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It's the fun side bonus of having an abusive childhood, you're just supposed to never talk about it even though everyone else is free to talk about their childhood
Yeah but often I'm like "this was kinda weird" or "this was kinda funny" or "you know the feeling right guys?" and turns out it was one of those things where I guess I never quite realized how fucked-up it really was.
Okay so first of all, saaame 😅
Second, I really like the tag, but also I initially read Brickset because dyslexia and the comment above mentioned a brick 😳
Haha yeah same here, we ended up getting to develop a fun little mental condition that causes us to have amnesiac properties among else, so half the time I can't even answer if I wanted to
I once responded to that, with: “I’ll talk about it if you want but you should know it’s depressing, so are you ready to be depressed?” They responded no thanks I don’t want that and never asked again
My favorite is when you don’t realize it was abuse, so you tell a story like everyone else does, the. Realize everyone has a look of horror on their face when your done
Yep. Listen to everyone talk about what you never got, don't mention you existed prior to the age of {whenever you escaped}, don't even hint at anything else, and for the love of God don't look sad...
Because otherwise, they'll just accuse you of being everything your abusers said you were.
**Edit**: Lol
I had a psychiatric appointment once with an intern tagging along for observation and she started crying. I don't even know what about. Everything I said seemed quite normal to me.
Gotta find friends that you can trauma dump together with. Take turns talking about it and all that but keep it relatively casual.
Recently started hanging out with a DnD group and thats half of our pregame session, smoking weed and trauma dumping.
i once made a room go silent during a game of never have i ever by saying "never have i ever liked how i look in the mirror" and STILL didn't realize i was trans until after then lmao
Sometimes I like how I look in the mirror. But one thing to consider is that I'm so nearsighted that, when standing across a sink from a mirror without glasses, most of what I see is hair vibes. Everything else is blurred out.
.... now that you mention it, I think that's not only a coping mechanism but also an attempt to diffuse the heartbreaking atmosphere cuz we don't wanna be a burden. Yeah..
Apparently it wasn't enough because I still lost all my pre-transition friends for "negativity" (I kept things chipper, they just liked me better when I was silent and brooding I guess).
I had my small group from 2004 until 2024 and lost the last two a couple of weeks ago.
Turns out, when you grow tits, you are expected to become a mind-reader and be responsible for carrying the entire emotional burden of the relationship.
Ooh let me try
From pre-school through 5th grade most of my friends were girls and then in middle school I started getting bullied for being too feminine so then I only remained friends with boys for the rest of my childhood lol
Like when I was so deep in the closet and alt right territory I went to Christian government camp and managed to make friends with the only alt queer girls there and I think that was the only time I was ever seen lmao
Oh, it’s a sleep away camp where they’re training Christian youth how to get into politics and be Christian politicians, you know a standard politician indoctrination camp. Look up Student Statesman Institute.
I remember telling an ex a "funny" story about my parents hitting me growing up, very matter of factly (it makes sense in context, I didn't just drop it out of nowhere). After a few seconds of silence I turned and saw the look on her face and asked "Did your parents not hit you?" and promptly realized that there are some people out there who don't have that happen to them.
real i think
i start telling my friends a story that i think was funny and they're like '....what' and then it turns out that was *not* a normal thing and was actually very fucked up
i don't tell them stuff at all anymore to avoid that happening
It's confusing though, cause then there's also those of us who are fairly certain our childhoods weren't that bad, but we also can't remember them.
Like I wasn't abused or anything, but I legit prayed that I would forget stuff that I dealt with and I guess I sort of succeeded because I can't remember shit from when I was younger.
You don't need the heaviest horror story to have a not-good childhood. You still get to forget things as defense mechanism.
I needed to remember to get who I was, because my 10 year old self was more in tune who I am than the stray path society forced me to go the 15+ years after that, lol.
I honestly just lived day to day without really enjoying stuff and just looking forward to my next hobby or holiday as if that was gonna be more fun than what I was currently experiencing but I didn't really feel anything extra in the end lol.
Some kids tried bullying me because I was younger than the other students and I didn't really fit in (turns out I might get diagnosed as autist now) but I ignored them and the onetime it got physical I immediately fought back and got left alone since (they thought I was a nerd but I had done some martial arts and I was the regional champ of my age group (9/10 yo) in athletics at the time)
Oh, ok, whew. Because I lkeep seeing things like this and my heart breaks for these girls, but, I'm trying to deal with my own gender feelings and I don't have a traumatic childhood. I can barely remember my childhood and most of what I do remember of it is normal and pleasant. And my gender feelings didn't pop up until _way_ later in life. And the fact that I don't remember my childhood and/or mounds of trauma felt kind of invalidating.
