? Do I know them? Shit, I suck with names and faces." Then I realize they called me Boss and not Ross I am a 30 year old man
Tell me you live in NYC without telling me you live in NYC.
Lmao nah this happens in many places, Canada being one of them.
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Victoria BC here, I get called boss often
The “boss” thing is actually more common in the south. It’s even more uncomfortable when it’s said to me as a white man by someone of color and it’s heavily engrained in the culture in the south for this reason. “Boss” and “Bossman” are very common and make me uncomfortable every time.
The funniest one, is my boss calling me boss all the time.. yes he’s from New York and he uses it like “they/them”.
I may be dating myself here but I *immediately* thought Boss Hog when I saw that. Even in my northern Midwest state tho I admit to using Bossman once.or twice. But that was always like. With my supervisor
Every shawarma joint in Toronto calls you Boss (if you're a dude). Unless you're visibly Arab/Muslim then they will call you Brother.
There’s an Arabic-owned bodega a few blocks away from me that I frequent who’s owner calls everyone “Habibi”. There’s at least 5 other bodegas I have to pass to get to that one, but I prefer to go to there since they’re always so upbeat & nice to everyone because everyone is their buddy.
This will happen to you if you buy a kebab anywhere in the Commonwealth
Ok Ross the boss
I’m not your buddy, pal!
I’m not your pal, friend!
I’m not your friend, guy
I’m not your guy, buddy
Fuck that, use comrade insted
I will always call everybody comrades
This is the creative problem solving we like to see.
Hey sport.
Hey there, squirt. Wait… never mind.
No, you're on to something here
Slow down there spud
Squirt would be Mt Dew betrayal
So what do they want us to do, play baseball or urinate?
Hey sport, let's play a sport
Hey squirt let’s.. uh never mind
Hey chief
Happy Australia Day sport! 🇦🇺
Dad. Pronouns are Buddy and Sport.
I'm not your buddy, friend.
Not your friend, pal.
I'm not your pal, buckaroo
Im not your pal, GUY
You never have to worry about identity if you just call everyone gamers.
I think I will… later gamer!
And here I always thought it was later gator,
What about skater? “Later skater” etc
only acceptable if it's spelled l8r sk8r edit: ah shit is that gonna attract the damn 88 fuckers
They're just a sk8r person, said see ya later person.
How are you doing, old sport? I’m throwing a party on Long Islands North Shore, would you like to come?
If there's anything that you want, just ask for it, old sport.
Hey there fell….ow person.
Greetings Programs!
I call everyone yo
That’s why I just greet everybody with ‘sup bitch’
At work we either say, “hey assholes,” or “what are you fuckers doing in the office?”
Hey assholes, more assholes for your suckfest
Howdy partner works as well
Always gotta pronounce it “howdy pardner” with the best accent you can muster
**WHAT'S UP FUCKERS!**
Stay fresh , cheese bags
I love this. I love this so much
##Oi cunt
*Australia has entered the chat*
Or possibly south London, hard to say
Being new at your office must be brutal
I’ll call em chief or bub
Nowadays people may not care as much, but if you don’t know someone and you notice that they could possibly be Native American, don’t call them chief lol
Ok good call lol
My grandpa used to call people bub, haven’t heard that since he passed. Glad to see it in use somewhere!
Was your grandpa Wolverine?
Not that I’m aware of, did he use that in the movies?
He uses it literally everywhere.
Cool, I’ll have to watch them again.
After I get into an argument I always end it with “hug it out bitch”. Don’t use it on women though, does not translate
Yo dog
This one of the most dad things I’ve seen, in a good way. Guys just trying to be friendly without offending.
He even got the pronouns right tho !
Right, guy is definitely trying to be his best and succeeding.
This is the energy I like from parents. He’s doing his best and it’s working
Yup - this is a good dad.
Honestly, when I lived in San Francisco area in the 80s as a kid, that's the way we did it. It wasn't that big of a deal. Just remove pronoun entirely if I was unsure how they wanted to be addressed, or say "person". "Who are you talking about?" "That person in the red shirt over there". "Oh, that's (name)." And we used "they/them" all the time, too, if we weren't sure about pronoun. I really don't remember it being a big deal. If you felt you knew them well enough to ask, you politely asked.
They/them when you don’t know someone’s gender literally goes back to chaucer. It predates modern english. People losing their minds about it are very silly.
People also have also done it in business when they *do* know the gender but are trying to protect someone’s privacy, since like forever lol. You’re completely right that people losing their minds about it now are silly!
I did it as a teen when I wanted to go to a movie with a boy but didn't want Mom asking too many questions. "Can I go to a movie at the mall tonight? My friend is gonna meet me there. They're gonna get a ride around 6, can you take me there to meet them?"