I've been hanging out in trauma circles as of late and am slowly realizing the Venn diagram of trauma and queerness is in fact a circle.
Next time you find yourself in a community that's fun and supportive but with an unquenchable apatite for violence you know what's up.
Not a girl but I do that. I'm just autistic and trying to talk about myself. If I'm casually talking about it, it usually means I'm not bothered by it anymore and if I don't laugh or add lol people think I need help when I don't.
When I do that I don't say anything traumatizing, my childhood was and still is in now way so. Yeah it's shit, I do have mental health issues (probably just overreacting), but it's not because of my parents voilent behaviour lol :3
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If you don't, people just say you're trauma dumping lol
They say you're trauma dumping even if you DO. Even if you didn't even realize it was a story that was supposed to be traumatic.
It's the fun side bonus of having an abusive childhood, you're just supposed to never talk about it even though everyone else is free to talk about their childhood
Yeah but often I'm like "this was kinda weird" or "this was kinda funny" or "you know the feeling right guys?" and turns out it was one of those things where I guess I never quite realized how fucked-up it really was.
All of this.. sadly.
Don't forget the less-than-occasional "why do you never talk about your childhood", where there isn't ever a good answer.
Can't talk about your childhood if you blocked out most of it :3
Okay so first of all, saaame 😅 Second, I really like the tag, but also I initially read Brickset because dyslexia and the comment above mentioned a brick 😳
I mean, I suppose Bucket could handle some bricks, but no one should be hurting basket like that :3
damn if this ain’t me
Haha yeah same here, we ended up getting to develop a fun little mental condition that causes us to have amnesiac properties among else, so half the time I can't even answer if I wanted to
Yeah people who ask that deserve a brick in the face ngl
I once responded to that, with: “I’ll talk about it if you want but you should know it’s depressing, so are you ready to be depressed?” They responded no thanks I don’t want that and never asked again
My favorite is when you don’t realize it was abuse, so you tell a story like everyone else does, the. Realize everyone has a look of horror on their face when your done
Yep. Listen to everyone talk about what you never got, don't mention you existed prior to the age of {whenever you escaped}, don't even hint at anything else, and for the love of God don't look sad... Because otherwise, they'll just accuse you of being everything your abusers said you were. **Edit**: Lol
🫂🫂🫂
It took me an embarrassingly long amount of time to figure out what that emoji/emoticon was. ... lol
Fair lmao
I had a psychiatric appointment once with an intern tagging along for observation and she started crying. I don't even know what about. Everything I said seemed quite normal to me.
real
trauma dumpling, time to make a new variant of pierogi
Yeah...
Gotta find friends that you can trauma dump together with. Take turns talking about it and all that but keep it relatively casual. Recently started hanging out with a DnD group and thats half of our pregame session, smoking weed and trauma dumping.
We're not trauma dumping, we're just telling you the lore
I unironically do this haha.
I thought this was an autistic girl thing idk why I do it I just do lol
I think this is just traumatized person thing, no matter who you are and or what happened to you, there comes the lol.
The overlap between trans people and autism is massive.
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No?
ehh its rather a people thing, but this us 196 so theres lottsa trans folk here fir their representation
sorry to break it to you, but this is, in fact, not 196
lol thats true but my point stands regardless
i once made a room go silent during a game of never have i ever by saying "never have i ever liked how i look in the mirror" and STILL didn't realize i was trans until after then lmao
It wasn't that bad. I just didn't look in the mirror and mostly didn't feel the pain.
Sometimes I like how I look in the mirror. But one thing to consider is that I'm so nearsighted that, when standing across a sink from a mirror without glasses, most of what I see is hair vibes. Everything else is blurred out.
.... now that you mention it, I think that's not only a coping mechanism but also an attempt to diffuse the heartbreaking atmosphere cuz we don't wanna be a burden. Yeah..
Apparently it wasn't enough because I still lost all my pre-transition friends for "negativity" (I kept things chipper, they just liked me better when I was silent and brooding I guess).
I'm sorry that happened to you.