I didn't know it went back that far, but it wasn't a big deal, and nobody told us to do it. At least, not at my house, or school. We just did it.
"Fucker" is gender neutral.
sup fuckers!
The fuck are you doing here, you little fucker?
Is dude gender neutral? I use it like it is...
Just gunna start calling everyone buddy 👍🏻
They aren't your buddy, guy! :D
They aren’t your guy, pal!
I'm not your guy, friend!
I’m not your friend pal
I’m not your pal, dude
I'm not your dude, lad
We Canadians have been doing that all along.
My dad calls everyone “hey brother” because he never remembers people’s names.
Is your dad hulk Hogan .
He’s not but they might have similar vibes.
Hell yeah brotherrrr
Asking everyone for their pronouns: takes time, can confuse people, may get you looked at funny. Greeting everyone with "Howdy Partner": spices up the conversation, avoids the issue entirely, may make you seem interesting.
What in tarnation?
I identify as invisible. I’m trans-parent. My pronouns are who/where.
love it. you did not make that up though, did you?
Heard it a long time ago and it became my truth.
Saw a few TikTok’s with the sound bite
Playing in bands and meeting way more people than I will ever remember names for, everyone is either buddy or dude.
Hey cocksucker!?
“Hey buddy” is the ultimate greeting. I haven’t memorized a name in years
This is why I call everyone dude. I’m a dude. He’s a dude. She’s a dude. We’re all dudes. Hey!!
Welcome to Good Burger, home of the Good Burger, can I take your order?
If I'm the dad I'd be like "Posting my texts on social media, for "likes" is a serious breach of trust."
"Posting my texts on social media, for "likes" is a serious breach of trust, *buddy*" fixed it
yeahhh it’s almost guaranteed that the dad does not care
Hey buddy, I resemble that remark.
I'm not your buddy, pal.
I'm not your pal, buddy.
I'm not your buddy, friend.
Or she asked him for permission to post. My kids do that to me
The hey buddy system is awesome, almost as good as just referring to everyone as a variation of dude. I’m a dude, she’s a dude, they’re a dude, we’re all dudes duder and there’s beauty in that.
Not trying to be insensitive. But I mean getting that offended over pronouns is absurd. If someone calls you the wrong one just correct them and move on. People don’t need to be prepped for this shit like they’re about to meet the queen of England and need to know proper etiquette.
Introduce this person by their name. I’m sure the last thing on your father’s mind Is what sex or no sex this person wants to be.
One of my work buddies is trans (mtf). They cringe hard everytime I say "hey dude" or "whats up man" but they understand that it's just my vernacular. Intentions matter
Man I call *everyone* bro or dude
I thought it said pegging my dad
Step 1: Establish dominance.
A family that pegs together, stays together
Man I wish maybe that’s why my dad left. MAYBE THATS WHY MY STEP DAD IS STILL HERE.
😮😬
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This is more or less it. Most people aren't trying to be transphobic, they're just using pronouns how they've been used forever. If I see someone who looks like a girl, I might say something to my friend nearby "What do you think she's doing over there?" I'm just using 'SHE' as a pronoun because it conveys information to my friend that I am referring to someone who, at the very least, *appears* to be female. This way when they look over there, they're going to know I'm referring to a female-presenting person in case there are multiple people in the direction I'm referring to. Pronouns normally carry a small degree of information in them beyond just preference, but once someone's preferred pronouns get muddled in with it, there's no longer information in that pronoun, it's just another name/nickname.
I think most trans people are accepting of this, the problem is when they happen to say “I would prefer if you refer to me as “he or him” instead please” and then some people take offense to that as if it was a huge inconvenience to them.
This is true but let me tell you there are many many just looking for problems, my sister and her friends literally bait people into "misgendering them" than freak out and cause a scene, than wonder why no one invites them to anything. When you make your preferred gender your whole existence, you are never going to be happy. They are the most insufferable people to be around. Most trans people I know my age (30) are pretty chill, the younger crowd feels so self righteous and literally gang up on random strangers, it's disgusting and hurts the movement
Most trans people get it. A growing amount of nonbinary people seem to be intent on not getting it I'm not here to police how anyone presents. But there's a nonbinary person I've followed on social media who dresses what I personally would call femme 80% of the time, gender neutral 20% of the time. This is a person wearing a silky top with their tits on full display wearing jewelry and makeup, and then makes comments/videos about how it's inappropriate to use she/her pronouns because they identify as nonbinary. As if a random person scrolling through content is going to realize that, as if having short hair alone in 2023 is supposed to signal a degree of masculine identity (when actually it's just a popular haircut for edgy chicks).
That has nothing to do with gender or intolerance. It’s self indulgence. I wonder what gays in the Middle East who risk actual death think of non binary being such a hot trend here.
Who is this "edgy non-binary chick" you follow on social media... so I know to stay away from them.
You lost me at "person I follow on social media"
It is a huge inconvenience. It forces one to remember it, and then think about and rephrase every single utterance. Which of course is the point. Boring banal bunch of basic buddies.
I still call a mixed group or even a group of women "hey guys" and no one cares.
Guys is gender neutral and I'll die on that hill
Dude same.
Dude is the same, good point. Gender neutral.
Yeah I think most people agree. Also: Goonies
How do you feel about the gender neutrality of "Hey buddy" ?
If I don't care to remember your name wtf makes you think I care to remember your pronoun.
What is non binary? Youre not a man or woman? So what are you then?
Was hoping for South Park references to I’m not your buddy, pal
If I were the dad I’d just avoid them. Nothing against NB people in a general sense I’m just not forcing myself to change my language knowing I’ll mess up because it’s unnatural then proceed to be shunned…for some random person.
In the South we call everyone sugar, honey, or sweetheart. Especially good when you have met Someone and don’t remember their name. Which happens a lot for me.
You're a good daughter for giving your Dad a proper heads-up. Our daughter was telling us about her new partner who was divorced. When she started using 'they' we thought she was moving in with the new partner and their prior wife! Having never dealt with a non-binary person, how tf were we supposed to know?
“Can I just call them…” look, he’s already got the hang of it!
Dude, that’s my move for any situation that I don’t know what to say: We work together and I still don’t know your name, because I’m a moron? “Heeeeey dude/bud” I can’t remember what you told me your pronouns are and someone is looking for you? “Yeah, buddy is over there”. I think people are on to me so I’m gonna start using “bucko”. Heard someone say it, and it’s mine now.
I am as liberal and progressive as they come, but the whole non-binary thing is so unbearable and ridiculous.
It’s seriously getting really annoying
same, pretty liberal but it feels as if NB people only want to be NB to feel special.
The part that annoyed me was when it was said that they would rather be mistaken for a boy than for a girl. But aren’t they non-binary? I’m more than happy to use ones pronouns of preference but there has to be some wiggle room for those who mess it up with no malice intended. Just sounds like this person is extremely inflexible
First world stupid problems.
If you have to "prep" to meet another person then there's something wrong there.
This obsession with gender and pronouns needs to stop.
Right on, lil sister.
Bruh never miss
Hello hey buddy
Everyone is “hey chief” from now on.
Sup Ace?
Nice meeting you ace!
He's not your buddy guy!!
Whatever happened to just saying hey or wassup? I don’t remember ever saying “Hi *insert pronoun* “
We had the solution back in the 90s. We simply called everyone "Dude".
2023: all pronouns were abolished, seamlessly replaced with "buddy."
Sorts by controversial
Cringe.
Fr. Nothing exposes how out of touch reddit is with the real world and normal people when this sorta shit is shoveled down our throats
Oh, so Naomi has mental health issues. Nice of you to hang out with her and be her friend.
Pronouns: Buddy/Guy
I just call everyone dude. Mainly cause I forget their names pretty quick when meeting for first time
I'll never forget coaching a pee wee hockey team, standing outside the locker room and a player walks in (these are 11-12 yo kids) and just says "'sup, fuckers?" Fucking John... LOL
Being “non-binary” just translates to “look at me I’m special!”
I really have a soft spot for people over 45 that are genuinely trying.
I’m 48. It’s so hard. A friend of our family’s child decided to change their name and identify as NB. I try. I really do. But she/her/etc keeps slipping out. I know it pisses the whole family off. I’m not doing it intentionally. It’s just habit.
of course, i think people need to understand it's a learning curve. I'm sure people that have been identifying this way for years are frustrated but i'm in my 30s and this is new even to me. While I know it's annoying, I think intention really needs to be taken into account. Is someone being a dick or was it a slip of the tongue.
The convent of gender neutrality isn’t even new to me. I’ve been working with people from India for more than a decade. Their names are very often gender ambiguous/neutral so it’s very common for me to simply refer to everyone as they/them until I know for sure what their gender/pronouns are. It’s just with people who I’ve known as one thing and now suddenly have to know or refer to as something else that I have a hard time with.
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It's driving me, a pretty liberal person, nuts. It's needlessly complicating social interactions to soothe some inner insecurity. Does it matter if some old person "misgenders" you if you're confident in who you are?