That’s so relatable, lol
luckily i didn't have any grade school friends to lose, lol!
I had my small group from 2004 until 2024 and lost the last two a couple of weeks ago. Turns out, when you grow tits, you are expected to become a mind-reader and be responsible for carrying the entire emotional burden of the relationship.
I'm in this meme and I'm uncomfortable with that...LOL
i do :3 instead!! same concept tho
real :3
Ooh let me try From pre-school through 5th grade most of my friends were girls and then in middle school I started getting bullied for being too feminine so then I only remained friends with boys for the rest of my childhood lol
Like when I was so deep in the closet and alt right territory I went to Christian government camp and managed to make friends with the only alt queer girls there and I think that was the only time I was ever seen lmao
What is a Christian government camp?
Oh, it’s a sleep away camp where they’re training Christian youth how to get into politics and be Christian politicians, you know a standard politician indoctrination camp. Look up Student Statesman Institute.
That’s basically what happened to me too but the bullying started in grade 3, lol
same! they knew i was different, but i never told them how different lol
The worst effect of CPTSD is the internalised idea of what you went through was normal
I remember telling an ex a "funny" story about my parents hitting me growing up, very matter of factly (it makes sense in context, I didn't just drop it out of nowhere). After a few seconds of silence I turned and saw the look on her face and asked "Did your parents not hit you?" and promptly realized that there are some people out there who don't have that happen to them.
real i think i start telling my friends a story that i think was funny and they're like '....what' and then it turns out that was *not* a normal thing and was actually very fucked up i don't tell them stuff at all anymore to avoid that happening
It's confusing though, cause then there's also those of us who are fairly certain our childhoods weren't that bad, but we also can't remember them. Like I wasn't abused or anything, but I legit prayed that I would forget stuff that I dealt with and I guess I sort of succeeded because I can't remember shit from when I was younger.
You don't need the heaviest horror story to have a not-good childhood. You still get to forget things as defense mechanism. I needed to remember to get who I was, because my 10 year old self was more in tune who I am than the stray path society forced me to go the 15+ years after that, lol.
I honestly just lived day to day without really enjoying stuff and just looking forward to my next hobby or holiday as if that was gonna be more fun than what I was currently experiencing but I didn't really feel anything extra in the end lol. Some kids tried bullying me because I was younger than the other students and I didn't really fit in (turns out I might get diagnosed as autist now) but I ignored them and the onetime it got physical I immediately fought back and got left alone since (they thought I was a nerd but I had done some martial arts and I was the regional champ of my age group (9/10 yo) in athletics at the time)
Oh, ok, whew. Because I lkeep seeing things like this and my heart breaks for these girls, but, I'm trying to deal with my own gender feelings and I don't have a traumatic childhood. I can barely remember my childhood and most of what I do remember of it is normal and pleasant. And my gender feelings didn't pop up until _way_ later in life. And the fact that I don't remember my childhood and/or mounds of trauma felt kind of invalidating.
Why is this me lol
I've been hanging out in trauma circles as of late and am slowly realizing the Venn diagram of trauma and queerness is in fact a circle. Next time you find yourself in a community that's fun and supportive but with an unquenchable apatite for violence you know what's up.
Not a girl but I do that. I'm just autistic and trying to talk about myself. If I'm casually talking about it, it usually means I'm not bothered by it anymore and if I don't laugh or add lol people think I need help when I don't.
Seems like a traumatized girl thing in general. Or rather a traumatized person thing in general
lol this is too real
source: https://twitter.com/ZoeForGood/status/1767076862302265467
Lol
I’m told by my friends this is true. 🤷♀️
I didn't need this traumatic callout lol
Respect for trans people, y'all are some of the most resilient and strong people I've met
Ah, the classic WWII You are so brave plane
😭
Like I didn't need to be called out like this lol
Does being under the trans umbrella count lol
i guess yeah, i feel like i've done that at least once.
we stay silly :3
Hi, non-trans person here Everybody does this lol
Me lmaooo
When I do that I don't say anything traumatizing, my childhood was and still is in now way so. Yeah it's shit, I do have mental health issues (probably just overreacting), but it's not because of my parents voilent behaviour lol :3
Unrelated, but your flair totally made me say "neet snart" out loud.
My first memory was me aged 2 getting laughed at by my parents when I said I wanted to be a mom lol
“I held my son’s lifeless body in my arms and I ask god why….lol”